#i dont CARE anymore if i look like a cis woman

[theo-grayson]

me, transmasc: i want short hair so i look more like a boy

these motherfuckers about to shatter my entire worldview:

#screams and yells and cries #i dont CARE anymore if i look like a cis woman #i have huge tits. im gonna look like a cis woman no matter what i do #gender #transmasc #trans man #nonbinary #enby #transgender #botw #totk #loz #genshin #genshin impact #link #kazuha #kaedehara kazuha #aether #genshin aether #genshin impact aether #lgbtqia #lgbtq

[lesboygamzee]

beta troll headcanons but i have headcanons on how alternian gender works ( its not that complex dw )

aradia - fully agender . seperate from everything . didnt really care until it godtiered and then was like ohhh i dont have to do anything anymore im free now ok ^_^ and was pretty chill with it forever tavros - Fairy Girl and transfem . i imagine that Fairy Genders are like completely caste nonconforming I HAVE LORE I HAVE LORE LISTEN TO ME NOW BOY anyway . has known for like .. Awhile but shes in proximity to vriska and vriska is like your average reddit transfem and tavros is like ok maybe i should just repress this and pretend its not something i think and dream about extensively . and it works for awhile and then she lives as a girl on her own on earth c but it still takes forever for her to actually Come Out but it happens .. eventually ... ok im getting sad my girl has problems SHES ALSO BUTCH sollux - gold bigender what the fuck else . very repressed transfem who fits all the gamer trasnfem stereotypes hes kind of real . again Very Repressed and like halfway an egg halfway Aware ( haha duality ) . starts being herself after prolongued proximity to godtier aradia she stole its fucking girl ness #thetransagenda . doesnt really like the association he has with her caste but accepts it as part of his identity nontheless karkat - agender cis guy no assigned caste but identifies with his assigned gender on the technical level . he has a weird relationship with it but like its chill overall nepeta - olive trans guy . nondysphoric and is fine being a girl but one day he was like hey somethings off and he ripped his tits clean off and started living as a he and went about his life as normal <- joke but probably not far off . i dont think he was unhappy as a girl hes just chill with whatever feels right in the moment i think and right now its Boy kanaya - jade trans girl but in a gnc way because female jadebloods are meant to be very cold i think people forget that but kanaya genuinely cares about motherhood and wants to nurture the matriorb because she cares about the next generation of her race and like thats a significant part of her character guys you know that right . i think her both being badass AND having a desire for motherhood is good writing actually guys .g . anyway . has known since she was very young and would be relatively normal about it if it wasnt for her Proximity To Vriska ( see Reddit Transfem ) terezi - teal trans guy whos also nonbinary whos also a dyke . ill be honest i dont have anything super in depth for this one sorry terezi fans vriska - cerulean trans girl . i think nows the time to clarify what i mean by reddit transfem umm . she will not shut the fuck up about how horrible and mannish she looks and acts forever and like its not her fault she feels like this but shes saying this in direct proximity of other transfems namely kanaya and tavros . i also think shes a transmed . umm has known from a young age but only becomes fully comfortable in her identity like .. a loooong time from canon equius - indigo transfem . i dont have a lot of thoughts on this but i think shes very repressed for a long time but Nepeta Proximity helps her a little . doesnt really transition shes just A Girl Now gamzee - Dyke . incredibly strange relationship with everything but like .. i think hes identifying as a trans guy at 13 if only because he thinks its the easiest to explain i dont think hed care . Until It Does . has a crisis about it for exactly a week before getting normal . hard to explain more for multiple reasons rips arm off eridan - violet cis guy but like theres gender fuckery going on . thought he was transfem for awhile and went on e and was like this is awesome but i think im a guy still . does drag as a fuschia woman feferi - fuschia multigender . another one that is hard to explain sigh but i think hes an egg at 13 but he doesnt have a whole thing about it hes like oh im more than just Girl cool ^_^

#homestuck #beta trolls #aradia megido #tavros nitram #sollux captor #karkat vantas #nepeta leijon #kanaya maryam #terezi pyrope #vriska serket #equius zahhak #gamzee makara #eridan ampora #feferi peixes #headcanons

[tetrakys]

Otome game can only exclusively have female MC the moment it’s not a female MC anymore it automatically lost the genre of otome that’s even why sweet elite isn’t an otome but a Amare game so as long beemoov continue to define MCL has an otome like they even did it with New Gen It will keep on being a Female MC forever and I dont think they wanna lose the « otome » in their title so no it will never ever have a male MC and it’s not only because of customization but because of how the genre work

I agree, although as you also point out with Sweet Elite, companies generally don't really care to be faithful to a definition and just use whatever they think can bring more players with their advertisement (uncoven was advertised as an otome game and it's anything but that!)

But yeah, otome games are aimed at women, that's why the definition of amare games was created, to identify games with a broader target audience.

Also, on a more specific note, I think amare games are more complex and require a more varied creation team. I'm not being mean when I say that I simply would not trust Chino to make games with m/m routes, with male and nb MCs, etc. She's a straight cis woman, creating games on her own, she simply doesn't have the life experience to write something different and do them justice. If one day Bee becomes a big company with multiple creators who can make different games I hope they can hire queer people able to work on LGBTQ+ games, but as things are now, I would not trust them one bit (I mean look what they did with uncoven...)

#otome games #amare games #my candy love

[teamsieben]

i dont relate to trans characters in media even though i'm technically not cis. i do not consider myself trans. i'm not cis, and i'm not trans.

i didn't find something that was there all along, i didn't find an identity and think, 'wow, that fits so much better.'

it wasn't there all along.

i used to be a little girl.

i'm not that little girl anymore.

becoming agender was a lot like growing up. it happened slowly, it happened naturally, it feels like nothing ever changed until i look at old photos and realize that yes, it did.

and much like growing up, i didn't put any effort into it.

i told some people, sure, but i tired very quickly of correcting them on pronouns and the like. i don't care to cut my hair or change my wardrobe. i buy from the women's catalog because it's what i know how to do and i'm terrified of risk.

to the outside, i am [legal name], young woman, and i don't care enough to change that.

the only time i don't introduce myself that way is if they introduced themselves in a queer way first, one-on-one. even in pronoun circles, i clam up. i don't want to say she/her, because i don't want to be the one to say it. but if i say they/them, i am going against people's thoughts of me.

my gender is do not disturb, just make your assumptions and go away, don't poke or prod the gender pretty please. the gender is burying its head in the sand and it would very much like if you were to pretend you can't see it either.

my gender is whatever the fuck you want it to be.

#gender #agender #genderqueer #queer #nonbinary #idk tags tags tags #feel free to rb if you relate i guess #i get weirdly poetic when i stay up too long

[nooradeservedbetter]

I know you write bl but please do not defend Emma. She is known in our fandom as a transphobic asshole. She has been openly transphobic to harries and larries because they think Harry MIGHT be trans. She is also homophobic with how she as a cis het white woman thinks she has more say in how a gay fandom needs to operate. There are years worth of receipts of this. She harassed my friend because they tagged Harry as a princess on their own blog and tried to call them homophobic for doing so. Im mutuals with authors who had to drop out of the bl fest for personal reasons, and then Emma and her friends started harassing them for joining a non bl fest months later. You should see how former blouie authors are treated by her after they dont write exclusively bl fics anymore. The reason BLP is not well liked in fandom is because of her. There is literally a top Harry fic fest run by an actual trans person and much more supported by larries. Louis bottoming isn't the issue. For years blouies have made that their only personality and harassed and sent so many larries death threats (me included) because we blog on our own blogs about Harry wanting to be pregnant or singing about sucking dick or anything that doesn't make him "a top". Blouies have ruined themselves for their entire fandom and that anon is a perfect example of how they are.

Whew anon.

Okay, thank you for the ask and the respectful tone, I will try to maintain a respectful tone right back.

I don't exclusively write bl, I like to think I write fics where Louis gets taken care of one way or another. By bottoming, by subbing, by being cuddled; rn I have 2 smut fics, both of them sub Louis, one of them is them being vers (i.e. penetrating each other), the other *can* be considered bl, I did tag it as such, but the only penetration that happens is two lines of cockwarming. My current unpublished fics and ideas are:

The a/b/o fic fest that is Omega Louis/bl but has references to bh;

Exploring the idea of topping from the bottom: i have a petplay sub Harry fic that's half-written, currently plotting a vaguely Dom transrry fic. First one will be Dom!bl, second one Dom!bh. Might have a third one, but I still haven't decided;

The blff, I mean that's the name of;

The 1d fantasy fic fest that will be both vers and switch but it's darkfic so I don't think that's a great example to have here tbh lmao.

Okay, that said.

I did have run-ins with Emma back in the day; idk if you were there in 2015/16, but I have a whole tag where I actively fought people on Harry's possible gender identity, together with Angela and Jay (godspeed to both of them, they're much happier now believe me). It's been 8 years, I don't know what Emma is doing right now, besides managing the blff, and I don't know how she changed in eight years; eight years ago I was a staunch anarchist, and look at me now. You can come off anon and send me anything you might see fit, that would actually be great, and it would give me something to operate on. And on that point, I don't--think? That telling someone "hey yo instead of sending anon hate go and support the people who write/rec the fics you wanna read" is defending anyone? But it's understandable that if she's currently harassing people, that's a knee-jerk reaction.

Then to address your points about Louis bottoming... Again, I'm not sure, like. Feels a bit like you're barking at the wrong tree? One of my favourite smut authors is devilinmybrain (oh my god that 5+1 gross-hot fic nnnn) and I read, and to some extent write, quite happily everything as long as it's good. Like, both of them canonically have a prostate. It's a shame if they never use it. And Harry being feminine has nothing to do with Harry bottoming (or topping ;) of course), but this is something that needs its own post to be expanded.

With that long-ass rant in that post I wanted to make another point, and that point was directed to some of the reblogs, and that point was: stop wokeifying the gay community, because you--general you--will have a stroke if you ever go to a gay bar one day.

I won't reiterate the stuff I said there, but that should have been the main takeaway, not that I prefer writing bl or bh. I don't consider myself a blouie, by virtue of the fact that not only I read and write whatever, but also because I genuinely don't agree with a lot of the, like, ideological stances. On smut. I could talk about what hardcore bl/sh do and say probably all day, and Raf/Niv know what I'm talking about because they're usually the ones I fill with audios, but this post is already really long.

#i will say here in the tags because this is so besides the main point that it's on saturn #i used to get anon hate because i was considered a bh back in the day #which again i wasn't #since for me it's about who gets taken care of #which has little to do with penetration imho #but anyways #the reason why i switched from harry being taken care of to louis being taken care of #which is something that i did and can admit without any problem #is something i already talked about in tags here a couple times: harry changed mgmt and suddenly his gender defiance is part of the product #part of HARRY STYLES TM to sell the public #and that. honestly. sorry. i cannot connect with him anymore after that #again this one warrants his own post #but eh wanted to say it #anon! #replies #1d #the top/bottom debate

[hanabeeri]

a small introduction! 💕💕💞💓💖

i will not give my real name, if you are a friend that knows me by it please don't use it here. call me hanabeeri or hana or cil instead! 💕💞

i am a woman in my 20s and currently doing my bachelors at a university. german and russian are my mothertongues, but i rarely use them to write posts; in university i'm studying japanese and back in high school i studied spanish (although i can't speak it anymore, i still understand it somewhat)!💞🫶🏻 i don't know what i aspire to do with my degree once i finish it but i'd like to work in the medical field one day, because i have always known that my duty on this planet is to help and care for people. 💞💞💕💗💖

i like to read books in my free time (my most favourite genres are literary, fantasy and i've grown to love romances recently), paint and draw (i have been drawing ever since i was 10 years old 🥺) and i like to experience the world in any way i can while i still can! i also like to watch anime and read manga! my most favourite series will forever be one piece and land of the lustrous, but there are also stand alone movies and short stories that i like, too. i like vtubers.. dont look at me, i am embarrassed. i love the summer (and i miss its warmth always), i prefer tea over coffee, i love foxes and bunnies and deers, i take things slow because i used to rush so fast that i ruined many beautiful things for myself and others.

two years ago i have found my way back to God but it's only been at the end of 2023 when i felt the heartfelt wish to get to know God better and strengthen my relationship with Him (i occasionally post about my belief). if you dont mind it then follow along on my journey!! 💕💞💗 on this note, i feel like many might judge me, but i do not care. i know myself and i wish to know God, too. and since i know how important it is to sometimes find representation: i am bisexual and still religious. if you are, too, just know that you are valid and loved <3 a little hug from me to you. we arent sinners, not more than cis heterosexuals. the first values that God ever shared with us was love.

i mainly post about my life in this blog, its like a diary to me. if you want to see more studyblr / language content please follow my side blog @cillys !! 🩷 i tend to complain a lot because i get overwhelmed easily, but i promise that everything is well at home and i am genuienly happy, even if my entries do not always reflect that 🫶🏻🫶🏻 i struggled with a lot of mental health related issues in the past, and they may resurface sometimes, be kind 🥹

It's nice to meet you all! 🥺💕💕💞

– hanabeeri 💞💕💗💓

#20220710 #i am rewriting this today: 20240104 #it's been two years already how time flies

[luciaescarra]

✦ CAMILA QUEIROZ, CIS WOMAN, SHE/HER ✦ LUCIA ESCARRA the THIRTY TWO year old has been in Hidehill for ALL HER LIFE and was a FRIEND to Jade Parker, the missing person. Whispers on the streets are that the MANAGER AT BANK OF HIDEHILL who lives in HORWICK. She is said to be DRIVEN and GUARDED but I guess we’ll find out for ourselves. { ROSIE, 25, EST, SHE/HER. } 

MISC INFO

Character’s name: Lucia Escarra

Meaning of name: Derived from the Latin Lux, also meaning "light."

Character’s nickname: Lu, Lucy, Lulu (last one reserved for family)

Birth date: September 30th

ABOUT

Oscar and Aracely Escarra adopted Lucia when she was a baby. She grew up knowing she was adopted but never thought much about it. She loves her siblings with all her heart. They are her treasures and she would do anything to protect them. As the oldest sister, she always felt it was her responsibility to look after them due to their parent’s busy schedules

She’s always been good with numbers. She tried to follow her parents footsteps but couldn’t develop a passion for med so she scrapped that path and chose to pursue finance. She’s thriving at her job, some say she’s a workaholic and they’re not wrong

When her parents passed away 4 years ago, her world came crashing down. As tempted as she was to drop everything and collapse into her emotions, she felt she didn’t have that luxury. Her siblings needed her so she put on her big girl pants and was there for them. Unhealthy as it was, she bottled up her emotions and dealt with everything from the funeral proceedings, to the memorial service and to the house ownership. She currently resides at their parents house in Horwick, taking care of the repairs and renovations. Although her siblings have moved out, she’s desperately trying to hold onto the house. She wants to preserve it as a safe space for them to come back whenever they need.

Although her relationship with Jade Parker never became tight knit she had grown accustomed to her. After her watching her grow up alongside her sister, she had grown to like her. She was shocked when she heard she was gone

PERSONALITY

Lucia’s very likable and talkative. At time she lets her intrusive thoughts win. She views herself as a realist and tries to put her head before her heart but doesn’t always succeed. 

She’s nice and friendly to everybody unless given a reason not to be. She can be quite the grudge holder so it’s best not to land yourself on her bad side. She can forgive but doesn’t easily forget. 

CONNECTIONS

—— PLATONIC. ❜

best friends.

ride or die.

childhood friends.

wing(wo)men.

seem like a married couple.

former lovers to friends.

—— ROMANTIC. ❜

flirtationship.

one night stand.

one sided romance / unrequited crush.

friends with benefits.

childhood crush or first love.

blind date or tinder match.

exes on good / bad terms.

previously friendzoned.

song inspo:

we dont talk anymore / fuck up the friendship / boy next door

—— NEGATIVE. ❜

enemies.

former (best) friends.

fell for the same person & fought over them.

life long enemies, aka two people who have been enemies ever since they remember but have forgotten the reason for their dislike.

frenemies.

negative influence.

mutual jealousy.

#hidehillintro #𓂃 ⌗ : about.

[wondermentishere]

fuck. life has been hitting me hard with realizations. im just considering alot of shit i never considered before. my dreams lately i have been about my mom, a person i really need to get over, and transitioning.

im pretty set on wanting to start t and get top surgery but ive also recognized that theres more to transitioning than just my appearance changing. as i change, so will the world around me and how it interacts with me. i know men have all this fucking privilege, but the more i reflect, the more i conclude being treated like a man fucking sucks. i just feel like it makes life alot more harsh and lonely despite material gain being easier. i already know there are aspects of being perceived as a woman that i will miss. first off, cis privilege is so insane. i like how soft strangers are with me even though im pretty sure its rooted in misogyny. i think ive really gotten okay with people thinking so little of me. when the bar is low so is the pressure and being an overachiever is no one’s expectation but mines. i love how welcoming and trusting girls are to me even if it makes me uncomfortable. i also really love connecting with lesbians and instantly being recognized as community when they see me. now, these are all things i can certainly live without, but will still be a drastic shift to get use to.

i think the biggest concern of mine is being left without community. at work im naturally so quiet and reserved (and anxious) around cis men and even straight women. its funny, because today i met this girl i really clicked with easily and then i found out she was a lesbian lol. like my entire personality just blossomed before me in her presence and im afraid that i wont have access to that anymore when i go on t. i identify heavily with being a man although i would still say im nonbinary but… what if i start passing? no lesbian is going to want me in their space, you know? also, im scared ill never be able to have a real brotherhood with other guys cause i literally was raised as a girl. like am i too different forreal to be considered a guy in men’s spaces? i question all this plus weighing the possible health concerns and decide its probably not worth it. i think about who ill be to my family when im older and im not sure im completely okay with being considered a dad or a grandpa. im so fucking nonbinary i wanna look like a man and still be someone’s mom or grandma without feeling like im fucking up or confusing my children. so much to consider. i really need a new therapist but ive been struggling so hard with money lately itll probably have to wait until december.

when i daydream i imagine myself taking my first t shot on christmas as the biggest, most exciting gift to myself, especially because i know ill be alone. i dont know, we’ll see. two requirements i have for myself is to 1. have my voice working again and 2. have a therapist who specializes in trans care.

#trans journey #diary

[thecrybabydiaries]

Bi and/or Pan and/or Queer

I’m a cis-woman that happens to be bi. And pan. Or queer?

I don’t fully know who I’m attracted to, because it doesn’t fall into a neat little box.

And the “bi” label doesn’t fit me anymore with non-binary lovelies and gender-queer beauties.

For me personally, I don’t really care for the “bi” label as it feels like it’s leaving out incredible people that I can feel attraction towards.

I can be attracted to damn near anyone. Doesn’t mean I’m attracted to you, Bob. Or you, Susan.

I’m into kinky fuckers. If you’re vanilla, awesome. But if you’re kinky, plus ten thousand points.

So fuck all of that. I’m queer.

“BuT lUnA yOu DoNt LoOk QuEeR!”

Have you tried being queer in the southern states?! 😤 It’s for safety, mostly.

[uncloseted]

what you said are just words without actual meaning. if ellen were male people wouldn't be so accepting of her suit wearing chapstick lesbian identity and i dont even think she would identify like that. she would just be...a straight man. and vice versa for Jeffree. that's why no one believed Trisha paytas when she "came out" as a trans man. i do agree with you that gender has no meaning anymore (well, actually i believe that it has a meaning but no value. conforming or relating to a feminine

role won't make you a woman and not conforming won't make you not a woman. i don't think GENDER as in clothes accesories haircuts games jobs activities and personality traits are real or important. but we need to divide ourselves at least in two to explain things like reproduction and puberty. i used to believe in that "sex is a spectrum" thing. i argued with doctors on askdocs about why they need to know a persons "agab" to give them medical advice. why do cis people get to just say f or m but

trans people have to say afab or amab. it's like telling them "you're actually a girl but you can say you were assigned female so it doesn't hurt your feelings". then a woman was complaining that being a woman is terrible, because of pregnancy/the stigma of abortion, periods, sexism, feeling scared when you're alone in the street and there's a "man". i told her that none of the things she mentioned are related to being a woman and so many people started telling me that they are because she is a woman and they affect her as a woman. but that doesn't mean anything. if you're a woman and you have to do your taxes i guess it affects you as a woman but it doesn't have to do with being a woman because it doesn't affect just women. and what, if i start identifying as a man will women suddenly start being scared of me in the street? does "yesallmen" apply to me, someone who looks like a 5ft 20 year old girl? no, they won't and it doesn't. the thing is. i understand if a 13 y/o identifies as a he/xe/it agender lesbian. but you're 30 you should now better than this

Okay, so if I'm honest, I'm a little bit confused what you're arguing here, but I'll try my best to respond.

This is a bit of a long post, so here's a TL;DR:

Biological sex and gender are two different things, although they are often linked

Biological sex is a spectrum; intersex people exist

Biological sex is important for medical professionals to know, since it impacts a person's medical care

Genders are the biological, psychological, and social traits that we associate with "biological sex characteristics"

For some people, those match, and for others, they don't

In order to have a given gender, I think you have to identify as that gender, have some sex characteristics that match the gender or socially inhabit that gender, or have the desire to do one or both of those things.

Some cis people don't look the way we "expect" them to look, but they're still cis people

The way other people react to us is part of how our gender is perceived, but it's not enough to exclude a person from a gender category or revoke their gender from them

Nonbinary AFAB people may want their traditionally feminine interests and presentation to be perceived as neutral instead of as feminine

Understanding our relationship to gender can help us to navigate why people find certain situations uncomfortable and help them figure out how to feel more comfortable

Who cares how other people identify? What are we really trying to prevent by policing other people's gender identities?

I'm not 30

Defining Terms

First things first, I want to define some terms. "Biological sex" and "gender" are two related concepts, but they're not the same thing. Like you said, we do need a way to refer to a person's biological makeup for medical purposes, because that biological makeup does impact what kind of treatment and care a person needs. But a person's biological sex may or may not align with their gender identity, and so I want to be clear about what each of those terms means.

Biological Sex

I use "biological sex" to refer to the parts a person was born with- which sex characteristics they have, their chromosomal makeup, their hormones, etc. Female biological sex characteristics can include XX chromosomes, ovaries, estrogen and gestagen, a vagina, uterus, and fallopain tubes, breasts, and a menstrual cycle.

Biological Sex is a Spectrum

Contrary to what a lot of people believe, biological sex is actually a spectrum, like you said. Visibly intersex babies make up an estimated 1 in every 1500-2000 births, and the total number of people whose bodies differ from "standard" male or female biological sex is 1 in every 100 or so. And that doesn't include people who develop a condition that changes some part of their biological sex makeup, such as women who don't have a menstrual cycle, who have had their ovaries or uterus removed, who don't have breasts, etc. Some "biological women" are missing one or more "female biological sex characteristics", but we still think of them as cisgender women because they have enough of those characteristics. Some intersex people are right in the middle, where they have an equal number of "male" and "female" "biological sex characteristics", or on either side of the middle, with slightly more "female" or "male" "biological sex characteristics". Then on the other side of the spectrum, you have cisgender men who are missing a few "biological sex characteristics", and at the very end, cisgender men who have all the expected "biological sex characteristics".

AMAB and AFAB in Medical Settings

Trans people let their doctors know that they were "assigned male at birth" or "assigned female at birth" because it helps their doctors to understand what their anatomy is and what their care needs might be. But trans people say "assigned" because those "biological sex characteristics" don't match up with their gender identity. Their assigned sex at birth is not an accurate reflection of their experience as a person. It's important for medical professionals to know that as well, because that mismatch also guides their medical care. This mismatch is also one reason that medicine has begun to take a more specific approach when it discusses sex-related issues- "pregnant people" and "people who menstruate" instead of "women" - because not all women (cis or trans) can be pregnant or menstruate, and some (trans) men can.

Gender

What we mean when we say "gender" is more complicated. Like I said in my previous post, I think it has lost its value and meaning. But if we had to define it, I think we could say that when we use the word "gender", what we mean are the biological, psychological, and social traits that we associate with those "biological sex characteristics" we were just talking about.

People who consider themselves to be cisgender feel that the biological, psychological, and social traits expected of them match their biological sex and the way they see themselves. People who consider themselves to be transgender feel that some part of those biological, psychological, or social traits that are expected of them do not match how they view themselves, and they may feel that a different set of biological, psychological, or social traits fit them better.

If you want to dig further into this, I wrote a long post on the metaphysics of gender that you can read here. It goes over different ideas of what gender is, looks at criticisms of each idea, and then provides a framework for how we might think about what gender is.

Ultimately, I propose that gender is something like this: In order to have a certain gender, a person must:

1. Identify as that gender and: 2. have a cluster of sex characteristics matching the biological sex associated with that gender, either naturally or artificially, or gender dysphoria resulting in a desire to acquire those sex characteristics AND/OR 3. socially inhabit that gender, through gender expression or gender performance, or have a desire to socially inhabit that gender

It's also important to recognize that there are many gender identities that we already accept without even thinking about them. "Tomboy", "girly girl", "femme", "butch", "metrosexual" are all words that we use to describe people's gender identities. But because those people consider themselves cisgender, it's not controversial in the same way that trans or nonbinary identities are.

Perception of Gender

Going back to your original point (I think), let's talk about the way gender relates to culture now. Like I said above, in order to have a given gender, I think you have to identify as that gender, have the sex characteristics that match the gender or socially inhabit that gender, or have the desire to do one or both of those things.

And this is where it gets kind of tricky, right? Because you're correct; a 5 foot tall, pre-transition transman doesn't look the way we expect a man to look. But on the other hand, there are also 5 foot tall biological men out there who look kind of feminine. Are they not "real" men because they don't look the way we expect men to look? A woman probably won't be scared of a 5 foot tall biological man either, but that doesn't mean their manliness is somehow revoked. And then going by the criteria above, you wouldn't be a man if you just started identifying as a man- you would be one once you both identified as a man and wanted to transition, either socially, physically, or both.

You're correct that the way other people react to us is part of how our gender is perceived, but it's not enough to exclude a person from a gender category or revoke their gender from them. Like you said, "conforming or relating to a feminine role won't make a person a woman, and not conforming to those roles won't make you not a woman." So what does make a person a woman, if it's not our societal role or presentation? There must be a part of gender that's internal to us, right? Our gender identity, perhaps?

Nonbinary, Genderfluid, and Agender Identities

So where does that leave people who have nonbinary relationships to their gender identity? It depends on the person. Some nonbinary people identify with multiple genders, or different genders at different points in their lives, or don't identify with their assigned gender at birth but don't really identify with a different gender, either. It's that last one I want to talk about, since it was what your ask is responding to.

If we accept the idea that nothing physical is inherently gendered (clothing, haircuts, jobs, activities, personality traits, etc.), as you said, then I think perhaps the difference between a genderfluid or agender AFAB person and a cisgender woman is how our actions are perceived by other people. AFAB people are okay with their traditionally feminine interests and presentation being perceived as feminine or womanly. They're okay with being seen as, for example, "a woman in a dress" or "a woman doing makeup".

I think perhaps nonbinary AFAB people want their traditionally feminine interests and presentation to be perceived as neutral, and are uncomfortable being perceived through the lens of "woman". For example, they might prefer to be seen as, "a person in a dress" or "a person doing makeup". The activity is removed from its womanly connotations, even though it's a traditionally feminine activity being done by a seemingly feminine person.

It's maybe kind of like if you went to a costume party dressed as Glinda the Good Witch from The Wizard of Oz (stay with me, I promise I'm going somewhere with this), but everyone kept coming up to you saying, "I like your Miss Piggy costume!" You might be like, "oh, that makes sense that people think I'm dressed as Miss Piggy, since the two costumes look similar. I don't mind they think that's who I'm dressed as, and it's just a costume, so I won't say anything. But I kind of wish they would see that it's a Glinda costume, because that's what it was supposed to be." It's not a big deal, but it's a little annoying that it's being interpreted differently than how you meant it. That's how the lens of womanhood feels to me- it's not a big deal and I'm not going to say anything because I don't care that much, but it's a little bit annoying to always be interpreted through that lens, since it's not how I meant it. Does that make sense or resonate with other people who consider themselves AFAB but generfluid or nonbinary?

Practically speaking, this doesn't impact my life a whole lot. But understanding my relationship to gender has helped my own emotional process and has helped me to understand myself better. It's helped me to understand why I react negatively to certain situations and what I can change to make myself feel more comfortable. For me, that discomfort is pretty limited in scope, so I don't feel like it's important to come out, present differently, or change my pronouns. But for other people, that discomfort is much larger, and so it's important for them to change the way people interact with them and the way that they're perceived. Both journeys are totally okay, and there's no "wrong" way to do gender. At the end of the day, it's just about figuring out what makes you comfortable, whatever that is. I think it's important for cis people to think about their gender identities and gender presentation, too.

Final Thoughts

To finish this all up, not that it matters, but I'm not 30 😂 And even if I was, there's no age at which a person should stop learning and growing and listening to new opinions. I did four years of a philosophy degree. If there's one thing I know, it's that there's so much more to think about and consider. I try to treat each new idea I come across with care and consideration and respect. Besides, older people are wrong all the time. That reluctance to consider new ideas because "that's how it's always been done" or "I know more than you because I'm older" is actively dangerous. The current discussion around trans people is one situation in which I think this type of thinking is harming people. I don't get what people think will happen if we just... let people express their gender however they want? What is this horrible outcome that people are trying to prevent? To me, it seems like this whole conversation is mostly coming from a place of, "things are changing and it makes me uncomfortable!" or "I don't like that there are new standards of politeness that I'm being held to!"

My Questions for You

I'm curious to continue this conversation, so I have a few questions for you, anon. I mean them earnestly, so I hope you'll think about them even if you don't respond to this post.

What are you afraid of if everyone starts identifying as he/xe/it agender lesbians? Is it just that it's "cringe"?

You mentioned that you believe gender has a meaning but no value. What does gender mean to you?

What do you think make a person a woman, if it's not our societal role or presentation?

What do you feel like your relationship to your own gender is? What does your personal gender identity mean to you?

[askanonbinary]

So i am currently really struggling with my identify as of right now, like really really struggling. I am AFAB and came out as transmale around 2016-2017 (i was about 13) I used he/him, considered binding, wanted surgery, wanted my hair short, so basically the whole package. But then around 2018-2019, i kinda gave that all up, because i didnt really think it fit me anymore. I went by she/her again, and basically went back to square one, even growing my hair out really long. But then not too long after that i went by she/they, then later went by all pronouns even though i still identified as a cis female. But now, 2021 (im 17), i dont know what i am. Ive done so much research and i just dont know what gender identity i can label myself as (i know i dont NEED a label but it would really help me if i did). So basically my problem right now is that im AFAB, but in my head, i mentally see myself as a male that has short hair, a flat chest, a feminine curvy body, feminine features and dresses feminine too, but is biologically male (and as an artist, i even draw myself as all that) But physically in the real world, i am okay and comfortable with my completely female body; my sex, chest, long hair.... everything. I dont think i would even want to change my body to look masc at all, yet i still "feel" male and SOMEWHAT feel weird when im refered to as a girl. I just dont personally feel as if transmale, Bigender, genderfluid, demigirl/demiboy/demigender, agender and a lot of other identifies fit me. Im not even sure if identifying as just nonbinary fits me either because i feel like a binary gender and dont want to identify as nonbinary if thats not want nonbinary is :( its just all so confusing.

So you've tried a lot of the more... defined... gender words.... So let's look for less defined words. They might actually feel better because they're more flexible and have more room.

genderfuck

wtfgender

quoigender/genderquoi (and the english whatgender/genderwhat)

genderquestion

who cares-gender

genderqueer

woman/girl-queer

woman/girl-ish

andrgonye

Also note that non-binary is anything that isn't COMPLETELY binary which means you can feel a binary gender in a non-binary way. Non-binary girl is a perfectly acceptable label too.

- Mod Zoe Leo

#hope this helps #mod zoe leo #labels #questioning

[transsexualhamlet]

sherlock holmes reactions part 4 (?) ive lost count already but unsurprisingly ive grown even more attached to him

using this as the cover image because i made him a playlist. cause im awful

no legit this is gonna need a read more because it's SO LONG SHIHEWIESHEFSHIEWHF

Had three mental breakdowns this week and realized i do in fact kin sherlock motherfucking holmes. this does not bode well for anything in my life mentally I've diagnosed him with so many things

Oh boy lol you want the list I think hes autistic (undisputed honestly) plus also adhd but on top of that there's the manic depression and uhhh the bpd lmao I dont even think that's it those are just. the obvious ones

But yeah man's a fucking mess and a shit person but in the same way as me so 👍

Some highlights I thought were very funny:

watson: we are in fact going to be waltzing into a place where people are Shooting People you do not have your gun. this is a problem

sherlock: don't worry watson I have my trusty stick!

watson: visible pain

This clearly happens like every day or so with them

but yeah there were some really honestly sweet scenes with them at the apartment and why am i getting soft over the crusty man being gay

have you considered tho. have you considered them

have you considered sherlock, who usually only plays absolute garbage on his violin serenading watson to sleep when he was tired and in pain and watson being so fucking in love with the man and waxing poetic about falling asleep to his music and waking up to see him fallen asleep on the couch next to him and oh my god them

They're just really sweet together for such a completely dysfunctional couple so much of the time lol I just. Sherlock being like.

Sherlock half of the time: watson you're fucking stupid. no i won't take care of my personal needs stfu. watson get a goddamn life. watson shut up. watson no one cares about your goddamn opinion. no i need to disturb you in the middle of the night it's for science. hey watson mind if i manipulate mansplain malewife

Sherlock the other half of the time: HELLO SIR YOU ARE MY FAVORITE MAN TO EVER MAN HELLO MAY I SPEND THE REST OF MY DAYS WITH YOU HELLO I WILL DO ANYTHING FOR YOU WE ARE PERFECT MATCHES I LOVE YOU AND I NEED YOU YOURE SO MUCH BETTER THAN ME PLEASE MARRY ME

They're... they certainly are.

ALSO OH MY GOD.

THIS ONE TIME WHEN SHERLOCK WAS JUST PACING AROUND THE ROOM AT 3 AM GOING "IT DOESNT MAKE SENSE >:(((" AND HUDSON LIKE BARGED IN TO COMPLAIN AND THEN WATSON WAS LIKE DUDE YOU GOTTA STOP DOING THIS AND PROCEEDS TO SAY THE LINE "YOU ARE KNOCKING YOURSELF UP, OLD MAN"

BAHGHSFHGRHEWHEWHIFEW

BRB SOBBING

CALLING HIM AN OLD MAN???? KNOCKING HIMSELF UP?? I DONT KNOW WHATS FUNNIER

The main highlight of this part was I have now gotten to see him have a great time watching his homo homie get married

Its so fucking funny.......

I was prepared for a funny reaction by yuumori sherlock's face when he said it lol but. Damn i was really not prepared tbh

watson: I'm engaged!

sherlock: *pained groaning*

watson: do you... not like her?

sherlock: no she's fine she's great you'll be wonderful together bUT I HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE ARE HETEROSEXUAL WATSON DO I HAVE TO MARRY MYSELF THEN WATSON? ARE YOU GOING TO MAKE ME MARRY MYSELF.

watson: yeah... yeah... fair, I feel really bad because you did this whole case and I got a girlfriend out of it and all you got was me leaving you alone fuck man im sorry what are you gonna do without me

sherlock, highly sarcastic: dont worry watson I've always got my handy cocaine! *pulls it out and gets high in front of watson just as he's about to leave*

watson: *in fucking agony*

sherlock: good for you!

I DONT EVEN- THIS SCENE KILLED ME MULTIPLE TIMES OVER WHAT

ITS SO GODDAMN NONCHELANT ABOUT IT SHERLOCK IS JUST LIKE YEAH I WILL IN FACT NOT BE MENTALLY HEALTHY IF YOU ARE NOT WITH ME 24/7 BUT WHATEVER YOU DO YOU /S

I'd like to apologize to watson on sherlock's behalf lmao. man is being a bit too codependent on main

The last thing about sign of four I do need to address is yeah, there's the Horrific Amounts Of Racism in that one and the whiplash hearing it is just ridiculous because they seem to be so knowledgeable in all other areas and fairly... politically correct, taking sherlock's original misogyny as a purposeful character flaw, but then they just mention someone indigenous once and suddenly its all parrotting racist propaganda and just... really awful shit. There's no way I'm gonna speak for the group that just got absolutely hate crimed here but anyone can tell the author just has no clue what he's fucking talking about and it's physically painful.

And I don't know, it's just so bad it seems out of character? Doyle's making these motherfuckers say shit that honestly, Sherlock would know better about. And especially Watson. Come on, you cannot tell me watson is mentally capable of being prejudiced against someone. Please do not make him that way.

I'm not sure how to handle it specifically, or what's the proper way I should handle something like that in a media I otherwise like. Is it ok to say Doyle was clearly a piece of shit on the matter and separate those characters from his bias or is that insensitive?

I don't know, I was Not a fan of it and I'm glad to see they've at least finally shut up about the guy

But anyway yeah, uhhhh onto the short stories because I'm trying to read those before I get to the final problem

Scandal in Bohemia was a fucking ride, first of all, before we even get to Sherlock's girlboss arc we have to discuss how gay the whole situation was and how Doyle's attempt at making them less gay failed spectacularly

Like he's all "ah yes I need to marry off watson and uhhh make sherlock ummmm interact with a woman so they dont look gay" but he does it SO BADLY that it makes them look EVEN GAYER

cause i mean, even the conversation they had about watson getting married back in sign of four was gay af, but how Doyle handled things afterward was in no way straighter.

Cause you know, the man kind of wrote himself into a corner with the fact of Watson narrating these stories. So Watson has to be around to witness them, and to witness Sherlock's own thought process rather privately, so he has to be around sherlock at night, a lot. But trying to come up with a reason for that happening just... it didn't occur to Doyle. He just went. Ah yes this makes sense. And it's Watson just like Sleeping Over At Sherlock's like every other goddamn day and every time his wife leaves town and having them basically still live that cute domestic home life but they have absolutely no excuses for doing it anymore. It's quite funny

Like it was gay already the way they interacted when they officially lived together but it was like, a necessity for them. Now it's not, Watson just comes over because he goddamn wants to, and it's hilarious to me.

LIKE IDK I THINK THEY KIND OF BROKE UP FOR A YEAR OR SO BC OF WATSON GETTING MARRIED AND THEY LIKE DONT HAVE CONTACT WITH ONE ANOTHER BUT ONE DAY WATSON JUST INEXPLICABLY HAS THE URGE TO COME VISIT SHERLOCK ON NO NOTICE AND THEN SUDDENLY THEY ARE TOGETHER NEAR 24/7 AGAIN LIKE BARELY ANYTHING CHANGED AHIEHOEWH

SIT DOWN AND TRY TO TELL ME THOSE ARE NOT HOMOSEXUALS

Watson walks in on no fucking notice after a full year and Sherlock is just. In the middle of some experiment obviously but hes like

Sherlock, carrying around unidenfiable chemical mixtures: W A T S O N you look good you look good! i see you've gained seven pounds!!

watson: uh. thanks??? Hey lol *awkwardly waves* Uh um Wanted to Uhm sEe you

Sherlock: ABOUT gODDAMN TIME AND YES WONDERFUL LOOK LOOK SIT DOWN I HAVE THINGS TO INFODUMP ABOUT

watson: :) ok :) *turns to camera* and we were back to the old days

sherlock: makes a deduction

watson: wowwwwwwwwwwww !! so true bestie !!

sherlock: !!!!!!!!! :))) !!!!! :))) uh fuck im supposed to be smooth Its Elementary Lol

watson: *turns to camera* when i stroke his ego like this and compliment him he blushes like a girl like i just complimented his dress so i do it more because he likes it. this is a homie trait

watson: well i should probably get going! my wife will notice that i am gone my dear buddy bro homie!

sherlock: NO DONT LEAVE IM LOST WITHOUT YOU (pretty much a direct quote lol) your. wife doesn't. get back home until monday. I know this because I am smart and definitely have not been stalking you.

watson: alright :)))))

AND THEN HE FUCKING SLEEPS OVER LMAO FUCKING HOMOS

So yeah they're right back where they were before pretty much and there's a case bc of course there is

And honestly I think this short story specifically was so insane mostly just because of how absolutely fast it all went. Yuumori kind of made me believe the original Irene Adler was more of an important character than she really is? And I think that's. Honestly so funny. Motherfucker shows up for ten pages, girlbosses her way around town, and changes sherlock's entire opinion of the female gender while still keeping him gay?

LIKE NO LOL SHES NOT IN ANY WAY A LOVE INTEREST AND WATSON GOES OUT OF HIS WAY TO SPECIFY THE FACT THAT IN NO WORLD WOULD THEY HAVE BEEN ROMANTICALLY INVOLVED BECAUSE. SHERLOCK. DIDN'T DATE WOMEN.

HE WAS JUST??? SO IMPRESSED AND SHELL SHOCKED BY HER EXISTENCE HE DECIDED IT WAS TIME FOR GIRLBOSS APPRECIATION DAY TODAY AND ALL DAYS HENCEFORTH???

AND THEY HAVE LIKE O N E INTERACTION?? God, the power this woman(?) has. Watson looks at her once like. damb shawty 😳 and she's like "no<3" and he's like FUCK

Like yeah it's pretty much just the king walking up like "help girl the whore is blackmailing me" and sherlock being like "ok lol this will be easy" and then it proceeded to not in fact be easy or even possible

sherlock like... posed as a dead body and tried to get her to give up the location of the photo but she out-acted him and skipped the town the next day after doing the 'good night mr. sherlock holmes' thing with sherlock completely tricked

and she just. sends a letter like "dear sherlock holmes. you're a fucking idiot and i think it's funny that you lost. nice job tho mad respect" and sherlock just SHORT CIRCUITS

the king comes back a bit later like "hey Dude where's my Photo" and sherlock's like oh yeah uhhhhhhhhhhh about that and the king is like HOW COULD IT POSSIBLY HAVE BEEN THAT GODDAMN HARD i would have dated someone more noble if she wasn't so pretty i swear im on a whole different level from her

and then. GIRLBOSSIFIED SHERLOCK HOLMES RESPONDS "from what I have seen of the lady, she seems indeed to be on a very different level from your majesty" ABSEHHESHEFHHFES ROASTED

and the dude just LEAVES

After that I read a few more of the short stories and well the highlights I got from that pretty much were these conversations

Watson: sherlock. honey. have you. eaten anything today

Sherlock: IT DIDNT OCCUR TO ME DEAR WATSON

Watson: ITS FIVE PM

and:

Sherlock: *having one of his Moment Moments at three in the goddamn mornig* GRRRR CRIME ISNT WHAT IT USED TO BE

Watson: MY DEAR SHERCOCK WHAT IS CRIME S U P P O S E D TO BE LIKE ACCORDING TO YOU

Sherlock: no one's original anymore fucking copycats

Watson: so you want the criminals to make things harder for you specifically.

Sherlock, exasperated: yes!

I love them your honor.

#rowan's hyperfixation essays #rowan screams into the void #rowan views moriarty #sherlock holmes

[lesbiradshaw]

Genuinely interested in what you think about Bucky being perceived as female-coded in some parts of the fandom. I read that thread years ago and agreed with because it sounded logical, but now I'm not so sure. Recently found out about the existence of this Tony Stark meta essay called "Tony Stark as the most female-coded superhero" and they use the same arguments: loss of agency, playing the damsel in distress role more often than their counterpart, etc. I can't take "fm-coded" seriously anymore

oh boy ...

idk how long this will end up but to preface whatever we do end up with: 1) im a nonbinary lesbian so my perception on what it means to be a woman and femininity in general is not going to be what a lot of other peoples is and 2) im a few months out from getting a degree in gender studies. take that for what you will. no i will not be arguing about this in my inbox.

to be frank, in my opinion, bucky being female coded is bullshit. not only is it bullshit, i have seen it used as a weapon by so many white women and terfs that even if it were true, i wouldnt care! whoever came up with the term “woobify” (which i have most often seen used in reference to how tony stark is treated) needs to tell bucky stans that they aren’t exempt. a lot of them see bucky being a victim as something that needs a continuation into every other part of his life, hence why he’s so often put into these weird dynamics with his ships and given traits he’s never displayed on screen.

i keep thinking of disclaimers to make in anticipation of people coming to my inbox crying so here’s another: if you are a woman or someone who feels a close connection to certain parts of womanhood, me saying bucky isnt woman coded in no way takes away from you identifying with him or parts of his story. that is personal. a woman’s personal relation to him is not reliant on “woman coding” as i’ve seen a lot of white women and terfs suggest, not does it strengthen the existence of such coding. coding is created within the original media, not within the fandom.

i also just realized ive been using the term woman coded rather than female coded, but i think subconsciously there is a reason for that that ties into one of my main points pretty well: the mcu stan’s definition of “female” coding relies on stereotypes, not about female roles, but about what it means in their opinion to be a woman. the issue with this is they take traits they think only exist in (cishet) women and use them to deem these (cishet) male characters as woman coded when in fact these traits are not exclusive to women and enforce weird standards upon people who are women that might not be cis or het or share these traits!

tony stark being short and bucky having long hair is not what would make them woman coded. bucky being rescued by a man while woozy is not what would make him woman coded. bucky being submissive to pierce when LITERALLY BEING BRAINWASHED is not what would make him woman coded. and perhaps a harsh wake up call: bucky’s story hinging around loss of agency issues and trauma in no way shape or form is what would make him woman coded. does it perhaps make him easier for many women to relate to? yes. but is this something exclusive to women? no. a vast majority of trauma victims are going to relate to him, and chalking up trauma to being something female makes me feel really funny.

i know exactly what thread youre talking about lmfao and its right up there on my shit list next to the childlike bucky post. theyre actually very similar now that i think about it ... but anyways. now that ive listed my woes about what doesnt make a character woman coded, what actually would! AND HERE IS WHERE WE GET INTO AN ACTUAL CASE OF WOMAN CODING! mr prequel series anakin skywalker aka my shakespearean downfall dilf. why is he seen as a valid example of woman coding? i will tell you.

the thing about woman coding is that its meant to subvert heteronormative tropes while remaining self aware of that to exploit and emphasize the change. DO YOU HEAR ME? SELF AWARE! anakin is given many of these stupid stereotypical traits i mentioned before, but they arent reliant on physical appearance at all. they are reliant on roles. padme is the levelheaded senate leader, the one with power and stability, while anakin is hotheaded and frankly a bit whimsical while he struggles for his own type of power and control. another classic example of woman coding (which i actually wrote a paper on last semester in my men and masculinities class) is heathcliff from wuthering heights, whose counterpart to his coding is cathy. both men have that whimsicality in common that contrasts heavily with how we would expect them to act. bucky does not act like them at all.

the reason that this is different from bucky and steve’s ‘damsel in distress’ argument is the self awareness i mentioned before. not to mention the weird heteronormative standards being applied as requirements for their gay relationship to be seen as valid because it “fits the narrative” but .. anyways.

anakin and heathcliff both have their subverted traits played up in a way that shows off how ridiculous the women usually written in their roles are forced to act. its tongue in cheek, because woman coding is not only about individual traits, but about how the character interacts with the story because of this as a whole. bucky is often seen as woman coded because he is put into these situations where he is “rescued” by someone that half his stans see as his love interest (steve my baby im sorry) when hes really only rescued maybe twice? at azzano and from the water when the helicopter crashed. only one of those is a real damsel in distress situation. all of the others are cases where hes fighting his own way out ????? bucky doesnt just sit around waiting for a “real man” to get off his ass as that post suggested but i digress.

anyways. mcu stans lack any self awareness that would be required even if bucky and tony were woman coded. calling them woman coded does not count as self awareness! the real self awareness comes with recognizing that woman coding doesnt actually make these characters women and it doesnt mean they forever belong in these “female” roles. mcu stans take the stereotypes they pick out at face value and use them to say “look! bucky is a bottom!” or to continue taking away his agency by ignoring all of his other actions and traits that dont fit in to this mold theyve made around the idea that he needs a man to save him or boss him around. his story as a whole is the only thing that would make him woman coded and seeing as there is no self awareness of this shown, no attempts to subvert, he displays little to no traditionally feminine traits, and loss of agency on its own is not something that only applies to women ...

in short: in my opinion, bucky is not woman coded. mcu stans just like rolling with stereotypes that rely around cis bodies and straight relationships. the end.

#oh also woman coding does not make a mape character trans lmfaoooooo #thats frankly just insulting #trans men are not men with feminine traits please for the love of god shut up #anyways this is my opinion and you dont have to agree but cis people arent allowed to argue with me

[m143ui]

A MESSAGE TO THE PJO FANDOM

so hello friends on the other side

I understand some of the major concerns regarding characters like piper and the feather and hazels description but when you bring Leo and Reyna into the fucking conversation I have lost all respect.

ANYONE CAN BE ABUSED, ETHNICITY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT

LATINO CHARACTERS

Reyna is not a negative stereotype, she isn't defined by being latina and neither is Leo, he isn't a stereotype simply because he’s latino and was abused. also him being called an elf was because he was short, which had nothing to do with him being latino. also the mamacita comment like y'all hide under the label “progressive” but ignore that mamacita has been a thing in Latin American communities for a fucking while. its not an insult dammit. its something that happens in our communities!!! its like saying muchacho y'all don't see men bitching about that.

also shocker I read the mamacita comment and I can proudly say I didn't go

“RICK YOU RACIST BITCH”

things that actually happen in communities aren't racist

and before any of y'all come at me with the usual you’re white excuse, hello friends im Peruvian and Paraguayan.

I don't think he’s perfect but bitching about characters like Leo which gave many of my Latin American friends hope for similar characters destroys your “listening to minorities” argument

also the lol “hes Mexican taco bad” argument like I live in Mexico we eat tacos like every fucking day. its literally a fact. and Leo isn't just defined as taco man.

believe it or not us latinos respect rick because he gave us role models and characters like us. we don't define a character by one line and instantly call discrimination. like yes a asian character can be snobby it has nothing to do with ethnicity. y'all are making this about ethnicity. an asian character can be anything, just like a white character or a black character or a gay character. people are not simply defined by their labels like ya’ll think. y'all are just a bunch of easily triggered snowflakes that can't live with that. they can be influenced but in the end labels are labels we are all human and should be treated as such.

LGBT REPRESENTATION

another thing Reyna was never officially a lesbian that was YOUR interpretation not riordans. IF HE DIDNT STATE IT , SORRY HONEY IT ISN’T CANON! I don't care about how she was “lesbian coded” if he didn't state it it isn't canon. 

I am so sick, as a lesbian, to see people use ALL QUEER DEATHS as a bury your gay tropes, what happened to seeing us as humans? why can't we be treated like any other character? if we die we die, it isn't always “haha gay evil boom death”. sometimes fully fledged characters have to die friends.

Nico isn't a bad gay character, he’s just a normal character who happens to be gay and has suffered major trauma. HIS TRAUMA WAS CAUSED BY HIS UPBRINGING, Nico isn't a 2000′s character, he’s from the 30′s, so obviously he woudn’t be perfect with his sexuality for gods sake it was the 30′s. the exact same thing happens with hazel, she isn't a modern black woman, she's a 30′s black woman. Nico’s coming out isn't him as a 21st century teen its from the time when the GOVERNMENT KILLED YOU FOR BEING GAY

also saying there are no lesbian characters? like wow look emmie and jo don't exist. Lavinia doesn't exist. poison doesn't exist. thanks fam you really make yourselves look smart here. simply because rick never said the word gay doesn't mean the gay characters don't exist friends. they are just labeled as what gay characters should be labeled as.... human.

LESBOPHOBIA & RACISM

im not educated in muslim or black culture so I won't mention characters like sam and hazel and piper because I respect and I am highly critical of what rick put in his books to describe these specific minorities.

HOWEVER saying rick is a lesbophobe, a homophobe, a racist a sexist cis guy is like do y’all wanna be taken seriously? use arguments don't hide behind words.

rick isn't a perfect writer but y'all really don't know how to criticise, y'all just hide behind big boy words and back it up with no evidence, just opinions.

rick doesn’t have the best minority rep out there but he is damn well trying and I respect that unlike all you fucking idiots.

SHIPS

now onto ships.... yay

frazel: im not gonna censor it like you pussies, believe it or not 13&16 year old relationships exist. they might not always be healthy but they exist. to deny this is to be stupid

solangelo:  another ship that is censored..the main argument I've seen is that it isn't developed and will isn't even a character... he was in last olympian and lost hero not my fault y'all have fish brains. I don't care if you dislike it but don't be like “ANYONE WHO SHIPS THIS IS AN ABUSIVE WHORE” like wow you always preach about accepting all ships and then throw this? also if you hate solangelo because of the “abuse” but ship percico like hi friends Nico is 4 years younger than Percy.. if y'all hate frazel because of the 3 year age difference y'all should hate this too.

CONCLUSIONS AND SHIT

not every character minority or otherwise is gonna be the way you want them to be, believe it or not any character can be anything, black characters can be loud, white characters can be loud. if they're only loud because “haha black” then THATS an issue not the simple existence of a loud black woman who has a loud personality.

y'all be here bitching about drew and I've never heard the asian perspective of this? just a bunch of black and white people telling asians they should be offended. was that just an uno reverse?

also last point stereotypes aren't always a negative thing and y'all need to get that in your heads.

anyway stay mad hoes <3

from a sane Peruvian <3

EDIT

I saw this beauty and had to comment on it

“having LGBT characters experience abuse and violence. nicos forceful outing rubs me the wrong way, especially because hes called a coward for being in the closet. its violent and kind of disturbing to make your gay character come out of the closet by force. maybe write better. additionally, alex's abusive father and subsequent homelessness because of her being trans is badly written.”

oh noooo gay characters can't deal with homophobia anymore ! like I can tell you have never been punched for being gay. is it bad to showcase how trans and gay ppl are 40% of homeless youth? or is even mentioning that discrimination? believe it or not some of us live in countries where people try to kill us. you have an advantage and it shows. about the coward thing... 

was FUCKING CUPID A GOOD CHARACTER? NO? I REST MY CASE. CUPID IS NOT SEEN AS A GOOD PERSON THEREFORE HE IS NOT A GOOD PERSON GET THAT IN YOUR THICK SKULLS.

 YOU HEARD IT HERE FOLKS LGBT FOLKS DONT GET FORCED OUT OF THE CLOSET 

#NEVER HAPPENS IN REALITY. 

JUST BECAUSE YOU WERENT FORCED OUT OF THE CLOSET DOESNT MEAN OTHER PEOPLE HAVE THAT SAME LUXURY. 

maybe stop spewing bullshit <3

(so I get that this scene can remind people of being outed and it can hurt them however this scene was never intended to be a good thing it literally says Nico is scared of facing his emotions)

EDIT NUMBER 2

oh boy rick really pissed off the snowflakes that I share a fandom with

“give Nico to the gays” no? he would be a femboy and they would yeet his trauma like ssrsly?

also hate rick? bitch no one is forcing you to read his tweets.

death of the author is such a toxic thing like the mans is alive boo he aint going nowhere..like What the fuck 

EDIT NUMBER 3

anyway final thoughts on this :

nico insn’t Uwu gay and its an insult to his character

Reyna is not a lesbian canonically (neither is Thalia)

Leo and Reyna are not racist

none of ricks characters are  written as insults to their communities

and if I see one more “but ....phobia/ ...ism I will do very illegal things

peace lol

RICK RIORDAN UPDATE:

congratulations rick antis! you have successfully harassed a  56 year old man into leaving social media! wow so progressive!!!! this totally won't backfire or anything!!!

all jokes aside all of you who harassed rick to the point of someone else taking over his social media should feel ashamed

#anti rick riordan #uncle rick #rick riordan #percico #solangelo #frazel #rick riordan criticism #rick riordan critical #percy jackon and the olympians #heroes of olympus #house of hades #caleo #anti caleo #riordan critical #riordanverse #antis please interact #I wanna see if anyone can counter my arguments #quarantine has been boring #things I've learned about the anti riordans is that they are spineless little wokeskolds #pipabeth #percy jackson #discourse

[nothorses]

I don't know if anyone else has experienced this, and I worry about saying this off anon but I want to actually, be a face as I do. When I came out I knew I wasn't cis, and I was lucky enough to have the support of two wonderful trans partners, but I had an extremely hard time finding my place in the trans community. I am pro MOGAI and new, hyperspecific terms because I know how important it can be to want to put a name, a flag, and individual pride to your identity. 1/?

I switched my own terms quite a lot, from demigirl to genderfae to genderflux to where I am now, genderfluid. But I remember there was a moment, because I was so sure I was only female aligned, where I thought for just a moment that I might be a boy, and I was terrified, I didnt want to be a boy, I didnt want to be "that trans." Like every trans person, I struggled with internalized transphobia, not feeling valid or true enough in my identity, 2/15

But that dreadful feeling of being Scared of being a boy is something I think about a lot, and something I think is truly telling. I'll admit I primarily (only) use tumblr because social media honestly isnt my thing, so I can only speak to what I've seen here, but I remember seeing so little about trans men, other than the occasional mention in broad positivity posts, the even rarer info about binding or passing, but I did see how much people hated men. 3/15

It was always implied to be about cis men, I've been spared the more modern issues regarding overt hatred of trans men, but I saw the constant anger and vitriol and genuine hatred for men. And I realize now I wasnt just scared of being "too trans" I was scared of being hated. So I made myself nonthreatening, I called myself a boy, I performed femininity to an even higher, though subversive standard, because I was still so scared of being a man. The enemy. The oppressor. 4/15

It took many more months to dare say I wanted to call myself a man, and even then I was scared, in the comfort and safety of my girlfriend's company. I felt dirty saying it, and I still do. I always only dare to refer to myself as a trans man, instead of just as a man. And I do want to sidetrack for a moment and say my relationship to gender, as a genderfluid person, is admittedly more complex than just when I feel this way, in other ways people are also particularly hateful towards, 5/15

But even with those other facets, and my fear of being open in them, pale in comparison to my relationship with masculinity. Because when I did come out and admit to myself that sometimes, I am not a woman, or nonbinary, I am a man, I became more aware of things. I exited wonderland, so to say. Suddenly I became so much more aware of how much people simply did not care about me or people like me, and especially not our problems or concerns. 6/15

I saw how invisible I was, and worse than that, I saw a very subtle malice. The only mention of trans men were in those broad positivity posts including everyone under the trans umbrella, or in the rare case something was positive exclusively for trans men, it was always reblogged with "dont forget trans women/enby people" tacked on, I remember once I looked in the trans tag and counted how many posts it took to find one exclusively about trans men that didnt mention binding 7/15

I got into the forties. Because on other posts, I would see people make passive aggressive remarks about how "trans men are talked about too much" or "there's all these resources for trans men, what about trans women" and I wanted to know on what earth the people who said that were living on, because the only, and I mean the only thing people tend to talk about in regards to trans men is how to safely bind, and rarely, the effects of HRT. 8/15

This happened a while ago, but I remember seeing a number of posts on my dash about how much representation trans men receive. I believe there was a panel about trans people, where a majority of the panelists were trans men, and trans women were less represented than them. They encouraged people to complain, said we received too much attention, and pointed at mythical trans male rep in media that in reality, I could count on one hand. I remember being so angry and passionate about it 9/15

Now im honestly just tired. I dont feel accepted by the trans community, and even the trans male community is iffy (I fit in amongst mogai people most, but I cant deny trumeds are particularly prevalent, and it wore on me), and it's so tiring to have every post made by trans men for trans men have to be preambled by belittling themselves and downplaying their own suffering. I just want to exist in peace, but I feel like that's too much to ask. 10/15

I've reached a point of exhaustion that I have become entirely apathetic to my own gender, what was once a deeply important aspect of my identity. I feel disconnected from it, and as a consequence from my own body. I don't bother examining it anymore because I can't feel it, as someone who suffers from dissociation, I feel dissociated from it in order to protect myself, something I was once so openly proud about. 11/15

Im scared to try and push for transition, for my own personal reasons, but now on top of those Im terrified of being silenced and belittled and hated for something that should make me happy. I've tried so hard not to feed into the lateral violence and become embittered towards trans women, because that's not fair, but I won't lie and say it hasnt been hard when I have seen more than I ever would've liked be so willing to ignore or outright throw their brothers under the bus 12/15

And of course there are even more who do show their support for their brothers, and for that im thankful, but this invisibility effects how I perceive everything. I feel like I've been pushed back into the closet, I say im trans because I know I'm not cis but I don't even know who I am, what my place is, and I'm scared to explore because I'm scared that who I am will be violently rejected by the people meant to support me. I want to be free to even explore who I am. 13/15

I wish people would listen to my experiences and what I have to say, but in every microaggression every act of ignoring I feel silenced. Trans men are viewed as predatory, just in a different way; trans men are fetishized and have chasers; trans men face higher rates of violence and sexual assault for being trans men; research about transmasc transition is almost nonexistent, and new, better surgeries are not even thought about; transmasc history is erased and silenced. 14/15

I, feel like im rambling at this point, and I'm sorry I've been so longwinded, I just. I want to thank you, for creating a space where I can speak my truth, because before finding your blog I didn't think anyone would care. I feel like I have so much more to say but honestly im scared, and too tired, and have said enough for now. I just want this feeling of loneliness to go away and hopefully I'll find a way to accept myself. Thank you for listening to me, and giving me a platform to speak 15/15

(Edited the numbers for accuracy)

Thank you for trusting me with this, and to other folks: I think this is an important narrative to listen to and share!

#trans #transmasc #transgender #ftm #nonbinary #the 'transmascs are overrepresented' argument is also provably false #there are about 1/3 the amount of trans male characters in film and tv that there are trans female #and thats being generous #its very clearly an issue of hypervisibility v invisibility and both groups struggle in different ways! #harlequincy

[mikemoon]

( choi yeonjun, cis man ) have you seen MICHAEL “MIKE” MOON ? i heard HE is a COMPUTER SCIENCE MAJOR at SAN VERTO COLLEGE and an EMPLOYEE at HALL OF FILM. they’re 22 years old and they’ve been living in san verto for 6 YEARS. they tend to be CARE-FREE & ADVENTUROUS, but rumor has it they can also be GRUMPY & CLUMSY. [ tally, 25, gmt+4, she/her ] @foolsstarters​

tw // mentions of depression, cheating, divorce, underage drinking and smoking

michael moon, born myungjun moon –– choi yeonjun fc

birthday: september 9, 1998 - 22 yrs old ; virgo

cis man, he/him, bisexual

born and raised in philadelphia, pennsylvania

mike grew up being an only child, and always around the company of his mother in their house. his father was always traveling back and forth from south korea to the states for work. his parents have met at work on one of his father’s trips to the states, and they fell in love. his mother being american-born, she couldn’t really leave philadelphia. she loved it there. so they decided to keep it a long distance relationship.

sometime during those fleeting meetings, she had gotten pregnant with michael. and of course, his father spoiled them both, giving them everything they wanted. he never left them to fend for themselves. when the boy was born, his father named him myungjun, and his mother decided to name him michael for his english name. the nicknames jun, mike, and sometimes junnie were often heard whenever his parents or childhood friends called him.

up until mike was five years old in 2004, he’s lived with his mother, while his father was leaving and coming back for a week or two. but that year, he’s finally moved to the states and stayed with them for longer nights. he even finally married michael’s mother. of course, he still disappeared for a few days or weeks on end for work.

but that was also the year michael’s mother found out that her husband was with another woman. michael has never seen his mother break down like that before. sadly, the young boy was peering into the room when the fight happened and witnessed everything. his mother made her partner choose between the two women, and he eventually told her that he was going to divorce his first wife for her, and appeared to have gone through with his promise. because after that incident, he’s been around more often.

by early 2015, when michael had just turned 16, his mother had gotten a teaching job in ashdown academy, which resulted in their move to san verto, california. meaning, new school and new friends for mike. meanwhile, his dad was still traveling a lot for business and coming back whenever he could.

michael has grown up as a cheerful and energetic child. his friends at any school he went to would tell you how much of a great friend he is, how trustworthy and caring he is. it was so easy for him to make friends anywhere. he was the type of friend who would smile at you and listen to you talk on and on about whatever you liked, and the type who would cheer you on with anything you want to achieve. he wanted everyone to feel included and loved.

so it wasn’t that hard for him to get along with new people once he moved to town. he was a very social person. 

he was also the type of teenager who was out there doing things he wasn’t supposed to. he missed his old friends and his old home, but he wanted to have fun with all the new kids he was befriending. that simply resulted in him going to house parties as an underaged teen to ‘have fun’. his mother didn’t approve of him coming home very late at night, clearly smelling like smoke and alcohol. 

internally he was a depressed mess. of course, no one is completely happy as they grow up. his family was a mess, even if it appeared as fine to everyone else. his family life affected him so much while growing up. mike sometimes could disappear for a few days in his room, and it was always during some of his bad spells.

what made it worse was the day he found out the truth.

it was 2017 when michael walked into his father’s office in their house, looking for him to ask him about something. and instead of finding the man, he found a stack of papers poking from underneath his father’s laptop. upon closer look, they appeared to be divorce papers. michael’s heart sunk, thinking his parents were breaking it off.

michael is a curious kid, he couldn’t help but close the door and read the papers. but what he saw wasn’t his mother’s name, it was another woman. his heart raced, as he put things back where they were and immediately left the room. michael had found out one of his father’s many secrets. he never divorced his first wife all those years ago. he lied and somehow stayed with both women without suspicion... well, until now. clearly the other woman was breaking it off for a reason. 

michael couldn’t help his curiosity. he came back to the room later that night and snapped as many pictures as he could of evidence he could find. he even found his father’s phone (which was easy to figure out the password of) and found a plethora of pictures of the man with a different family, different kids and a different partner. he airdropped the pictures to himself to avoid leaving any traces behind and quickly left again.

a quick search on facebook, and he managed to find the first wife. it was easy with the name and pictures he had. if anything, michael prided himself on being a good internet detective... or stalker. he spent everyday trying to find the rest of the family on the internet. he found the woman’s young daughter on instagram and twitter, along with her older son’s accounts as well. it felt weird. it was a constant “now what?” for michael. he’s found them. what was he going to do now? he couldn’t just message them and tell them everything. and he couldn’t break his mother’s heart by letting her know.

except he had to let her know. he could never live with the fact that he knew his father was betraying her this entire time. and so michael told her everything, and after comforting her all night when she broke down yet again, she immediately ended things and asked for a divorce. now it was just michael and his mother, all alone. and for once, having to get by on their own.

thankfully they were safe, with his mother’s amazing money management skills, and the job she got at the academy, they managed to live their regular lives despite the heavy feeling of a broken family looming around them. the two just wanted to be happy again.

michael spent the next few years trying to lead a normal life. his mental health had gotten worse after everything he’s found out. he went to college, and he continued trying to do well in school. he really wasn’t the best when it came to grades, but he was trying his best.

and truthfully, he couldn’t help but make a few spare accounts on some social medias to follow his father’s other family.

but he eventually decided to just let it go, assuming they definitely knew about his mother and himself, which would explain the first divorce. so he decided to put it in the past and move on.

his mother has moved on as well. she found herself someone who actually cares about her so much (mike’s stupid ass has done a secret background check to make sure this dude wasn’t another cheater lmaoo) and now mike isn’t an only child anymore. it’s been 2 years since his little sister yuna was born, and he loves her so much. he still isn’t used to the idea of a new fatherly figure in his life, but he’s.... getting there. 

little dumb hcs

mike majors in computer science at san verto college, with a concentration in game development and design

hes a lil gamer boy,,, u KNOW he’s that annoying dude with a gamer chair that has a sound system in it khjkh

he posted a few videos on youtube but rly just ditched the channel after like a month. he still posts whenever he feels like it tho and it’s usually just.... messy gaming videos or opinions no one asked for

his dad’s dumb ass still doesn’t know it was mike who exposed him to his mother. he thinks she found the divorce papers on her own. therefore.... mike still gets money from his dad on a monthly basis and gets to keep the car he bought him for his 18th birthday lmaooooo a win 

you probably heard me say this before but.... theres a hc that mike is allergic to eggs. simply bc the idea of him shopping in the vegan section is funny to me 

this boy has a love for frogs ? idk where the obsession came from but you bet you’re gonna see a cute lil frog sticker on everything he owns. he doodles them on everything too ? it’s a habit at this point. he also knows random little facts about them and tells them to anyone who didnt ask for them 

. embarrassing but.. this dude... omg.... a big sana stan.... he has a photocard collection.... he went to a twice concert like 5 times.... dont be surprised if you see a feel special sana photocard in his phonecase.... im embarrassed of him 

he also has a hyunjin mcdonalds hashbrown photocard framed that a friend gave to him for christmas bc.. it’s a rare card,,, and you can see it on a table by the door when you walk into his apartment 😭

mike also has a habit of buying things he doesn’t need ?? he has a plushie collection that has been growing since he was young, and now is getting bigger with the rise of squishmallows

there’s this random hc where he drunk bought a cardboard cutout of john cena ,,,, don’t ask,,, it’s currently guarding his room back at his mom’s house djfhdj

can you tell mike is my most embarrassing , most chaotic character,, 

also he moved out after graduating school and when he started to attend college,,,, gimme some roomies pls

connection ideas ??

michael’s childhood friends; could’ve gone to the same school back in philly before he moved away ?? 

friends he made when he moved to town?? mike is very social and was... kinda popular in school, i’d say. he made friends with basically anyone he found interesting

michael’s ex; they could’ve ended on a bad note, or even on a good one and ended up being friends. im really up for plotting anything.

michael’s best friend; PLEASE i love wholesome best friend plots. it doesn’t matter if they met in san verto or philly

roomies pls !!! i would love it if he could have some roommates who have to deal with his very . peculiar decorating habits 

co workers ?? customers ? regulars ? he works at hall of film ! 

like this to plot or hmu !

#foolsintro #this got SO LONG #i didnt proof read and im sure i missed something