#completely allosexual man

[infizero]

every time i so much as think about that scene where light looks at porn magazines while scowling i go into hysterics its genuinely the funniest thing i've ever seen

#the funniest thing is is that i truly believe he thought he was being 100% convincing. that that's normal behavior for a completely straight #completely allosexual man #light is fucking awful and i hate him but also there's nuance to him. and sometimes i can get a little like. oh thinking about his life #before the series. specifically factoring in my headcanons about him being gay aroace and autistic and stuff. ppl have written some rlly #good fics surrounding those topics.... but yeah thats not even canon stuff but i dont care #anyways its not in a way of making excuses for how he is i just think it adds more to his character #hes total garbage but i think theres really interesting stuff with him when it comes to how he's.... VERY disconnected from others #just in general. he's like aware of how to act ''normal'' on like the most textbook surface level without being like. Aware enough to #be able to make it more convincing. and as ridiculous as it is i do see some of myself in him in that sense #also that person who said light and L is just autistic guy who's been masking his entire life vs autistic guy who's never masked in his #entire life. LITERALLY EXACTLY. genuinely perfect way to describe them they are both so similar when it comes to this #but the ways they go about it are very different. light has been playing the part of the perfect son his whole life. L doesnt try to change #himself for anyone and doesnt care when people think hes weird. both of them arent very socially aware and havent had any real friends #their whole lives. its such a fascinating parallel between them #i could go on a whole fucking thing about how light was pretending to be someone he's not around his family and at school and everything #long before he got the death note BUT. i wont. at least not right now #jesus christ how did i go from laughing about him with the magazine to this. my bad #derailed my own damn post. idk swagever #will say rq tho. watched a vid on youtube that pointed out how light expected his family to think nothing of the fact that he's gone to #such drastic measures to hide his diary when making the plan with hiding the death note which is like #that level of dedication would NOT be normal. so the fact that light expects his family to think nothing of it...... #i mean you could read that as light just once again being socially unaware. but it could also imply that light's family kind of Knows #he's hiding something and just doesn't address it. (he's gay. im talking about him being gay) #the video also referenced this comic that i didnt rb cause the actual premise of it (lawlight wedding) is um. #not at all my kind of thing. BUT it was light describing himself as a house with a basement when his family sees him as a one story house #and i thought that was such a cool analogy #ANYWAYYYSSSS i need to go to bed. thanks if you read my ramblings #serena.txt #death note posting

[the-laughing-lunatic]

Mediscout cute headcanons!!!

(Omg yea I love these guys so much, def one of my main ships. I also rlly like their dynamic in emesis blue but y’know, not very cute. I have a lot of thoughts about these guys so I accidentally made this really long— word count: 1714. Thx for requesting! :3)

Medic x Scout headcanons!

─── ･ ｡ﾟ☆: *.☽ .* :☆ﾟ. ─── 

☆Platonic☆

Scout’s definitely scared of Medic at first 

I mean, when your coworker mentions plans about putting a baboon uterus inside you you’re gonna be a little on edge

Avoids checkups for so long Medic has to find him and drag Scout himself to the medbay

“Sheiße, you are acting like a little child right now, it is not such a big deal Herr Scout. I am simply going to check a few things.”

“Well I’m sorry if I ain’t too thrilled to have some psycho puttin’ needles or animal parts or whatever in me.”

Medic groaned. “I just need to check your temperature, heart rate, and blood pressure. Now can you please shut your mouth and let me work?”

While he took Scout’s heart rate, both annoyed, Archimedes flew to Scout’s shoulder and nuzzled into the man’s neck

After the checkup Medic sighed and ushered his dove over. “Him? Really Archimedes?” 

The dove cooed. “Well then, I trust your judgement, I suppose I’ll try to be nicer to him.”

After that he did try to be kinder to Scout, staying around him more, listening to what he’s saying at dinner, looking through his room to learn more about him—

That’s not how Scout interpreted it though, and one day when Medic was trailing a little too close to him again he just snapped “Will you fuckin’ cut it out!?”

“Cut what out?”

“This- this weird stalkerish thing you’re doing. What, you makin’ fun of me? You gonna take my organs in the middle of the night? What do you want?”

“Oh. I was trying to be nicer to you. I could stop if you want.”

“If you wanna be nice you could try talkin’ to me for once.”

And Medic did

Both of them are absolute yappers, and Scout quickly got more comfortable with Medic as they talked more

He’ll never forget the first time he saw Medic laugh

Like, genuinely laugh

He’d seen Medic laugh many times before, either on the operating table or during battle but it was always just…scary

When he actually laughed Scout couldn’t help but laugh as well, because Medic’s real laugh was so different of what he had thought of him

It was warm and nice, and suddenly Medic wasn’t just this psycho ex-doctor, he was also his friend

When they go out for drinks Medic often has to carry Scout back to the base because of his incredibly low alcohol tolerance (not that it’s hard though)

Medic would teach Scout how to take care of his birds in the case he was especially busy, Scout’s their godfather now

I feel like they’d also work well in a qpr, though Medic would have to help Scout a little since he’s been comfortable with his asexuality for longer and has probably been in one before

I headcanon them as both on the ace spectrum so I’m gonna delve into that a bit

I feel like Scout is graysexual while Medic is completely sex-repulsed

Scout honestly would’ve thought he was allosexual for the rest of his life until he heard Medic talking about how being ace felt for him

And he was like “huh, I relate to some of that”

Scout definitely has a lot of questions though

“So like- what’s romantic? Cus I don’t wanna take this too far, but you’re my cucumber, or squash— whatever the word is an’ I wanna show that I care about ya.”

“It’s zucchini, Jeremy. And the point of being in a queerplatonic relationship is that we get to make our own rules for what works for us. All you have to do is ask me if you want to try something.”

“Oh, um, well then. Is it okay if I kiss your cheek, doc?”

“Yes, Jeremy, it’s very okay.”

♡

Biggest dorks ever btw

Just so you know

☆Romantic☆

Medic would fall in love (or realize it at least) over something trivial

Accidentally brushing hands, a word of praise after a battle that made Medic especially appreciated, Scout falling asleep on his shoulder at movie night, etc.

It was weird, because Scout was almost the opposite of his type, he was loud, arrogant, and less than intelligent, but he accepted Scout as the outlier

Even though Medic fell first he didn’t initiate it

Though his moral compass was less than straight when it came to advancing the field of medicine, it felt weird to be the one starting anything with a guy nearly 20 years younger than him

He even performed a brain scan on Scout just to double-check his brain was fully developed (surprisingly, it was) so he could feel less weird about his crush

For a long time he just thought of it as an enjoyable distraction, not anything that could go anywhere

Scout liked Ms. Pauling, and Medic was fine with it. He wasn’t even sure if he wanted to date Scout, he just liked the idea of a relationship, and Scout was an attractive man he could project those wants onto.

At least that’s how he reasoned it to himself

The giddy laugh Medic couldn’t help but let out every time he saw him, the way he always made sure to be gentler when he gave Scout his shots, how a Boston accent now equaled attractive in his mind (that didn’t come from Scout though, that’d be ridiculous)

With Scout though, his moment of realization was much less trivial

He was at four health a minute away from the end of the match, desperately trying to keep the blood from the bullet wound in so he wouldn’t have to go to respawn

Getting in respawn at the end of a match was miserable, because you might get stuck in there for hours after so everyone tried to avoid it at all costs

Scout’s eyes widened as he watched his health drop to three, no dispenser in sight

He closed his eyes and mentally prepared himself for sitting in the cold room for god know how long, until he saw a light above him

Holding his medigun, Medic stood above him, and the red glow surrounding him as he healed him made him almost look like an angel, his saviour

A psychotic angel, but an angel nonetheless

He felt Medic grab him by his collar (at what point did his knees go weak?) and say to him “Get up schweinhund, and fight.”

They won the match, at least that’s what Scout heard, he didn’t remember anything after Medic saved him

His entire body was on autopilot until the time he went to bed, when he had all night to think about how he was definitely attracted to guys

He definitely had a type though, regardless of gender

Glasses, dark hair, smarter and more mature than him (though that was a low bar), an itty bitty bit psychotic and have huge honkers— (jk jk jk) 

Scout starts coming to the medbay for the tiniest things now so he can see Medic more

“Medic, I got a splinter” “Medic, my elbow’s sore” “Medic, I have a major crush on you and don’t know what to do with it”

After a bit of this, Scout just gave up excuses, Medic didn’t seem to mind his company

It became routine, after dinner Scout’d follow him to the medbay and talk with him while  Medic filled out paperwork, occasionally giving a nod or short question to let Scout know he was still listening

One night though, Scout didn’t follow him back

Medic was disappointed, he had gotten rather fond of his chatter, but shrugged it off as Scout being tired

After a few minutes of paperwork, there was a knock at the door

He opened it to see a very nervous Scout holding a bouquet of roses

“H- hey doc! Um, y’know, we’ve been hangin’ out for a while, I really like you, and I hope you at least like me a little, so, uh, wanna go on a date sometime? Please?”

Medic just stands there for a solid bit before taking the flowers and smiling. “I’d love to.”

Scout takes him to a nice restaurant (that was definitely his idea and not Spy’s) and pays the bill for the both of them, which was substantial because Medic has a taste for the most expensive things on the menu

And Scout is a hella picky eater

“So like, can I have the steak, but - and stay with me here - you grind it up, grill it, cut one of the rolls in half and add the steak, along with fuckin’ ketchup, mustard, lettuce, pickles—”

“Sir, are you describing a burger to me?”

“...yeah?”

“It’s on the kids menu.”

“Oh. Sweet, then can I have that?”

After the date Medic lets Scout kiss him

They suck I hate them so much I don’t think about them all the time (lying)

Nicknames Scout calls Medic: Doc, Angel, Angelcakes, Babe

Nicknames Medic calls Scout: Hase, Schatz, Liebling, Dear

On the battlefield Scout’s constantly by Medic

“Hey Angelcakes, check this out!” “Didja see that? Didja see that?”

If they have to be separated any time Scout sees him he’ll give Medic a kiss

“Hase you’re at ten health, can you please stop trying to kiss me for a second so I can heal you?” 

“Ugh, fine.”

After he’s done Medic gives Scout a kiss. “Thank you, on your way.”

Clingy ass motherfuckers

Scout’s way more obvious with it than medic though

Medic hardly even has to do anything, they’ll just be talking and Scout’ll notice half-way in the conversation that he’s cuddled up in Medic’s arms

Scout often sits in Medic’s lap as he works, rambling on about some comic he read or whatever.

After a few months of dating Medic only sleeps in Scout’s room

It feels more homey than his, which he admittedly already slept in very little due to his unfortunate habit of passing out at his desk

Nights often consist of Scout cuddled into Medic’s chest while Medic reads aloud to the both of them

(real talk reading together is such an underrated couple activity can we talk about this—)

“ —alright, that’s the end of the chapter. Liebling, are you asleep?”

“Nah, just relaxed. Love you angel.”

“I love you too Jeremy, Goodnight.”

They are the biggest saps ever and I will stand by this until the day I die

─── ･ ｡ﾟ☆: *.☽ .* :☆ﾟ. ─── 

#tf2 #team fortress 2 #medic tf2 #scout tf2 #scout x medic #quick fix #blunt trauma #mediscout #fanfiction

[cleolinda]

The funk effect

I’ll pull this out as a separate anecdote rather than cram it into a perfume review:

I was working at a video store, back in the days when we had such things, circa the two-tape Titanic release (1998ish) that took twice as long to manually rewind and rebox, and God help us all, it was Movie Gallery where the hits are here now guaranteed this is Cleo how can I help you, no we’re out of Titanic, no I know I just said, but, and on one particular Saturday afternoon, I was WEARY and I was PISSED.

My manager mentioned that Blah Blahblah, somebody, idk, was going to swing by to pick up his final paycheck. The video store was my weekend job, and he only worked weeknights, so I’d never actually met him before. I never even saw the guy’s face, I don’t think. Suddenly he was around on my side of the back counter; his check was under the computer I needed to scan in another godforsaken pile of double-decker fucking Titanics, and he was in my way.

He got the check, shut the drawer, and breezed past me without so much as a courtesy “hey.”

He had not showered in 10,000 years. Just the deepest, darkest bodily funk you can imagine. For a tenth of a second, I was pissed off that this jackass who smelled like death was in my way as the stench itself hit me in the thoughts. But it also hit me somewhere in the front of my nose, like the "floor" of my nose, if that makes sense—the odor fizzed and tingled there, musky and sharp, and—there is no polite way to say this. I was the most repressed little goody-two-shoes in all of Elbow, Alabama; I got one whiff of this walking armpit incarnate and, Reader, I was DTF.

Starry-eyed, I turned as he circled around me towards the exit, my mouth helplessly trying to form a

♡ Hey ♡

that didn't surface in time. And that was the guy's final paycheck, so he had no reason to come back, either.

I don't even remember what he looked like, I never even saw his face, but I remember what the smell of him did to my nose. And the thing is, if he'd turned around and he'd been really rude or Not My Type or whatever, his carnal funk was not going to mesmerize me into ignoring that. It got my attention, and it gave me some rather confused Blanche Devereaux flutters on a bad day when I needed a little excitement ("Who was that masked stank man??"). I don't know if "human sex pheromones" are a real thing, but when people talk about "pheromone perfume," what happened to me is the physiological effect they're shooting for: a reaction that may be completely independent of what the fragrance even smells like, because it's not like I thought he smelled good. Again, though—I would have been free to shake it off and go, "Never mind, that was weird." Astonishing, but not coercive.

(I don't know how this is or isn't complicated by personal sexuality—I'm bisexual and allosexual. If I'd been zero percent into men and/or ace, I don't know how I would have interpreted my reaction.)

What I'm getting around to is: when you read about a fragrance trying to conjure "sweat" or "body musk," or using civet, oud, or jasmine with indolic "fecal" tones, or Santal Blush using cumin, as I'm in the middle of drafting—this is why. There are some things that grab you on a different level, tingly beneath the surface.

Perfume discussion masterpost

#perfume discussion #gifs #note: musk #me for some reason #story time with cleo #long post

[web-novel-polls]

Aroace-spec Character Winners' Tournament

[Please vote for who you believe has the most canon evidence to be aroace-spec, not the most popular. It will never be acceptable to post "anti-propaganda" in this tournament or invalidate a suggested identity because "they're not aroace enough." You will be blocked unless it's clearly a genuine mistake / misphrasing.]

Propaganda underneath the cut

Shen Qingqiu from The Scum Villain’s Self-Saving System

Submission 1: Gay Asexual

I mean have you met the man? "Assuming you're straight because you feel nothing towards either sex but you have to be the default, right? before realizing you're romantically attracted to someone but not realizing you're romantically attracted to someone because it doesn't feel like sexual attraction which is how allos explain what love is until the romantic attraction hits you like a sledge hammer" is both a common ace experience and absolutely his story arc. Also I would have submitted him sooner but I thought he was a shoe in

Submission 2:

Asexual, somewhere on the aro spectrum - I would have submitted him earlier but based on the tags I assumed I wouldn't need to and didn't want op to be spammed with too many submissions ;_; anyhow he's here now!

Mod Propaganda

Was completely okay with not marrying anyone (because all the women in the world “belong to the protagonist”)

So fucking weird about sex. He has to mentally contort his brain seven ways to Sunday to even IMAGINE fucking someone (earning him the title of “most homophobic gay person”)

“He’s not gay, Binghe is”

Reads bad erotica and then complains about the plot inconsistencies

Accidentally wife beams/romances pretty much every single character he meets

Liu Qingge from Scum Villain’s Self-Saving System

Submission 1: Gay Grayace

He spends most of his life with one interest and that's fighting and then when he falls for a man he's confused by it and proceeds to flirt in the most awkward way possible. Also he has the grey-white-sometimes purple colour scheme

Submission 2: Aroace

The idea of him being asexual is presented right there on the page and you can't take that away from me. Yes I think he is in love with sqq yes I also think he is aroace. He can be both!

Submission 3: Asexual/Ace-spec

I think he’s sex repulsed given his icy or horrified reactions when sexual topics are discussed. He was also once forcibly aroused when hit by an aphrodisiac, and he responded in a way that implied he had never experienced that before. Additionally, his instinct was not to do anything sexual, but to commit acts of violence.

Mod Propaganda

Canonically not interested in romance by word of God

MXTX: “[Liu Qingge] isn't interested in Shen Qingqiu. He isn't interested in anyone. He's only interested in fighting. He wants to be the strongest and the best.” (Source)

Canonically had no clue he was sexually aroused in the Succubi Extra / interpreted it as “wanting to fight” (which isn’t the same as not experiencing sexual attraction, but that’s also not a trademark of allosexuality)

Speaking of, he never specifically seems interested in Shen Qingqiu romantically or sexually - he’s usually shipped with him bc of his devotion, not a clear desire for romance. Though that’s pretty much just up for personal interpretation

#shen qingqiu #liu qingge #svsss #aroace spec character tournament #aroace spec winners semifinals #polls #queue

[orionsangel86]

What do you think sex means for an entity like Morpheus? Even between us humans it means different things for different people

Thats an interesting question. Probably not one anyone but Morpheus himself could answer. As you said it means different things for different people. Sometimes sex is just a primal desire for carnal pleasure, sometimes its about developing a deeper connection, sometimes its about "love making" with someone you are intimately connected to, sometimes its simply an act for reproductive purposes.

From a human perspective it is very difficult to imagine sex and sexual intimacy from the view point of different beings. We are still only in the very early stages of understanding the importance of sex among other animals on Earth outside of just reproduction, and we know that some animals also have sex for pleasure or for intimacy bonding.

Morpheus, like all of the Endless, is a creature that exist so far outside of anything that we can truly understand. They are anthropomorphic personifications of concepts. What is sex to a dream? When a dream is such a loose concept in itself - dreams and wishes, and midnight sleeping hallucinations created by the unconscious mind... that sex is often a part of, sometimes in insanely bizarre and disturbing ways. Dreams and sex kinda go hand in hand, and Morpheus IS Dream, sooooo... sex is probably quite important to him in lots of ways...

Okay maybe I went a bit too deep there for a moment lol. Lets tackle this on a smaller scale. We know from the comics that Morpheus, as a human shaped creature, has sex. We know he has taken many lovers, only some of which we ever actually learn about. We know he has the ability to reproduce, since he has a son. We know he has human genitals (thank you Sandman: Overture for the full frontal nudity) and that as a male shaped being he prefers to take lovers of a female shape (though juries still out on what exactly happened between him and Lucifer with his smooth Ken-doll groin).

We know from Calliope's rather inappropiate speech at the Wake that not only did they have plenty of sex, that he was very very good at it, enough for Calliope to feel completely consumed by their passion. We know he enjoyed sex with Nada so much that he projected their love making to the entire collective unconscious at the time (one hell of a leaked sex tape there!) so not only is he an excellent lover who is very good at sex, he also clearly enjoys it himself if he can lose control that much from it.

I am hesitant to say that he only has sex with people he loves, though it does seem rather consistent, other than perhaps the situation with Titania which we never learn anything more about - the Audible audiobook briefly elaborates and has Morpheus and Titania very briefly mention that they slept together and it appears to be something they both think of fondly but certainly aren't in love so I wonder if Titania was just a casual fling? Otherwise I doubt they'd still be on good terms! (It's funny how fandom jokes that he commissioned a Midsummer Nights Dream as a way to insult Titania but in the actual comic this totally is not the case, he commissioned it to honour her and her people. Whatever happened between Titania and Morpheus, it did not end on bad terms.) So because of that, I can't really say that he only ever has sex with people he is deeply in love with.

Honestly I reckon that since he was created by a cishet allosexual man he was written with the sexual appetite of a cishet allosexual man. He probably isn't demi or ace and he probably isn't meant to be queer (though arguably a creature such as he could never be shoved into such a limited box as "heterosexual").

Note: I don't even want to attempt to get into the various "aspects" of Dream where there is a version of Dream for every living thing that dreams in the universe and therefore have to contemplate whether Dream has also had love affairs with creatures of all different types outside of regular human shaped female creatures though I am very curious to see if the King of Cats ever took a female cat lover (i mean honestly if regular Dream was totally cool flirting with Lady Bast...) in which case we can also argue that fem!Dream takes lovers, weird robot alien Dream takes lovers, Martian flaming head Dream takes lovers and so on and so forth.

There is also the interesting dynamic between Dream and his sibling Desire, because sex is what Desire is all about, and sex technically falls under their remit - hence the many many falling outs and tensions between them where Desire appears to be the principle instigator of Dreams romantic woes. I think that for this reason, Dream probably represses his desires for sex (and love) as much as possible, and if he were on better terms with his sibling, would probably seek out sex and romance more often than he does - Thessaly being an outlier because I fully believe he pursued her as an attempt at self sabotage as an awful rebound affair following the situation where he had to face his romantic failings with Nada, Calliope, and Alianora in short succession.

In some attempt at a conclusion: what does sex mean for Morpheus? Well, its something he likes, is good at, and if given the choice would probably like to have more of it, preferably with someone he is in love with who loves him in return, given his romantic inclinations. At the same time, bearing in mind who and what he is, there is probably nothing that even the absolutely filthiest of kinksters could come up with that would surprise him, nothing that he hasn't seen or used in some way to create the most bizarre sex dreams possible, and nothing that would shock or disturb him (it's not like he ever blinked an eye even on his trips to Hell). Though whether or not that means he is into kinky shit well, the only indication of his preferences we can conclude is that he likes strong confident women who can talk back to him, and impress him and treat him as equals rather than the powerful creature he is. So maybe he's secretly a sub? :P

#the sandman #sandman meta #dream of the endless #morpheus #the sandman analysis #the sandman comics #asks

[fancyfungal]

Ok so theory. Grace chastity is aro but allosexual. She never says anything about liking Max and in her song she sings "I don't care about you" but still finds him immensely hot.

She has no romantic interest in any of the men (which in this case is two) that are interested in her. For Max even if he wanted to have sex with Grace, he still asks her for a cuddle afterwards which kinda proves that he has more than a sexual interest in her. And for the second man shes the one that asks for a kiss and discards him right after she gets what she wants. Even though she says it was disgusting it's most likely her blaming her own problems on others and/or being in denial. I won't go into this now but it's shown in other parts of the musical.

Furthermore in nightmare time 2. When her friend asks if they could be more than friends she remains completely oblivious. I should also note she hasn't gone unhinged in nt2. Her unhingedness was caused by Max making outright sexual comments about her which causes her to have her first sexual thought ever. While in nt2 her friend was being more low-key and tried playing on the romantic aspect more.

I really like how they handled her honestly. The cliche thing that happens to characters similar to Grace is that their interested only in romance which sometimes is taken advantage of by their love interests (talking about some of the weird novels I've seen I'm not sure if this is a super common thing) but I'm just glad we got a character who isn't just aroace but is aro. It's either aroace or fully allo. Here's hoping this doesn't get ruined in future hachetfield projects.

#npmd spoilers #npmd #starkid npmd #grace chasity #nerdy prudes must die #nerdy prudes spoilers #Text #Aromantic #Queer #LGBTQ

[jaydenchip404]

IDK what's going on with me anymore…

What is even happening? Why do humans and their feelings have to be so complicated? Why can't everything just be clear-cut and upfront?

Gender Identity: I feel mostly like a man, partially non-binary or female, and a little bit non-binary or female. I sometimes experience a lack of gender or minimal connection to any gender identity. I have a strong masculine aspect to my gender identity. My gender experience fluctuates both in identity, shifting from one gender to another or to none, and in intensity, varying from full to partial gender feelings. My gender varies over time, sometimes feeling more aligned with one identity than another. I often feel a lack of gender where others typically experience a sense of identity. My gender is akin to a fluid version of being a man; while I may prefer to be seen and treated as a man, my gender can shift between various identities. It's fluid, yet always at least somewhat related to a (full) male. I feel sometimes feel half male and half another gender, embodying both aspects simultaneously. My gender identity aligns with femininity but exists outside the traditional gender binary, like it's there but hard to tell, like it's faded but still noticeable. I recognize and embrace all genders, shifting fluidly between those associated with masculinity, femininity, neutrality, and even genderlessness. I'm sort of a girl, but not quite. My gender feels dark, empty, and hollow.

Gamous: When my preferences for the number of partners change, it can vary between having no partners, one partner, or engaging with multiple partners. I am mainly not committed to anyone and have no desire for partners at all. This is like my default setting. I am perfectly happy being single the rest of my life. On other occasions, I have a super strong desire to date someoen, where we're both fully committed to each other, like soulmates. And I'm completely okay being in a polyamorous relationship, but it's not perfered. While I'm primarily inclined towards monogamous relationships, I'm also open to the idea of exploring polyamory.

Romantic Orientation: Romantic attraction occurs infrequently for me, fading into the background most of the time. I've had brief crushes and but faded away. My romantic attraction changes over time, but it always remains on the aro-spec. I enjoy romantic activities but don't feel a romantic desire for romantic relationships in the real world. The intensity of my romantic feelings can vary greatly over time. My romantic orientation is always accompanied by a strong feeling of dread or anxiety. Sometimes I feel romantic attraction and desire for relationships, but I tend to lose interest once I start dating someone. My romantic orientation is highly fluid. I'm someone who enjoys romantic concepts and fantasies but feels little to no desire for real-life romantic relationships or activities. I've experienced more romantic attraction to fictional characters than people irl. It's not always strong or frequent, more like fleeting moments. Sometimes my romantic attraction is infrequent or weak, and it swiftly dissipates upon rejection. I find myself attracted to people of all genders, although individual preferences and experiences definitely influence my attraction. I'm mainly attracted to men and women, but I'm still attracted to everyone. I often have difficulty discerning between platonic and romantic feelings, sometimes perceiving them as indistinguishable or occasionally confusing one for the other. I thought I had a crush on my best friend, but I just really wanted to be her friend, like a platonic soulmate. It's especially challenging when I experience romantic attraction only after knowing that the other person is romantically interested in me first.

Sexual Orientation: My attraction to different genders changes over time, but my attraction stays constant. It fluctuates between feeling asexual, allosexual, or hypersexual. I'm mostly attracted to men and women, but occasionally feel sexual attraction to non-binary other gendered people. My (all types) attraction to people can change from day to day, depending on factors like who I'm around, my gender identity, my environment, my mood, etc. I'm attracted to all genders but with varying intensity, where the intensity of attraction can change over time. I'm not consistently attracted to all genders; sometimes, I feel a sudden, temporary attraction to all genders. I typically don't feel sexual attraction, but occasionally experience brief, intense bursts of sexual attraction. I might feel repelled by most sexual acts or thoughts unless they're initiated by someone else. I occasionally feel attraction but generally lack active interest in pursuing relationships. I feel sexual attraction in my imagination and don't act on it in real life. I experience sexual attraction that I fulfill through self-stimulation, recognizing that I don't engage in sexual activities with others despite having a libido. I enjoy sexual content and fantasies, get aroused by them, but don't desire sexual relationships or actions with others. I enjoy sexual concepts and fantasies but feel little to no desire for real-life sexual relationships or activities. My sexual attraction is infrequent or weak. I'm attracted to all genders, where individual preferences and experiences may influence my attraction. I feel sexual desires but don't feel sexual attraction to others, feeling disconnected.

So does anyone know what any of this is? Sorry for the long post…

#Lesbian #Gay #Bisexual #Transgender #GSRM #MOGAI #SAGA #QUASMINT #QUILTBAG #Queer #GLOW #QANSTIVEM #lgbt #lgbtqia+ #lgbtq #LGBTQIA+ #LGBTQIA #LGBTQ #LGBTQ+ #LGBT #LGBT+ #LGBTQQIA #2SLGBTQ+ #LGBT2SQQIA #Asexual #Aromantic #Agender #Genderqueer #GLBT

[dumbdomb]

Dom =/= top =/= masc =/= man

sub =/= bottom =/= fem =/= woman

switch =/= vers =/= gnc =/= queer

as long as you keep associating being dominant as a role only to be fulfilled by a top, and assuming all tops to be butch or masculine in nature, you thereby will make masculinity something men are.

topping is not a kinky role, it simply means this person likes to give an action to their partner(s). a bottom enjoys to receive said actions. if you're ok with both, then you're versatile- either way.

being dominant in kink is many things, just as being submissive is not limited to one way of truly being subservient. to take on either role, there is going to be compromise and exploration- redefining and enhancing what works. if you are ok with taking on either role, you're able to switch up the roles of dominance and submission. switching isn't for everyone.

you don't have to be overly masculine to dominate, it's not always about being tough or intimidating. some doms are soft and caring, prefer to control in other ways, don't like being physically rough, etc. being feminine doesn't make you weak. some subs enjoy being roughed up, degraded, and brought to the edge of complete and total submission (physically, mentally, emotionally). masculinity and femininity is something everyone has both of, it doesn't make anyone more or less of a man, or of a woman. it's incorrect and limiting to narrowly define these words and to use them in this way.

the more you try to recreate cis gender, heterosexual (allosexual) normalised expectations and stereotypes of how a relationship should be structured, the less space you'll have to be understood and realise genuine connections and partnership (which is necessary to form a mutually agreeable bond or dynamic).

this is all very basic, introduction to kink and living outside of the mainstream. what we do isn't popular, and we all have interests that are certainly less popular (for me, i often find most people are not as keen on peeing as i am- for example). establishing and respecting each other's boundaries is a fundamental foundation to building any kinky relationship. if you can't accept someone having a limit or not giving you full access and consent to your desires, then you're abusing and taking advantage of someone's interest in kink to overrule and overpower them.

please read books about the psychology of kink, the history of bdsm, and don't just focus on the erotic elements that get your attention. study why things exist (like, why do people enjoy pony play?) and try some introspection. why do you like something? be critical and understanding, compassionate... learn more about the world, people, yourself.

#and yes an extension of this applies to being in spaces here like all the decorum doesn't erode just bc it's not irl or you have to- #check someone's blog before interacting. like that's how kinky rules and negotiations and consent and etc etc all work!! #you have to care and be careful bc not everyone is you! you're interacting with other people in ways that are not mainstream trad vanilla #bddssm #consent #domb brain #bd/sm education #bd/sm lifestyle

[sailorblossoms]

Today in my "Simon Snow notes aesthetical beauty but only ever manifests true horniness for Baz (and that's tied to his romantic feelings)" agenda:

A Simon who wants to eat is a horny Simon (and a Simon who wants Baz's love). He pretty much tries to consume Baz in bed. He also compares it to make-up sex, when Baz prepares him sandwiches just the way he likes them after getting back together, and brings them to bed to eat them with Simon. He watches Baz swallow milk while thinking "I like this. I like him" (what am I supposed to DO with this information. Am I supposed to not see the double meaning here.)

While Simon has noted men being fit (they have good hair, nice eyes, well dressed, etc, neither inherently sexualized things to notice) only Baz's appearance gets a reaction, or is commented in a way that can't possibly be divorced from sexual attraction. Simon doesn't just think Baz is the most fuckable person alive (or otherwise), he's the only one he thinks as fuckable, period. He was "ridiculous fit" and "perfect" when Simon was still unaware of his extremely gay feelings for him, but now that he knows, he "looks good enough to eat". He's hot, and Simon wants to do something about it. He loves to look, but he wants more than just looking. This is also yet another moment where Simon tells us he has a thing for Baz's pretty sleepy eyes: my man is barely conscious while Simon is looking at him like "he looks so good right now, as if he were trying to seduce"

Also worth noting is how sexual attraction/horniness is linked to his overwhelming romantic feelings for Baz. They go hand in hand, but they're still separate things ("good enough to eat" is an exclusively horny comment lol just like "following him around with his heart on his hand" is entirely in the romantic area)

For comparison, an allosexual in the wild:

We don't know much about Dev, but it's fair to assume his personality is uh quite different from Simon's. Still, I bring it up because this is an example of a dude talking about people in such a way that we're meant to assume obvious sexual interest/sexualization. Even Simon is sexualized, regardless of whether or not Dev swings that way (he started out so well with that invitation and then went completely out of pocket lmao). Compared to this, there's quite a difference in the way Simon notes people's appearances in passing. He's certainly not distracted by anyone's legs, other than Baz's (the jeans scene isn't even the only time he thinks about Baz's legs lol).

(funny side-note: it's actually easier to find certain scenes, such as the library one, if you just word-search "cock"... which is how I ended up reading this conversation with Dev again lol)

#snowbaz #baz pitch #simon snow #simon snow trilogy #baz x simon #awtwb #baz grimm pitch

[asexual-society]

Hello! I was wondering if its valid to be on the ace spectrum but only towards one gender/sex. Cause like, I for example feel completely allosexual when it comes to women/femme enbies/other femme identities but when it comes to those with masculine genders I feel more demisexual, like I have to be close to a man romantically in order to be sexually attracted to him. I was wondering if this is valid, or if its on the ace spectrum at all, if its something completely different or if theres a word for it!! Sorry this is kind of long. Thank you for your time :)

For sure it is! I'm blanking on a specific label right now but I'm sure there is one, and I'll keep looking.

I'll also say this which I say to anyone who has questions like 'is this valid?', the answer is always yes. I'm not an authority on anyone's sexuality but my own, I have no power to decide that one person's experience is valid and another person's isn't, and if some other internet stranger says otherwise they're wrong.

#asks #demisexual #asexual

[sauntervaguelydown]

☠ and ⋆ for Prowl

what a winning combo, drinking and sex

IDW Prowl strikes me as that type of straightedge person who can't stand being out of control and doesn't like drinking because it undermines his sense of self to do Out of Character Things While Drunk TM. In a humanformers setting, this makes him extremely bad at most forms of casual socializing and friendly work culture. I think he's also the type to be a bit superior about it, and judge regular drinkers especially hard. He knows the medical definition of alcoholism and he will tell you what it is. I kind of think Prowl is like.... the worst. To try and casually interact with. I've known arrogant people and they are just the worst, even when you love them. This level of rigidity might or might not have to do with traumatic early life experiences, who's to say.

If he did drink I think he would drink those terrible spicy bitter drinks that I hate. I think of him as a black coffee drinker too. He's a bourbon whiskey & scotch guy. But I seriously don't think he drinks to get drunk--if he does drink to get drunk, it's a sign that something is really wrong and he will have a crisis about it later.

Whereas I knew the answer to "drinking" immediately, I'm less firmed up on the other thing. I've stared at this sentence for two minutes before realizing I chose a bad adjective but I'm not changing it now.

So I think it's very easy to read Prowl in the IDW setting as a gay man living in a homophobic society and apply relevant tropes and narratives based on that. Ambiguous sexual relationships, unspoken words, getting experience where you can get it because you don't know what the future holds. Despite the arrogance in some respects of his personality, I think that he always Wants to Do a Good Job at whatever he's put his mind to, and he is very serious about doing the work to earn that status of Good Job Doer. So I think he tries very hard at sex, and probably defaults to focusing on the other person even past the point where he might actually be losing interest in the sex itself.

I guess we don't talk about this very much in fandom but there's a specific experience of like---okay so I basically think Prowl has a tendency to accidentally make himself a stone top? Especially in any setting where he's not a cis gay human man. Like in any other context and also in that one when it's relevant, I think he has a tendency to just set "getting orgasms out of partner" as his objective and keep plugging away at that objective well after the point where his own interest has kind of flagged, and not doing anything to get himself back into it. So he's having sex that is kind of good on a level of "accomplishing goals", but bad on the level of "hey wasn't this supposed to be a group activity? because you just showed up with the whole completed project and put my name on it"

I just realized this is probably and experience that allosexual people don't really have, so I think I just backwards talked myself into making him ace spectrum? Okay I guess. Didn't come here to do that but it works.

#humanformers

[fite-club]

"aces aren't LGBT because LGBT is an acronym" please, i'd love for you to go around various queer groups around america, and hell, especially those outside of it, and ask them to agree on one singular acronym. please do it. it will not happen. we say 'LGBT' for conciseness and simplicity, it's not a completed list of all sexual minority identities.

"talking about asexuality and the ace spectrum and how one can consensually have sex while being ace leads to abuse" exactly how? with well informed discussions/education on consent, safe sex, asexuality, etc, how exactly does this lead to abuse? have you thought about this point in any meaningful capacity or are you just repeating the same bullshit people said about asexuals back in 2016? the only scenario i can think of involves a sexually active partner pressuring their asexual partner into sex, which is abusive in ANY case and NOT unique to asexuals by any measure of the imagination.

"aces think sex workers are not oppressed" where has this been said recently? i'm going to need screenshotted evidence of this. because i've seen a number of asexual sex workers and porn artists, using either their own bodies for sexual material, or by writing or drawing pornography. i'm struggling to imagine that there is such a staggering lack of solidarity between people who have sex for work and people who lack a sexual attraction - two extreme ends of a spectrum of human sexual activity that society abhors - that anyone over the age of 17 would actually believe this. have you seen an adult with a job and a life saying and believing this? or has it been a 16 year old twitter user whose only queer life experience comes from their high school gay club?

asexuals are sexually assaulted and pressured into having sex by society's expectations of sex. those experiences and talking about this fact is not saying that sex workers are not oppressed. that is not what any of that means.

and finally...

"you already have non-aces defining asexuality" then why are you continuing to contribute to that problem? why do you believe, over asexuals, that your opinion on a sexuality that you do not identify with is what's correct? why do you feel that you are so entitled to an opinion on a sexuality that you agree is *already* being spoken over by people who are not a part of it? genuinely, why?

brother, every single thing you just said came out of 2016 era bullshit about asexuals. i genuinely want you to question if this discourse is productive for you or anyone else, and i want you to question where your opinions on this subject actually come from. are they based on real-life, first-hand experience? or have you been stuck in the same echo chamber for years?

i don't agree with all of your opinions, but i respected you quite a bit because it seems like your opinions are based in not just theory that you've read/dwelled on, but also real life experience being a transgender man. none of what you said about asexuals is actually based on your real life experience or any theory, and is based entirely on easily debunked bullshit arguments about asexuals, all of which are entirely 'whataboutisms' and making up a guy to get mad at. i can't respect you after your tirades about asexual people. please do some soul searching and reading on this subject.

“LGBT” is the exact acronym anon used. “you can enjoy sex without attraction/you can enjoy sex you don’t want” is rape culture rhetoric. you can ask around, but i’m pretty sure most asexuals don’t consider hypersexual people to be marginalized unless they also identify as ace. sexual assault is abusive in every case and not unique to asexuals. i believe “aces can want and enjoy sex” is aphobic, and “aces don’t want sex” isn’t; i think actual asexuals are being spoken over by allosexuals who want to identify as asexual. yes, my opinions come from real life, i’ve had asexual and “asexual” people in my life tell me about how they do or don’t experience sexual attraction. i’m not making up a guy to get mad at, i’ve had an asexual be homophobic to my face, and i’m sure i’m not the only one with that kind of experience. “do some soul searching and reading” shut up. wanting to have sex with someone = sexual attraction. someone who experiences sexual attraction =/= asexual, period.

[schizowitchic]

re: the last post i reblogged i am now going to rant about biphobia i have experienced and am experiencing! yay /s

(under a cut bc this got way too long)

so in secondary school i was in a friend group full of queer people, majority of whom were bisexual girls (at the time. a couple are now nonbinary / asexual) . and they were very big on the whole "bisexual culture is liking every woman and 2 men" thing, a lot of "ew men" jokes, and all in all general "liking women is better than liking men" "why am i dating a gross icky man i should be with a woman".

now i am more attracted to men than women, not by much, its typically fairly equal, but i definitely have a leaning towards men. and i repressed that for AGES. because it simply was "frowned upon", so to speak, from almost everyone i was close with

(for further context for the rest of this. i am not out as genderfluid. i use she/her pronouns irl and ppl know me as a cis woman. i am not really out as aromantic, when i identified as aroace i did tell a few people but i think they either completely ignored me or forgot. lol.)

nowadays, i tell my friends i am bisexual. one in particular always seems to forget, constantly calling me gay/lesbian, assuming i have no opinion or that my opinion will be "ew no" when she asks if i find a man she likes hot. (she has told me so many times "why am i asking you this you don't even like men". i have told her i am bisexual several times) (she also thinks it's funny to call me & another friend "f-slurs" . she says that not the actual word but still. i have to find it funny bc she gets so defensive if we imply she's homophobic)

(i do call myself gay bc i consider none of my attraction ever to be straight. i have no major issues with being called a lesbian apart from the fact that. yknow. im not a lesbian and have never identified as such)

i made a post a while back saying something like "help im being biseuxal erasured". because i am!! i am stuck in yet another situation with people who are either mainly attracted to women/only attracted to women/don't often talk about their attraction to me & also two cishet girls who are attracted to men in a very different way than i am (one of whom erases the fact i am attracted to men and the other who i don't like and probably assumes i'm a lesbian bc of how often everyone else says that)

also full of "ew men" jokes!!. might i add.

i literally have no space to talk about the way i experience attraction, i have to water it down and pretend i only like women, pretend i am interested in romance, pretend i feel attraction when the occasioanll bout of extreme sex-repulsion hits, take (albeit censored) homophobic slurs, sex jokes about me & another female friend that are getting uncomfortable.

and pretend like the main perpretatror of this isn't being at all queerphobic. (she also has massive racism and antisemitism issues. although my friend did throw basically a whole book at her face when she made a really bad joke). to the point where i no longer consider her a friend but i can't say that bc then im overreacting and i'll get the same bullying ostracisation treatment & my friends are still gonna hang out w her so i can't avoid it

people wonder why i am aplatonic when throughout friendships i have experienced: making fun of me to my face & behind my back, bullying, homophobia, biphobia, aphobia, ableism .

like what the fuck. im sick and fucking tired of having nowhere safe to express my sexuality bc let's be real, the internet often isn't the best space.

ive made my peace with either having to compromise my aromanticism or my allosexuality irl (ie either be out as bisexual or out as aroace) but apparently i can't even freely be bisexual without people making assumptions and at this point im just waiting it out until i can hit restart and try make new friends

#biphobia #homophobia #long post #aphobia #queerphobia #bisexual #im aware some of my wording may be misinterpreted . im struggling to explain this #as you may be able to tell from the longwindedness #having friends is exhausting and stressful #aplatonic #aromantic #personal #rant #nyxie be quiet challenge

[capriccio-ffxiv]

apple blossom :   how does your muse go about expressing or not expressing their sexuality ?

PHEW that's a COMPLICATED one, for a lot of reasons!

So, up until very recently, I identified as asexual, and grey-romantic. When I created Illyria, it was with the express idea that I wanted to explore a character who is a lot more sexual than me; who is completely allosexual and alloromantic, and confidant about that. Illy is loudly and proudly bisexual; but for her, sex is very casual. It's just another fun interesting thing one can do with friends, there's nothing special or sacred about it. She's blunt and forthright about sex and sexuality, in a way that some of her friends find kind of awkward.

Ryuu... ha. Ryuu was based on a self-insert I made up when I was like, 15/16 years old. I re-tooled her as mostly ace but sapphic, in the way of "not sexually attracted to people, but romantically attracted to women, and willing to have sex with women." That... all changed over the course of RP with my RP partner, when poor Ryuu (... and myself) got "... shit, I'm bisexual" plus "... shit, is this what sexual attraction feels like!? oh no" She's still not terribly comfortable about expressing her sexuality around anyone but her partners (currently Y'shtola and Kian, her co-WoL)

Seshat: Seshat is so damn new and based on my Guild Wars 2 toon. GW2!Seshat was completely aro-ace and Seshat will probably end up the same. Every time I think about "who would I ship her with" I'm like "That cat doesn't have a sexual thought in her fluffy orange cat head."

Hyperion: Ryuu's Ancient. Hyperion liked to put on a pretense of Yep I'm a Totally Normal Guy in Normal Ancient Society, while... secretly changing his sex/gender all the time to see if anyone even noticed. When everyone has to wear the same clothes and masks and hoods, turns out, nobody does. It was a little game he played. Luckily for him, his wife thinks that's hot as hell.

Dionysos: Illyria's Ancient. Dionysos is based not just on Dionysus, but also on Diogenes and the Cynics. Unlike Hyperion, Dio never once bothered to hide or pretend that they were Normal, and in fact in their youth they were briefly Altima before being exiled for writing seditious plays (when they're not Azem, anyway). They were extremely lucky to *only* be exiled and not just executed; Emet-Selch was instrumental on arguing for their exile and not execution (the man was young, recently appointed, and still really liked Dio's plays. Even the seditious ones. Maybe especially the seditious, salacious ones...). Dio was the kind of person to have public sex just to scandalize people and to make rhetorical points about problems with Ancient society.

#ask game #OC: ryuu tenshi #OC: hyperion #OC: dionysos #OC: illyria capriccio #OC: seshat truthspeaker

[elorrabean]

The Character Headcanon Ask Game and Daisy Downton Abbey

I'm so sorry I kept forgetting to answer this over and over again! Also I can't remember if there was more to this particular headcanon ask game beyond just talking about a headcanon I have about the character, but here's one I have...

Asexual Spectrum Daisy

I just think she's not completely allosexual. Maybe grey asexual or demisexual, but somewhere on the asexual spectrum. She reminds me so much of myself when I was younger:

Develops a 'safe' crush on a gay guy

Gets herself in too deep while responding to another man's attentions and then doesn't know how to handle it

Feels awful about her marriage and insists it was a sham and she's a horrible person because it didn't live up to her own romantic standards

At a loss when it comes to the love...square forming and how she gets sucked into it

Is jealous of how others seem to be able to attract people effortlessly while she's left looking in from the outside

Resists when confronted with someone actually being attracted to her

A lot of the time it just seems like the language people are using around attraction and sex is a mystery to her. And it could be argued that it's naïveté at first but it then persists.

Idk, I just think she's neat.

#daisy mason #daisy downton abbey #downton abbey #asexuality #ace spectrum #headcanons #asks answered

[markcampbells]

fic writer asks: 9&10

Thank you so much for these, Leni! 💙

9) What fic meant the most to you to write?

I loved writing a bit less broken, my first completed Final Fantasy VII fic and the most direct thing I've published yet dealing with the asexuality spectrum (I've done a demisexual Bones fic, but hadn't used a specific spectrum label in the text of the fic; this was the first fic where I had someone talk about labels outright).

My experience of figuring out I was ace was a bit different than most people's--I never felt like I was broken or wrong as such, because for me realizing I was ace was me sorting through a lot of compulsory allosexuality and being like, oh wait. I don't feel that attraction, I never did, and I used to pretend I did without even realizing it because I wanted to fit in, and I don't have to do that anymore. Realizing that was so freeing and put so much of my life into context I had never had before. Part of why Cloud meant so much to me as a character was that his arc progresses along similar lines; he thinks he is one thing, finds out later he very much is not, and then has to put himself back together again into who he really is. As someone who figured out in the past few years I'm queer, ace, and probably ND, I was like "yep, same," and Cloud's writing already has such strong ace vibes I knew I was making it my headcanon. I loved writing a fic where someone who feels like they don't fit anywhere finds out that they're wrong and that there's a word for it and other people like them out there. It's a feeling I've fortunately gotten really familiar with and I love writing about it.

10) What fic made you feel the happiest to work on?

Out of the fics I finished and posted this year, I was so glad to post my Trektober piece, i knew a man who was afraid to love! McKirk inspiration has been harder to come by than I would have liked this year, but getting it back and doing a fun piece--twice as long as my usual length, too!--was such a fun time, and I was so pleased so many people liked it. Next year I'm hoping to finish some of the others I started for that month 😂

Of the pieces I'm still working on, I'm writing a Vashwood fic I'm super happy is coming along so well; it's close to cracking 5k words and still isn't finished, which is long for me! It's the most consistently inspired I've been for a while; I went into it with only the vaguest ideas of the conversations I wanted characters to have and sitting down and having the dialogue really flow and be peppered with details I hadn't really thought about consciously is so great. I'm really excited to finish it out soon and get it posted for folks to read.

#thank you so much leni! 💙 #ask box #lenievi #fanfiction