#datingafter40

[missmaybe-not]

Welcome to the Maybe Not, But Maybe Yes Club!

Hey there, fellow adventurers in the sometimes-bumpy, often-hilarious, and eternally hopeful world of dating after 40!

This little corner of the internet is for all the "Maybe Nots" out there who've ever swiped left on Mr./Ms. Right (because their profile pic was a landscape... seriously?), or whose idea of a perfect Friday night involves Netflix, takeout, and the judgmental side-eye of their cat (because who needs bad dates when you have the purrfect company?).

We'll be diving headfirst into the world of dating fails (because let's face it, they're practically an art form at this point), narrating the occasional misfortune that seems to follow us like a lovesick puppy (seriously, Universe, give it a rest!), and exploring the mystical forces (or maybe it's just bad luck? Jury's still out) that seem determined to keep us single.

But hey, amidst the dating disasters and cosmic curveballs, there'll be adventures (because who says being single means being boring?), hope (because a girl can dream, right?), and maybe even a splash of our favourite beverage (because sometimes, a cocktail is the best date you can have).

So, grab a seat, pull up your comfiest sweats (or your most fabulous outfit, no judgement here!), and join me on this weekly journey through the wild world of "Maybe Not, But Maybe Yes." It's bound to be a laugh (or a cry, whatever we want / need, because we’re free!), and who knows, maybe, just maybe, we'll all find our happily ever after along the way.

See you next week!

P.S. Feel free to share your own dating disasters, love mishaps, or hopeful stories in the comments!

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#datingafter40 #missmaybenot #datingfails #singleandfabulous #singlelife #hopelessromantic #meanttobe #idrinkandiknowthings #missmaybenotyet

[megpie]

Oh, this gets my heart tonight. "In the times I had been struggling, I still held space for those who needed me." --- absolutely this. I am trying so hard to learn to be more careful with who I allow close. Because I'm a GIVER, my dudes. I'll drain myself dry for those I love. There will never, ever, EVER be a time that I'm too busy or have too much on my plate and let that = neglecting my people. I will *never* be too busy, if I love you. I'll find a way, whether it's my time, my energy, my hugs, or just my ear to listen. My relationships are intentional//not transactional. I don't care about what I can get out of you. I don't care if you're asking too much. If I choose you//I *got* you. I remind my child of this all the time -- it doesn't matter how much she needs from me. It might be a lot, but it will never be too much. That's how love works, man. 🖤 But, that's WHY I'm trying to learn to be better at being intentional with who I allow in my zone. I know I'm a fiercely loyal little momma bear type: family, friends, relationships. Once you're in, I got you. So, I have to be careful who I let in, in the first place. I seem to struggle with that. Trying to remember that: all people can be good people. But that doesn't mean they're safe people. Red flags can feel like butterflies when all you've ever known is chaos, energy vampires can be stealthy until it's too late, and - maybe some people just change their minds, and stop being who you thought. It's ok to cut those ties too. Because there's nothing more lonely than being alone with someone else. No one else out here is gonna protect me, like me. Good thing I heckin' love me. ❤️ #samiravivette #poetryofig #wordsaremagic #wordsarepowerful #writerslife #lovelikethemoon #lovelylove #loveagain #loveanyway #lovealways #lonelynights #lonelyheart #datingafter40 #datingishard #singlemomproblems #singlemomlife #findingmyself #findinglove #loveyourselffirst https://www.instagram.com/p/CpJ6XKkOFIW/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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[coachmoreno]

Dating After Divorce - A Guide for Middle-Aged Men

Dating after divorce can seem intimidating at first. Afterall, most divorced middle-aged men were married for several years and out of the dating game for a very long time. Plus, things have changed for many of us. The dating landscape looks a lot different that it did when we were in our 20’s and 30’s. Take dating apps, for example. Those didn’t really exist, or if they did, they weren’t readily available at the palm of our hand like they are today. We had to do it the hard way, which is to say, we had to get out into the world and put ourselves out there. Well, things may have changed, but the concept remains the same. And although it may feel like we may have lost a step, the charm, the sense of humor, the personality, and confidence we once leveraged to get another’s attention is still there inside of us. To bring it out we just need to find the courage to get back out there and to exercise patience because dating requires it.

Here's my advice:

If you are still dealing with the trauma of your divorce, seek help. Therapy is a good place to start. If you are not emotionally available, you will not be able to emotionally connect with anyone, let alone a potential partner. And if you think dating will be a good distraction, trust me, it’s not. Dating is not going to help you feel better. On the contrary, it may cause more emotional damage than its worth. Before you can deal with the emotional tolerance you need to survive the dating world, you must first focus on yourself and on getting your mind right.

Understand that dating and rejection go hand in hand. Be prepared for your prospects to ignore you, reject you, hide from you, and even insult you. Yes, this will happen, and you must be able to accept it, our you will give up before you even start.

Understand what it is you NEED more than what you want because what you need will satisfy you more than you realize. Satisfying a need is the only thing that will help you take that next step. One thing is for certain, not nourishing what we need will have us feeling empty inside. By seeking only the things we want in a someone, we set ourselves up for failure. We eventually find ourselves serial dating and pursuing those who may not be the best emotional fit for us. You cannot know the difference between what you need and what you want until you take time to reflect and identify the need first.

Once you feel like you are ready to get out there, then get out there! You choose the best approach. You can go the dating app route, or you can go the old-fashioned way. Online dating has a mysterious element to it, but it comes packed with rejection, deception and full superficial people (men and women alike). I’m old school. I like to be out in the world and allow the universe to present me with possibilities. Do the same! Go out with your buddies and visit a brewery, a bar, a lounge, a club, a music festival, a concert, a comedy show, or a wedding. Or go out alone and pay attention to your surroundings when you visit the park, the beach, while hiking, at the grocery store or at the gym. Look, these are just a few examples of where you might run into someone you find attractive, and when you do, find the courage to say hello. Introduce yourself and attempt to spark a conversation.

As I mentioned earlier, be prepared to be rejected. It will happen. It is inevitable. We are not attractive to everyone, just like we do not find everyone attractive. There may be several reasons your prospect is not engaging; perhaps the person you encountered is spoken for, or in a bad place emotionally and wants to be left alone, or simply not interested in conversation. That is okay. Do not take it personal. Walk away and shake it off. Remember, patience is key. When you are ready, try again.

Before I close, there a few more things to consider. If you are going to use a dating app, I suggest you do some research and find one that seems like a right fit for you. There are plenty of them out there. Just be sure you are honest with yourself and with your potential suiters. Do not contribute to the superficial and “fake” environment that comes along with online dating. Be genuine and discrete. No need to spill your guts in your user profile. A few basic things about you and your interests are all that is needed. And for the love of God, please use a recent photo of yourself! Your photo should be clean, presents you in a genuine light, and please put on a happy face.

Below are a couple of links you click on to help you choose a dating app that’s right for you:

Link 1: https://www.cnet.com/tech/services-and-software/best-online-dating-apps/

Link 2: https://www.forbes.com/health/l/online-dating

Whether you choose to use online approach or the traditional way, be sure you are emotionally ready. One thing I have learned in life is that we can never fully love someone until we have learned to fully love ourselves. Divorce takes a toll on us. For some, it may feel impossible to recover from, but it is not. Divorce is not the end all. On the contrary, it’s an opportunity to find a new path, a new chance at love, and to learn from our mistakes. Before you get out there, make sure you take time to reflect, to heal, and to let go. Only then will you be ready for the dating world. Remember, there is someone out there who is right for you.

#datingafterdivorce #DatingAfter40 #MiddelAgedMen #AGuidetoDatingAfter40

[platinumd15]

Those of us who have been hurt, get it! We are so scared of being hurt again that we're scared to try again. Trust me, I'm right there with you. When it's taken you so long to heal, there are so many questions and so much doubt. I often overthink and talk myself right on out of a "possibility". I mean, if it took years to get back to me, I don't EVER want to go through that again. I don't have that kind of time. But, what if we're missing out on something amazing? Don't let fear cause you to miss out. Let's decide today to "Do It Scared"! And rather than focusing horizontally, let's focus vertically on God! Let's trust that He's got us and will protect our hearts so much better than we can. Let's lean on Him and believe that He's got us! #singlelife #singlelifechronicles #datinglife #datingtoday #datingafter40 #doitscared #TrustGod #leanonGod #BelieveGod https://www.instagram.com/p/CpOOsM1LHcPhC8DzYhFHx2bkVo9UnHDFqN-Hs80/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#singlelife #singlelifechronicles #datinglife #datingtoday #datingafter40 #doitscared #trustgod #leanongod #believegod

[nicsplace]

Does anybody else feel me on this? #TrueStory #Over40 #DatingAfter40 #Dating #Single #SingleMom #TexasGirl #WhereHeAt #ThisIs48 #48YearsYoung #48AndFabulous #AgeIsJustANumber #Comedy #Funny #ThriftStore #Shopping #DatingProbs https://www.instagram.com/p/CWi_nmzlRPx/?utm_medium=tumblr

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[xojoliemoore]

I am so proud of my strength to walk away from what doesn't deserve me. . . . #iam @iam.affirmations #reminder #I_AM #positive #affirmation #happy #datingafterdivorce #datingafter40 #crazybeautifullove #joliemoore (at West Hollywood, California) https://www.instagram.com/p/CVlCAYyP6Ts/?utm_medium=tumblr

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[zenlanda]

#datingafter40 (at Zen Den) https://www.instagram.com/p/B2QGsetlDEW/?igshid=1obw0sulv3pv2

#datingafter40

[unetherealchaos]

Ready to go

I've spent the last 6 years stuck

Repeating a pattern

Trying to figure out what it is

Why do I make it so easy

For shitty men to walk away

But 2 years of self imposed celibacy

Has brought no further clarity

So I might as well

#datingafter40 #lifeafterlove

[bipolarchristianwidow]

*Your got too 🐝 kidding... Write? 😂😉😛😒 #DatingAfter40 #POF #WidowLife #BipolarRant #Grammar #GrammarNazi No wonder I can't find a man... https://www.instagram.com/p/BtxE5bvlWWD/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=82cxhbu0bhb5

#datingafter40 #pof #widowlife #bipolarrant #grammar #grammarnazi

[baboonsecond13-blog]

Learn to Conversation Females On-line Just For Fun and Fulfillment

It is possible to get a lot of girls to get some kind of romantic relationship along if you chat ladies on-line. Should you learn the simple approaches that are utilized to get ladies to want to turn into a part of your internet daily life, you possibly can make any woman you meet up with have sex fantasies about you. This can be a wonderful way to do away with any doubts or concerns you may have about your identiity. You are able to meet up with individuals from around the globe and find out a whole new words if you fulfill each person with various civilizations and backgrounds. Furthermore you will read about the different cultures and dialects in other places and also on a regular basis. Ladies like the fact that you speak a variety of variations once you talk to them. Even should you not communicate a foreign vocabulary it is possible to talk with ladies inside a international language and they will take notice of how very good your chat capabilities are. You will get ladies from each and every age group and each and every tradition available. This gives you numerous new opportunities to satisfy several types of females and to have interaction with assorted females who are interested in you like a man or woman. These options can be great fun for you and the girl you are attempting to draw in. Whenever you satisfy ladies on-line, it is not simply the bodily attraction that is certainly significant. You will recognize that you may have much more in common with these women than you think. A lot of women will likely be interested in guys who are friendly, sociable where you can positive mindset towards life. Various women is going to be fascinated by different kinds of gentlemen. A good way to learn how to chitchat women on the web is to discover what sort of females you would like to fulfill and learn how to speak with those ladies. Once you have identified the particular women that you would like then it will probably be much easier so that you can meet them. Males have considerably more entertaining if they have ladies close to. Women enjoy playing video games and men want to have some fun and girls also enjoy playing video games with gentlemen. http://www.datingonly.net/review/datingafter40-com This gives you a way to get acquainted with women by simply speaking to them and learning somewhat about them. Girls want to be taken care of just like guys. After they learn to conversation ladies on the internet they will likely understand that you just admiration them just like they regard you together with the same value they provide you. Girls are usually very interested in interactions. They enjoy to be desired. They need to feel that they are simply being appreciated and taken care of. When you start to understand a girl, you can expect to swiftly see how important this can be to her. Many women are very shy about conference new individuals and you will probably understand this as well. You can expect to become a little more confident due to the fact you will end up in the middle of ladies who are curious about you. One of the better aspects of speaking to women on-line is that you will quickly get acquainted with in regards to the lives of women worldwide. and they also can advise you regarding their favored songs, movies, publications, foods and TV demonstrates. Girls also want to reveal their activities with one another and you will find out about new strategies to commit their extra time jointly. They will tell you regarding their animals, interests, sporting activities as well as other routines that they do with each other.

#best chat online

[megpie]

This seems reasonable. Most guys ghost you eventually anyway. Get started out authentic and such. ✨️👻🖤✨️ #datingafter40 #datingsucks #datingishard #ghosting #ghostadventures #loveismagic #loveagain #loveanyway #datingmemes #datingapps #datingappssuck https://www.instagram.com/p/Cos560HPklm/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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[platinumd15]

I guess if it's not too late for Patti, maybe it's not too late for me😜🤷🏾‍♀️ #thatsfunnytome #singlelife #singlelifestruggles #singlelifechronicles #thatslife #datingtoday #datingmemes #itiswhatitis #lifelessons #lifeafter40 #datingafter40 #datingchronicles https://www.instagram.com/p/CoaQ217Ogqr5loLoUJ7PDhooJYJL0fXb0Mlb1A0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#thatsfunnytome #singlelife #singlelifestruggles #singlelifechronicles #thatslife #datingtoday #datingmemes #itiswhatitis #lifelessons #lifeafter40 #datingafter40 #datingchronicles

[nicsplace]

The truth in here is spot on, as @heatherland_iaintdoinit and @yaayitsme can attest to after watching their dating assessment. I mean, we could find that rare unicorn shoved on the back shelf or mislabeled but who has the time to sort through everything, especially as a single parent? Kids come first. I haven't really dated since my divorce in 2011, and after seeing what's out there I'm not sure I want to. (Asking what my name is when it's RIGHT THERE ON MY PROFILE or if I'm single - again, ON MY PROFILE. And this is just from here. On Instagram. 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄) Some actual effort would be nice, without being skeezy, right?! #DatingLife #DatingStories #WhoHasTheTime #SingleMom #SingleMomLife #EffortMatters #DatingAfter40 #46AndFabulous #46YearsYoung #SomedayMyPrinceWillCome #Maybe https://www.instagram.com/p/B4xJN73AGLC/?igshid=datjm2p27fzb

#datinglife #datingstories #whohasthetime #singlemom #singlemomlife #effortmatters #datingafter40 #46andfabulous #46yearsyoung #somedaymyprincewillcome #maybe

[dockslope62-blog]

Internet dating On the web Might Be Simple, But You Must Learn The Reality Before You Do It

The word "online dating services" is usually decreased to "internet dating". Dating online has been in existence for a long time. Lots of guys have been courting on the web for a long time. The essential basis for online dating is to make new friends and make new buddies. Men particular date other guys on the web in order to develop a "online dating" partnership. If you day a person on-line, it does not always mean you are having a date. There are several points that must be taken into account when internet dating. One thing is to be very clear concerning the romantic relationship. Online dating online have their positives and negatives. There are numerous forms of sites that allow you to date online. The totally free online dating sites are certainly not the same. Many people have already been deceived into pondering that they are dating inside a cost-free online dating website. This may not be the way it is. Free online dating sites are usually scams. http://www.the-dating-website.com/datingafter40-com.html There are many different varieties of internet dating sites, and some of them have got a payment to use. Some of these internet sites are extremely excellent and many of them usually are not. Free internet dating sites can help you satisfy different styles of folks. There are plenty of free sites which allow you to particular date in conversation rooms. If you are unfamiliar with dating online, you need to use chat rooms in order to get a feel for how it operates. The downside to chat areas is that they will not give plenty of info. It is essential to keep in mind that dating on the internet fails to require that you meet males that you are looking at. The males may be interested in you, but you possibly will not be interested in them. You need to only look at the men that are interested in you. There are many different issues that can be done in order to fulfill gentlemen. You may continue online dating services, chitchat bedrooms, and even go with.com.com. In case you have a message address plus a brand, you will be able to find a great deal of single men and women. You can also use the internet dating approach to another level by visiting a dating site that is actually a "hookup". A hookup website is a web site which allows guys to fulfill individual women. They may have distinct information, and a internet dating area. A hookup site is a great spot that you should meet women who are seeking a lasting romantic relationship. Plenty of girls have identified soul mates and companionship with men by means of this method. The majority of females usually do not get out there and quest for a lasting connection, and a lot of do not use cost-free online dating solutions. If you are serious about getting a real love, you should look at utilizing a online dating site that can help you satisfy singles. If you are intending try using a courting web site that will require a cost to sign up with, you will certainly be obtaining the very best of both worlds. Should you be looking for some time term relationship, you may look for the best man for you. If you are looking for a short-run relationship, you can use the online dating sites to find females. The fee will allow you to find singles with which you can develop a long lasting partnership. The very best dating sites are the type which do not have you spend a monthly fee. These online dating sites are made to allow it to be easy for you to discover the appropriate individual. Cost-free online dating providers are good, nevertheless they will not provide the best of the internet dating encounter. If you are searching for any severe romantic relationship, you should consider using a online dating website that charges a payment.

#free dating guide

[write-ugly]

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[jnroberts76-blog]

I’ve not hit the low where I’m trying ChristianMingle or EHarmony yet but.....😂 oh dating at this age. #datinglife #datingafter40 #christianmingleornah #hardpass #thesinglelifechoseme #itsfunnylaughdamnit🙄

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