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Wicked temptress

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The way that exclusionists treat ace and aro people often reminds me of how the average person would treat me when I started being open as non-binary. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it a thousand times, we are not enemies. Our experiences do not oppose each other, they are intertwined. If you’re ace, if you’re aromantic, if you’re any variation thereupon; your home is here. You belong here, too. You are beautiful, and powerful; and you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. You are a valued part of this community.

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Ace/Aro education scribble PSA

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I unfortunately stumbled across this blog by chance, I saw this page on an ace positivity instagram page explaining why we still need pride and how there’s still a lot of acephobes in the world. I read some of this blogs comments and posts from OP (Lovely-leabean) thinking that maybe the instagram page was taking what the OP (Lovely-leabean) said out of context, and I wanted to see for myself. Only to find things like this on their page. At first I was frustrated at having my identity so easily erased, called irrelevant, and slandered, just as so many LGBTQ+ people experienced in the past. Especially on pride month to find something like this, it really upset me. Pride month was started by trans women of color who were sex workers, asexuals, bisexuals, lesbians, and gays during the Stone Wall riots. Everyone fought so hard for this community, and made real progress, but not one of us should ever sink into complacency. This blog was my reminder.

There will always be acephobes in the world. I can’t help that, however I can help educate those who chose to understand the other side of things. One of Lovely-Leabean’s arguments, or statements rather, as far as I’m aware, is that asexuals are pedophiles. It’s not only blatantly wrong, but also willfully ignorant. I understand nothing I can say will change this person’s mind, however I’d like to use their page as an example to other people that acephobes still exist in real time. This is also the person that (as far as I’m aware) stole from LGBTQ+ artists, because they were so far in the mindset of hurting asexual people, they also hurt their own people.

So one of the things I’d like to address is the anon comment, “humans are meant to have sex, die”. Firstly, that’s inaccurate. And secondly, I'm not quite sure what they’re trying to say. Are they saying that humans are made to have sex and reproduce? Therefore aces are unnatural, or not real because humans were physically made to reproduce? In which case their statements would also apply to lesbians and gay people, or anyone else whose in a same sex relationship (who all also can’t reproduce). Or are they saying that humans are made to have sex, because it’s pleasurable? Everyone has different levels of pleasure when it comes to sex, because not everyone enjoys things the same. Think of it like cake. Some people love cake to the point they’re having it every other day, and some people can go months without it and be fine. If your response to this metaphor is ‘but everyone likes sex! Sex isn’t cake!’ You’re right! Sex isn’t cake, but the point I made seemed to have gone over your head. Continue to reread it until you understand, if possible reread it from different perspectives. Also, I do believe there’s a lot more to life than sex, and dying.

The second thing I will point out is the fact anon said, ‘aces are disgusting and completely gross’. Please explain how, again I’m not sure what the argument is here other than outright bigotry. Most asexuals are literally doing nothing… how is the lack of sex and exchanging bodily fluids with another person disgusting?

The final thing anon said was, “Like imagine being such a fucking incel”. Those of you who don’t know, incels are ‘members of an online subculture who define themselves as unable to find a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one’. Firstly, I identify as an asexual, and my loving boyfriend supports me and loves me in ways I didn’t expect or thought I’d deserve. So, I’m living proof of an Ace who isn’t an incel. Fun fact, almost all aces aren’t incels. I’m sure there’s one or two out there who are, but the majority of us aren’t. You’re saying that aces (are aros) identify this way because they can’t find a romantic or sexual partner. It’s sort of like saying how lesbians identify as lesbians because they can’t find a man, which we all know to be untrue. It’s the same situation.

And finally the acephobic OP, who says, “Ikr, extremists really got some fucked up ideas”. Which was, perhaps the strangest reply comment I’ve ever seen. It doesn't really match up with what anon said, it’s as if they meant to reply to a different comment but messed up and replied to this one instead. If I fully understood what they were trying to say, I’d be able to discuss this like an adult, however the longer I read this small interaction the less I understand about it in general. So, instead I’ll cover the main point everyone else has already covered. How asexuals are not pedophiles. OP claims to have found ace flags in pedophiles’s blogs and pages, however I’ve yet to see proof. And if there was some, that small minority does not speak for the rest of us! Sort of like how there are pedophilic lesbians online that don’t speak for the entire community. By doing a quick google search I actually found more pedophilic stuff on lesbians than I did asexuals. Which I understand that a very small percent of lesbians are pedophiles, but the fact is pedophiles exist in every community and sexual orientation. If you condemn asexuals for have pedophiles in the community (which I have yet to see in all honesty), you’d also have to do it for every other community and sexualities because they exist everywhere.

If someone would like, I’ve written many papers on asexuality, and have also studied this in depth, so I can give a full length essay on asexuality including why they’re real, and why we need ace allies. Thanks for the read, happy pride month to everyone, and remember to stay safe! I also heard a few bigots are threatening to steal things, (it’s not the straights ™ this time, it’s actually other members of the community we were supposed to be able to rely on). Keep a close eye on your things, and I’ll see you all at pride, I’ll be waving my ace flag proudly with a huge smile on my face, because it’s my first pride!!!! :Dc

Example of my brief search:

Edit: I will say it once more. A majority Lesbians and asexuals are NOT pedophiles. I’m trying to format my argument in a way OP will understand, that’s all.

Aces are disgusting and completely gross, humans are meant to have sex, die. Like imagine being such a fucking incel

Ikr, extremists really got some fucked up ideas

#acephobes #acephobe #lgbtq #lgbtq community #lgbtq+ #ace #aromantic #asexual #asexuals #aces #pride #pridemonth #exclusionists #lesbians #lesbian

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Terrifying

Eldritch

Reality

Figures

i just made being a terf illegal it’s the law now

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... shit as in bad... or...?

You are a good person

Idk one time I ate a shit sandwich 

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#savethebees #bees #bee #draw #drawing #art #lineart #beetheme #wtf #why #whatisthis

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Here’s a comic I made about identifying as asexual and aromantic! I made it for an anthology which ended up falling through, so I thought it would be a good idea to post it on Valentine’s Day.

Take care of yourselves out there! http://raizap.com/

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Sick of people using suicide as a manipulative tactic to keep their significant other in a relationship.

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So when Klaus goes back in time... he wouldn’t have Ben there because Ben hadn’t been born yet, let alone become a ghost. How many times do you think he turned to talk to his brother or ask advice because Ben is always there, only to see empty air? Also, what was it like for him on the battlefield? It must have been swarming with ghosts. Maybe Dave helped him through that? I’m sorry that just popped into my head at work and made me really sad lmao

Maybe Klaus stayed in 1968 just so he wouldn’t have to deal with the reality of his brother being dead.

Maybe Klaus would turn around to find Ben gone, and find relief washing over him.

Maybe Klaus thought that he could live through 1968 and the years to come, and maybe prevent Ben’s death.

Dave knowing that Klaus can see the dead, and who sleeps next to Klaus, always calms Klaus down after a night terror.

On the battlefield, he would see spirits of the dead rise from their bodies and stare at themselves. Some would scream, some would claw at their own chests in horror.

But Klaus couldn’t afford to freeze up on the battlefield. Klaus constantly talked to the spirits as he took his next shot. His comrades would call him “Reaper”.

Klaus’ worst fear is that Dave will become just a ghost of what he used to be. And yet, he follows him to the front line.

Because Dave convinces him that there’s nothing worse than dying without living, and if living meant they were together at the front lines, then so be it.

[to anon: OP don’t be sad! I hope my answer helped!]

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Hey look I made a thing!!!! It took longer than expected but I made it so people would be able to understand romantic, sexual, and gender identities. If I made a mistake or messed up in general let me know,,, I’m a dumb, tired, and broke student so it’s more than likely.

Uhhh lemme know what you think? I tried?

Also I know my handwriting is trash :( also the music is not mine.

Edit: I realized I messed up, the green heart on the last slide should be purple :/ fml

#pan #pans #pansexual #bisexual #aromantic #lgbtq #lgbtq community #lgbtq+ #demisexual #asexual #demiromantic #art #animation #transgender #genderfluid #gay #lesbian #mlm #wlw #bigender #cartoon #bi #allosexual #ace #aro positivity #ally #ace positivity #demi #mtf #ftm

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Got my pride dice today!!! LGBTQ+ babeeyy

#dnd #dndroller #dnd 5e #dnd stuff #dnd dice #lgbtq #lgbtq community #LGBTQ+ #lgbtq+ #pan #pansexual #gay #queer #demisexual

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What does sexual attraction feel like? How is it different than romantic attraction? And how could you determine which is which? I don’t know if I’m demisexual or ace and would really appreciate the help 🏳️‍🌈

In the easiest way, I’d say sexual attraction feels like “I want to have sex with this person”, while romantic attraction would be “I want to do romance or have a romantic relationship with this person”.

I know mainstream society tells us that sex is required in romance, but that’s not true. You might want romance with someone but be totally disinterested in sex, or the other way around. The difference lies here, what do you feel is a desire for sex, for romance or both? 

For demisexuals the sexual attraction might appear, for aces it doesn’t. That doesn’t mean you can’t be in a romantic relationship, since sex and romance are different things. 

-Mod Paris

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Experiment

Reblog if you would date an asexual person. For real, not because “some asexuals like sex,” but because you would be okay with having a sexless relationship.