#i like them am in tears

[inkskinned]

there are a lot of posts out there that are positive and healthy coping mechanisms for handling the holidays. this is not one of them :)

i think there's like. going to be times in your life you will be stuck in a social situation that you cannot escape from gracefully. i do not know why the internet doesn't believe these times exist. it's not always just that your physical safety is at risk - sometimes it's legit like "i just don't currently have the energy or time to put in the effort of responding to this." sometimes it's a coworker you hate so much. sometimes it's just like, fine, you know? like you know you can handle your aunt when she's cheerily horrible, but if you actually set a boundary around her, it's going to be weeks of fallout with your father.

i don't know why people think the answer is always just "cut them out!" or "don't let them get away with that!" because ... the real world is tricky and complicated. i think kind of a lot of us have an internal "radiation poisoning" meter for certain people. like - i'm talking about the ones who are absolutely giving you gradual ick damage. like, you can handle them, but you'll be exhausted.

and yes. you absolutely should listen to your therapist and the good posts about handling others and set good boundaries and take care of yourself. prioritize peace.

HOWEVER :) ...... since im often in a situation with a Gradual Sense of Ick person i cannot just "cut out" of my life (without losing someone else precious to me) - i have sort of developed the most. maladaptive form of mischief possible. because like, if i'm going to have to listen to this shit again, i like to have a little bit of private fun with it.

now! again, i am physically safe, just mentally drained by this man. you should only do this with people you are not in danger with. which leads me to my suggestions for when your Unfortunate Acquaintance shows up and says oh everyone pay attention to me.

my favorite word is "maybe!" said as brightly and happily as possible. whenever the Horrible Person starts in on a topic you do not want to go further with, particularly if they make a claim that you know to be inaccurate, do not respond to it. you and i have both tried to actually argue with this person, and it hasn't gone well, because this person just wants the drama of an argument. however, "maybe!" gives them literally nothing to go on. it is incredibly disarming. they are used to people having some response. they know they can't prove what they're saying, and maybe! treats them like the child they are. it dismisses them in the politest way possible.

i like to say maybe! and then, in their stunned silence, immediately change the subject. this is because i have adhd and i will have something unrelated to talk about, but if you can't think of topics fast enough, i recommend just pointing to something and saying, "isn't that lovely?" because fuck you let's bring in some positivity.

by the way. that second trick - of pointing to something and stating an opinion about it? - that just works on its own, like, 70% of the time. i picked it up from teaching preschoolers. it's an intentional "redirect". it stops children crying and it also stops grown adults from finishing their explanation on why women belong in kitchens. dual wielding!

keep it silly for yourself. i absolutely do not care if people think i'm fucking stupid (it's more fun if they do) and as a result i will purposefully misunderstand things just to see how long it takes them to realize i've completely removed them from the subject at hand. when they say "women aren't funny" i get to be like. "which women." "all women." "all women in america?" "no in the world." "like the mole people? the people in the world?" "what? no. like, alive." "oh are we not counting the mole people?" "what the fuck are you talking about." "you don't believe in the mole people?"

similarly, i play a personal game called "one up me." my Evil Acquaintance literally knows this game exists (my family & friends caught onto it and now also play it) and it always fucking gets him. i don't know why. you have to be willing to be a little free-spirited on this one, though. the trick is that when they make one of those horrible little bigoted or annoying comments they are always making, you need to go one unit weirder. not more intense, mind you - just more weird. "you don't look good in that dress." "yeah, actually, my other dress was covered in squid ink due to a mishap at the soup store." "you shouldn't wear such revealing clothes." "wait, what? oh shit. sorry, your son tears off strips when no one is looking and eats them. i swear it was longer before we left the building."

the point of "one up me" is to completely upend this person's narrative. we both know this person likes setting up situations where you cannot "win" and then they really like telling other people how badly you handled it. in a usual situation, if you respond "please don't say something that rude", you're a bitch. but if you let it happen, you're letting yourself be debased. they are not usually expecting door number three: unflappably odd. because what are they going to say when they're telling everyone how badly you behaved? "she said my son eats her dresses" ".... okay?"

if you can, form an allyship with someone whomst you can tagteam with. where they can pick up on your weird "soup store" story and run with it.

the following phrase is amazing and can be deployed for any situation: "oh, be nice :) it's the holidays!" i do not know why this works as often as it does. i'll say it for the most random shit. i think this is bc most of the time these people know they're being impolite, they just like to fight.

godbless. when in doubt, remember that you could always start stealing their pens.

the whole point of this is - if you can't escape. maybe see how long you can just be. like. a horrible little menace.

#this is objectively bad advice #don't listen to it protect yourself and do real work on yourself find one of the good posts i've made about this #but also. u know. if u want to have fun while u do the work of setting boundaries #.... it IS fun #i will say that my fear of him went SO down after i just started. fucking with him. #bc i used to get SO fucking upset #i'd spend WEEKS arguing with him. tearing my hair out. sick with anxiety and dread and anger about all of it #and now i just LITERALLY do not engage #instead i'm like '' haha :) mole people" and get the HELL out of any tense conversation #i kind of think some of these people are literally addicted to drama as a form of connection #they like the rush they get from arguing #but those arguments are incredibly damaging for me #so like..... i am in the process of literally rehabilitating this person to figure out how to find connection thru #NORMAL CONVERSATION #he doesn't get it yet #i also do talk to them like they're preschool kids lmafo . ''are you using a safe and kind voice right now?'' #'' do you need a snackie? you sound a little upset. let's have some hummus and come back to playtime when we feel ready''

[ryllen]

A question I have just recently,

can Sebek handle spicy?

this is what i generally think of fae.

tho i think,

lilia knows spicy spices from his travel.

even tho in dragon form, malleus breathes fire from his mouth, and fire is hot, it might be like the kind of fire that doesn't hurt him in the first place

sebek father might bring spicy spice from human world with him, but since i think of him as a mellow man, he might not be interested in spicy food in the first place

#honestly it makes me wonder all the nrc students ability to handle spiciness & i wish everyone would start putting them into tiers #twst #twisted wonderland #do i tag this as sebek #i do want to know what others think of him #sebek zigvolt #i think the octas would be very bad at it #but floyd probably keeps on challenging it so he gains tolerance over it #riddle would be very bad with it #ace would be pretty good #but deuce would be a little less #or do u think punk him would dare other punks on spicy food #who would shed tears #who would break a sweat #who would eat like it's nothing #who would wail asking the great seven to take them to the after world #i am just wondering bcs of the rabbit sausage roll in deuce hometown #leona who never lift a finger finally break a sweat from spicy food #who knows we even see tears in his eyes while he endures it silently #can vil stay beautiful eating spicy food #despite his tough claim can epel handle spicy #anyhow do u know there's samyang 1/2 spicy now #that's the only one i can eat without suffering like actually enjoying it #idia i feel like he would wrinkle from spicy food #but what if he is some connoisseur of instant noodles so he had been eating spicy ones quite a lot #my brother always love to see me suffer over spiciness

[lotus-pear]

lyn siblings <33

#not drawing lyney's hat i'm sry besties ik he isn't the same w/o it but i am physically incapable of drawing hats #i woke up today and was like “i want to draw lyney and lynette!! my sillies!!” #then i looked at their splash art and a single tear rolled down my cheek #i fucking hate genshin charcaters and their charming personalities and their overly complicated extravagant designs. fuck this #anyway haven't played 4.0 yet but lynette and neuvilette have my fav designs so far (navia is such a close second i want to draw her) #erm anyway idk shit abt them but i was a lyney and lynette enthusiast since their first leaks so i felt obligated to draw them #genshin impact #genshin #lyney #lyney genshin impact #lynette #lynette genshin impact #lyney and lynette #lotus draws

[watchingwisteria]

aziraphale, the one who gave the first human exiles his flaming sword as both a source of protection and warmth, who did not look on them as sinners deserving of destruction but people entitled to the best chances possible, has never once looked at crowley, a heavenly exile, with anything other than compassion and a desire to protect. from their first meeting, he never wanted anything bad to happen to him. when crowley slithers up to him in eden, he treats him like an equal rather than an adversary. when crowley appears, his eyes fill with love and excitement, his gaze turns soft and hesitant, his whole body seizes with joy of seeing him. crowley might typically the one to seek him out, but aziraphale has always welcomed him home.

#aziracrow #ineffable husbands #aziraphale #crowley #good omens #I AM WRITING THE FIRST DRAFT OF MY FIC 😈 #they make me so…… #the ex christian in me turns to a rabid dog when i think abt them #they both love each other with that christian ideal agape love #the kind that would sacrifice itself for the other #to love is to will the good of the other and all that #i just love and adore them both ok u will never catch slander against EITHER of them from me #tags added later : #is now a bad time to mention i think go3 will be #aziraphale realizing that crowley is his home and he was crowley’s #like heaven is not going to be as he imagined it #and he’ll realize being head archangel can change nothing #and ooooh that homecoming.. for both of them…. #well i expect to be in tears that’s all i’ll say #IT HAS TO END WELL THO or may actually unfortunately have to pass away on the spot

[esprei]

Emmet month - Day 4: Memories

though Ingo may be gone, he'll never be forgotten

#submas #subway bosses #subway boss ingo #subway boss emmet #subway boss nobori #subway boss kudari #gym leader elesa #nimbasa trio #monthofemmet #my art #whew i am 4 days late ;; #anyway i let myself keep this one much MUCH less refined (as hard as it was to do that slkgj) #also bringing back the kid submas designs i did a looooong time ago #like them as young trainers that one #anyway of course i choose to do something sad with this one hehe #emmet sitting all alone in his apartment looking through old photo albums ;-; #gettin' tear stains all over the pages

[cannot-be-cyn]

it still makes me cry at night that kim dokja's prologue is the end of yoo joonghyuk's story while the conclusion of kim dokja's story is yoo joonghyuk's beginning, and in this essay i…

#these two makes me cry like a bad break up #i lay at my bed and think about them and i just #i am in tears #orv spoilers #kim dokja #yoo joonghyuk #joongdok #dokjoong #orv #omniscient reader's viewpoint #omniscient reader

[popcornkwantum]

:D I love Nicky so much

I'll be making these into (handmade) stickers and will be giving them out for FREE at both the upcoming Elfia event and at Heroes Dutch Comic Con (summer edition)

I actually don't think anyone from the Netherlands follows me on here but uuuhh if you do plan on going to one/both events, keep an eye out for someone in a badly made Taylor cosplay and you will be granted with one of these bad bois >:)

#the last (and first time) I did this it took me like 3 HOURS to make only 30 ish stickers lol #and it was at like 1 am at the night before the event #but this time I'm more prepared #and I just tested out a new way to make them which is SO MUCH MORE EFFICIENT #and IT. WORKS. TOO. #I'll also be remaking a few from last year #also; yes I did look into just ordering them online but I'm not going to spend 100+ euros on stickers that I'm going to give away for free #and investing into a printer and sticker paper and laminate stuff is a bit too expensive right now as well #so I'd rather make these by hand with all my blood sweat and tears and spend that money on the artist alley instead :D #dndads #here we go with all versions of spelling Nicky's name again #dndads nicky #nicky close #nicky foster #nicholas close #nicholas foster #nicky close foster #nick #trans nicky #trans #my favorite trans guy #dungeons and daddies #my art #elfia #HDCC #teen nicky #demon nicky #so mannyy tagss

[mattodore]

delphi, bitten pack member, mate

#river dipping #delphi sol #lykos #ts4 #ts4 edit #ts4 cas #simblr #no good morning just immediately firing shots LOOK 🫵 AT HER 🫵 #GOD............................... WEREWOLF WOMAN WHO WILL TEAR INTO ME WITH HER CLAWS AND REVEL IN THE WARMTH OF BLOOD I WANT YOUUU #SHE'S SO SEXY LIKE. SAID THIS OVER ON PF ALREADY BUT I NEED TO BE FOUR FINGERS DEEP INSIDE HER ALREADY #FACE FIRST IN HER BREASTS LIKE. DYKERY IN MY MIND THE LIKES OF WHICH YOU WOULD NOT BELIEVEEEEE RN #FEMMES............. I AM YOURS ALWAYS AND FOREVER <3 #...me thinking delphi is the sexiest woman alive aside... look at her pointy wolf ears sticking out!! #and yeah... her and ria both have scars on their throats. they gave them to each other :)<3 #they're werewolf soulmates..... of course it's that intense and serious they had to wound each other #delphi's is from when ria turned her but ria's is from delphi wanting to mark ria back... normally it'd heal but :) #ria is a born wolf and delphi is their little werewolf mate... which means they don't heal like a wolf would at delphi's hands #delphi's not a born wolf tho so </3 not the same for her. but turning scars always stay with the body along with any other wounds #that were already there at the time of turning... #<- this is real lykos story lore so. don't look too closely at ria's scars from that last post. they don't actually make sense #i just thought wow... those are sexy. and put them on her kjdgfkhfn #none of the lykos ocs' scars are canon until i make them myself #but dionte's eye scar and delria's throat scars are canon!! i'll make custom ones one day but for now! i'm just rocking with what i've got

[montydragon]

honey help i've been thinking too much about zora biology again

#zora #breath of the wild #tears of the kingdom #botw #totk #loz #the legend of zelda #myart #disclaimer these headcanons are fully my own #you may use them if you like but they are not based in anything besides my brain #still have to figure out how the whole water sac thing would work with their ribs in the way #hm... maybe their ribs have gaps #i'm not illustrating that nightmare of a thoracic cavity though #or am i #nintendo help

[rennybu]

Adra and Talee moment that will live in my mind forever. Did your paladin just admit to feeling some kind of way about you? Uno reverse. Kiss her knuckles. While underwater

(Adra is played by @boss-saarebas and Talee is @justbooker !! from @jawsandbones homebrew campaign <3 <3 <3)

#tadra. Tadra #aart #titan campaign #love is alive in winyul btw #adra lethe #talee faehana #water genasi #half elf #dnd 5e #hi emily hi ally i am at all times going crazy abt their dynamic and their backgrounds and their #different experiences re:dating. both being None but in like the Opposite way. im not normal abt them #im not normal abt any couples in this story tbh #[moments away from tears] they are such good friends and i mean friends in the fucmking. samfrodo way

[sporeclan]

how do you handle genetics if you do at all in your art

Great question! I'm actually quite the cats genetics nerd and typically when I design my own cat ocs, I go for accurate, realistic genetics. Genetics in ClanGen don't _quiiite_ work that way though, and since I like staying pretty close to the in game sprite's patterns, I'm forced to do the genetics for SporeClan with body/fur shape only.

Since we don't have any SporeClan cats with two in game generated parents as of yet, I made a brand new clan and picked a family from there! I usually try to take a mix of traits from both parents, or go somewhere in between. These two parents here are pretty different, so combined with their already wildly different coat patterns, the siblings look pretty different from eachother. I hope you can still see what I'm trying to portray, though!

One of my FAVOURITE things to do when designing families is giving some of them a unique trait, like the fully pink nose Aphidpeak has passed on to Bubblingspeck, or the full back stripe that both Softrock and Jellyfishfeather inherited from Cypressplume. Also, when cats have parents that are agouti(ticked)/bengal but doesn't inherit the pattern, I still like to include things like the dark feet. I also do this sometimes with white spotting, such as the rings on Softrock's tail.

LASTLY, I do sometimes mess with how I portray the patterning.

Usually when I draw most patterns, I'll draw their underbelly colours with my regular brush, giving them harder lines. But with Softrock, I opted to airbrush in her lighter underbelly, a thing I usually only do with agouti cats, as a nod to her parents. I'll also often mess with just how much the lighter colour goes up (for example, Mousegrove and all her kits have a high amount of the lighter colour, while Dawnpelt and Minklake have barely any)

Anyways, I think that's all.... it's all I can come up with for now, at least :') Hope my ramblings are at least somewhat coherent!

#you all have no idea how much i wanted to instantly burst into tears when i saw jellyfishfeather for the first time #looks EXACTLY like one of my irl cats <3<3<3<3<3 #got extremely attached to him so i want everyone to know he turned out to be transmasc and also became jellyfishstar <3<3<3 #chitchat #ask #i had another family and then a kit from this and that one had kits and i wanted to draw them all for Ultimate Examples Gallore #but i am simply too busy right now to do that :[ sad....... #i will do it if theres any interest though

[ganondoodle]

utterly random late night panic thoughts but

if you read my zelda comic and like it i love and appreciate you but i really do need to be upfront about it being very much a self indulgent enemies to lovers story with a villain at the center that has done bad but isnt bad at his core and is struggeling to come to terms with the fact that he doesnt actually want to be the evil beast he and almost everyone else believes he should be

yes im one of those people ... fake villain fans or something ... i think .. i dont know the rules to that ... q-q

#ganondoodles talks #i thinks its in part the time thats making me suddendly panic about that #like i often see posts from people that are like fake villain enjoyers make the guy into a good guy #and real villain enjoyers are those that like him bc he kills people #or making fun of or generally seeming very agressive towards people that redeem villains #and i have no idea if id be counted among them bc im kinda doing it #yes he killed people but no he doesnt like it and doesnt want to #im one of those cringy softies that are like .. but what if villain ... good #of course im trying to make it make sense and with alot of extra written lore #like i made an entire world up just for demises backstory #but im undenialbly afraid that some people will tear my comic apart once they realize i made him not all that evil #again i have pretty much read no fanfiction and am unfamiliar with alot of common fanfic tropes and stuff so #i got no idea what is commonly understood as the wrong kind of villain fan or soemthing #I DONT KNOW THE CRINGE RULES I JUST HAVE LOTS OF BLORBO THOUGHTS #i need to go to bed

[rileyclaw]

thank you for 100,000+ views on Fish in a Birdcage!! it’s only been a week and im so blown away by all the amazing comments and tags and bites into pillow and tears it into feathers (affectionate). omg as well as 6,000 followers now!

#like i could write PARAGRAPHS about how touched i am that people liked the animatic #and gave it so much love on all my socials and just the general awesome feedback ive had this past week #but walls of text are no fun sometimes so please let me tear apart drywall in yalls honor #my art #the owl house #toh #fanart #hunter toh #fish in a birdcage #and the hands of all the other hexsquad kids . idk if i really need to tag that #i put them deliberately in the outfits they were in when they had their Lifechanging Journey with Hunter(tm)

[thirtenth]

You know what this means, right?

#dwedit #doctor who #power of the doctor #the power of the doctor #thasmin #thirteenth doctor #yasmin khan #dw spoilers #doctor who spoilers #potd #jodie whittaker #mandip gill #* #sorry if this looks bad i cant see through my tears #theyre literally gone like what am i supposed to do with myself now lol #going to miss them more than anything #i want a thasmin spin off immediately #and i want bbcdoctorwho to post the kiss scene that they forgot to add in the show haha xx

[elipri]

Imagine the following: Damian knows that Anya can read minds and one day he decides to be nice and only think of kind things about her....except that it's the new moon so naturally Anya wouldn't notice.

He'd spend the whole day giving her compliments in his mind, getting all flustered in the process AND will assume that Anya is ignoring him on purpose cause she's mad at him 😭

#spy x family #sxf #damianya #I should draw this later #Am on the train rn #I have also thought of much angstier scenarios involving the esper reveal to Damian #And made myself tear up on the bus #i like them a normal amount

[seven-tastic]

lukerosa arts (SHOCKING I KNOW)

#tears of themis #luke pearce #lukerosa #i am genuinely so insane over them lately #im trying to push my limits to bring my brainworms into artwork for the lukerosa nation to witness #IM STILL SO SAD AB ROSA NOT APPEARING IN HIS 4TH BDAY ART BUT ITS OK...I UNDERSTAND... #it feels so empty without her </3 #but also glad to see luke more :`) #i just think 3rd bday evo cannot be topped it was so warm n heartwarming and lighthearted and wholesome aaaaaa #AND THE CONTEXT BEHIND ROSA SMOOCHIN HIS CHEEKS?? FDHJNGKDJGDF #anyways that card is GODLIKE i legit cannot wait until next tuesday i feel like im gonna die. #RAMBLING