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zotlel · 4 years

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The Exhibition (M)

pairing: jaebeom x you (ft. jinyoung)

genre: photographer!au, smut, romance, one-shot

synopsis: You are starved for inspiration as a photography student. When visiting the anonymous photographer “Defsoul’s” exhibit you meet a like-minded boy who gives you that spark. Only you didn’t expect the night to pan out exactly as it did.

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The wide city sidewalk was packed full of people anxious to get home and start their weekends. Their hurried steps accompanied by the warm street lights were quite a sight, you thought. With a quick flash of your camera, you are able to capture the scene as is, but you were already running late. You weave in and out through the bodies because unlike them you were not going home.

This was the third year of your photography program at the city’s most prestigious university. Despite how much you loved photography, you had been stuck in a creative rut recently that you just couldn’t seem to break free from. Therefore it had become a tradition of yours starting this new school year to attend some sort of photography exhibition on Friday nights. The size of the city that you were currently studying in allowed this to be a possibility due to the ever-growing art community it had.

Your steps continue at a quick pace, but you couldn’t help your eye from wandering at the scenes around you. So hungry for any sort of inspiration, from the streets dampened with a former rainstorm to the businessman making quick work to undo his burgundy tie that had been constricting his neck. Anything. You wished for just anything to strike you with a spark.

You had finally reached your destination where the new exhibition was being held. Alone. That was the title of the photographer’s first show. The photographer in question? Unknown. The photographer was going under the alias as “Defsoul.” It was quite a trendy thing these days to have no idea whose art you were looking at. You really could not wrap your head around as to why you would not want to put your name amongst the work you are proud of. Which was also a perfect example of why you probably struggled so much creatively.

The space the photographer chose had a rather grunge vibe, photographs were arranged on the tattered brick walls and all throughout the room. The air was thick around you as soft R&B beats flowed throughout the space. Stepping into the studio, you notice that you are one of the first patrons to arrive at the exhibition. While most guests came in pairs or groups you stood small in the expansive space in solitary, you preferred it that way. Small gatherings of people were scattered throughout the different rooms, all ranging from different ages, sexes, and ethnicities. You silently complemented the ambiguous photography for having the ability to reach so many demographics. The more you walked about the studio space, the more you understood everyone’s attraction to the enthralling photos.

Each photo was supposed to emit a different sentiment, or so that is what you have learned from your classes. The photos themselves vary from different subjects, older couples holding each other close, some were expansive European landscapes, and then also the occasional stray cat stretching in the afternoon sun. You tried your hardest to interpret the photos in your own words, trying to find the connection. Alone. That was the exhibition name. So why didn’t you feel that when walking amongst the various scenes?

To you, the different film that was taken emulated a mass collection of photos taken from someone’s personal collection. There was a sense of solace in each photo that you couldn’t quite put your finger on. It felt as if you were with the photographer in every photo, imagining the way they shot each scene. You had been walking around rather aimlessly through the gallery until you stopped upon one image in particular.

The photograph was no more expressive than any other photo in the gallery, but you couldn’t help stopping and staring. The scene was the back of a man, his hair slightly long and disheveled, he looks out into an extensive lake surrounded by forestry, the light of a late midday sun which illuminated the photograph. You cannot help your logical analysis of the image, and you find no flaws. The common idea surrounding photography is that it is a completely creative and artistic practice, while this isn’t false, it just so happened to also require certain formulas as well. It requires an eye for direction, proportions, and balance. This photo that fascinated you in the gallery had all of those elements.

The sound from the other patrons fades around you as you become enraptured in the photograph. It was only the scent of pure pine and spice that had you reeling back to the current moment. To the right side of you, a man stood, he wasn’t looking at you but instead he was, just as you were, staring into the alluring photo. You studied the man, he seemed to be around your age, taller than you, with dark hair that matched his sultry eyes. You admired the man’s bone structure, tall nose and cheekbones, he really was quite attractive.

The way your gaze lingered on his face must have given him a sense of being watched. Because before you could hide your stare the handsome man was shifting his face towards you, looking straight into your eyes, a devilish smirk dances on his features. Heat rises to the apples of your cheeks as you turn to look at the picture again, pretending like you weren’t just caught checking him out.

“What do you think?”

You turn to face him, “Excuse me?”

“About the photo,” he smiles back at you. You cough slightly trying to hide your embarrassment.

“Oh, um-” you start carefully, “it is actually my favorite one in this exhibit I think.”

His face softens at your answer as he nods, looking back to the photo before he begins to speak again, “What’s so great about it?”

You look at the photo one more time, really analyzing it.

“I’m not sure exactly,” you say honestly. “It was the only photo that really caught my eye. Don’t get me wrong I thought all these photos were great, but this one helped me visualize what the photographer must have been witness to through his photos.”

He looks back at you with a surprised expression.

“That’s a really interesting take on the photo, I thought you just thought the man in it was attractive.”

You laugh slightly, “You can’t see much of looks from a person’s back.”

This has the man doubling over in laughter, much to your surprise. You look around the room to see if any of the other patrons are staring at the man, you couldn’t help but feel a bit embarrassed at the attention. Then you looked back at the man and his blinding smile and you cannot help but return the same emotion. And for the first time, in a long time, you began to feel captivated with this man.

His laughter seizes yet his smile remains as he turns his body to face you, “I am Jaebeom by the way.”

He says while extending his hand out to you. You are now able to see his entire face as you grip his hand in a greeting. To your surprise, he had a silver nose ring on his right side, along with multiple piercings all up and down his ears. It was your first time feeling such an attraction to a man’s jewelry. You blink rapidly realizing you had just been grasping his hand in silence for some time, but he didn’t seem to mind. You tell him your name before dropping your connected hands, he repeats it softly as if he was saying it for only him to hear.

“Did you come by yourself tonight?” He asks.

“Is that some form of a pick-up line?” You reply back snarkily which has the man chuckling at your playful banter.

“It’s only a pickup line if it works,” he states causing your head to nod in agreement.

“Well then yes, I am alone if you must know.”

“Fascinating. I would have definitely assumed you to just be here on a date, not actually here for the art,” he says.

You scoff, “How pretentious of you to assume such a thing,” you say.

“I’m a photography student if you couldn’t guess, so I am most definitely here for the art.”

“I meant no offense,” he holds his ringer clad hands up in a form of surrender. “It was just a simple observation due to the other people here tonight.”

He wasn’t wrong about that, you thought. The gallery was littered with different couples strolling throughout the space. Love could easily be seen in the air the minute you walked in. Not that you minded, of course. If you had allowed yourself to date you would also think to come to an art gallery like this, spending time with someone you were attracted to amongst gorgeous imagery, it was quite romantic.

“This does seem to be a hot-spot for couples tonight,” you note back to him.

“So, what would you say if I asked you to come out for a drink with me tonight instead of staying here?” He asks you.

“What, are the lovebirds kind of cramping your style?” You laugh back at his sudden suggestion.

He laughs at this before continuing, “Not necessarily. I’m just interested in you, I thought maybe a good way of getting to know more about the beautiful girl from the gallery would be over a couple of drinks.”

You smile shyly looking away from him, “I don’t know, I was kind of curious to see if this secret photographer would show themselves by the end of the night.”

“Trust me, he’s not one for introductions.”

He? You thought to yourself, how could Jaebeom know the gender of the photographer? Perhaps he had been coming to Defsoul’s exhibitions enough to have eventually met the elusive photographer.

Perhaps you should take Jaebeom up on his offer. Hell, you couldn’t even remember the last time you had been out for a drink. Especially with a man as good-looking as Jaebeom. Maybe you could finally allow yourself to let loose, just this once.

“Well, in that case, you lead the way,” he smiles at your response. Jaebeom raises his hand inviting you to take hold. You do so while smiling, excited for what the night shall bring.

Jaebeom grips your hand tightly as you two make your way throughout the lamp-lit city streets. Your heart is beating wildly every time he would look back to check if you were still there, grinning when he is met with your presence. The two of you walk hand-in-hand as he tells you he is taking you to one of his favorite lounges in the city, you can’t help your excitement.

You two finally arrive at the bar, the exterior of the building is ornate in nature with vintage signage and lights decorating the brick walls. Jaebeom drops his grasp on your hand to open the large wooden door allowing you to step inside first, what a gentleman you thought. Inside the lounge the cigar smoke twisted in an elegant way, forming curls in the dim light. The room was illuminated solely by the age-speckled bar lights. Jaebeom finds an empty booth towards the back for you two to sit. A smartly dressed waiter comes around to grab drink orders and skirts away hurriedly after. You sit back a bit in your seat trying to calm your nerves by looking around the room.

You wouldn’t exactly describe yourself as an introverted person, but this definitely was a new experience for you. Coming out with a man you barely knew, to a part of town you were unfamiliar with, just for drinks. It was all so different for you, but there was something about Jaebeom that made you feel a certain sense of security. It was usually pretty easy for you to tell when a guy was a complete sleaze-bag and Jaebeom definitely did not give off that impression. Still, you couldn’t help but feel slightly shy to be with such a handsome man.

“I’m so curious to hear what you are thinking,” Jaebeom speaks up from the other end of the table.

You turn to look at him and notice his chin perched on his hand as he stares dreamily at you with his deep-set eyes. You go red as you realize he must have been studying you this entire time.

“I was just thinking about how all of this is a very new experience for me,” you respond back.

“What exactly?”

“Just this,” you emphasize your words by swinging your finger in the space between the two of you.

“I’ve never said yes to drinks with a man I had met less than an hour before.”

“You don’t say,” he chuckles. “I would imagine a girl as beautiful as you would have plenty of suitors waiting to take you out for a simple cocktail.”

You laugh at this. It’s not that men have not tried taking you out in the past, they most certainly did. You were just in a place with your life that didn’t allow you the capacity for any man. It wasn’t as bad as it sounded, really. You knew that at this point in your life the things that were the most important to you were school and finding your place in the competitive field of photography. No man could ever distract you from this dream of yours.

“Even so,” you begin. “I don’t really have the time for any sort of man in my life right now.”

“So then why did you agree to come out with me?” Jaebeom asks you.

That was a good question, why did you say yes? Despite the fact that Jaebeom had been one of the most attractive men to ever approach you, you wondered what it was about him that pulled your attention so strongly.

“I’m not sure why exactly it’s kind of hard to explain,” you say. “I just feel comfortable in your presence.”

This was something new to hear for Jaebeom. Mysterious, chic, sexy. These were all things Jaebeom was used to hearing from women, but “comfortable” was new. Little did you know, you were also a new experience entirely for him. The other women Jaebeom had encountered in his life felt like nothing more than a shallow quest for lust or domination with him. But you, he wanted to know so much more about the girl sitting across from him. Your dreams, inhibitions, fears. He could listen to you ramble on all night.

“I feel the same way,” he replies back coolly, to which you beam back a tender smile.

The rest of the night with Jaebeom is filled with giddy conversation between the two of you, both anxious to learn more about the other. You share with him things that some of your closest friends did not even know about you, but that was the power he held. He somehow was able to fluster you like a shy schoolgirl and yet hold your hand so sincerely that it felt as if you had known him for years. Drinks and conversation flowed throughout the few hours you spent with him at the lounge, effectively easing all your anxiety.

Once the two of you got onto the topic of photography there was no stopping the excitement. You could see in his eyes he loved it just as much as you, but ultimately he feared he was not good enough to be professional. You related closely to this worry, also sharing the hardships you faced with the creative aspect of it all. The way Jaebeom was able to relate so deeply to you on this issue made him all the more attractive to you, but that could also be the drinks talking.

“Of course you also make music,” you laugh at the man across from you at his recent confession.

“What is that supposed to mean?” He gawks back at you.

“Nothing offensive really,” you begin.

“It just fits your whole image you know. The gorgeous man I met at the exhibit is also incredibly deep and creative,” you joke with him.

He smiles and nods his head understanding that to most people he appears that way. Not that he minded, of course, he just wished sometimes he wasn’t so easy to read.

“Gorgeous, huh?”

He completely ignores your other statements to instead put you on the spot, but to his surprise, you don’t seem the least bit bashful. Instead, you take a long sip from your drink before setting it down with a soft thud. Looking him in the eye as if to say, “Did I stutter?” Jaebeom smirks and breaks his eye contact, absentmindedly twirling the small cocktail straw in his almost empty glass.

“I want to hear your music,” you say breaking him from his trance.

He looks up to see you leaning in on the table excitedly, a small flame of mischief burning behind your eyes.

He leans in towards you, “Really?”

You nod.

“Well then, let’s get out of here.”

You knew just as well as anyone what it meant to go back to his place and listen to his music, but that was exactly what you wanted. Jaebeom hails over the waiter closing up your tab before you both exit the bar to the crisp Autumn night air. As if on cue, a taxi pulls in front of where the two of you stood, allowing a handsome young couple to exit its backseat. Jaebeom takes the opportunity, seizing the door open for you to step into the now emptied seats of the taxi. He joins in after you quickly telling the older man who was driving the taxi his address.

The ride began innocently enough. Silent, as you two sat next to one another, too nervous to make eye contact. Because you knew as soon as you looked, things would take a drastic turn, but you were always too curious for your own good. You turn your head slightly to catch Jaebeom looking at you, not in your eyes, but everywhere else. From the way that your legs were crossed to your innocently folded hands in your lap, the curves of your body, the long expanse of your neck, until finally, into your lust-filled eyes. That was all it took.

Jaebeom was the first to snap, instantly latching his hand onto the back of your neck in order to bring your lips onto his. You more than happily obliged bringing your own hands to rest on his taut shoulders, molding your lips unto his. The connection was everything you imagined. Hot, rushed, and oh so gratifying. You could taste the deep bitters of his drink as his tongue danced across your lip, your own tongue eager to meet his. He groaned into your mouth once he felt the connection which in turn had you draping a leg across his lap attempting for your bodies to be closer. You felt somewhat sorry for the cab driver, but you mostly didn’t care.

Jaebeom grips your leg that is draped over him feeling the soft flesh beneath your tight jeans. God, he only imagined what you looked like completely exposed to him. The thought had to wait as the two of you could feel the car come to an abrupt stop, followed by an awkward cough from the front seat. You both break free and stare into each other’s dark gazes, unable to shake the overwhelming amount of lust. It took a second clearing of the cab driver’s throat to snap the trance and leave his car. Jaebeom handed the man the cab fare, being sure to tip him generously, before exiting the car and extending a hand out to you. You take it graciously after saying a quick “thank you” to the driver.

Once outside the cab, the pace of the evening leveled out. Jaebeom, now calm and collected, takes your hand in his, smiling at you briefly before guiding you to a rather expensive-looking building. It was late at night when you two arrived, yet upon entering the bright lobby you notice a rather well-dressed attendant sitting modestly behind a large desk. She looks up from her desk to see who had entered. Upon gazing at Jaebeom she stands and bows her head silently in a form of saying “Welcome.” Jaebeom smiles politely at her while still having you in tow towards the titanium elevator doors. They open upon his touch of the button allowing you both to step inside.

The feeling of being next to Jaebeom in the elevator versus the taxi was entirely different. While the backseat of the taxi was filled with nothing but lust for one another, the elevator was quiet. Utter silence from you both as you anxiously spare looks to one another. Whenever one of you caught the other’s eye it would be hard to hide your bashful smiles. Your stomach was doing flips in expectancy of what was to come. The doors part, you had arrived.

Jaebeom enters his apartment with relative ease, despite his nerves making it difficult to punch in his door code. Once the two of you were inside is when he finally began to speak, “Can I offer you anything to drink? Wine? Water?”

“Wine sounds lovely, thank you,” you respond back.

He smiles, “Wine it is. Please make yourself at home while I go get us some glasses.”

Then he is off, leaving you to wander about his apartment curiously. It was relatively a clean place, or rather there just wasn’t much furniture in general. Simplistic and chic. You couldn’t think of a more fitting apartment for Jaebeom. You walk about the space coming unto what seemed to be a living room with a single black leather loveseat and a computer desk against the opposite wall. You make your way over to the couch sitting down gently.

Not long after, Jaebeom appears from the doorway holding two glasses of a deep red wine. He chuckles nervously extending one glass to you. Jesus, he was so endearing. You take the glass with a small smile and thank him, bringing the bitter liquid to your lips.

“Did you still want me to play you some of my work?” Jaebeom asks nervously, still standing above you.

You had almost completely forgotten that was the whole reason you wanted to come. You were too enraptured by the beautiful man’s aura.

“Yes please, play me something,” you say excitedly.

He takes a sip of his wine and smiles before turning his back and walking towards the computer. He types away for about a minute before a soft melody can be heard throughout the room. You look to see speakers installed all around your head creating a hypnotic atmosphere. You close your eyes and sway, finding yourself getting lost in the beats and pretty vocals of his song. It isn’t until you feel a dip in the seat next to you that you open your eyes to see the expectant face of Jaebeom at your side.

“You really made this?”

“Yeah, that’s my voice if you can’t tell,” he replies nervously bringing a hand to rub at the back of his neck.

“I don’t know as much about music as I do photography, but this is really good,” you say to him which has him chuckling and shaking his head. “No, really I mean it.”

He looks up at you to see that you were in fact being genuine. He felt more proud then than at any other moment he could remember. Jaebeom sets his wine glass down on the coffee table next to yours before turning his full attention towards you, tucking a soft hair behind one of your ears.

“You’re really something, did you know that?” He asks you, with a voice just barely above a whisper.

Your heart pounded loudly in your chest at the sudden close proximity, but God did you love this man’s presence. You leaned slightly into his hand that was still hovering near the side of your face, allowing him to cup your cheek affectionately.

“That’s funny,” you say. “I was thinking the same thing about you.”

He’s smiling at you now, staring deeply into your shining eyes. The self-control he had completely left him at that point. He leans into you slowly, allowing you time to register what was about to happen. You close the gap, kissing him softly. He sighs into the kiss, languidly moving his lips against yours while at the same time grabbing your hips to move your body closer. You reciprocate and bring it a step further, throwing one leg over his lap to straddle his thighs, never once breaking apart your lips.

He takes a shaky breath the minute your body softly grinds onto his. God, he was intoxicating. You were so eager to elicit more responses from him, to watch him come undone, so you snake your hands into his long hair, earning an appreciative moan. You can’t help but whine at the sound, wanting nothing more than to feel his body pressed against yours.

Jaebeom seems to know your thoughts exactly because in one moment he is sweeping you up off of the couch, legs still fastened tightly around him, making his way towards what you can only assume to be his bedroom. He would stop occasionally to press you against a nearby wall, breaking from your lips he would decorate your neck in soft kisses. The scent of his musky cologne exhilarating your thoughts. Finally, he reaches his bedroom, dropping you down to your feet softly with a thud.

“I want you,” he breaths out onto your abused lips.

“Then you can have me,” you whisper. “All of me.”

He groans at your response as it seems they were the exact words he wished to hear. Swiftly Jaebeom grabs at your top peeling it off over your head leaving you clad in a simple black bra. If you had known you would be seen naked tonight you would have opted for something a little sexier, but Jaebeom doesn’t seem to mind. Instead, his head instantly drops to your cleavage, pushing your breasts eagerly up into his face as he begins to kiss and suck at your skin surely leaving marks for you to remember him by. You breathe out at the sensual feeling, greedy to feel his skin against your own.

You reach below him to tug at his black t-shirt hinting at how much you wanted it off of his body. He understands, breaking away from your chest to pull his shirt over his head. His chest is broad and milky, illuminated from the streetlights outside his bedroom window. You can’t help yourself, bringing a hand to rest against the middle of his chest. You felt him, all of him. The warmth, the sweat, the anticipation, all of it rested just below your fingertips. Slowly you drag your hand lower, noting the shiver that ran through Jaebeom’s body at your soft caresses. You reach his belt, playing with it you look up at him through your lashes, batting them innocently.

“Fuck-” he says. “If you keep looking at me that way, I don’t think I can control myself.”

“Perfect,” you say, pulling him closer by his belt loop. “I wouldn’t want it any other way.”

You have no idea where this sense of confidence has come from. Normally during sex, you tend not to be much of a talker, letting the man do as he pleases. Tonight felt different from all those nights before. Jaebeom made you a different person, someone who felt bold enough to take control. You liked this person he created, and he seemed to be just as pleased.

He smirks at you, enjoying your teasing nature, he pulls you flush against his skin. He holds your eye contact for a moment before firmly turning your body so that your back meets his chest. You gasp as you feel him move your hair to the side, decorating lustful kisses along your shoulder and neck. His hands find purchase on your hips, greedily massaging them while also forcing your ass to grind onto his already stiff cock straining against his jeans. You moan at the feeling, taking pride in the effect you had on him.

“Do you like that, baby?” He asks you. “The feeling of my hard cock against you?”

The man could talk dirty, you thought, could he be any more attractive?

You don’t reply with words. Instead, you grind your backside harder against him, causing a hiss to fall from his lips. You lull your head back dreamily, getting lost in the feeling of your bodies moving together, both of you ravenous for any sort of friction. While his hands stayed firmly on your hips you took this opportunity to grab at one of his hands, bringing it upward to your chest, encouraging Jaebeom to massage your breasts. He happily obliges, feeling up your warm body with his rough hands, your scent invigorating his mind.

“I want you to strip for me, then go lay on the bed,” Jaebeom softly commands in your ear, effectively snapping you out of your daze.

There was something about his assertive tone that sent heat straight to your core, you were so eager to feel him there. He takes a step away from your body allowing you space to remove your clothes, and you do so. You look over your shoulder at him to see his bottom lip caught between his teeth, anticipating your show. You reach down for the button of your jeans undoing it in a slow and sultry way until you are able to strip the fabric down your legs.

Jaebeom intently watches your scantily clad figure which in turn gave you the confidence to continue. You put on a bit of a show with your movements, matching your swaying hips to his music that could still be heard inside the bedroom. Once you step your feet out of your jeans you turn your body so it is facing his. There is still a bit of space between your bodies, but the tension is extreme. You reach behind your back to unclasp your bra, taking one strap between your fingers as you allow the bra to drop.

Upon seeing your bare chest a fire ignites behind Jaebeom’s eyes. You smirk, with still swaying hips, you hook two fingers into your panties. Turning once more to give him a view of your backside, you dance your way out of the soft material, letting it gather around your feet. Finally, now completely bare, you make your way to his large king bed adorned with fresh white sheets. Crawling on all fours up the bed, making sure to arch your back for the best view, you flip your body onto the bed awaiting his arrival.

Jaebeom drinks this all in. The music, fragrances, lights, visuals, and the ambiance of seeing your bare body lay upon his white sheets, decorated purely by the moonlight. Without waiting for a second longer he rids himself of the last of his clothing, pushing his jeans and boxers down with haste. He walks to the foot of the bed, softly caressing your calves as he climbs up the expanse of your body. Your eyes meet his hazily, running your gentle hands along his forearms until his forehead is resting softly against yours.

“Can I taste you?”

Your mind is in a haze at his request, but who were you to say no?

Your head nods at his request and he smiles. Kissing your lips passionately before dragging them lower and lower down your body. Occasionally Jaebeom would nip and suck on parts of your skin, causing your body to tremor. Until finally you began to feel his heated breaths over your core. You gripped the sheets expectantly, unconsciously tensing your body in anticipation. He gives each of your thighs one last kiss before licking a strong tongue through your core.

You moan instantly, surprised by how sensitive you were from just one touch. Jaebeom doesn’t stop, he grabs hold of your thighs effectively throwing them over his broad shoulders. At first, his licks are long and languid, causing your hips to fall in motion with his tongue. Once he begins to feel your thighs tense at the sensations he picks up his pace, switching from licking up your core to occasionally wrapping his lips around your clit.

You feel electric waves throughout your body at his movements. At one particular suck, you moan out into the night, threading a hand through Jaebeom’s hair, which in turn has him groaning into you. He too was lost in the pleasure he was giving you. From your scent to your heavenly moans he couldn’t stop himself from grinding down against his mattress eager for some relief on his achingly hard cock.

“Jaebeom please, I need to feel you inside of me, please,” you manage to moan out wanting nothing more than for your bodies to become one.

Although Jaebeom wanted so badly to see your body come undone from his tongue alone, he too was starting to get impatient. One last suck to your clit before he is climbing back up your body, greedily you reach for him and connect your lips. He moans at your soft sucks against his tongue, desperate for you to taste your own arousal.

Shockingly, you are able to flip your bodies over allowing you to climb on top of Jaebeom’s beautiful body. You break away from the kiss to sit up and see him. There he was in all his glory. The stoic man from the gallery naked and heaving beneath you, so eager to be inside of you. You smile sweetly at him and he groans, taking his painfully hard cock into your hand you stroke him tenderly, to which he throws his head back in excitement. Without waiting a second longer you align him with your dripping core, slowing sinking him deep inside of you.

You release an intense sigh that you didn’t know you were holding. Jaebeom moans at the warm feeling of your pussy wrapped tightly around him, he then looks to see where your bodies meet. As if on cue you begin to sway your hips back in forth, still in rhythm with the music coming from the living room. The pace is slow and sensual, just as you like.

Jaebeom felt as if he could feel every little movement. From the way your beautiful hips swayed to your hands pressed firmly on his chest, he savored every second. His hands come to rest against your hips once again, encouraging your movements. Moans spill from your mouth as you get lost in the feeling of him buried so deep inside of you.

“Oh god,” you cry out.

Jaebeom is blissed out in the feeling, allowing you full control; he loses himself in the moment, suddenly becoming acutely aware of the song. You too let your body take over and allow your mind to float above the two of you making love. You can hear the melody too.

난 네게 눈이 멀었고

(I became blinded by you)

넌 내게 눈이 멀었겄지

(You probably became blinded by me)

우리 서로만을 보았고

(We only saw each other)

이 세상에 둘만 있었겠지

(We probably were the only ones in the world)

Jaebeom begins to lose his patience as he can feel his end nearing. You yelp with surprise as his strong arms wrap against your frame, flipping you onto your back. You squeeze around him from his dominant change in nature, he groans at the feeling.

“I want to feel you come all around me, baby,” he tells you.

You nod back ready for him to ravish your body. He hooks one of your legs over his shoulder giving him the best angle for you both. The pace from before is completely different. While you took your time with Jaebeom while you rode him, when he was on top he fucked you, hard.

Sheathing himself back inside of you so hard and fast you both scream out in pleasure. He wastes no time fucking you raw, trying to chase the high you both so desperately longed for. His movements are fast yet calculated, effectively hitting your sweet spot every time he entered you. You were desperate to hold on to reality gripping the sheets above your head as you moaned loudly. Jaebeom saw this action and instead moved your hands to his hair.

“I want you to show me how good I’m making you feel,” he says to you in his gruff voice.

You understand his wish, grabbing his hair just as tightly as he fucked you, earning an appreciative groan from him spurring on his movements further.

You felt your end coming. It was like a small fire that suddenly began to blister in the pit of your stomach. Your chest heaved for air as you gripped his hair even tighter, warning him. He understood.

“Come on, baby, I need to feel you come, please,” his words did just the trick.

The fire turned into an explosion as the white-hot orgasm swept through your body. You trembled in his hold as he thoroughly fucked you through your high. Once you came down you noticed his brows furrowed and his movements began to waver. You released his hair to hold him close to your body, encouraging him to let go.

He eventually reaches his own high as he drops his head to your shoulder, you hold him close as he moans out deliciously into your ear. His movements stutter as he tiredly milks his orgasm to completion. He slumps his body against yours, slick with sweat the two of you stay connected for some time attempting to calm your breaths.

Tiredly you stroke your hand softly up and down his back lullingly. You begin to feel the effect of all the alcohol in your system as you fought to keep your eyes open. Too at peace with where you were, you allowed yourself to become a victim of slumber while caressing Jaebeom’s naked frame.

When morning broke, you expected to be woken by the bright sunshine pouring into his room. Instead, the thing that woke you from your slumber was the distinct click of what you only know to be the sound of a film camera. Still naked in his sheets you turn your body over to see an equally naked Jaebeom perched at the foot of the bed with a small camera plastered to his face. The morning sun decorated his frame in the most beautiful way, you couldn’t help but smile at the sight.

He lowers the camera slowly from his face, gauging your reaction, “Sorry I just thought you looked so perfect lying there. Does it bother you?”

You shake your head no. He smiles and climbs up his bed to be with you again in the early morning light. He lays at your side and you turn your full body to him, he tucks a stray hair behind your ear. You both stay there for what felt like an eternity. Mindlessly you both would let your fingers dance along the other’s naked form, basking in the soft flesh below. The silence was infectious, filling your soul with content. You never wanted this feeling to end.

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“Can I just say what an honor it is to be accompanying you on this gorgeous Friday night,” Jinyoung smiles at you. “The forsaken Friday nights that you would normally spend in solitude, per your own request, but I am the first one to break that tradition. Really it is a privilege.”

You laugh at Jinyoung’s over-the-top monologue. Jinyoung wasn’t wrong, he was the first person you had ever asked to accompany you on this Friday night. Your friends all knew the deal, Friday nights were for your alone time, for your creativity to rekindle.

“You are just too handsome to say no to,” you reply back sweetly, reaching up to Jinyoung planting a swift kiss on his cheek. His eyes crinkle in the most adorable fashion.

As much as you had grown and changed in the past couple of months, Jinyoung was always a constant in your life. Before you used to be so caught up in your art and finding inspiration that you never gave the cute boy from your English class the time of day. Often times Jinyoung would ask you out for the occasional coffee or study date to which you would always find an excuse not to go. It surprised you that even after all his failed attempts he even still wanted to take you out, so ultimately you agreed. You could say that perhaps you had a change of heart. Something eventually opened your eyes to his affection for you.

After walking some time the two of you finally make it to the exhibit. The words “Awake.” displayed in white neon outside the entrance. Looking to Jinyoung and smiling you both make your way through the large entryway. Subtly you feel him slide his fingers through your own, and your body heats at the affection.

It had been quite some time since Defsoul had held any sort of photography exhibition. In fact, the last one being just over six months ago. Although the photographer was still active through social media you were surprised as to why it had taken them so long to put on another show. You remembered just how much you fell in love with their work last time that you were eager to see what else they had in store.

As the two of you walk hand-in-hand throughout the gallery you instantly notice the ambiance of this show to be vastly different from the one you had attended months before. The air was lighter, the photographs themselves felt brighter than before, and even the conversations between the patrons were airier. Jinyoung would occasionally point to certain photos attempting his best at discussing the art of photography in order to impress you. You would smile at his attempts, bringing his body closer to yours the more you strolled throughout the space.

Your mind couldn’t help but wander to the night you shared with Jaebeom just months before where you met him at one of these exhibits. It had been so long since you had even thought of him or his name that you had almost forgotten. Though the feelings you felt never disappeared.

You catch yourself smiling at the memory before looking up at one of the larger displays in the studio. You stopped dead in your tracks upon looking, your breath caught in your throat as you just stared. It was you, not your face, your naked backside peeking perfectly out of his crisp white sheets, the morning sun playing through your soft hair beautifully. There you were on full display for the whole world to see.

The world around you faded as you sat and stared, Jinyoung taking notice finally to what you had been looking at, “That is gorgeous, I think this might be my favorite one so far.”

You can’t hear him as your mind was reeling a mile a minute. It was then in that moment you came to realize everything. His sheets, his bed, his room, his photograph. This was his show, Jaebeom was Defsoul. How could you have not seen it before?

You looked about the room frantically, fear striking you as you noticed the other patron’s eyes glued to the huge mural of you, Jinyoung too being entranced with the photo. Anxiety bubbled over into your stomach. That was until you saw it, the title: Muse.

You didn’t know why exactly upon reading the simple word that tears began to pool in your eyes. Again you looked around the room. You needed to see him, to confirm your thoughts. You needed to know who Jaebeom really was. Then suddenly there he stood, perfect as ever.

Jaebeom stood meters away from you and Jinyoung, the bodies of the other patrons crossed your paths as the two of you just stared at each other. He looked just as stunning as that night, that one fateful night. His gaze is soft on yours as if to ask if you were okay. You cannot answer him, still in too much shock.

Until Jaebeom looks to Jinyoung, your connected hands, and then finally you, he smiles warmly. Little did you know that this is exactly what Jaebeom wanted to see for you. Your happiness above all else. To others, what the two of you shared could easily be written off as just some other one night stand, but he knew it was so much more. He cared for you in ways he never thought he would be able to feel for another person. And so he was happy, if he couldn’t be the one holding your hand in this gallery, he was glad you had someone to take his place. You deserved as much.

A tear finally escapes your eye as you continue to gaze at Jaebeom’s sincere expression, laughing slightly you brush the tear away. You felt no anger, no embarrassment. Because what Jaebeom said was right, for that night you spent together, he too was your own muse. The spark you needed at that moment. You needed him then just as much as he did.

Without leaving his eyes, you bow your head slightly, doing something you realized you never did that night. You thanked him. He raised a wine glass in recognition. Then he was gone, swallowed into the sea of people who would never know his true identity.

“I didn’t know photography moved you that much,” Jinyoung says to you while wiping your tears away, a look of concern etched into his features.

You laugh, dropping your head bashfully before raising your eyes again to look at Jinyoung. You were so content with the way you began to live your life since meeting Jaebeom. For so long you had deprived yourself of the one thing that should have mattered the most, your happiness.

It was fate for you and Jaebeom to meet each other that night, but you knew it was only meant for that one night. Jaebeom was the trigger for you to stop living inside the constrictive box you created for yourself. You felt inspiration more than ever through your art, which in turn greatly improved your abilities. You also finally allowed yourself love, and to share that love with someone who genuinely wanted you.

Now with Jinyoung, you had never felt more at peace in not only yourself but your life. Rising to his height you capture Jinyoung’s lips with yours. He smiles against you and reciprocates your affection. This is who you were meant to be with tonight, and for every night thereafter.

#got7 fanfic #got7 smut #got7 #jaebeom #im jaebeom #fanfic #smut #jaebeom fanfic #jaebeom smut #got7 imagines #got7 scenarios #jinyoung

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tarotinapinch · 4 years

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If you are feeling stuck at the current moment... *timeless*

The following are some short channeled messages for the signs if you are feeling like you are stagnant and a bit stuck in a rut. Make sure to check your sun, moon, and rising for a complete and rounded message. Peace and blessings to all of you lovelies <3

Cancer: Redefine your boundaries. Others may have crossed the lines that you have laid down and in doing so have skewed your view of where you should be and what you should be doing. Do not let others tell you what is right or wrong. Decide these things for yourself and rebuild your boundaries with even stronger convictions. Once you have purged the negative energies from your safe space you will be able to see the path forward with much more clarity.

Leo: Sharing wisdom to those around you who may need guidance could help guide you in return. By sharing your own experiences and what you know you could trigger a past lesson within yourself that may mirror your current stagnation in a way. That same wisdom and advice that you share to those around you could be the same wisdom and advice that you need right now.

Virgo: You are not as stuck as you seem to think you are. Deep down you know your path forward, but you also know that it requires taking a risk. You are not normally one to jump into things and trust blindly, so knowing the next step does not have any solid ground that is immediately visible is very scary to you causing you to pace in place trying to find another, more logical route. But you know deep down that your next step is taking that risk that your intuition is pointing to. If anything, trust yourself on this.

Libra: You are a very powerful being. You tend to, more often than not, lend this power to others instead of using it for yourself and when you do this too much and deplete your energies, you end up feeling completely lost and powerless. But the power that you lent others is always yours. You are always able to call that power back to you. Others in need may have to borrow your strength to stand themselves back up, but from there they should call upon their own power to walk the rest of the way. Do not let people leech onto you and suck your energies dry. Call your power back so that you may move forward yourself and teach others to do the same.

Scorpio: Through troubled times we can lost within ourselves and stuck in the muddiness of our minds that is created from the stagnation. We may not even realize that this is happening to us and just grow more and more frustrated at the lack of progress being seen on the outside of things. Now are the times where it is most important to sit and meditate with yourself, your thoughts, your emotions. Connect to your heart, clean out the muddiness that has settled there. Find out what it is that has attached itself to you and clung on. Cut whatever it may be away and let it go, no matter what disguise it wears, it is causing a blockage to your energies.

Sagittarius: Your feelings of stagnation may be caused by a conflict within your soul. Stop for a minute and think what it truly is that makes you happy, what makes your soul buzz like a happy honey bee. Now ask yourself what it is you are doing within your waking life. Are they the same thing? Most likely they do not align. Your soul is calling you to work on yourself and fix your life so that it aligns more with your creativity and happiness. Your work should not drain your soul energies. While working to gain what we need to stay sustained is what we are taught is most important on a survival level, doing so while going against what it is that your soul longs for kills your spirit. This way of life will only lead to depression, frustrations, self-inflicted misery. Go after what makes you truly happy. The universe will support your choices and bring you what you need. Trust in it and yourself.

Capricorn: While you may be feeling stuck at the moment, you are still on the right path. As much as you think the universe is not listening and does not care, that is not the case. The universe still supports you on your life journey. There is a reason for the timing that everything happens in. There could be some very valuable lessons to learn in this time period. Maybe one of them is learning to stay calm and patient within waiting periods. While the reasoning for this wait may seem completely unclear and unfair to you at the current moment, trust that there is a very good reason things are moving at the pace that they are moving. So long as you stay strong and stick to your soul path, the universe will always have your back and reward you with what you need when you need it.

Aquarius: The people around you and society as a whole love to put everything neatly into boxes, and that might include you. You may be feeling stuck at this time because what society thinks that you should be is not what your soul vibes with. For instance, just because you were born into certain sex does not mean that your gender identity aligns with your physical body. Just because you align with a certain gender does not mean that you have to be attracted to the opposite of that gender or even attracted to anyone at all. You are who you are. Do not let anyone place you in a box where you know that you do not belong.

Pisces: You have had so much on your plate lately that you have been running yourself ragged, maybe without even realizing it. You are so used to the go-go-go energies that you barely stop to give yourself any breaks. You may be feeling stagnant and sluggish because your body is tired and you are starting to lack the drive to do anything at all. It is imperative that you stop and truly ask yourself what it is that your physical body needs. Resting, relaxing, and taking care of the physical body in turn rejuvenates your spirit. So take some time to truly take a break and pamper yourself. You will find yourself refreshed ready to embrace the high energies again. Just remember when you do to take breaks when you need to, to listen to your body.

Aries: You may be feeling stuck right now because everything seems so monotonous and boring. With Mars being your ruling planet, you are a sign of action and you get quickly discouraged or frustrated when things are going too slow or seem to have no progress. While the wait is sometimes very necessary, you can fall into a negative state of mind during this period. While you are waiting for the results of something, take some time to let loose and have fun. Get wild, if you will. Doing something that sparks your interest will make the time go by faster for you since you won’t be so intensely focused on waiting for results.

Taurus: You are a very strong and determined sign, but sometimes waiting may not be your strong suit. When things take a bit too long, you may view yourself as being stuck. But in reality, times like these are just a time where you need to call upon your strength to help you be patient. Deep down you know that you are still walking the right path, it is just taking longer than you would like to reach your destination. You may believe you do not have the mental stamina to make it all the way to the end, but you are a lot stronger than you think you are in this aspect. Trust your inner strength. You will make it.

Gemini: This period of feeling stuck could be coming from a situation that you may not realize that you are being biased towards. There may be someone in your life that you are disagreeing with at the current moment. You may not have all of the information, therefore you are unable to find a clear path through. Take a minute to step back and call upon the power of the sage. The sage is able to separate themselves completely from any situation and view it from a higher perspective, able to just exist within the moment and take information in from all sides without forming any biases. They are then able to find the clear and logical solution because they do not let their emotions cloud their judgement. When you are feeling stuck, really try to see and understand all sides of the issue that is blocking you. You will always find a clear path this way.

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how does someone who knows little-to-nothing about it get into sanders sides? i saw thomas' vines, and i've been sort of tangentially aware that the facets of his personality that he portrayed in the vines have since become characters, but there's a whole bunch of new ones??? what the fuck is a janus???? HELP. tldr where do i find The Lore? plz obi wan ur my only hope

it’s very simple!!! you hyperfixate on thomas sanders’s content in, like, 2016? and then he uploads a video called ‘my true identity’, which is a bit weird, but you love those vine characters. then he uploads more, and it becomes a trend. apparently people in the comments are shipping the prince guy and anxiety. you rewatch the new year’s video an embarrassing amount of times with your dog

i had a whole paragraph here about why i like the series, and why i dropped it and then picked it up again, but it was just a block of lowercase text and i guess it’s kind of hard to read

anyway, here’s the playlist of every episode, but i’m going to put a summary of the series and individual episodes under the readmore, while also ranking them, because i am Special Interesting and i like being useful. and i guess i’m gonna write using. like. actual grammar. if the readmore doesn’t work, then. have fun reading my infodump

here we go

Sanders Sides: A Summary

Fictional Version Of Thomas Sanders (known as Character!Thomas, and will be simply referred to as ‘Thomas’ henceforth) has ‘Sides’, which are parts of his personality that have been exaggerated and personified. It’s a nice little series set in some kind of semi-urban fantasy world, but mostly in Thomas’s living room. It mostly uses the idea of ‘Sides’ to represent the inner schemata of an individual. In simpler terms, you know when you’re conflicted, and you end up arguing with yourself? Yeah, it’s that.

Also, don’t read the comments, unless you want to disregard the care I’ve taken to not put spoilers in the Season 1 Summaries.

Season 1

I’d like to split this into parts, because there are a lot of things in earlier episodes that conflict with later characterisation. However, it’s also fun to watch them, and then rewatch them after some of the longer episodes, and feel your heart shatter!

This half of Season 1 was made solely by Thomas. It tends to be a bit more scattered, and can be watched out of chronological order, or completely skipped. Yes, I’m telling you that you can skip literally all of this section, if you want to. However, these are also the easiest videos to watch, and offer a taste of Silly Sanders Sides Hijinks without the emotional commitment.

My True Identity (6 min) - Thomas delves into the three aspects of his personality; his Logic (Teacher Guy), his Creativity (the Prince, also called Princey), and his Morality (Dad Guy who is Not Thomas’s Dad). At this point, the characters are far more similar to their Vine counterparts, and the characterisation clashes with later episodes. (3/5 - A nice way to see if you’ll enjoy the humour of this series)

Way Too Adult (5 min) - Thomas is asked by his family to help cook Thanksgiving dinner. Dad Guy pops up and discusses with Thomas how he can better learn to take care of himself. Features a talking stove, which is part of the reason why I classify this series as urban fantasy, and the start of a running joke. (2/5 - A fun, albeit rare, look into Dad Guy being responsible. I actually prefer this to My True Identity, but ranks lower due to conflicting with later S1 characterisation.)

Taking On Anxiety with Lilly Singh (6 min) - Thomas hopes and dreams to get rid of his Anxiety, who is a sassy, snide guy, sitting on the staircase. Princey, as the embodiment of Thomas’s hopes and dreams, is... Usurped by an imaginary version of Lilly Singh, who helps teach Thomas how to cope with feeling anxious. (3/5 - Introduces some secret tools that will help us later. The tools are Thomas being able to travel to various places in his head, and also Anxiety.)

A New Year of Lying to Myself... In Song!! (7 min) - The first video wherein you realise that this is A Thing. Thomas welcomes in the new year, hoping that 2017 will be better than 2016. Logic shows up to help him figure out some New Year’s Resolutions, accompanied by Dad Guy and Princey. Anxiety joins in to point out that Thomas has rarely, if ever, kept to his resolutions before. Through the first musical number of the series, the Core Sides and Thomas figure out simple, achievable resolutions that Thomas can use to improve his wellbeing. (4/5 - Unintentional foreshadowing in the form of a bop.)

The Dark Side of Disney (6 min) - Princey, not for the last time, enthuses about the wonders of Disney. However, Anxiety also appears, insisting that Disney is not as wholesome as it first appears. They argue and bond, despite the fact that Thomas still hasn’t redacted his statement regarding his hopes and dreams to get rid of his Anxiety. (2/5 - I have strong feelings on the meaning of ‘Beauty and the Beast’ and ‘The Little Mermaid’, both of which are shrugged off in favour of the tryhard-edgy ‘blegh stockholm syndrome’ and ‘blegh change yourself to get your man’. Still, it’s a fan-favourite for a reason, and the endcard always makes me smile.)

I’m in a Disney Show!! (6 min) - Princey enthuses about the wonders of Disney, because Thomas is in a Disney show. He talks about what happened, while the Sides (mostly Logic) suggest clickbait titles in order to entice people to watch the video. (2/5 - L*gan P*ul is mentioned, as he was also in the episode.)

The Mind vs. The Heart (6 min) - Thomas finds himself split between following his mind, Logic, or his heart, Morality. Features onesies, and looks further into the characters of Logic and Dad Guy. (3/5 - Pretty calm and peaceful, to be honest. It’s nice.)

Then we move onto the second part of Season 1. This is when Thomas’s friend, Joan, began to offer their input into scriptwriting and directing. They’re most of the reason why Sanders Sides is an actual series, instead of being silly skit characters in short vlogs. From here on in, episodes become more complex, and work on an actual timeline.

Alone on Valentines Day (9 min) - Thomas is rather upset that he will be, as the title says, alone on Valentine’s Day. The Sides try to help him figure out how to get a date with an imaginary version of his friend Valerie, but each of them has a weirder way of going about it than the last. (4/5 - Far more cohesive than previous videos, but Thomas still wasn’t fully out as gay, so his hypothetical date is a woman. Yes, I took points off because of that. Yes, I’m about to erase the 3/5 to make it 4/5 because Valerie is a delight.)

Losing My Motivation (9 min) - When Thomas finds himself procrastinating, Logic takes it upon himself to find out which side is causing it. In order to get into a deductive mindset, Logic dresses up as Sherlock, while Dad Guy joins in as Watson. Once the case is solved, an important piece of information is revealed: the Sides have names. (Logic’s name is revealed) (3/5 - It’s just a fun little video, and I can’t keep giving every video from here on in 4/5, or that’ll ruin the whole thingy.)

Sanders Sides Q&A (9 min) - Exactly what it sounds like. There’s not much else to say. (2/5 - I love it, but it’s not really necessary to understand the whole series. It’s just extra characterisation.)

Am I Original? (12 min) - Thomas finds himself in a creative rut, trying to think of a completely original idea. Princey requests full creative control - “full-on Daydream Mode” - in order to rapidly consider and enact many different concepts, all while trying to make something that has never been seen before. (Princey’s name is revealed) (4/5 - Important characterisation for Princey. I originally rated it lower due to Thomas’s inability to rap, but upon rewatching, i found that the ending dialogue between Princey and Thomas was worth two points, rather than the single one I gave it previously.)

My Negative Thinking (13 min) - When Thomas messes up in an audition, his ego - Princey - is out of commission and being cared for by Dad Guy. Therefore, the only Sides available to aid him in this situation are Logic and Anxiety, neither of whom can help Thomas in the way he wants to. Anxiety is worsening Thomas’s mental state, so Logan proposes a debate in order to combat those cognitive distortions. (4/5 - A fan-favourite episode which offers a lot of insight into Logic and Anxiety as characters. It is useful as a tool for identifying cognitive distortions in real life, which may help with the individual’s mental health. Even though it introduces another running joke, it’s educational and fun, and it develops their relationship in a positive manner, I just don’t particularly enjoy it.)

Growing Up (15 min) - It’s Thomas’s birthday! He’s in his late twenties, and he’s still a kid at heart. He hasn’t done his laundry, he's silly and immature, and he feels like he isn’t at the point that he needs to be in his life. Therefore, all the Sides, except for Dad Guy, who ironically embodies Thomas’s inner child, work on trying to make him more mature. (Morality’s name is revealed) (3/5 - Features the concept of Voltron Shirt. I love this episode, but there is a noticeable change in audio quality at the end which affects how enjoyable it is.)

Making Some Changes (15 min) - Back in Thomas’s living room, and in opposition to his view from the last episode, Anxiety is worried about how life changes in unpredictable ways, and especially about losing contact with Thomas’s friends. Therefore, in order to keep Thomas’s friends permanently by his side, Princey gets them all to shapeshift. (3/5 - It might be skippable, but it’s just really, really fun.)

Becoming A Cartoon (10 min) - Adding to the whole urban fantasy thing, it turns out that animators can literally, physically turn people into cartoons. Thomas wants to be a cartoon. Princey catches Anxiety in his arms and says “everybody loves the villain,” and I think that’s all you need to know. (1/5 - Co-stars B*tch H*rtman, known for Fairly Odd Parents, Danny Phantom, and Being A Bigot, who did the character designs for the Sides, if not the actual animation. And the designs are kind of. Eh. Just watch some fanmade animatics.)

Accepting Anxiety (23 min) - Part 1: Excepting Anxiety (10 min), and Part 2: Can Anxiety Be Good? (14 min) - HOO. If the musical number or the animation didn’t clue you in, this video confirms that Sanders Sides is A Thing. Remember how Thomas hoped and dreamt to get rid of his Anxiety? Remember how he never redacted that statement, or even expressed a bit of remorse? Well, here, his wishes come true, and he doesn’t feel bad about it at all! That’s because he has absolutely no shame, caution, or fear of death. Yeah, he’s a mess. Therefore, the Sides make him take them on a magical quest to Anxiety’s Room, in order to un-mess-ify Thomas. (Anxiety’s name is revealed) (5/5 - The team really went above and beyond with this one. Like. Hoo. That’s it. Just. Hoo. Hoo. I’m an owl.)

And that’s Season 1!!! I’m going to add Season 2 in a reblog, because this has taken roughly three hours and it’s been really difficult to not spoil their names!!! which i did anyway because their names are all easier to type from muscle memory!!!

#helen stfu #asks #sanders sides tag da lee lay da lee loo #Anonymous

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karalora · 6 years

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Mental Balance

Talking about Sanders Sides again, because I have Insights. Strap in, kids, this is going to get...involved.

I don't have a favorite Side. I can't even begin to address the question, because to me it's not remotely about them as individual characters, but about how they work together. And lately, I've been specifically thinking about how they work in pairs. (No, this isn't a shipping post—I am taking the series as it is presented, where the Sides are facets of Thomas's personality who pop up to help him make decisions and work through issues.) There are three ways to split the boys into two teams of two apiece, and in every case you get a set of contrasting approaches and it's just SO SO INTERESTING AND COOL!

Ahem. So here's the breakdown.

Left Brain Vs. Right Brain

This is the one I see alluded to the most often in the fandom, probably because it's the most obvious to anyone who knows anything about brain anatomy, which is practically everyone. Even the way the characters arrange themselves in the living room backs this one up.

Logan and Virgil represent the Left Brain functions: the objective, analytical side of Thomas's mind. It might seem a little counter-intuitive in Virgil's case, since his purpose sits at the level of raw instinct in some ways, but it makes sense if you consider that anxiety craves certainty. “Is this situation dangerous?” is a simple yes-or-no question, and one that you bloody well want to get right on the first try. So in that sense, Virgil shares with Logan a preference for plain facts. When these two work together, Thomas operates at peak efficiency in the area of gathering and assessing information. Sounds great, right? But sooner or later, he has to figure out what all this data means to him. He needs balance.

So then you have Patton and Roman as the Right Brain, for reasons that should be blatantly obvious. When these two get together, there is no limit to the amount of whimsy that can be generated. It's fun times for Thomas, but again, balance is necessary. Without a mitigating influence from Team Left Brain, Thomas's imagination winds up directionless and purposeless.

Incidentally, a great (accidental?) illustration of this split can be found in this post by @logically-irrational. When the two Left Brain Sides sit down at a chessboard, they play chess. When the two Right Brain Sides do it, they play everything but chess. Any other combination can't focus/get on the same page long enough to play anything.

Moving on to the next...

Authorities Vs. Peers

Has anyone else ever noticed that for all their differences, Logan and Patton are Thomas's internal authority figures? They take on the aspects of a teacher and a father—pretty standard authority figures while a person is growing up—and what they represent is also authoritative. Logic and Morality are not mere opinions—they have associations with genuine, inarguable correctness. When your rational faculties or your conscience are telling you something, you'd better take heed. Logan and Patton are at odds at lot of the time (mostly because of the Left vs. Right split), but when they manage to form a consensus, Thomas can have near-absolute confidence that he's arrived at the One True Course of Action. That said...these guys are not infallible. They can make misjudgments. It does Thomas no good to smugly forge ahead if he's not actually correct. In that case—or if the aforementioned consensus cannot be reached—he needs what the other two guys bring to the table.

Roman and Virgil approach Thomas more as peers. The fairytale character and the Goth kid from study hall...these are not authority figures. They can offer ideas, suggestions, and opinions, but they don’t have the same weight. Thomas isn't obligated to take their advice in the same way he's obligated to listen to Dad and Teach. It's more a case of tossing out possibilities and seeing what sticks. Maybe Thomas should write a song. Maybe Thomas should avoid eye contact with the store clerk. Of all the paired Sides, these two are the least likely to cooperate, but when they do, they provide Thomas with flexibility in his options. They give him a laundry list of possibilities, like friends trying to choose a Friday-night activity, and even if there's no obvious best choice, probably nothing catastrophic will happen either. The downside is that without the guidance of his authority figures and their rules of judgment, Thomas risks getting trapped in indecision, stymied by an embarrassment of choice.

(Incidentally, another way of characterizing this split is Adults Vs. Kids. Ever wonder why Patton calls everyone “kiddo” except Logan? There you are. It's because Logan isn't a kiddo but a fellow adult. Yes, the inner-child is one of the adults in the room. Just roll with it; Thomas is a complicated guy.)

And finally...

Proactive Vs. Reactive

Logan and Roman are primarily proactive in their influence, encouraging Thomas to go out and do something in the world. Read that book! Write that script! Solve that puzzle! Practice that ukulele! EDIT THAT GOSHDANG VIDEO RIGHT NOW, THOMAS! These two are often at odds for philosophical reasons, but when they get on the same page, Thomas enjoys peak productivity. Logan imposes a sense of structure on Roman's unbridled creativity, and that's how magic happens. But even here, there are pitfalls. You know what you call someone who operates, or tries to operate, at peak productivity all the time? A workaholic. As heady as the experience is and as awesome as the results can be, Thomas risks neglecting his loved ones and even his own needs if he only ever listens to these two.

So then you've got Patton and Virgil as the mostly reactive pair—when the world comes to Thomas, they influence his responses. With Patton in charge of his overall emotional palette and Virgil with one finger on the alarm button at all times, they've got things covered. Under their combined influence, Thomas displays particular sensitivity, a heightened awareness of his own needs and the needs of others. He won't risk his relationships or his own well-being with these two on the job together. The hazard here is of getting too comfortable with the status-quo and being hesitant to do anything that might change it (that is to say, almost anything). It's easy for sensitive people to bog down in a rut because change affects them greatly. Team Proactive needs to swoop in and light the proverbial fire under the proverbial butt.

In Conclusion

You probably noticed a recurring theme in all this, that being balance. It's important that there are four Sides, so that they can always achieve that balance, leaving Thomas himself, as the complete person, to act in the role of tiebreaker and place his thumb according to the needs of the situation. He won't always get it right, but at least when he gets it wrong, it (usually) won't be because the right approach got shouted down.

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Naava & Darrin Compatibility

Positive aspects: 1121

Negative aspects: -939

Total: 182

-184 Darrin Square Naava Mercury - Mercury

Challenging aspect: Their communication styles are very different, so that there are many misunderstandings and annoyances arising from how things were said, what was said, and what was not said. It can be a challenge to solve problems together without getting into an argument. It might be best to think things over separately before turning to each other for support.

-144 Darrin Square Naava Venus - Saturn

Challenging aspect: This can bring difficulties to the union. Although difficult, it's an aspect that is often found in long term couples. Over the long term, it can be very difficult for Venus to feel natural and comfortable in Saturn's presence, as Saturn may at times appear too austere, cold, or distant, and can put Venus ill at ease.

-142 Darrin Square Naava Mercury - Venus

Challenging aspect: Their relationship can sometimes be agreeable, sometimes disturbed. They tend to like to share their ideas that are not always to the other's taste, so that they may have interminable discussions in order to convince each other of their mistakes, lack of judgement, or lack of taste. It's best to be aware of this bickering tendency to overcome it, as it can slowly eat away at a relationship.

127 Darrin Conjunction Naava Moon - Pluto

Positive aspect: An uncontrollable great passion which might be a nuisance, as it sometimes lacks thought or control. Jealousy, possessiveness, absolute need of the other's presence 24 hours out of 24 can be issues. However, when trust is in place, they both will appreciate that their relationship is growth-oriented and far from a lifeless routine. Their feelings for each other evolve over time, and they learn from each other on an emotional level at every twist and turn. This fact is a treasure. The love they share is transforming in nature, so that they both feel renewed - almost like they are "new" people - through the relationship.

-118 Darrin Opposition Naava Moon - Jupiter

Challenging aspect: They go well together, but might experience emotional ups and downs, particularly if they live together. A life together that can be stormy and with its bright spots - sometimes really bright - but they tend to stay together because they are nevertheless made to understand each other.

107 Darrin Conjunction Naava Jupiter - Uranus

Positive aspect: This union can be favorable, if the two mutually respect each other. They both like their independence, their freedom of thought and action. The relationship may be marked by distinct philosophical interests and unusual ideas or belief systems, which ideally are encouraged in one another. There can be a nice meeting of minds on the bigger issues.

-105 Darrin Square Naava Mercury - Pluto

Difficult aspect: A tendency to want to direct the partner's thoughts and ideas. Reading too much into what is said and what is not said. The Mercury person may not feel free to express his or her ideas, and can feel stifled intellectually by the Pluto person.

-105 Darrin Square Naava Venus - Pluto

Challenging aspect: A very strong passion but destructive at times. Jealousy, possessiveness, and resentment are very possible. If the relationship ends, it is difficult to remain friends, as one person feels burned.

95 Darrin Trine Naava Mercury - Mars

Positive aspect: They stimulate each other to be more creative and expressive. They learn a great deal from each other. They understand each other, like to discuss things with each other and undertake joint initiatives. Great intellectual understanding.

77 Darrin Opposition Naava Moon - Mercury

Challenging aspect: A big problem between them can be an inability to listen sympathetically to one another without misunderstandings, taking things too personally, or flying off the handle. They may have problems understanding each other on an everyday basis. Their interests and preoccupations will be different, sometimes conflicting. Petty arguments can be frequent. Defenses must be let down in order for this to work.

67 Darrin Conjunction Naava Mars - Lunar node

Positive aspect: This is one indicator that suggests the relationship will endure. The union or love, passion, grows and lasts.

-66 Darrin Opposition Naava Moon - Uranus

Challenging aspect: It is likely that their relationship developed suddenly and impulsively, for their feelings for each other change quickly and unexpectedly. Their feelings blow hot and cold in this relationship, and consequently there is a tone of instability and inconstancy. OR, their feelings for each other may be quite constant, but circumstances are such that they are separated at key moments. It is possible that one, or both, of them will tire of the constant fluctuations. The Moon person, in particular, may find the situation challenging and draining emotionally as time goes on. There may be a lack of commitment, dedication, reliability, and stability to the relationship, causing the Moon person to doubt the viability of the relationship. On the other hand, the couple may find the changes exciting and stimulating. Be grateful that there are always surprises and novelty around the corner - at least they don't have to worry about getting stuck in a rut or becoming bored with their partner.

63 Darrin Trine Naava Moon - Saturn

Positive aspect: They can lead their lives together, with the Moon often bringing fantasy to Saturn, who is sometimes too austere but whose other qualities (which the Moon does not possess) are appreciated. Two people whose difference in character is made to complement each other. This is a good aspect to have for long-term compatibility and living together.

-58 Darrin Opposition Naava Sun - Lilith

Negative aspect.

52 Darrin Trine Naava Mercury - Neptune

Positive aspect: Good spiritual understanding. This is the kind of relationship in which they finish one another's sentences. The connection encourages imagination.

41 Darrin Trine Naava Mercury - Lunar node

Positive aspect: Favorable union, intellectual understanding, similar tastes and interests.

40 Darrin Sextile Naava Mars - Pluto

Positive aspect: Enormous physical passion. The sexual attraction is intense and insistent. They want to be around each other as much as possible. Their sexual relationship evolves with time, instead of dissolves.

38 Darrin Trine Naava Mars - Neptune

Positive aspect: There is an ability to bring imagination and fantasy successfully to the relationship. While interactions can be hard to define at times, you help refine one another's outlook. There is an element of mystery that attracts you to one another. Some laziness might be stimulated between you, however.

37 Darrin Sextile Naava Saturn - Uranus

Positive aspect: Favorable union, linking invention and originality with common sense and thoughtfulness. They might do great things together.

34 Darrin Trine Naava Mars - Neptune

30 Darrin Trine Naava Saturn - Pluto

Positive aspect: Favorable union. They help one another to achieve their ambitions and goals.

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I ran a compatibility test on us just to see the results and if I agree or not. I think I can see some of the things in this being true already. Overall I do agree with this chart. Which I’m not mad at. Especially with the first one being different communication styles. I already knew that, at least with how we think of things, or thought process, views of the world. It says we could get into a lot of arguments, but we already talked about this, we’ll discuss things (not argue about them!) Not get mad at each other, and take time to talk through things until we reach a conclusion we both feel good about or think is the best answer. I’m really thankful to have had that talk already and to have someone as caring as Darrin who is willing and patient with me, as I’m really bad with words. Or explaining my emotions in general. Someone who sits there and listens to listen, to understand, and not attack and get defensive. Sometimes it eats up a lot of time too until I feel even remotely better but he stays with me until I am okay again. Which I’m extremely lucky and appreciate so much, especially because I know it can be quite draining and taxing, sometimes it be hella late too.

In the long run it says Saturn (Darrin) can become too austere, cold, and distant and put Venus (Naava) at ill ease. Hopefully that’s not the case since we’re already working on it! He’s always thinking about me and doing things he can to make things easier for me. Always making sure I feel comfortable as possible around him.

It actually makes me happy to see some of the negative aspects being worked on already. It’s probably because Darrin is very intuitive and already analyzed what needed work. That’s what a compatibility chart is for after all. To see the bad and work on it to make things better, training our weaknesses. And to see the good and make it even greater.

I can see this relationship constantly evolving or building and being very growth oriented. I already trust Darrin a lot.

I hope it doesn’t happen to extremities but I do happen to be quite a jealous person. Which does happen to be destructive at times. Either causing the destruction to myself by putting myself down or onto the relationship by bringing up the past. But usually people who bring up the past only bring it up because it hasn’t been fully acknowledged and dealt with, so that might be out of the picture. But no I wouldn’t stop my partner from having friends, making new ones, or hanging around females and etc. they can hang out with whom ever they want and do whatever they would like as long as it’s respectful towards us and as long as I know about it, like what they’re doing, who they’re with. As long as there aren’t secrets arm sneaking about, hiding phones. Etc. so as long as they don’t give me a reason to.

I like the mercury trine mars. Great intellectual understanding. Stimulate each other to be more creative and expressive. Darrin does show me a lot of support in anything I do, which will probably lead to me being more expressive, and learn to showcase things better. Learning a great deal from each other. I can only say from my end but I’ve learned a lot from him. Just seeing his point of view, allows that thought to enter my mind and seeing it as an actual possibility. Plus sometimes he says things with so much confidence as if it already is or already happening which I admire, because then it causes me to actually believe in that thought or idea and in turn it’ll manifest better. Discussing things and taking joint initiative. Working together in things! One step at a time. It’s us against the world, not each other.

A passionate love that grows a lasts.

Opposites attract! I do feel like we’re pretty different. At least at first, not so much these days. I think that’s what peaked my interest in the first place? Before we were even anything. I wasn’t thinking he was my opposite but more like he seems different, quirky even. Like who writes in all lowercase letters and puts a period after each line? It’s actually pretty off putting at first, but we had nice convos. I was actually really happy to have made a guy friend who didn’t want something more from me. So the confession came as a surprise to me. I felt flattered by it in the way he said it, it was still respectful. Of course I didn’t want to lose what we already had as well.

Spiritual understanding. Finishing each others sentences. What comes to mind is inside jokes. Understanding each others circumstances, and not making things harder for the other person.

Enormous physical passion. Intense and insistent sexual attraction. Sexual relationship evolves with time, instead of dissolves. I guess it’s for us to find out. Wink. I mean. He do be kinda feeding my ego. Not ego, that’s not the word. Flattering me? Showing me that he appreciates any part of me. I mean I do like to be appreciated and shown attention. I kinda be embarrassed and shy though. But that doesn’t mean I don’t love it. Secretly? But not so secretly? Haha. My thoughts are often filled with random scenes of us kissing, cuddling, eating, laughing, doing everyday things together, having sex, and etc throughout the day. I want to feel our skins touch and to grow as intimate as possible.

You help refine one another’s outlook. Definitely true on my side. Sometimes Darrin brings up a point and I’m like that’s so true. Like I constantly find myself thinking oh ‘I never thought about it that way before’ and then I’ll start thinking in that way too. Or some of the things he says just stick to me.

I believe we’ll do great things together. As long as we help each other with our ambitions and goals. It really is us against the world. Being with him has made me feel hopeful and excited for the future for once in my life. I’m not so anxious and filled with dread thinking into the future. I have things I’m actually looking forward to. Such as seeing him soon!!!

For the first time I’m entering a long distance relationship. Not going to lie the idea did worry me a lot at first. There are so many disadvantages in being in a ldr. I even talked to nhi about it. She told me that it might’ve been too soon and to really think it through and ask myself if I really do have genuine feelings or if it’s a rebound. But if it lasts longer than a month, most likely it isn’t a rebound. She said that was maybe two weeks ago? When things still felt early, and the timing wasn’t the best. She also said in ldr’s since there’s so much commitment involved it might make the relationship stronger than a regular relationship. That the trust and bond becomes stronger and she finds it to be cute in a way. Whatever choice I make she trusts my decision.

But it makes me really happy to be with him. In my head I think it’s going to be really hard but once I get to talk to him he makes everything feel so easy. That I’m worrying over the small setbacks when the pros heavily outweighs everything.

Everything we do will be worth it. I hope in a couple years when we do look back and we’re given the option to relive everything over all again we would because it was that good.

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9 Tips for Breaking Out of a Rut

Lately, you’ve felt utterly uninspired. Lately, your days have been bland, dull and boring. It’s as though you’re a robot stuck on the same setting and program. Every. Single. Day.

Maybe everything feels like one big slog. And you’re not sure what to do about it. You feel trapped, restless, frustrated, or overwhelmed.

In other words, you’re in a rut.

Ruts can have a variety of causes. Sometimes, something has simply gotten old. For instance, a once healthy and fulfilling routine, over time, can become unfulfilling, said Stephanie Dobbin, LMFT, CGP, a relationship and group psychotherapist who specializes in helping busy healthcare professionals have happier relationships and less stress in Rochester, NY.

Sometimes, you haven’t spent enough time and energy thinking about what you truly want, and your life takes you into a direction you didn’t intentionally choose, she said.

Sometimes, social media can spur on a rut. Many of Marline Francois-Madden’s clients “compare themselves to others on social media who may be recently engaged or married, have children [or are] meeting career and educational goals,”—and this sharpens the pressure to do more and more. Francois-Madden, LCSW, is a psychotherapist and owner of Hearts Empowerment Counseling Center in Montclair, New Jersey.

A rut also can stem from not prioritizing yourself. Maybe most of your day “is spent fulfilling someone else’s expectations, doing someone else’s work, allowing someone else to decide how the day goes,” said Brandice Schnabel, LISW-S, a psychotherapist and founder of Sky Witness Healing Arts, a private practice in North Canton, Ohio, that provides counseling from a clinical and/or shamanic perspective based on each client’s needs.

“It’s hard to feel excited about a life that is largely driven by someone else’s roadmap…”

Ruts can needlessly last longer because of fear. “We often cling to what we know because we are afraid of how we will feel if we change something,” Dobbin said. The primitive part of our brain prefers that we stay with safe and familiar, she said. Which means that the following fear-based thoughts and excuses can arise when just entertaining a tiny change: “That isn’t reasonable,” “I don’t have time” or “What if I make a change and things get worse?”

A rut doesn’t always mean that something is wrong. “For someone who has been working through intense emotion and has a history of high intensity relationships or a stressful work environment, the quiet that comes with less conflict and more stability can feel unnerving and initially uncomfortable,” Schnabel said.

“Sometimes a rut is an invitation to take a look at where the quiet comes from and what it may have to teach us.” Schnabel gave these examples: Maybe you’re an extrovert who doesn’t need as much solitude as you thought. Maybe you need to learn to be still. Or maybe the quiet is “evidence that something has finally healed and will no longer be filling your mental space with noise.”

Because there are so many reasons behind ruts, it’s important to explore where your rut might originate from. Francois-Madden also stressed the importance of knowing you’re not alone and giving yourself some grace. You’ll find more tips below.

Know getting out will be uncomfortable. It’s “not easy to try new things, because trying new things takes effort and risk,” said Dobbin. But the only way to break out of a rut is to lean into the discomfort, and dive into the newness, whether you feel like it or not. It can help to jot down a quote or your own reason for change as inspiration.

Take an honest look at your boundaries. As Schnabel said, reflect on whether you have enough time in your day for you—your needs, wants and activities that help you to feel supported. And if you don’t, think about the boundaries you can set to help you create days that are more meaningful, balanced and intentional. This might mean delegating or declining certain invitations.

Do a digital detox. Francois-Madden suggested “doing a digital detox from social media to avoid the comparison game with others.” You might take social media apps off your phone for a week (or forever). You might give yourself only 15 minutes each day to check all your accounts on the computer. Once your detox is done, see how you feel. See if your desires actually shift (because you haven’t been influenced by influencers). See if you’ve been able to hear yourself better.

Consider if you need a tweak or a 180-degree turn. “Sometimes we discount the impact a small shift might have,” said Dobbin. That is, you might find yourself out of a rut simply by making a new recipe every week, attending a different yoga class, taking a creative writing class, reading an interesting book or listening to a new podcast— “anything that introduces new information or inspiration into your life.”

Other times, you need something more drastic, such as changing your career, moving to a new place or ending a relationship, Dobbin said. The key is to make sure you’re making this decision after engaging in thorough, thoughtful reflection and trying different smaller changes. Because sometimes we make hasty decisions to escape “deeper sources of dissatisfaction [such as] poor self-confidence, attachment issues, anxiety, depression.”

Get outside. Reconnect to nature. Open your eyes, and pay attention to the foliage around you. Look up at the sky. Look down at the ground. Breathe in the fresh air. Notice how the breeze or chill feels against your skin. According to Schnabel, “staying grounded and in touch with the land on which you live your life can be rejuvenating and rewarding.”

Find ways to serve. “Get outside of your own head, give back to your community, surprise a friend, or look at your budget and wardrobe, and figure out what you can spare,” Schnabel said. Think about how you can best serve others (which often helps to serve ourselves).

Journal about your wants and obstacles. Write down your dreams and desires, Dobbin said. “Try to go big,” and set aside any doubt that surfaces. Then when you’ve written it all, jot down the thoughts and feelings you have about each dream. This “will give you a sense of your own limiting beliefs and any fears you have about showing up to your life in a different way.”

If you’d rather type, Schnabel suggested using 750words.com, which actually analyzes what you’ve written.

Talk it out. Francois-Madden emphasized finding a trusted friend or support system to express what you’re currently feeling. Often saying our struggles aloud gives us a fresh perspective, and of course others can give us insight, as well.

“If you’ve had trouble making important changes, you might consider finding a therapist or coach to help you get to the bottom of what’s stopping you,” Dobbin said. Plus, sometimes, a rut is anything but. It’s actually depression (with symptoms such as feeling powerless, stuck or uninterested in activities you used to enjoy), and seeing a therapist is vital.

And, of course, you can try therapy at any time. As Schnabel said, “Therapy is a safe space in which to really look inward, process external influences on how we’ve developed, and think about who we want to be.”

Find what speaks to you. Dobbin suggested looking for self-help books, memoirs, podcasts, Ted talks, and anything else that strikes a chord. For instance, she mentioned these resources:

Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes: “[She] spent a year saying yes to every opportunity that came her way, and saw her anxiety dissipate and confidence increase.”

Headspace: a meditation app with different “courses” for helping with stress, sleep and other concerns. This is Dobbin’s go-to suggestion for people who want to start or recommit to meditating.

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown: “for addressing confidence issues and letting go of perfectionistic tendencies that can get in the way of taking action.”

The reason for your rut will likely guide how you break out of it. So give yourself the time and space to consider what might be the cause—and listen to your answer. Don’t let fear dictate what you do. Let it walk alongside you as you make tiny tweaks or major changes, as you learn invaluable insights about yourself.

from World of Psychology https://psychcentral.com/blog/9-tips-for-breaking-out-of-a-rut/

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9 Tips for Breaking Out of a Rut

Lately, you’ve felt utterly uninspired. Lately, your days have been bland, dull and boring. It’s as though you’re a robot stuck on the same setting and program. Every. Single. Day.

Maybe everything feels like one big slog. And you’re not sure what to do about it. You feel trapped, restless, frustrated, or overwhelmed.

In other words, you’re in a rut.

Sometimes, you haven’t spent enough time and energy thinking about what you truly want, and your life takes you into a direction you didn’t intentionally choose, she said.

“It’s hard to feel excited about a life that is largely driven by someone else’s roadmap…”

If you’d rather type, Schnabel suggested using 750words.com, which actually analyzes what you’ve written.

Find what speaks to you. Dobbin suggested looking for self-help books, memoirs, podcasts, Ted talks, and anything else that strikes a chord. For instance, she mentioned these resources:

Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes: “[She] spent a year saying yes to every opportunity that came her way, and saw her anxiety dissipate and confidence increase.”

Headspace: a meditation app with different “courses” for helping with stress, sleep and other concerns. This is Dobbin’s go-to suggestion for people who want to start or recommit to meditating.

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown: “for addressing confidence issues and letting go of perfectionistic tendencies that can get in the way of taking action.”

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Guest Blog: Wedding Photographer & Videographer Leo Trevino of Rad Red Creative

MAKING THE MOVE FROM DSLR TO MIRRORLESS In case you’re a photographer who has been living under a rock the past year, let me say this: Mirrorless is the future!

Don’t believe me? Sony, Panasonic and Fujifilm have been going nuts releasing amazing cameras as of late, and the image quality these lightweights have been producing has been hitting like heavyweight DSLR bodies.

Still don’t believe mirrorless is the future? Go check out Nikon and Canon’s latest full frame… wait for it… mirrorless cameras *GASP!* Alright enough of the melodrama. But you get it; if two of the most steadfast imaging companies finally gave into the mirrorless market, that must mean there’s something to this “mirrorless-trend,” and it’s got me shook. If you’re anything like most veteran photographers, we kind of tend to turn our noses up when we see/hear about someone using a mirrorless for professional work. Here’s how a dedicated DSLR shooter got seduced by a mirrorless system and why I’m never looking back.

Shot on iPhone XS MAX

Real quick, let’s take it back to my experience with DSLR bodies. I’ve been faithfully shooting one of the major brands for about 8 years. From their entry-level model all the way up to their most popular body, I’ve been a loyal fanboy. A little over a year ago, I finally hit that burn-out feeling working professionals deal with. Every-time I picked up my DSLR I just dreaded it. Not to mention the physical weight started to take a toll on my back, and yes I tried working out and all but uh, that just left me more tired haha.

We also film weddings and I was (still am) frustrated with how stubborn they are when it comes to adding decent video features to a camera. For the longest time there was no option to record LOG, the 4k file codec was horrendous, sloppy slo-mo, no focus peaking and I didn’t wanna shell out thousands to buy a few of their cinema cameras. All that to say the switch didn’t happen over night… but I was ready for a change.

View of El Capitan; wildfire that day – FUJI XT2

As I said, mirrorless didn’t catch my attention right away. I always thought of it as a novelty camera. That was until one of my dear friends Phil Porto decided to try out the Fujifilm XT-2. I wanna say it was probably a week later that I saw him selling off all his DSLR gear on Facebook groups. After that, at WPPI 2017 in Vegas I noticed another close friend of my wife and I, Ashlee Hamon, was playing with Fuji bodies at their booth. Sure enough a couple weeks later, she also sold all her DSLR gear and made the switch.

And it wasn’t just them; plenty of my colleagues were making the move to either Sony, Fujifilm and a lot of video shooters moving to Panasonic; and again Sony for that matter. That being said, it wasn’t long before I picked up the phone and set up a play date with my friends and their new systems! Fujifilm had my attention.

Seeing how much I liked my friends’ Fujis, I eventually talked my wife into letting me buy a Fuji XT-2 and a 23mm 1.4 lens in August 2017; it was for personal use. I liked it for its lightweight, small form factor, beast of a crop sensor, shoots raw, dual card slots, and a great line of prime lenses to choose from if I wanted to expand in the future. Once the boys in brown dropped my package off, I immediately opened it. From there on, the XT2 was glued to my hand. Coffee shops, date nights, vacations… where I went, so did the XT2. And then an elopement in California happened and that’s when it clicked (pun intended); I think I wanna switch.

Half Dome from Glacier Pointe – FUJI XT2

Outside of Yosemite at Air BnB – FUJI XT2

We photographed our bride and groom all day in Yosemite National Park. I normally shoot with two bodies, so this time I had my DSLR with an 85mm prime lens and the Fuji XT2 had the 23mm (35mm FF equivalent). After the elopement, we headed back to our Airbnb, and I rushed to my Macbook to import all the files into Lightroom to start editing.

Needless to say I was blown away with the image quality, colors, dynamic range, and crispness I got out of the Fuji! When I started comparing files between the two camera systems, the Fuji outpaced the DSLR with colors and dynamic range. That would’ve been my biggest concern: Can I really shoot Fuji professionally? Yes… yes I can. I still mainly shot my DSLR for full wedding days and engagement sessions, but I couldn’t shake how impressed I was.

FUJI XT2

Let’s fast forward (because I’m long winded… long type-er?… you get it). Earlier this year I bought a small fleet of mid-range DSLR bodies so my video team can all be shooting on the same thing. Yeah, big mistake. I think this particular body, in my experience, sucks. Did not like the colors. The files fell apart in Final Cut X while color grading. Didn’t feel like the 1080p footage was all that sharp, and the biggest flaw: No 4K… and before the peanut gallery starts chiming in; Yes we film weddings in 4K.

BEGINNING OF RANT: Why? Well, a lot of newer video companies (the younger crowd) are starting off with mirrorless cameras that can shoot 4K. And why wouldn’t they use it to set themselves apart from more established companies, older companies that don’t “like,” to shoot 4K? It’s just like how I used to make fun of people that still filmed wedding videos on camcorders/mini DV tapes; I don’t wanna be the guy shooting 1080p in 2018. Gotta stay up on the competition, right? END OF RANT.

Anyways, from January til June we were slammed with weddings and didn’t think it was smart to try switching systems. But then, rolling into late summer, things slowed way down and BAM; Fuji announces the XT3 in early Sept!

Bryce Canyon – Apple iPhone XS MAX

Once this camera was announced and released, I threw all of those mid-range DSLR bodies on Facebook buy/sell groups and sold ‘em like hotcakes. Now, I did the math. IF I had bought four of the main bodies we use (we run four cameras during the ceremony), which are the next step up in the lineup, cuz those can do 4K, Log, and Slo-mo, I would be spending upwards of $12,000. Not to mention I would have to buy extra lenses. After selling off all the mid-range DSLR bodies and buying three XT-3 bodies (I still own the XT2) along with a variety of prime lenses I spent about $5,000 out of pocket.

Once they got delivered to my door, I got them out of the boxes, set them up, and we then filmed our first wedding on them…. I was hooked for good. I also wanna mention my video team loves being able to keep everything in one bag and felt less tired since everything was lighter weight. We’re still editing most of those video but so far so good I’m loving the videos way better than what we were getting from the DSLR bodies. Meanwhile, I shot the hell out of that camera during one of our National Park pitstops at Bryce Canyon and later in San Francisco!

Bryce Canyon

Golden Gate Bridge

Now that I went full Fuji for video, I started feeling that itch again… the curiosity of: I wonder if I could photograph my next wedding with these XT-3s… And so I did! The very next weekend, I shot an entire wedding with a mirrorless camera. Since then I’ve photographed one more wedding with Fuji and then an engagement session. Suffice it to say, I didn’t once find myself missing my full frame DSLRs.

FUJI XT3

Where am I going with this? I realize this whole post might have sounded like I’m Fujifilm fanboy or a mirrorless evangelist, and maybe rightfully so. But what I really want to leave you with is this:

DO NOT be afraid of trying one of the new mirrorless systems, or maybe any new system for that matter.

Switching camera systems takes time and careful planning. While mirrorless may not for everyone (yet), changing camera systems has certainly reinvigorated my personal interest in photography. I find myself more eager to shoot, the light weight means I have more stamina during weddings, and my wrist isn’t swollen afterwards. Mirrorless EVF’s (electronic viewfinder) have also come a long way and I personally love Fuji’s. Overall I just love the feel of the camera; it’s true what some people say when it comes to having an emotional response shooting with a certain piece of gear.

If you find yourself stuck in a rut, or in the middle of burn out; do something for yourself and business and try something new. People change, photography style changes, why shouldn’t your camera system? As Tom Haverford from ‘Parks and Recreation’ says, “Treat yo’ Self!” You deserve it!

You can see more of Leo and his wife Brittany’s work at RadRedCreative.com, and keep up with them on Instagram, Vimeo, and Facebook.

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