thatonegaybrit

[thatonegaybrit]

; good job fish, glad you've been happy irl !!

sorry I haven't been posting on tumblr for a few days. I've been really happy irl

#fish #fishblr

[thatonegaybrit]

; if this is the case, what other term could be used by white / non-black people who previously used wlw ?? And does this go for mlm and nblw / nblm / nblnb or is it js wlw !?? /genq

i have a question for black lesbians!

hi!! i saw a post recently that said that the term ‘wlw’ is actually AAVE and should really only be used by black lesbians. as a non-black lesbian who uses wlw, i want to know if i should stop using this term and i don’t want to just rely on some internet searches so i’m here asking you! what are your thoughts on this? thanks!

if you’re not a black lesbian please feel free to reblog this but do not reply! i’d like to only hear from black lesbians!

#lgbtq #lesbian #wlw #question #for black lesbians only !! #reblog

[thatonegaybrit]

; I'm unable to donate but reblogging this in hopes it reaches someone who can !! Support this amazing person <33

"DAER FRIENDS AND KIND HEARTS PLEASE DONATE AND SHARE"

My name is Amina Mwanasiti, and I come to you from the beautiful island of Zanzibar.

A few months ago, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. The news was devastating, but I am determined to fight this battle with all my strength. Unfortunately, the treatment I need is not available here in Zanzibar. The doctors have advised that I seek medical care in South Africa, where there is a higher chance of recovery

The cost of treatment, travel, and accommodation is beyond what my family and I can afford. We live modestly, making a living through our crafts and trades, but this is a challenge we cannot face alone.

I humbly ask for your financial support to help me get the treatment I desperately need. Your generosity could give me a chance to live, to continue weaving the baskets that connect me to my heritage, and to keep teaching the children of my community.

Any contribution, no matter how small, would mean the world to me and my family. Thank you for taking the time to read my story and for considering helping me in my time of need.

With heartfelt gratitude,

My goal is $98/15674

DONATE HERE

#donations #charity #cancer donation #<3

[thatonegaybrit]

; me, a transmasc, wearing a flowy skirt:

; ( I'd like to clarify, since this is unfortunately common, that I am not hating !! This person is js hshsvwhsv and I strive to look as majestic as them !!? /gen

#transmasc #queer humour #lgbtqia+ #fem presenting #sometimes #nonbinary #transblr #funny #<3

[thatonegaybrit]

; my parents seriously seem to act like it's a flex they grew up poor and went hungry most nights. Like, I am truly sorry for them but they've turned their past into a weapon to ruin my future ykwim ?? I get it, you had a hard and abusive childhood. Sorry that I'm not working three jobs ?? And starving ?? Would you like me to js, purposefully make myself suffer or smth .. It's so weird to me, like- the concept of " be grateful cuz I had it absolutely horrible and you're not suffering so !! Work harder !! Suffer !! " yk ?? Especially since neither of them care about " little " issues like low self esteem, feelings uncomfortable in certain clothes, etc, because they didn't have the privilege to worry about stuff like that !! :']

"when i was your age, i was working three jobs to help support my family" and "when i was in college i was sleeping on a mattress on the floor and living off of soup"

YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE HAD TO DO THAT. NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO DO THAT. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN TO YOU THAT THIS ISN'T A CHARACTER-BUILDING LESSON, IT'S JUST BAD

#caps tw #abuse tw #poverty tw #reblog

[thatonegaybrit]

; it's truly sickening that all of this has been allowed to go on, it makes me so sad seeing all these innocent people suffering. END COLONIALISM AND LET PEOPLE BE FREE !!

this is a message for all palestinians.

i'm so sorry for what you've been through. i'm sorry we failed as humanity. i'm so fucking sorry. right now i'm crying because i'm tired of seeing y'all suffer. i'm tired of seeing people dying. i'm tired of seeing pictures of dead bodies, mostly kids. i'm tired of seeing pictures of people in hunger. i'm tired of seeing pictures of parents crying and carrying their kid's body. i'm so tired. i want y'all to be free. i want y'all to live a normal life. i want to see your kids going to school and achieving their dreams. i want to see parents playing with their kids. i'm so sorry we failed as humanity, but now the governments are seeing who's right and who isn't and i believe a ceasefire will happen soon and y'all will be free!

FREE PALESTINE!

FREE CONGO!

FREE SUDAN!

FREE UKRAINE!

FREE UYGHURS!

FREE KASHMIR!

FREE EVERYONE!

END COLONIALISM AND LET PEOPLE BE FREE!

WE WILL ONLY BE FREE WHEN WE ARE ALL FREE!

#free plaestine #gaza #stand with gaza #i stand with palestine #free uyghurs #free congo #free sudan #free gaza #free kashmir #end colonialism #free ukraine #<3

[thatonegaybrit]

you can't support the normalization of the usage of singular they/them pronouns and then say you don't support people who want to normalize it/its because it's "too weird," as if using singular they/them pronouns isn't clearly weird to a lot of people.

you can't refuse to acknowledge an identity because it's "weird," they're all "weird" in the eyes of cisheteronormative society. people who use neopronouns like it/its, ze/hir, xe/xem, thon/thons and others don't deserve to have to settle for they/them if that's not what they use. it doesn't matter if something is "weird" or not. let go of the compulsive need to assimilate and just let people express themselves freely

[thatonegaybrit]

bitches just want us all to be perfectly perisex more than anything

[thatonegaybrit]

; this post is js adorable I love the comic. And the js everything is !!! /pos

Here is a little comic I made about some thoughts I’ve been having recently. I don’t ID as transmasc, and I have noticed that since I’m nonbinary and AFAB, some people in queer circles (online and irl) label me as transmasc! This has increased since I started T. Much love to my transmasc siblings, but I don’t identify with that term, and it misgenders me.

I figured if there’s not a lot of acknowledgement or discussion about non-transmasc and non-transfem people who physically transition, I can make some myself :)

Thank you to @/rjalker for the ID below!

[ID: A nine panel comic, done is low-saturated colors, mostly featuring soft yellow and shades of blue and purple.

Panel 1 reads, “I am an AFAB trans person on T.” showing a surface with a towel, and an open packet that reads, “1% 25mg”.

Panel 2 continues: “And I’m not transmasc.” and shows a rainbow flag, and a nonbinary flag hanging above some jewelry.

Panel 3 shows a person walking on a hill, the sky pale yellow and the ground in shades of blue. It reads, “My gender isn’t woman, or man, or adjacent to either, or neutra/ ‘in-between’.” The venus and mars symbols float in the air, in red and blue.

Panel’s 4, 5, and 6 read, “It’s a separate, other, gender.” Showing shoes worn under a light blue skirt, a person wearing a shirt, jeans, and vest waving, and a person without clothes floating among stars.

Panel 7 reads, “Queer people who know I’m on T, or even just know that I’m AFAB, often think I’m transmasc.” “They label my experiences automatucally.” The same person from before is shown between the two sentences, sweating nervously as though being trapped.

Panel 8 reads, “It feels like misgendering. From people who should know better.” The person is shown sittign facing away from the camera, head bowed, lifting one arm across zir shoulder, where half a dozen flags have been stabbed into zir back like arrows, all dark blue, and marked with either the blue mars, or pink venus symbol.

Panel 9 reads, “'Masculinizing’ HRT doesn’t mean I’m transmasc.” Next to a small picture of the person smiling away from the camera, wearing blue glasses, with stubble on zir chin. The next small image is of the chemical symbols for testosterone, with text next to it that reads, “It doesn’t mean my gender is male, or male-adjacent.” Followed by another small picture of the person, smiling with hearts next to zir face, wearing the nonbinary pride flag like a blanket or cape.

The yellow background fades downward into the nonbinary flag, with stripes of yellow, white, purple, and black, here with the purple and black in shades of blue. The text reads, above a final drawing of the person, wearing a pink sweater and a blue skirt, smiling up at the camera and surrounded by small sparkles, “It just means I’m a nonbinary, genderqueer person who is becoming more like zirself. And that just happens to involve HRT!” with a smiley face emoji at the end.

End ID.]

#lgbtqia+ #queer #nonbinary #genderqueer #js a person #HRT #<3

[thatonegaybrit]

I finally made the meme I've had in my head for over a year

[thatonegaybrit]

#lgbtqia+ #queer #transblr #trans #transmasculine #transmasc #we belong #!!! #<3

[thatonegaybrit]

Y'know, whenever people want to talk about why aspec people 'count' as an oppressed identity, they tend to go for the big stuff like corrective rape and conversion therapy. And like, we should absolutely talk about that stuff. Obviously those things are terrible and important and we need to raise awareness and deal with them.

But I feel like people often gloss over how… quietly traumatising it is to grow up being told that there is only one way to be happy— and that everybody who doesn't conform to that norm is secretly miserable and just doesn't know it— and then to gradually realise that, for reasons that you cannot help, that is never going to happen for you.

You're not going to find a prince/princess and ride off into the sunset. Or if you do, then it's not going to look exactly the way it does in fairytales. You're not going to get a 'normal' relationship, because you are not 'normal', and everybody and everything around you keeps telling you that that's bad.

You see films where characters are presented as being financially stable, genuinely passionate about their work and surrounded by friends and family, but then spend the rest of the plot realising that the real thing they needed was a (romantic and sexual) partner, to make them 'complete'.

You absorb the idea that any relationships you have with allo people will ultimately be unfulfilling on their side, and that this will be your fault (even if you discussed things with your partner beforehand and they decided that they were a-okay with having those sorts of boundaries in a relationship) unless you deliberately force yourself into situations that you aren't comfortable with, so as to make uo for your 'defects'.

You grow up feeling lowkey gaslighted because all the adults in your life (even in LGBT+ spaces. In fact especially in LGBT+ spaces) are insisting that it's totally normal to not be attracted to anybody at your age, and then you go to school and everybody keeps pressuring you to name somebody you're attracted to because they can't imagine not being attracted to anybody at your age.

And then you get older and realise that one day you're going to be expected to leave home, and that one day all your friends are going to be expected to put aside other relationships and 'settle down' with a primary partner and you don't know what you're going to do after that because you straight up don't have a roadmap for what a 'happy ending' looks like for someone like you.

(And the LGBT+ community is little help, because so many people in there are more than happy to tell you that you're not oppressed at all. That you're like this because you don't want to have sex, and/or you don't want to have any relationships, that your orientation is some sort of choice you made— like not eating bananas— rather than an intrinsic part of you that a lot of us have at some point tried to wish away.)

Even if you're grey or demi, and do experience those feelings, you still have to deal with the fact that you're not experiencing them the 'normal' way and that that's going to effect your relationships and your ability to find one in the first place.

If you're aiming for lifelong singlehood (which is valid af) or looking for a qpp, then you're going to have to spend the rest of your life either letting people make wrong assumptions about your situation (at best that your relationship is of a different nature than it actually is, at worst that the life you've chosen is really just a consolation prize because you 'failed' at finding a romantic/sexual partner) or pulling out a powerpoint and several webpages every time you want to explain it.

This what being aspec looks like for most people, and it is constantly minimised as being unimportant and not worth fighting against— even in aspec spaces— because we've all on some level absorbed the idea that oppression is only worth fighting against if it's big, and dramatic, and immediately obvious. That all the little incidents of suffering that we experience on a daily basis are not enough to be worth bothering about.

I mean, who gives a shit if you feel broken, inherently toxic as a partner, and like you're going to be denied happiness because of your orientation? Shouldn't we all just shut up and thank our lucky stars we don't have to deal with all the stuff some of the other letters in the acronym have to put up with (leaving aside the fact that there are many aspec people who identify with more than one letter)?

So you know what? If you're aspec and you relate to anything I've said above (or can think of other things relating your your aspec-ness that I haven't mentioned) then this is me telling you now that it's enough. Even if we got rid of all the big stuff (which we're unlikely to do any time soon because— Shock! Horror!— the big stuff is actually connected to all the small stuff) we would still be unable to consider our fight 'over' because what you are experiencing is not 'basically okay' and something we should just be expected to 'put up with'.

No matter what anybody tells you, we have the right to demand more from life than this.

#asexual #asexual awareness #lgbtqia+ #Queer #<3

[thatonegaybrit]

; I haven't seen an explanation quite so good omfg !?? /gen ( I'm a Lucky Charms and Apple Jacks kinda guy, maybe Fruity Pebbles. What about y'all ? /genq /nf

Asexual labels explained using cereal

You are in a kitchen, opening a pantry door. It contains every brand of cereal in existence.

Libido- How hungry you are

Sexual Attraction- How appealing each cereal is to you

Sex-Repulsed- The mere act of eating cereal disturbs you. You flee the kitchen to watch Netflix instead.

Sex-Indifferent- Someone brings you a bowl of cereal. Even though you don’t crave cereal, you decide to eat some anyway. Maybe because you want the person to feel happy you’re eating something they provided you. Maybe you’re just that hungry. Regardless, you’re fine with eating it since it’s already there. If it wasn’t, you wouldn’t care either.

Sex-favorable- Though you don’t particularly crave cereal, the act of eating cereal is enjoyable. So enjoyable, you go through the trouble of picking a brand to eat.

Asexual with low/no libido- You are rarely hungry, and none of the cereal appeals to you.

Asexual with average/high libido- You are often hungry, but none of the cereal appeals to you.

Aegosexual-  Eating cereal sounds fun in theory but not in practice. You certainly have no interest in eating cereal yourself. You’d rather fantasize about other people eating cereal, thankyouverymuch. 

Gray Asexual- You only like Lucky Charms and Apple Jacks. And maybe Fruity Pebbles but you’re not quite sure.

Demisexual- You see a box of Trix. You are familiar with the rabbit on the box, due to the commercials you’ve seen. You always sympathized with the rabbit for never getting any Trix. There are things in life you’ve wanted but have never gotten. You feel a bond with the rabbit. Suddenly that box of Trix looks tasty.

Fraysexual- You see a box of Cocoa Puffs. You have never heard of Cocoa Puffs in your life. But something about it is oh-so-appealing. You pour yourself a bowl. As you start to eat, you catch a commercial for Cocoa Puffs on TV. You now know what the mascot on the box is like. You lose interest in Cocoa Puffs for reasons you cannot explain.

Lithosexual- You notice a box of Fruit Loops. You feel an urge to eat it. Toucan Sam comes to life and asks you to eat them. This makes you uncomfortable, so you leave to watch Netflix with the sex-repulsed ace.

Reciprosexual- You have no interest in any of the cereal. Not even that box of Frosted Flakes. But Tony the Tiger shows up wanting you to eat the Frosted Flakes. Now that he wants you to eat Frosted Flakes, you want to eat Frosted Flakes. 

Cupiosexual- You want to eat cereal, but none of the cereal looks appealing. Maybe if you grab that box of Corn Flakes, it’ll become appealing to you later? It’s happened to other people. You consider grabbing that box of Corn Flakes, just in case.

Orchidsexual- Some of the cereal looks appealing, but you have no interest in eating cereal.

Aceflux- None of the cereal looks good, so you close the pantry. A few days later, you decide to open the pantry again. Now, some of those brands look appetizing. You check the pantry again the next day. None of the cereal looks good anymore.

Quoisexual- You have no idea if you like a cereal because you want to eat it, or if you just think the box art is pretty. Does liking the box art count as wanting to eat it? Do you just like the mascot? Does liking the mascot count as wanting to eat the cereal? After reading everything I’ve written, you are still confused. You bang your head against the pantry in frustration.

#asexuality #asexual #gray asexual #demisexual #fraysexual #aegosexual #lithosexual #reciprosexual #cupiosexual #orchidsexual #quoisexual #aceflux #ace spec #aspec #graysexual #ace flux #lgbtqia+ #queer #Asexual identities explained w cereal #Because yes #support asexual identities #<3

[thatonegaybrit]

★◝ ; Attractioflux ( at-trackt-tio-flux )

; derived from " Attractio " meaning Attraction in Latin, and " Flux " meaning to shift or change.

coined by Marzceline or Tumblr user @thatonegaybrit

on May 26th, 2024

⌒⌒✶⏖ >_<

; Attractioflux ,, is an orientation characterized by a change in attraction that corresponds with changes in one's own gender identity. Unlike other labels such as abrosexual, individuals who identify as attractioflux experience shifts in their preferences primarily when their gender identity changes. This orientation is especially relevant for genderfluid individuals or those with otherwise fluid and/or fluctuating gender identities.

; for example, when an individual feels more masculine, they might be more attracted to men ( mlm ) or prefer non-binary individuals, etc. Whereas when they're feeling more feminine, they may feel attraction only to demiboys or even experiencing little to no attraction to anyone .. ! Or they might feel attraction to people regardless of gender when they're feeling more neutral / non-binary in some way ! While some Attractioflux individuals attraction to other genders can still be present despite shifts, there is still always a noticeable change in preference !

; ( or whatever combinations, as it varies person-to-person and change-to-change ... This can also include differences in sexual, romantic and platonic attraction !! )

#orientation coining #attractioflux #genderfluid #fluctuating genders #multigender #multisexual #lgbtqia+ #queer #term coining #sexuality coining #coining post #<3

[thatonegaybrit]

; when you've been searching forever and still can't find a microlabel that 100% describes you, and it's getting so painfully hshvehsvshs you're thinking of coining one. Just. If someone else hasn't openly explained what I'm feeling then I'll tell everyone myself kinda thing, yk ?? Maybe find ppl who are the same as me !!??

; edit: I did it. I'm so pleased you don't understand. https://www.tumblr.com/thatonegaybrit/751577934146551808/attractioflux-at-trackt-tio-derived?source=share

#lgbtqia+ #queer #queer humour #kinda #nonbinary #pronouns #transblr #sexuality coining #maybe ?? #i'm tempted #fr #sigh 😔 #genderfluid #multisexual #<3

[thatonegaybrit]

; this !! Just, this !!

Listen, I love the LGBTQ+ community as much as any other queer person. But we have got to stop ostracizing people in our community to fit in with cishetallo people.

Some of y’all really do go ‘these are the acceptable boxes for queer people and their definitions, anyone outside of these is actually not queer and making us look bad’ and act like that’s ok. Now that being queer is generally acceptable in online/progressive areas (as long as you are one of the ‘well known’ orientations), a big part of the community has started regulating what’s ‘acceptable’ of a queer person and how we should fit into society.

I’ll see people hating on trans people who don’t fit into the ‘normal’ expectation of ‘Trans girl, Trans boy, or Non-binary’ or use Neo pronouns because that’s how they feel the most comfortable. I’ll see people hating on queer people who don’t like labels ( or try to assign people one even if they don’t want it). Or people who use a label in a way they don’t like (bi people who mostly date the opposite sex, lesbians who use pronouns other than just she/her, gender non-conforming people who don’t identify as trans, obscure micro-labels, etc.)

And it’s so frustrating because we as LGBTQ+ are supposed to be better!!! We are supposed to empathize with the feeling of not fitting in with regular society and help others like us! But the community has become part of the oppressive ‘societal standard’ for some people.

Some people just can’t be put into a perfect little label box and a lot of y’all aren’t cool about that. And I can’t believe I have to tell my fellow queers this, but there is nothing wrong with denying societal standards in order to live in the way that is genuine to you and makes you happy. End of story. If you disagree with that, look inward at your internal biases and try and fix that. Get rid of the cop in your brain telling you that you have to police others self-expression.

#lgbtqia+ #queer #transblr #Transgender #non binary #multigender #microlabels #<3

[thatonegaybrit]

; I didn't even notice but yayyy !! 25 reblogs tysm everyone :]

#25 reblogs #tumblr milestone #tysmmm #<3