#Take care of yourself too

[herbie851]

I’ve seen a few people here talking about what shit friends Ray has. That they are terrible for ditching him when he is obviously self destructing. They should be there for him, taking care of him whenever he is drunk (so, always). I totally understand the sentiment but here’s the thing…

You can only try to save someone on a self destructive path for so long. This is a group who has been friends for a while. They have probably spent years trying to help Ray. How many times have they carried him home? How many times have they cleaned up the puke? Taken his car keys so he doesn’t drive? Calmed down others when he started a fight?

Sometimes, even when you love someone a lot, you have to recognize their part in their behavior. You can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved. Even with alcoholism and addiction, they have to choose to get sober.

So I don’t think they are necessarily shit for letting Ray face the weight of his decisions on his own. They may be shit for a million other reasons, but not this one.

And, to those of you out there who have friends like Ray, you don’t have to fall into a terrible place to save them. It’s ok to love your friend and accept that they are self destructing. It’s totally ok to be there for them, support them, but please realize that in the end it is their choice. Please take care of yourself.

#only friends the series #psa from an older queer I guess #I’ve been around a lot of really hurt people #and I’ve spent a lot of energy trying to save them #hell I grew up with an alcoholic father #but you can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved #take care of yourself too #but always take their car keys if they are fucked up #taxis are there for a reason #only friends #ofts #ofts ray

[softlyopulent-if]

i love how everything is going so far im about to exPLODE

SUPER DUPER EXCITED FOR FUTURE UPDATES

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF I ❤️ 🫵

#THANK YOU #TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF TOO #asks #anon #softly opulent

[skyward-floored]

Honestly, you have to just ignore all of this. The drama is insane and it seems like people are on a witch hunt now. Just take care of yourself, bb. We know where your heart is. <3

Already ignoring it 👍

I’ll probably be on here less today because even being on the fringe of this sort of thing just gets exhausting, but I’ll be around a little. Maybe I’ll reread the comic and remind myself why I stick around here lol

#answers from the floor #angry trashcan #and thanks :) #I appreciate it #take care of yourself too

[beacon-lamp]

you dont have to offer us any comfort, beacon. take time for yourself right now. this is hard on all of us, so dont feel like you need to offer up anything more than you can give right now. take care of yourself <3

thank you anon <3

#anon #ty for the kind words :) #take care of yourself too

[i-may-be-an-emu]

This is Scrappy and her bucket. 

Scrappy and bucket are proud of you. 

Scrappy wants you to take care of yourself.  

Bucket wants you to love yourself. 

Cal wants to let you know that you are amazing! Bye! 

Thank you 🥲❤

You're amazing too!! I love Scrappy and her bucket so much!

#Love Scrappy and Bucket #Very beautiful #(/gen) #Words can not express how much i love seeing this #You are so amazing #Take care of yourself too

[sweet-child-of-night]

Ayo sweet sweet sweet person. Love you. You also intimidate me cause oh god everything you write is so good. And you make such aesthetic posts. It's so beautiful. You need to rest and not be so hard on yourself. Drink more water (idk how much water you drink but still going to say this).

Take as many breaks as you need <3333

Ignore the anon. They're an ass

flowers for anon as pretty as them

#hehe thanks you are awesome too #take care of yourself too #i surly need to hydrate myself much

[illbeyourpsycho]

it’s the middle of the week and i know it can feel rough sometimes, so here is your resident shy raccoon to drop a little love and positivity into your inbox. hopefully, this will bring a little brightness to your day, even just a  little. you are precious to me (and others too), so please take care of yourself. remember: you are enough. you are special. you are loved. you are needed. eat a little something and drink your water! sending all my love and well wishes your way for the rest of the week. see you next wednesday ♡♡ -tin

<3

#the absolute sweetest #take care of yourself too #<3

[leeminlikesdaises]

All right. I’ll calm down. I won’t stress about it because you don’t want me to stress, but promise me that you will take care of yourself. I know that you probably already are, but just in case. 

ill try to, iv been in bed all day uhviv

please dont stress or worry, then ill feel bad :(

#take care of yourself too

[jackdaw-and-hattrick]

I love “Danny and Damien are twins!” AUs as they blatantly imply that Danny was taught by the literal League of Assassins and is making the active choice fight like a feral raccoon.

#danny phantom #danny and damian are twins #Danny is a feral raccoon with too much power #Damien goes around complaining about everyone’s technique but the second they point out Danny he suddenly only cares about results #to be fair the day you can take down literal gods you can leave yourself open to as many attacks as you like #it’s still debated who exactly is the Evil Twin™️

[shitpostingkats]

Alabasta Ace is so funny.

Like the strawhats keep commenting that Ace is so polite and restrained compared to Luffy but like. This dude drags himself out of the ocean just to thank them for looking after his brother and offer to help wash dishes. Mans asks "Are these guys bothering you?" and proceeds to blow up an entire fleet with his bare hands. He trips over himself to make sure all of Luffy's crew likes him and no, really, you don't mind that he's a weirdo???? That we, I mean he, are feral little insane guys who take up space and emotional labor and are kind hard to handle? Really???? Cool cool cool hey just a reminder I can help out with anything that needs doing. I got lost in the desert but donnut worry in the 0.6 seconds since you last saw me I have somehow acquired water and provisions for several weeks. Don't ask me how!

Peak oldest sibling behavior.

#'Ace is trying to flirt with Sanji' <<< Weak take. Simple. Out of character. #'Ace immediately clocks Sanji as the domestic provider and tries to endear himself to the guy responsible for feeding his little bro. #At All Costs.' <<< Strong take. Breathtaking. Absolutely something he would do. #Ace cleaning his plate ever meal and carefully putting everything away: I am going to get a good job in taking up space :) #Something that is normal to want :) And possible to achieve :) #I'm just saying Alabasta Ace is clearly insane. #And so used to constantly having to provide for Luffy. #Oh? Buddy? Were you raised in an environment where resources were scarce and you felt you had to 'earn' the right to be cared for??? #Are you used to working yourself to the bone to make sure you and your brothers weren't considered 'too annoying' or 'not worth the effort' #Are you scared of requiring care and being a burden on those who love you??? Huh??? Little buddy??????? #one piece #op #portgas d ace #portgas d. ace

[gaycaelus]

Anyway you’re really lovely I hope you’re doing well and taking care of yourself and taking breaks and all the good things <3

i slept for 15 hours ? ToT

#ty anon im doing my best #take care of yourself too #anon the beloved <3

[noxtivagus]

Hsjdbwiwnwinsidjs I'm so glad ur okay now :( u should know that u don't always have to comfort people :0 this may come off as a bit mean but it's important to remember that other people's emotions or problems aren't your responsibility

Its okay to comfort them but if it gets to the point where u start to think that u have to comfort them at all times no matter what is when things can start to get unhealthy for you

I think nowadays people often forget that friends aren't just people who comfort you all the time, they're just there supporting you by ur side no matter what. You don't have to talk to them all the time because if they really are your friend they'll always be there!!!

Anyway long story short: ur emotions = ur responsibility but other people's emotions = not ur responsibility!!!

- someone who comforted an entire discord server in the vents channel 🧍‍♀️ trust me the amount of anxiety it gave me was not nice 💔 omg take care of urself lune ily :((!!! IF IT HELPS U FEEL BETTER WE CAN PLAY GENSHIN OR PJSEKAI TOGETHER IF U FEEL LIKE IT💪💪. OR ANY OTHER MULTIPLAYER GAME!!!!

😭😭 ILYT SAM TYSM

#tag later #i'm genuinely crying rn thank you 😭😭 #your words really helped me remember and realize things that i've forgetten #THANK YOU 😭😭 i worry too much about everything and everyone so it's so overwhelming 🥹 #help i'm a mess rn i forgot how to write but #thank you so much i really appreciate you 🫂 #HSJFJDJDKJABFNAKSKTHK #I CANT WRITE but ilyt <3 #i'll write a bit to myself to collect my thoughts n calm myself down #but genuinely. thank you for this #+ definitely we shld rlly play together sometime AAAAA #🫣🫶🏼‼️❣️✨ #thank you again 🤍 #take care of yourself too #reminder that the same long and care you show others #you deserve it yourself as well <3

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

How to say no

Positively DBT - BDD, Autism, ADHD Peer Support

#boundaries #how to say no #blocking someone is also setting boundaries too #take care of yourself mentally #mental health #it’s okay to say no #feel free to share/reblog #Positively DBT - BDD Autism ADHD Peer Support (Facebook)

[fromdarzaitoleeza]

Spring is here , the true beginning of the year , the season where my soul reborns and blooms .

I have made some progress in terms of the person I am becoming, truly in all my honesty all that i have done is to stop caring for everything that once used to matter , the less I care about anything in particular the less I am bothered and the happier i stay. And i really hope everyone here is doing well and I appreciate all the love that was sent.

The problem is I care a lot about everything and i don't even get the bare minimum in return and when i do get it it's too late, so much time has passed by then ,when it comes by then i do not want or need it because it's the not care that came out of love it came out of their guilts. And the longer i wait for it to come by -the more I learn why I don't need it anymore .

I am slowly learning to value myself ,trying to put myself in a position where I can agree that i too deserve all the good things and love even on the days when i have nothing to offer .

Idk guys I am just here to rant and to be stupid

Better late than never they say , I guess it's not too late for me either, I will start my life and live up to what I want & how I feel ,i don't have to care about anything else as long as I feel alive in my bones things will eventually flow, I will fall in love with myself little by little day after day.

I will choose myself instead of choosing others and I will fall in love with my solitude instead of bearing it with me , i don't care if I end up alone if I do end up all by myself I will be with someone who i know has a tendency not to give up .

Life is really short i just don't want to sit and watch it pass by , if I am lucky enough I will have 40 more springs to experience , I have clear boundaries and thoughts in my head now, eventually i will find peace through it I hope so.

Ramdan kareem to people who celebrate it here please remember gaza in your prayers and fastings

#i love everyone here i hope you all are really good and if you are not i will just hope you all will be eventually #things will get better guys give yourself a chance dont crosss oceans for people who cant cross a mile for you #choose yourself over and over again let things go let people leave when they want to #keep yourself happy you are all you have everything is temporary #do good for yourself don't do anything whixh will hurt you in any way shape of form #seem therapy if needed #always remember if it can happens once it can happen again #dont think too much about anything just live do your part feed yourself well #find happiness in small acts of your living #this stupid blog is currently still active on Instagram in case you want to read more of poetry #remember you deserve all good things but don't go around hurting people #take care of your heart bye 🫂❤️‍🩹

[witchspeka]

I love my girl Miwa but as soon as I read that this image immediately popped up in my head:

#HAVE SOME STANDARDS GIRL DAMN #i want this relationship to work out too but this aint it #how do we relationship #cine te a intrebat #uhmmm theres SPOILERS past this tag in case u care to read this yourself just a quick warning #i kid i joke but this scene fucks me up i like how this manga handles queerness. it shows how messy and painful it can be #like we already got a bit of that with sae and her relationship with sex but this mmmmmm this one i didnt see coming #imagine u work up the courage to confess to ur high school crush and she says she cant date you #not cause she doesnt like you. quite literally /because/ she likes you and wants to take ur relationship seriously and respect you #but she cant do that. because shes afraid of people finding out. of having to hide all the time. of being ostracised. she's tired. #she cant find the strength to do that. #the frustration of being loved but society denying you the possibility of being together... ill clown on Miwa (its very easy) but i feel bad #for her #gaud i need to sleep hai pa

[twinstxrs]

the gorgug-porter conversation is interesting to me because like. yea for the overwhelming majority of the conversation porter’s being shitty & trying to fit gorgug into a box that gorgug just does not fit into by trying to make gorgug’s relationship with his rage more focused on the aggression aspect of it. but then there’s also this specific thing that brennan brought up again in the ap, which is that gorgug’s relationship with his rage is wholly “this is a tool i use to protect my friends.” which isn’t a bad thing! but that’s his Whole relationship with it, & gorgug seems to place next to no value on his rage in relationship to himself. which is problematic, because it’s first & foremost his rage.

being raised in a household with a sort of toxic positivity largely meant that, whether or not it was his parents’ intention, gorgug internalized the message that more traditionally “negative” emotions such as anger are the wrong response to something. part of the reason he prioritizes his artificing is probably because it’s “fixing” things. in comparison to being a barbarian, which gorgug associates with “breaking” things. good vs. bad behavior, in his eyes.

it’s a totally unacceptable bar to measure a 16 y/o by, but i do think part of porter’s reasoning for not letting gorgug multiclass is him recognizing that gorgug generally does not value anger as a valid emotional response to something, at the very least for himself. & that directly conflicts with what being a barbarian is, because whether you like it or not, that rage is what fuels you. but again, barring a kid from pursuing something they deeply care about in part (not entirely, porter has a lot of more bullshit reasons) because of their fundamental values & world outlook is crazy.

so yes, 98% of porter’s reasoning is pretty shitty, immature, rife with a toxic view that there’s only one proper way to access rage, & generally not a good thing to do as a teacher, but also within that reasoning is the 2% of ‘there is a fundamental part of yourself that you only value if you can use it to take care of other people & you need to accept that as something that can take care of you, too.’ but that’s something to discuss with a therapist or a guidance counselor, not something that should hugely impact gorgug’s academic future.

#gorgug thistlespring #fantasy high #dimension 20 #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #btw these r just my personal opinions u r 100% free to disagree #gorgug & his rage interest me so deeply because of how deeply that rage existing seems to be against gorgug’s own will #like mechanically classes are choices & you can switch stuff around any time. but gorgug as a barbarian always felt like an unwilling choice #like that 14 y/o kid did not want to have rage. & that really interests me. #i’ve seen people before be like ‘what if gorgug dropped barbarian & went full srtificer’ but i feel like that simply can’t happen?? #mechanically yea sure but it always felt like a core part of gorgug that the rage will always be there & it’s a matter of how you channel it #idk. dnd classes narratively being treated as ‘you can not lose this part of you’ even though you technically can #gorgug could be lvl 19 artificer & he’d still have 1 level of barbarian. because that is part of who he is. #btw i don’t think porter truly cares about gorgug valuing his rage only as a way to be a human shield #i think porter just sees that as ‘wrong’ but like. not as in ‘you need to take care of yourself’ & more ‘you aren’t conforming’ #he thinks it’s wrong for the wrong reasons. the nastier ‘this is how you should be’ reasons #ppl being like ‘we r being too hard on porter. it’s an 150% courseload gorgug will be overwhelmed’ i think r missing the point bc like. #that is 100% a valid reason to not approve gorgug for multiclassing! but that’s also 100% not the reason porter rejected him. #that whole interaction was basically porter shoving his percieved version of conformity down gorgug’s throat. was v neurodivergent kid coded #no hate to anyone saying that last point btw these r all just opinions #thinking about last ep wilma & digby being like ‘you’re a great barbarian. you’re so great at it. but look at what you made!!!’ like. #they would never mean it like that. but when you only understand half of your son he is going to prioritize the half you do.