#i’ve never seen one of y’all be like

[sweetpapercroissant]

“dean winchester is a misogynist because he lies to women to get them to sleep with him and therefore clearly doesn’t respect them”

then you actually watch the show and every time dean sleeps with a woman he’s soft and there’s a gentleness even in his passion and he always makes sure his partner’s satisfied/comfortable and he does form genuine connections with the women he sleeps with even if he lies about his name and job (which is completely understandable and actually the sane thing to do considering most of america knows him as a serial killer and there’s not a lot of people around who’d bother talking to a guy who claims he hunts monsters for a living) (or for fun ig since there’s not a lot of ‘living’ in this profession) and he spends time getting to know them and offers the little bits of himself that he can and most of the time that dean has sex with a woman he sleeps over and they see him off in the morning with a goodbye kiss and genuine affection for him and if they ever run into him again they’re clearly fond and look back on their shared memories with satisfaction if nothing else and. this is the guy who doesn’t respect women? how? by believing they are adults who can want and enjoy a night of sex with no strings attached (something he’s always straightforward about btw)?? and more importantly it’s always consensual and they like him as a person and they’re clearly both enthusiastic about it (in fact there’s actually instances where dean isn’t completely enthusiastic but never the other way around).

also any time he’s been in a serious relationship where he was going to be a part of the other person’s life he tells them the whole truth, about hunting and monsters and his role in it and what being with him would entail. so i’d say he respects women just fine but maybe you need to seriously evaluate why you feel having casual sex with women is inherently disrespectful of them.

not to mention that the sex does mean something to him. even if he didn’t it wouldn’t be “wrong” or “misogynistic” to want to have sex with a woman without a relationship BUT. the sex does mean something to him. because he craves intimacy and human contact and affection and being liked and wanted and so often when he’s going through something he’ll open up to these women (jaime, anna) and they’re willing to listen to him without judgment and they’re gentle with him, with his grief, his trauma and the sex is a way for him to connect on a deeper level with them and it helps him and he’s spent almost his entire life isolated from society and can’t form long lasting relationships for much of his childhood and youth but he actually cares about them as human beings and he feels affection for them and it fulfills his desire for tenderness that he can’t expect from anyone else. and there’s nothing wrong with any of that.

#this has to be one of the dumbest things i’ve seen people say about it #i mean sure it raises some questions about consent #but even when he lies about his job he never pretends to be a different person than who he is #what you see is what you get with him #and even when he lies about his job with #motive (???) beyond that. information or just flirting (although let’s be honest it’s the former WAY more often than the latter) he never #actually has sex with someone who he thinks might want to sleep with him just because of his job. #that has never happened #sometimes he just likes playing different parts because it’s fun #and there’s nothing wrong with that either #and he isn’t the only character on spn who’s done this so why is this question only raised when it comes to dean? #and #some of y’all straight up have a weird relationship with sex #supernatural #dean winchester #dean and sex #dean meta #.txt

[noveltybee]

Imagine putting your heart and soul into a project because you love the source material, but have to work around certain scenarios because they won’t really translate well to screen, which is fine because you’ve gotten help/blessings from the ORIGINATOR of said source material so you’re feeling really good about everything. Maybe you wish you could change somethings, but you’re proud of the story that you’ve told and how true it is to the HEART OF THE STORY…

Only to then read that some of the fans of said source material think the show is awful and (somehow??) worse than the bad movie adaptations that disregarded the heart of the material (the actually STORY), all because of a casino and either adding or dropping minor story beats.

Wow. Just wow.

#yes this is about the Percy Jackson show #and I know people have valid critiques of the show #BUT SOME OF YALL have criticisms that show that you just wanted and 1:1 #which was never going to happen #the show is good if y’all would get off yall high horses and enjoy the ride #I’ve seen bad shows #this isn’t one of them #some of the scenes y’all call important just aren’t in the grand scheme of the story #the show not having those scenes doesn’t necessarily effected the overall theme and structure of the original work #not to mention #the scenes are still there #just reworked or shifted #y’all just want to complain #imagine thinking an author like RICK RIORDAN #would take this opportunity and squander it by making a bad adaptation of HIS OWN STORY #wild #pjo tv show #pjo series #percy jackon and the olympians #percy jackson

[astrababyy]

can the whole “lovers read each other’s minds” trope in fantasy please go die in a hole because if it’s not something that happens AFTER the relationship is established, it always taints the relationship and its legitimacy for me. i have read a lot of stories with this trope, and i have never, not ONCE seen it done well. it’s always so invasive and a major reason for how the relationship goes from acquaintances to being as close as they are. that mind reading thing is always involved, and a lot of the time, it’s not consensual so it’s just icky.

#every single time this happens #if the relationship didn’t have that mind reading thing #they NEVER would’ve gotten to the point they did in their relationship #because they needed that push to force them to get close #and it’s so disingenuous and fake #it’s like forced proximity but one sided bc for some reason #every time i read it it’s ALWAYS one sided #anti sjm #anti feysand #astrababyy #this is such a weirdly specific trope #so it’s weird that i’ve seen it more than once #why do authors think this is romantic #cause y’all #it’s not

[lesbiansanemi]

Just saw a post of someone complaining that falin was fridged…. Man you people really will just say things huh

#you don’t gotta like dungeon meshi like I truly don’t care #but falin was not fucking fridged oh my fucking god you people do not know what that term fucking means #fridged = female character exclusively killed off for male character to be sad about #thus erasing her agency and reducing her to exclusively man pain fodder #falin is for one…. NOT DEAD?????? SHE IS A FULLY ALIVE CHARACTER??? #and 2 even when audience is led to believe she might be dead she’s never once exclusively reduced to something to make a male character sad #like who would that male character even be??? laios????? #like yeah obviously he grieves his sister but that’s not the ONLY ASPECT OF HER CHARACTER IN UNIVERSE #listen I know you ppl are stupid and media literacy is in the toilet and y’all love to just say things regardless of what the mean…. #but this is definitely one of the worst things I’ve seen in quite some time tbqh #kaz rambles

[tanlotts]

Does anyone have any good tips on how to draw little comics? I wanna do some Fallout ones but I am so lost and don’t know where to start (struggling).

#I would really really really appreciate help #of any kind #❤️ #I have never done a comic before #and I’ve seen people make some super neat ones #I wanna be like y’all #artist help #artist tips

[cowardlybean]

not enough mob psycho horror content out there,, alright. Someone take my hand we’re gonna go fix this

#I kid but still #I can NEVER get enough horror content I think I’ve read all of the mp100 horror fics on ao3 the good and. Yeah #Minus the gross ones (brother the shit I’ve seen just through scrolling even with tags blocked. Good lird) #I guess you could say Recollection is horror a bit? Though it’s all secondhand information so it isn’t exactly direct #It’s more of a mystery #My two favorite mp100 horror fics are #And Who is Killing Me by Sammisafetypin #And #The Times They are a Changin’ by Bandtrees and Hatsunoid #both of them are some of the best damn horror works I’ve ever read #like holy shit y’all #even if you aren’t in the fandom these are really fuckin good reads #I NEEEEDD more content like that and god damnit I might just have to put pen to paper #I have a couple ideas with horror aspects but they aren’t straight up mortifying in the best way #maybe I’ll turn Reigen into goop. See what happens then #/j. Unless..? #anyway if you read all this #h #hi. (Deranged) #cowardly speaks #ACTUALLY SCRATCH THAT IF YOU READ ALL THIS GO READ THOSE TWO FICS (If you can. mind the tags) ITS MANDATED

[robertsbarbie]

no but it’s weird that the same people i saw last year calling sabrina carpenter a homewrecker, slut, and other awful things are now reblogging and screaming the words to ‘because i liked a boy’ and just all these other hypocritical things and it’s like… that doesn’t bother you?

#like main reason i didn’t get involved with drama in the first place was because well i don’t care #but like some of y’all were really fucking mean to sabrina carpenter and idk it sits weird with me how people can do a whole one 80 like #that and not even acknowledge they were complacent in a lot of the internet torment #AND i’ve ALREADY seen people turn on olivia rodrigo (who was still a literal child during all of this) being like #‘i always knew olivia was crazy i never doubted sabrina’ #‘so glad sabrina won’ and ‘i cant believe olivia rodrigo would put sabrina through this glad she finally got to tell her side’ #don’t even get me started on the one genius comment that said olivia caused joshua bassett’s heart to fail lmao (it was literally septic #shock which is an infection) #anyway #eris: text

[starlooove]

Gentle Reminder that rest in power was coined by the black community for black people killed by police brutality

#I’m not gonna say anything on that post #bc even tho I logically know that reminder isn’t derailing shit #idk it just feels too fresh for me personally #like I’m never gonna be the one making exceptions or whatever #but I’ve also already seen y’all arguing about how anyone can use it #and once again separating certain politics from race #it’s so #not even exhausting #and it’s irritating bc even theeee most gentle subtle ‘hey remember’ thing is seen as aggresive and petulant by some of y’all #not saying that’s what was gonna happen but if it was #not for me babe get somebody else to do it

[apparitionalprincess]

Yknow what? I share everyone’s sentiment about Eddie making metalhead culture mainstream again. I get it, I do! I’m not exactly thrilled at the idea that suddenly everyone and they momma wants to dress like us and look like us. I’m not excited to (full offense) see posers walking around w battle jackets and vests on when they don’t live and breathe the music/culture behind it. It fuckin pisses me off that finding metalheads attractive is a novelty now when I got told I was weird for being friends w those kids in school (and for being one too). I get it.

But leave my man out of this, okay? He ain’t do nothin wrong. Idk if it’s the metalhead solidarity in me or just me immediately empathizing w Eddie but he’s a sick ass character and doesn’t deserve the slander. Direct that slander towards the posers!

Gatekeeping is a lil okay and I’m not opposed. Not everyone belongs everywhere.

#listen I’m just here to give me two cents bc everyone just immediately wants to discredit this guy when it’s not his fault #it’s the first time I’ve ever seen a metalhead not play an absolute maniac in media. he was just a normal fucking kid who wasn’t well liked #and I would’ve loved to see his character move on. #be pissed at the lil posers who wanna walk around w dio patches and megadeath patches when they’ve never heard not one song #eddie munson you will always be famous #eddie munson my beloved #Eddie Munson #delete later duffy #and some of you are so cringe LOOOORD #that’s coming from a veteran 1D stan believe me when I say some of y’all just be doin shit 😭😭 and no one’s saying anything too #like y’all don’t even get how PUMPED I was when I saw his back panel wasn’t Metallica or GNR or sum bc I didn’t want him to be ‘generic’ #I was jumpin in the air when I saw it was Dio! like fuck yea for once they didn’t make him absolutely How to Be a Metelhead:wikihow

[tariah23]

The only thing I didn’t like that s did was stab/ try to kill Karin like she didn’t deserve that-

#the ppl who are always like ‘she’s a creep so she deserved this-‘ are wild too like she’s a weirdo girl but she was never like dangerous #and full on awful like I’ve seen ppl call her a crazy bitch who can’t take no for an answer and I’m like ‘y’all mean sakura right ☠️-‘ #and ppl were calling her a predator too like bro it’s not that deep she just had a crush on s come on now #it wasn’t hard for her to come to like him in the way that she did either considering the fact that he saved her life #and he is canonly a pretty boy and was probably one of the most normal mfs who she became acquainted with via orochimaru #ppl are still so weird about her character in my eyes since just a teenager with a crush that’s all and she did eventually back off #especially after she started to see s moving differently and not really taking team taka’s feelings into consideration but if you care about #s than you get why he became so erratic and blah blah blah I don’t have to go into that #anyway shoutout to team taka Karin is cute and she’s not pathetic in a lovable way so she can’t be a full blown fail girl but she’s still ❤️ #rambling

[katnissgirlsmakedo]

that was a lie my parents won’t ruin THIS episode by coming home. unfortunately i will probably watch a third episode

#well. ruin is a strong word. i just don’t like how they don’t perceive stuff i like #ignore the second don’t #i’m the baby of the family so everything i like is automatically juvenile and it doesn’t help that i like a lot of things that are juvenile #but like no one in this house can conceptualize ‘family’ media. like if there’s no curse words or sex it’s just For Kids #like get serious y’all just watched harry potter with my sister and no one has ever acted like she’s childish for liking that shit #like i KNOW it’s just because of misogyny 85% of the time because especially in the fantasy genre girl’s stories are seen as more childish #simply due to being about and being written for girls. where boys stories get to be gender neutral because they’re the default #and then because i’m me and 80% of everything i enjoy is about women. the other 20% doesn’t make enough of an impression to not be lumped in #so even though THIS show isn’t about women it’s still something I’M watching and it’s fantasy and it doesn’t have curse words or sex so by #default it’s girly and childish. and that sucks already but sucks even worse because now my family is gonna go about their lives thinking #that bbc merlin is girl stuff. and therefore even remotely feminist. which makes me want to kill myself because i’ve never heard something #less true in my life. like YES i am the annoying girly feminist girl’s girl of this family YES i watch bbc merlin NO that show is not that!! #anyway. that’s annoying. i love how it’s only not stupid to like something in the fantasy genre when it’s harry potter or game of thrones. #like that’s awesome. #we should all kill ourselves. but before that we should publicly execute jk rowling and george rr martin #like i firmly believe jkr should be killed but not for the terf stuff just because she made up the most annoying franchise ever. #beth.txt

[deathshallbenomore]

not me never (so far) explicitly coming out to my parents not because of fear of a potential hurtful/homophobic reaction (bless them, e grazie al cazzo because it’s the year of our lord 2022) but because I’m deeply convinced they’d react in a nice but cringe way and I don’t want to witness That. i am probably Deeply Wrong, but I am also deeply strange so

#don’t fucking reblog for fucks sake. you never know. i’ve seen things #i won’t take criticism #i also don’t like the big hey y’all I just wanted to tell you I’m xyz classic scene #i just exist without holding anything back chi vuole intendere intenda gli altri in camper. it’s not like I’m hiding something. I’ve never #really done that. except maybe when I was very young but it’s been ages #I’m more of a smooth and relaxed coming outs enjoyer #anyway it would take me 0.2 seconds to approach them saying hey this is my wife. if I had one #oh so you’re implying that what’s holding you back is fundamentally your lack of experience with (queer) relationships? #and that at this point you feel like a lost cause in terms of relationships first and being lgbt second? #[because you’re fucking 26 and that’s troubling you more and more as time passes] #yeah! an enthusiastic yes! #wow that’s deep girlie. go out take a long walk breathe darling #girl wake up it’s oversharing o’clock

[nothingweirdhere]

i think that having a friend group made up of deeply unhappy people when you’re growing up can be traumatizing actually. like… i’m sure it can’t be good for a person to be in an environment where pretty much everyone you know & interact with is being abused and/or is actively suicidal

#reflecting on how fucked up being a kid/teenager is #adults like to act like childhood is all just. innocence & sunshine & rainbows #and like. bruh. if y’all knew the HALF of it #(i mean. they in a lot of cases they… they really should) #(like. you were there??? you know some of the shit i been through????) #but like. idk. i feel like i’ve never seen it acknowledged that like #being around people who are coming to school with fresh cuts and bruises and whatnot #or texting you like ‘i’m miserable and i hate myself and i wanna kms’ is like #it’s exhausting #like… teenagers are not meant to be suicide/abuse hotlines or therapists or whatever #it damages you i think #and ofc it sucks to grow up being abused and mentally ill #hiding your own cuts and dodging questions and just being like. steeped in all this misery #and fuck like it’s not as though my friends then were just crying to each other 24/7 #we had fun!!! lots of it!!! but there was just So Much going on beneath the surface. even if it wasn’t always apparent #but it had the like. undercurrent of All That Shit going on beneath the surface #and ofc it always could be. sometimes yknow #you’ve got all these unstable people together #and you can go from having a wonderful fun time to an actual nightmare in seconds #one person says the wrong thing to someone having a bad day and now the whole group is in a panic #either everyone’s fighting or everyone’s scrambling to do damage control #in hindsight. the fact that sometimes it was a struggle just to hold the group together/keep everyone on good terms? massive fuckin red flag #and like ofc i’m not trying to say that mentally ill people can’t be friends or some shit like that #but when everyone has unhealthy coping mechanisms and is prone to lashing out or ‘venting’ by just kinda. unloading all their baggage onto u #like. idk. it fucks you up a bit i think #sometimes it was like walking on eggshells feeling like one wrong word and your friend’s death would be on your hands and like… yeah not fun #suicide tw #self harm tw #abuse tw #jx.txt

[zephsomething]

I would love for people on the internet to have a little reading comprehension. As a treat

#I just saw a whole post where people were getting up in arms because of how child psychologists talk about parallel play #and on one hand. sure they do put a lot of emphasis on it being a thing very young children do before they learn how to social play #but that’s because it is #the whole thread was people being like ‘here’s all these things adults do that are parallel play’ and talking about how terrible #it is that nuerotypicals are ‘against parallel play’ except the thing is no where ever have I seen a child psychologist say it’s a bad thing #generally what they are saying is ‘this is an early developmental thing that most kids use to transition between solo and social play’ #which is true! #and generally? if your kid never moves past parallel play? that’s because they’re not nuerotypical! which is literally all they’re sayin! #but instead y’all are wasting your bandwidth getting pissy because you have no reading comprehension! #my sources are I’ve worked with children since I was 12 fucking years old and have been reading shit made by child psychologists for just #as long if not longer and I currently work in schools with high needs kids and all sorts of early childhood professionals #and I’m not nuerotypical! but I do have a basic level of reading comprehension! and understand that ‘this is not normal behaviour’ doesn’t #immediately mean ‘this is bad’ it just means Not Normal which is how the general populace says non-nuerotypical #zeph rambles

[ko-eko-ev-go-ms]

Smth I think about sometimes is how like, I do so much stuff to overcompensate my struggles with various things, but generally I don’t acknowledge that I’m doing outside things to overcompensate or if I do I don’t get into specifics.

And then because of that like even if I tell people I’m struggling with x thing they just won’t believe me sometimes coz they didn’t see/listen to me doing work on my own time.

Even if I’m already underperforming they won’t understand how much effort it was taking JUST TO UNDERPERFORM.

But then if I make any progress or aren’t the literal worst it’s all swept under the rug as if it’s easy for me and I just wasn’t working hard enough the whole time or something?

#thoughts #oni talks #oni vents #It weirds me out how much people will just refuse to take your word for things when it comes to having a hard time sometimes? #especially if they are someone you haven’t seen in a while like why do y’all automatically assume I’m not being serious? #I think the main times it’s frustrating is if it’s something I’ve been struggling with for a while and I have been trying to get help for it #but bc that help hasn’t been received I have been trying to deal with *insert thing* on my own (and failing) hence the asking for help #but ppl will just?? act like I never asked for help even when I do? or act as if I seemed like I didn’t need help even when I complain? #forever thinking about this one comment from a certain family member where she said “you didn’t seem like you needed/were asking for help #meanwhile me growing up struggling constantly & while I tried not to ask for help usually as a kid for obvious reasons #there were 10000% times where I would ask for help & be given absolutely nothing or I’d try to do something to help myself & be shamed #but I still never understood the concept of “you didn’t seem like you needed help” coz like?? I was obviously struggling?? even when I didnt #ask for help I was never doing particularly well? like I was actively failing out of things repeatedly but somehow I seemed fine??? #I also hate how much of my effort is internal or unobservable so even I’m trying really hard it’ll look like I’m not doing anything #but idk it just frustrates me sometimes coz I’ll be struggling or complaining & ppl will be like oh it’s easy you’re fine like?? #but then if I don’t ask for help and fail I get in trouble but if I do ask for help I also get in trouble it’s so irritating #granted stuff is generally a lot better now (though I still need to do more) #but idk there’s just a couple areas of knowledge where I get genuinely irritated if I’m not listened to #often it’s like that meme of I know more than you like the Ron Swanson one #but other times it’s like… did you even listen at all?? #even when I’m trying to relax it’s often calculated (which tends to make it harder lol) #in terms of overcompensating it’s like sometimes it’s rough bc I know if I DO manage a decent job it’ll be even higher expectations #idk sometimes it’s frustrating when people just assume I’m not trying when I am? i definitely could try harder but also willpower is limited #& I don’t wanna burn myself out coz then I’m gonna get further behind #it’s a wonder how much ppl take for granted their perceptions of you when they aren’t even paying close attention to you #or like?? yall could just ask me?? it’s wild like i feel like i gotta pre emptively explain myself sometimes