#aromantic erasure

[almostshamelesspenguin]

Character: I think boys are pretty

Fandom: oh! They're gay! That's canon!

Different character: I have no interest in romance or sex. I don't understand it. Relationships confuse me. They seem pointless to me. I have no desire to be in a romantic or sexual relationship. I am an aromantic asexual.

Fandom: well, I guess you can interpret them as aroace...I don't see it though.

#has. has anyone else seen this or am i complaining about a virtually nonexistent issue #this is about a particular fandom that im not going to mention tho #not saying theres anything wrong with the first one either #but. cmon #bitches will give any excuse before having a character they can romantically ship #not every character needs shipping. not every character needs a realtionship #shut up for the love of god #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aroace erasure #aromantic erasure #asexual erasure #aroace rant

[thediamondarcher]

oh I'm sorry this AROACE character exists and you can't ship them with any other character because they're AROACE, must be so sad for you

#/sarcasm #aroace #aroace representation #aromantic erasure #aroace erasure #aromantic asexual #aromantic #aro #asexual #ace

[aro-absol]

Why the hell is the aromantic tag cluttered with so many romantic Valentine's Day gifts???

Now we are getting erased even in our own tag?!

What the fuck.

#aromantic #aro #aromantic erasure #aro erasure #vent

[lovequeerindigo]

worst thing ever is when someone is describing a character who has no interest in romance and relationships and then labels them asexual

#my post #aro erasure #aromantic erasure #aroallo erasure #arophobia #aphobia #aromantic #aro community #arospec #aro spectrum #aromantic community #aromantic allosexual #aroallo community

[zillywalten]

I'm tired of aro erasure have this

#i was gonna put “aro erasers” and realized an eraser is an object #aro #aromantic #arospec #aromantic erasure #aro erasure #do not tag as asexual #dont tag as asexual

[deadaldipshit-jpg]

I honestly hate how characters who dont like the opposute sex are automatically assumed to be gay. I hate it even more when the character explicitly shows no interest at all in any gender.

for example reyna from hoo was the first fucking aroace coded chracter i ever saw in a book. she was one of the first chracters to finally make me feel heard. i finally felt like there was a chracter i could truely relate to and who understood me. and i might sound like a bitch, but i absolutely fucking hate when people make her a lesbian. thankfully its rare to see her in a hetero pairing. but seeing her in a queer pairing isnt any better.

there are so many other chracters who would work better in queer parings, so why does it always have to be the aroace chracter.

Ive also noticed that its more common for a female aroace chracter to be put in lesbian pairings way more than male ones. correct me if im wrong though.

the aroace rep is so fucking rare anyways, so please stop putting them in relationships. while there are aroace people who want to be in relationships, not all of them want to be in a relationship, and they dont have to be you first pick for one.

im just so tired of seeing aroace chracters constantly being changed to fit ships. this might be very bitchy put for the fucking hell please stop.

#sorry for for the rant #but im really mad #inside percys brain #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aroace pride #aromantism #aromanitism #pjo #percy jackson #reyna avila ramirez arellano #rara #percy jackon and the olympians #aroace character #aro erasure #aromantic erasure #aroace erasure #asexual erasure

[januscorner]

If I see one more allo person completely twisting the definition of aromanticism to justify their erasure I’m getting violent. I literally saw someone say that a character stopped being ace cus he “found the right person” What the actual fuck

#aromanticism #aromantic #aro #aroace #aro erasure #aromantic erasure #hazbin hotel #Janus’s Corner

[citrusbusiness]

The amatanormativity is strong with this safety and security talk

#amatanormativity #aromantic #aromanticism #aroace #aro erasure #aromantic erasure #arospec #aro

[khruschevshoe]

My absolute hatred for asexual and aromantic erasure (the unstoppable force) v. My delight in any poly representation, especially as the endgame (the immovable object). Fight!

Won by: My sheer disbelief at people calling Riverdale the pinnacle of queer representation DESPITE THE ASEXUAL AND AROMANTIC ERASURE BAKED INTO ITS VERY CORE, I'M GOING TO WRECK SOMETHING-

#polyamory #aromantic #asexual #asexual erasure #aromantic erasure #riverdale #representation

[grizzlyofthesea]

Casual Aro-spec and A-spec Erasure 🙃

So, I was visiting a gallery in my home city, and they had some interesting items for sale. One of them was a neat-looking postcard from 1920s France that said "Bonne Année" (French for "Happy New Year"), and I wanted to buy it. The seller made some remark about how it will "attract my lover to me," I guess since it has a romantic picture on it. When I said that I only really want dogs in my life, she said that I'd eventually change my mind.

Then she told the cashier. They joked about it a bit, then started to put everything together so I could pay for the postcard.

I tried to just stay quiet and move on; I didn't want to cause trouble, especially since the seller knows one of my aunts. We talked about other things for a while, but then she brought it up again, unprompted. She said that I'd meet a man who's interested in the same things I am, and we'd connect. I said that I'd ideally just be friends with this hypothetical man, but she laughed it off and said once again that I'd change my mind.

So yeah. That was annoying. I know she didn't mean serious harm; she was very sweet and friendly to me otherwise, and she even gave me a 44% discount on the postcard when I went to buy it just for the heck of it. But man, I wish romance and physical attraction weren't always assumed to be parts of everyone's lives.

#aromantic #arospec #asexual #aspec #aromantic asexual #Aromantic erasure #Asexual erasure #Aroace erasure

[corelliaxdreaming]

This is a special fuck you to everyone, including the ace blog on my dash right now, who ever reblogged a post explicitly about an aroace character and tagged it “ace character” only. 💚

#arophobia #aro erasure #aro exclusion #aromantic erasure #aromantic exclusion

[thediamondarcher]

I would like to know in which moment Isaac's storyline didn't show him being AROace because y'all keep calling him ace and his storyline was always pointing at him not being ROMANTICALLY attracted to anyone, nothing sexual and it's something that happens to a lot of aroace people irl, like me, it's mostly the aromantic part that hits the most because we live in a world where romance and dating it's settled as something everyone wants/needs/has and for a lot of people the most hard part of it is accepting that you just don't fit on that. I'm aroace and it's like the ace part came with my discovery of me being aro and i know for a fact that I'm not the only one who had this experience. Seeing aroace representation is important and it is necessary and we don't get it a lot so please stop overlooking the aro part in every aroace rep we have

#isaac henderson #aroace #aromantic erasure #aro #aromantic #heartstopper series #heartstopper #heartstopper netflix #heartstopper season 2 #heartstopper s2 #isaac heartstopper #I'm posting this again hi #aromantic asexual

[aro-absol]

So, I gotta rant about a thing regarding heartstopper that I see so often and it annoys the hell out of me.

Isaac is canonically aroace. AROace.

It drives me crazy when people talk about him "discovering he's ace", calling him an "ace icon" or praising his "ace storyline ".

Like NOTHING about his storyline is inherently about being asexual. It is about not knowing what crushes feel like, not being able to reciprocate crushes, never getting celebrity crushes, feeling nothing when kissing, and just feeling out of place with his friends all dating. Those are all typical aromantic experiences.

Isaac is the only canonically aro character in a mainstream tv series that actually mentions the label on screen. The only other characters I can think of that are called aromantic on screen are in very niche j-dramas that are basically unheard-of outside the aspec bubble.

We need this kind of representation so badly. It could help raise the awareness that we need to fight so many arophobic stereotypes.

I do not like to play Oppression Olympics or anything as we all are fighting against aphobia and are barely represented. But... we literally need his representation more than the asexual community does. There are several other mainstream (or at least semi-mainstream) TV shows that have canon ace characters while also using the word asexual for them. There are Cash from Heartbreak High and Todd from Bojack Horseman, just to name two from the top of my head.

I'm not asking you to stop calling him asexual. Just, PLEASE call him aromantic, too.

#heartstopper #heartstopper spoilers #isaac heartstopper #isaac henderson #aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aroace #aspec #things i wrote in one sitting without proofreading #aromantic erasure #aro erasure #rant

[mod--soul]

Catching up with Lucifer I came across something that I had not seen discussed yet: The aromantic erasure/bashing in Season 5.2

So Spoiler ahead!

At some point Lucifer accuses God of being incapable of love - and discovers that he himself is as well, hence his inability to tell Chloe “I love you”.

To me that seems like the definition of being aromantic, the inability to feel romantic attraction. Which would have been an awesome concept considering the possibilities celestial beings provide across media (see trans angels in Good Omens).

But no, they made a complete mess of it instead.

The very next episode Chloe declares “No one is incapable of love”! Yelling and pushing Lucifer and shitting all over the experiences of aromantic people because they are “not normal”.

Good thing I had expected it to either be not addressed at all or be null and void it in a dramatic reveal.

Which they did, as it was apparently only the fact that Lucifer had never heard his Dad say those words to him that kept him from saying them upon is own “death” ... yeah, right ...

Magical healing indeed ... uargs ...

It could have been good, simple acceptance in a well-liked show that many people watch and a relationship based on deep care ... but no, only true love is the point of every relationship!

To any aromantic people reading this: I’m sorry you had to see that happen ... you are valid and should have your stories told respectfully!

If anyone has resources that covered this “plotline” from an aro perspective, please feel free to add them!

#Lucifer #Lucifer Morningstar #Deckerstar #aro #arospec #aromantic #aromantic erasure #analysis #chloe decker #diversity

[craycraybluejay]

kinda crazy that riot used the toothpaste gay flag when they already have a regular gay flag and yet has not had a single pride event with aro flags

#amatonormativity #aromantic erasure #pink capitalism #riot games #will forever be mad i cant crush my opponents in tft with a big Fuck Romance boom #or get the aro flag as a champ trail #like i am Pretty sure more people use the aro flag than the mlm flag especially since most mlm just use rainbow #is that not weird to anyone else?? #especially because they literally added the ace flag so they Know what ace/aro identities are????

[bloggingboutburgers]

Yeah, I know "not all aro/aces" and all, but please don't use "not all aro/aces" as an excuse to not explore anything exclusively aro/ace ever. Otherwise any trace of aro/aceness might end up effectively lost to fandom osmosis.

To sum up... If you wouldn't be homophobic that way, please don't be aphobic that way.

#no one can know i don't like sex #aspec #asexual #aromantic #tw aphobia #aspec erasure #my art #nonburger #am i gonna get bazooka'd for this #i think i'm making a good point others also have made before but i'm bracing to get bazooka'd for this #because... experience #anyway here goes nothing