#It shouldn't be a chore

[raveartts]

turt

#raveartts #wings of fire #wof #turtle wof #dragon art #kinda art blocked lately but at least dragons are easy enough to draw #i'd love to draw some warrior cats stuff too but like...cats hard #oh well at least i'm drawing SOMETHING #i promised myself i'd do proper art fundamentals practice this year #but so far it's been absolutely pathetic #i'm barely even drawing in the past month #though i shouldn't be hard on myself about it i suppose #i've been stressed and busy and mentally unwell and dying #and i don't HAVE to draw....i just feel obligated to because it's all i'm good at and don't have other reliable hobbies i enjoy #perhaps once school is finished i can draw more #though by then i might be having to move out and work full time and i think i'll just die when that happens #so i'll just never get better at art i guess and i'll just pretend i'm totallyyyyy okay with being subpar forever and ever #lack of perfection DEFINITELY doesn't bother me :))))) not one bit #anyways i have to go to work soon.... #at least my chores are done. perhaps i'll promise myself i'll do some gestures tonight since i'm not busy

[qsmp-yaoi-island]

I can't help but feel like everytime the egg quest are reworked, they're centered around forcing the players to log in more which is very :/

#qsmp #qsmp liveblog #qsmp thoughts #qsmp crit #the way they make egg quests feel like chore rather than a simple daily quest thing is a problem #so many people on the server are variety streamers they shouldn't have to put off their content to make sure their egg doesn't die

[menlove]

oh another top surgery thing people don't talk about but I've seen a few posts along the lines of "don't just take one week off, take two!" but unless you're getting keyhole, which most people are not, you need a full entire month off from work and chores after surgery. like your doctor will not clear you to work that quick and believe me you do Not want to be working after two weeks. you aren't even allowed to drive for 3 weeks. 1 week is when you get your drains out but you are by absolutely no means done with the healing process after a week or even two. you can't lift more than 5 lbs for a month and that strikes out many many jobs.

so do keep that in mind when you're planning on how much money you need to save up bc you will not be able to work for at least a month

unless you work a desk job or something really low energy in which case ask your surgeon about your limitations but if you do anything that involves any movement, you need a month.

if you can't afford to do that, which is understandable, I would say at the very very least wait 3 weeks. that's when you're able to drive again and they have that limitation for good reason bc you don't want to be in control of a moving vehicle if you have nerve pain etc. if you can't afford That and go with 2 weeks, I'm begging you to advocate for yourself and make sure you won't be lifting more than 5lbs at work and have plenty of allowance to sit down and rest. and talk to your surgeon.

if you can't afford two weeks off at the absolute minimum and you're doing double incision the choice is yours but it will be miserable and I would suggest waiting until you save up enough to take more time, even though that sucks

#top surgery #like if you can in any way avoid it do not go back to work before that month is up #I'm 3 weeks out and I started doing some chores last week even though I shouldn't be #but I'm still not back at work #I'm easily exhausted and those muscles are still healing

[theacerecluse]

Canon is wrong.

When Gwen becomes queen, she doesn't forget she was a maidservant. Yes, she (difficultly) adapts herself to the aristocracy habits, but she doesn't distance herself from her friends of a life, the servants. Specifically, her and Merlin's friendship doesn't disappear out of the blue. When Merlin crushes into Sefa and makes her drop the tray (5×01), Gwen helps them pick the food up because she's friend with them. When Arthur, Merlin and her find time for their picnic dates (5×10 – no, Merlin isn't thirdwheeling and that's a group date), she helps Merlin settle the blanket on the ground because she doesn't want him to do all the work.

My canon is that queen Gwen is close to servants.

#bbc merlin #5×01 #5×10 #these two scenes really disappoint me #i feel robbed of gwen and merlin's relationship #i'm sure someone has already complained about it #queen guinevere #merlin #merwenthur #arthur enjoys gwen and merlin sight mocking him while they do chores they shouldn't do because they're not servants anymore

[maddy-ferguson]

women will literally accuse women and esp lesbian circles of "not unpacking ""man-hating""" alleged ""misandry" sweetie xo" getting offended ppl aren't appropriately uplifting how "men are amazing and awesome and attractive and i won't be shamed for thinking so" as if appreciating men is a real counter opinion than blame whatever gave women of every sexuality instance to be jaded weary cautious and tired and who'll complain every now and then and continue on with her life until she dies putting up with patriarchy. just welcome to the "woke" internet where misogyny's over and "man-hate" "shamed for not hating men" is worth springing to defences for

yeah i've only seen people talk like men's rights activists and think they're being unbelievably progressive on tumblr it's kind of fascinating. like i can see how seeing people hate on men could mess with people and stuff but you can't demand men appreciation posts that's literally the whole world outside of idk your tumblr dash (or even on your tumblr dash because fandom misogyny from people who think they're not misogynistic at all is really something). men get praised for "babysitting" their own kids like be serious? it's very let men be masculine

i don't think being like men are soooo gross and we hate them is actually constructive and it can definitely veer into transphobia (you'll always be a man/"a male" and thus a danger to women/why would you ever want to become a man they're the enemy and the bane of society etc) and homophobia relatively quickly?

but the way people ON TUMBLR ""combat that"" is often so off to me like if the most basic feminist principles offend you then i'm not really sure where to go from here. i remember seeing a post that was like "men aren't your enemy. they're your friend/brother/father/colleague/neighbor" with a lot of notes and like i don't know how to tell you this but that's literally who's most likely to harm a woman, the men she knows?😭 and obviously not every system of oppression is exactly the same but would you say the same thing to someone criticizing white people like...just very weird

i think women who are attracted to men and dating them making jokes about how they only tolerate being attracted to men because they have no choice and especially the whole i'm bi so i love every woman and only find 1 in a 1000 men attractive (very often said while in a relationship with a man) thing is obnoxious and annoying for like everyone who has to hear it lmao but also when women who date men make jokes about it (not about them being ugly or unattractive or whatever but about them being bad partners in general) it's like. what else are they going to do like you said they're gonna endure patriarchy for the rest of their lives and as girlfriends/wives/mothers they go through the most it's very bleak? idk. it's not like you can date a better man yourself out of patriarchy

of course men aren't a all as bad as the worst guy you can imagine and they're not all out to get you or whatever but saying things like "men don't all benefit from the patriarchy rich men benefit from the patriarchy but jake, 23, is not oppressing you" is like. kind of insane. jake, 14, was oppressing me like have you never interacted with boys in school😭 and it's not like it was entirely their fault we all have to outgrow misogyny it's just you know society etc but some of them never outgrow it lmao and just...the takes you see on feminism on tumblr are astounding i hate it here

#and like i do think that young guys who feel bad about themselves only having people who make them feel worse and who actively make them #worse like incels and idk youtube algorithms to turn to is a problem but like. again it's the same thing as white people who feel bad about #being white to me in a way like are women and GIRLS supposed to coddle them and say it's gonna be okay you're great even when they're #like actually harming them by being misogynistic to them? that's already what they're taught to do always #the notes on that male loneliness epidemic post i reblogged a few weeks ago still haunt me like OH MY GOD #and if you think misogyny isn't as prevalent anymore you're very naive. and probably misogynistic yourself #i'm not even sure young men being more feminist is true (well it's probably true when you compare it to like the 50s) but even #when men ARE like yeah women shouldn't have to do everything i can help with chores (the use of the word help is already a red flag lmao) #when you look at what they actually do they still do way less like i don't have links because these are tags on a tumblr ask but i read #somewhere that men think chores are 50/50 when they're only doing like 30% of the work? like it just seems hopeless #sometimes i'm happy and then i think about the mental load #sorry for not uplifting men 24/7 you can just hang out on the steve harrington tag or something there's actually a lot of people doing that #when someone said um does the ronance fandom not seem terfy to you...because of a post that was like can the lesbian ship ronance #be about the lesbian ship ronance not about steve A MAN #like you can't make this up #i meant it when i said the average tumblr user would benefit from being exposed to more misogyny like i swear they forget it's even a thing #like obviously they wouldn't BENEFIT from it lmao but their posts wouldn't be as dumb and that would benefit me🙏 #ask

[girlfox]

#𝐎𝐔𝐓 𝐎𝐅 ⠀⠀(⠀ⅰ.⠀)⠀⠀𝐂𝐇𝐀𝐑𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐄𝐑:⠀⠀ಇ⠀⠀oh-kae! #home from work . . . chores done & jammies on . . . #i need to work on my final presentation a bit but i think #i'll do A LITTLE writing first because i have so many thoughts today #but otherwise -- i'm almost done school yippee !! #once i finish my presentation i just have to spruce up my portfolio n' turn it in. #then do my exam which shouldn't be too bad. #then i'm done !! #and then i can be way more active again !!

[ereborne]

What is a Monday? A miserable little pile of obligations.

semester turnover restructure

generate/send out error reporting

figure out how to separate out unique counts

create polite reply to Massive Dick Move email

finish the bad book >:(

bò kho (not an obligation. dinner)

laundry

lizard bath

#yapping tag #I spent my weekend trying to sleep and now all my chores are due today and I wanna complain. grump grump grump whine. #the semester turnover restructure actually is a pet project so that part I like! I wish I could take my time with it though #the error reporting is. well it's easy to generate (it's actually running now) and it's tedious but uncomplicated to send out #but then I'm going to spend the rest of the day getting passive-aggressive responses from everybody #in a just world my coworkers would respond to careful itemized lists of all their fuckups with 'thank you Alexis you're so helpful #we really appreciate you flagging our mistakes two weeks before the system final-saves them forever into stone. have a cookie!' #but alas #if I'd been any less stressed and frantic when I first established the error reporting I'd have set up a separate address to send them from #write up some template emails and let the reporting all come out of the mythical 'automatic system thing' #--every 'automatic system thing' in our college is me or IT on my behalf. even the people who hired me for this don't seem to realize #if only I'd known from the beginning that nobody would ever connect me and my systems! I'd be exploiting the shit out of it-- #the unique counts is going to be a headache. no idea how I'm going to structure the coding for it. might be fun to invent? we'll see #the Massive Dick Move email response also will be an invention. 'hello Mr Massive Dick I am karma here to smite you' but polite #the bad book >:( I don't want to read any more of but the deal I made with my friend is he sends me free books and I report back #we did not discuss a special 'get out of book free' card for when the main character is a godawful shit sibling. (should've done though) #beef stew is good! mostly it's on the list so I don't forget to set the timers #laundry and lizard bath can wait until tomorrow if they must but they shouldn't wait any longer than that. lizard and I will get stinky

[machidielontheway]

so i "did nothing" today of what i had planned (groceries, 'mental health walk') but i also : - did the laundry - put away the dry cloth of the previous laundry run - waxed (which i wanted to do yesterday so i'm glad i did it now) - practiced my instrument (twas not great as it was a bit mindless, but i finally found the source of one recent sound problem) - washed my hair - did a little callisthenics - downloaded some songs to begin making a collection - learned that even if i'm not feeling it, putting the right song WILL give me the energy necessary to do the thing. i do not need to want to hear the sound for it to work.

so even if i didn't do a "specific activity" outside i still did things and that's good !

#3615 my life #this post comes from the fact that i always 'ruin / waste' my holidays by doing 'nothing' #when i want to do 'things' #and i'm beginning to see/add nuances to what is things and nothings and what feels like doing or not doing #it was sunny today (as much as it can be lately.) and in general i'm dog holding it's leash about it #and if i don't go out i feel like i shot myself in the foot and is doubly sad #but i thought about it and actually didn't want to go truly it was not uuuh i saw it again lately. it was not demand avoidance #because it's fucking wimdy and i hate the wind and behinf outside in the cold wind #so actually i was much happier home #day did not happen how i planned it but in the end i don't feel like i fucked it up. i did things that made me feel good #and or will help me later #and i shouldn't ask too much of myself. like for cleaning : one thing a day is already great ! all in it's time. #that's how the brain learn it's not a chore and is able to do it more readily and agreeably the next time

[ki-flor]

I don't really mind waiting two years because when you have a particular show/series you like the hope of seeing it return really carries you through. I'd also suggest getting a new couple of couple of hobbies and I mean that in a positive way.

#Byler #I think you'd be surprised how the years go by I mean we're already approaching May #Most importantly have fun it shouldn't feel like a chore to stick around the tag lol

[tuesdayscanons]

Do you think Arcus is flustered because:

A) he has a crush on Gale

or

B) Arcus is upset that Gale is tagging along because he wanted to be alone with Maud, even if it'd mean leaving Gale completely alone on Christmas

I think you can already guess the answer.

#ooc tag #《 this is one of Arcus's more annoying moments 》 #《 I know you hate Gale but that's Maud's brother. That's all of the family she has. 《. #《 Maud's dad left when she was young and her mother is so negligent that she might as well have abandoned Maud and Gale. 》 #《 if you can't tolerate ONE Christmas dinner with Gale then i don't think you and Maud are going to work out long-term 》 #《 when i say he acts like a toddler i mean it 》 #《 in episode 217 (?) Arcus stomps away like an immature child because his mom doesn't think he can do chores 》 #《 as much as i talk about him having chemistry with other characters i don't think Arcus is mature to be in a romantic relationship at all #《 damn it i shouldn't have brought up this comic here 》 #《 I've unleashed a ravenous beast that I have failed to tame 》 #《 also don't be fooled by that dinky little kitchen 》 #《 Arcus has a huge ass mansion 》 #《 with peacocks and a disco bowling alley 》 #《 no i am not kidding 》

[gideonisms]

to the many people who saw my router modem griddlehark yesterday and said "yes you are crazy," you will be happy to note that I spoke to multiple people in person today and it DID make me less insane, unfortunately

To the people who said "abi, you're absolutely right," I am baking you bread. It's not MY locked tomb brain rot it's OUR locked tomb brain rot

To the one person whose only comment was that my modem and router should be farther away from each other, I'm obsessed with you. However I can't separate them! That's griddlehark

#i'm lying i put them a little bit more distant #okay actually. i'm lying again i didn't but it's because i forgot and as soon as i get up off this couch i will (truth) #anyway you know what i think? i think failing to adequately interact with people irl should have no mental consequences #i think god (hypothetical) should give that to me for free #i should not be struggling to eat and do basic chores then participate in a class discussion and come home eat lunch and write 2k words #that shouldn't be how that works #i shouldn't feel better after spending time with family. you know that's the thing i have complex emotions about! #you know i am struggling to decide how involved i want them to be in my life and it does not help that every time i go home i'm like #this is great! this isn't that bad! why did i move? we get along so well my brain says it's happier the jesus thing isn't even that big a-- #no that is the devil talking!!! #that is the devil talking

[jacky-rubou]

^ person who wants to enjoy Ford Pines without worrying about his morality for five seconds.

#gravity falls #ford pines #stanford pines #fandom #let's be clear that i am on his side on most things #but the point is #i don't wanna feel like i have to take a side #i prefer ford over stan and that shouldn't sound as controversial as it does #morality police made liking characters a chore #cuz now you have to 'justify' your love for a character #especially if they're so-called 'problematic' in any way shape or form #'problematic'? yeah they're that way to push the plot forward #perfect characters aren't interesting #but if your fave character is flawed in the 'wrong' way then welp #then you have to bow down to the golden child in apology in order to escape the wrath of liking the wrong character more #rambling in the tags

[xo8ball]

what if i was a watermelon and i was in between his thighs. and i got crushed and splattered on the floor.

#i shouldn't be saying these things ive got chores to do #but sirrrrr mr stump hello........... #i need to be bench pressed. not sexually btw. just because he is hot and im insane #patrick stump #fob #fall out boy

[piduai]

Who’s the biggest misogynist king in gk

ogata for sure, big advocate for women going back to the kitchen and reversing the vote. he's an incel by practice but not even out of bitterness that nobody will fuck him (he finds women sexually repulsive himself) he just hates women

#anon #everyone else is a woman respecter btw he's the only misogyny warrior #ok tsurumi is also a trad and would never allow his wife/daughters to work or be unfeminine but it's a different can of worms #wilk thinks that women shouldn't do xyz because it's unbecoming of them but it does not apply to his daughter bc he decided so #kiroranke is a leftist bro he says that women deserve equal rights hashtag ally but still expects his wife to do all the chores

[quotablefanfiction]

“So, do you want to tell us how this happened?” Steve asked, looking around the Avengers’ living quarters. Tony tucked his hands in his pockets and rocked back and forth on his heels. “Some things,” he said, nodding sagely, “defy explanation.” “Does that ever hold up?” Steve asked. “In front of congress, or in court?” Tony grinned. “Either way, the answer is no. Mostly, it’s a stalling tactic so I can figure out something better to say.”

Steve and Tony (chp. 3)

Some Things Shouldn’t Be a Chore by scifigrl47 (AO3) Avengers (Marvel Movies) – Teen – Steve Rogers/Tony Stark #Alternate Universe #Humor #Fluff #Pre-Slash #Problematic Childhoods #Domestic #Roombas #The Toaster Series

Steve takes things like personal responsibility and respect seriously. Tony’s got people he pays to take care of that kind of thing, and anyway, he’s pretty sure that he’s going to die of some exotic disease in his workshop, because Dummy’s still a little spotty about what is ‘clean’ enough to put on an open wound. The rest of the Avengers are in this for personal gain, except for Clint, he just enjoys being a dick.

And some things shouldn’t be a chore.

#fanfiction #quote #Avengers #Steve Rogers #Tony Stark #Some Things Shouldn't Be a Chore #scifigrl47

[scrawnytreedemon]

So many Tumblr posts, even joke posts, consist of ordering people what do do.

#scrawny rambles #people have pointed out adjacent topics before #like guilt-tripping and shaming #but god the sheer amount of posts on this platform that are just telling people what they should and shouldn't do??? #someone will like something or want to see more of it #and instead of doing more themselves or hyping up the thing they like #they take this weirdly bitchy condescending smiling-through-your-teeth tone saying why y o u should do it #usually including that you're not doing it because of x negative reason #i don't even disagree with the core topic or the thing they like most of the time #i'm just so fucking sick of it #i see this alot when it comes to shipping stuff too. and. ugh. #hot fucking tip: you're not going to get people to consider this thing with zeal if you're making it sound like a chore #all fan-creations come from passion and you're not going to inspire passion with guilt #or condescension #even if what you are pointing out is infact correct and true #as a bisexual afab *something* it makes me more intimidated to go into these spaces #i'm *less* likely to do it #like on that particular topic it is not wrong to say misogyny has tinted both the way female characters are created and handled! #that it is infact shitty that they get sidelined by their male peers even those more underdeveloped them #but like. most of these people aren't actively trying to be misogynistic. and most of them are also subject to *some* flavour of misogyny #you're guilting the victims of the phenomenon for struggling to connect with characters tinted *by* misogyny #it isn't just that they're underdeveloped it's that they're like. less than representation. if you get what i mean. #unfortunately of course this ends up carrying into characters that are genuinely well developed and that is shitty #it's good to point that out! but would it kill you to cut down on the guilt-tripping and *painfully* evident bitterness #this stupid topic has been losing me sleep for awhile now send tw-- ah shit. x? #lmaooo