#i'm interacting a lot with followers and mutuals

[emoelmoisgay]

Why does "mutuals" mean 'someone who you follow and they follow you back' here. In the land of queertev it meant "we interact a lot and probably be friends but I'm too socially awkward for that shit'

#quotev #idk how tumblr works #Whenever I talk about qoutev it feels like I'm someones parent/grandparents saying "well back in my day' even thought 5/31 was one day ago

[boydholbrook-fan]

It’s been a year since I became Boyd’s fan

Boyd’s fans, my followers,

I just wanted to say that I’ve been Boydo’s fan for a year now! Yes, I know it’s not a long time but, better later than never.

And so I’m curious, if you want to share, for how long have you guys been a fan of Boyd’s, just write down in the comments. Like I said, only if you want. No pressure.

I’m also gonna share with you, how I found out about Boyd and became his fan.

I became Boyd’s fan after watching Vengeance by the end of May last year. I immediately began to be curious about his other projects. Then I realized I’ve already seen him another year before, by the end of June, 2022 in In the Shadow of the Moon but you know, I didn’t really know him that time. But I kind of had a feeling like, I might know this guy, looks familiar or that he reminds me of someone. Coincidence? Like it was meant to be for me to become his fan later on. I just didn’t know about it yet. Also realized that a month later, after watching In the Shadow of the Moon, I watched Out of the Furnace, that time I didn’t know it was Boyd. So those are the very first two movies I saw Boyd in and I wasn’t even his fan yet. But really, thanks to Vengeance, I became fan of Boyd Holbrook.

This may also be a 1-Year Anniversary for my boydholbrook-fan blog! I’ve been using tumblr for a very long time but I had some kind of a break from tumblr and when I became Boyd’s fan, I decided to start TUMBLRing again! And I’m happy that I did! I’ve had the chance to meet so many wonderful, talented and kind people through the year here on tumblr!

And again to my favorite mutuals here:

@ilovewhiteroses @kurjaks @ionlyjoinedforboydholbrook @pnwdagnabbit

@toxicanonymity @milla-frenchy @r3dheadedwitch @ithinkwehitametaphor

@thehemsworld @evenmyhivemindisempty @chieko-pp

Thank you for your kindness and generosity! Thank you for loving my posts! Thank you for being friends with me! You guys are so sweet, kind, wonderful and talented! I’m so happy to share love and support for Boyd with you! I appreciate every single one of you! All the best and much love to you all! ❤️❤️❤️

I’ve also managed to reach 252 followers through the year and I wanna thank you to all my followers for this, for following me, and liking my posts and stuff, just all the interactions in general! Also to those not following me, for stopping by my fanpage and doing the same I mentioned previously! It means a lot!

Through that 1 year I was able to check out and watch most of Boyd’s filmography and really looking forward to Boyd’s new projects!

My most favorite of Boyd’s movies is - The Free World and his character Mo Lundy

My most favorite of Boyd’s TV series is - Justified: City Primeval and his character Clement Mansell

And again, I'm gonna repeat myself, about Boyd but

I think Boyd is so underrated and he deserves much more recognition! He also deserves much more opportunities to play lead roles! He’s got a few lead roles already and he excels in every single one of them! He’s brilliant in everything he’s been in so far, supporting or lead role! He always gives an excellent performance and portrays his characters to an absolute perfection! Always an outstanding performance! Boyd always does a fantastic job!

I'm so happy and it's wonderful to see you all showing support and love for Boyd! Also to see the fans outside Tumblr showing support and love for Boyd as well is just heartwarming! He totally deserves all the love and support! He deserves nothing but the best! 'Cause he's the best!

He is such a phenomenal and true actor! Such an exceptional talent! Such a lovely and kind person! Nice guy! Precious and wonderful human being with a huge heart! Handsome man! That is Boyd Holbrook!

And I love him so much and admire him so much! And I'm so proud of him! He's incredible! He's the best! I keep repeating myself, again and again, I know, but it's true. It is how it is. I'll never get tired of saying all this! I'll never get tired of saying how much of a wonderful, talented and handsome man Boyd Holbrook is! Deal with it! ❤️❤️❤️🌟🌟🌟🔥🥰😍❤️‍🔥

I'm Kamila and I am a Boyd Holbrook Fan and Admirer 😇

#boyd holbrook #boydholbrook-fan #boyd holbrook fan #boyd holbrook fans #my favorite mutuals #my followers #tumblr #one year anniversary #my tumblr anniversary #my gifs

[xbuster]

I am in such a good mood today.

#my posts are funny #i'm interacting a lot with followers and mutuals #this episode of smile rocks #i'm feeling good

[osaemu]

how i scroll tumblr knowing that i'm too nerv to interact with half my mutuals

#sabs posts! #some of u guys r scary #not in a bad way bc i can tell ur really friendly #but it's still a bit intimidating interacting with other writers #bc i look up to a lot of u ! #i'm pretty selective about who i follow now #so if i do follow u then that means i think you're a cool person and/or a good writer #but i'm always a little nerv to interact with the ppl who i think r the best writers on tumblr #even if we're mutuals #so i just end up liking all ur textposts when they show up on dash instead........ #i guess that's my love language #so if u see me in ur textpost notes #assume that i'm waving hi at u from across tumblr 🤞

[iwanttobepersephone]

Rant about Harry Potter and JK Rowling, stick with me here

Ok, so, I hate JK Rowling. I feel like that's a given, right? Like, she's a transphobic homophobic bigot who hides behind feminism and routinely denies massive parts of the holocaust, and I despise her in ways that I don't think words can even express. I can't stand her, but y'know what I also can't stand?

When someone implies that my mother, who is one of the most supportive people I know, and a massive part of the founding, organization, and actions of a local group made specifically to fight Moms for Liberty and school boards in our area trying to harm trans and queer people, is transphobic because she likes Harry Potter

Wanna know why my mom likes Harry Potter? Because when she discovered the series at 12 years old, she quite literally lived in a cupboard under the stairs and was in an abusive household. The magic of the wizarding world or whatever was her escape, it's the reason she's still alive, and by extension, the reason I was ever alive.

But, sometimes, not even often, when I try to express even the most minimal amount of appreciation of that, someone says to me "but isn't JK Rowling transphobic? Why would you support someone like that? Are you transphobic?"

Which pisses me off beyond belief, as one might imagine

In this situation, "separate the art from the artist" isn't exactly a good phrase to use, given the fact that the goblins or whatever run the bank are Jewish stereotypes and the house elves generally being happy to work under their masters being a straight rip from the whole happy slave myth, and those are very very important things to recognize and understand, among others

I feel like it's a lot closer to "separate the hundreds if not thousands of lives she's helped from the hundreds if not thousands of lives she's ruined", or even better, understand that the good she's indirectly done for people makes all the bad that much more horrid

My mother is the closest thing to a hero in this entire world and I will not stand to hear one more person accuse her of being transphobic purely because she thinks fondly of a book series that saved her life. I will not stand for people saying she's just as bad as a holocaust denier because she owns every book in the series. I will not stand for anyone going entirely against their point of not judging a group as if it's monolithic by saying all Harry Potter fans are bad people, including my mother. And, once again, it's not often at all that this happens, but it happens and I'm pissed about it and needed to rant

Anyways rant over JK Rowling sucks don't believe a single thing she says and don't support her unless you wanna support someone actively trying to make the existence of queer people illegal

#jk rowling #harry potter #screw jkr #screw jk rowling #rants #yeah so I saw one too many “if you like Harry Potter please kill yourself posts” (literal direct f+cking quote from one) and wrote this #like #in what world would saying stuff like that ever be ok #what kind of bubble do you live in where you think that's an actual productive thing to say #like have you never interacted with anyone who has slightly problematic opinions or behaviors in a positive manner.... ever?????? #do you just live in an echo chamber of people who agree with every thought you have to a T???? #difference in opinion and civil disagreements are the things that human understanding and kindness are built on #and saying things like “if you like Harty Potter you should kys” just says that you don't know how to handle that #that's not a good thing #and I know that more than a couple mutuals/followers of mine reblog similar things a lot and I don't wanna give the wrong message #JK Rowling is a horrid horrid person and nothing else could ever be argued #but my for you page is filled to the brim with posts like the ones I've referenced and I'm so mad I feel like crying #angry #angry rant #serious #AGH I just I am so so mad rn #I hate being this mad like outwardly and stuff but like #c'mon guys basic human f+cking understanding and decency can we try and learn that before telling people to kill themselves please

[lastoneout]

tbh with tumblr rolling out the new notification system that explicitly tells you if you're mutuals with someone or not I think we should take this time to stop making such a big deal out of "being mutuals" in the first place and reintroduce terms like "friend" and "acquaintance" into our vocabularies

#like idk I literally don't care if I'm mutuals with someone?? #how we interact establishes our relationship #following each other is just like an extra thing that is nice but doesn't mean we can't interact and be friends still #there are people on here I consider my friend who I do not follow it's not that deep #I have irl friends who don't follow me just bcs they don't vibe with the way I post #ever since the twitter peeps came back people have been using “mutual” a LOT and it's always kinda rubbed me weird #like all those posts like “me and the mutuals” like just say your friends you and your friends #that's what you mean #I just don't think we should put so much emphasis on being mutuals with someone it's like #can we all just be online friends again #I usually just say “my internet friends” #me not following someone does not mean I don't think of them as a friend or value their presence #and I don't expect everyone who likes me to follow me following is not a given #anyway this has been your “I'm getting old aren't I?” rant for the day

[sisaloofafump]

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#I hate how tumblr was a place where I could just scream into the void and not worry at all about what and when and how much I was reblogging #and no one knew me #no one cares about my art or my posts #I didn't have to worry about being consistent with my irl self like on insta #and didn't have any pressure to perform well like on TikTok #and it was just #a place where I didn't have to worry about any of that #but when I started posting about dc #and comics and stuff #and like #actually posting art and engaging with people #I'm not worried about stuff performing well #but I actually have mutuals #and people follow me #and I just worry about annoying people #because my blog is not a dc blog in and of itself #reblog a lot #and just #I fully believe in curating your own dash and unfollowing etc #but #idk if it's because I don't really have mutuals or followers that stick around? #like some people that I think are super cool would be mutuals with me for a handful of months #and we'd have a couple soley positive interactions #and then #they'd leave #and the only reason I know as to why is because my constant stream is annoying #idk #I don't like how this used to be a refuge from insecurity. and where I could just post whatever I wanted. but. it doesn't feel like that now #idk what to do

[wildflowercryptid]

i'm heading off to bed but before i go...

we're so fuckin' back, babes. 😏

#always gotta go for the gays that haven't interacted a single time in canon that is my lot in life #they'd be so powerful together... the primo golden retriever x black cat gorls... #i'm gonna tweak the sketch more tomorrow #also i just wanna say thank you to everyone for being so kind to me i really love & appreciate all of my mutuals & followers 😭 #i can't articulate my thoughts super well bc i'm sleepy but ya'll are the best for realsies #mj wips #mj.txt

[thecluelessdoctor]

todays menu:

Identity crisis

#Vent #Ig? #Idk #I feel like my art is pointless. It and my interaction has been stagnant for forever. I get followers yet never interaction. #The works I put my heart and soul into barely ever surpass 20 notes. Meanwhile shitty shit sky rockets #I'm tired of feeling useless and pointless in my art #And don't tell me “oh you don't need interaction” or “be grateful” #I AM GOD DAMNIT. #But I just wish I had people genuinely interested in what I have to tell #I wish people would like and appreciate my characters #I wish I had more mutuals and friends and art buddies #I look at my friends and feel so envious for some reason. I look at my friends and see their posts get ALOT of notes. At least a lot for #For someone like me #I know I shouldn't be #It's selfish of me to feel this way

[tired-and-triggered]

All of the Top Posts are my original posts YAAASSS YAAAYYY!!! 🥳🎉🎊

#at least #for now #lol #lmao #but i'm so excited #but i'm so happy #it's good to know that my original posts are getting some attention #finally #i hope it'll be this way for a while #thank you to my followers #thank you to my mutuals #for liking and reblogging my posts #y'all are the best #you have my heart #🥺 #fyp #for you #for you page #fyppage #fyp2024 #trending #recommended #explore #explorepage #love you guys #love yall #mutuals please interact #lots of love

[rotisseries]

actually now that the clique thing is a few days old, i didn't really get involved for a reason and I don't feel super strongly in either direction

but I will say that like. while there's certainly a problem of less interaction on the fanworks/posts from less popular blogs, this isn't really a byler exclusive issue? this happens in most fandoms these days, interaction is just on a decline in general which IS. a problem but not really a "byler tumblr is cliquey" problem. in regards to any actual cliques I wouldn't say they don't exist but I don't think it's "the popular kids" themselves doing this. I don't know if the rest of you have some other bloggers in mind that I don't know about, but as someone who is mutuals with a fair amount of who I thought were the popular blogs, they are always very nice and welcoming to me, and actually easy to talk to once you just. see them and talk to them as a normal human and not an omnipotent fandom god. so this is all to say that if there's a clique issue I think it's from the outside. I think maybe people are perceiving these bigger blogs who all happen to be friends as these untouchable idols in fandom and it's. making it cliquey from the outside. like are they a clique or have you just convinced yourself they wouldn't want anything to do with you and isolated this group from everyone else. this isn't to say that people can't be assholes of course just that I don't think any of this is intentional

#I think a lot of post interaction problems are also just probably coming from the fact that I don't think anyone checks the tag anymore #I certainly don't. I just keep up with what my mutuals are posting #and my mutuals are posting their work and they're sharing their friend's work or the work their friend shared from someone else #so if you're a little known blogger it can just be harder because. your posts just aren't making it as far you have a few followers #and they have even fewer. and so unless you get an anomaly popularity boost it'll be harder for a post to get traction #also “it's a clique bc all the popular blogs are friends and only associate with each other” well they have been friends for months #or a year now. and also probably were not as popular when that friendship started #so it's more like. a friend group forms and then when one of you gets a popularity boost so do the others bc you're friends #and then next thing you know it's a friend group of popular bloggers #anyway. all this to say get out and make some friends! either I'm right and this will actually fix the problem #or there really is a clique in which case why tf would you want to associate with them anyway #but genuinely this is rich coming from me actually known to most as godawful at talking to people irl #but it's really so simple to make tumblr friends it just requires you to be a little brave and genuine #if you see someone posting a lot of cool stuff follow them!! and then get in their askbox and talk to them about something #if they have an au you really like talk to them about that if they have some music they've been posting about check it out #and tell them what you thought! #just like. be friendly and open they'll probably respond in kind and next thing you know you have a really cool friend #anyway if you're one of my mutuals and you saw me like a post the other day or whatever that might feel contrary to this #well the other day I was just watching things go down lmao #I didn't care what any posts said I was busy with my own discourse lol #(and also if you're ANOTHER mutual wondering wtf this post is about don't worry about that) #idk I think I just. haven't really witnessed cliquey behavior but I see posts about this with enough notes #that sometimes I think. well you guys gotta be experiencing SOMETHING so idk. idk #I guess this is another “some people just have friends” post #anyway I think a good thing to remember here also is that we're arguing about popularity on Tumblr Dot Com. brother we are bloggers #and we're calling it cliques. like a highschool movie

[braskide]

outofcharacter. happy 22nd final fantasy x anniversary!!!! ! !! !! please think about her today.

i will be revamping my guidelines and whatnot because i miss interacting with the dashboard and writing her — i have resumed writing yuna over discord with friends lately so i wanted to go look for my old mutuals, so if i found you and you’re reading this don’t forget you’re here forever.

apropos of what i just mentioned i also want to reach out with new muses, thank you for being here!! ! you can [ like ] this post and i’ll come drop her in your askbox.

#outofcharacter. #if they aren't planning a remake for the 25th year anniversary .. ... #anyways ; #seeing that i established this blog in 2013 in my old guidelines gave me a headache.. . . #what do you mean i've been in this hell for 10 years . h u h #i miss my old mutuals ! !!!! #but i'm so thankful i'm following all these new writers too !! !! #i need to make my dashboard look more alive again cause . .. #all the ones i interacted with are inactive / moved blogs.. . #if you see this and you moved blogs pl ea t he let me know.. . #anyways again !!! !! thank you for being here while i was inactive !! !!!! #i miss my wife !! ! perceive her !!! !! #i will go and drop richard siken poetry lines in your muses' askbox don't even try me. #edit ; #i recognize tunglr rp has changed a lot over the years i've been away so i will try to adjust and make mobile friendly guidelines ! #& whatnot necessary for interacting more 🌸 #just bear with me while i figure it all out again .. . ...

[moonsidesong]

feel like sometimes people on twitter equate being mutuals too heavily with being friends

#like you know don't get me wrong. lots of times you are friends with your mutuals! #but other times like. they followed you because they like what you post and you followed them because you like what they post #and it's not any deeper than that in any way #so when i see like. discourse about unfollowing mutuals when they're not posting what you're into anymore it's like. #i agree that can be upsetting if you actually talk to each other! #but sometimes it's just not that deep!!!! i'm sorry!!!! #i just don't believe you can truly be friends with someone if your only interactions ever are polite+public exchanges on each other's art #acquaintances yes!!! but. #i dunno maybe i view friendship differently than the people talking about this #bri talks

[gettothestabbing]

Found a good AC for my house, but I can only get it there if I buy it via Amazon, since the manufacturer refuses to ship to me or provide a pickup location. Waiting to buy it until it will arrive on a day I’m actually home. I’ve been visiting my sister/bro/nephew every two weeks. Hence why I’m up past midnight: too hot to sleep even with ceiling fans.

And if you’re wondering why I have no central air, my house is too old to have the proper ductwork to install it at a price I can currently afford.

#pers com #personal #I'm trying to talk more online #only took me 10 years on this site #but in my defense when I joined in Dec 2011 we could still edit each other's posts #that and I was mutuals with an IRL friend who hated my politics and didn't know I was conservative sooooooooo #lots of negative interactions on here when I get personal tbh including religious arguments unfortunately #glad I'm finally following a more chill and diverse-without-constant-fighting group #I feel bad for leaving the Discord chat because those girls were all so cool and most of them are here too #but the constant notifications ... it was fucking me up #totes wanna talk to most of them via Tumblr though. I'm just not good at being part of a larger group chat

[austerulous]

Rules have been updated.  You’ll find the gist of what’s been tweaked in the tags. I’m gaming tonight but I’ve got tomorrow free, so I’ll be around then. ♡

#going forward this blog is now 21+ #i don't think I have any followers in the 18-20 bracket but if i do you're immune #i've switched to beta for all new threads and will be putting replies to old threads into new posts #if you repeatedly like my inbox calls but never acknowledge what i send you'll stop getting them #same for asks i've answered and multiple starters that go nowhere #i'm the worst for hoarding but it's shit to not even know if tumblr ate it or if it was just badly received #i sometimes focus on ic content and other times ooc chat or plotting #just because i'm doing one doesn't mean i have the headspace for the other at that moment #( adhd diagnosis pending ) #i'll be a whole lot less tolerant of being hounded for replies #i'm patient but checking in is one thing and guilt-tripping is another #there is more emphasis on this being a plot-heavy blog #you can trust me to curate my own space; i expect my mutuals to do the same #going forwards i will think twice about interacting with blogs that clearly value one mutual above all others #by all means go with your muse! love your mains! be exclusive if that floats your boat! #but if you're essentially 1x1 i'm not interested #my characters are not a prop to bolster other dynamics #tl;dr i'm tired and time-short gang #i don't consider any of this vaguing because if we're mutuals this obviously doesn't apply to you ♡ #i swear it isn't as negative as it seems #it's 2023 and this is about making sure my vibe attracts my tribe you know? #character bios will follow in due course #i'm determined to finally fill out my carrd in its entirety 😤 #anyway i'm smooching you all and hoping you've had a good monday ♡ #◈ — ooc; puffin speaks

[paperstarwriters]

People don't often interact with my #just thinking posts so Idk if people ever see it at all, but even then, I wanna throw this out there and just keep myself accountable.

Warning for Anxieties, implied suicidal ideation, academic stress

This is a post about some of my current struggles, I'm not talking about that in depth—the main point is more hopeful I think—but the topic is there.

there's been this song I've been listening on loop to recently; Look at the Sky by Porter Robinson. It's really sweet, and really nice and alongside, Something Comforting, Get Your Wish, and You are Enough (which, unlike the others is by Sleeping at last) it's a really uplifting and encouraging set of songs that has helped me out a lot in encouraging me through my studies.

As the semester comes to an end however, the stress continues to build and grow and with it, my panic and fear.

I have no official diagnoses, but I know well enough that there's something askew in there. A little tender part that's vulnerable to failure and stress and so many other things.

And this is why I just keep coming back to Look at the Sky.

It's the chorus.

Look at the sky, I’m still here I’ll be alive next year I can make something good, oh Something good

It reads like a promise to me. Mainly because of the second line.

I'll be alive next year.

I'll keep myself here, today so I can make it to next year.

Idk. Porter Robinson mentions how it's about the creative cycle of taking in other people's work to create a new tapestry of creativity, but I always linger on this song for my studies rather than any of my creative writing.

I'm not very good at what I'm studying at, and I can't help but associate my talent in the field with how much I should like it. The study is interesting, and when I'm not constantly worrying about failing projects or failing quizzes or failing exams, the content is fascinating and fun to learn.

But I don't do well on the assignments.

I'm not failing. I'm not so horribly behind on all my assignments that I know that I'll fail or something, but I can't help but feel the need to get at least 90% on everything. It's fear driven I think. My parents wanted that of me when I was a child. the sentiment continues to linger on in me.

I didn't do so great on a single assignment this time. It's for a project—one I need to complete in order to pass the class at all. But I messed up on the formatting and I left a few tails undone at the end. It was incredibly rushed and a miracle that I had it finished at all, but I still can't help the sickening feeling that I should have done better. Even if I was staying up way past what was healthy for me, something that would cause me general dizziness and heavy sickness later on in the day, I still felt like I should have exerted myself more to check up on it and get it nice and pretty and polished.

I haven't gotten my grade back for that assignment yet. and I can't help but feel sick thinking about it.

I know that logically, the portion of my grade that would be affected might be pretty small, and I've done pretty well in the rest of my assignments. I'll probably be able to pass the class.

Still I can't help the feeling that If I don't do perfect on every single assignment, I will fail.

I have to hand in a physical copy of the assignment tomorrow, I felt so sick going back over my digital copy— forced to look at all of my sloppy and messy mistakes. I felt fear looking at it.

I felt a lot of things, really. Nasty, dark and irrational things.

But...

I'm still here.

I'll continue to try and be here tomorrow too. And the day after that. I'll make it to next year.

And even if I don't do great in that class, I can still make it to the degree I want. It'll take a little stress and struggle, but I'll get there eventually.

And until then, I can still make good things—I can write the little stories, and one shots and fanfics that make me happy.

Look at the sky, I’m still here I’ll be alive next year I can make something good, oh Something good

I promise.

#PLEASE READ TAGS #implied suicidal thoughts #tw anxiety #I don't think people are going to see this much if at all #so I'm not gonna ban reblogs quite yet #I probably will at the first signs of containment escape but yeah. #If you're my mutual/follower who has interacted with a lot of my stuff before and you think this speaks to you #I don't mind you reblogging it #I can't tell if I want people to see this or if I want it to remain hidden... #Idk #anyways #just thinking #❤️‍🩹 #tw stress #tw academic stress