#your gay grandma

[your-gay-grandma]

it is my hope and dream that everyone on tumblr can go outside and visit a gay bar or go to a queer event and see that our community is very beautiful and very diverse and that half the internet discourse isn’t real

#lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtqai #gay #lesbian #queer #sapphic #wlw #transgender #your gay grandma #is this controversial? happy to explain if need be

[corpsentry]

a love like burning

#my art #my stuff #art #comics #comic #original art #WOAH i have nothing to tag for this since it's just mine!!!! so cool #revolutionary concept even #already went ham in the instagram caption (@ corpsentry same username) so i dont rlly wanna ham again #i would prefer to Tofu Based Substitute in the words of the ideological west #tofu is really just its own thing i dont know why theyre obsessed with making it a Healthy Vegan Food #your Mom is vegan shut the fuck up karen #anyway . we will do a shortened version of it #i am from a place and community and society wherein being vaguely unintentionally homophobic Is the norm #i am also Gay #what this means is if i cut off everyone who was even a little in disagreement with my identity i would have like 1 person left in my life #and that kinda fuckin sucks. but i also love them. my grandma is cool af #And So. we Carry These Contradictions In Us And We Keep Peeing or whatever #ill leave you folks now adoo adeu adobe acrobat etc #its summer im drawing again! thats right baby #bye #updating this to say if you’re not from southeast asia and you call this hypocritical in any way ill cleave your ass in half with my tongue

[conceiteddemon]

Ylfa recognizing that The Wolf is an authority figure -> understanding that The Wolf saved her life and gave her the strength to survive a cruel cyclical existence -> realizing that there can’t be beginnings without endings and death is a part of life -> saving The Wolf from being boiled alive over and over again

Ylfa @ the big bad wolf

#neverafter spoilers #neverafter #ylfa: sometimes a family is you #your Mother who is an old gay man with a magic book #a kickass Princess older sister who tells you love isn’t real #a giant frog man who is your cool uncle that eats spiders with you #a wooden puppet you are in a love triangle with with a cricket #a cat who enjoys murder and working at the factory #and your giant wolf father who ate your grandma but then you ate him so no hard feelings #dimension 20 #dimension 20 spoilers #d20

[princessnijireiki]

like no offense & not to aim this specifically bc, yk... when you're Black you do get used to this happening a lot... but when the friend / the fam / the moot has a Non Black Moment™ the vibe is LITERALLY always "smh it be ya own peoples 😒😔" mixed with that Community scene

#it's always the antiblack racism being excused or it's ''well I don't like the way you said it 😤''/''I am uncomfortable'' etc etc #GOOFBALL ACTIVITY #ask yourselves if you'd be cool if it was thatcher or gw bush or netanyahu getting the hamilton/evita treatment. or if the klan got an ofmd. #how you're gonna feel about fan response to killers of the flower moon or when your atrocities get lined up next! #if it would still be cutesy to you if it was people who made your grandma homeless! killed your little cousins! #used the money to ensure your home was never rebuilt after a natural disaster & enabled it being bought up by land developers #y'all need to grow up. if you get off to slave traders bc taika showed tummy in a leather gay vest that's between you & god #but you don't get to pretend to be morally righteous when the descendants of those slaves speak up.

[lesbiogay]

"this identity came to be because of the Internet so it's Bad" oh I'm sorry the internet allows LGBTQ+ people to share and name their experiences with other queers. It's almost like coming up with a name for asexual or something was really fucking hard when you couldn't talk to other queers who shared your experiences.

But like fr grow up

#ive seen this discourse time and time again #do u think ppl said this about every identity that came up in the 20th century or smth #like There wasnt a name for this in My day so youre faking it. ok grandma go back to bed #biogay #mspec gay #aroace bi #aroace gay #bi gay #bi gay man #oriented aroace #mspec lesbian

[degenezijde]

love how my mum always springs major family obligations on me the last moment

#me: time to have a day of relaxation after a day of disney :) #mum: hey you're visiting your grandma for her 90th bday today right? #you know the grandma that gets confused and upset at your gay marriage and your child? #koni's family

[here-there-were-dragons]

every time i think the "staff can do no wrong and any form of complaining or expressing literally anything other than "yaaay love it <3" with no further comments is bashing and literally evil we should never say anything that could even potentially be interpreted as mildly critical ever because ~some artist who worked hard on this is probably reading the forums and might feel bad if we ever express anything but praise~ also we must be constantly positive at all times unless we're passive-aggressively shaming someone for having an extremely polite and apologetically worded criticism and if you ask the staff for literally anything you had better be prepared to preface it with 3 paragraphs of apologizing for breathing air" attitude is bad on tumblr, i take one look at the forums, and holy fucking hell is it SO much worse on site

#i go for years at a time without ever bothering to look at fr forums #and then every time i do i remember why i stopped #it feels like a goddamned cult on there and every time i dip my toes i come out feeling slimy and sick #as if i just spent an hour being aggressively gaslit by my extremely manipulative grandmother #what the fuck is wrong with everyone #i'm glad i decided to keep this creepy fucking fandom at arm's length and mostly just lurk years ago #that place is not a healthy environment for anyone to be in #flight rising #legitimately the single worst fandom i've ever had the misfortune of being adjacent to #and in such a creepy and insidious way too #they'll call you an entitled whiny baby to your face and then convince you it's your fault and you're a horrible person for feeling offende #it feels like being neck deep in the absolute worst kind of preformative sj spaces #you know the ones where everyone interacts primarily via callout posts and there's discourse over if crossdressing is cultural appropriatio #that kind of toxic sj space type energy #but somehow combined with like this weird feeling of being in a mormon church in a deep south town #where all the “nice grandmas” will try to put poison in your food if they find out you're gay or voted blue even one time #and it's somehow gotten SO much worse since the last time i looked on there #they've got people literally apologizing for existing what the fuck how is this normal to any of you people #this is so far beyond toxic positivity it's like. crossbred with passive-aggression and shaming and metastatized into something new entirel #it's terrifying. i hope flight rising never shuts down just so that whatever the fuck this is can stay semi-contained. #pro tip: the more a fandom is universally convinced it's Wonderful and Welcoming the faster you should run the other way #actually good fandoms don't have to constantly reassure themselves and everyone that they're great and perfect and toxicity-free #nor do they react with immediate borderline violence to the slightest suggestion there might be anything wrong with the fandom culture #anything wrong other than “people like you who think there's something wrong with our perfect community” anyway #on that note also any fandom that insistently calls itself a “community” just. yeah. no. #get out while you still can. #fandoms work on corporate logic if they're trying to convince you they're your family or friend that's not just a red flag #that's a whole damn red fabric store

[kazumahashimoto]

honestly i think the worst part about starting to gray is that it means my mom was right

#she's been telling me i have my grandma's hair since i cut all mine off in middle school #she's like (to make herself feel better about cutting her daughter's hair) you have your grandma's hair you know she started graying at 20 #like UGH. FUCK OFF. SHE WAS CORRECT. FUCK MY GAY LIFE. #it's ok though. it's ok though. it's cool. O_O.

[your-gay-grandma]

please do something kind for yourself today. treat yourself as your oldest and dearest friend. speak gently to yourself, treat yourself to your favourite meal or activity. in a world that demands so much of you, at the very least you owe it to yourself to be kind.

#your gay grandma #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtqai #queer #positivity #self care #mental health #kindness

[vulpinesaint]

my mom has told me that she actively chose to leave our church (and i think doesn't really associate herself with catholicism at large anymore? def not the like. People Who Suck y'know) because my little sibling and i came out as queer and she saw a lot of behavior from religious people that she didn't agree with. and that she's disappointed in her friend/my childhood friend's mom for not leaving as well when my friend is also queer. which is awesome but i also think very often about the fact that my grandmother (her mother) is gay and left the catholic church before i was born because of their stance on gay people. like i'm glad you're standing up for what's right now but your own mother being mistreated by the church wasn't enough for you? lol girl what's going on up there

#it's absolutely because of my grandma that she was so clear that she would support us if we came out and stuff too 😭 #idk since i was aware that my grandma was a lesbian i also knew that she left for episcopalianism Because she was gay #like my mom told me that. but she just. idk. decided to stay catholic for funzies? 😭 #like i get it. you feel a connection to it. grandma was a nun for a while. the family is In It #but your Own Mother? babe... #anyway shout out to my grandma she told me that she came out to some church friends of hers the other day and it went well :) #wish you would talk about being in relationships with women more often gramma you have so many gay grandkids now #well. like three. but out of five that's a pretty significant number #note to self ask my grandma about her relationships with women next time she comes to visit #valentine notes

[pandoratheprocrasticreator]

cosmo and wanda i wish everyone who interprets the plot of steven universe in bad faith as “being friends with space nazis” goes to hell no matter what

#shut up pandora #su #steven universe #while i would have made the main characters be more uncomfortable with the diamonds genocide tendencies #(which they probably would have done if they didnt get canceled by cn for being gay) #steven universes message has been and always will be about family #the diamonds are your homophobic grandma who goes on about how she just wants the best for you aka to not date girls #she hates everything you are but she loves what you represent #and while its perfectly valid to cut someone like that off like steven does in the movie and future #irl relationships are always more nuanced than hurr durr grandma is evil lets throw her in a wood chipper #steven universes message is encapsulated in the last song of the original show #where people who hate you for your identity are not owed your compassion #nor do you need them to love and respect you #but everyone has the chance to change their mind #and youll be open to giving them a second chance #its an optimistic take on bigotry that not everyone agrees on and its okay #but you dont get to accuse this whole ass jewish person of sympathizing with nazis just because you dont agree with their life philosophy #also uh if you look at the diamonds as actual authorities it also tracks bc in case you havent noticed #every politician hates at least some maginalized identities #and if you refuse to kiss up to them they literally will not put in any effort into helping you make the world a better place #and yes sometimes you do need governments to help you #basically steven universes philosophy is be gay do crimes #cut off bigots but keep an open mind if they change for the better even if you dont forgive them #work with politicians even bigoted ones for widescale positive change bc sometimes thats the only realistic way to do so #and then cut them off and spend time with your gay found family and sing about your feelings

[mmmmuffins]

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#sometimes i cannot stand some relatives #for context my parents immigrated to another country before they had me and my sister so the norms and beauty standards are also different #and maybe I should remember that #but i called my older cousin and grandma today #my cousin is about three years older #but she is always always patronising me and my sister and treating us way younger than we are #anyway the first thing she did when she picked up the call was to make a face at my hair #and then when i said i liked it she brushed it off by saying its okay you are at home! dont need to look nice #i #and my skin. always about my skin #'you cant wear sleevless things if you have amrks bah blha blah why dont u put something on your face' #ughhhhhh this is why i hate video calls and i hate calling relatives #like. i always get so much shit for my hair from my family #understandably my parents and my relatives grew up in another country but #leave me and my gay little haircut alone omg #it isnt even that its layered or ugly their probem is that its too short #dont tempt me i will shave it off next #wtfffffffffff i dont want to look feminine leave me be #you could at least. have a little tact idk #my father i love him so much but he is always dropping his hurtful opinions when i dont ask #and he will end the sentence by saying 'it's just my opinion it's okay if you dont agree' like he didnt just insult my entire physical #appearance 😭😭😭 #i dont fucking want long hair leave me be why wont they ever understand taht #making me feel like im 16 again

[love-has-a-way-ofgrowingbackward]

the thing about getting obsessed with a bible compliant book is if you want to deep dive into the world you actually have to know things in the bible. this is so unfair my ancestors are rolling in their graves.

#percy jackson was SO much easier i love greek myths #but did it have to be the bible neil #centuries of christians trying to convert people and imposing their religion on my idk great great grandma or something #and then years later her great great grandkid is gonna study christian myths because he's fucking obsessed with a gay little man in a book #googling the revelation while a huge copy of bhagvad gita sits right above my pc. do yall ever wonder wtf you're doing with your life. i do. #good omens

[jrueships]

so true vince and also where was the part where Larry and magic have hot gay sex? like where was that?? let's make a lettboxd account. Together. Vincent.

#we would be famous #do you know whats that like vince staples? being famous? vince staples? #no i dont think you Do #not like me #ted #sometimes i get more than ten notes on a post vince #do you ? #get real shithead #sorry #i want to see you pregnant #omg sorry vince my grandma had my phone #shes like lil nas's #your gay best friend lil nass #you know how shit go

[montywithchildhoodtrauma]

Just watched Nimona

I haven't watched it enough to remember anyone's name, (Sans Nimona obviously) I watched it with my Grams and i quote "they're putting it into cartoons now? Why do they need to have two guys kiss in a cartoon! Children are watching this!" My grandma not fifteen minutes later "why couldn't those two dudes have been girls? Thats so much nicer than two guys, they should have made those two girls"

also, apparently being gay is just as bad as incest in my grandmas eyes...

anYWAY. Its a good movie you should watch it if you haven't already, and if you have go watch it again for a good measure. Just to let it really sink in how bad ass this Movie was. Metal as all shit. Have a good day and don't blow up your city.

#nimona #their gay your honor #Shes a fuckin Bad ass. #Incest is bad #Being gay is OK! #I in fact am gay #My grandma told me that she loves me but I should stick with dudes. #Nah I think I Should have a blond girlfriend who cuts off my arm #ITS THE NEW LOVE LANGUAGE #Totally better than two dudes kissing. #if you are two dudes and you do in fact kiss #you are awesome and can you adopt me?

[bruxatta]

guess what? it's trans day of visibility and I LOVE YOU!

#i'm your gay auntie now not sorry for it #one day i will be old enough to be a grandma so i can deliver you cake when you're sad #and be just like that tumblr meme #you are loved