#big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸

[banglatown]

Hi I really want to hit my ex up but she’s blocked me I really want to speak to her though so what should I do???

don’t don’t don’t don’t don’tdon’tdon’tdon’tdon’tdon’tdon’tdon’t DO NOT reach out to her PLS

pls just move on

#ik this sounds harsh but she has blocked you meaning she has gone out of her way to remove you out of her life so then finding a way to #contact her isn’t romantic or desired unlike what tiktok would have you think #but it’s fucking annoying #so do not #you’re not doing yourself any favours #move on #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸 #answered

[banglatown]

You have no right Saying you have a tough relationship with your parents when you constantly talk about how good you got it with them

RIGHT,,, LISTEN THE FUCK UP BC I WILL, AND I REPEAT, I WILL ONLY SAY THIS FUCKING ONCE

despite however much you think you know abt me, you know nothing abt my life, nor can you make an accurate assumption from the things i choose to share

this is exactly why so many modern mental health experts tell you to keep your mental health woes to yourself and avoid sharing them online … bc of this shit … bc the internet isn’t compassionate, it’s a seething cesspool of hatred

but, fucking none of you have the right to tell me what i can and cannot vent abt, FUCKING NONE OF YOU, i fucking tag my shit when asked and if you don’t like it, you’re well within your right to 🚪 LEAVE

i share with you guys bc i found a community here of likeminded ppl who i could seek comfort in and give comfort to, which is what started ‘big sis beebs’ i turned it into a tag so tht whoever needs my help can get it in whatever way i can offer it, and at first it was fine, i was happy, it was nice being able to be what i never had, my own sister, though one of my fave ppl and amazing, is 30 years my senior we don’t exactly exchange tips on fucking birth control … not to mention how my cousin sisters who are close in age to me make me feel deeply uncomfortable w/ any of tht sort of thing so it made me honestly super grateful tht i could provide some sort of wisdom for my babies .. it made me happy 💕 however, slowly, as i lost the ability to be online constantly due to lockdown easing and i had to go back to uni, work and managing my irl social life, it took me longer to reply to ppl but i’d like to think when i did i would be thorough and actually helpful … but then ppl like THIS started crossing their fucking place so

what the actual fuck are you on about??? you think just bc i’m not constantly doing a fucking soliloquy abt the intense relationship i have w/ my mum means tht i live inside a fucking cloud where all is merry? the lack of intellectual depth is killing me ,,, i’m gone … i try my very fucking hardest to be kind when ppl on anon misunderstand me but oh my goD i cannot ,,, i just can’t rn … believe it or not … ppl can … have good times … and also bad times … but just bc they don’t share either or .. DOESNT MEAN THE OTHER ONE DOESN’T FUCKING EXIST

and the fucking post you’re referring to was a rb … one that spoke to me heavily so i wanted to share in hopes it’d help others which it did and i’m so grateful … bc sharing paternal trauma is one i still struggle with and is something i’ll probably struggle w/ for the rest of my life as a child of diaspora .. so it was a big deal for me … so yes, this did fucking piss me off to no end

okay, now tht i’ve calmed down, can you please for the love of all tht is pure and good not think you have a monopoly on understanding me just bc you follow me on tumblr … you don’t … like … idk why this is the case like ,,, i rmbr back in the day where i was like 13 and all the cool bloggers would have their personal lives torn into and then they’d deactivate and i’d be like !??!????? and now i’m here … and i see it .. i fucking get it … but dw i’m not deleting nothing, what i’m going to do is a set a fucking boundary, if you are to seek advice or guidance or whatever, you do so with respect, or you will not get it, that’s it 🤍

i’ve included a helpful infographic:

#i’m so sorry for losing my shit babies #today was just not the day to piss me off #and so … yh i said what i said #for the record; this is for the tiny percentage of ppl… for the rest of my babies my arms are open for you with love #i hope you’re all well 💓💓💓💓 #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸 #answered #tw death #tw abuse #tw drug use

[banglatown]

2,8,9,16,17,18&22 !

2: thoughts on veganism?

LOLLLL R U TRYING TO RUIN ME??? okay, but seriously, i don’t mind so long as you don’t start greenboro quorntist churching abt it, we’re all good 🥑🥑🥑

8. do you change into specific clothes for the house when you get home?

YESSSS ! omg i hate being in my outside clothes indoors lol .. it’s an ethnic thing ig lol 💁🏽‍♀️

9. do you have a skincare routine (and how many steps is it)?

yes, and ohhhh boy yes i do and it’s 9 steps 😪

☀️

1. cleanser; cerave smoothing cleanser- my new fav cleanser, i use it on a exfoliating pad

2. clarifying lotion; clinique clarifying lotion 3- this handles my hormonal acne

3. essence; cosrx snail mucin- i’ve only started using it lol so i’ll keep you updated

4. serum; p.s. beauty hyaluronic acid- this is my fav hyaluronic acid, but any hyaluronic acid will do lol

5. eye cream; ysl pure shots eye reboot concentrate- it’s fucking huge, like the largest eye cream i’ve ever had lol so it’s deffo worth it

6. moisteriser; weleda skin food- it’s just so thick and moisturising… like more an emollient than a cream

7. spf; dior bronze sublime glow- it’s got the prettiest glow i love it

8. lip ointment; dr. pawpaw- literal best ointment of all time

9. lip balm; dior lip glow- i love this so much and it keeps my lips moisturised all day

🌙

0. cleansing balm; estée lauder cleansing balm- i only do this when i wear makeup lol

1-3, 5, 6 & 8 are the same

4. serum; estée lauder advanced night repair serum- god i love this so much it’s so lush

9. lip oil; estée lauder lip serum- sooo good!

mask; clay mask- boots ingredients niacinamide mask- x2 a week if tht lol

.. i’m sorry this took forever 

16. thoughts on mint chocolate chip?

my favourite forever !

17. an anxious compulsion you do everyday?

pick at my skin … i need to tag this as gore now lol

18. your boba/tea order?

brown sugar milk tea ! 🧋

22. do you have an emotional support water bottle?

LMAOOOOO YES I DO! it’s blue! and it’s my favourite

#this took me forever omg #but ty for all these questions! #answered #gore #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸 #food

[banglatown]

🌟big-sis!beeb’s comprehensive guide for the pretty bitch lifestyle🌟 salon edition***

now that i’m a hair, lashes, brows, nails ,,, girl, here’s some thoughts

hair:

style: it’s very xtina dirty era (so, basically, its just blonde and black lol) and regard to cut, i have face shaping long bangs and the rest is feathered

upkeep: 

salon; 

once every two months sometimes three if i’m feeling lazy … i quite like the look of overgrown black roots w/ blonde hair 💕  HOWEVER, and this is a big however, this is the only thing where your @ home practice matters more than what they do at the salon, taking level 1 hair to level 10 is fucking gnarly and you have to be ready to deal with it so .. at 

home;

i wash my hair once 1-2x a week bc my hair is naturally v coarse and dry and can handle it, i use the milkshake ‘silver shine’ shampoo and conditioner, my hairdresser gave them to me and they’re amazing, they always make my hair feel super soft afterwards, but honest, anything will work so long as it’s purple and sulphate free!

i olaplex #3 my hair once a week, ik olaplex is a bit controversial but it’s done me rly good BUT i’d generally only recommend it to you if you have severely damaged hair .. if your hair is healthy you don’t need it 😘

almost done lmaooo, i then use the inkey list hair hyaluronic acid, olaplex #6 & 7, and the john frieda frIzzzease (literally have been using this since i was like 16) and put them all in my ends and use a tangle teaser to distribute it all over, and last but not least i use the bumble and bumble ‘illuminated blonde’ leave in

as you can see, you need to be on your a game with it bc having blonde hair is high maintenance and it’s a lot but i genuinely enjoy taking care of my hair, it gives me an excuse to practice self-care, so, i love it! 🥰

price: this is by far the most expensive part of the pretty bitch lifestyle … the initial appointment cost £130 and then the follow ups for scalp bleach and toning and so on are like £50+ so yk … not to mention the price of all my lotions and potions but like i said, idm so 🤗

!! having asian hair, i MUST insist if you wish to have your hair coloured and have level 1 hair like me, GO TO THE FUCKING SALON otherwise you’ll fucking wreck your hair …. pls … you don’t know the damage you cause to your hair at home … ik #fight #the #man but for the love of all tht is pure pls go get it done professionally … leave it to the professionals !!

dying my hair has been the most ‘impactful’???lmaoo on my life like … i genuinely think it’s changed my appearance yk? like i feel like bc i’m blonde my skin look so much healthier lolllll and like … i deffo have a attitude problem now 💁🏼‍♀️ JOKING … am i- but i’m adjusting into being a blonde nicely 💓

need: 8/10 .. it’s nice to have someone else wash my hair lmaoooooo

lashes:

style: i get mega volumes with colour (the colours match the colours i used to have in my hair, i’ll probz go back to black soon lol)

upkeep: once every 2 weeks

price: £55 for a new set & £35 per infill

i first got lashes for my cousin’s wedding as, tho i do love fake lashes, @ the time my mental health couldn’t handle dealing with putting on fake lashes every day (as at tht point this is what i was doing,,, the high maintenance life chooses you) anyway, so i got my lashes done for first time and … i rmbr as i was having my makeup done for said wedding, the mua said i’d become addicted and i brushed it off like nOoo … she was right, i am addicted ,,, AND I LOVE THEM 😍😍😍😍

however, one thing i need to mention which i don’t think ppl talk abt enough is pls do your research as just bc someone looks good on ig doesn’t mean they’re all tht and a bag of crisps irl .. as it took me being lashed by 3 frogs (kinda.. lol) to meet my beloved queen and now … my lash tech is also one of my fav ppl and is always willing to bring my vision to life 💘 but, 1. the first lash tech i was supposed to have triple booked me and two other girls by mistake and then acted like everything was fine and thought a ‘discount’ would make me go back to her … it was a waste of my time and energy, 2. was effective, fast, affordable but the viBeS were off and for my sag moon.. vibes are important to me as i don’t want to sit in utter discomfort for 45 mins … 3. was an old friend of mine so i had high hopes BUT … IT WAS A DISASTER.. she glued my eye shut and then had to rip my bottom lashes to open my eyes … it was a horror of an experience; which reminds me when having your lashes done, through out the experience.. NEVER OPEN YOUR EYES OR IT WILL BURN !!!

need: 100000000/10 ,,, i love having my lashes done beyond words ,,, lashes literally make me feel so amazing and i love how i can literally wake up with big fuck off lashes 🤩

brows:

style: i get my brows laminated, tinted & waxed

upkeep: once every 6 weeks; this one for me requires the least upkeep as since i dye my eyebrows myself anyway, sometimes i forget to go and i only rmbr when my eyebrows are being particularly annoying and then i book an app. lmao but it’s the one tht is least maintenance for me

price: £35

before my cousin’s wedding, i’d never gotten my brows done … ever .. so it was a a new experience… but it taught me i like the feeling of being waxed (just my face ,,, fyi) lmaoooooo, anyway;

need: 2/10 … my tech is amazing and lovely, it’s just something i don’t think is crazy necessary in my life ,,,

nails:

style: builder gel with detailed nail art

upkeep: once a month, my nails grow fast but i cba going every 2 weeks and i also don’t mind seeing my cuticle growth lmao

price: £35+

i like nail tech hopping around my town and seeing what everyone can offer so i usually never go to same place twice, though i love the look of xxl long acrylics, my virgo sun won’t let me give into temptation so i bought some press ons to allow me to live out my dream (you will see them when i finish designing them 😌) w/o ruining my nails, speaking of, i get builder gel as i have p decent natural nails and don’t rly care for acrylic & the damage it causes and i like having different funky styles, rn i have coloured french tips with auras and gems !

for those who dk, builder gel is a thick gel that’s put on top of your nails and its just infilled every time, the thickness of the gel allows your own natural nails to grow in strength and length in peace, in my experience, it isn’t damaging at all unlike acrylics … the thought of the damage tht acrylics cause makes me cringe 😖😖😖

need: 4/10 .. i’ve never had a bad experience aA, it’s just i don’t rly think it’s a necessity in my life and ik tht once my nails get to a certain length, i’ll get bored and stop lol

#this has been like 3 months in the making lmAoooo #like when i started writing this i had harley quinn half blue half red hair … and now i’m blonde .. not to mention how i want to change my l #lashes back to black too lol but the colour of my lashes luckily doesn’t effect anything #anyway; i hope this is helpful ! #beebs.txt #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸

[banglatown]

Heyyy, how are you? Hopefully life is positive.

Just want to ask you; would you ever talk to some you have previously been in a relationship with? If so why? If not so why?

I'm currently in this situation like I do miss them and I have an urge for them but at the same time my life has moved on.

Thx xxxxx

haiii! honestly, i’ve been better, got the booster and i’ve been feeling grotty ever since but, could be worse ig … hope you’re well too tho 💕

and wellllllll, it’s … different ig? every individual situation has its own nuances .. so .. it’s weird yk … like … i’m currently talking to one of my rancid exes who i used to swear blind i’d never talk to ever again (AS FRIENDS BTW .. JUST FRIENDS) .. my whole thing tho … if i’ve liked you and then … unliked you … lmaooooo … i can’t go back to being attracted to you again :// i just can’t so this fear my family have of me going back to any of my toxic exes is like … completely unnecessary lmaoooo .. so,

in summary,

on friendly terms, if you feel tht you have healed and have both developed and grown as ppl and both feel COMFORTABLE talking to one another then absolutely go for it

if it’s for sex … then no ❤️ absolutely not!

#i promise being alone is better than having mediocre sex with someone you can’t stand! #hope this helps 💕 #answered #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸

[banglatown]

Heyyy, hope you're all good. Just wanted to ask what's the best first date you've been on? What advice would you give someone

haiii bb, i’m well, how are you?

my best first date was to a japanese garden, it was on the hottest day of the year and we bought food and had a picnic on a cute blanket … it was rly amazing 💛

but if i were to give advice i’d say: try to cater towards your and your date’s interests … i always suggest going to a nice restaurant bc food is something we all have in common lmaoo .. and it means you can rly speak to tht person and get to know them unlike in a cinema, etc.. avoid cinemas … it just completely kills dialogue …

#hope this helped! #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸 #answered

[banglatown]

Not helpful and I wouldn’t know how to even ask you for help but how do I tell the person I like that I like them but I don’t want a relationship right now and need to focus on myself

you just did it, just like tht, open and clear communication is key, and if they’re the right one, they’ll understand 💌

#sorry it took me so long to reply! #answered #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸

[banglatown]

hey honeybuns! ik i’ve been kinda m.i.a recently bc apparently being a #girlboss is mentally draining? who would have thought 😪 BUT i just wanted to say tht since back2school season is back, if you have any questions abt anything, i’m here 💌

#even if i seem inactive.. i’ll try my best to get back to you; no matter what #i’ll always be your big sis beebs; that’s not a honour i take lightly ❗️💖 #beebs.txt #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸 #season two !!! lmao kajdjdw idek what i’m talking abt

[banglatown]

is there anyway you’re dealing with your stress? asking for a friend D:

LMAOOOOOOOOOO .. i honestly think i’m the worst person to ask 😭

i have incredibly unhealthy coping mechanisms including working for 8 hrs on end .. and i developed such unhealthy working habits whilst in my last relationship as i was so severely depressed as a result of being in an ab*sive relationship tht i would do anything to find purpose .. feel fulfilled some how .. even working until my hands started cramping .. sometimes working through the cramp ..

however; i feel myself getting better very slowly so i do have some tips to share ..

pls begin anything way before it’s due .. this way you can afford to do it part by part

pls respect your body .. if you feel tired, if your eyes are closing, just leave it and start another day

be gentle and kind w yourself .. you deserve the love you give to others .. so if you wouldn’t make one of your friends feel bad for not completing an entire topic’s content within a day .. don’t do tht to yourself either

#and like ... whilst i’m now in a healthy supportive loving relationship .. ✨trauma and depression✨ #so .. yh #hope this helps lol! ✨💓 #answered #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸 #tw abuse

[banglatown]

Spoke to a guy for 2months n went on a date. He’s been giving me mixed signals since and not texting me as much but insists he’s not ghosting me...while he ghosts me. I thought the date went well??

awh angel :( i’m sorry, i can’t imagine tht being easy for you :(

i mean .. at face value, i’d be inclined to think tht .. he’s not worth your time .. but, rn is also a rly hard time for so many of us .. ppl have lost loved ones, ppl are stressed out in regards to sm, whether its education related or work related or just life .. it’s a super hard time for ppl rn and it could be that he’s just trying to deal w everything that’s going on rn?

i could be wrong of c but yk.. if it makes you feel any better; ask him abt his life and what’s going on for him rn

#i mean if you feel like the date went well and all.. i don’t see what harm can be done by asking; if that’s what you want that is #but of c .. if he’s just being a big bag of shit then fuck him .. you don’t need him anyway #i hope everything works out angel! 💕🖤✨ #answered #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸 #tw death

[banglatown]

21 tips i’ve learned in my 21 years for relationships

MAKE! YOUR! INTENTIONS! CLEAR! if you do not want a committed long-term relationship, pls make it known, your wants and needs are valid, do not feel pressured into a commitment you are not ready for, if they respect you, they will understand.. not to mention; you can always change your mind, just remember to communicate!

do not just assume someone is your significant other .. use your words and TALK TO THEM .. other human beings do not exist for you to project onto them, if you’d like them to be your significant other, ask .. they might just say yes lol

less serious .. but if anyone ever asks you to turn on your location for them on snapchat ... don’t . just don’t . trust me that it is an unhealthy tool to utilise .. on either side .. snap is creepy and will let the person who has your location on know what you’re doing at tht exact time .. honestly 🚩 the moment they ask but if you want more of an explanation, it will let them know if you’re asleep... if you’re listening to music.. if it’s raining where you are... if you’re driving.. if you’re on a bus.. and of c the last one, when you were last active 🙃 just don’t, okay

for god’s sake, if you buy your significant other something, that’s great, cool, fine, don’t constantly bring it up over and over again .. whether it’s how hard you worked to get it, how much trouble you went through to get it, or how expensive it was... no, just stop .. don’t .. it’s so crass .. and i promise you, they’ll probz never want you to buy them anything ever again .. so .. just give the present and Go

IF they make apparent to you that valentine’s day is something they want to celebrate... I DON’T GIVE A FUCK ABT WHAT COMMERCIALISED HOLIDAY DO RE MI FAH SO LA LA LA .. you fucking participate.. if they mention valentine’s day more than TWICE .. they rly want you to at the very least acknowledge valentine’s day w them .. don’t be that ‘valentine’s day is a commercial jssuejjejwksjd-’ prick, no, friendly reminder that this is why no one likes you .. if you feel tht the person you love wants you to acknowledge hearts day w them .. just do it fgs ..

no. 1 cuntiest thing you can do is to assume someone has free time, no, no they do not, if you’re going to assume anything, assume that they’re busy, at least this way you’ll come across as being courteous when asking them whatever it is you want them to engage in whether it's a phone call or wanting to go out w them, do not think you are entitled to someone else's time

don’t fall for potential .. some ppl just don’t change .. ik some ppl can’t handle hearing tht but i’m sorry darling we don’t live in a fairytale world where ppl w toxic tendencies drop them as soon as they see your face, we live in this one and it’s not your place to try and fix them

nip things in the bud, ppl make mistakes as we are all human and therefore intrinsically flawed but if any foul play ever takes place nip it THERE AND THEN ..

sometimes ppl need their space, different ppl cope w hurt in different ways so if you ever do upset the person you love, don’t just expect them to accept your apology the moment you feel bad and say sorry ... when apologising to someone you need to give them their own time to process

this ones for my muslims, if a significant other ... EVER ... tells you to cover your hair .. x them out of your life ... nope nope nope .. your relationship w god is PERSONAL .. and the very fact that some ppl think it’s appropriate to go abt telling ppl to ‘cover their hair’ is fucking ridiculous.. they’ve very clearly over estimated their own importance in this situation, they’re not shit .. you don’t need someone like tht i promise

i’m a firm believer of how a person treats their friends shows a lot of their character .. if they without any ounce of irony say the sentence “i hate all my friends” ... do not get involved w them, they’re bad news, trust me, if they can’t be nice to the ppl they call friends, sweetheart what makes you think they’ll be different towards you?

this one’s for my desis .. pls do some form of a bg check on their family ,,, PLEASE .. if you’re desi yk .. if not idk .. good for you innit 

but speaking of families .. this sounds peculiar but ask abt their relationship w their relatives .. don’t just assume tht just bc you get on well w your familials, tht they will too, ask them abt their family, don’t be overbearing abt it .. but ask cordially

i was debating on whether i should include this or not but some of you completely lack human decency so i suppose i have to .. for the love of all that is fucking holy, if someone ever asks you the question “did you miss me?” SAY YES .. FOR GOD’S SAKE .. you don’t need to get into the semantics of ‘well, i didn’t have time’ 🚫 ‘well do you want me to lie’🚫 or whatever else you heartless cowards say ... simply, say “yes, i did” it’s something so small but it can make someone so fucking happy

listen, rly fucking listen, don’t listen w the intent of saying whatever you want to say, rly take in what tht person is saying to you and anyway “when you talk you repeat what you already know, when you listen you might learn something new”

in a similar vein, don’t assume that just bc someone is complaining or venting or ranting to you tht they want your advice ... they don’t .. the only time they want advice is .. shock horror .. when they ask for it .. sometimes ppl just want to rant, let them, be a safe space

idk why the whole ‘arguments are normal’ thing .. is a thing .. bc it’s not and i feel as though it’s as a result of such thinking that many ppl stay w ppl who just aren’t right for them bc ‘arguments are normal’ but .. newsflash .. they’re rly fucking not, i promise you, yes, where there is more than one person, disagreements are BOUND to arise, but arguments? full fledge shouting matches? .. where the both of you are intentionally trying to hurt each other, no . this is not normal, an argument is serious and should be dealt as such, do not start an argument for no reason, idk why being ✨toxic✨ is a thing .. you are dealing w a real person w real emotions ..

love is mutual generosity, you CANNOT afford to be selfish, the moment you become selfish you will hurt the other person, for the sake of god rmbr you do not own the other person, so pls don’t treat them like they’re property .. it’s not a nice feeling .. i only say all this to bring up, another human being’s BODILY AUTONOMY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU ... you either get it or you don’t

REPEAT AFTER ME! anyone who tries to dull your sparkle instead of enhancing it IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME!

pls don’t take this the wrong way but .. try to avoid ppl who are insecure as fuck.. insecure ppl will suck the living light out of you ... ik ik i sound mean but you’ll thank me for it later .. sweetheart, ik, they’ve gone through tough times and they’ve somehow managed to make you feel like ~yOu’Re gOiNg tO bE tHe oNe tHt sAvEs tHem~ but no .. baby, therapists make good money, don’t do that shit for free, not to mention; oh they will be cruel to you :) -10/10 do not recommend

last but not least, do not bother pursuing a relationship w someone who has completely different morals to you .. by tht i mean if you’re a feminist and they’re the type of person who slut-shames women for breathing ... yk, as the adage goes “when someone shows you who they are, believe them” 

#it’s taken me a while to compile this so i hope you all like it! i just thought since a lot of you found me after i began my shenanigans w #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸 #i always wanted to do like a list of things which i believe ppl don’t talk abt enough when it comes to relationships .. some of you may know #tht tumblr has been w me throughout my entire developmental teen years & so it’s watched me bloom from a 13 yr old to now 21 .. which is #kinda wild .. but anyway; i stopped using tumblr when i was 18 i believe? this is when all the big changes took place and tumblr suddenly #became a v stressful place for me to be ... but then as lockdown began i found myself missing tumblr so i came back a whole 2 years later #lol .. and i am #so glad i did as i have found my own community of ppl who i love oh so much .. you all mean THE WORLD to me! i hope you know tht! #the fact tht so many of you see me as a big sister means everything to me and as a big sister i feel obliged to keep you away from things i #wish i had known .. which is what this post was born out of #i would like to thank you all for your never ending support and kindness shown my way; you all rly make my heart so happy; all of you; even #my babies on anon 🥺🍓 w you all i have own circle and i hope you know how much i value you 💖💓✨💕 #for my birthday; all i want is for you all to be kind to yourselves; that’d mean the world to me 🏹💌🌷✨ #thank you for all that you all havs done for me ✨💌 i hope this post is helpful! i am always here for you 🦋 #oh also; one more little thing; rmbr we help ppl to learn to love their insecurities; not give them new ones 🔐 #beebs.txt

[banglatown]

hey babies! is their any curiousity in your mind? abt life/relationships/education/work etc..? what’s on your mind? i’m here if you need to ask/tell me something 😚💛

#not had a big sis beebs hours w my babies in FORVERRRRR 😪💖 miss you all; also: wdy think? big sis beebs hours? or beebs affa hours? which do #you prefer? 💌 #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸 #beebs.txt

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[banglatown]

Hey beers. Hope youre good. What's the difference between casual relationship and a platonic one ? Or are they the same thing. Oke with your friend and as such. Maybe I'm dumb but i got confused by some of your posts. (typed in beebs but it autocorrected. Gonna leave it in for funny points. Are you okay with these Qs I feel like you'd answer them but pls lmk if its weird)

hey bb ! and lmAo ... wow you rly know me 😭 i mean i’m muslim but still it’s funny 😪 and well i’d say it differs person to person honestly but to me they’re sorta different bc well

a platonic one i would say is more emotion based, yk? like the literal definition for platonic is essentially loving someone deeply w/o it being sexual lol

whereas a casual relationship .. well is different lol .. i think is what most ppl associate w .. other things lmaO but you know it has the emotional (if you want!) /mental (if you want!) /physical (if you want!) aspects without there being anything demanding or commital, does that makes sense? i’m gonna link the wiki page bc i believe it explains it far clearer than i do

but i see where some of you maybe confused when i said that we love each other platonically bc by definition.. that’s not sexual but i’ve told you what a cas relationship is too so i understand it’s skjdsjhd but honestly it’ll vary person to person bc ppl define relationships not the other way around, ygm?

but what i meant is .. i always thought of platonic love as being not romantic, you know? like the love you have for the ppl in your life just bc they’re them, your parents/guardians/siblings/friends, like that pure wholesome love tht you just want their happiness to never end and you keep them in your prayers so better days eventually come to them? like that’s what i meant lol but once again i will link a wiki page explaining platonic love, as i’m sure that’ll explain what i mean far more eloquently, and before anyone tells me wiki is a bad source, be quite i don’t need to listen to you 😤

but essentially, i realised how much i valued platonic love after breaking up w my ex boyf, i saw a few posts abt it here and it’s what got my gears turning abt it like .. the concept of loving someone so wholly without it needing to be romantic .. just makes it more glorious, you know?

and so .. even tho i am intimate w 🧔🏽 in whatever way lmao it doesn’t change the fact that the love i have for him is platonic, and very real, i love him w my whole spirit and i want him to thrive and prosper and just be happy, yk? that’s what platonic love is to me 💛



#also; omg these questions are fine lol don’t worry abt it ! and lmao you’re rly funny i like you 😚 #answered #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸 #ALSO: sorry for getting so awkward towards the end lol i just woke up from a nap 😪 #seltzer🥤anon

[banglatown]

erm would you date older or younger men? like is your virgo man younger wat is ur take on age gap stigma? i feel like older men are safer because theyre more experienced

i’ve only ever dated 2 men lol and the one younger than me was my ex boyf and he was younger than me by nearly 4 months so .. not that big of a difference and ‘my virgo man’ is indeed younger than me, exactly 369 days younger than me as he has told me .. and so i don’t think we rly have an age gap per se but obvs i’m a whole year older than him .. he’s 19 and i’m 20 and like a whole 72 hrs after i turn 21 he’ll turn 20 sooo yk .. i’ve dated both younger and older men .. and they both equally suck . but i guess i’m not the ‘dating’ type of person so that’s that :)

but as for my take on age gap stigma, my best friend from high school and i were talking a while back abt the age difference of 19 & 23 .. it doesn’t seem like a lot but we were talking abt developmentally it makes a world of a difference .. like sure 30 & 34 isn’t that big of a deal but .. good god is 19 & 23 is .. like emotionally and mentally you’re far too apart from each other .. and honestly, it’s not a good idea .. and i’d hope someone of 23 years of age would know better than to date a literal teenager or not, even if they’re of age, i’d say culturally and societally their age difference is far more drastic than the actual numbers but they are as for example, whilst the 19 year old has just began uni, the 23 year old has already finished and could have masters at tht point as well .. like that’s a HUGE difference, and that’s something tht needs to be accounted for

i personally do have a problem w a astronomical age gap bc .. obviously.. as has been said by many before me: this didn’t occur as a result of the younger one being mature but the older one being immature

and .. i understand what you mean abt the experience thing but .. whilst you’re young .. i’d have to diasgree .. like they most likely aren’t bc .. if they were safer they wouldn’t be pursuing someone that younger than them, yk? 

#my first love was a year and 8 months older than me but .. that’s not rly tht big of a gap imo and my first ‘boyfriend’ was 3 years older #than me .. and no; he wasn’t more experienced in any beneficial way.. at that point he was only more experience of being a shit person than #someone my actual age but anyway as you can tell i’ve not rly had experience dating ppl #a lot older than me :/ #but anyway i hope this was somewhat helpful lol ! #answered #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸

[banglatown]

hey - you don’t need to answer if you don’t want to but I just wanted to know what would you say are definite red flags in a relationship I feel as though I’m about to get into my first relationship but things like what you’ve said in your personal texts have scared me and I don’t know how you’re able to tell that a person will become that way Please don’t feel pressured to reply

hey angel! and omg .. it’s fine dw abt it ! and yes .. i understand what you mean .. my txt posts abt my ex boyf are so awful . and well i’d understand why you’d want to know how to avoid that, if possible

beebs’ comprehensive guide on spotting someone who isn’t suitable to be in a relationship with you but they INSIST that it’s LITERALLY fine

... goes without saying .. PLS address what type of relationship you want, do you want a long term monogamous relationship or do you want something short term and casual? if they don’t give you the liberty to discuss such matters, you know that they don’t give a FUCK abt your comfort and only care for themselves .. a person who doesn’t respect the most vital CONSENT will literally never be good to you

they behave as if they own you .. if they start acting like they know what’s best for you .. even more than your own parents/guardians . if they have a problem w ppl hugging or kissing you even if YOU are totally fine with it???? it’s a downhill battle from there, they literally don’t care abt you, they only care abt how you make them feel, like to them, their pride matters more than your safety

they are obsessive .. pls THINK ! do they care a BIT too much abt the ppl you spend your time w? even if said ppl are just friends or better yet, ppl you share actual dna with? are they FAR too concerned over every time you interract with a person who could possibly have an attraction to you? do they feel entitled to your time? bc if they do, this is not a good sign; bc like in my situation after i broke up w him, i blocked him off of EVERY thing that i could remember and he found the one thing i forgot to block him on and started contacting me, and then emailing me and saying that i ‘hinted’ not wanting to be in contact w him anymore .. it literally became harassment .. as if i didn’t block him on everything, ppl as such are so far removed they LITERALLY don’t see getting blocked on everything as what it is, but as a sign to find a new way to contact you .. that isn’t love, they’ll tell you it’s bc of love tho but it isn’t, it never was love, it was obsession from the start ..

they insult you .. like for literally no reason .. like rly mean shit that’s uncalled for out of nowhere for no reason .. like they’re trying to wear you down until your confidence becomes dust and they are the only person that can make you feel good abt yourself .. or like in their thinking .. they feel the need to knock you down a few pegs .. it’s so vile .. and men wonder why the get trashed .. it’s bc they LITERALLY do shit like tht .. confident women scare them and so they try to make them insecure so they’re easier to manipulate and gaslight

#honestly all i want to do is protect ppl esp you beautiful angels from ever experiecing such behaviour .. pls . though what was mentioned #may ​seem extreme . ppl who are predisposed to behaving this way will always show signs .. ‘when ppl show you who they are .. believe them’ #but be firm and strong my love; don’t forget who you are! 💖💓💕 #answered #tw abuse #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸

[banglatown]

what are red flags in any relationship 🚩

honestly, there’s plenty but one tht i believe applies to all relationships imo is if they don’t respect boundaries, the older i get the more apparent this gets.

also, if this behaviour of theirs makes you feel uncomf and you don’t reciprocate this behaviour and they CONTINUE to carry on then 🚨 no one is tht naive that they ‘innocently’ make a pass at you and you don’t reciprocate and they didn’t😱 even😱 realise😱 that what they did was uncomfortable lol ..

this goes for other shit too btw so fam/friends/work/edu like if ppl don’t respect your boundaries that’s the red flag and you know what to do

#🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵 .. lmao #i hope this made sense lmao ??? idk but i hope you get it #answered #big sis beebs hours 🕰🤎🧸

[ecoamerica]

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