#why cant i choose what i hyperfixate on??

[thatadhdmood]

Hi, could you possibly explain time blindness and executive dysfunction, with how the latter is different from "being lazy"?

Thank you!

I will answer this in my words so it may be imperfect but if you wanted a textbook definition, you would google it. I am also stoned so take it for what it is

Time blindness

adhd experience time differently depending on their focus on the task atm. For example when they are engaged deeply in a task in hyperfocus time may feel like its been very little but it has been hours.

Time blindness is to do with adhd ppls difficulties with doing work before future deadlines because time is only now and not now. When work is due next week and it doesnt feel like it makes sense to do it now when its not now its due later so why do it now when i could engage with hyperfixation instead and get a dopamine hit that i desperately need due to my brain imbalance but rather im expected to do an exhuasting draining activitiy that i will experience no satisfaction or internal reward for doing. As the dread of the future now problems and putting them off is en-ending.

But yeah time is hard for adhd ppl to conceptualise in their head let alone act on in their daily lives effectively with heavy coping mechanism usage

Executive dysfunction

Executive dysfunction is the trait that all adhd people share and universally dislike the most as have been recorded in a poll recently. It rules ours lives without heavy coping mechanisms and support from our community.

Being lazy is when you are able to actually do the task but are choosing not too because you would rather rest or do not care about if the task is completed. When someone is experiencing executive dysfunction and want to complete an important task and cant because of paralysis about the task they feel incredibly anxious, guilty, and terrible about themselves and wish they could and they often feel to scared and ashamed to even ask for help with this task until too late.

Someone lazy would not be anxious or stressing at all or even wasting a moment thinking about doing the task and would be nonchalant towards it while people with executive dysfunction would wish for nothing more than to not have this "laziness"

#thatadhdmood #adhd #actuallyadhd #actually adhd #adhd diagnosis #autism #actually autistic #time blindness #executive dysfunction

[lotus-pear]

this is completely a joke but yk how you were doing knkdz in that wwii au? yea why don’t you just take that, change their names, make them m/f (since i’m sure you can’t write mlm unfortunately due to school being homophobic), and then build from there? choosing characters that you hyperfixate on might motivate you to come up with a more complicated storyline since you don’t have to worry abt characterization. it also gives you a basic idea of how the characters would interact with the world and time frame they’re set in since you have a good understanding of how their personality works from another piece of media.

i’m /hj rn take this with a grain of salt💀

WAIT WHY IS THIS ACTYALLY SUCH A BANGER IDEA YOU ARE CORRECT ABT EVERYTHING IVE LITERALLY HAD THIS MARINATING IN MY MIND FOR MONTHS NOW AND THIS STUPID ASS SHORT STORY ASSIGNMENT CAN FINALLY BRING MY INCOHERENT THOUGHTS INTO FRUITION????….CANT WRITE BUT FOR KNKDZ I WILL PERSEVERE 🫡🫡

make them m/f??? ..wdym they already are🤨 /JJJJ (they act like a bickering old married couple that’s what i meant LMAO) anyway maybe we’ll just go with this as a basis to start at least i won’t be at zero in terms of thoughts

#no better way to start a college assignment that is a major grade that makes up 60% of your avg- #-by using the blorbos from your show as the main characters in your story #how have we come to this #lotus’s asks

[pespillo]

i am so sick and tired of william fans like regardless of how i feel about fnaf as a whole i HATE them. they will throw fits whenever youre like hey its weird that youre so attracted to a man that devotes his life to killing children in gruesome ways and theyre like UGH stop shaming my for what characters i like youre gatekeeping f/os!! (< a literal thing one of my exes said) and its just. idk youre weird for it! at the very least have some fucking self awareness. only somewhat related but people who say "you cant choose your f/os" are so weird and ive had people pull that argument for william too. you very much can.

sorry im a bit baffled at the idea that someone would pull that sort of excuse like sfjsdljfdslkjfds????????????????? WE TALKING ABT A FRANCHISE ... YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR f/os OR WHATEVER one thing would be fucking, "you cant rlly choose your hyperfixations" in which case yeah you Cant but you control how you interact with something in public either way but like this "u cant choose who u love"shit ,,, hes bones hes not a real person hes a shitty lil character

like i think it would be all fine if you just into villain content because , whatever you just like villain content but it is a constant human flaw to self justify really weird behavior because the character Is a Bad Person and instead of being like "hes a bad person but hes just sort of a muse for content" its like "lets build up convoluted reasons for why hes actually justified and pitiful" like step back... step back...

#asks #also in general i hold a disdain for people who literally dont see the motivation of child murder as Not Exploitative like .... What? #like why you all hold such weird contempt for the ghost kids #fnaf ment

[lennjamin-o7]

oh god i was hyperfixating on your fic and then i thought "huh, what if there was an au of this au?" and now i cant stop thinking about Prince!TBTF!Techno send help

Dude, I'd read that so much that sounds so fun! Overworked Techno, HECK YES. Looovvvveeee it 💚💚💚💚

I mean, Dante needs someone to inherit the throne after him, so why not choose a kid thst he can control completely? Seems on brand. But I am honored that you like the fic enough to make a whole OTHER fic inspired by it.

It would be so cool. I would love to read that.

#lenn writes #ask and ye shall receive #anonymous #to be truly free

[altruistic-meme]

I’ve been stalking your page ever since finishing the latest chapter of (why is there) joy in this poison and FINALLY SOMEONE WHO IS OBSESSED WITH YR AND AFTG.

It’s funny seeing crossovers between fandoms and I like to keep my blog quiet between my many indulgences and hyperfixations but omg!!! I’ve loved both of these series for so long and to see some one as joyed about them as me is so neat!

in all honesty I came here to gush about your writing, how I really enjoy what you made and continue to make for the aftg universe! the way you write Andrew specifically is so unique and defiently made me re-read his lines and certain chapters because they’re just that GOOD! And to see a relationship between Kevin and Neil that’s so near and dear- is so refreshing- I love how much love they have for each other! And DONT GET ME STARTED ON THE ANDREIL MOMENTS!! Ugh the trust those two already have and continue to show each other in such a short amount of time (truly a feat for sir “walls” Andrew Minyard) has me on the edge of my seat for every and all chapters! And who isn’t a slut for sassy Neil really. That kid could trash talk anyone into the ground and I’d be applauding him the entire time!

Thank you truly for the lovely fic weather you choose to continue it or not, I have been blessed either way and definitely will check out your other fics! I’ve got my eye on I’ve Got You, Brother its seem like such a fantastic concept and you’ve got to love some older brother bonding!

Anyway- sorry for my rambling, just thought I’d come and sing your praises and if you see me lurking in your mentions here and comments on Ao3 from now on, don’t mind me!

hi omg ;;; i hope you know this got neither lost nor ignored, ive just been thinking about it nonstop for the last 2 weeks and have wanted to keep it close and easy to reread so i could cry over it

bc um basically AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA ya know?

this is so so so incredibly sweet of you!!!!!! like i said ive reread this so many times in the last 2 weeks bc it's just. i cant form words even now, rereading it to reply.

YES aftg and yr are both SO good and im always glad to find more people who like them both!! (and there are a few of us out there! i am certainly not innocent of convincing more than one of my yr friends to read aftg and i will never apologize 😌) but they are both such big big parts of me now <3

thank you so so much for reading (wit)jitp!!! ;;;;; that fic means so so much to me and i swear to you i have no plans of abandoning it, ive just been kind of hitting walls in writing (though slowly ive been finding cracks, and hopefully i can convince the walls to crumble) but i have too many plans to give up now >:] there's still so much in store. you barely even know Nathaniel's plans 😩

SOBBING AGAIN OVER THE PARAGRAPH HERE BTW i am truly awestruck bc i was so so nervous about writing Andrew bc he's such a hard character for me to understand, and to hear your thoughts on him was so amazing for my self-esteem!! (it is also the easiest way to make me scream and cry, to compliment my characterization, since im almost always worried about it but i digress skdhg)

Kevin and Nathaniel's relationship is also something that i could scream for hours about but let me say it has been AMAZING seeing how many people love their love for each other and i will forever be ecstatic to hear it ;;;; and Andrew and Nathaniel!!! two very traumatized boys finding trust in each other bc they both have the same values and can find common ground (and comfort!) with each other where no one else will. ;;;;

also we stan a sassy Neil, you are SO RIGHT literally who wouldn't be a slut for sassy Neil. he deserves more sass, imho.

also omg thank you for giving my other fics a look, too ;;; I've Got You, Brother is definitely a good choice for some brotherly bonding, that's the main focus of the story after all :] (though im debating some ideas which won't feature Wille at all, we'll see how it goes) i definitely need to work on that one as well >>

you never need to apologize for rambling btw!! i love rambles :D (as you can probably tell bc i also rambled... a lot, whoops) but always feel free to send me asks or messages with any and all of your thoughts <3

thank you so so so so so much for this, and for reading my stories, and for being an amazing person!!

#i would also like to note that i first got this when i was at work so thanks for making me cry while working skdhfsh #this ask just rotating in my head half my shift #i love interaction btw im not kidding!! do send me stuff if you want :] #they will likely be answered much faster than this was sdkhfshkdf i am ALSO honestly sorry about taking 2 weeks to respond ;;; #but yeah like i said. quick find and sobbing #<3 #parkerpeanuts #askers #shh ac

[husbandomail]

Honestly XY Megas is one of the all time Pokémon mechanics ever.I loved the fact megas was built of trust and love between the trainer and Pokémon.

I know a lot of people want them back(including me) but I don’t think they ever will unless we get a x and y remake which I would love.

I get you with the open world thing cuz I don’t people many if any open world game so sometimes my unfocused brain gets bored if I don’t have direct orders on what to do.

I don’t know if u played arcues but for me Im struggling to complete it idk why but I cuz cant lol so I hope I don’t for this game.

And yes the teams team skull and big bad guzma will all ways be favs becausw of the goofiness.HOWEVER how this was balanced out was with the Aeather paradise plot making it serious when need be and to show a more looming threats hiding underneath.

Team yell was so lazy I don’t even think they gave it more than a minutes thought.To me it was also like they wanted to replicate the vibe of team skull but failed miserably.So I hope they bring it back with this regional evil team and make them super evil again.

And with the badges thing I’m split to be honest. It does make sense for people to do it at different times seeing as they might live closer to that gym and it’s never stated to have an order(like you said with other trainers and brock)but to make it just makes the build up less important?Like I could go to the last first and takes away suspense.Idk to be fair you could do that in let’s go eevee I think?

(God my writing is everywhere lol)

I have a trainsona as well I just cant hack the children thing.it makes the game better imaginging I’m dealing with all this shit and it fun thinking of me and my Pokémon bonding lol.

I just hope the graphics are good and the world looks good instead of blocky.

Now I’m sorry for rambling lol.

I haven't finished Arceus yet either! I'm ruled by my hyperfixations, so when they switched I wasn't really able to keep playing, but now that I'm Back On Pokemon I'll probably get back to it lmao. a friend sent me a shiny Chimchar bc it was my first pokemon, so I'm really excited to have him lmao,, I've also seen plenty of spoilers by now and omg. Giratina is my favorite legendary, I Must See It Again

I get what you're saying about the gyms too! the final gym leaders always feel like strong obstacles bc you've already come so far, they're the last thing standing in your way,, I've felt that same way about the E4, since they've started letting us challenge them in any order? facing Lucian in Diamond definitely felt a lot more intense bc I HAD to fight my way through others to get to him, and I don't mind it in Unova bc it was the first time we could choose the order, but since then it's just been a lil bland imo. But maybe that's also just bc it's been constant too? I wouldn't mind alternating leagues, or being able to challenge them in any order on rematches.

speaking of evil teams and all that. I know very little will ever hit the personal level of "holy SHIT team rocket's boss is the LAST GYM LEADER," and "MY RIVAL IS THE SON OF TEAM ROCKET'S BOSS????" but. I'd love to have more of a personal relationship with the evil team? maybe a rival who gets sick of losing to you, so they join the villains? or a character like Colress, who's only with them for his own reasons and is still clearly interested in you too. again, I do adore N Harmonia, so I'm partial to his role in everything too lmao. a part of me is hoping that the professors end up involved, bc I think it would be super cool.

I do think SWSH had a lot of potential; Rose did have a point, but the story pacing was a total mess. like,, Galar's air is apparently so toxic that the poison-type Weezing gained a regional form to PURIFY the air, they could've done sooo much with the base ideas they have there.

most of this talking is just the Writer Brain I can't turn off though lmao, I love Pokemon more than basically anything and it's been a constant throughout my entire life; I'm beyond excited for these games and I can't WAIT

AND DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR RAMBLING, THAT'S MY LINE LMAO

#asks #not an imagine #anon

[we-all-implode]

I have some questions 👀

Can u tell us more about the world the story's set in? Is it like nowadays USA?

Is there an objective we have to accomplish?

Will we be able to choose what kind of job we had before?

What kind of abilities have we gained?

Where/with who we grew up with?

How did we meet Nayeli?

Why has Amvrosiy started to stalk us?

Why have u decided to write an if?

Are u writing some prompts right now?

Do u have an estimative to when you're going to post the first update?

Sorry I'm curious 😔👉👈

<3

omg i like these questions. 😭 no offense to the other anons but i like questions like these instead of the meme-y type questions tbh (like yah ill still do em but lol)

it IS the USA. modern as well but everything is offbrand! we’re in an AU New York in a smaller town that has a big forest near it. TBH, i may keep the town unnamed. Might let readers name it.

i would say just exploring is the objective (as of rn, b4 ive started writing lol) i dont want to make anything too complicated. rn it’d be fun to have the mystery be open-ended (to me, anyways)

yeah. idk if itll be mentioned in the text (as of now) but u can hc whatever u want lol.

im thinking either some kind of elemental power or some kind of physical power (like the tele-stuff, or like super strength or speed.)

after your parents disappeared you went to live with your grandma (or at least a lady you called nana 🤭)

that should also be customizable i think. youve been dating ten months as of the start. so it could be a meet-cute or a meet-ugly lol. maybe a tinder hookup idk.

so basically hes trying to gather up all the supernatural ppl in the city (for reasons unknown to me as of now 🤨) tbh i think he wants to be batman so to speak. form a justice league. hes just not good at social skills so he cant just ask. lol.

hyperfixated on the genre. 😀

im….not….writing….but i will soon 😀 every time i have a day off i decide to sleep instead. so monday ill start on the prompts. unless you mean like? making my own ask meme? 🤨

honestly no. ik it’s probably gonna happen either december or january tho. im a massive procrastinator cuz i find planning things out to be more fun than actually doing shit LOL.

#answered ask #dev post #thanks! more questions for me abt me plz

[raysletters]

Buenos dias!!!! Happy nice ask day!!! ❤️

If someone made a movie of you, which actor(s) would you choose in the leading role(s) and what songs would you want on the soundtrack?

JADBDKSHDNAJSBSJJA BUENOS DIAS (ya son casi noches aquí, pero ajá, ignoremos eso)

oof, thats such an interesting question and i have to think a bit about the actor, so im gonna answer the soundtrack question first jsksjsksjskssjkjssjj

i would love to have taylor in my soundtrack but for that i'd have to have experiences that matches her songs and honestly the ones i can think of its like this is me trying and mirrorball maybe(? this also happens with conan gray, bc i absolutely love his songs even though i probably relate to maybe people watching and crush culture sometimes sjsksjsksjsjsjjsjsjsj THOUGH GENERATION WHY IS AN ANTHEM AND WOULD ABSOLUTELY HAVE IT IN THE SOUNDTRACK!!!! also probably lorde, the regrettes, wallows and twenty one pilots, but i couldnt tell you which songs specifically, its more like their entire vibes (and bc ive had an hyperfixation on the last two). vent'anni from må describes me rn SO much. probably some from clairo and maybe most of mxmtoon. mad tsai has so many cool songs but i cant think of one i relate to enough (besides boy bi except not boy but also not entirely a girl, more like weird entity bi 💀). there are some songs ive found through tiktok but that i don't remember enough at the moment even though it was scary how accurate they felt. there would also be so many salsa and vallenato songs even though most of them would be on the background and totally unwillingly i just've been surrounded by it most of my life.

about the actress, maybe im giving myself too much credit but maybe isabella gomez (bc shes colombian and also i love her with my entire being, even though she'd maybe have the accent different bc of different accents inside colombia and stuff, though she's incredibly talented so i would have absolute faith in her doing it perfectly)

#nice ask day #ask game #why do i always forget isabella gonez the loml is colombian???

[youngpettyqueen]

23, 24, 47, 48!

23: "Is writing the beginning, middle, or end of the story easiest? Hardest?"

this usually depends on the fic itself for me personally! sometimes I really want to write a beginning but I have no idea where to go with it, sometimes the bulk of the story is what I really want to put out but I need a beginning and an end, and sometimes I know exactly what I want in an ending but I need to write everything to get there first

I most often struggle with the middle and the end. especially the middle. the end I can get caught up in the wording, and what the last words especially should be, but the middle is usually more of a struggle because its what connects everything and is the bulk of the story. it tends to be the area I have the least amount planned for as well, and im already pretty loose with my story planning, so I definitely run into areas where I just. cant figure out how to make the words flow, or how I want to say something

24: "How do you choose whose POV to write in?"

the first thing I decide for any fic I write is who I want the fic to be about. im a character writer before im a plot writer, if that makes sense. I approach writing fics with the mindset of I want XYZ to happen to X character, or I want to expand on X canon event with Y character, or I want to do a character study of Z

I'll use my WIP "shades of purple and red" as an example, I wanted to write something about Charles gaining a new perspective on Hawkeye. this tied in nicely with a vague idea I'd had about how Hawkeye doesnt have a Purple Heart in canon and why that might be, so I figured I'd explore that through Charles' POV

but yeah overall it's less like. choosing who's POV I want to write in for a situation and more knowing the POV character from the get-go and deciding what situation I want them to encounter. if that makes sense

47: "Is there a trope that you’ve written before but are now sick of?"

cant say there is! I dont really get sick of tropes once I like them. if im neutral on a trope and its everywhere ill probably be annoyed by it, but if I like a trope then I dont see myself ever not liking it

this might be because I dont really consume a ton of fanfiction unless im really hyperfixated on something. I have to have a really intense fixation to seek out fic to get the feeling of consuming more content, so while I do really like fic, its not something I get into when it comes to casual interests, so I guess I dont really give myself the chance to get sick of any particular tropes- unless I already feel neutral towards/dislike said tropes

48: "Who is your favorite character to write for?  Has this changed since you’ve started writing for that fandom?"

Hawkeye without a doubt. I love digging into his brain and working with his inner monologue and narrative voice. he's also just a very relatable character to me, so he's the easiest of the cast for me to write for

BJ is a close second, though. I love to look at his character arc and his emotional state and I love to sink my teeth into him and shake him around

#fic bitching #thanks for the ask! #I like these questions theyre fun

[fairywithgremlintendencies]

i knew you would choose your oc world aakskd 💕📽🎵 (cant remember which music note emoji it was akak)

💕 tell us about one of your favorite characters and why you like them!

my favourite characters change all the time since my brain tends to latch onto a different character every other day or week. at the moment, my favourite character is bem! i like her because her backstory really explores a new portion of species lore and she's a really fun character to draw, plus i get a lot of gender envy from her. i also wanted to incorporate a variety of trans experiences into my characters, since it's not a simple thing, so bem is a trans girl who experiences little to no dysphoria! she doesn't feel the need to transition, and that's gonna be really interesting for her character methinks :))

🎥 do you have any favorite scenes from your hyperfixation?

so many, dude so many. one im working on developing (mostly in my head) at the moment is the scene where a mission is launched to "kidnap" the four children of two of my main antagonist's former assassins who are currently in prison, at least for this scene. the "kidnappers" are the members of the three anti-assassin groups who will be recruiting the kids (there are more than three groups, but only three are relevant in this scene). im playing around with the idea of the anti assassins being fully disguised again, because you can see a whole new side to character expression when a character is fully masked and in disguise! you don't get to see their face but you can still get some really fun moments you wouldn't get when they're in their normal attire. the kids (well. kind of. they're like 17-18ish so more like late teens) are aware of the "kidnapping" and have to act like it was out of the blue and completely unexpected. and this scene is also where alaska (one of the kids) makes her first friend :)

🎶 if your hyperfixation has songs/an ost, what is your favorite song from it?

at this point my ocs and their story/stories are mostly just in my head or in the form of design concepts etc, i mostly just associate music with my characters/with certain realms! i have playlists for some of my characters and for like three of the four realms! as for a favourite, a song i associate with multiple characters is crave by waterparks, so that's definitely up there! atm i associate it with bijou and nikko the most!

#leaf ocs #leaf asks #zeph my beloved <33 #ask game #hiii heres a ramble dfjfnbkd

[forgedraptor]

this is long, negative and ranty so just a headsup

ngl but some people at 404twt, and twitter in general are just so fckn wierd af

i was scrolling through my tl and just some people were p much using what happened as an excuse to badmouth and talk shit about Badboyhalo???

and like?? the fuck???? like i get youre angry and annoyed (tbf as someone who relates to gnf i understand why) but like the fuck are you doing? you arent giving proper critisism (which was resolved btw) youre just using this as an excuse to show your dislike fr Bad

stop doing that shit. or atleast have the decency to private.

Bad and Gnf have been friends fr years, far longer than you have known gnf. like stop shoving your personal opinion and acting like 'George deserves better friends' bullshit ohmyGod

stop getting angry at Gnfs behalf cz fuck, hes a 24 yr old man he can fight his own battles, and it wasnt even a battle, it was a misunderstanding! i get that at times it gets upsetting, bt if you want to vent then go priv on twt or something.

like both Bad and Gnf can simply talk to each other off stream properly, theyre both mature adults that can take care of themsleves, fuck mate, theyre prolly way older than you are so calm the fuck down

this wasnt the first time either. people are acting like they can pick and choose which individuals their ccs can or cannot interact with

like with Fundy, KSI or Schlatt, ive seen so many people badmouth them and i get it, some shit theyve done are p shitty, but you cant force someone, especially ur cc to just cut ties with them. what are you their mother? the fuck? you dont control their life and you are not them so stop acting like you know whats best fr them

some of yall get so over protective of 'your sweet precious cc' that you obsessively get angry over their friends over simple shit that cn be resolved privately on their own

like fuck. they are adults. theyve known and interacted with out a live audience. they know each other better than youll ever do cz, we, as veiwers are simply that. viewers. we will only see the shit they want us to see, we will only ever glimpse a part of their lives or what theyre willing to show us. and that should be okay.

i do t know its just frustrating and annoying

like i get it, ive been there. ive ranted and vented about my anger and people told me off, cz fuck, they were right and i was overreacting. but thats just what it is when you hyperfixate, BUT its not an excuse to keep doing the same mistake over and over

if you want to vent and you know its negative or hurtful for others, then do it in private. or tag it so people who dont want to see it wont see it. or if its annoying you, then stop watching. idk mate just dont be that asshole that shouts their hate just to spur more hate.

#discourse #negative #twitter discourse #twitter #georgenotfound #i ranted im sorry #i just have so much pent up rage fr twitter lol #esp cz it ws so dissapointing to see one of the ppl u reg follow/retwt frm ws baouthing and being toxic to bad lol #it just idk stressful #annnoying #i had to vent sorry #another reason wh #y tumblr is better lol #people r more chill and understanding here

[sl33pys4yu-archived]

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[transsexualhamlet]

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Feel free to ignore honestly this is a giant opinionated and not well informed ramble but yeah here it is for those of u that follow me for some reason, this is probably pretty controversial so yeah feel free to scroll past

also spoilers for anime onlys, we’re almost there though

So I’ve been Thinking about these two recently, and yeah, to be fair I’ve literally never read or watched any other adaption of sherlock, so I’m just speaking as to what I can tell, but yeah. I’m not sure at this point if it’s really a complaint or just an observation, but I do have some slightly confounded observations about how things are different from what I expected with them.

Mostly my Confounded Observation is just... Watson is straight?! I don’t mean in a literal way, he definitely has Bi Wife Energy TM but... you know, he’s comparatively straight.

Of course, I understand why the author might want to make sure watson doesn’t really get in the way of sherlock and liam (which is honestly hilarious but understandable) and for the purposes of the story it does make sense, but it’s... you know, again I haven’t consumed literally any other sherlock content so I wouldn’t know but from what I’ve heard watson’s always a flaming homosexual and well, it’s not like this series lacks for those, but?? 

It’s not just that he’s straight in the sense of his sexuality, it’s that... he’s a straight character in the sense that he’s like, normal? Kind of overly normal? I was kind of expecting more out of him, to be honest, and to see him just be like, a functional human being who seems to be doing totally fine in all ways? That... I don’t know, it’s kind of weird. Especially in contrast with Sherlock, who as everyone can tell is violently not doing just fine.

Since this part of the manga will be covered in the anime soon, I think this is timely, but I feel like this is just made painfully obvious when the shit goes down between him and sherlock.

Speaking on the nature of their relationship here, it’s weird. Because you know, the author is clearly going sherliam endgame (istg if they don’t just make it official i cant take this anymore) and I support that lmao, they’re like my favorite dynamic- but yeah, it’s obviously different from the other adaptions, where, you know, sherlock and john are ambiguously gay people.

Like, it’s honestly comical how in this series that is significantly gayer than every other one that watson is so clearly a Heterosexual Man honestly

But Sherlock still, clearly isn’t, and I think there is something to be said about how he feels about John, though of course in the end he... obviously chooses Liam. (and considering John’s kind of ass character in this version, he was right to do so)

I mean, just look at them.

We’ve got this obviously autistic obviously gay man who is violently codependent with this mild mannered british dude. Sherlock’s feelings for this guy are complex, and they’re clearly very different from the ones he has for Liam, but they’re certainly there. Sherlock clearly has no idea of romance, no idea of the boundaries between platonic and romantic relationships (and neither do I, but,,, yeah) and I think what Sherlock feels for Watson is like a queerplatonic relationship, but like.... not reciprocated?? 

It’s so weird for this to be the case, but it so clearly is? In the part where they explore that, it goes into how, like... Sherlock doesn’t really know how to function without Watson, dude’s holding up his entire mental health without even really doing anything, and Sherlock feels fucking awful when he is no longer Watson’s like, #1 person. The fact is, the same thing is going on with him, though they’ve existed like this for years it’s clearly not going to work anymore- Sherlock is basically having to choose between him and Liam, and you know what he’s gonna do. But it’s still an awful feeling for a bond that strong to break.

The thing about it really is that for Watson the tie was never that strong in the first place. Watson is so... without conflict in his character. And this is something that actually honestly bothers me. He’s so lawful good it’s infuriating. He’s steady, he’s calm, he’s rational and he’s emotionally mature, he can manage himself fine and care for everyone he needs to. He’s doing just fine even though Sherlock is caught up in this ridiculous murder drama, and that’s what makes the relationship so... I don’t know, off in this version.

Sherlock needs Watson, and Watson cares about Sherlock, but not nearly to the same extent, and he’s like. Not really doing it right? For someone who’s been with him for presumably years at this point, Watson doesn’t really feel like he knows Sherlock all that well. And that sucks that that’s the truth. 

In every other story with friendship/romance tropes like this, the characters have conflicts like this, but when one person thinks the other doesn’t care for them that way, they’re wrong. It’s like oh no, I’m a burden, I’m being clingy, he’s got a life to get back to and I don’t, I’m too much, he’s better than me etc... those are things Sherlock’s type of character tell themself, but the catch is that’s not actually the case, they’re just Mentally Ill. Having that just... be true in Sherlock’s case is kind of heartbreaking, as much as it’s clearly for the Sherliam agenda.

The problem is just that Watson here is just so lawful neurotypical that he just doesn’t really get Sherlock. He’s got this strict moral code, and he kind of makes it a problem to Sherlock. He says all the things that Sherlock would expect everyone to say, but it’s not what you’re supposed to say, you know? He’s all like murder is bad stop doing that I won’t be your friend if you shoot people we don’t do that >:(, be civil be nice stop putting yourself in danger Don’t Do Drugs etc etc. You know, of course that’s sensible information, but it’s... not what he needs to fucking hear? That’s like the school counselor going hey guys, just say no :D THAT DOESN’T WORK. And you’d think that Watson would get this by now? All it’s doing is hurting him more. It’s genuinely making me dislike Watson, and that’s not something I want to do.

I think it works for the purposes of this specific narrative, because they don’t want to create problems with Watson being left behind, they want to say that he’ll be fine on his own so that it will all work out fine. And yeah, of course I want that, I don’t want there to have to be conflict of sacrificing John’s emotions for Liam, but I feel like they didn’t have to sacrifice John’s character for him. 

This series could have a Watson who cares deeply about Sherlock and has some weaknesses and conflicting emotions about him without them being romantic. We haven’t seen how Watson dealt with Sherlock’s “death” yet, I don’t think, but... I don’t really like the thought that this Watson would honestly be fine. He’d be sad, he’d be mad, but he’d get over it and get on with his life and is objectively in a better situation without Sherlock. Yeah, I just... don’t like that.

I want to see a Watson who understands Sherlock. Isn’t that what he’s supposed to be? I want to see a Watson who cares for Sherlock so much that he has to make hard decisions, that he has to make the wrong decisions sometimes, that he has internal conflict because of it. I want a Watson who gets that Sherlock is nothing without him, who gets what’s going on with him and Liam, who’s trying to help him and keep him on track and maybe failing. I want a Watson who’s genuinely conflicted about leaving Sherlock for Mary because he knows it will hurt him, who worries about his ability to take care of everybody, who shows his problems from you know, being in a literal war, who wonders how to portray Sherlock in his books. We can have that without losing Sherliam, man. He doesn’t have to be Hideyoshi Nagachika (god, no one needs to go thru that shit), he just has to have at least a bit of emotion, bro. I want to see a Watson who’s struggling with what to do. Like. Even once. 

Instead we have this. This dude who is just... a nice, rather clueless guy who helps out sometimes and who’s just a bit too much of a rule follower to fit into a story like yuumori.

Sorry to just complain on main here I just think he was done a bit dirty here and it’s bothering me, if u have thoughts or info about other portrayals feel free to hmu i have become a bIT hyperfixated

#rowan screams into the void #rowan's hyperfixation essays #moriarty the patriot

[im-the-punk-who]

Hi! I’m new to the fandom and I’m simply curious (not trying to start a feud or anything), why don’t you like Steinberg?

Hello dear anon! And welcome to the fandom! 

Oof. That’s a question. xD 

I’m going to try and stay as uh. neutral as possible. Because I’ve already written the post I know I failed but, the intent in answering this is also not to start a feud or hurt anyone’s feelings. 

Okay, so I got fairly negative in this chilis tonight, so I want to start by saying that even in light of the opinions I’m about to express, Black Sails is one of, if not my number one, favorite TV shows of all time. Certainly in recent memory - I’ve been hyperfixating on this show for 18 months with no sign of stopping, and I have a tremendous amount of respect for everyone who worked on the show - even Steinberg. (The one exclusion is Michael Bay, he can go twist.)

AND I think Stienberg is an incredibly talented writer. Black Sails is one of my favorite shows because it does such a wonderful job of weaving stories, creating characters, and melding things in a way that is both unexpected and makes sense narratively. I have changed as a person because of the show, and they will have to pry James McGraw and Thomas Hamilton from my cold dead knives-attached-to-them hands. None of what I’m going to say is meant to detract from that.

I will also say that a lot of these issues are not particular to Steinberg and are in fact a systemic problem with American TV + Film. And I’m not leaving Robert Levine out of my criticism, it’s just that Steinberg had the biggest hand in the pot(he wrote a full half the episodes) and a lot of what I’ve heard as far as talking about the show comes from Steinberg. So, he gets the brunt. But it isn’t that I think Steinberg was the only problematic element of the show. 

Also, these are all my opinions and are colored by how I interact with my fandoms. I am not only a fandom veteran, but I work and pretty much live in the entertainment industry. I work in indie film and theatre and am surrounded by artists and creators of all walks of life, like, constantly. I know what is possible, and when I see something that can be improved, I want to note it because it is important to me to always be striving forward. Like Miranda says about Thomas, this isn’t out of malice, or out of hate. It’s because I genuinely love this show, and I love entertainment as a whole, and I think in order to get to a better, more inclusive industry we have to have hard conversations and look critically at the media we consume, and it is frustrating to me to time and again see the same faces in the room. 

But if that isn’t your cuppa, that’s fine! Fandom isn’t meant to be stressful and if all you want to do is watch a show about gay pirates that is your tomato and I applaud you. Have at it you funky motherfucker.

OH! One more. At some point I’m going to talk about Silverflint. When I do, it is NOT meant as a ‘you shouldn’t/cant ship this’ or ‘this pairing is bad’ or any negative attack on the people who ship that pairing. My criticisms in this post are exclusively about what it means for Steinberg as a writer and Black Sails’ representation of gay and mlm men. While it’s not my cuppa, this is a sail your own ship blog. 

OKAY! SO! 

My main criticisms of Steinberg & Co boil down to:

The homozygosity of the writers and directors shows a complete lack of desire to include marginalized people in the writing of a show that is about them. Which leads to:

The centering of white men while choosing a historical setting and time period that was in fact dominated by people of color and specifically a black woman, 

The gratuitous inclusion of violence against women, particularly sexual violence, and again, that the female characters are often sidelined for the central male characters. 

SO.

Black Sails is a show centered around queer, female, and black leads, and yet there were only two non white-male directors (one bi-racial man and one white woman) and only 7 female writers - one of whom was Latina. The entire rest of the major creative staff was white men. I’m not going to comment on sexualities but none of the writers or directors are out as queer according to a quick google search. 

Let me reiterate the important bit there. 

In Black Sails, where the last two seasons specifically feature around a real, actually-happened-in-history event that shaped black history in the Caribbean, there was not a single black writer on the entire show. 

This is the main difference between inclusion for inclusion’s sake, and actually centering marginalized voices. Black Sails has a ton of gay, POC, and female rep in front of the camera but practically zero representation behind it, which leads to storylines and implications that Steinberg and his writers, as white men, simply would never realize.

It’s like why Silver and Miranda never realized the true reasons James was waging war on England. They just did not have the life experiences to realize they were missing a piece of the puzzle, and so they filled in their own without even realizing they’d done so. 

Because no one in the room of Black Sails was a part of these marginalized identities, nuances get lost or mistranslated, motivations get muddled through a white man’s gaze(or a straight person’s) and implications that someone within those communities might think is obvious won’t even come up.

And again, because there were no writers or directors of color in the last two seasons (the biracial man directed episodes 2x02 and 2x04 - WHICH MAKES SENSE IMO) the entirety of the historical lore that the show bases itself on in its latter half is filtered through a white man’s lens. And so there is no discussion of how changing something changes the meaning, how leaving someone out or changing their role to be more minor might affect people for whom that is their heritage. How the entire story they’re telling might change with one simple exclusion or addition.

So, how does this relate directly to Steinberg, you ask? Well, simply, because it was his show. 

Steinberg(and Levine) were involved in every major decision about the show, from its conception, to the script, to choosing the writers and directors. They chose how they wanted the show to look, to think, what stories to tell and how they wanted to tell them. Their decisions(and the biases that formed those decisions) are woven into the show.

And look. I don’t for a second believe any of this was willful or malicious. I don’t think that John Steinberg and Robert Levine sat down one day and said ‘you know what would make the gays really angry? If we locked the only two canonically gay men up in a prison camp.’

But the decisions that were made in the show were based in ignorance in a way that shows more than just simple negligence or laziness(especially given the attention to detail in everything else). The things they leave out or change in the Maroon War plotline for instance are not small details easily missed. They are big, giant waving flags. They are things that are irreplaceable to still have the same events and stories and tell them respectfully. 

It shows an insane amount of privilege to, for instance, write a show airing during a time when the Black Lives Matter movement was at the forefront of the American conscience, include black characters and black storylines, and yet not include a single black voice on their creative team. 

In a show that centers a gay man’s love and his journey in attempting to process the horrible things done to him and his lover because of it, we are given just forty minutes of the entire show dedicated to their relationship - and just fifteen of those minutes actually feature the lover! 

(Relatedly, the entirety of the gay romantic rep is two kisses, and a forehead touch. That’s the entirety of your gay intimacy representation. And yet there are in the first two seasons alone - because that’s all I’ve clocked so far - something like twenty seven minutes of scenes involving a naked or half naked woman. Five minutes of that is explicitly wlw sex.

Again, I just want to reiterate this because it’s important in recognizing bias. 

There is fully twice as much female nudity in the first two seasons, as the entirety of the time the two gay characters have together on screen. )

Steinberg is a perfect example of how a lack of understanding why the diversity you are representing is important, matters. I dislike Steinberg because he, just like every other straight white cis man I have known, profited off of marginalized voices without including them or creating with them in mind.

Art does not exist in a vacuum. You cannot create something - especially something as back breakingly, intensely a labor of love as Black Sails - without putting several pieces of yourself into it. But those pieces color your narrative. They will expose things about you that you don’t even realize. And it’s in these places we are weakest, and why a diverse group of writers with a diverse group of experiences can help a piece be stronger. But for whatever reason, John Steinberg thought that he could make art with only people who looked and thought and experienced like him. 

The lack of representation behind the camera in Black Sails was evident in front of it and yet Steinberg is out here getting to pretend like he created the most inclusive groundbreaking show that ever existed. It is important to me, personally, to acknowledge that. And that it kind of makes my skin crawl in the way all media made by straight white (cis)men makes my skin crawl. I wish I didn’t have to feel that way about my favorite tv show just because it was created by a man of privilege, but here we are.

SO. I hope that helped? Feel free to take what you want and leave what you don’t! 

Below the cut is a more in depth look at things that I think show what I’m talking about, but that up there ^^ is the gist. <3 |D

SURPRISE!

The Maroons and the Maroon War

So the first thing I want to point out is that the Maroon War was a real thing that happened. It lasted ten years, and resulted in the most substantial victory the Maroons ever achieved against the British. Not only that, there was in fact a KICKIN’ badass female leader of the maroons named Queen Nanny, who is to this day honored as a national hero in Jamaica. While they weren’t able to drive the British out, the outcome of this war led to a mostly self-governing Maroon population in Jamaica from the mid 1700s on. This was a long term fight that had a very tangible and real outcome, even if it didn’t end in the destruction of colonialism. 

And what is this war turned into in Black Sails? A white ‘madman’s revenge’  that is doomed to failure after six months.

That, my dear pirates, is a problem for me. (And those familiar with my brand of spiceyness know that I do not ascribe to the ‘Flint is a Madman’ trope, but that IS what Steinberg ascribes to, what he seems to have written the show thinking.) 

There was no narrative reason to include the Maroon War in the narrative of Black Sails. The Maroon War didn’t happen until a decade after the Golden Age of Piracy, and aside from Silver’s wife being a black woman there is no mention of Silver ever having contact with them. To me, this feels like the choice of a showrunner who found a cool historical event and saw a chance to up the stakes of their white male heroes while getting in some sweet sweet POC rep. 

Except that they then took the major events of the Maroon War and gave them to their white characters, Flint and Silver. 

Here’s the thing. If you’re going to take a piece of culturally important history and use it for your show, you NEED to have sensitivity writers. You need to have people who are at least familiar with those events and who care about them to do them justice. Have an expert come in and read your script or go over your ideas. Or just like. Hire a black writer. Hire ONE black writer. As a treat.

The important Maroon figures, Nanny, Cudjoe, and Quao, all get sidelined or ‘sexified’ and then used as plot points for the white characters. Nanny gets split into two women - the older mother queen and Madi, the young naive warbent visionary. Quao(Mr. Scott is the closest, or Kofi possibly) gets killed off because the writers realized they didn’t exactly have a place for him in their writing. Cudjoe(Julius) gets a few scenes and one good speech but his entire role in the war gets given to Silver. And THEN. That sexy Queen Madi figure gets used as emotional bait for Silver and then has to learn he has betrayed her and destroyed the hope and freedom she had wanted to bring to her people. 

Gross, pirates. Gross.

Anne Bonny/Max/Mary Read - a heads up, this section includes a semi in-depth discussion of both Max and Anne’s sexual assaults. If that bothers you, the paragraphs talking about that begin with a ***

COOL NOW LET’S TALK ABOUT LESBIANS. Words my 20 year old self would never have imagined coming out of my mouth. 

Specifically, I want to talk about Max, and Anne, and their backstories both involving extreme sexual trauma at the hands of men. And then Mary Read and the once again sexification of female characters.

(Actually while I’m here another criticism I have of Steinberg is that his writing does not seem to recognize how queer people existed in the past - again, likely because he didn’t have any gay historians to be like ‘actually buddy that doesn’t make sense also why is Anne not dressing as a man? If you want to fuck with anything and insert modern day terminology and ideas into this show, make her non binary and REALLY piss off the hetties.’)

(This same ficitonal gay dramaturg who is definitely not me has also questioned John Steinberg repeatedly about where Mary Read is, unsatisfied with the answer ‘well we wanted her to be hot so we made her a sex worker and then had Anne have to rescue her but then we realized it would be weird not to include her actual character so we gave her a five second cameo at the very end of the series and also made her like 13.’)

Anyway! So my main point in bringing up Anne and Max is the sexual trauma they are exposed to in the show, particularly being that they are the two primary wlw in the show, who Steinberg has said he views as being completely gay, and what THAT whole unexamined idea looks like. 

***Max. My dear Max. There was literally no reason to have her be repeatedly r*ped(and for the love of god there was even less reason to make it that gratuitous and graphic). Max being assaulted like that did not add anything to the gravity of Eleanor’s betrayal. The traumatic event was being tossed aside by Eleanor, and that could have been just as emotionally damaging without the sexual assault. And the only reason for her to be continually assaulted was to bring her and Anne together. 

***The reason imo that Max’s r*pe plot was added was because it was the only thing these white straight men could come up with that felt emotionally damaging enough to them. The act of betrayal itself wasn’t enough, the act of being thrown away, of having a lover put your life in danger because of her own ambitions wasn’t enough, they needed her to be r*ped to really drive home the point. 

***Anne, on the other hand, is never shown being sexually abused, but we are given an explicit account of her own traumatic history and how Jack saved her from this vile beast who was passing her around to his friends.

But here’s the thing pirates - that never happened. According to every account we have of Anne Bonny, she chose her husband, and married him against her father’s wishes. They were probably relatively happy until her husband started being a pirate spy and Anne started cheating on him with Jack. 

And yes, when they were found out. Her husband had her beat. That’s not fucking cool, and if they really wanted to go the damsel in distress route they still could have had Jack ‘save’ her from that. But at no point was she sexually abused by her husband(at least not in any accounts I’ve read.) 

You know who did likely sexually abuse her or at least manipulate her and Mary for his own benefit? If you guessed our Rat man Jack Rackham, you would be correct, because when he found out about Mary and Anne’s (supposed, but probably real) relationship, it’s implied he extorted both of them into fucking him to keep their secret from the crew. 

The addition of sexual abuse to Anne’s past isn’t done to be true to her character and was in fact explicitly untrue. Now of course I don’t know the reasons why they chose to do this, but I can guess. Just as with Max, the most traumatic thing a male writer can think of for a female character is for them to be sexually abused.

And the most disturbing part of this to me? The parallels it has to the real world of why straight men think lesbians exist. These characters who would be called man haters in present day are given these incredibly traumatic man-centered histories. It brings up something very uncomfortable in me about particularly wlw sexuality being viewed as a reaction to trauma at the hands of men. It’s just gross, I dont like it, and honestly there is no fucking excuse for it besides a room full of white straight men writing this bullshit. A room that Steinberg chose, because they fit his ideas.

In Fact heck, the women of Black Sails in general

***I honestly struggle to think of a single female character who I think was treated fairly in Black Sails. Miranda and Eleanor are killed for taking sides and not understanding their partners, Madi is betrayed in the worst way possible, Max is given a pseudo empowering ending but has that fucking terrible start. Idelle ends off fairly well, but tied to a man she may or may not have any actual feelings for, in what is essentially a political marriage. And Anne has her entire identity tied to a man who will be dead in two years as she is robbed of any agency whatsoever without him. (Oh, and the whole r*pe thing. And also her support for Max’s r*pe or death until she started having fee-fees. Who wrote this stuff. >_>)

Even though the characterization of each and every one of these women is PHENOMENAL - and again I will repeat that I absolutely LOVE these characters as they exist in a vacuum. I think they are well rounded, real, feeling people given motivations and drives and FEELINGS and they SHOW THEIR ANGER and i LOVE THEM. 

But the show punishes them for it. Miranda is essentially fridged to move Flint’s storyline along, and to make room for Silver. Eleanor is killed for the emotional damage it will cause Rogers. Madi is placed at the center of a conflict she explicitly says she is willing to die for and then not only is her entire cause taken from her, but when she tells Silver to fuck off he - in possibly the most predictable white man move ever - says ‘no i will stay until you change your mind. I will never leave you. I don’t care about your choice in this matter, I will wait forever for you. I’m your biggest fan. I’ll follow you until you love me. papa, - paparazzi.’ 

And I touched on this before, but I want to talk in more detail about what is possibly my hottest take to date, the sexification of Mary Read and Queen Nanny, as they are presented in the show. 

Max is to Anne what Mary Read is, historically. She is the lover that Jack Rackham discovers with Anne, and then he joins them in their bed. They form a triumvirate that upholds Jack at the expense of the women. But for some reason, Steinberg didn’t want to just include Mary Read as an actual character. For some reason he needed to make Anne’s love interest a sex worker who was in need of saving (and who, coincidentally, we never see working the brothel after she becomes lovers with Anne, because she is now a madam. :) Gross.)

And Madi. My dear sweet fucking Madi who didn’t fucking deserve any of this bullshit send tweet. 

So, historically, Queen Nanny was the Queen, spiritual advisor, and the military tactician of the Windward Maroons. She would have filled both Madi and the Queen’s character roles(and Flint’s, but who’s counting. A BLACK GAY LEAD? Inconceivable. I digress.) But, I guess, because they were wishy-washing with Silver’s sexuality or felt they needed to give him a female love interest because of Treasure Island, or because they were leaning a bit too hard into the gay shit and needed to backpedal, they took Queen Nanny and split her into a character who is for all intents and purposes powerless in the war and Madi, who is young and naive and does not have any real world experience outside of the Maroon camp.

Because that’s sexy, or something. They could have had the Maroon Queen be a fucking badass lady who works and fights alongside Flint and Silver and one ups them and teaches them shit and has her own ideas about where the British can stick it, but instead they made her into the perfect caricature of a female monarch, letting the big strong men handle the dirty work or something. Because white male power fantasies. 

Just let women be powerful and not nubile and let them have character arcs over fucking thirty and let them be CENTERED in their own. fucking. narratives. 

God damnit Steinberg.

James Flint, mlm extraordinaire

Oh, my love. My most amazing child. The light of my life. My purest cinnamon roll. 

~~And now we’ve come to the dreaded Silverflint criticism part of our programming. Please please know and remember this isn’t a criticism of people who ship Silverflint. As I said up top, Your Tomato Is Not My Tomato and that’s cool. Please don’t take this next part as an attack on Silverflint as a fandom ship.~~

My criticism of Steinberg as it relates to Flint is related to:

What a romantic/sexual relationship with Silver being the basis of the tension and plot means for Flint in particular as a gay or mostly mlm man. 

Refusing to confirm Thomas and James being alive at the end and honestly the whole finale in general but like I’ll try and focus.

The major problem I have with Silver and Flint being coded as in love with each other is the implications there in terms of gay men’s relationships to other men. 

From every corner, men are inundated with the idea that any close relationship between them must be gay. That intimacy cannot exist unless there are sexual feelings involved. That a relationship cannot be close, deep and soul shattering and life altering, unless one guy secretly(or not so secretly) wants to bone the other dude. That two men cannot value each other as partners or friends or truly know each other unless they are gay.

Seeing both of the meaningful relationships Flint forms with other men be sexually coded feels a bit the same way as Anne and Max’s sexual assault plotlines does vis-a-vis being wlw. (Even with Gates, Flint never spoke about Thomas or his plans - Silver is absolutely the closest person to Flint besides Thomas and Miranda.) And this is just as true for Silver. Having both Flint and Madi - the two people he trusts - both be people he’s in love with also just feels. I don’t know. 

It feels like a confusion between male intimacy and male love that is so so familiar to me as a gay man I could choke on it. Where they wanted these men to have a deep and really lasting connection, but could only figure out how to do it if they were in love. Friendship wouldn’t have been enough - only romantic and sexual love is enough for the gay man(or men, at all).

Just because it isn’t queerbaiting doesn’t mean it’s good rep, and I would have liked to see truly deep male friendships that did not center on sexual attraction - particularly for Flint as a confirmed mlm(and Silver too, if you’re counting him. The same arguments for why I dislike Flint being paired with Silver are also true in the reverse.) 

Even if both Flint and Silver were confirmed mlm I still would have LOVED to see a platonic relationship between them. In fact I would have loved that EVEN MORE. Men! Who fuck men! Not needing to fuck each other to be important to one another! Who made this. Very delicious. 

But because there weren’t any queer writers on the show, writers who understand this kind of struggle that gay and mlm men face, they thought ‘oh, let’s also have them be in love with each other. More gay rep is better gay rep, right?’ False. THOUGHTFUL gay rep is better gay rep.

Okay and here’s my last thing. The fact that Steinberg refuses to say whether or not the explicitly mlm men are alive at the end of the show - that the words he specifically uses are ‘up for interpretation’ is. Fuck, it’s gross, okay? It’s fucking gross. 

I have been around enough men, enough people in power, enough people with leverage who also know how to play the field, to know that when someone wants a group’s support but does not agree with them, their go to phrasing is that it is ‘up for debate’ or ‘up for interpretation.’

Say the gays are alive. Steinberg refusing to acknowledge the reality of the ending of his show to maintain his own sense of artistic integrity is what, honestly, really sets me off about him and I don’t care if this is a nuanced take.

Like yes, death of the author. I honestly don’t care if he thinks they’re dead or alive. What I care about is that he thinks he can get away with being clever and leaning hard into a story is true/untrue’ - doesn’t realize what the implications of that are, and didn’t when he was writing, and didn’t have anyone else in the room who would think about it either. 

ANYWAY. So this is....my long drawn out explanation for why I do not like Steinberg. Uhhhhh tune in next week for more of my totally unpopular opinions!

#good....fucking lord #i am so sorry #how many opinions can milo fit in one post #i mean i have more but yknow lmao #black sails #behind the black sails #milos black sails meta #long posts #my increasingly devoted attempts to find tumblrs word limit #Anonymous #john steinberg #js critical but the js is jon steinberg

[adventuresinwonderlust]

tag game

rules : it’s time to love yourself. choose your 5 favorite works you created in the past year (fics, art, edits, etc.) and link them below to reflect on the amazing things you’ve brought into the world. tag as many writers/artists/etc. you want (fan or original) so we can spread the love and link each other to awesome works !

tagged by the amazing, @xlovelyyoongix 🥰 Thanks for tagging me and making me feel welcome in the writing community here on Tumblr. Writing has always been a passion of mine and I am happy that i can share it with others. 💕

1) Who’s soft now? | myg

This one will always hold a special place in my heart because it was my first time dipping my toe in the fanfic pond. I have always written smut but this one was more so about depicting an aggressive/playful Yoongi. 

2) Home | myg

this was my first time writing an IDOL MYG smut so this one is special as well. I always like to envision Yoongi outside of the IDOL depictions of him which is why I steer clear of doing IDOL fics but after watching some concerts of him in his elements I was definitely feeling some type of way and had to hit the keyboard haha!  🤣

3) Sunsets and Slip ups | myg

This series (Lesson/Min boy) in general has an incredible place in my heart. What started as a one shot turned into a series with characters I fell in love with. This part of the series in particular is special because its the first time I introduce you into the mind of the Min boy and show you life from his perspective to add a little more angst and depth to the character. I’m def in love with that Min boy haha!  😅

4) The New Kid | myg

 Ahhhh this one is definately a game changer. Its my first angst/slow burn series, coming of age story where I depict Yoongi from a more submissive, laid back view point. He’s a high school foreign exchange student in this one, navigating through life, love and whatever else may pop up (cant give it away) 💕 

5) I still get jealous | myg

This story is pure unadulterated, jealous, nasty, degrading SMUT!!!!! Uhhh, lol, I love picturing Yoongi as a Dom in the bedroom. I think its the quiet ones that get ya 😜 So, this one was really just plucked from the deep dark recesses of my dirty brain. It’s one of my favorites for sure!!

As you can probably tell I am an all SUGA all the time blog. I love him and dedicate my fanfics to him. I do however include the other boys in my stories every so often. I love all!! Please enjoy! 

tagging @bts-hyperfixation @samros95 @squizzybeanexe @smaubts

Please don’t feel pressured to do this if you don’t want to. I love and enjoy all of your works!! I hope you all have a wonderful day/ night full of love, light, and happiness.💕 Thanks so much to @xlovelyyoongix for tagging me. This was a ton of fun!!!!

#tag game #bts smut #suga x reader #suga x you #yoongi smut #love yourself

[ace-in-a-shopping-cart]

Day 5

Prompt:  Any intense emotions your soulmate feels you will also experience.

Word Count: 1,730

Main Taglist: (Send an ask to be added or removed!) @starlocked01,​​​ @spoopy-turtle,​​​ @lizluvscupcakes,​​ @more-fandon-than-friends​, @i-cant-find-a-good-username, @vindicatedvirgil, @star-crossed-shipper, @justaqueercactus, @gayboopnoodle, @sanderssidesweirdo, @the-sympathetic-villain

Soulmate taglist:(Send an ask to be added or removed!) @elizabutgayer, @melodiread, @tsshipmonth2020, @mikalya12

CW: Panic attacks, anxiety, mentions of self depreciation, mentions of horror.

Logan felt another burst of anxiety deep in his gut and sighed. This was the tenth time in three days, he was starting to be worried for his soulmate. He focused on his breathing, feeling for the familiar tug of emotion. After years of doing this, he’d ‘hacked the system’ so to speak by figuring out where the emotional connection was in his head. Once he’d figured that out, it was a simple matter of pushing emotions across it. So, he did that. He pushed a strong calm over to his soulmate, hoping their anxiety would lessen. He breathed out a sigh of relief when it did, when the pit of doubt left his stomach and his throat opened back up, when he didn’t have to struggle to keep his thoughts clear instead of giving in and drowning in the hate his brain spewed at him in that moment.

He hated the way the anxiety made him feel but also knew that his was tame compared to his soulmate’s. To combat it, he started happy stimming, flapping his hands near his face until he was grinning. He didn’t realize he was pushing his happiness through the connection until he felt the joy being radiated back. He stopped stimming, letting his hands falling back onto the library cart bring him out of his thoughts and remind him of his current task: to reshelf books.

Logan loved working at the library. He loved getting to read as much as he wanted, to have the ability to interact with a bunch of people or choose to stay by himself. The best thing about working in the library is that he got to see people’s faces light up when they found a book. Whether it’s the next book in a series they were reading, a book they’d almost forgotten about, one they had cherished memories of as a child, or a new one they were finding for the first time, he loved seeing the different expressions on peoples faces.

Today would be a good day for that as the library had invited a local author to come in and read his books aloud. Not many knew this, but he had two different pen names. One he used to write children’s books, the other was used to write horror stories with the main focus being human vs nature. Logan had researched the man extensively last night, not getting to sleep until a few hours before he had to get up for work.

The door jingled and a man in a hoodie walked in, making his way over to the children’s section. Logan watched him go, wondering what brought him here today, the reason for his visit to that particular section. When Logan saw him reach out a brush a spine, a soft smile lighting his face, he knew it was a nostalgic visit. He went back to his work, finishing in the adult section and moving to the children’s.

He saw that the tall man had sat down in a comically small chair compared to his height, his leg bouncing in some sort of anticipation. Logan felt the anxiety curling into his stomach again, making him want to curl up on the ground or scream in an emotion he was unable to put words to. Instead, he finished putting the books away and walked up to the man, ignoring the voice in his head that was telling him everyone was watching him at all times.

“Are you waiting for someone?” Logan sat on the ground beside the man, watching the way his head ducked further into his hood.

“Something like that.” The man muttered. His fingers were pulling on his sleeves even while his leg was vibrating. There was something unknown but familiar in the man that made Logan curious about him.

“You look like you could use a distraction.” He said, finally pinpointing the reason the man looked just the slightest bit off.

He chuckled but Logan knew there was little to no mirth in it. “Sure, that’d be nice.” Even so, his voice was genuine.

So, Logan started talking about bookbinding and the differences between modern and medieval Europe. He talked for a half hour or so. During that time, he felt the knot of anxiety untie and slip away, his thoughts clear, and an almost giddy sensation come from across the bond. He paused and realized that the giddiness was coming from him and being reflected back across the bond like a loop.

Logan smiled at the man sitting next to him, carefully watching him. He was no longer hunched into himself, no longer hiding from the world. He seemed to be relaxed, his shoulders were down and his head was up, hood thrown back. His leg was no longer bouncing and his hands were no longer tugging at his sleeves. He had a smile on his face and, in that instance, Logan was sure he could talk to this man for hours and never lose his attention.

Logan didn’t resume talking about his latest hyperfixation, glancing at his watch instead. “I need to get ready.”

The man reached out as Logan stood, helping him up but also glancing at his watch before a panicked look crossed his face. “Shoot, is it really that time already?”

Logan nodded. “My watch is always on time. Do you have somewhere to be?”

“Here. I just didn’t expect time to fly so fast.”

“Well, you know what they say about having fun.” Logan began tidying up the area, getting the small chairs and soft sitting surfaces to face the chair the man was sitting in as it seemed to be against the wall already. He found the copy of the book that was to be read and placed it on the table nearby before standing by the door.

The head librarian walked up to Logan. “What have you been doing with V. A. Strand this whole time?!”

Logan’s head would have spun around if he were in a cartoon. “What do you mean? Are you telling me that the random man I helped down from a near panic attack is the author who’s reading to the children today?!”

She looked at him like he was stupid. “Of course!”

Logan looked back to see the man,  V. A., smiling and greeting all the children and parents who filed in. He politely refused autographs and pictures but did allow the children hugs, which Logan thought was sweet. He hadn’t realized he’d been talking to one of his favorite authors of all time about bookbinding of all things for half an hour. Logan shook his head, perfectly content with the way the conversation went, the way he was able to calm the man down, the smile he got at the end of it. None of that time was wasted, neither was it made more special simply because he now knew the man’s identity. It was simply a slightly shocking discovery.

He nodded at that thought and turned back, watching the way V. A didn’t have to look at the book, knowing exactly which words were on which pages, what the pictures looked like. Logan wondered how many late nights he spent, pouring his ideas into words. Logan knew the man illustrated his own books and wondered how long it must take.

The reading was over before Logan was aware. About halfway through, he’d been told to get back to work so he grabbed a new cart and was at it reshelving books. He tried to listen in to the reading, wanting to keep talking with and to V. A., someone he’d only exchanged a few words with but he was already desperate to know their opinion on anything and everything. He wanted to know what he had rattling around in that head. After all, no one can be that quiet without having something on their mind. True, they could simply be quiet, but that meant they were either allowing their mind to wander or they were having thoughts on the discussion. Either one deserved to have those thoughts heard and appreciated.

Logan hadn’t noticed the reading was over until a hand tapped him on the shoulder. He turned his head to look and found the object of his thoughts staring back at him, hand retreating back into his hoodie pocket. Logan smiled. “Can I help you with something?”

He nodded. “I think we might be soulmates?” The sentence came out as a question rather than the statement he surely must have meant.

Logan’s smile only faltered slightly in shock, the thought never having crossed his mind before then. “Why do you think that?”

He seemed to draw into himself, his shoulders rising and his head ducking down the slightest bit. Logan wanted to reach out and hold his hand, to tell him everything was going to be fine. He didn’t, instead, he waited for him to speak. “Earlier when you helped calm my anxiety, I could feel a calm and almost giddy feeling as you talked. I don’t find bookbinding particularly delightful so I knew it had to come from someone else. I don’t know, I guess you seemed to be the obvious choice.” He shook his head. “Sorry, it sounds stupid now.”

He turned to go but Logan reached out a hand and gently grabbed his elbow. His hoodie fabric was as soft as it looked. “Hey, no. It’s not stupid. I hadn’t thought of it until now, too caught up in enjoying talking with you, but it feels like it’s possible. You wanna test it?”

He turned back, leaving Logan’s hand on his elbow. “How?”

“How many times have you panicked or had excessive anxiety over the past three days?”

“Including both times today? Eleven.” The statement was accompanied with a wince of embarrassment, as if he were ashamed of having emotions.

Logan nodded, a smile splitting across his face. “That’s as many times as I’ve felt it from you.” His shrug was much more nonchalant than V. A.’s was just now. “So, do you wanna get a donut from the shop down the street and chat sometime soon?”

He laughed. “That sounds nice. Although, I guess we should exchange names and numbers as well.”

They did so and V. A., no Virgil, walked out the library door, waving to Logan on his way out.

#tsshipmonth2020 #analogical #adhd!logan #writer!virgil #virgil sanders #logan sanders #hidden identity #ace writes