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tiredstressedemotionalmess · 6 months

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hey this is kinda random but I was wondering if you had any advice about making patches? I’ve been wanting to make some of my own but idk what kind(s) of fabric & fabric paint would be good to use for it

YESSSS MY TIME HAS COME I LOVE GIVING PPL PATCH MAKING TIPS!!! im actually working one a zine abt this rn so ive totally got you covered

so pretty much any fabric you can get your hands on will work. i mostly use fabric from shirts ive cut into tank tops or crop tops, and denim from old jeans. both work just as well, but the tshirt fabric is thin and stretchy so i usually find it easier to paint less detailed designs on that. if i want a detailed design and im using tshirt material ill usually use a stencil bc it helps me keep the lines cleaner. using something like an embroidery hoop or some cardboard and safety pins to keep the fabric taught and hold it in place works wonders too

as for paint, i use a mix of fabric paint and regular acrylics. usually ill do a three base layers of white fabric paint, then go over top with a layer or so of whatever color acrylic bc the acrylics tend to be more vibrant and more opaque

using just straight up acrylic on fabric will work, but it may crack a bit and will probably fade in a wash a little. if ur just doing acrylic, try and limit the number of layers you do bc the thicker the paint is, the easier it will be to crack. personally, ive found acrylic tends to crack more on denim than on tshirt fabric- i think because the shirt fabric is thinner so the paint soaks all the way through instead of just sitting on top like with the denim. if im using shirt fabric and the design is simple ill usually just go right in with the acrylics and not even bother with the base layers bc of that

fabric paint is more flexible than acrylic bc its literally made for fabric. i use the tulip brand MATTE white paint, and im specifying matte here bc they have a fucking glossy version called "slick" that goes on soooooo fucking think when you paint it with a brush it just. its horrible it takes so many fucking layers to get any possible color the matte is so much better it only needs two or three to really pop

ANYWAYS- i use that most often bc my local craft store has it for cheap and like i said i literally only use the white stuff for base layers and shit. they have other colors but ive never tried them bc acrylic over the white works out just fine for me so. idk maybe using the colored fabric paint would save time in the long run- less layers and shit- but ive never tried to myself so who knows

you can make a pretty damn good fabric paint substitute yourself though too!! its like the middle ground between the store bought fabric paint and the acrylics in terms of flexibility. mix equal parts fabric softener with acrylic paint. ivr used this method a fee times and it works well. its definitely less cracky than regular acrylics but depending on the ratio it might take a few more layers and a bit longer to dry. its not as flexible as the fabric paint but its a bit more opaque so depending on how you want ur patches to look it might require less layers

uhhhh other things. stencil are my best friend when im trying to copy a specific logo or do a more complex design. i never fucking freehand letters- use chalk or a pen to get letter placement done first bc the grief of painting half a patch and realized the rest of the work doesnt fit is REAL. thrift stores have a lot of cool fabric with little designs and patters which i personally think are super fun to paint over and use as patches. if you have access to an iron ik some people like to heat set their patches by ironing them when theyre dry (ig it helps the paint stick to the fabric? ive done it a few times but im too lazy to commit to it regularly. might be good if ur just using acrylics tho). pretty much any fabric you have access to will work (hoodies, old socks, old bedsheets, ANYTHING) but knitted fabrics are hell to paint on and so id recommend avoiding those

thats everything i can think of off the top of my head!! sorry this turned into a whole fucking novel. i really like making patches and telling other people abt how i make patches :p

#asks #THANK YOU SM FOR ASKING ME AGAIN SORRY THIS TURNED OUT SO LONG I HOPE THIS WAS HELPFUL #i seriously love talking abt this sm god i need to finish that zine-#save #<bc im totally stealing parts of this for the zine later lmao #OH! and you should totally absolutely send me oics of whatever patches you make iyw :]

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imraespace · 5 months

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HELP hi guys😆😊 I have a funny story to share(it has a serious topic(?) just anemia so don't worry too much abt that) it will probably be long idk and also it's the reason I didn't updated the megumi smau yesterday so I say blame the discordians!

ALSO why did I blink and saw that I have 441 followers it probably went up but I'm too lazy to check.

okay anyways so my friend and I have this small server on discord it was originally my kpop server I made back in 2022 bc I wanted txt friends but then we kinda shut it down last year AND NOW ITS BACK UP! so we talk a lot in that server and SHE ASKED ME to pretend to be boys on the Greg bot yk the phone bot thing! so I was like oh okay! BC PPL ALREADY THINK IM A BOY ON MY REGULAR ACC so I used my second acc and created a whole other person(his name is ezra and he's a bleach fan.) right and it was harmless when we went on the Greg bot right made some mini bro friends right! I think someone actually wanted us bc they asked for our ig but um anyways.

EVERYTHING WENT GOOD UNTIL these two girls.

to understand my story better I have to over share on some stuff. my race is black and I'm anemic so since yk that my story will make some sense.

firstly when we said hi I said "yo" bc idk boys say that and my friend she had gave up on being a boy I just continued bc being a boy is fun.. AND WHEN MY FRIEND SAID HI she was like "HELLO" and boom drama started BC APPARENTLY THEY WERE LIKE "ik this call abt to be ass" and started talking abt how she said hello in all caps and my username (it was fw.ez HELPME) and I didn't notice them talking abt my friend first and only saw when they talked abt my username so I was like "dang dawg I'm.not even a boy" bc i thought yk harmless prank! but apparently I was using the word "dawg" wrong? WHAT😱 AND THEN PROCEEDED TO CALL ME WHITE. WHITE PPL CANT USE THE WORD DAWG? AND THERES A RIGHT WAY? so I was confused at first then I understood what they meant and told them im black I think they short circuit but still carried on with their arguments so I got mad and my chest began to race bc my anemia sometimes affects my emotions and I will get a tad bit emotional! so um I couldn't think straight I wanted to tell them some very bad words in dialect but they wouldn't even understand me so I was like I bet yall annoying as hell and it shut them up apparently AND YK MY FRIRND WASNT EVEN ON DISCORD I HAD TO DEFEND FOR MYSELF AND HER AND SHE CAME BACK AND WAS LIKE what's happening. GIRL. I told her what was happening and she called them dumb HAHAHA anyways then we came off the phone but THANKS TO THEM I HAD A RACING HEART AND A SEMI WEAK BODY with cold fingers and toes so I couldn't do anything I was going to write a new chapter for the megs smau bc I forgot to do it eariler in the day but I couldn't even think straight so I was up until 4am😒 with a racin heart and random emotional changes with my mommy gossiping abt some game we play(romance club it's like episode but better i recommend that you play the story called song of the crimson nile hehehheheja) and now IM HOME FROM SCHOOL BC OF THEM🤨😒😒

lesson of the day- ignore THOSE discordians!😉

oh and um a megumi update later when I'm feeling better🤫😉😉

#imraespace -♡#funny story but its just me ranting a bit #imraesrandom

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viviisweird · 9 months

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TMNT 2012 MIKEY FANFIC RECOMMENDATIONS!!!! <333

First, I wanna say tysm for the likes on the last list, I really, really appreciate it <333

Now, onto the fanfics!!!!!

Self-Harm by KKscendants

I cannot explain how much I love this fanfic

I love the concept, I love how it's not like, straight forward and actually needs emotional thinking and stuff

(I literally cannot explain-)

I don't wanna give out any spoilers, but plz go read it, it's amazing!!!

The observation

by crawlingupawall

I ADORE FARMHOUSE ARC SM!!!!!!

IT IS JUST SO GOOD LIKE-

Yea anyway, it's mostly view in Donnie's pov but it is extremely Mikey centric

Drop by Drop is The Water Pot Filled

by ViviTheGhosty

OMG, I CANNOT express how I love this

And ik I say that ab every fanfic I recommend, but I really think that all of them are really, really really good! And awesome! That's why I'm recommending them anyway

I don't like giving out spoilers so that's why I don't really describe any fanfics I talk about so yea-

swallow down (all your regrets)

by Keeryd

This one was just hella relatable if you ask me-

It is kinda short but I love it

(Idk what else to say lmao)

But anyway, I highly recommend checking Keeryd's account, I love everything they write <333

Mikey's Super Thinker Book!!! DO NOT READ!!! D:<

by YouDontKnowMe (Annonimous1000)

I'm honestly re-reading this one

I don't remove much of it, I just remember loving it (help-?)

Mikey's Cookbook

by Fighting Gold ButCoda

I think after reading the ones I already recommended, you will release that I deeply love mikey ED fanfics (totally not self-reflecting or whatever 🤭)

Anyway-

Entailment, maybe

by GOk1ttyg0

Ermm, yea-

(Idk what to type anymore, srry (ヽ´ω`) )

Mirum Videre

by short_bc_of_coffee

YES, OM YES

ONE OF MY FAV FANFICS EVER

I think that ppl dont talk ab psychosis that much, or at least not the correct way-

I adore this fanfic

I also love the b-team ^^

So this was very fun for me

And ofc, always read tags in any fanfic you're about to read; for tw and cw

Mikey's one shots

by SaheyMeine

I love the fanfic, but I adore the first chapter (character analysis)

i can make you happy, too!

by paindump

<3333

(I'm losing my mind)

Answers I Didn't Know I Needed

by PixiePerson19

(Oh, this is rottmnt mikey btw, I just want to put it in here)

I haven't read this one so I'm kinda nervous to put it in this list-

This is the first story I'm putting on the list without actually reading it

It's been in my 'to read' for a while so I'm just gonna trust my instincts and say that is pretty a lovely story <3

(Also, let it be known that the author (PixiePerson19) is literally hunting me,

I've seen them comment on almost every fanfic I've ever read, so now every time I open comments I bet that I will se them)

(Like, sir, what did I do to you ( ; ﾟДﾟ) )

Anyway, got distracted again-

Umm-

Idk-

That's enough for today :D

My goal was like 20 fanfics but I ended up with 11-12 of them, srry ( ﾟεﾟ；)

Plz tell me if you see any mistakes (like grammar mistakes, or maybe I imported the wrong link or sm-)

And, I'm so, so, so, sorry for basically lying about how fast will this list come out

I really thought I could do it fast but then a lot of things happened, and

yaddi, yaddi, yadda

So yea, haha-

I hope you love these fanfic as much as me <3

Have fun reading!!!

#tmnt #tmnt mikey #mikey tmnt 2012 #2012 mikey #michaelangelo #mikey #fanfics recommendations #this took me too long #i hate school #im gonna kms #im gonna cry #oh well-#I HOPE YOU HAVE AN AMAZING TIME READING THESE!!!!#ao3 writes are so underrated #so yea #ok byeee #<3

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communistkenobi · 2 years

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Hey Nick, I was wondering if you had any reading recommendations for ppl looking to get more into political/leftist theory? Ik you've posted a lot about The Authoritarian Personality and I agree with your insights and posts abt it and I'm considering picking that up! But I also wanted to know if you have any other recs besides that? Anyways, thanks so much, and give Muffin a pet for me! :^)

I would recommend reading historical non fiction written from leftist perspectives. I often find that to be A) a more approachable start if you’re not super familiar/comfortable with the more dense and abstract theoretical texts, and B) very instructive in what the actual value of leftist political thought is, how it’s been built and shaped throughout history, and the core contradictions that exist within class relationships. Reading about the Haitian Revolution is a great start, either Black Jacobins or Avengers of the New World (I’ve only read the latter but I’ve heard Black Jacobins is the better of the two so I recommend that one, Avengers was a bit dry). Cesaire’s Discourse on Colonialism essay is also fantastic, I find him to be very insightful (and funny) without speaking in the more dry academic tones you’d find in a lot of other theory. + I think it’s foundational in describing what colonialism “is”, not just as a historical process but as a historical force itself

I would also recommend David Harvey’s work, he’s a very influential marxist geographer and has written a lot about how neoliberalism is expressed in the built environment/urban contexts (+ I think neoliberalism is one of those concepts that’s extremely valuable to understand because it’s the dominant expression of capitalism, and knowing exactly what it is and what it does will be very useful in helping you understand a lot of what’s happening today economically). He also wrote what I believe is a fairly famous book called A Companion to Marx’s Capital, though I haven’t read that one. Everything I’ve read of Marx’s work has been fairly impenetrable, so (echoing advice I hear often) I would recommend secondary sources that either commentate or criticise his stuff. Which is extremely easy to find because everyone is responding to Marx lol

OH also Transgender Marxism is a self explanatory collection of essays on the topic of transness and marxism. I’ve read a couple of the essays in there that I’ve been impressed with, particularly Seizing the Means: Towards a Trans Epistemology and ‘Why Are We Like This?’: The Primacy of Transsexuality.

I can provide you the list of books I’ve bought and intend to read after I’m finished The Authoritarian Personality but haven’t gotten around to yet. A lot of the stuff ive read are journal articles / books that are written specifically to be taught in universities so they aren’t necessarily good to recommend because they can be hard to find/expensive/annoying to read. Although if you do want some recommendations in that vein I’d be happy to share a list + any PDFs I have on hand

Anyway this is what I want to read after I’m finished auth personality:

A People’s History of the United States (I almost always see this on “so you want to start reading leftist theory” lists)

The Jakarta Method (a book about the United State’s anti communist foreign policy during the Cold War. I hear the subject matter is pretty horrifying but very illuminating)

Are Prisons Obsolete? By Angela Davis

I also listen to podcasts about theory by other grad students but idk if that’s what you’re looking for. If you are I recommend Liv Agar and What’s Left of Philosophy. Obviously this has a lower bar on quality and fact checking but I find them enjoyable. Also if you’re into podcasts Blowback is really good (covers the Iraq War and Cuban Revolution).

Sorry this is a bit scatterbrained but I hope that helps lmao. If that’s not helpful I can take a look at some of the shit I have downloaded on my computer. Mutuals can also chime in if they have book/essay recommendations

#asks #book club

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remcycl333 · 2 years

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the whole thing with stuff like the MILD method and dream journalling is just that to easily and often lucid dream you need to be aware of what dreaming feels like (obviously u can have a lucid dream anyways but like, to have them whenever you want) so remembering as much as you can about your dreams when you have them is very helpful !!!

also, idk if uve heard this yet but a problem i tend to have with my lucid dreams are staying dreaming/lucid? like when i become lucid, i can struggle with grounding myself.... everyone has what works for them (i like to touch ppl in my dreams lol like holding their hands helps me ???) it sounds like you enjoy reality checking type stuff like counting fingers, but neways u should be very careful about sudden movements, strong emotions (u can be happy n excited n stuff but like,, idk in my experience i can hype myself awake i actually did this this morning <//3) and yelling !!! pls dont yell in ur dreams the world will fall apart so fast.... ah </3

uhh last thing- idk if u have any reason for wanting to lucid dream besides the fact theyre cool, but if u have somewhere u want to go (either within ur dream world like changing the channel, or to shift/manifest) theres so many ways to get there and for me its been really helpful to plan out different ways to do so in different situations!!! bc sometimes u become lucid in really weird situations and ur original plan (maybe finding a door for example) might fall thru..,, obviously its a dream so u can get weird and creative with it !!!

dream npcs (like the ppl idk i just like calling them that) can be sooo helpful i stg.. like u can ask them to help u ground or how to get to ur desired place!

most of the time they are fantastic (i mean, they are fragments of ur subconcious so like ,, theyre u and they know everything you know conciously and subconsiously,,) tho one time i tried to shift and i asked the npc that was THE CC I WAS SHIFTING FOR and they literally ran away from me. so ,, weird stuff might happen too .. ,,.. they all have distinct personalities lets say. id recommend u treat them like real people because they will most often act that way

neways long ask lol good luck dreaming!!!! <3

omggg thank u so much for typing all that out!!!

i had my first (and so far only) lucid dream a few months ago! i asked myself if i was dreaming and looked down at my hands (my reality check was counting fingers) and then i felt a shift and became lucid! it started slipping but i stabilized it but then after a few more seconds i lost it again bc i was too excited :/ it was still super cool tho!

i heard to stabilize dreams u should rub ur hands together which is what i did! i’m excited to have another lucid dream! oh also i heard to create a portal u could close ur eyes and imagine it and it’ll be there when u turn around?

i need to start remembering to write down my dreams tho!! i have really vivid dreams and remember a lot from them already but ik there’s always room for improvement!

thanks again for the tips i will keep them in mind! <3

#lucid dreaming

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obae-me · 1 year

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Hiiiii!! I was wondering if you are into webcomics? Well if you are I had some recommendations <333 Or if you are not pls ignore these cuz I am about to go on a ramble (so sorry)

A World Ruled By Cats- Ik the title sounds stupid but its such a heartfelt and amazing story and it made me ugly cry which was something I was definitely not expecting. 100/10 ( i am begging that more ppl know about this masterpiece) also it's not that long but surprisingly dense with plot.

No Doubt In Us- I AM READY TO SCREAM FROM THE TOP OF ROOFTOPS ABOUT HOW GOOD THIS IS! It is a realistic kinda romance yk, meaning that they didn't fall madly in love to begin with and we see how there were habits and traits of the other they disliked but also respected and how after seeing each others hardships they came to appreciate each other. It's funny , the art style is gorgeous , does a surprisingly good job balancing personal and external conflicts and it's a comic set in medieval times so you know its gotta be good XD Also, a lot of the times it's translated from Chinese and they don't do justice to the dialogue and how clever it is ,so kinda have to make sure you are reading it from sites that have translated it well.

Btw I originally read them from the "webcomics" app and at that time you didn't really need real money to unlock the comics you got coins for reading so I am not sure if it's realiable to still read from there I am sorry I do not have any other sources but search on google and you'll easily find them I think?

Anyways these are some things that brought me a lot of joy and since you write such compelling stories I thought you would like to read some too. You don't have to necessarily read them ( I am not doing this to force you lol ) but if you do I would love to hear your thoughts on them <33 (also sorry again for making this so long TvT )

I love webtoon! I haven't read any in a while, mostly because I binge, I can never consume media normally XD

Thank you for the recommends! I'd love to check them out!

#not writing #asks #anon

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hyperpopplaylist · 1 year

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wdym daily multivitamins arent good for u

OK wait i might have dramatized it / slightly misrememberd some stuff like i wouldnt say its like "not good for u" in the sense that it poses an extreme danger or risk. its more like, theres not as good as regulations as there should be and a lot of labels might contain inappropriate info/dosage . also multivitamins/vitamin supplements in general are really only useful/necessary if youre otherwise low on the nutrients theyre providing (liek if you have an eating disorder, or if youre poor & can't eat well bc of that, etc) and on top of that, you may be unnecessarily dosing yourself with too much of a nutrient without even really knowing bc multivitamins arent made to an individuals needs/body (which can have varying effects depending on a lot of factors)

like our bodies arent necessarily made to absorb nutrients from a pill, the best and most effective way to get a particular nutrient you may be deficient in is to start eating foods rich in it (unless your body in particular cant process it in a regular way). vitamins in general arent usually rlly good to be taking daily long term, it seems better to take them for a short term, specific use as a treatment, esp if youre not needing them for a disorder or smthng

TBH i would just recommend researching whatever vitamins youre taking or interested in, some key things i look up are: "best dose" "side effects" "uses" with the name of whatever im taking + i add on "reddit" if im struggling to find anything.

one of the best examples of this to me is melatonin, ik its not a vitamin but still, theres a lot of stuff like this. you'll almost definitely find it on the shelves at doses starting at as low as 1mg (if youre lucky) to around 10 or possibly even as high as 20mg. i personally haven't found any in a store lower than 1mg. but actually, the most effective doses range from as low as .1mg-.6mg (though it will always be different per individual) and it seems like ~0.3mg is what a lot of ppl report as the best dose for them. that means a decent amount of ppl are taking ~33x what could be the appropriate dose for them! now ofc, doing this for even a long time won't kill or possibly even hurt you. i took that much for a long time, and would even wake up in the middle of the night and take more! at the standard doses we see, a lot of ppl report worse, disrupted sleep. you'll most likely safely go back to normal after stopping for a while if any of this info is alarming lol. anyway ya ^ this is my essay on vitamins Thanks im nawt like an expert or a scientist im just autistic

#orry my drug autism carries over to vitamisn and supplements -_-#LONG POST

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foshi · 2 years

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Wait what deep sea horror movies are there?? Do u have any recs? Omg

hi i do have recommendations but my taste in most things isnt super refined just a heads up!!! a lot of these movies arent rlly rated well i just see the woter and im like "hm scary and good enough for me!!

also a lot of these arent really deep sea and/or horror. ill take what i can get tho fr fr as long as its vaguely on theme.

theres a movie called 47 meters down which. was good and i liked it!! its abt these two gals who find themselves in a sunken cage at the bottom of the ocean in shark infested waters and um. its very nerve wrecking and i rlly liked the ending tbh? and lots of tense moments. disclaimer tho ik movies that vilify sharks contribute to stinky things and also i understand that sharks r just creatures tryna eat and not starve and i adore them. predators under water just hit different and movies abt them are Sometimes fun. tbh usually i avoid movies where the whole premise is Scary Shark but this one involved them being trapped in a Cage so it intrigued me

theres also a movie called the cave that i rlly enjoyed parts of but i was so let down by other parts!! these lads find an under water cave and go to explore it. idk how much i should spoil but the one aspect of it that i didnt like is that the set up seemed very practical and realistic and then it strayed so far from what is possible/plausible here on this earth and i think they could have avoided doing that by being a little less scifi with their creatures, and it would have made it so much better. but overall i liked it!! the cave is completely uncharted & Not an environment humans have any business surviving in so. yeah i want more movies just like that.

i Sorta have the similar beef with the movie sea fever? but it seems less out of place somehow. but also its more like.,,, boat horror?? less conflict takes place in the Water so it didnt rlly capture my interest the same tbh. but it was still worth watching imo!!

underwater was solid!! i rlly liked the aesthetics of it, i Loved the Creechure sm, plus like. having to travel so far underwater is so scary, the premise of going along the bottom of the ocean.,,, awful and exactly what i am looking for in a scary aquatic movie. thinits a bit more ,,?marvely than the rest almost. that isnt the right word but i hope it translates.

the meg was entertaining enough but overall i think im more interested in movies that explore unwelcoming habitats with unknown threats than movies that are strictly about big scary monsters. also there are ppl on tiktok who still think its possible for a megalodon to exist Currently so it just. bothers me

i was uninterested in jaws tbh? and i refuse to watch piranha bc,, swarms of things freak me out in a Different Way

Now onto the things i Havent seen yet:

ive been meaning to watch leviathan but its .,, Old. same with abyss. ill get to them soon i think!! but i dont rlly have high expectations. same with the reef

also i heard deep rising is rlly good, and its the next movie im gonna watch!! i am. excited >8)

and then i have a list of other movies i will watch at some point but seem much less interesting for various reasons such as:

deep blue sea, eurpoa report, sphere, endless descent

tho there are some books that peak my interest more than these movies, so who knows!! i heard the novel sphere is a lot better than the movie anyways.

#tldr there are a lot of aquatic movies that are ok and not enough that are actually.#about the Deep Sea #so i gotta settle for 'ooh scary shark' movies #which still interest me idk #im surprised europa rising doesnt interest me more it just. idk it doesnt #seems more space than ocean

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uncle-fruity · 1 year

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sorry i just saw ur post abt singing voices + T and like , yeah !! i think it really doesn’t help that right now the ppl most vocal abt sharing transitions are at most 1.5 yrs in, when yeah ur shits all over the place. i been on T for 4 years now n i have my full range back - all my old high notes + extra low ones. ik the internet is bad for this but ppl really need to seek out info from sources which aren’t just the most visible, post-pandemic transes lol

Sorry, I'm just now getting to this!

I honestly think most of the fearmongering comes from TERFs and some of that rhetoric seeps into our community by targeting isolated, angry, afraid transmascs & exacerbating transmed/truscum ideology. I also think a lot of it has to do with projecting personal insecurities onto the whole community. Like... I have this theory that a lot of the usual fearmongering (ruining your voice, warnings of body hair & baldness as if they're bad things, becoming smelly etc), when it's not being pushed by TERFs, comes from transmascs who already had pre-existing self esteem issues that they're having trouble working through even after going on HRT.

I mean, in addition to just regular dysphoria that a lot of people feel, I think there's a lot of focus on appearance and youth in some cultures (certainly in the mainstream culture surrounding me) - especially if you were raised with the expectations of femininity on your shoulders. People are afraid of being undesirable and ruined, but the real fix for this is to be kinder to ourselves and understand that aging happens (balding, thicker body hair, wrinkles all a possibility) and attractiveness is subjective. Like, I think bald chubby hairy men are sexy as hell, but that's not the narrative that gets pushed in the mainstream. Unfortunately, a lot of folks seem to internalize their fears and convince themselves that the fearmongering talking points are real, falsely attributing those talking points to their own experience with T. Essentially, blaming the hormone for their dissatisfaction instead of examining their personal insecurities & doubts & the culture surrounding them and how that might change their self-perception and their perception about what it means to medically transition.

It's a nuanced thing. It comes from all sides, but I try not to blame our own too harshly, as I consider them victims of anti-trans and body-negative propaganda. I simply encourage everyone to not conflate personal body concerns with the reality of what it means to take T. I don't recommend starting T unless you're ready to accept all the changes that could come with it. And I don't recommend getting your information about HRT from just any old chucklefuck -- see what people who have been on the hormone for an extended period of time have to say about it.

And, to your point, I think it's so important for people newly on T to practice patience and not speak as experts on the full process when they haven't gone through it yet. It can be hard especially if you're younger and you've been told (INACCURATELY) that transitioning is something that needs to happen on a specific timeline. But I'm (a little over) 1 and a half years in and I know that I'm still coming into my beautiful "new" body. I've talked to enough long term T users that I have faith my voice will settle and I can retrain my singing just like any other skill. As well as other concerns I might have if I was convinced things happen quicker than they're actually going to.

Anyway, sorry to go off! It's just what I do haha

tl;dr: don't trust any old rando on the internet for HRT advice (especially if there's no way to confirm they're actually trans people & not just terfs pretending to be trans under the anonymity of the internet). Be kinder to your body no matter how it changes.

Thanks for the ask!

#farsaing #ask box #hrt #transgender #gender #transmasc issues #queer #psa

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anarchistbitch · 2 years

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hiiiiiiiii dkfhjdhf sorry, i know i went missing for a long af while and now im basically spamming you BUT i watched Fire Island tonight

what a great fucking movie, recommended it to everyone I know now, it was fantastic and I loved how they managed to incorporate a letter into the storyline, and Noah, I really feel for him and love him as a character and would love to be friends with him, Will was amazing, I laughed so much at his dancing lmao I loved Charlie, he really does give the perfect Bingley vibes, and Howie, damn, I adore him, seriously, and that scene at the end where they see the older queer couple dancing in the pier ahhhhh I loved it so fucking much, but most of all the thing that really filled my heart with happiness was seeing the queer community and found family in the movie, that's something I want for myself, to live with people who really understand, being in the closet is exhausting, and while I'm out to a lot of people there's even more people from whom I have to hide myself, I'm not ready to come out either but I just hope that when I do I can find something like what they have :'3

-M<3

FIRE ISLAND FUCK YEA[answering posts in reverse order cuz the tumblr keeps glitching and my drafts dont get saved;-;] also for some reason i didnt realize fire island was like. a real place. anyway <3

i really really loved that they incorporated a letter into the storyline it really cemented the pride and prejudice inspo . on that topic have you seen the lizzie bennet series?? its a youtube web series and it was so good like p&p works always slap

back to fire island , i really loved seeing the entire film consist of queer ppl and noah's narrations , and also the hierarchy that exists within the queer community[also help i screamed when the ppl at the "highest" were mostly white/abled/attractive like fire island was written really well huh]

the narrative structure of it happening on the days of the week was so pleasing for some reason but really that much did happen in 7 days?? phew

will. i cannot. so heres the thing right, i knew conrad ricamora from htagwm and i thought he was a pretty cool actor. but he was so much hotter in this movie???? like when he said"okay. you win" I BLUSHED SO HARD😳😳

i really liked the way the movie portrayed that while some queer things are universal its still a vastly different experience for everyone and like. yea

noah was such a fun main character like the way he was pretty nice at the start but then is immediately bitchy™ the moment he finds out that will looks down on them ["he is not hot enough to be that annoying" (my first thought was will thinks that noah is hot?? lmaoo)]

AND YES being closeted or partly closeted can feel so isolating and exhausting ,being around queer ppl is so ahhh it just makes me feel safer and makes my heart feel fuller somehow. the old queer couple dancing was (at least in my opinion) one of the most important scenes cuz!! i feel like a lot of queer ppl dont really see the future as a concrete thing(ik its a general thing also but its different from a queer perspective )!!! and just maybe in the future we'll be dancing in the sunset!!!

p.s. i really truly hope with all my heart that the future you want becomes true. you deserve it

#m for mwah! and mwah! and mwah

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winslowat3am · 2 years

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Ur the only rich person ik who isn’t detached from the reality of privelege u have, i just got into ur yt and just wanted to say I like ur honesty, the transparency about ur life (I knew ur a model b/c I saw u in catalogs but i never knew u were homeless b4), and the advice u give ppl about money management

It would be awesome if u created some kind of post with links for educational stuff that could help for money management/increasing income and tips for some jobs and how to be successful on yt too, or if u just dived deeper into those topics here I think it would help a lot of ppl especially with the way the economy is spiraling atm

Rich people who are born into wealth don't understand how fortunate they are because they're detached from reality. Or rather, they live a totally different reality from yours, & often have nepotism play a huge role in their success. I wasn't born into a rich (I hate this word, btw) family. My parents had average jobs & worked hard to provide for myself & my siblings. We were poor. I worked my ass off for years to get to where I am because I saw how my parents struggled to provide for us when I was a kid, they had to sell things we owned when they didn't have enough money for bills or food. & it sucked. I knew at a young age that I didn't want to be in that position, unironically it's why I didn't go to college. I got in, but ultimately I changed my mind cause college is stressful if you're not committed to finishing, which I wasn't, & it creates a huge amount of debt for you as soon as you're considered an adult, I've always kind of seen it as like, a "set up" for failure. On purpose. Specifically American colleges. I know that's weird if you don't get it. I have friends who have dropped out of college & know people with degrees who couldn't even get a job at McDonald's. At the end of the day, even if you go to college & graduate you most likely will still have to qualify for the average job & end up working for someone else. While in thousands of dollars of debt. Let that sink in. That's my point, I sat & thought about it one day & I wasn't okay with the idea of working my entire life for chump change until I'm considered "too old" to work. It's so fucked up how this world uses people & tosses them away. So I ditched the college thing & became an entrepreneur, which thank God I chose to do. I started reading books, taking business courses & studied the industries that I was interested in *hint hint*. I actually do talk a lot about this & give advice on IG/YouTube (GRWM playlist), but if you just want me to post educational stuff here I can, but I need specific context recommendations other than $$$ management. Like, what jobs are you interested in? What are you trying to accomplish through YouTube? Are you trying to advertise on there? Do you have or want to start your own business? Anyway. If you want to be happy, you have to work for you. I've been through so much bullshit throughout my life, I deserve to have an easier & happier rest of my life (& you do, too). That was the first thing I learned. That reminder helped me make a lot of tough decisions.

#& now i get to pay my parents back for all their sacrifices & love #which is the best feeling #dm me recommendations #ask #inbox #📬#answered #this is a shortened ver of my original answer #there's more work to building your dream life than just manifesting #long post

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fairycosmos · 2 years

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chloe, congrats on getting a job!! i really hope you'll like there 💞 when is your first work day?

i'm having a job interview next week. do you have any tips on how to survive a job interview without being like a complety nervous wreck? and do you an idea how to explain the gaps in a resume lol

thank u lovely ur a peach 💞 it's on monday so im currently in a haze of trying to download all the right stuff and fill in all the forms since it's part working from home part in the office ughhhhhhhh

anyway 2 answer your question omg job interviews are the worst but i honestly see them as like, a bit or a chance to play a character or something lmfaoooo. idk if that's helpful to you but yeah i have found that pretending i'm someone else kinda helps with the momentary nerves. playing up all of your achievements/positive qualities, smiling, trying to make eye contact, trying to come across as someone who loves working - it's like embodying a role. you don't have to be anxious because it's just a corporate persona and not you-you, though of course you have to try to come across as genuine as possible despite the fact.

another big thing or perhaps the biggest thing is just being prepared. you've probably already done it, but if not i really recommend looking up general interview questions and then planning out your answers to them in advance. even in bullet points so they're easy to remember. word your responses professionally and use positive vocab. this saved my life on a few different occasions, seems like knowing what to say and how to say it is half the battle tbh. take deep breaths beforehand and repeat kind affirmations to yourself if you get overwhelmed to put yourself in a better headspace. you are genuinely capable and you genuinely have a lot to offer and if that comes through in the interview, that's what matters.

about resume gaps - you can really use the pandemic to help explain them honestly, a lot of ppl have been without work and employers know that. and they might not even focus on it as much as you think they're going to. but i guess my main tip for that is to be diplomatic ab it. like, explain why you think this position is a great way to get back into working so it turns into a positive rather than a negative. if you've done any volunteering or anything at all that has expanded your skillset while unemployed, really try to impress that upon them. if you emphasize that you've still been very motivated and work-driven while looking for a job (even if you haven't lol) then i think you'll be alright. put a nice spin on it to make it look like it was your choice while you were preparing for the career you really want i.e the position you're interviewing for.

i also think it's important to treat it like a conversation more than an interview, too. you're seeing if they're decent employers just as much as they're seeing if you're a decent candidate. so i try to tell myself, alright. it's a 10-20 minute talk and then i'm out of here and if i don't get the job i never have to see these ppl again anyway and life goes on so i'm not going to torture myself over it either way. you know? i feel like this is total word salad because i can't organize my thoughts rn lol but good luck!!!💞💞 if they don't end up hiring you i wanna stress this: try not to take it personally. even though ik it's really hard and i still take it personally every time it happens lol but the reality is they're prob seeing tons of applicants and it's mostly about timing and luck rather than anything to do with you. im rooting for you!! 💞 promise it's not going to be as bad as you think, the build-up is always worse than the actual thing. sending u love and manifesting the job offer!! 💞

#anon #long post #i only have a six month contract w this company so i gotta refer back to this when im inevitably interviewing again lmfao sighh

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comradedream · 2 years

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hi i am not even on dsmp tumblr but i want to join here it seems so nice but tumblr layout makes me wannavcry its very confusing any tips

HI that’s cool WELCOMEE um um idk i kinda just jumped into it, u get the hang of it pretty quick. first thing i’d recommend is just checking all the settings, there’s not too many n just adjusting basic things to how u like them is probably a good start? like u have to turn on the option to receive anon asks, u have an activity button u can turn off (like last active two hours ago) etc. making mutuals is easier on here imo than on twitter cuz there’s no follower count and stuff so just interact w ppl leave tags and stuff those are fun ! we don’t have groupchats LMFAO💀 but it’s still easier to make friends imo

our search and block functions suck so don’t bother too much w the first but block whoever u want anyway it makes ur life sm easier. settings -> general settings is where filtering is, it’s super useful i use it religiously it’s kind of like our scuffed version of the mute function? for filtered tags just put stuff u don’t wanna see tagged with that (so like anything from #dnf to #tw *trigger* to #discourse) and for filtered content put any WORDS u don’t wanna see posts mention (like ‘tumblr’ and now posts mentioning tumblr will be hidden behind a little click.) put tws and stuff in tags, and put content creator neg and crit tags if u do either of those in the post. i just use #name neg #name crit don’t use the minecraft tag or tag unrelated stuff under ur posts (like don’t put #dreamwastaken under a post about karl.) dtblr is notoriously bad at using main tags lately but if u wanna gain exposure it’s a good idea and we’ll probably start all doing it again eventually anyway. it’s good for organizational purposes too if ur into that like if u tag all art u reblog with #art u can search that in ur blog search and find all of it

don’t be a sideblog😭 life is so much easier as a main blog (so just use the one that u made signing up.) web tumblr has more options on designing ur blog and also more settings i think so check it out at some point. mine is rly basic so i’m not a good person to ask for rlly crazy layouts but i can give u my html code for how i made the links in my bio? dm me if u need anything honestly like u can ask me about any ‘courtesy’ rules on how we do stuff or blog recs or whatever. or u can send asks w more specific questions im so bad at summaries 😭😭 this is all off the top of my head ik i focused on tags a lot cuz that and asks r probably the most unique to tumblr commonly used features idk what else to add lolllllll. u do get the hang of it pretty fast though i promise don’t stress too much and good luckkk ^_^

#asks #i feel like people find their place in the community p fast if u interact w ppl like it feels like i know everybody LOLL #dtblr just feels Small

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stray-tori · 3 years

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An Innocent Sin & the good gay flashback ft. my descent into madness

I wasn’t sure if I should post this but I mostly want it archived so here we go. This is from like,, September?

So. “An Innocent Sin” is a dumpster fire unlike anything I’ve ever seen. I don’t remember why I decided to read it. maybe I was crazy. Either way... I read it. It soon started to touch upon (very very outlandish) sexual abuse which I thought was interesting. (the angst, not so much some of the wack circumstances surrounding it)

ANYWAY. at some point... we have a flashback. And not just that. It has a gay character.

And it turns rly gay. which mind you, is still in a het smut manwha (that has a “gay” side couple, but still!)

And it destroyed me.

For those who want to read it because I genuinely think the flashback is a decent bit, it’s all the bonus chapters between chapter 77 and 78 I think. There’s a part before that too, but idk where exactly anymore. (It’s on lezhin! or your platform of choosing)

I don’t THINK you’ll need any other knowledge to get the flashback bit? but it’s been a while.

Below the cut (rip mobile users), you can read all of my amazing reactions (all of these were text messages, for context - but I took most of the replies and convos about other things out). Post is also tagged as long post. :))

(i’m serious, this is fucking long)

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Here I am. Liking the gay flashback character. Feck. Main dude is still straight but idk it's cute pff

This is a mess. The girl white hair likes, likes black hair, maybe, but thinks white hair is attractive

What just happened is sth I'd like to know too pff He's so cute tho omg. Watch me melt Can we stay in this flashback before everything got perverted af and before white hair gets assaulted all the time I would send an eyebrow emote if I could Context: he's asking he says it again

Ik it's not mutual but loookkk he's so sweet. He's kinda rude in present time, can't we stay in this flashback forever

I never asked for gay, never expected gay but I got gay

This story is trash why am I still reading it shdhhd

He caught his mom cheating. And now she's forcing him to watch??? What is thissss Well adoptive mom But still sudhdidu what Bitch how dare YOU exist

Save my babyyyy

Yay sister that's not yet a rapist to the rescueee

This flashback is actually just nicer in every way let's just stay here This is a super long flashback btw Idek anymore what triggered it

Okay I think I'm gonna make the sensible decision and let this dumpster fire rest and just go sleep

It was very wild. I kinda wanna see white hair get therapy but it has 90 chapters and I'm at like 30... So I'm very concerned this is gonna be very dragged out. Idek if it's even finished ahahsududi - but I do kinda wanna see where it goes and see more cute Noah (white hair) so. Here we are.

yeahhh like i was down for the sexual abuse angst but then the mother killed the adoptive son's mother bc the dad had a thing for her?? and it was someone a person studying with white hair knew and so he's investigating and I'm like how did this turn into a crime organisation kind of plot

hhhhhhh i... i appreciate these horny things also tackling abuse but it always kind of gives me weird vibes to have both, especially when its very horny. And when people are horny to people who've been abused. Idk but I'd assume... you might try NOT to tie them up if they're frequently bondaged during their assaults. I'm just.... disjdksdj hello?? am i weird?? why are they fine with it???

also this manwha is so wild, theres this murder mystery investigation thing and then theres just a couple doing honry stuff sprinkled in between and i'm like OKAY

they rescued a guy in their basement and he's understandably very traumatized and they're trying to question him cut to our main couple trying bondage which i still dont understand bECAUSE HE'S A RAPE VICITM WHY ARE YOU OKAY WITH THIS the ones questioning arent the main couple of course but idshkjds

like im glad he's somehow okay with all this horny stuff despite his trauma and im glad he can be happy and have a nice relationship but DO WE NEED THIS MUCH OF IT he's very cute tho

i like that even when i try other stuff lezhin recommends me it still has large amount of gay in it

[mei: i mean... that's pretty great, if you ask me]

I mean I agree, I'm enjoying the gay eheheh these tonal whiplashes there's not even that much white space between the panels fhjd nvm it just turned horny goddamn it can there be 1 chapter without fucking? okay, there were the flashbacks

WE ARE BACK IN FLASHBACKS but im not getting the gay relationship, sad

OH WAIT AM I GETTING GAY COMFORT bc thats very good too

OH NNOOO this turned sad very quickly

I'M SORRY IM SPAMMING BUT THIS IS JUST ANGSTY

I'M :((((

different species confirmed

I rly like them :((( I like the current girl too but it's just..... very horny with her. the flashbacks are nice [current tori edit: she’s very unloyal idk why i said I liked her] im weird HHHHH RIPPP

someone help him he looks so saddddd

not sure if thats the most healthy relationship but I'LL TAKE IT

AWWW black hair's mom cooks mild food for them bc Noah can't eat spicy food :((( im soft

PFFF

I LOVE THE FLASHBACKS :(((

awww

i feel like theyve done much more bonding than noah's current relationship. I mean yes I think its cute when she comforts him, too, but they rarely do anything besides be horny together

OH OH THEY'RE KISSING

best buildup, honestly

the position is hornier than I'd like later here goes hope it stays cute

D-did someone just respect the word "stop"??? I am amazed

i think you might uh. have some trauma stuff too so yknow

Dohye is a little dramatic in his reassurance but it's all rly cute so I'm :(( I like them a lot pls stay like this getting invested in flashbacks is always like: ik it wont stay but pls stay like this

hELP

chapters ending in "i wanna touch him" is never good. I'm scared. Oh okay he didnt do anything. PHEW. He's already better than the girl, can't they just end up together lmao

[Noah was jealous]

w-why do you look so evil dohye haukdhjs

oh. oh no. the horny is starting. pls dont... just be cute forever

DOHYE NO YOU WERE SO DECENT WHY ARE YOU LYING ABOUT KOREAN TRADITIONS TO GET HIM TO DO STUFF HORNY STUFF TOO NO PLS STOP I JUST- WHEEE TvT the manwha is actually less visually horny in the flashbacks but im not sure if its bc its BL which isnt rly the genre of the manwha or if its bc they're still kids basically, which... I'd respect the latter, tho I'd prefer it to be like this constantly haha

okay. he's not respecting stop anymore, but it's also more of embarrassed nature more than "no i dont want this stop" so maybe i can forgive it. Still losing points, but he hugged him and it was sweet so HHHHHHHHHHH NOT SURE HOW I SHOULD JUDGE THIS SITUATION

They [Noah’s family] forbid him to visit his friends house I AM DEVASTATED

understandable they're a rapist, a fucked up murderer mother and a father with a thing for younger women so

tho he dont know any of that but yknow he's so pretty just fucking end me on the spot

hooo

they are boyfriends and ik from the future that his sister is gonna ruin it allll she has those drugs that make visual imaginations feel like they rly happened to the person (dont know if thats real but holy fuck its terrifying) and she's used it before to say that Noah assualted her. and im pretty sure shes gonna use it again bc there was a panel of Noah remembering Dohye being uhhhh intimate with her and thats why Noah began to hate him and im so sad im not ready for it. bc he's denied it in the future and i honestly couldnt see it happening even before that or she drugged Dohye, i guess thats a possibility too

[current tori: oh girl, it’s neither and it’s wack]

which if, btich you gonna die even more enough rambling, more reading. this makes me so sad but also spicy

on the manwha note, he thinks Noah doesnt like his family bc he's adopted and doesnt feel comfy which....... fair enough i suppose. and he's so cute im gonna melt just looK AT THIS

SHUt UP, IM GONNA CRY

OH MY GODDDD he ate like ice and gum and all that, and Dohye assumed it was bc of the more spicy food and got rl worried, but he was just trying to get the smell out of his breath bc he wanted to kiss him ukhsdjs HOW CAN YOU BE SO CUTE HELLLOOOOOOOOO

look at them. LOOK AT mY BABIESSSS

how am i ever gonna care about the main couple again aww he-he wanted to go to the same highschool as him :((( im sad bc i know its not gonna happennnnnn

[mei: also at this point, you're literally never gonna care about them. i don't even know the main couple that well and i honestly don't care about them whatsoever.]

WAIT NO they're actually going to the same school awww ik it wont take long until sister fucks it up for them but for now theyre so sweet ohmygodddd

cant he move in with them, fuck his family honestly

dohye he's not a fucking pokemon iukhsdjs

oh. its. turning horny i am displeased with this development but i guess its natural for their relationship however COULD YOU DO IT AT HOME AND NOT IN SOME DUSTY SMALL ROOM how do ppl do this i like that the comments too are just "... is anyone still carng about the other girl?" sakjds

this is the best 3 panels in existence.

h-he just took your hand dohye idk what to tell you

[mei: "you blush at everything i do" god if that isn't me, idk what is]

awww its cute dohye is getting bonus points bc he invited Noah over while his mom wasnt home, they watched some sexual stuff and he DIDNT try to do anything what is this where can i get more of this

"well im not okay"

MY BABIESSSS

they still didnt do much btw they're just kinda exploring and its honestly nice TvT I dont want this to ever endddd

[Dohye sees Noah’s sister and approaches her] N O

N OOOO

this is the starttttt of something.......... TERRIBLEEEE

:((( babyyyy

I AM EMO

Noah was drugged im sure. hes having dreams and waking up in pain and the sister is asking doyhe over I DONT LIKE THISSSSSSS OH HE DECLINED

OKAY OKAY he saw him with her again but it was from behind and im not sure if it rly happened??? oh no this is terrible. Noah :((( poor child

i am so emo about this

[reminder he’s been abused TvT]

[the sister: “Don’t you want to know why?”]

i will. murder someone he called to ask her to delete his number btw what is this manwha but this is just gonna make it that more tragic when whatever happens that breaks them apart :(((

he's such a good bf but Noah just wont TELL him his side I'M SO SAD

I AM SO SAD

It cant end im actually tearing up nooo you were so cuteeee and happpyyy

[*sister is telling dohye to come to the gym hall*]

what else is she gonna do she already teared [current tori: ahem... T O R E] them apart THAT'S NOT DOYhE. THATS NEVER HIM. OH MY GOD. is it a look alike??? damn, she's dedicated to just. ruining it, huh

I’M

I’M SO SAD

now he's switching SCHOOLS NO NOOOOO how will i ever find happiness againnnn NO they're misunderstanding further they're not talking properly i mean i get it but oh my god

I'M :(((

NO NOOOO pls make up in the future at least omg he tried to clear it up tooo ahhh i dont even have hopes for them getting back together but i just i want them to clear it up im crying first manwha to make me cry and it's this dumpster fire ahaha maybe a little too bc it kinda hit a little close to home i guess but goddamnn ittttt they were so cuteee and so happy and AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

OH NO. Noahs getting drugged and assaulted. And he's realizing it happened before, he just forgot. I am. so sad it's not horny drawn either which i appreciate but MY HEART NO

N O DONT YOU DARE MAKE THIS WORSE

Im. gonna cry more

Doyhe kept an eye on him im so emo :(( but he thought he was doing well enough and gave up.... Im im so sad no i want you to make up and get back together its all just a stupid........... MEHHHH will i ever find sth like this flashback again

[mei: p-probably not, no]

i am so devasted i dont even wanna go back to the main couple just fucking. i want this relationship back :(((( but i guess the investigation might end up somewhere so hhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhh the baker manwha had a similar flashback feeling so. i just gotta find more of that haha

BUT THIS WAS SO SAD??? im so emo

[Dohye got kidnapped // the flashback commentary stops here but I think my descend into madness is pretty funny too]

OH YEAH THAT HAPPENED. THE FLASHBACK WAS SO LONG I FORGOT. NOOOO SAVE HIM. JESUS CHRIST PLS JUST ONE GOOD THING

its. actually rly smart to have another, more focused on them flashback, before the arc where he gets kidnapped by the rapist murder household so. good job. from a meta perspective but also NO but also. maybe theres hope for them making up at least after all :(((

[main couple kissing] this is. very weird now. but im glad he has someone, he deserves it but dohyeeeee

and switching to sex, YET AGAIN now i wanna see this EVEN LESS THAN I DID BEFOREEEE it's even.... a threesome now with one of the other characters why are you like this why can't you be. like in the flashback i am so upset HAHHHHH WHEEEZEEEE

I am just stop fucking jesus christ PLEASE I DONT WANNA SEE IT ANYMOREEEEE

im just stop the horny pls just tell me who that new guy is and why doyhe likes him so much

[mei: this manwha is a fucking mess but at least we got your lovely commentary out of it]

dhsuksj thanks i feel honored at least i got cute BL out of it before everything went [back] to shit

[mei: THAT TOO]

[...]

tbh im getting kinda mad about doyhe... i dont... feel like he'd just fall instantly for a guy who looks like Noah... but eh not my character

i just want closure for dohye at this point, fuck everything else ... not literally pls theres already too much of that

pls get it together for like 1 chapter is the investigation even still happening i am so confused save dohye plEASE wait what i have less than 10 episodes left Dont tell me this shit isnt even wrapped up yet

[Dohye is having a breakdown over the Noah double not coming to see him anymore]

yeah i this... doesnt feel like Dohye... at all... Even when Noah was rejecting him he was just kind of... taking it with some humor and maybe he was a little desperate and risky sometimes but... oh well... i do want him to get better but... im having a hard time believeing this development??? he never seemed overly anxious or anything. but who knows what else they did to him. Sister can still go fuck off tho

[...]

i mean. i liked the flashbacks a lot honestly??? it stayed simple and focused on the dynamics and less trying to balance smut with murder plots

[dm partner: NO THAT'S WHAT I MEAN LIKE CLEARLY THE AUTHOR CAN MAKE A GOOD STORY SO I'M JUST... CONFUSED AS TO WHY THEY DIDN'T STICK WITH SOME SOFT, FLUFFY BL ROMANCE MANWHA AND DECIDED TO MAKE WHATEVER THIS IS INSTEAD ]

okay i dont care bc dohye is currently getting assaulted nobody asked for this why i just. this is terrible. he was... so sweet. he doesnt deserve this. nobody does of course but jesus christ pls someone save him at least its not horny visually, one saving grace

ah... the assult is back to being depicted horny-ly thank you for nothing

[... removed some general confusion about the plot]

YES. SOME SHIP FOOD.

i am. suffering i mean i cant stop but GOD

okay so apparantly. the sister. has just an arsenal of people who look like other people Dohye, then Noah... and even Noah's GF??? this is ridiculous??

one good message

why

did you feel the need to add that [actual tired rage]

im gonna die this manwha is gonna kill me im laughing but im suffering oh hes arrested great and thats the end and the last update was in january of this year

why AS IN NOAH IS ARRESTED nobody who actually did anything is arrested What is this why is this AHHH I at least wanted the complete-ness of finishing this but now I'M JUST SUFFERING

[ mei: I MEAN TO BE FAIR I'D BE SUFFERING TOO BC JUST... WHAT THE FUCK I HAVE?? MANY QUESTIONS?? AND MANY CONCERNS BC THIS MANWHA IS JUST... AN EXPERIENCE ]

its an experience allright WELL

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yup that’s it.

in my head, in a twist of events Dohye and Noah make up and are actual endgame. Something like that must exist out there but I won’t ask because it’d destroy the surprise and ruin the point.

That’s it.

Have a nice day.

#an innocent sin #dohye x noah #noah x dohye #long post #tori talks #tori has opinions #reactions #yes I do this often in our dms #poor mei #toriqueue

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banglatown · 4 years

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21 tips i’ve learned in my 21 years for relationships

MAKE! YOUR! INTENTIONS! CLEAR! if you do not want a committed long-term relationship, pls make it known, your wants and needs are valid, do not feel pressured into a commitment you are not ready for, if they respect you, they will understand.. not to mention; you can always change your mind, just remember to communicate!

do not just assume someone is your significant other .. use your words and TALK TO THEM .. other human beings do not exist for you to project onto them, if you’d like them to be your significant other, ask .. they might just say yes lol

less serious .. but if anyone ever asks you to turn on your location for them on snapchat ... don’t . just don’t . trust me that it is an unhealthy tool to utilise .. on either side .. snap is creepy and will let the person who has your location on know what you’re doing at tht exact time .. honestly 🚩 the moment they ask but if you want more of an explanation, it will let them know if you’re asleep... if you’re listening to music.. if it’s raining where you are... if you’re driving.. if you’re on a bus.. and of c the last one, when you were last active 🙃 just don’t, okay

for god’s sake, if you buy your significant other something, that’s great, cool, fine, don’t constantly bring it up over and over again .. whether it’s how hard you worked to get it, how much trouble you went through to get it, or how expensive it was... no, just stop .. don’t .. it’s so crass .. and i promise you, they’ll probz never want you to buy them anything ever again .. so .. just give the present and Go

IF they make apparent to you that valentine’s day is something they want to celebrate... I DON’T GIVE A FUCK ABT WHAT COMMERCIALISED HOLIDAY DO RE MI FAH SO LA LA LA .. you fucking participate.. if they mention valentine’s day more than TWICE .. they rly want you to at the very least acknowledge valentine’s day w them .. don’t be that ‘valentine’s day is a commercial jssuejjejwksjd-’ prick, no, friendly reminder that this is why no one likes you .. if you feel tht the person you love wants you to acknowledge hearts day w them .. just do it fgs ..

no. 1 cuntiest thing you can do is to assume someone has free time, no, no they do not, if you’re going to assume anything, assume that they’re busy, at least this way you’ll come across as being courteous when asking them whatever it is you want them to engage in whether it's a phone call or wanting to go out w them, do not think you are entitled to someone else's time

don’t fall for potential .. some ppl just don’t change .. ik some ppl can’t handle hearing tht but i’m sorry darling we don’t live in a fairytale world where ppl w toxic tendencies drop them as soon as they see your face, we live in this one and it’s not your place to try and fix them

nip things in the bud, ppl make mistakes as we are all human and therefore intrinsically flawed but if any foul play ever takes place nip it THERE AND THEN ..

sometimes ppl need their space, different ppl cope w hurt in different ways so if you ever do upset the person you love, don’t just expect them to accept your apology the moment you feel bad and say sorry ... when apologising to someone you need to give them their own time to process

this ones for my muslims, if a significant other ... EVER ... tells you to cover your hair .. x them out of your life ... nope nope nope .. your relationship w god is PERSONAL .. and the very fact that some ppl think it’s appropriate to go abt telling ppl to ‘cover their hair’ is fucking ridiculous.. they’ve very clearly over estimated their own importance in this situation, they’re not shit .. you don’t need someone like tht i promise

i’m a firm believer of how a person treats their friends shows a lot of their character .. if they without any ounce of irony say the sentence “i hate all my friends” ... do not get involved w them, they’re bad news, trust me, if they can’t be nice to the ppl they call friends, sweetheart what makes you think they’ll be different towards you?

this one’s for my desis .. pls do some form of a bg check on their family ,,, PLEASE .. if you’re desi yk .. if not idk .. good for you innit

but speaking of families .. this sounds peculiar but ask abt their relationship w their relatives .. don’t just assume tht just bc you get on well w your familials, tht they will too, ask them abt their family, don’t be overbearing abt it .. but ask cordially

i was debating on whether i should include this or not but some of you completely lack human decency so i suppose i have to .. for the love of all that is fucking holy, if someone ever asks you the question “did you miss me?” SAY YES .. FOR GOD’S SAKE .. you don’t need to get into the semantics of ‘well, i didn’t have time’ 🚫 ‘well do you want me to lie’🚫 or whatever else you heartless cowards say ... simply, say “yes, i did” it’s something so small but it can make someone so fucking happy

listen, rly fucking listen, don’t listen w the intent of saying whatever you want to say, rly take in what tht person is saying to you and anyway “when you talk you repeat what you already know, when you listen you might learn something new”

in a similar vein, don’t assume that just bc someone is complaining or venting or ranting to you tht they want your advice ... they don’t .. the only time they want advice is .. shock horror .. when they ask for it .. sometimes ppl just want to rant, let them, be a safe space

idk why the whole ‘arguments are normal’ thing .. is a thing .. bc it’s not and i feel as though it’s as a result of such thinking that many ppl stay w ppl who just aren’t right for them bc ‘arguments are normal’ but .. newsflash .. they’re rly fucking not, i promise you, yes, where there is more than one person, disagreements are BOUND to arise, but arguments? full fledge shouting matches? .. where the both of you are intentionally trying to hurt each other, no . this is not normal, an argument is serious and should be dealt as such, do not start an argument for no reason, idk why being ✨toxic✨ is a thing .. you are dealing w a real person w real emotions ..

love is mutual generosity, you CANNOT afford to be selfish, the moment you become selfish you will hurt the other person, for the sake of god rmbr you do not own the other person, so pls don’t treat them like they’re property .. it’s not a nice feeling .. i only say all this to bring up, another human being’s BODILY AUTONOMY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU ... you either get it or you don’t

REPEAT AFTER ME! anyone who tries to dull your sparkle instead of enhancing it IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME!

pls don’t take this the wrong way but .. try to avoid ppl who are insecure as fuck.. insecure ppl will suck the living light out of you ... ik ik i sound mean but you’ll thank me for it later .. sweetheart, ik, they’ve gone through tough times and they’ve somehow managed to make you feel like ~yOu’Re gOiNg tO bE tHe oNe tHt sAvEs tHem~ but no .. baby, therapists make good money, don’t do that shit for free, not to mention; oh they will be cruel to you :) -10/10 do not recommend

last but not least, do not bother pursuing a relationship w someone who has completely different morals to you .. by tht i mean if you’re a feminist and they’re the type of person who slut-shames women for breathing ... yk, as the adage goes “when someone shows you who they are, believe them”

#it’s taken me a while to compile this so i hope you all like it! i just thought since a lot of you found me after i began my shenanigans w #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸#i always wanted to do like a list of things which i believe ppl don’t talk abt enough when it comes to relationships .. some of you may know #tht tumblr has been w me throughout my entire developmental teen years & so it’s watched me bloom from a 13 yr old to now 21 .. which is #kinda wild .. but anyway; i stopped using tumblr when i was 18 i believe? this is when all the big changes took place and tumblr suddenly #became a v stressful place for me to be ... but then as lockdown began i found myself missing tumblr so i came back a whole 2 years later #lol .. and i am #so glad i did as i have found my own community of ppl who i love oh so much .. you all mean THE WORLD to me! i hope you know tht!#the fact tht so many of you see me as a big sister means everything to me and as a big sister i feel obliged to keep you away from things i #wish i had known .. which is what this post was born out of #i would like to thank you all for your never ending support and kindness shown my way; you all rly make my heart so happy; all of you; even #my babies on anon 🥺🍓 w you all i have own circle and i hope you know how much i value you 💖💓✨💕#for my birthday; all i want is for you all to be kind to yourselves; that’d mean the world to me 🏹💌🌷✨#thank you for all that you all havs done for me ✨💌 i hope this post is helpful! i am always here for you 🦋#oh also; one more little thing; rmbr we help ppl to learn to love their insecurities; not give them new ones 🔐#beebs.txt

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