#i haven't seen this one yet

[healution]

Reblog to give chocolate to the person you've reblogged this from

#I haven't seen this one yet #It's a crime #Cause we all want chocolate

[panther0302]

She's so sweet. My favorite thing about her is her pussynality lol

#me #my thoughts #jokes #I'm funny #or not #i haven't seen this one yet #this is top tier

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[mintypsii]

HELP?

#SCREAMIHNGNMFN #I HAVEN'T SEEN THE VIDEO YET BUT THIS SCREENSHOT IS SOOOOO #shes so real for this #one piece #op #one piece live action #opla #zolu #monkey d luffy #roronoa zoro #trixie mattel #heartstopper #netflix #edit: i watched the video and it is the funniest thing ever #i was full on belly laughing #it's hilarious 😭😭😭

[lieu10ant-a]

ghost:  pulls  out  a  knife soap:  how  many  of  those  do  you  have ? ghost:  pulls  out  another  how  many  do  you  need ?

#˚ ⌖ . extrospection ∶ 𝐀 𝐒𝐇𝐀𝐃𝐎𝐖 𝐎𝐅 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐌𝐀𝐍 𝐇𝐄 𝐖𝐀𝐒 𝐁𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄. #i haven't seen this one yet #and nb can tell me this didn't happen

[5ummit]

May thy knife chip and shatter

#feyd rautha harkonnen #paul atreides #austin butler #feydpaul #dune #dune part 2 #duneedit #my edit #filmedit #junkfooddaily #userstream #usersavana #usergal #userkristen #usersmaya #userquel #tuserlari #PARALLELS #I haven't seen this one done yet #I hate that the camera isn't focused on feyd's face in the 2nd shot #it's making my gifs look bad #:(

[heavensenthearty]

Do you guys ever think how Zuko is the only person who proves Katara that he won't leave her again?

Katara has abandonment issues. That's why she was so angry at Hakoda when they saw each other again, that's why she became so anxious when they had to separate, that's why she lashes out at Zuko himself, bringing up her mother's death. It's implied throughout the series that she has been abandoned physically and emotionally by the people she held dear.

Of course, Hakoda acknowledges and apologizes, but we don't see him making the effort to show Katara that he won't make her feel that way again—(which is probably due to the pacing of the story, although it's still a poor writing choice, but I digress).

But we see Zuko making an effort.

After betraying her, he is determined to make it up to her by any means. Even when she is openly hostile to him, he remains respectful and protective of her. He is constantly showing kind and heroic gestures. He goes out of his way for it in TSR to help her confront her feelings of grief and resentment, and saves her life yet again during Sozin's Comet. He expresses he has her best interest at heart through words and actions.

Thinking about all of that makes their relationship and personal character journey even more beautiful.

#zutara #*purple heart emoji* 💜 #nickname: eclipse de luna 🌒 #quote: “i think i'm the one that should be thanking you” #i thought i was done finding deeper subtext into them #guess i wasn't #btw this is about the og show i haven't seen the la yet

[seventh-district]

Making Incorrect H:SR Quotes Until I Run Out of (hopefully) Original Ideas - Pt. 6

[Pt. 1] [Pt. 2] [Pt. 3] [Pt. 4] [Pt. 5]

#hsr #honkai star rail #hsr incorrect quotes #hsr textpost #hsr memes #honkai star rail memes #hsr meme #honkai star rail meme #boothill #hsr boothill #argenti #hsr argenti #sunday #hsr sunday #aventurine #hsr aventurine #black swan #hsr black swan #argenhill #boothill x argenti #i love their 'guns n' roses' ship name a whole lot but im not trying to unintentionally put this in the actual band's tag lmao #i dont have a good concise title for this one its just like. 50% Boothill and 50% my other fav hsr men. thats it thats the theme #also. dont fuckign come at me like 'but the 6th one isn't accurate! he wasn't born in a test tube!!' listen. i know. #he was found abandoned in the snow or smthn idk i haven't dug into his lore leaks yet but i Know. the first half isnt all that accurate #but the overall vibes of it are funny enough to me that i had to make it anyways. let's all just learn to suspend our disbelief a bit #for the sake of laughs. also also. hopefully it goes w/o saying but if something ever lacks a source it's bc i found it like that #i always leave the op's handles even if they dont fit the characters but sometimes the posts i find have already had them cropped out #which irks me bc i Try to be a stickler for giving credit. but anyways. enough overthinking the making of these silly memes #also. some of these are prob a bit more accurate only if you've seen some of Boothill's voiceline and message leaks but eh its fine

[fake-married-my-dead-fiance]

Queen of Tears Text posts 1/? (Part 2, 3, 4)

#queen of tears #spoilers #ep 8 #text posts #i haven't seen one yet so I am obligated to make one #enjoy! #I hope it's both funny and dark as suits this show #kdramas

[capricioussuns]

Haven't seen any post on here about it yet, so: there is another one day strike tomorrow (Thursday the 7th), as well as a call to boycott the oscar's on the 10th. Much like the super bowl and christmas, israel is planning to attack Gaza when they expect americans to be distracted, on top of having a history of targeting Palestine during Ramadan.

Here is a link to the instagram post, don't forget to call your reps, mask up and attend a protest if you can, and keep speaking up and staying updated on what's happening

Daily click

#I feel so weird making posts like this bc I always feel super under qualified but I haven't seen this here yet and given the one day strike #is tomorrow it's kinda time sensitive! #palestine #eyes on rafah #the oscars

[politemagic]

have we talked about this video yet??? because mr. token the fourth was FEELING himself during the summoning 🖤

source

#i'm sorry if this has already been posted but i have been thinking about this video all day & i haven't stumbled upon it yet #because first of all sweet mother of god ivy. what the hell (affectionate. so affectionate) #but also because this is actually EXACTLY what i look like during this part of the summoning. like. its scarily similar. #and i mean all i'm saying is that no one's ever seen us in the same room together. 🤷🏼‍♀️ #and if we know anything about em it's that she's a iii lover to her fucking core so.................... open to interpretation #sleep token #sleep token worship #sleep token iv #tw flashing lights

[lynaferns]

Do you guys have seen this movie?

Because I have a bunch of memes I drew for it.

#lyna stuff #My brother had a nostalgia attack the other day after seeing one of the characters in a meme #and I found out the whole movie was on youtube for free and a fan restoration of the creators original concept #I had some vage memories of the movie while I was watching it. like deya vus #I haven't seen the restoration yet only the comercial version #hope I see it soon with my brother #Youtube

[creepedfinn]

oh mee lord, today was a doodly day

#i love drawing wally fawning over non-red apples so much #also i haven't seen anybody draw the wintertime wally yet :( #welcome home #wally darling #barnaby b beagle #frank frankly #julie joyful #welcome home wally #welcome home barnaby #welcome home frank #welcome home julie #and for the homies (even though it's just one) -> #tickle art #welcome home tickles #lee!wally #ler!julie #my art

[lynati]

When your mutual doesn't have boops turned on:

#boop #memes #other people have probably made this already but I haven't seen one cross my dash yet so #Lynati personal

[leviachansbaka]

no words brain empty

#obey me leviathan #leviathan obey me #obey me screenshot #completely forgot I could've just updated this post with the dialogues instead of creating a new one #smh anyway I'll update again if there's any new lines that's I haven't seen yet #obey me nightbringer #obey me

[swan2swan]

This line is one of my Absolute Favorites from this show, because it really digs right into the new world that the kids are in:

They're not kids anymore.

There's a furious man threatening harm to Bumpy and her friends, and Sammy puts herself square in the middle of the argument, turns on the charm and promises that she'll make it up to him...and when he doesn't acquiesce, she immediately turns Stern. She bluntly tells him to go home. As an adult talking to another adult.

She has her own property. Her own life. Her own world. She has authority now. The days where they're kids hiding from robots or businessmen or sneaking away from big game hunters and mercenaries are over. Sammy has land, she has responsibilities, and she's not backing down from them. Sammy Gutierrez is an adult woman, and she's going to act like one.

#she is twenty-one years old #not super-old or experienced but also she watched like five men die when she was fourteen and fifteen #pretty much killed one of them herself #she's had guns pointed at her #and had her liver mellted #sammy gutierrez #she's been blackmailed and threatened and hunted and captured #she was in a helicopter crash #and a car crash #two car crashes actually #hasn't had her third yet as far as I know #could be her fourth or fifth #she's at least a decade younger than carl but she's seen more than him #and she's ready for this #and I love it when heroes who go through too much get to flex on those who haven't #jurassic world: chaos theory #chaos theory #jwct