#Is just the misgendering is too much

[quillandrapier]

You could be having the most harrowing mental health episode and you just have to clean and be present.

#Tw for gender dsyphoria #Internalised fat phobia #And suicidal ideation #Anyway #So my brain is telling me I should detransition #Not because Im not a man #Is just the misgendering is too much #Im so heavy these days I'm medically obese and that's really fucking my brain up #My body doesn't move how I want and it's killing me #But im so depressed i cant bring myself to move my body enough #I dont even like food but I eat like an entire box of ice creams because I just do #Im £2000 in my overdraft and I can't control my spending to the point I cannot get out of it #Im too scared to even apply for any benefits because I almost got prosecuted for not filling in forms in time #Even with a world of leniency #People around me are telling me “oh but it's been so hard” but I've just been lazy #I cant find the motivation to do anything at all. #My sister is moving home in two weeks and we'd have to share a room #But i almost threw a glass at my mum the other day while I was fucking up trying to make food #So at this point I genuinely think i cant get out of these issues #I dont believe I can do anything but kill myself at this point #Im not even worth trying for anymore #I cant take testorone correctly so im just getting the negative effects #I cant take medience correctly #I really don't think I'll be alive in three weeks time #I hate myself for posting this because i hate being this person #But i dont have anyone I can talk to about this as depression has left me almost entirely alien #I've destroyed most my friendships with my procrastination #My ex was right to leave me #Im not someone who can be helped

[obscenicon]

its so interesting how the most basic things that i thought most trans people had agreed on already (not assuming ppls genders, not using heavily gendered words on somebody whos gender you dont know, fucking asking before you use said gendered terms, etc) just all seem to go out the window the moment the person is a trans woman. so very interesting.

#and like. lots of trans women do repeatedly ask not to be casually misgendered and it doesnt fucking work #bcs tme ppl and especially tme trans ppl will just double down and claim that 'my guy man dude bro' is gender neutral #whatever. i guess i shouldnt expect ppl to do anything basic to be kind. bcs kindness is too much emotional labor to extend to trans women #transmisogyny #🍔

[moongothic]

I know people often speculate about Crocodile and if that is his "real name", either implying he has a deadname or his name is another one of those Hidden Ds (much like Roger and Law)

And like. This is just me but personally I would prefer it if he didn't have a deadname at all. It already grinds my gears when people use Sanji's "real name" when he himself hates it and doesn't want to be called by it, and so god knows if Crocodile is trans then the fandom misgendering is going to be obnoxious enough, you don't need to add a """real name""" into that mix

So. Personally, I would prefer it if Crocodile really was his birthname. It would just help us avoid some toxicity, ya feel me? Like people can't deadname him if he has no deadname to begin with?

That said.

I do find it interesting how Crocodile never actually introduces himself during the story to like. Anyone. Like we never see him go "yes hello you may call me Sir Crocodile" or anything

In fact, like, very specifically, when we finally get Crocodile's face reveal in Chapter 155, he explicitly says

"Call me what you will"

Of course, the citizens of Nanohana had just been calling him a 'hero', 'desert king' and 'the Guardian Deity of Alabasta' in the previous page, so his comment is mostly just in reference to the various titles people were shouting out rather than his actual name

And to be fair, the dude is Extremely Famous, he doesn't have to introduce himself because everybody already knows who he is

But it's still an interesting detail, isn't it?

(Also tangentially related, but Crocodile never seems to object to people calling him by cutesy nicknames either? Like to be fair, he probably couldn't object to Ivankov calling him "Crocoboy" to begin with, but he never seemed to mind Bon-chan calling him "Zero-chan" repeatedly either, nor did he object to Buggy's "Cro-chan" 🤔)

If nothing else though, considdering even his former bounty was associated with the name we know him by, it's possible that even if he had a deadname, "Crocodile" could be his "pirate nickname" that he chose to roll with. Kind of like "Strawhat" or "Blackbeard" or "Hawkeyes" etc, a title people use so often you kind of forget the person's actual name

Or he might have that Hidden D. Which, if he did, I'd be more inclined to believe would be more like with Law (where he might've been told as a child to keep it a secret). Instead of the whole "names being merged into one to hide the D" like with Roger, since that one was a specific, intentional move from the World Government

The only thing about the Hidden D is that. I just. I think it'd be a little silly. Like. Crocodile doesn't have to be a part of the D clan in my mind. Like I don't need that twist. But to be fair, there is an argument to be made for Crocodile being a D. Like if his goal is to destroy the WG and the World Nobles (that being the reason he wanted military force and Pluton to begin with) then ARGUABLY it would be fitting for him to be a D, since the D clan are the "Natural Enemies of the Gods". Also, there's the whole trend of D clan members always dying with a smile on their face. Like sure Crocodile hasn't died (yet) but he definitely went to Impel Down (hell) with a big ol' smirk on his mugshot (chapter 413 cover), which is close enough. So there is an argument to be made for Crocodile having a fullname with a D that's been kept a secret

I dunno, these details are interesting to me

#Moon posting #OP Meta #Sir Crocodile #This is not an invitation to start speculating about what Crocodile's deadname might be *with me* #You are welcome to speculate about it!! I just personally don't care and don't want participate in the discussion #Like if he has a Hidden D that's one thing but like. Someone's deadname is none of my business #(I know he's not real I just don't want to speculate about it out of principle. It's uncomfortable) #(And I feel like if I don't give out a disclaimer now I'm going to end up with a bajillion asks and comments about it) (I'M SORRY) #I just wanted to comment on this tiny observation about the character because it is facinating #If I had to pick my poison I'd rather go with a Hidden D over a deadname because. I can deal with some misgendering. #It's the deadname on top of it that would be too much for my very personal Bullshit Tolerance to handle #I think the most poetic and kind of precious option would be Crocodile not being a D by birth #But becoming an inheritor of the Will of the D after marrying Dragon. Like. That would be precious. To me specifically.

[spitblaze]

One day you will reach a point where someone will misgender you and instead of feeling the jab of disappointment or fear or mockery, you will only feel confusion or bewilderment or even just...nothing, whether you correct them or not. And you will realize how far you've come, and how resilient you've grown, how much comfortable you are in your own skin.

#spitblaze says things #i complain too much about transgender stuff. lets get some positivity going #anyway yadda yadda usual disclaimer. i cannot speak to everyones experiences or lives. im not psychic i dont know ur circumstances #i just know that reaching the point of some terf misgendering you to get a rise out of you will one day be less dehumanizing #and more like. annoying or pathetic #yeah thats great i will never be a man uh huh sure. u got any better material i dont have all day #or like someone will just...casually misgender you. you will be in the street and someone will 'sir' or 'maam' you wrong #and instead of stressing about what made them clock you you'll just be like 'what' #and if ur still in thr place where ur not sure if you will EVER be in a spot where itll be either chill or confusing #remember. cis people get misgendered too #men with long hair will get ma'amed. women with broad shoulders will get sir'd. #there are individual pieces of clothing that will make people gender you a certain way and you will not know why #ultimately there are a million things that could cause someone to clock you or anyone else incorrectly and its 1000000% subjective

[pepperpixel]

I’m sick of the feeling that I always have to have enough pictures for a photoset to post anything. So. I’m rebelling against that stupid fuckin feeling and just posting this chara stand alone! There’ll probably be a frisk to go w it eventually! But! U’ll just have to wait lol

#undertale #chara #chara dreemurr #ut #doodles #started this yesterday. finished it like an hour ago. and posting it fucking now. no waiting to draw more shit to go w it ghghg #also. I’ve put this in the tags of another chara picture before. but that was a long time ago. so. reiterating just to be safe: #yes. I have drawn chara in a skirt. their pronouns are still they/them #idk if that needs to be said! but. just in case.. #cuz I remember. specifically on deviantart. there were a few ppl who rlly liked misgendering the humans on my art of them ghgh #I don’t think that’s as much of a thing on tumblr. but still #but anyway yeah! chara! I drew this completely on my phone too! #and I took my time w the details and coloring and shit! I didn’t rush thru any of it! #im proud of myself ghghg #also. this was an attempt to solidify a chara design I like. cuz I felt like. the last one I drew. for the honey pie animation meme #was ok?? I liked it. but I was also like. shit. their hairs too messy and long they look too much like Kris #so. I wanted to try and fix that lol #we’ll see if this design finally sticks! #…for the once in a blue moon occasion I draw Undertale fanart ghgh

[outlying-hyppocrate]

in line to the bathroom just to cry!!

#random thoughts #gender dysphoria. #felt it especially this morning when some lady from this organization that worked with our school called me christine. #CHRISTINE. #do i honestly look like a christine?? #(not her fault but still.) #but she kept fucking misgendering me. i bet it was the shirt i was wearing. #normally i wear more layers so as to make my body less. shaped. #BUT I RAN OUT OF NICE ONES AND SO I HAD TO WEAR ANOTHER. #it used to be my favorite shirt but now it is not. i hate it. #either it is too small for me or i am too large for it. and either way i want to fucking stab myself because of it #augh. wanted to cry earlier. but didn't. #still sort of do when i think about it. i get misgendered often but. augh. #and the comment my mother made a while ago. about. how can i be a boy if all my friends are girls? #WELL SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU HAVE NOT MET HALF THE BOYS IN MY SCHOOL. FUCKING IDIOT DUMBASS. HAVE YOU NO COMMON SENSE #TO KNOW THAT TIMES ARE CHANGING AND WE ARE NOT STUCK IN YOUR WARPED PERCEPTION OF GENDER NORMS?? HELLO?? #i hate my body so much unironically. if i could fix it somehow. #i have been trying to fix it so hard for so long but it hasn't fucking worked and it's gone in the OPPOSITE WAY. and i am RUINING MY BODY. #AND I FUCKING HATE IT. #sometimes it feels as if nothing is good. i want to shave my head again and be perpertually ugly. #i need new hair. #i need to fix everything. #please. #i have no motivation to do it but i need to do it. #i know i'm a boy. i just want to be a boy for everyone else.

[corfisers]

the thing about the dudebro discussion, the aita post, the willingness to just take at face value any accusations directed at a person you don't know, is that it's all so painfully transparent, it's so obvious that those conversations are happening at this scale specifically because it's about trans women. maybe it's just me, but you generally shouldn't be using certain terms for people unless you know that they are comfortable with them, and if you fucked up then apologize and move on (if we pretend for a second that the majority of dudebros weren't feign ignorance or just actively malicious to begin with). you should be aware that some things don't affect you the same way they affect other people, and you definitely shouldn't be giving those people potentially dangerous advice on topics that you personally aren't familiar with, this is the baseline, at least don't fucking put other people who were misled into trusting you in danger. and if an anon barges into your inbox with some wild accusations then you should stop and think "hey, why are you coming to me anonymously with no evidence to back any of this up, and in such a way that i have to reply to you publicly so more people get to see this" regardless of who it's directed at. like, those are all pretty simple things, or they should be at least, but because the targets are trans women and transmisogyny is so fucking rampant everyone has to bend over backwards to come up with excuses as to why treating trans women this way is perfectly normal and justified.

#transmisogyny #i'm not going too much into the aita thing because i've seen trans women express different opinions and i don't feel like it's my place #to talk over any of them. ik how i feel but i'm focusing on the part that i feel more confident about. which is don't give people advice #when you have no idea what you're talking about. like. those people trust you and turn to you for help and the least you could do is to say #“hey i'm sorry but i'm not the right person to ask” #i've been in a situation where a friend assumed i was tma and i didn't realize (i never said i was but we met in a game so like #minimum info outside of pronouns which were they/them at the time + some assumptions based on little things she knew about me like height) #and when she asked me about something that is not my lived experience i cleared things up. so the idea of just rolling with it instead #is so baffling to me. it's so irresponsible and disrespectful. it's hard enough already for transfems to trust people and you pull this? #the dudebro thing too. i hate being called a bitch (has nothing to do with gender) and ik that if i said so people would be like “yea ok” #could throw some completely genderless term in here as an example as well. people are usually fairly reasonable. but nooo not with dude #can't have the right to casually misgender a trans woman taken away from you. gotta make it look like that's not what you're doing either #infuriating and exhausting #benvey tag

[northern-passage]

the extreme in italics too? i'm imagining them like that gif of that person walking on the street recoiling in horror at zoomed in shots of lesbian behavior except in this case it's like...two references to hormone potions

transphobes will get mad any time they're put in a situation where they are forced to acknowledge the fact that trans people exist

#tried to articulate my thoughts more but honestly this is all it is at the end of the day #i get it all the time with tnp cus i dont advertise it as a trans story #the most i do is put it in the lgbt tag on itchio #so people tend to get real mad when it is revealed in game. i've been dealing with it since i started #it's weird. it fluctuates #just talking abt how i feel like attitude around merry has changed recently #but not too long ago when i genderlocked Noel i had a lot of ppl mad then #bc xe uses neopronouns and now i was FORCING everyone to acknowledge them and use them #whereas before they could pick another set of pronouns and ignore it #i know ppl ignore it about merry and lea #and ppl just straight up misgendered clem for a long time lmfao #i think recently adding in everyone introducing themselves w their pronouns was too much for some ppl too #like i said the more they are forced to acknowledge the fact trans ppl exist the angrier they will get #cus they have no empathy or compassion for us #um. but also i think it's bc ppl have been recommending tnp as a game that's like the witcher all over reddit recently #so........ lol #this is not the game those ppl are expecting #ask #anonymous #transphobia

[silusvesuius]

trans t*lvas is integral to my survival but also his life sucks so bad he needs actual things to look forward to like getting his E injection and getting cute clothes or he'll blow his brains out

#text #not misgendering my queen just speaking in concept #it would soften the abuse n*loth inflicts on him too cus n*loth sees women as inferior to him and doesn't feel like tormenting them as much #for that reason only #his nickname 4 v*rona is Dishwasher

[snekdood]

ive been disillusioned with a lot of the left for a while, it's nice to at least see that other ppl see it now, though the reason why kinda fucking sucks.

#i used to think i could trust ppl bc of pride flags in their profile or them being trans or whatever #and then i put allll of my trust in that community not realizing theres a Multitudes of types of ppl in it #aside from even the fact some trans ppl can be nazis- some trans people- as much as it might make us look bad to admit- #are also predators and abusers and want to lie to you and use you for money and sexually abuse you and dump you like trash #and then accuse you of doing everything they did @u@;; ask me how i know! #so on the one hand im happy ppl see it now- it's not that leftists or queer ppl or feminists are better ppl- ppl more worthy to trust- #they're just as diverse and as good and as shitty as any other demographic of people. #you're gonna find shitty people everywhere. obviously you're more likely to find predators on the right but that doesnt mean theres not #plenty on the left too. #at a certain point calling yourself 'on the left' doesnt mean much aside from idk. thinking ppl need basic human rights? #and even then its apparent that some leftists dont think that. so who can say. maybe you wont misgender me? but nah- you will #if i disagree w you or if we get in a fight- i've seen plenty of leftists do this. #i just think the term is useless now. #i think the left is about to fracture into different groups at this point #anyways be weary traveler of ever putting all of ye trust into any group of people. #its possible to like ppl and enjoy being around them and still not fully trust them. and if something tells you to gtfo? you should #also putting all your trust in a group of ppl is a one way ticket into possibly joining a cult on accident #or at the very least a culty friendgroup

[vhvrs]

first person in class to do intros had neopronouns n it does send instant relief thru the room to hear that in person when ur nervous enough using pronouns u think makes everyone squint at u (me)

#never heard someone here use neos so i did a doubletake n then u could feel everyone else feel way more comfortable #i just always feel on edge bc of last semester where i kept getting misgendered n kindve just dealt w it bc its too much work u know #unless i did mishear but the way the person gave them sounded like a neo ive seen a lot on here #heard him/hiss w the extended s sound so like #if so hope hiss enjoys the class

[kazzykatt]

i can't believe job hunting is making me consider selling art

#kazzy life #vent #i dont want to monetize a hobby i cant its too much pressure #after art school and art work i swore to myself i wont sell my hobby again #but looking for jobs is making me want to kill myself #that or going back to mexico #fuck this first world life i rather go back to a simple grocery store job and being misgendered #i dont want to do this everything is online and stupid and i have to make an account in every website #and its all horrible and they want videos and photos and be a great seller #IM NOT I JUST WANNA GO BACK TO RESTOCKING #i was so happy in my little supermarket hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh #never make big decisions at 18 #i dont know why i keep going i really dont #this is just #AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[autistickaitovocaloid]

You. company that markets their menstrual hygiene products as "shame free". Do you use gender neutral terms when referring to your consumer base.

#art talks about stuff #sorry i talk about this a lot it feels like i talk about it too much #i think i'm just still recovering from being misgendered twice today so this jut set me off for some reason #like i'm not saying EVERYONE has to degender this stuff (although tbh i think they should) i just want one place #i am begging you. just one. please #id in alt text

[smalltimidbean]

Also while I was drawing silly cheese, there were like four asks all at once, and they're all about Fiend kjdfgk

What does it mean (silly)

#Bean talks too much #two of them also misgender Fiend... Again #but I am not gonna hold that against the askers #it is a little exasperating but we just correct and move on #but anyways! thank you for all the asks!

[rowan-ashtree]

im fucking so angry. can trans ppl just be normal ppl to y'all. im a fucking human being ok

#im so fucking sick of being An Oddity. the person who keeps having to say 'pls don't call me girl it's uncomfy' when they say #'but i call everyone girl it's not about gender' FIRST OF ALL. IF YOU'RE CIS DONT FUCKING TALK TO ME ABT GENDER #second of all. god im actually too tired to keep ranting. i just wanna be a normal person #and i dont have anyone to talk to abt this rn bc my besties are either at work or getting ready for work . #actually i will keep ranting. I LIKE MY BODY. and then ppl misgender me or fucking LAUGH WHEN I SAY IM NOT A GIRL #and then suddenly i feel so uncomfy and gross in my own skin. literally fuck off why do you get to offhandedly say shit that hurts so much #its pride month i should be allowed to stab ppl to death #rowan vents

[larryrickard]

i had a dream that i made little cards that say "THEY!" on them that i handed out to people at work who got my pronouns wrong, immediately after they got it wrong. and in smaller text (or on the back) it said "i don't want an apology, i want you to do better" or "don't say you're sorry, DO BETTER" and ..... i kind of want to do it. maybe i'll get some moo cards made lmao

various scenarios included:

me slamming it down on a desk in front of them.

instead i had stickers, would slowly peel one off while they watched, and stick it on it on them.

handing out a quarter sheet piece of paper based on the 'i caught being good' tags we'd get in kindergarten which said 'i got caught misgendering hallie/my coworker'. it would have their name and date on it and a giant 🙁 face. i had them as a pad of paper and would hold up a finger to say 'wait a second', dramatically pull it out of my back pocket, take my pen out of another pocket, slowly fill it out in front of them, and hand it to them while staring them in the eyes.

getting a whiteboard for the outer side of my cubicle wall that said '[days] since i was misgendred' (with a bonus by saying 'last offender: [name]'

i also dreamt that i got into trouble for it because i was making people feel bad and was 'creating a hostile work environment'. i was just like.... okay and how do you think i feel? and my boss shut up real fuckin quick. dunno if that would be the case irl but if that does happen i can only dream.

#tired of the people who say 'i'm trying but i'm going to make mistakes' #ok sure i definitely mess up sometimes too but when it's not even close to 50/50 let alone merely uncommon ............. fuck you #what's sad is it's all people i like and it hurts so much #in the dream it the cards also said something about how i'm not a girl. not a lady. not a woman. stop saying that word to me ... #... in plural when i'm with female coworkers. about half the time i say 'not a lady' and only about half the time it's acknowleged #or that one who constantly posts female-empowering images on ig which are alienating bc it's clearly very binary #and getting comments like 'well it applies to you to!!!' why bc i have a pussy? fuck off #and she'll sometimes say 'thank you for your patience' (what patience) or 'have patience with me' (no.) #i've also thought of holding up my name tag in their faces bc my previous boss had it specially made for me #it's got my name position and pronouns #same boss tho..... he was REALLY consistent about using my pronouns but one day used she/her three times in a row before eventually... #... correcting himself and the next day i told him that really sucked especially from him and he later told me i should have been nicer... #... about it. i was PISSED. i said 'well then how should i have said it?' i don't even remember his answer i just know i wanted to go... #... off on him SO BADLY bc he said it 'hurt his feelings'. well too fucking bad bc every time i'm misgendered it makes me want to... #...die inside a little and feels like at the very least a tiny punch to the gut but that felt like being stabbed esp since it was a new hir #he also said 'ok but i corrected myself' yeah AT THE END after doing it THREE TIMES and that's not the point here #anyway lol this dream definitely stirred up shit unfortunately but i'm serious when i say i might actually have these made #like both my internal email and external emails have my pronouns in them (i had to campaign for this btw so thank you me) #but i recently added my own custom signature with 'they/them' in it that has a link about using pronouns correctly #me #lgbtq #nonbinary