#why comment on people’s bodies

[chelseasdagger]

i’m at work and a guy just body shamed me and sexualized me in the same sentence. i wanna go home

#i’ve been here 1.5 hrs and this is great #context for those wondering #his son had to lose some weight for a wrestling meet and talked about how it’s hard since his son is naturally thin #he then goes ‘i could lose some of that’ and rubs his stomach since he has a bit of a beer belly #i chuckled a bit cause he laughed and then he motions to my chest and goes ‘you could lose some of that too’ #i have a pretty large chest. but that still hurt #and then he follows up with ‘yeah my wife lost like 15 pounds but i think it all came from her boobs’ in a disappointed tone #i just don’t #why comment on people’s bodies #i’m already struggling with stuff and now this at a place i didn’t expect it and so sudden #i just wanna go home

[sonknuxadow]

sorry not to be negative or anything i think a lot of the jokes about maria dying are funny but am i the only one who thinks that its taking it a liiiittle too far to flood the comments of the live action actors posts with stuff about how shes gonna get shot or you cant wait to see her die (and yes this is actually happening im not making up a guy to get mad at)

#i KNOW its in reference to the character not the actor in real life but its still weird? #like even if youre talking about the character youre still directing it at a real person. who is also a child . which just makes it worse #i feel like if i was in her position id be a bit freaked out #especially if i didnt know much about sonic and how important/iconic maria dying is #like the top comment on her isntagram post confirming her role is just ''LMAO SHES IN A BODY BAG '' #and theres a bunch of other jokes under that about her dying. most of the comments section is just jokes about her dying actually #with a few people congratulating her and stuff but mostly jokes about her dying .... its weird #and about waht she was wearing maybe she Was making a joke there #but i feel like its just as likely that she was on set in costume at the time #and isnt allowed to show what maria looks like yet and thats why she had her face and body covered #theres not really anything wrong with these jokes on their own but why are hundreds if not thousands of people #insistent on making sure the actor herself knows how much you wanna see her die . its so weird

[blueskittlesart]

i’m so used to how you draw zelda that whenever i see someone else draw her it’s literally like. skinny person jumpscare.

literally being a fat zelda truther is so hard bc why do people insist on drawing the girl like she's never had a meal in her life. put some meat on her bones please god she is starving

#yeah botw zelda fanart is always like. woe. skinny girl be upon ye #and people on instagram get SOOOO pissed about the way i draw her its so funny. the comments are always so formulaic #like its always 'uhmmm im skinny and ur taking away MY representation my body type is beautiful too!!' #or 'um i just dont think you should be promoting an unhealthy body type' SHUT THE FUCK UP. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD #OR if its a man theyll be like 'um you made her look fat :/' like its an insult. like yeah babe that was on purpose. lmfao #and its not like i dont notice that people ONLY EVER get pissed about how i stylize ZELDA'S body. because i change link's body type too. #but i make HIM noticably SKINNIER. like gee i wonder why we have a problem with one of these but not the other one guys. lmao #anyway. im glad tumblr has so many fat zelda appreciators because things are fucking bleak on instagram lmao #and i do also occasionally get jumpscared by skinny zelda. like i KNOW she looks like that but also She Would Not Fucking Look Like That #asks

[ingravinoveritas]

spookyangels replied to your post "Saw this comment on Twitter tonight and I am…”

thank you for saying this I can't stand these fuckin assholes who are perfectly happy body shaming a man but oh nooo can't body shame a woman fuckin double standard bs!

I am honestly floored and flummoxed and appalled by the comments I have seen from fans yesterday and today, regarding Michael's appearance on that red carpet. In one of my previous posts, I mentioned that the suit he had on was not tailored properly, which I think is the root of the issue. But I have seen people calling AL "Barbie" and Michael "Ken," and while yes, I understand that there is a meme involved, said comments have been followed up with things like "Why is Michael just...there??" and "What has happened to your hair??" and other comments specifically (and often negatively) commenting on Michael's appearance. Meanwhile these same fans are calling Anna a "queen" and saying she looks "so amazing" and so on, and I'm legitimately at a loss as to why Michael's appearance has to be made fun of and put down in order to praise AL's appearance. For that matter, could you imagine what would possibly happen if someone said, "Anna, what has happened to your hair? We can see your roots!" or "She looks too skinny"? People would be flipping out. Not one person would take it as a joke, and the commenter(s) would be piled on in an instant. Yet somehow, for some reason, it's completely fine to do this to Michael because he is a man.

I truly wonder what it is people hope to accomplish by leaving these comments--some of them on Anna's own Instagram post, no less. Do they think she wants to hear/read them slagging off her boyfriend's looks? Or given her own history of making snarky comments about Michael's appearance (and again, if he did that to her, he would be pilloried), maybe she doesn't mind at all. In which case, I'm not sure which one is worse/better.

The double standard extends to what we saw just a few days prior to this, with Georgia's controversial Instagram caption about Birdie being a drunken accident. Everyone was commenting about how "hilarious" it was, but again, imagine if this was coming from a man. If Michael said this about Lyra, or Mabli, it would have taken on an entirely different tone and not at all gone over well...yet somehow it's absolutely fine because Georgia is a woman.

I just hope to hell Michael does not see the comment telling him to lose weight, even though that person had the unmitigated gall to leave that in response to one of his comments, with him tagged. I hope these "fans" consider that if a relationship needs to involve one or both parties putting each other down to be "interesting," then it's not an interesting relationship at all. And I hope they realize that it is not actually cute or funny to make fun of a man's appearance or weight, even if the person doing is his significant other.

#spookyangels #reply post #michael sheen #welsh seduction machine #fandom woes #i can't even with this nonsense #the body shaming from 'fans' on social media tonight has just been so gross #i swear to God people have no sense of nuance anymore #and suddenly it makes sense why they encourage GT and AL with their comments #because they think it's normal #i just hope Michael knows that he is lovely #and deserves good things #and i would like to tell him that while kissing him for hours #but I'm glad he has David for that #anna lundberg #discourse

[jiraidanshi]

i need people who have never been anorexic or just straight up dont remember what its like for whatever reason to shut up about it forever because literally it changes the way your fucking brain works . when its really bad its literally the only thing you think about its wholly obsession literally the only thing you think about is your weight / measurements / how you look and how many calories your eating or burning and you literally cannot help but humblebrag about how your killing yourself and everyone is competition . and people act like youre just some bigot who hates fat people if you show symptoms or talk about it ever even if you were also a direct victim of fatphobia . i am not joking when i say they need to add looking at th*nspo or running an ed blog to the fucking dsm there is a reason its so widespread IT IS A SYMPTOM . and everyone acts like its just Disorder That Makes You Fatphobic and that its mental illness lite or mental illness only white cis women have when thats not even true and it is the mental illness with the highest mortality rate

#file type: .txt #chara♥ #i literally went from overweight to SEVERAL bmi points under underweight in two years and my resting heart rate was 40 bpm #it got to the point my heart was so weak i was physically incapable or excercising or even running #you cannot do something like that to yourself ' just because you hate fat people ' there is something wrong going on in your brain #i still have pictures of my body from that time and even though im ed brained rn its like so fucking scary looking at some of them #and the thing is even though i havent been anywhere close to that bad again in nearly 10 years theres still that little voice in my head #thats like ' you need to go back to that ' #and i am underweight rn and i still get that same high whenever someone comments on it even though i know its bad to think llike that #this is why its also so bad to be telling anorexics they need help / your worried about them you are literally adding fuel to the fire #trust me they know they need help the thing is it makes you not want it

[lewishamil10n]

[tw weight mention]

mentioned im going swimming after work to a colleague n she immediately began giving me unsolicited weight loss tips like bestie... i very much Did Not Fucking Ask

#why do people do this. why do people do this. WHY DO PEOPLE DO THIS. #remy.txt #honestly if i was in a worse place mentally it would be triggering as fuck like... what makes anyone think this is ok to do !! #u are not entitled to give unsolicited advice or comment regarding anyone's body !! ever !!!!!!

[that-jack-kline-bestie]

so fucking upset. i looked up what's considered concerning weight loss and got a statistic. i looked up the same question but specified teens and i got a bunch of articles about how to lose weight. what the fuck

#tw weight loss #? idk if that tags necessary but better safe than sorry #past this point there is discussion of ARFID and stuff #LMFAO also ive had a medium to mild case of ARFID my entire life and no one noticed past concern for my pickiness #i say medium to mild because ive gotten better recently #i even ate half a bowl of the noodles i dont like the other day. AND they had been touched by shrimp & cabbage juice & soft peanuts #i mean i did drown them in soy sauce first and got nauseous thinking about it the rest of the day. but progress #i mean. im the type of person to skip a meal or barely eat because i dont like the food available or its too loud where i am #my adhd impacts it too like sometimes ill forget to eat or wont be able to make anything that day #but like goddamn. a growing child should be gaining weight. 'we should keep an eye on that' every single time and then no action #you know maybe thats part of why my body hurts sometimes and feels weird and shaky other times #its hard to tell based on how bony i am or whatever because i also naturally am a string bean and im not. like. starving myself #i get the same comments about how i should eat more and how im so skinny when im healthy and when im not #or i used to. people are generally less intrusive now that im older #gosh i need to flex my metaphorical brain muscles more i put way too much thought into the wording of this

[prettyboyscollection]

earlier today i saw a post talking about how young girls suddenly behaving more boyishly is a sign of child sexual abuse and i want to vomit every time i think about it

(draft from my main, disclaimer for anyone who sees this: this blog is primarily a porn blog and stupid debating will be ignored or laughed at, you can try it but i dont care)

#rape // #csa // #transphobia // #transandrophobia #ask to tag #it was a repost of a tiktok video with comments #full of people saying that after their own abuse they became dysphoric and didn’t like their bodies anymore and wanted to be boys #and the conclusion was not ‘oh wow there should be more accessible therapy for CSA victims like this’ #but instead ‘trans identities are products of trauma and therefore should not be believed’ #how infantilizing and disgusting can you be #z.txt #this isn’t respectful to anyone. gnc cis people or CSA victims or trans people. #stop pathologizing trans identities #also like if you genuinely think trans people and esp transmascs are mentally ill trauma victims who hate their bodies #why do you talk about trans bodies the way you do? #calling the bodies of people who have been on T disgusting and gross. calling post-top surgery chests mutiliated. referring to gender #affirming surgeries as butchering bodies. acting like T makes you evil and gross. #how does this help the supposed trauma victims with body dysphoria? because to me it sounds like you’re just making it worse. #vent post

[touchlikethesun]

i think it's worth interrogating why, for some, "thinness" is associated with gender affirmation and niceness. i think it's worth interrogating why, for some, being bigger is associated with agression and ugliness. i think, if your first impulse to someone suggesting a character be depicted in a larger body is, "fuck you ewww how dare you," that maybe just maybe, you might have a few biases that you need to unpack. this is not saying that artists can't draw what they like, this isn't saying people can't headcanon what they like, but i wish people would think a bit deeper about why they view thinness as so desirable, and fatness as such an affront.

#i tried to be calm in the post but imma be a bitch in the tags #your skinny femme sirius is not fucking oppressed #and the way people in this fandom talk about thinness is genuinely triggering for me and for a lot of people #one thinness is not associated with a fucking gender #people of all sizes exist across the gender spectrum #what message do you thinks it sends if being skinny is integral to your conception of gender??? genuinely what do you think? #what message do you thinks it sends when fat characters are demonised ridiculed or flat out ignored??? #clearly you guys read harry potter growing up because you talk just like JKR #now i'm a bit older and i've done so much fucking work on my body image on making peace with myself on breaking out of ED and diet culture #but if i was 16 and still deep in my ED i would absorb this message like a fucking sponge #and i would probably be right there with you being revolted by fatness #don't take this as an attack take it as a chance to reflect on why you think the things you do and on the effects your words have on others #for me personally i really find super skinny super femme sirius triggering because of my history with EDs and my own gender issues #but for the most part i've made my peace with the fact that this is MY issue and so i try not to comment on it #everyone has their own experiences and i think it's good to be mindful of that #and learn when the best policy is to just disengage #i didn't comment on the post that sparked this initially because that's what i was trying to do #but i kept seeing it and i kept seeing some really awful things being said about fatness and masculinity and i just don't think that's righ #marauders #sirius black #ed mention #fatphobia #fandom culture

[corvidcall]

sometimes you see a bad tweet and it makes you upset all day but you cant interact with it in any way because then twitter will just be encouraged to show you more bad tweets. but it did ruin my whole fucking day

#anime life #the tweet was something like #'MAYBE when trans women talk about how bad testosterone is its because of their own trauma #and its not about trans men because literally nobody was talking about you guys oh my god' #like... ok...? #but trans men can still HEAR you tho.... #i don't think its fair to act like trans men are self obsessed professional victims or whatever just because you said something shitty #like yes it's from your trauma and not about trans men but. yknow. #if i post about how ugly my fat body is #just because its coming from a place of trauma and societal abuse doesnt mean my comments don't hurt the other fat people who hear it #anyway i think part of why it's stuck with me all day is because it made me feel so sad #sometimes it feels like no one cares about me but me yknow? #like no one cares about trans mascs but other trans mascs #and no one cares about fat people but other fat people #and no one cares about disabled people but other disabled people #i KNOW that isn't true!!! #factually that is false #but sometimes it really feels like people only care about me in as much as they care about telling me i better not start thinking i matter #as much as they do (people whose lives and problems and societal marginalizations ACTUALLY matter) #and then if you try to talk about your problems to explain how theyre real you just get made fun of #oh well. time to get under my weighted blanket and get real small #and try not to get entirely black pilled by the world lol

[616nightcrawler]

saw an artist draw """"out of shape"""" gale and it was the thinnest man ive ever seen. the only lengths they went to was not drawing carved abs onto him but that was just a regular fit guy who drinks enough water. kind of fucked how warped people's perceptions of fat bodies are honestly!

#if you saw the fat guys i wanna fuck you'd hurl etc etc #the life and times of brows #i get this a lot like. when i draw women and i don't give them exaggerated curves (you know how women look irl) #i always get comments like why is she fat? why does she look like a man? #(which you know. stupid comments anyways but.) #when its just like a regular woman who doesn't have a fucked up anime body #like people online just. forget what people look like it's kind of fucked

[aparticularbandit]

i know we talk about the lengths wanda went through to bring billy and tommy back and debate whether or not they were real (they were) and the insanity that may/may not have caused in her.

but.

maybe we should also talk about the vision and how vision literally created two children for himself (viv and vin! debatable whether they were twins; they're supposed to be the same age, so i'd say they are), how when his son died he 1) intended to kill his son's murderer (for JUSTICE) and that was meant to prompt 2) vision killing everyone in the world (re: snapping and fighting the avengers over their part in the death of his son), how when his wife died (after killing their son's murderer so that vision wouldn't snap and could keep being a hero; it's complicated) he literally started rebuilding her, how when his daughter died he literally made another version of her because he could not handle his grief--

like look.

it's literally not just a wanda thing.

they're both like that.

#musings #marvel #wanda maximoff #scarlet witch #marvel vision #vision marvel #i mean he has done none of these things in the mcu #/yet/ #but those are ALL comics canon #(which is why i'm bringing up billy and tommy and not the hex or wanda's bringing back vision there) #(also obviously billy and tommy in the comics WERE real #magneto said it best (twice i think in two different places to two different people - but i'm specifically focusing on his comment in #children's crusade) #wanda can make bodies! #WANDA CAN'T MAKE SOULS #but anyway) #they're just both like that y'all #(i mean you can also point to vision in what if's zombies episode but like #comics vision)

[liquidstar]

i mean this in the best way possible: you gave me such gender envy in that second pic finn

I wanna say thank you but it's a little hard to hear, because I don't know in what way you mean that? Like I don't wanna come off as "gender" in a way that reads as someone else's ideal example of a girl for example- I know Girl is how I'll come off to most by default though 😔 so bc it's a vague statement, it's like. Idk what you mean !!!! though I know you mean it nicely, and I think it's super sweet that you went out of your way to compliment me in my inbox so i appreciate that BUT also. please dont say that to me 😭 I'm sorry anon thank you for the kindness still though it's very nice and it does make me happy in a different way still so I hope no hard feelings<3

#I also got nice comments that said stuff like pretty and stunning and stuff and its a little awkward because like #they're being so nice and mean nothing but well but it's hard to reply to say like. thank you but also like #that physically hurts my chest to hear please dont 😭 #i know i look like a girl and that will generally be peoples default compliment for someone they read as Girl so its not like I'm mad dw #but that's also exactly why i dont wanna hear it bc it's a reminder of that :( #i wish i had a different face and body too but there's not much i can do here. so that will mean awkwardly correcting ppl sometimes #and that's that. so. i hope there aren't hard feelings i feel really bad replying to compliments this way #because it's a sweet nice sentiment that i appreciate on its face a lot #so like definitely thank you a lot on that end even if there has to be a disclaimer 😭 sorry again anon

[siriuslygay1981]

"You look like you lost weight! You look great!"

😭 I just put a tighter shirt on dawg

#WHY DO PEOPLE FEEL THE NEED TO ALWAYS COMMENT ON MY WEIGHT #OR APPEARANCE IN GENERAL #like shut up idc #oMg KeEp DoInG wHaT uR dOiNg To LoSe WeIgHt #i forgot to eat all day bro #i have unhealthy coping mechanisms bro #LIKE U DONT KNOW IF THE WEIGHT IM AT IS GOOD FOR ME ALL ANYONE WANTS ME TO DO IS LOSE WEIGHT #BITCH I LIKE MY BODY MOST DAYS #YES I PLAN ON LOSING WEIGHT BUT YOU MAKE IT SOUND BAD THAT I HAVE MEAT ON MY BONES #IVE SEEN THE WAY YOU EAT AND ITS WORSE THAN ME #BLAH BLAH BLAH I LOVE ME SOME CHUB #iDC IF U THINK ID BE PRETTIER WITH LESS WEIGHT #ILL STAY BIG CUZ I WANT TO BE #IM HEALTHY IM THRIVING UR JUST ADDING TO PEOPLE NEGATIVE SELFIMAGE #LETS TALK ABT HOW U EAT ONE DAINTY MEAL AND A FRUIT SLICE #like...dont comment on other ppls body UNLESS YOU KNOW THEYRE OK WITH IT #like my sister and i if we r actively tryna lose some weight or gain muscle we will comment on it #like oh have u been working out? or omg did you lose weight? #bc ik shes ok with us talking abt it that way and vice versa

[tchaikovskaya]

Also I just feel like celebrities (esp ones of ariana grande’s caliber of stardom) should not be reading comments or even posting things themselves at all. Like I know I know I know people in entertainment at any level are always people pleasers who seek out positive feedback and the famous ones want to interact with their fans but at a certain point it’s just like. How on earth is that productive and helpful to you? You have attained a “that’s an assistants job to run my whole acct” level of fame and fortune quit combing thru the quote retweets!!! I’m just…!??!?

#also like I get that having ur body commented on negatively is hurtful no matter what #but if she stayed off social media would she even know that chatter was happening at all? #I mean tabloids yeah but again. assistant’s job. pr team’s job. #unless normies are like saying it to your face how would u know #like why would u feel the need to Address The Issue just let people say what they’re gonna say #like I have a small following on tumblr and I have anon turned off and DMs restricted. ur one of the most famous people on earth….

[darknessontheedgeoftowndyke]

I want to thank everyone who reached out after my last post… I was really scared to say anything I’m ngl I feel like EDs are still so stigmatised (despite being basically promoted to everyone in society lmao) but your words have all meant a lot. I posted because I had a bit of a scare this evening and I’m doing my best to try and psych myself up to get to a healthier weight. I’m not ready to go all in, I hopefully someday will be able to find a professional to talk to. But to be able to get to that someday I need to try and take care of myself more… recovery the first time when I was like 15 was just ‘people are starting to notice so I’m just gonna force myself to get better so I don’t have to talk about it’ and it technically worked on a physical level but clearly the issues I have that led me there in the first place were never resolved, or rather I just assumed it was all good and dealt with and in the past. It means a lot that I could post into the void and get so many kind words from people who don’t even know me, and I cried a little reading the messages I’ve gotten. ❤️

#eating disorder tw #what makes things harder and feeds into my ED a LOT is positive comments #about my body/weight #any comments at all don’t help but the compliments are really hard #and I understand people don’t know what’s going on and they think they’re being ncie #but I think this is why people shouldn’t comment on people’s bodies #because you just never know what’s actually going on with someone