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girl I hope ur okay. I hope ur frolicking under the spring sun despite it all

#text #spring #hope #seasons #seasonal #resilience #dance #sun

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If you're lamenting the fact that you used to be able to shoot through a 500-page novel in like a day when you were in middle school and now you can't, it's worth bearing in mind that a big part of that is because when you were in middle school, your reading comprehension sucked. Yes, mental health and the stresses of adult life can definitely be factors, but it's also the case that reading is typically more effortful as an adult because you've learned to Ponder The Implications. The material isn't just skimming over the surface of your brain anymore, and some of the spoons you used to spend on maximising your daily page count are now spent on actually thinking about what you're reading!

#reading #books #reading comprehension #childhood #adulthood #text

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Alisa Onipchenko-Cherniakovska (Ukrainian,b.1990)

Spring still life, 2020

Oil on canvas

#art #painting #oil painting #stilll life #spring #seasons #seasonal

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heyyyy to all the women out there i hope you get to have a pasta dinner soon. to men i hope you are repenting

#text #pasta #dinner #repent #repenting #love this honestly

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#elon musk #tumblr #internet

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Actually life is beautiful because the sound I make while trying to breathe around hot food sounds like my dog trying to eat an apple. When I yawn my cat tries to put his face in my mouth like a little dentist man and when he yawns I put my finger in his obligate-carnivore trapzone and we both know he will not hurt me. When I do not fold my clothes, they do not hold it against me.

I am demonstrably sad, and lonely, and full of fear. But there are other people who will hold my hand, who will point out the hawk overhead, who will give you That Look in a public place. The other day at a coffee shop a child said "look! It's snowing!" so all of us strangers went to go look out the windows. It wasn't the first snow and it won't be the last but wasn't it lovely like that?

How wonderful to live in a world where birds and frogs both say beep! How wonderful to have an ocean of beautiful sharks with their dinosaur teeth! How wonderful the moon and her changing face, how wonderful the bees and their dancing to communicate, how wonderful shrimp and their forbidden layers of vision! How wonderful, you, and what you will give the world! The way we love things enough to spend entire blogs devoted to them? How people will let me explain my Pokemon team to them? How we will both jump at the scare in the movie, how we laugh so loudly, how it feels to give someone your baking? How wonderful to be alive. I am sorry for forgetting.

This is the process of getting better. With wonderful people and wonderful strangers and wonderful friends: I am getting better, slowly. Thank you, whoever you are. In some way, you've been wonderful, and left a wonderful place in the world to ripple out to me. In some small way - isn't it beautiful - I promise, you've been helping.

#text #life #hope #prose #joy

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happy may the fourth to those who celebrate

#gif #star wars #star wars day #may the fourth #holiday #holidays #movie #movies #film

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Cats understand "naughty". In fact I think they're the only animal who understands it. Dogs know "good" and "bad" but not Naughty. Same with theft. Cats know what theft is. They know when they are thieving and you can see it on their faces. Squirrels are thieves but they don't know that. They know "take" and "have" but they don't comprehend what it is to steal. Nor do raccoons or coyotes or any species of rodent. They may participate in theft but they are ignorant of the weight of what they do, the full meaning of it. Cats know what crime is and they do it on purpose.

#text #cats #animals #mammals #naughty #sin #crime #cat

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Have I told y’all about my husband’s Fork Theory?  If I did already, pretend I didn’t, I’m an old.

So the Spoon Theory is a fundamental metaphor used often in the chronic pain/chronic illness communities to explain to non-spoonies why life is harder for them. It’s super useful and we use that all the time. But it has a corollary.  You know the phrase, “Stick a fork in me, I’m done,” right? Well, Fork Theory is that one has a Fork Limit, that is, you can probably cope okay with one fork stuck in you, maybe two or three, but at some point you will lose your shit if one more fork happens.  A fork could range from being hungry or having to pee to getting a new bill or a new diagnosis of illness. There are lots of different sizes of forks, and volume vs. quantity means that the fork limit is not absolute. I might be able to deal with 20 tiny little escargot fork annoyances, such as a hangnail or slightly suboptimal pants, but not even one “you poked my trigger on purpose because you think it’s fun to see me melt down” pitchfork.

This is super relevant for neurodivergent folk. Like, you might be able to deal with your feet being cold or a tag, but not both. Hubby describes the situation as “It may seem weird that I just get up and leave the conversation to go to the bathroom, but you just dumped a new financial burden on me and I already had to pee, and going to the bathroom is the fork I can get rid of the fastest.”

#spoons #spoon theory #forks #fork theory #executive dysfunction #executive function #mental health #mental energy #energy #text

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personalities (just a few)

rosewater: confident smiles, fresh cut flowers, quick steps, lipstick and perfume, lingering glances with strangers, full jewelry boxes, loud laughter, kisses on cheeks, bright expressions, handwritten notes

neon: bright colors, oversized art books, comfortable sweaters, freshly painted nail polish, scattered lists of plans, getting up early, interrupting thoughts with other thoughts, unexpected confetti, neon lights

patchwork: soft breezes, layered quilts, mismatched cookie cutters, stacks of new and old books, sipping tea, sitting after a long day, chimney smoke, a kettle whistling, sun hitting a suncatcher, birdsong

lume: star jewelery, staring out the window, dream journaling, blurry photos of the moon, twilight, long daydreams, doodles in the margins, falling asleep a midday, seeing shapes in clouds, glittery stickers

postmark: impromptu phone calls, witty banter, surprised laughter, iced coffee, oversized scarves, obscure references, drawers full of letters and cards, taking the shortcut there, multiple pens, driving fast

rendezvous: tickets and passes, last minute plans, knick knacks and souvenirs, getting a tan, wide-eyed wonder, dining al fresco, taking photos, running jumps, old leather bags, poring over maps

#text #personality #personality types #tag yourself #personalities

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The irony is that secular Christmas was supposed to be a solution for a multicultural America where there’s no state religion or required observance. But a watered-down version of Jesus’s so-called birthday... has just managed to make the assumption of Christianity even more of a given. Non-Christians who opt out of stockings and presents aren’t considered bad at religion; they’re considered bad at American-ness.... Each tinkly "It’s the Most Wonderful Tiiiiiime of the Yearrrrrr" is just one more tiny reminder that I’m not part of the majority: I’m an exception to the given social rule.

#christmas #nationalism #secularity #religion #america #usa #holidays #holiday

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London/// Ksenia Skosyrskikh

#aesthetic #fashion #gray #winter #fall #autumn #coat #city #urban

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Having a birthday in the third week of November is always silly, because it's like. Will it be on Thanksgiving and therefore a separate party will be un-schedulable? Will it be on Black Friday and shadowed by commercial shopping/capitalism? Or will it simply fucking blizzard? Who knows!

#text #november #november birthday #november birthdays #birthdays #thanksgiving #black friday #snow #weather #blizzard #winter #autumn #seasons #seasonal

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Tips for living alone

#text #living alone #reference #toolbox #safety

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First thing you see after you zoom in is how you die

How you dying 👀

#personal growth #nooooooo #😭 #meme

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GOD I just want to be CREATIVE but all my energy is being used to survive

#creativity #creation #art #text #exhaustion #survival #campitalism #sigh

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Beatrix Potter: The Tale of Peter Rabbit (1992)

#gif #the world of peter rabbit and friends #beatrix potter #movie #movies #rabbit #animals #mammals #i loved these movies/shows as a kid