#adhder help

[kaz-brekkers-investment]

I might possibly have ADHD. Before I can tell anyone else I need other ADHDer's opinion. So let's play a game. ADHD: Yay or Nay!

#adhd help #adhd post #adhder #adhd #adhder help #help #undiagnosed adhd

[ear-motif]

is it time to start treating adhd like the neurodevelopmental disorder it is instead of a collection of nasty habits and quirky personality traits or do we just wanna stay here for another 10 years

#the amount of bilittlement i get from nt’s and from adhders with mild adhd is #ive hit my limit boys #finally realizing that no i dont deserve to be treated like shit for not being on par with my peers #i dont deserve to get half assed care from every medical professional ever because its just trouble focusing #i literally have a disorder why was i taught that i should ignore that and that all my shortcomings were because of my defective personalit #i learned to stop asking for help early on bc i couldnt understand what was wrong #and when i tried to ask for help i was demonized for wanting to cheat #saying it wouldnt be fair to my nt peers #why do i think i deserve that?

[jennhasadhd]

🧠✨️ Positive self descriptions that I attribute to being influenced by my ADHD:

Adventurous, Bold, Charismatic,

Cheerful, Clever, Creative, Curious,

Daring, Dedicated, Determined,

Dynamic, Eager, Empathetic,

Energetic, Fair-minded, Friendly,

Fun-loving, Funny, Generous,

Gentle, Hardworking, Helpful,

Idealistic, Imaginative, Impartial,

Independent, Innovative, Inquisitive,

Insightful, Intelligent, Intuitive,

Inventive, Knowledgeable, Lively,

Logical-minded, Methodical, Meticulous,

Objective, Observant, Open minded,

Optimistic, Outgoing, Passionate,

Perceptive, Persistent, Personable,

Persuasive, Philosophical, Pioneering,

Playful, Reflective, Resourceful,

Respectful, Savvy, Sensitive, Sensual,

Spontaneous, Sweet-natured, Sympathetic,

Systematic, Talented, Understanding,

Unique, Versatile.

#jennhasadhd #adhd #adhder #neurodivergent #adhd feels #adhd life #adult adhd #actually neurodivergent #adhd stuff #that adhd life #adhd life hacks #adhd help

[adhdandcomics]

adding to my tags because i’ve been thinkin a lot about the post i just reblogged and have more thoughts:

i’ll be real, the more i saw ‘hey adhd influencers are so annoying’ the more i worried that i was unconsciously contributing to the spreading reputation of adhd folks as annoying and over-pathologizing every symptom they experience

and then i realized. i am not a goddam influencer or life coach or representative. obviously i have some obligation as someone who cares about myself and the people that like my comics to not spread harmful ideology or blatant misinformation but i never intended myself to be a “’increase your productivity!!’ blog OR a ‘if you have XYZ you have adhd!’ blog. and i do this for fun, and originally started this blog bc i had a lot of internalized shame and self loathing about my adhd and thought if i could make it funny i might have less of that. let’s get real! and it worked!

i’ve obviously done this kind of thing— (hey these symptoms might be adhd!) a lot before in my life & on this blog, but there’s more to it than trying to be an “influencer” or whatever. a term that didn’t even exist when i started this blog!

i felt very isolated trying to find out if i had any mental problems & what have you originally because of large advice (etc) blogs with staunchly anti self Dx views at the time

so i overcorrected when i DID get dxed and tried to validate everyone who was like me. and of course. not the best course of action always for the ol mental health. tried to be the source of positivity and jokes that i didn’t see because the online adhd presence was near non-existent.

and anyway. i make a lot of fun of myself & the way m brain works in my comics obviously but it is not my obligation to... how do you say.... not be annoying online.

because if folks interpret MY little jokes as a strict guide to diagnosis. that’s on them, really, not me. i also believe “making adhd your entire personality” is a non-issue. so what if people find out they have it and get over excited with identifying as adhd. saying this as someone who DID do it. criticism of this gives the same vibes as people being annoyed that young queers make “being queer” their whole personality. im very obviously more than a guy with adhd, and id reckon other adhd comic artists are too. (im friends with a lot of them!) it’s fine to post about it online.

anyway. i just don’t take myself too seriously and i’m a comic artist for myself first! and you know what, i’ve been considered annoying my entire life. what do i care if a few more folks think i’m annoying. neurotypical or not

#i think the article did have some good points especially on the capitalism and marketing angle but i oft think it did venture into #being mad at individual folks who post jokes about adhd. which is literally fine thats what an opinion piece is for lol #i am just very tired of people pretending that a lot of reaction to online adhders is not in itself just an extension of the ableism #we already were facing #'adhd people are so annoying everyone does this youre pathologizing everything' ok and how exactly are you helping. #i hesitate to throw my hat in with hating on adhd tiktok because i am simply not on tiktok and have no way to back up my thoughts #that they may be annoying and oversimplifying a complex disorder on the 'drains your attention span' website. #and i think perhaps the value of each adhd resource varies widely depending on who made it and what theyre even posting. #sometimes its a joke made by a person with adhd. sometimes its sourced and cited research. sometimes its someone discussing their personal #experiences in depth. sometimes its someone talking completely out of their ass. sometimes its THINLY veiled ableism. #its up to the individual to research and determine the value of the memes and resources you seek #anyway. perhaps these points are tough to clarify on sites like insta and twitter. bless. #text #adhd #im punk now #oh and yeah i also agree lots of folks do not talk about the unsavory parts of adhd but rather the funnies and the sillies. but that is #once again a larger capitalism and marketing and ableism problem #r we not talking about them because we are actively trying to infantalize this disorder or is it because we collectively experience a lot #of internalized ableism and hesitate to talk about our worst symptoms for fear of the backlash #weve always gotten about them 🤔🤔🤔 #much to consider #if youve read this far sorry for tangent number 56 about this. but also start being more unapologetic about your disorders. fuck it! #<3

[undiagnosed-autistic]

Question for neurodivergent people?

Is focusing too much a thing? Sometimes I have the feeling that I can't control my ability to focus and that I can only choose between don't doing the thing and doing the thing but with so much focus that afterwards I feel sick (I usually am nauseous, lightheaded, exhausted).

It's like my brain thinks that I have to do the thing fast and at the best of my abilities, like it's a matter of life and death. I don't know how to explain it better, has anybody experienced something similar?

#question #help #nd #neurodivergent #autism #adhd #dislexia #learning disability #learning disorder #gifted #actually autistic #autistic #adhder #adhd experience #autistic experiences #actually adhd #neurodivergence

[jaxypaxyhaxy]

Hey, so this is a question for my neurodivergent folk who need help like me. I’ve been wanting to design an app that game-ifys chores and everyday tasks to make them easier to do. I’ve been struggling with simple tasks lately but I’m stubborn and refuse to pay for apps, and the free ones never work for me. The only issue is that surprise surprise, I don’t know how to cure or design apps and websites. Idk it’s just a thing I’ve been wanting to do for a while and was wondering if anyone Would care or want to help me with it. If anyone wants to help me with this, or wants to leave suggestions abt things to add, or just wants to tell me if I should do this or not pls reblog kr leave a comment bc… yeah.

Also lmk if you guys care, like if u want me to explain further my ideas and what I wanna add, or of nobody gives a shit and I should just stfu. lol

Anyways if you read this I hope have a great day, and always remember I Love you🩷🩷

#I want this to be an app for people other that adhders but I don’t know wnpugh abt other topics so if anyone wants to help me with that too #it would be appreciated #someone please help me #adhd problems #adhd #adhd app idea #adhd brain #actually adhd #adhd things #mental health #app developers

[giurochedadomani]

There was a harringroveson post that I cannot find again that talked about Billy helping his neurodivergent boyfriends to graduate and I cannot shake the mental image of Billy and Eddie pretty late at the munson trailer. Billy agreed to help Eddie out to revise for their, idek, history final. And at first it seemed that Eddie just needed someone around to remind him to focus on the book every once in a while, but there's more. Because even if Eddie has actually put effort, and has Actual Notes Of The Subject, he just cannot make sense of it. And his insecurity is starting to flare up, and with that the fear, because he's terrified at the possibility of being held back yet again even if he usually plays it off with jokes.

Billy being Billy, he makes a comment about how it seems to be much easier for Eddie to remember the plot of his campaigns, even if they are much more complicated. And it comes off way meaner than he intended, both because Billy just doesn't know how to sugarcoat things and because oh, when you have adhd you wish you could just focus on the 'right, important' stuff and not on your 'silly' things, and it's a type of comment that someone with adhd has heard a thousand times over, something that can take a big toll on your self steem.

And Billy is about to take it back when he has this light bulb moment. And he goes to grab the box in which Eddie keeps his dnd figures, draws a very shitty map of Europe in a notebook and goes: 'okay, you need at least six players to play, right? We've got six players. Germany back at the time had like, the best army, so their character is going to be, uh, is this a warrior? And you can force some rules onto each player, right? So yeah. The UK and France must roll the dice once again with every move because they were democracies, so shit needed the people's backing '.

Anyway that's the story about how Eddie manages to pass his history final on the first try since elementary school

#Mungrove #Billy Hargrove #Brought to you by an adhder who got straight As in history #Cause I pretended that what I needed to remember for the exam was like #A game of thrones type of plot with kingdoms fighting against each other #Anyway if anyone knows the post I'm talking about please help me out and send me the link #I'll link it here

[firefly-fez]

Okay. This is what it feels like; to me, growing up with ADHD:

You’ve dealt with this your whole life.

You don’t know what normal is. and no matter how hard you try to put it into words, you cannot convey the severity of this pain to anyone.

Everybody is walking along a stony pathway. Many of these stones are sharp. Since this is the only path we’ve ever known, we keep walking. Everybody else seems fine with this, and they have no trouble walking. You struggle, more than most, and sometimes people notice. If you tell others of your discomfort, they tell you this is normal. They tell you to buck up, keep going, persevere, try harder. And you believe them. So you do try harder. It’s very difficult. It’s very uncomfortable. Your feet hurt all the time now. Everybody says feet naturally get tired from walking, this is normal. And you believe them. You’re limping now. Your feet hurt so much, but that’s normal. Right? Everybody says your feet get tired from walking, that it’s no big deal. This is normal, you just have to keep going. Try harder. Rest does not help the pain in your feet recover. Nobody else seems to struggle like this. This is a simple path, everybody walks it, it’s just you that can’t take it. It’s because you’re a failure. It’s because you’re a disappointment. Double down. Try harder. Why can’t you just do this-

You collapse. You’re exhausted. You can’t fake it anymore. Here, down on your knees, surrendered to your failure, believeing you’ll never be good enough… you finally look around from a new perspective.

Everybody else is wearing shoes.

You look at your own feet. Bloodied, bruised and badly hurt from years of walking over sharp stones. Bare. Bare feet. Everybody else was wearing shoes this whole time. It’s hard to take in. You can barely process it. It wasn’t you. It wasn’t your fault. You’re not the reason you couldn’t walk the path like everybody else. It’s not your fault. You’re not a failure. After all these years, you hardly believe yourself.

Eventually, you work up the courage to speak up about the fact that you do not have a pair of shoes. You try to get one. You try to explain why, but a lot of people, especially as their initial reaction, don’t understand why you have a problem. My feet are in so much pain, you start— but they interrupt you. That’s normal. Everyone’s feet will hurt after walking a long time. There’s nothing different about you. That’s normal. Not like this, you try to explain. Not to this degree. Please, please. You need a pair of shoes.

To believe you, they would have to look. To truly look.

Not everybody will.

#adhd #disability #neurodivergent #fyi im just speaking from my personal rxperience with adhd #but i included the other tags here bc i think the ssme premise might also be helpful to ppl with other disabilities #especially other neurodivergents #not trying to speak over anyone elses experience #but i think the principal could apply to many ppl besides adhders #please share your perspective re: YOUR disability

[audhd-musings]

idk who needs to hear this but I felt resigned to a lifetime of chronic headaches, tension, crippling exhaustion, muscular/joint pain, anxiety, and eye problems, then 6 months after starting stims and quitting my job they all started to slowly clear up

#im scared of getting a job bc eventually ill hit burnout again and all this shit will probably come back #and now i deal with constant shame #i still have hypersomnia if i dont take my meds though #i also got dx with vertical heterophoria which helped my eyes #and is common in adhders #asd #adhd #chronic pain #audhd #chronic illness #autistic adult #also still depressed but whatever

[chaotic-guinea-pig]

my adhd ass cannot stick to entertaining just one fic idea 😭 like as of rn, these are the tabs running open in my brain: that angst SOT style AU, 2 variations of the psychic Kyle AU, a psychological horror Stan-centric short story/oneshot, another AU in which Kenny has to glue his group back together after every other 4th grader lost memories of each other and a bunch more

#send help plZ #south park #my post #no legit adhders how do you guys commit to a fic?? #the Kenny one is also known as the rarepair fic 😎 #since no one remembers each other there are random pairings indeed

[cancelmecowards]

love it when I look up ways to navigate adhd and the first thing people say is getting organized :)

#IF I COULD DO THAT DO YOU THINK I'D BE ASKING IN THE FIRST PLACE #like #how #im not even being salty i just wanna know #adhd #adhd problems #adhders #help me out pls #:))))

[kaz-brekkers-investment]

You ever seen an adhd symptom and be like I never do that. And the very next day you realize you infact do do that

#adhd #adhd help #adhder #adhd diagnosis #adhder help #adhd post #help

[touhoutivations]

Ringo, if available -

I recently took up a new job and it's been really kicking me. I imagine that's how you felt on the moon to make you come to earth, similarly running from this place to that, answering demands of your superiors. How can I obtain more endless energy our species is oft known for? I'll gladly bend down my antlers for you to stick some dango on.

In a similar vein of thinking to yours, sometimes the moon is a big bright orange pumpkin this early September and I thought I would share some sentiment with moon gazing. Especially after work, it's presence is quite serene. I wish there was a way we could hang out. It would be a nice load-off.

Sincerely,

A golden earth jackalope

"ACK- THEY FOUND ME!" [ahem] "Oh, you're from Earth, all good all good."

But man, I totally get it. If you're running about from place to place, especially if you were going along with a particular system- school, a bad relationship, a lack of self-regard- even if you're trying to treat yourself better or help yourself out you can feel MORE exhausted...I wonder if that's Earth's impurity... You're on the right track though! You gotta load up of fuel, not just any ol' food but stuff that'll keep you going, and listen to your body. Turns out sustaining yourself on just dango ain't that great for Earth rabbits, and it's actually the "impure" foods of fermented or pickled stuff that's helpful for fatigue.

Also, whilst it can sound counterintuitive and may even be more exhausting at first, you gotta prep yourself before you wreck yourself. I love me a good nap, but when winter's coming, it might end up counterintuitive to just sleep all the time. You gotta keep those bones limber and moving, we got all that energy from running, and we run cuz we got all that energy! And when you rest...how do I say this without being lame, treasure it? Not in a 'oh you should be grateful you're able to sleep' but paying attention to how nice it makes you feel, seeing a breeze or feeling the warmth of a blanket...really sink your teeth into feeling the positive flow of things. No feeling guilty for how long it's been or how long it takes allowed, you give yourself permission to ~mellow~

I think moon gazing is a great idea, at first I didn't like it because it was kinda sad, but...now I see the moon differently. I see it the way Earthlings do, a presence in the sky that shifts the tides and envelopes nature with its own subtle dark light, a Mythical being...heh, and the idea that seeing the moon that way would piss the Lunar Capital off just makes that bright orange pumpkin all the sweeter~

I'll skewer some dango on, but that's for a takeaway- so have some now and enjoy it, mmkay?

#mod yuyu #ringo #ringo touhou #2huv8 ask #fatigue #food ment // #current events // #i feel you anon- i hope you're feeling more energy now! it's hard to deal with fatigue and there isnt a magic bullet for it esp if youre #dealing with chronic illness- but don't give up! get some protein and probiotics into you and be kind to yourself #fatigue stuff is always tricky but i also really recommend that if you have any mental or physical conditions you know about try to examine #other potential deficiencies and ways it tires you out and how to counteract it- eg adhders need more omega3 and protein in their diet #or even mental conditions can give you fatigue just from existing or being in an overstimulating environment- and your spoon storage is low #work with your body and brain- not against it and all that- whatever funky tricks help you do those funky tricks! #also sorry for the late post ;v; #me in january: bright and round and orange like a pumpkin in september~ humans and the beasts alike are waiting for the clock to strike #fellow lyrica enjoyer hell yeah

[alighted-willow]

I wish to read but I must eat and work on academics. Solution: copy-and-paste the literature on learning disabilities and varied sorts of intelligence (a fascinating and helpful subject) into a text-to-speech app so that I may cook and read at once.

#Writing this out is me dealing with executive dysfunction #I'm trying to figure out why I struggle woth this more now than I ddi a few years ago #Maybe it's because I use to talk out loud to myself all the time? #Writing seems to help so I assume talking did as well. #Anyways #ADHD #ADHDer #actually ADHD

[babylapin]

Maybe its the RSD and associated trauma, but ive noticed that ppl with ADHD tend to be rly gracious, and I think we should both lean into that and also weaponize it

#this is my Nice Jewish ADHD Boy Gun how can i help u :) #i just think us adhders are rly nice mostly maybe cuz we're so used to getting kicked around

[copperbadge]

So the ADHD Handbook post struck a chord with a lot of people...

I don't think I have it in me to write the book I suggested, mainly because most of what I want to write about is variable by situation. I can't actually offer a magic formula for getting a good assessment, all I would be able to do is say "Here are the warning signs, here's my personal story, shit's just rough". Which I could do but it'd be basically an entire book of "shrug emoji". The best possible way would probably be to offer it as a workbook, like "Here is a page for you to record every communication with the clinic doing your testing. Here is a page for you to write down possible other approaches to getting your medication if the pharmacy is out." etc.

I do think I might write it as a novel of some kind. Possibly even a novel about someone writing a handbook, I haven't decided. I had a dream last night about the book, in which I saw a woman watching a revolution taking place in the distance, thinking, "This is not what I intended when I set out to write a self-help book." Baller way to start a novel, honestly.

Anyway there were several suggestions for books in the notes, so I thought I'd compile those here. I have read none of these, so I can't vouch for their contents, but I'm including what my readers said about them.

@blogquantumreality linked to How To ADHD by Jessica McCabe, who is a well-known ADHD youtuber (I haven't found her videos super helpful but they're also not aimed at me). @knitsinweirdplaces added "The last section of the How to ADHD book is literally called 'how to change the world' and exactly points out we can advocate for a more disability friendly world that traumatizes ADHDer less in the first place. It's the only book I've read that hits the balance of 'your brain has immutable challenges' and 'these strats may help' right. Bonus, it is inclusive of people who use adhd meds and those who don't/can't."

@theindefinitearticle mentioned "I read how to keep house while drowning recently and it's been much more practical for me in terms of actual usable advice." This book has also come up numerous times during National Clean Your Home Month as a helpful guide to cleaning.

@buginateacup said "The year I met my brain is the only one I've read that actually felt like it was making useful suggestions for living with ADHD."

@cabloom said "iampayingattention on Instagram wrote How Not To Fit In."

@grison-in-space said "Do you have any idea how over the top excited I was when I found I Overcame My Autism and All I Got Was This Lousy Anxiety Disorder?"

@doubleminorforroughing wrote "Please read Devon Price. He wants to tear it all down and I love it." I will add that I don't think I've read Laziness Does Not Exist but I have read Price's shortform work extensively and I think he's been very influential in rethinking how we frame laziness and productivity in relation to both work and neurodivergence, so I can second the recommendation.

#sam has adhd #adhd #thebibliosphere #incase you want the follow up