#butch/femme dynamic

[bi-sapphics]

so, many months ago i sent an anonymous ask to @satanfemme requesting a matching butch flag to hys femme flag, and hys response was that hy didn't feel comfortable making it due to not being a butch hymself ─ but that i (or any other butch) could make one if we wanted to!! and that's exactly what i did. hopefully i remember to include all of the thoughts i wanted to put down.

to OP, assuming you see this: i'm going to copy your post format, as the point is for it to match and that the flag is based off of yours. if you are uncomfortable with anything or you would like me to change/delete something, please let me know and i will be happy to communicate effectively!! :)

^^ i'd also like to note that i acknowledge your blog is 18+. at the time of this post, i am 17. i hope that this sort of contact can be counted as an exception. i won't follow you, or interact with any of your other posts. but i'd still like to respect your wishes as best as i can. give me a heads-up if there's anything else i should be aware of, thanks.

[ID: an image of a butch pride flag. the flag conists of three horizontal stripes: light purple, dark purple, and light blue. in the top left corner is a lemon-meringue colored heart.]

💜 butch pride flag 💜

meaning & design:

to start off, it was unintentional that the colors are slightly more muted than its femme counterpart. however, i decided i liked that because femmes (as far as i know) aren't typically seen as bold and bright, but rather shy and quiet. i wanted to give them that spotlight in this flag set by constrasting their warm palette with a cool one. i also wanted to portray butches as being smitten as we sit back and fondly adore femmes from the sideline. besides, the true nature of a butch/femme dynamic is private and intimate, and we can show our pride while still reserving the most of it for our lovers.

with that being said ─

"masculinity and gender non-conformity" should be self-explanatory. butchness is about challenging the expectations of womanhood especially, but any sense of expectations in a world ruled by gender roles. it also is built by its own unique characteristics of masculinity in such a queer and personal way. it is more obviously a "deviation from the norm" on the outside from femmeness, but that doesn't make it in any way more or less important to the identity.

"healing" derives from the original rainbow pride flag, and was something yet again inspired by the original post. my interpretation is that i've always heard, and now experienced for myself, how healing coming into one's true nature and fitting into the right body after realizing one is butch. the freedom of short or buzzcut hair, the comfort of casual clothes, and euphoria of the right hoodie or jacket, the embracing of a more masculine name, the honor of fulfilling a legacy, the music of a keychain jiggling in our pockets, the drilling sound of worker tools, etc. and anything else that butches throughout time and history have claimed makes them feel proud of themselves in ways that they never did before.

"protectiveness" refers to the role that butches play in our relationships. our story has collectively been built on our compatability with femmes, for whom we treat as a gentleman, knight, or otherwise a rank in loving servitude should. many of us aspire to be a prince rescuing our princess lovers from trouble, like in the fantasy books. it is a mutual agreement between us butches and our femmes that we look out for each other, and that's part of what defines who we are in this queer subculture.

lastly, the flower represents "passion." there is no butch who has ever lived without it. being butch requires the will to carry a reputation, a legacy, a love, a pride. otherwise, what's the point? this, and an eternal passion to exist for the eyes of femmes and the community of other butches. it's what makes the identity whole. it's one of the petals that make the flower pretty.

and here are the rest of the flag designs!! in order, top to bottom + left to right: female, male, lesbian/sapphic, gay, bi, alt bi, trans, bear, leather

#butch tag #butch flags #butch/femme #butch and femme #butch/femme dynamic #femme flags #flag design #flag meanings #flag symbols #matching flags #my flags #satanfemme

[butch-with-a-deep-voice]

Fellow tops out there. Anyone else get the need to just completely envelop their bottom? Just go completely primal and wrap as much of yourself around them as you bury your strap/cock as deep into them as possible. As much skin contact as is physically possible as you thrust deeper and deeper. Where the only way closer you could get is if your bodies melted together, and even then you'd keep fucking them in a state of pure carnal bliss. Where you stop being you, you are simply a top, put there to lose yourself in your bottom, and for them to lose themselves in you. To keep them so close it almost hurts as you cum, pumping every last bit of your very being into them. Holding them there for what feels like an eternity after because they are yours and you are theirs, and in that brief yet beautiful moment, you are one. Anyone? No? Just me?

#this isn't even about power dynamic #this is pure hedonistic desire #something i love about being as large as i am is most of my bottoms historically can be wrapped up in me entirely #sapphic #lesbian #sapphic nsft #sapphic ns/fw #lesbian nsft #lesbian ns/fw #nblw #nblw nsft #nblw ns/fw #wlw #wlw nsft #wlw ns/fw #butch #butch4femme #femme bait #service top #bite me #breeding k1nk #queer nsft #queer ns/fw

[veilfemme]

Butch daddy who is angry 🤝 femme princess who wants to be used as a fucktoy.

#veilfemme.txt #wlw nsft #lesbian #butch bait #wlw bd/sm #lesbian bd/sm #lesbian nsft #femme4butch #butch4femme #lesbian daddy #pillow princess #femme bait #ds dynamic #bd/sm daddy

[spacelazarwolf]

crowley and aziraphale are canonically not cis and their relationship is canonically queer and based on a combination of their aesthetics and respective roles in the relationship crowley is butch and aziraphale is his femme thank u and goodnight.

#good omens #ineffable husbands #already put this in the tags of a different post but i am dead serious abt this #their dynamic is so much like my friends’ butch/femme relationships

[pononoin]

“old woman yuri” My raw throat gutturally cried to the sky, my torturing shrieks of sheer unhinged agony echoing in the omnipresent empty space seemingly stretching out for eternity.

OLD WOMAN IN LOVE

#theyre a butch and a femme bc I said so #and i think it’s a superior dynamic #south park #south park post covid #kyle broflovski #stan marsh #sp style #art tag #finn’s epic ask box

[skelelephant]

hello artist who wants to make a genderbent au of a male-dominated piece of media. In front of you, you’ll see a copy of Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Fienberg and a google image search for the word “butch”.

You have two hours to come up with designs for some of these characters that aren’t femme. If you can’t accomplish this, your drawing hand will be removed from your person.

#signed a tired dyke who would love to not see high femme as the default setting #don’t get me wrong. I love femmes. sometimes a character Would Be Femme #but something. and hear me out on this #somethings they Would Not Be. #*sometimes #draw butches it’s good for you #give these people some butch/femme dynamics #I’m going to lose my marbles #sun in an empty room

[seyelence]

listening to high vis and yearning over long haired girls

#lgbt #ig: poppy.naomi #wlw #girls who like girls #lesbian #mine #me #fashion #non binary #androgynous #butch 4 femme #butch dyke #butch lesbian #tomboy #femme bait #d/s lifestyle #d/s community #d/s dynamic #skate style #sapphic

[bi-sapphics]

i think one of the things that helped me realize i was “allowed” to be butch was that it’s more like an identity and its own gender rather than a role in relationships - which can be a key aspect in a lot of cases and has always been for me whenever i dated girls without realizing it (seriously, looking back, all the girls i had a thing with but especially one were very femme in presentation and very timid and i remember being the strong confident one who just wanted to make her feel special), but as of right now i’m single and despite being butch4femme respectfully (i always crush on the more gender-conforming girls <3), it’s my identity. it’s what makes me transmasc. it’s what the tomboy side of me has led up to. it’s why i prefer the masculine, free-spirited, ambitious version of my deadname that i connected it to. it helps me feel stronger and more resilient, like i could be a leader with my confidence for myself even if no one else ever follows for any number of reasons (unpopular opinions, irrelevancy, whatever). it’s so much easier to not worry about how i look or appease to others and frankly as an autistic individual it’s so much better to just wear loose clothing that makes me feel more comfortable and is more of a simple style for me - similarly, i look so much more me with shorter (but wider across iykwim) hair and it’s so much more efficient to wash, comb, and otherwise take care of. i can’t even pull it back anymore, which is kind of a good thing tbh since i never could master that skill lmao. i love being butch, i really do, and i’ll always be grateful to the positivity blogs and flag creators that led to the idea that maybe it really was for me after all!! :>

#chase.txt #butch positivity #butch bi #butch bisexual #butch lesbian #butch sapphic #butch wlw #butch/femme dynamic #butch4femme #butch tag #tomboy #tomcat #tomcat bi #gnc girls #gnc wlw #transmasc #butchgender #transneu

[lazycranberrydoodles]

oh yeah hua chengs hair is NOT naturally curly btw if he didnt have 5 billion spiritual energy hed be spending an hour with the curling iron every morning

#and hairspray #modern hua chengs are high femme by necessity #hua cheng: okay i finished my full face and hairstyle and elaborate outfit #butch xie lian throwing on a tshirt and putting in a ponytail: ok i love you babe lets go #not art #tgcf #lmao #to delete l8er #hua cheng to mu qing: nice foundation match. was elf having a sale #xie lian: ok i dont know what that means but mu qing looks very offended LMAO #xie lian and feng xin in the corner at a function: 'so what the fuck is a cut crease.' 'I KNOW RIGHT???' #i dont see mu qing as fem as hua cheng. hes more like a pretty boy. but he will be bitchy about other peoples makeup #i have so many xianle quartet dynamics store din my beautiful mind

[butch-with-a-deep-voice]

I want to be needed. Not like, in a codependent way. I value my individual personhood too much for that. But for her to be possessive. Territorial. A little obsessed even. For us to go out and she won't stop giving subtle reminders that she's claimed this butch ass. Grabbing my arm. A light hand on my back. A little too dramatic/loud kiss on my cheek in front of others. Jumping on my shoulders when she gets excited. Pouting when I don't hold her hand for a long enough period of time. Sitting herself in my lap when at the bar regardless of how red my face gets. I want to go to the office, and when I go to check up on phone notifications she's just dropped little love notes. Maybe something to tease me, making it impossible to focus in the meeting I have in 20 minutes. For her to test my patience the entire work day whether it's in-office or at home. Because she knows the very second I'm alone with her she's mine.

I want to have to accommodate fashion choices because "ah fuck, I didn't realize she'd left a bite mark there". Because of course she did, I let her. She claws, bites, and yearns for my body and ensures the marks are there to show it. I don't like pain, but when it's that. When it's because something in her so primally needs me that it's like a vampire with blood, how could I say no. I'm hers after all. Hers.

I want to be at home, relaxing on my night to myself while she's out with the girls, and she sends me photo updates the entire time. Not as surveillance, but as a "yes I'm dressed this slutty but I'm still yours". To know that she can go out and be as sloppy as she likes and I know with certainty she's coming home to me at the end of the day to get worshipped. Destroyed. Devoured.

I feel so confident in situations like that. I stand tall. Take more risks. Drive myself to achieve more. I'm louder, laugh more, and more outgoing. Because she's claimed me. The way she acts some people will think it's a d/s relationship where I own her, but that couldn't be further from the truth. She's claimed me, and I handed her the lead with joyous serenity.

#sometimes i wonder if i am non-monogamous or if i just haven't found someone that possessive #the one person i was willing to 100% say yes i am yours to was this possessive but things burnt out fast there #this has nothing to do with power dynamics #bite me #butch #butch4femme #femme bait #sapphic #lesbian #nblw #nblw yearning #lesbian yearning #wlw yearning #sapphic yearning

[marsconer]

what if lupe garcia fanfiction ? she’s so girlfriend boyfriend

#oc fanfiction #a league of their own fanfic #a league of their own #lupe garcia #lupe garcia x reader #and childhood friends to lovers and #a butch femme dynamic those were very common on the old days and i really feel like exploring that

[bthebunnie]

I love finding times to be silly and make my subs laugh or giggle. It doesn't always need to be serious, and I love seeing them smile and relax even further from the release of silliness ☺️

#femme dom #bd/sm dom #dom/sub #bd/sm dynamic #nsft concept #bd/sm concept #k1nk community #queer nsft #nsft sapphic #i really love my subs #gentlefemdom #k1nk blog #subby puppy #subby bunny #sub4dom #butch bait #lesbian nsft #bd/sm kink #femdxm

[hotsugarbyglassanimals]

“well what does butch and femme even mean!!”

butch = complete rejection of femininity, and reclamation of masculinity (as a woman or nonbinary lesbian) to solely attract other women/sapphics.

femme = subversion and reclamation of femininity (as a woman or nonbinary lesbian) to solely attract other women/sapphics

These two identities are gender nonconforming due to the fact that womanhood itself is defined as a compliment to manhood. Historically, womanhood was only considered to serve men. Lack of attraction to men has oftentimes defined lesbians as “failed women”. For example, you can see this in how medical gatekeeping forces trans women to have to perform hyperfemininity and heterosexuality in order to receive access to transition care because those standards were considered the defining features of womanhood. This gatekeeping was significantly more widespread in the past (and I hesitate to say if that’s gone away in the present).

Butch and femme are two sides of the same coin. Counterparts. They are nouns, complete identities, not just descriptions. Butches protect femmes, femmes protect butches. They are also not mandatory or required to be a lesbian, so it’s not necessary to fit into either category. They are not “another gender binary.”

Butches are not “basically men” and they do not benefit from masculinity. Femme does not inherently mean hyper feminine, and it does not require performing patriarchally imposed expressions of femininity (such as wearing make-up, shaving, only wearing dresses). Butches and femmes are still butches and femmes even when wearing plain t-shirts and pants some days. It’s not an outfit to take on and off.

“Futch” does not exist as a material identity because butch means a strict rejection of femininity, while femme is a subversion of femininity. There are also roles that are considered with butch and femme, while futch does not have anything of the sort. “Futch” = neither, essentially.

This post is meant to be simple to get the basic idea across, as there’s more aspects to butch/femme culture that I didn’t go over. Butch and femme also involves specific behaviors in relation to courtship, roles, or protection of each other. You can read stone butch blues to get a better idea of that aspect as a starting point. That’s all! 👋

#lesbiansafe #lesbian #butch #femme #ok to rb ! #i didnt go into my personal experiences as a femme #but my nonbinarism and femmeness feels like the result of ‘failed woman’ a lot of the time #i cant go super deep into lesbian bar culture and I mainly wanted to explain the dynamics of modern butches n femme

[missvioletvillainess]

Butch Appreciation Post

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• Pretty little butch girls whimpering for you

• Handsome little butch enbies rolling their hips for you

• Big, strong muscly butch puppies all tied up and begging

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