#and no anti can fight me on this because i am a. an aroace and b. don't dare speak on behalf of myself - i can speak just fine and i say

[diggitydangletmelive]

zolu aroace positivity post!!! because if you're aroace and you celebrate the gift that is zolu, I want to share why they mean so much to me as an aroace.

what makes zolu so special to me is because first and foremost, zoro and luffy went out to the vast open seas of the world to chase after their dreams. luffy wants to be the pirate king, zoro wants to be the best swordsman. even after being recruited, even after all they went through, they never stopped having their dreams as the forefront of their characters. but it just so happens that both their dreams are intertwined with each other, the best swordsman in the world's most fitting place is by being right next to the pirate king, and the pirate king believes that he would reach his goal by having the best by his side.

the reason why I believe zoro and luffy's relationship is so strong is because by fighting for their own dreams, they also strengthen their bond with the other. zoro wants to be strong to be the best swordsman, but it's also to protect the crew and to best support luffy as he guns for the title of pirate king. luffy wants to be strong to be pirate king, but it's also to protect the crew, but also? by being strong, he proves time and time again that his crew did not make the wrong decision to follow him, that he is a Captain that deserves to obtain the one piece (i think of luffy aiming to be strong so that his crew will never have to falter about his leadership, especially after water 7).

as an aroace, this feels like the best way to showcase love and devotion and trust with each other. knowing that someone's dream becomes a part of your own, that every time you fight for yourself and you aim to be a better version of yourself, you're not only working for your own sake but for the better of you and your partner. that i come to love my partner because they understand me, and they know why i fight so hard to reach my goal. and not only that, they fight as equally hard for their own goal. together, both of our dreams ultimately help each other become the best version of ourselves.

knowing that zoro believes in luffy wholeheartedly that he fought for his dream too, enough to put his life on the line for luffy. knowing that luffy can leave his most precious family and crew to zoro because he trusts zoro wholeheartedly to win.

to me, this is how I envision love. it's about getting to know each other, understanding each other, loving each other to the point that their dreams become yours, and fighting together side by side to make that dream come true.

zoro and luffy have that in spades. imo, zoro and luffy's appeal as a relationship is that they are intertwined with each other, and they go through hell and back and fight for each other and their dreams together. it's no wonder that aroace people like me are drawn to them, their love and bond transcends just having an attraction to each other. because it's also about having this person change and inspire me to be better.

#zolu #luzo #one piece #this is my experience as an aroace #but i would be so happy if i have a zoro or a luffy. qpr or otherwise WAHH #i saw some tail-end of anti zl and i was. not having that especially on this day. #i am here to remind myself why zolu actually makes sense for aroaces like me. and why they are my no.1 one piece ship #and no anti can fight me on this because i am a. an aroace and b. don't dare speak on behalf of myself - i can speak just fine and i say #let us speak for ourselves. don't sully the aroace labels with hearsay about what we're supposed to be like and how we think #anyway aroace zoluers!! let's bury this negativity and speak about why aroaces love zolu!! #bitches love zolu. and it is me. i am bitches.

[inky-goddess]

I dont wanna call myself a system, because my nurse practitioner told me im not (I brought my headmates up with my therapist, she said she isnt sure if it's anything yet and that if I think it's anything I should tell her) and i havent been diagnosed with anything but I do have headmates and I just kinda wanna talk about them because ive been holding back on talking about them because i feel like people will fake claim me since im not diagnosed- but Damien will not shut up about how stupid my fear of being fake claimed is so im gonna just introduce the headmates and get it over with and just hope it doesnt seem like im faking it (because i am so scared i am just faking it and seeing people get fake claimed makes me more scared that maybe I am just faking it)

ANYWAYS-

Ramona goes by they/them pronouns, is a feral homestuck, is an age regressor -regresses to ages 5-8, completely sfw age regression just like mine...if i even have talked about my regression on this blog, and their big age is 17, gay, Goatkin therian

Mindy goes by it/its and meow/meow's/meowself pronouns, is a catkin therian, if it isnt the one doing something stupid meow will hold someone else back from being stupid ("If I can't be stupid no one can" -something Mindy actually said), 16 years old, usually asleep, weirdcore bitch (affectionate), pan

Elaine goes by fae/faen pronouns, is a clown (affectionate), is actually one of the only responsible ones (Kaz being the other responsible one), 18 years old, lesbian

Damien goes by he/it pronouns, annoying as fuck we're like brothers but like- brothers in the same mind if that makes sense...we fight like siblings is what im trying to say, very immature, 19 years old, Bi

Moth goes by they/it pronouns, usually off reading some book about cryptids, a chaotic little shit, cryptidkin otherkin, 19 years old, Ace, runs @cryptid-watch-parks with me and Damien (I'm Mod Amaranth, Moth is Mod Moth (Obviously), and Damien is Mod Pico)

Kaz goes by he/they pronouns and kit/kit's/kitself pronouns, they are usually the one to act as mine and Ramona's caregiver when we're regressed, the other most responsible one, 18 years old, aroace

and then theres me, Sammiee/Crow/Raine whatever you wanna call me I go by many names. I go by it/they/he pronouns. You guys know me by now.

that's all my headmates...im still so scared to post this but Damien will not shut the fuck up about it.

anyways this will be my pinned for now while I work on prettying up my caard to have my side blogs and stuff so my new pinned wont be long as shit

since this will be my pinned: Basic DNI criteria. No anti-palestine people. No anti-otherkin or anti-therian people. No Dream stans/defenders. (if you like/liked the smp thats fine, just not the creator himself)

#crow.txt #headmates #headmate intros #pinned

[it-is-lume]

I think it's time for me to do this whole new introduction postt thing-y considering the previous one was outdated.

Heya my guys(gender neutral)!

I'm Lume, pronounced quite near to english "LOO-may"

I'm a cis guy from down south in the southern hemisphere, BR to be precise. I'm gay and try my absolute best to be understanding of all other parts of the LGBTQ+ community. Although I have found out that I'm not ace I still wish to be friendly and understanding to try and become a great ally to all aces, aros and aroaces.

I love horror in countless forms (watch out because it is possible that you might come across untagged gore in my blog), analog horror, horror games, horror movies and literature.

I also am a massive Minecraft fan and general Mcyt enjoyer, you'll see a lot of it, believe me.

I am a big fan of countless genres of music. I am able to at least vibe with most genres to some extent and can count in my hands the genres that I cannot stand.

I am also a passionate hater of showerthoughts in any way shape or form, maybe that's because of my ADHD maybe that's me being unfair but I don't care either way. Fuck showerthoughts!

I love a lot of animals and a lot of plants even though understanding very little about them.

I'm a fan of weird and unknown/unusual trivia and facts that for some reason I find fascinating.

I love science and academia! Anti-intelectualism has no place here, also READ MORE BOOKS!

I try my best for fight for justice and against prejudice and bigotry every place they might be found.

For a rounding end to this introdution I would like to wish all Fascists, Nazis, Neo-Nazis, Far Right Nationalists, Ultranationalists, TERFs/Gender Critical Scum, Racists, Homophobes (and all other queerphobes) and general bigots a merry PERISH, and get out of my blog and the internet. Try to contribute something useful to society instead of wasting precious air and water.

That's all I can think to say, hope you enjoy it here!

Ciao!

-Lume

P.S. Also to any minors, please don't stick around here? Not that I post NFSW content but rather that I would rather not risk any mimor getting exposed to improper content, Thanks! Also please be safe online, the amount of pervs, creeps and bad actors who seek to abuse minors in horrifyingly large, keep yourselves safe on the internet.

#lume post #stuff #introdution #intro post

[aces-to-apples]

Tagged by @inqorporeal!

1. why did you choose your url? My ao3 was already TheAceApples (which iirc i chose semi-randomly) so when i decided to try switching from thefreelancerdivision (god that’s a fucking throwback, no one check what this blog’s original purpose was, it’s embarrassing) i decided to base it off my ao3 while sort of riffing off that game apples-to-apples? and now it’s My Brand™

2. any sideblogs? yeah one for the umbrella academy before i decided that i don’t actually give a fuck about incest/incest-adjacent shipping on main, one for back when i thought i could actually do longfic and planned to do that for a genderbent anakin dimension-hopping fic, and same for the time-travelling bitty clones.

3. how long have you been on tumblr? oh uhhhhhh. i think 2014 maybe? something like that?

4. why did you originally start your blog? ah fuck. i used to be part of a big fic collab and started this blog when i was bored (painfully understimulated, rather) because there was no tumblr blog for the fic despite it being.......probably pretty popular? i honest to god don’t even remember.

5. why did you choose your icon? twitter was being especially heinous and panphobic so i asked the maulrex circus if anyone happened to have a pic of maul on a pan flag background. one person drew it for me (this one) and one person photoshopped one for me. i love them both, they’re insane.

6. why did you choose your header? title card of that “true crime” or whatever show “snapped” about people absolutely losing it and murdering people or something idk i was in a mood. i think that’s when a bunch of JAcist shit was happening and i was feeling super salty?

7. what’s your post with the most notes? probably still the john mulaney hanleia post although it might be the “geralt and princesses” post.

edit: just checked and yeah the geralt and princesses post has like 3k more notes now lmao wild.

8. how many mutuals do you have? i actually have no idea how people have any idea who they’re mutuals with.

9. how many followers do you have? 1490

10. how many blogs do you follow? 243

11. have you ever made a shitpost? have you met me? sure, plenty.

12. how many times do you use tumblr a day? i am, as the kids say, terminally online. (and also currently unemployed.)

13. have you ever fought another blog? not quite sure what “fight” here means although i will cop to deliberately posting anti-bait every once in awhile just to feel something. definitely had hostile back-and-forths with people but i block and move on once it gets boring.

14. how do you feel about “need to reblog” post? the guilt-trippy bullshit can fuck off. have been known to reblog, like, fairly urgent political stuff though.

16. do you like ask games? yes even though i’m a fickle bitch who doesn’t always respond promptly (or at all :margehiding:)

17. which of your mutuals do you think are tumblr famous? i know deadcat’s pretty ubiquitously known on the internet but other than that iyam pretty oblivious.

18. do you have a crush on a mutual? aroace thank you we don’t do that here.

Tagging: anyone who wants to play, don’t ask me to use braincells again after this.

#i was tagged #tag games #by apples

[self-insert-therapy]

My names Sam, welcome to..this !

i cope a lot through daydreaming and a lot of that include self inserts and self shipping so i made a blog for it (im actually very new to the selfshipping and self insert community tbh?) 

!DNI IF CRINGE/FLOP ACCOUNT! 

!DNI IF ANTI AGE REGRESSION! i do reblog and write agere stories

Small warning?: i do sometimes write about and reblog very clearly unhealthy and/or abusive dynamics. a lot of times in a way that my /character/ romanticizes in the story. i do not condone these types of relationships, and im not trying to glorify them. this is how i process my own trauma. i correctly tag everything, block the abuse tw, self harm tw, Stockholm syndrome tw, and angst warning tags if you have to. or unfollow me

!!Any ships with streamers or yters are usually only w their online persona/a character and only with cc's who have said their fine with ships !, Any cc who isn't fine w ships but is fine w fan content is platonic or familial with my self insert(will use tags), and is still only with the character not cc (my self insert is friends/familial and sibling-like with tommyinnit but I don't write anything romantic with him bc he's also a minor don't be gross and not comfortable) if there is a romantic ship w me and a yters character it's only with people who have said they don't care ! Please tell me if I accidentally white about someone who isn't comfortable !!

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[guiltybystanders]

Do you have anything against Ace people being in the LGBT community? I’ve noticed that sometimes you tag or add things to a post that might be anti, and I wanted to check.

Ok. This is a very loaded topic and I try to avoid discourse, but I guess it’s time to put my thoughts out there.

First off, at least until proven otherwise lmao, I am both aromantic and asexual. So my view of it is influenced entirely by my own personal perceptions of how I feel about it in relation with myself, and I don’t necessarily hold my views as applicable to other aro or ace people. 

I personally am uncomfortable including myself in the LGBT community having never experienced homophobia. I have experienced a lot of things that go along with not being straight, like comphet and pressure to conform to a straight relationship, but no one has ever been or will ever be homophobic to me until I feel same-gender attraction. So for me personally, I don’t consider being ace or aro as being LGBT unless there is also same-gender attraction. 

HOWEVER: my experiences are not universal, and so I don’t fault any aro or ace people as counting themselves as LGBT really, or think they should be excluded necessarily. I come down pretty middle of the line, and think people should choose it on a personal level. I do sometimes reblog somewhat exclusionist posts, because that’s what I feel for myself, but I also don’t fault aces who feel like they are part of the LGBT community. So I’m an exclusionist to myself, but less so to other people, because sexuality is a very personal thing and I don’t care enough to go around policing other people’s even if they don’t match up to how I see things. I have other aroace friends who feel very strongly about being LGBT, and even if I don’t see it that way personally, I’m not going to tell them what their own sexuality is or isn’t based on how I see my own. 

What would be best for me personally would be a closely related but somewhat separate Ace community that overlaps largely with the LGBT community—because we have similar problems and because many LGBT people are ace as well—but isn’t necessarily a one-to-one thing. We have so many in things we could be talking about together, about how our experiences are similar or different form each other, without fighting over who belongs or not. But I can also see how some aces would feel like they were being excluded from a space meant for them if they were part of a separate ace community instead of LGBT. As I said, this is what would be best for me, as someone who has some things in common with LGBT people but doesn’t consider myself one because of the lack of homophobia. 

Really, what it comes down to in the end is: I hate ace discourse on both sides. Everyone just fights and both sides are filled with bad takes as often as good ones, and everyone is bad at telling when someone is trolling to demonize the other side, and I don’t often bring up that I’m ace because I don’t like the associations it has with the discourse. Everyone should stop fighting and chill out, cause it’s just exhausting. Plus, maybe this is coming from a place of privilege, but how often does this come up in the real world? Get offline, folks. 

So yeah, I’m a middle of the line but leaning exclusionist, but I try not to enforce my own ideas onto other people’s personal experiences cause not everything has to be public discourse, fellas.

#long post #personal #my post #asks #ace discourse

[aromantic-official]

Hi:) i kinda have a favor to ask. I am currently writing a book& one of the characters is aromantic. I myself do not identify on the spectrum& only have one friend who does. I already consulted her but I want to hear about other peoples experiences too in order to get a better grasp of things. I love the character& I want him to be authentic& not some half-assed representation. I was hoping that maybe you could direct me to some resources? Or if you or any of your followers feel comfortable ++

++telling me about your/their own experience that would also be greatly appreciated!! I would love to hear about the process of realizing and/or accepting it, about any family related issues and also about how it possibly affects someones daily life (e.g. how does it feel if someone keeps asking why u still aint got a partner etc.) I know that all experiences are individual but i would love to hear about some. If this is rude in any way I m very sorry. Also dont feel obligated to publish this :)

That’s a very good attitude to take about writing an aro character, and I’m very glad you have an arospec person to consult as well, since it should help a lot. Here’s an ask we answered about a non-aro person writing an aro character, with many resources and basic tips. Here’s another, this one covering important tropes and pitfalls to avoid.

The question isn’t rude, but asking someone about how it feels to be out or how being aro affects their daily life can be very personal, so be careful and tactful if you choose to do so. Realizing you’re aro is going to be different for everyone, just like any other LGBTQIA+ identity. You may not be able to apply some of these scenarios to the world your character is in (ex. not having the internet in a fantasy book, or no aspec communities exist in a dystopian realm).

Some of the most common experiences I’ve seen for realizing you’re aromantic go along these lines:

“I found the term aromantic through asexual communities, both near the same time, and it clicked. The relief I felt was immense and I’m happy to have words to describe myself.” Most often for aroaces.

“I was exposed to the term aromantic years before I realized it fit me. I was in deep denial, both from other factors (could be sexual attraction, past relationships, trauma, wanting to be in a relationship, etc.) and amatonormativity.” Often for aro allosexuals and/or people who have tried to force themselves to have romantic feelings.

“It was very hard me for me to find a place for myself. The labels were small, hidden, and mocked/belittled/invalidated, and the journey to find something that fit me was long, but I’m glad I made it.” For people on the aromantic spectrum.

“I always knew I was different. I explored queer communities for a long time, switching between many different labels, but never feeling anything quite fit, before finding the term aromantic.”

“I never knew I was different. By finding the aromantic community, I became aware of the small things about myself I had pushed aside or ignored, because I didn’t believe it was possible to be the way I am.”

“I feel romantic attraction under certain conditions/rarely/in a certain way, so I didn’t believe it was possible for me to be aro, and felt alienated from the community. Later, I found labels that described my experience, and a group of people that understood what I went through, and I embraced my identity.” For arospecs.

“I knew of the term aromantic for a long time before I realized it was me. I questioned it, but due to incorrect/negative mindsets and amatonormativity, identified as many queer and arospec labels once I realized I wasn’t straight. Eventually, I pushed my denial aside, and embraced by aromantic identity.”

“I can’t be aromantic! I had a crush in 2nd grade!/There’s a person I think is cute!/I have sex!/I have strong feelings towards people! (usually squishes)/I want to date!/whatever bullshit excuse my mind threw at me during questioning. Eventually, I pushed through it, realized many of these were common experiences with names/labels in the aromantic community, and concluded I was aro.”

Family-related issues can be a bit more complicated. Just like any other LGBTQIA+ identity, it’s a personal choice to come out or not, with all kinds of factors contributing to the decision. I’ve seen many who have successfully done it, those who have been rejected, and those who will never come out. Fighting heteronormative and amatonormative stereotypes, ideals, and issues is fully individual and based on the family and the aro. Not to mention homophobia, transphobia, aphobia, or any other bullshit an aro’s got to deal with. Safety levels upon speaking up also vary; not everyone can be an activist. Handle this issue carefully.

As for daily life… being aro affects much of it, for many of us. It can affect which friends we have, what jobs we take, how we interact with people, what kind of partners and relationships we have, if any… everything, even in the smallest of ways. We know we’re different, we’re Others in the eyes of society. Romance is constantly marketed as something everyone always wants, must have, needs, and only the monsters, the aliens, the villains, the cold and broken and ugly don’t get a love interest at the end of the movie. The boy gets a girlfriend because he did a good job saving the world, right? Heteronormativity, misogyny, and amatonormativity intersect pretty neatly that way. This takes a toll on your mind over the years, the same way other anti-minority attitudes do.

The best way I can describe it is as a fundamental disconnect. It’s hearing people talk about their crushes and realizing you’ll never have a staple of the human experience, of growing up, of fitting in, that is so basic and ingrained it’s not even questioned. It’s realizing your friends will always value a romantic partner over you, no matter how close you are. It’s seeing wedding clothes and feeling sad, instead of hopeful or happy. It’s trying to find a song not about love, in vain. It’s watching a movie and not understanding why these two characters that stood next to each other are being shipped. It’s starting to loathe Valentine’s Day, for the constant reminders you’re different, so different no one even knows you’re here. It’s being so, so tired when people ask you why you haven’t kissed/dated/married yet, looking at you like you’re sad, or a child, or disgusting, or broken, or perverted. It’s realizing you don’t have the future everyone else sees as the ideal, and you don’t really know what kind of future you’ve got at all.

So yes, it can be depressing, but it can also be nice and fun, as shown in one of the asks I linked at the beginning. So don’t forget we’re not all gloomy discourse-plagued hermits, we’ve got personalities and stories and lives with many happy spots, just like any other person. One last thing, our resources page may help you as well!

Good luck writing your character; I hope they’re amazing!

- Mod Harley

#asks #mod harley #aro #aromantic #arospec #long post #aro characters

[ebvllogique]

This war against pro-lgbt, acephobe and asexual/aromantic is just so tiresome. I don’t want to use the argument “but I’m a wlw aroace” anymore, because yeah now if I don’t some people will look at me as if I was a threat to them because I am aroace and not only wlw. I am not a threat, I am just like you : I want everyone to be in peact with themselves and each others. I don’t understand what’s the point in fighting against each other, I don’t understand why we should focus on our heatred instead of fighting by each other side. There is narrow-minded people everywhere, and yeah you can and you will probably see aro/ace or lbgt people act like shit now and in the future, yet it doesn’t mean you should discriminate every person sharing a commun point with them.

LGBT doens’t mean aphobe Aro/ace doesn’t mean homophobic, transphobic, biphobic...

I am not here to say if aro/ace should be part of the LGBT community, I don’t want to start another fight, I am just here to tell you to not play the game of some silly people and share aphobe or anti-lgbt posts. If you feel something is wrong, just find someone safe from the community you have trouble with and talk to them, ask them your questions, cultivate yourself. We could prevent a lot of fight this way. Ask anyone, ask me, my ask box is open and I’d be happy to provide you any information you need without judging you. But just don’t stay with your assumptions and spread hate.

Because if you do, you’ll only make yourself and people around you suffer.

(Oh yeeah, now that I’ve posted this I’ll ask every aphobe or/and anti-lgbt who still don’t want to work on themselves to unfollow me, mutual or not. I don’t have the strenght nor the will to see your bullshit anymore.)

#asexual #asexuality #LGBT #lgbtqia #asexual discrimination #lgbt discrimination #gay #lesbian #homosexual #mlm #wlw #bisexu #transgender #peace and acceptance