#brutal honesty

[someonetooksendnoodles]

i love how grease rotpl reads like SUCH a musical. the choreography and way they filmed it felt so reminiscent of the way one watches a musical and it made my heart swoon a bit. also the talent of this cast is INSANE. oh and how could i forget, poc leads...in the fifities...being the main focus of the show!!!!!!!

#grease rotpl #rise of the pink ladies #ari notartomaso #marisa davila #cheyenne isabel wells #tricia fukuhara #shanel bailey #there were some songs i was not a huge fan of but thats just how it be but the ones i don't like are worth it for the gem that is #brutal honesty

[femme-dor]

“Brutal Honesty” or “Harsh Truths” are always used by those who are more about being mean than being honest & empathetic. It’s solely for the ego of the teller as a good majority of the time, no one even asked for said “harshness” or “brutality”. You can always be honest, helpful & get your point across without grasping at cathartic opportunities to be an asshole. If you feel like you can’t consider seeking help for your social issues.

#morning thoughts #brutal honesty #harsh truth #nobody asks for these #you can see how much empathy a person has for you #if they do this often #also people who say #‘I say what I need to say and move on’ #you’re not being this bold & brave martyr #you’re being a tactless asshole #who needs an excuse to be mean sometimes #queue are so beautiful to me #hot girl thoughts #choose kindness #kindess and respect

[butchwink]

#brutal honesty #scarlet-riot

[findingmyvoice-alossforwords]

They say “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.”

But I know that with a strong imagination, that apple can grow legs and run far, far away.

#thoughts #writing #journal #journey #life #healing #trauma #feelings #manifest #journal prompt #mantra #honest thoughts #brutal honesty #honesty #sayings

[linesandlattes]

most people who pride themselves on being ‘brutally honest’ are often the ones who lack the maturity to accept the slightest amount of feedback regarding their own flaws, a lot of the times they’re more interested in ‘brutality’ than ‘honesty’ both of which are typically unsolicited. As important as it is to be real, the art of expressing displeasure with humility is a virtue because remember when newton said, ‘tact is an art of making a point without making an enemy.’

#the art of expressing displeasure #honesty #brutal honesty #desi tumblr #relatable content #writers and poets #desiblr #writersofinstagram #writers on tumblr

[jessicalprice]

unbrutally honest

(Photo credit: Karolina Grabowska)

I overheard someone say, today, “Well, he prides himself on being brutally honest.”

The thing about that is no one who fits that description actually gives a shit about the “honest” half. They’re there for the brutality. They’re there for the chance to be cruel and feel morally superior about it. They don’t care about honestly anymore than a witchfinder cared about the safety of the community.

And you can tell, because they’re almost never brutally honest about themselves. They might tell you you’re never going to be loved because you’re annoying, but they’ll never say “but to be honest, part of the reason I wanted to say that to you is because I’m jealous of how successful you are at your job, how confident you are that people listen to you, and that’s really what I find most annoying.”

The truth can sometimes be brutal. And sometimes, there’s no way to give it to someone without hurting them. It’s a rare situation, for example, where telling someone you want to break up with them isn’t going to hurt. But you can always try to minimize the hurt. You can always strive to be kindly honest.

But that made me start thinking about toughness. I have a mother who sometimes engaged in cruel teasing to try to “toughen me up” when I was a little kid. And I’ve gone through some fairly horrific things in my life and survived them and now a lot of my friends tell me I’m tough.

The thing is, tough is not a virtue. 

It doesn’t make you morally superior. It doesn’t make you more mature. It’s just an adaptation that sometimes, tragically, you have to learn. Toughness can fuck you up--it can get in the way of connection, it can mean you don’t actually listen to people, it can inure you to others’ pain. But sometimes, it’s how you get through something. 

The job of people who love you is not to make you “tough.”

Their job is to help you become resilient. Not to ensure you don’t feel it when others hurt you, but to ensure you heal quickly from it, that it doesn’t damage you. 

Trying to “toughen someone up” by being cruel to them is trying to give them a thick skin by covering them in scar tissue.

The thing is, some things are still going to get through it. But when you’re covered in scar tissue, sometimes they can’t get back out.

And it’s hard to experience tenderness of the good kind with others when you’re not, you know, tender. 

And the thing is, it should hurt when someone is cruel to you, or even when they hurt you without meaning to. That pain is information: it’s a warning signal. It might mean that something is wrong with this relationship. It might be the first realization you have that they touched on something that is deeply important to you. It might tell you something about the parts of your identity that are important to you, and how you want to be understood by those around you.

We’re biologically hardwired to care about what other people think about us because we are social creatures. Being in community with others is a big part of how humans survive. Things that threaten bonds with other people, even in a minor way, are information we are instinctually primed to pay attention to.

What the people who love you should be doing isn’t trying to make you feel less. They should be helping you learn how to set appropriate boundaries (one of the most important things an adult can do for a child, I think, is to say “you don’t get to talk to her that way” when someone is cruel or belittling, and hell, sometimes it’s an important thing you can do for another adult).

What they should be doing is loving you enough that you know what healthy love feels like and know how to recognize it in other relationships, so that when someone says something that hurts you, either you love yourself enough to know it’s not true--which is not the same as it not hurting, it’s normal to be stung when someone says something cruel--or if it might be true, to be able to reflect on that without it becoming an obsession or a source of continual anxiety. What they should be doing is providing you enough love that you have safe people around whom to unpack something you’re worried might be true.

Being a mature, healthy human isn’t about being impermeable. It’s about being self-healing. 

Anyway, shabbat shalom or happy and restorative weekend.

#relationships #toughness #brutal honesty #resilience #love

[altaruwusmolboiz]

#rise of the pink ladies #all in #brutal honesty #nancy nakagawa #crushing me #pulling strings #racing for pinks #pink ladies #leonard daniels #thesbians

[littlehen]

Friends S1E1 / Derry Girls S3E4

#brutal honesty #parallels #derry girls #derry girls spoilers #sister michael #f.r.i.e.n.d.s #phoebe buffay

[achelewasmyobsession]

I have been listening to this song from Grease: Rise Of The Pink Ladies on repeat

It's sung by Justin Tranter who is the show's composer and has written 100s of well known songs over the last few years: Centuries by Fall out Boy, Bad Liar by Selena Gomez, Cake by the Ocean by DNCE to name a few.

#grease: rise of the pink ladies #grease rotpl #rotpl #grease rise of the pink ladies spoilers #tee hee hee #brutal honesty #justin tranter #Youtube

[musicfeedsmysoul12]

Brutal honesty hour brought upon you by me having a THC drink and BG3 crashing every time I try to play. (Please don’t have me lose everything again I will cry)

- Eri in a lot of fanfics is boring as fuck and I am taking great glee that in POP I have her be a foul mouth nine-year-old cause then at least she’s interesting.

No really there’s only so many ways you can write Eri without her being dry. Traumatized child who is adopted by Izuku/Aizawa. Cute and sweet. Gentle. I have seen it all before and it’s boring. So let me have little gremlin Eri.

-Misunderstanding fics are the worst fucking things cause there is no grasp of reality in them.

-I am very fucking angry some asshole wrote a fic saying I spired by photos and videos that was BakuDeku and went: author didn’t use the best pairing in their fic uwu and then just made Bakugou a victim of his mother and fuck that’s horseshit wtf. I don’t know if they’ll ever see this and I won’t comment on their fic this cause that’s being a dick but fuck how disrespectful is it to do that? How fucking DARE you go: oh they missed the best pairing, I’ll fix it and proceed to write THAT.

-I hate non-powered AU fics. I’ll give some a pass but fuck most are the stupidest shit ever cause they just have everyone WILDLY OOC. Not even a reasonable OOC either or slight changes to personality. Just OOC.

-some non-romance fics give me the ick cause they’re aggressively non-romantic in a weird sense of ‘oh I will not have children be in relationships’ or a weird sense of ‘I am better then you all for not writing romance’ or some flavour of baby gay is being weird and I can’t describe it. By non-romance I mean there is no romantic pairings at all and it’s not a fic about family or anything it’s a regular fic.

-Toga is a fucking awful villain. I fucking hate her so much.

#brutal honesty #not sober thoughts

[05germ]

got this glokk40spaz airbrushed shirt from @purplevolva on insta

#glokk40spaz #babywhoa #gl40 #babylifevamp #brutal honesty

[thegodwithinblog]

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#Brutal honesty #Inward reflection #Mental health awareness #Self-inquiry #Subconscious programming #Wisdom