#trans women aren't women

[seethinglyangry]

I am ready to scream into the void of eternity. 

I came out as a lesbian as a young teenager. I’ve lived with the realized knowledge of who I am for sixteen years. I looked forward to dating girls and then women, once I was an adult. Middle school sucked, so I did nothing. High school had no one interested in me. I had an LDR with a girl in Australia, but that ended in a sad story for me. 

I dropped out of high school in the end and stress put my romantic life on hold. Life got insane. I had to move to live with my other parent, thought, “Maybe now?” and then got slapped in the face with the reality of living in a small town, once again. Had to move in with my grandmother, at twenty years old, and resigned myself to keeping my head down and never once saying anything about my sexuality. Another small town, an old woman who wouldn’t have harmed me but would have told me I was mistaken. Or confused. My other grandmother who refused to hear me saying I was a lesbian and insisting I would end up married to a man, to the point she wanted me to flirt with our (obviously married) waiter when I went out to dinner with her one time.

So I put the romance ideas away again. Didn’t have time, was too stressed, everything was a nightmare. 

Finally moved out, living with some friends, and this is the world I come back to. Demands to submit to men, to have sex with them or be branded a bigot. A transphobe. I need to accept a penis in my sex life or I’m a monster.

This is the world I tuned back into the dating sphere to find. 

Their homophobia is a nightmare and I’m so tired of it. I almost wish I wasn’t out because then they would leave me alone. Maybe. 

Or maybe they’d just find another way to harass me. 

I’m here, now, looking for people to communicate with who feel the same way. I just want some form of community while they try to rip it all apart. Men are terrifying and I don’t want them anywhere near me. 

#radblr #radical feminists please touch #radfems please touch #radfems do touch #lesbians #men are fucking trash #trans women aren't women #And I will not allow them into my bedroom

[uncanny-tranny]

Men, it's fucking normal to have stretch marks and even cellulite. It's normal to not have a flat stomach, to have body acne (especially because of hormones/puberty), to have unbalanced hair distribution along all parts of your body. It's normal to have deep hair lines, to have thin hair, for hair to regrow odd.

Very, very few of us will live in this world unscathed. You owe nobody the conformity of man. So many problems that are seen as "womens-only" occur in men, too, because it is a part of the human condition to have weird bodies.

#positivity #body positivity #body neutrality #it's especially weird when people think things like stretch marks can ONLY occur in women* like. #men* you are NAUGHT allowed to have skin (sarcasm) #this isn't even about positivity for trans men* and trans male* bodies either because this is just... a human thing #it occurs in trans men* and cis men* and people who are across every single country #male/female and man/woman aren't like... seperate species of animal

[thisismisogynoir]

I love it when women hate men. I love it when women are allowed to vent to each other about how horrible and creepy men are. I love it when women form friendships with and prioritize each other over relationships with men(whether they're attracted to them or not). I love it when women put men dni in their bios and on their nude photos and on posts on their blogs. I love it when women refuse to mollycoddle and accommodate entitled male feelings with "but this doesn't mean I hate all men, I know a few men who are great, I love my father/sons/brothers/uncles/male cousins/guy friends" I love it when women complain about men WITHOUT "not all men" being a disclaimer. I love it when women avoid socializing with/refuse to be around/befriend/get close to men because they know men can't be trusted. I love it when women make "kill all men" jokes. I love it when women offer absolutely no concern or care for men's feelings and if their misandry offends men whatsoever because why should we, men are the oppressor class who have raped and killed and abused us and kept us as subjugated as second-class citizens for millennia, they regularly mistreat us and the women in their own marginalized communities still every single day and make this world so much harder and more awful for us to be in, and if we choose to hate them and not spare them any sympathy then so be it, and I don't just mean "men as a class" either, you can be a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with any man on an individual basis and completely cuts off men from her personal life too and ykw I will love and fucking support you in that because men deserve absolutely NOTHING from us. If they're so tough and strong then they can handle it just like they can handle being lonely. If you are a woman who hates men, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN AND/OR A TRANS WOMAN, then just know that I love you. I love you, I support you, and you are safe here.

#was going to make a post about how much i hate that women aren't allowed to hate their oppressors but i decided to spin it into something #positive instead #this is supposed to be the feminist site that makes reddit mgtow piss their baby diapers so let's go back to despising men and not coddling #their feelings and let's dye our hair blue while we're at it #i am so tired of this new wave of guilt-tripping and gaslighting women who hate men and don't trust or want to be around them #i hate how we're made into villainesses or the problematic ones for not valuing them in our lives or for wanting to guard ourselves or be #safe from our oppressors #and i'm tired of people who don't know the first thing about feminism being like 'BUT THAT'S TERF RHETORIC WHAT ABOUT X MINORITY MEN' #guess what women can also be x minority that you're trying to protect the men of and we get to hate men too #trans women are included when i say women btw and trans men are included when i say men #if anyone has the right to hate men more than anybody else it's trans women esp trans lesbians because they put up with so much shit #from men that even cis women do not and they especially know how vile men are behind closed doors #so #terfs fuck off #radfems fuck off #and if anybody tries to make this post more appeasing to men or 'not all men's this post you are getting blocked and hit with a hammer #feminism #misogyny #sexism #patriarchy #tw men #tw rape #tw abuse #misandry #terfs dni #radfems dni #feminists need to go back to being scary and unpalatable for men none of this 'but some of them are good!' bullshit #men are entitled to nothing from us #and if you try to prove me wrong then you are just proving my point if you have nothing good to say then simply keep scrolling #ok? ok.

[i-used-to-be-an-anti-feminist]

You can read one book and identify as a bookworm. You can see yourself as someone who loves books, and you can ask other people to refer to you as a bookworm. If someone who reads two books a day spends time with you and observes that you only watch movies, they may think you aren't a real lover of books, at least not in the same way they are. They may (out of courtesy to you) continue to affirm you are a bookworm by referring to you as one, but that does not change how they actually perceive you or what you actually are.

A female can dislike her breasts and identify as someone without breasts. She can have her breasts surgically removed, and have others participate in her identity as a breastless woman by observing that she does not have breasts and referring to her as such. However, she has not changed the material reality that she is someone who grows breasts, or she would not have needed to remove them in the first place.

A man can make observations about women's behavior and identify with them. He can then transition into the socially expected affectations of womanhood. He can wear clothes typically worn by women, he can adopt stereotypically feminine behaviors, and he can even alter his body such that external observers may not always identify that he is male. External observers may (out of courtesy for him or a genuine belief that he is female) refer to him as a woman. However, this does not change their genuine perception of his maleness, nor the material reality that he is male. While it is possible to identify with gender (which is a set of behaviors typically assigned to one's sex) it is physically impossible to identify out of one's actual sex. Males can become transwomen, but they can never become female, or they would be female and would not by definition have needed to transition.

This fact does not make transwomen less worthy of respect, human rights, bodily autonomy, adequate healthcare, or freedom from harassment. But it does not grant them the right to demand that others participate in a lie that they are female. It does not grant them universal access to spaces reserved for females, nor does it grant them the right to shame or police a female's personal observations and preferences. Transgender individuals deserve to be treated with kindness, courtesy, and human dignity, but they do not deserve to be treated like gods.

#i don't care if you're transgender #i'm not going to go out of my way to misgender you #i will advocate for your existence to be free of discrimination in areas you should be protected #by i will not happily welcome males #whether they identify as women or not #into spaced where my i am meant to protected from males #i am not going to be bullied into pretending sex is the same thing as gender #and that i have a special privilege because i chose to identify with my own oppression #if i could have identified out of it i would have #i had body dysmorphia #i tried #it doesn't work because you can't change your sex #and people who aren't delusional know that #wwnf #female #my post #trans rights #not a radfem #but terfs do interact #terf friendly #gender ideology #nonbinary

[gorillawithautism]

we should not, in fact, bring back man-hating feminism

like you can say your post isn't a safe place for radfems and terfs all you want but you specifically said we should bring back man-hating feminism

man-hating feminism hates trans women of color first and foremost.

man-hating feminism hates muslim men, trans men, intersex people. and i say this again, most of all, man-hating feminism hates trans women of color more than anyone. (more on this point)

we do not need to bring that back. the idea of bringing that back should sicken you. it should anger you. it should be unthinkable that you would support that.

#swingset #do i agree that people on tiktok lamenting about not being housewives is a problem? yeah #do i agree that misandry is not a systemic issue like misogyny is and that mras are full of shit? yes #but do i think we should put trans women in danger in order to combat that? absolutely fucking not #i need to make this very clear because i think some of my mutuals who reblogged that post likely did not read it carefully enough #it does not matter if you say terfs and radfems aren't welcome on your page #because if you are using the rhetoric they use #you are inviting them into your community #whether you wanted to or not #so be more careful with your language please and thank you

[solradguy]

I wish I was more openly hype about being a trans dude because there's like zero positive stuff for trans men like anywhere and it would be nice to help change that, but I've been out/on HRT for like idk 8 years now and being trans is like the 4th on the list of things I think are interesting about myself rofl

#textpost #I was thinking again about how there's literally like just 3 trans men in media that aren't one-off side characters #or that don't die/detransition lol #Also memes about trans men generally just kinda fuckin suck #Like memes for trans women are awesome they're about how like cool and beautiful trans women are and it's really nice #And then memes for trans men are like 'Let's writhe in garbage pits and eat spoiled food together' #Or they're just super sexualized. All of the time. I've blocked people over trans boy pussy memes ngl #Idk no one really gets excited when trans men do something cool and it's kind of a bummer thinking about it too much

[punkeropercyjackson]

"NO Don't headcanon characters who were intended as male as actually being trans woman eggs based off irl transfem experiences and treat them as canonically female because of it,that's lazy and offensive and not actually caring about women!!!"And then y'all don't care about characters who were intended as girls in canon unless it's to prop up male characters or use them as token 'mean lesbians' and bash canon tgirls

@thisismisogynoir

#this argument is insane applied to trans folks especially transFEMS i've never actually meet any of us who aren't obsessed with canon girls #the ones who do the egg thing i mean like PLEASE be serious do you honestly think all of us are just playing we just love trans women bffr!! #transmisogyny #misogyny cw #androcentrism #transfem #trans women #percy jackson #minnie díaz #persephone jackson #gwen stacy #bridget guilty gear #sakura haruno #ino yamanaka #anti sns #hinata hyuga #inosaku #sakuhina #inohina #inosakuhina #ichigo kurosaki #rukia kuchiki #orihime inoue #tatsuki arisawa #tatsuhime #mai atla #ty lee #mailee #summerposting #💌

[angelspenance]

Shoutout to queer masculinity. Butches, transmascs, amab people who enjoy the masculine parts of themselves, gnc people, etc etc. No if ands or buts.

#cath.txt #putting this in the tags and probably in my drafts wine cellar but goddamn. people will always go 'I love transmascs' and then preach solely #about malewives and 'submissive and breedable' and how I look with he/him in my bio. which is fine and real. but it's the absolute lack of #the opposite being as prevalent. thank god for lesbians up butch posting and that typa shit because a lot of the time beyond that it's like #oh hi absolute lack of acknowledgement for amab nonbinary people who aren't fem leaning. of posts about transmasc people who aren't notably #gnc. of jokes about hating men that kinda toe the line of 'hey. that's similar to how te/rfs think.' of acknowledgement of masc trans women. #*lack of acknowledgement. #it's like. hey. people are allowed to be masculine without there being a punchline or a 'but.' #ya know what. fuck it. andddd post.

[aropride]

trying to draw lines of who's queer and who's not is unhelpful and a waste of time and i find it's an impossible task to categorize something as uncategorizable as attraction and identity. i've started thinking of it as more of a sociopolitical label as well as an identity label, and in my opinion that's a lot more useful than sitting around trying to decide if a guy who's only ever been attracted to women and ryan reynolds counts as queer or not. because i feel like if, for instance, a straight cis man who does drag and regularly engages in trans activism and sits down with his state senator to discuss making trans sanctuary laws or whatever. wants to identify as queer. i don't really care? i don't think that affects anyone negatively. i think if someone's involved in queer activism and the queer community and they want to use the word queer for themselves i think that's fine and i think it's not any of my business.

also there's this tendency, especially online, for people to go "well what if an allocishet person uses the word queer for themself even though they arent!" and that doesn't feel like a helpful thing to worry about because like.. what if? who is really getting hurt if a gender nonconforming cishet person identifies as queer? or a woman with two husbands? i saw a post along the lines of "we've got straight girls calling themselves fagdykes this is why inclusionism is bad" and i mean. first of all i genuinely just do not believe that. i don't think there are cishet women calling themselves fagdykes. i don't think people who wouldn't be considered queer by cishet society are often proudly declaring themselves part of the queer community in general. people don't paint targets on their backs for fun. i think it's much more likely that the person they were mad at was nonbinary or bi or otherwise queer. but even if they were, like. if for some reason a completely cis completely straight woman wanted to reclaim slurs for herself, she probably has a reason for that. and it's not really our business anyway.

and i think if someone actually is "only identifying as queer to infiltrate queer spaces and cause discord and hurt people," i think that's a them problem, not a "person who uses labels i don't fully get" problem. and i don't think that happens often except for possibly in discord servers, and i think that's generally called "lying" and "being an asshole."

whenever i see stuff trying to draw a line on who's queer and who's not, whether this person can say fag or not, whether it's okay for this person to use they/them pronouns or not, whatever. "are polyamorous people queer?" "can a cis guy use they/them pronouns?" i think of ace/aro exclusionism and bi exclusionism and nonbinary exclusionism. because the arguments sound the same. something about not being "oppressed enough," about "stealing resources" (what resources?), about "well these ones are okay but those ones aren't," about fakers, about people reclaiming slurs they can't use, about how they're "making us look bad," how they're "not queer enough," whatever. and i think it's petty and useless and pretty stupid when we're in the face of a rise in violent transphobia to focus on that instead of actual problems.

i had a friend in high school who talked about how she doesn't understand sexuality and gender and gender roles because she's autistic. she was a lot like me in that we'd both pick at strict definitions of things like "queer" or "trans" and find exceptions to common strict definitions until they fell apart entirely. and she identified with just her name, not trans, not nonbinary, not cis either. not bi or pan or ace or aro or anything else, and not straight. just herself. and she was fully accepting of me and other queer people in our life and was involved in queer activism and was actively deradicalizing her mom from radfem ideology. i don't know if she identified as queer then or if she does now, but if she did/does, i don't see why she shouldn't. i don't think it'd be my place to tell her not to.

i don't know. i just think if someone wants to consider themself queer it's not my business why. because they probably have a good reason. and i think trying to define something like queerness is an impossible task, and i think there's better things to do. it's not hurting anyone for someone you or i see as allocishet to identify as queer for whatever reason. sometimes you don't have to understand the intricacies of someone's identity and life story and why they use certain words for themselves.

#text #discourse #'straight girls are en masse identifying as fagdykes' is a take that kills me though. man what the hell are you talking about? #the op of that post was like 'that isnt a dogwhistle about trans women btw people are really doing that' and like. no they aren't 😭 #no they literally aren't lmfao #f slur #d slur

[lesbianjudasiscariot]

someone: women are oppressed and women are allowed to feel anger towards that oppression and their oppressors

losers online: idk sounds terfy i'm scared

#YALL REALIZE IT IS NOT TRANSPHOBIC TO RECOGNIZE SEX BASED OPPRESSION EXISTS #IT IS POSSIBLE TO CARE BOTH ABOUT TRANSPHOBIA AND SEXISM AS THESE TWO ISSUES ARE CONNECTED AND NO ONE BENEFITS FROM ACTING LIKE THEY AREN'T #YALL ARE SO STUPID GOD BLESS #ALSO I HATE TERFS AS DESPITE THEIR ATTEMPTS TO ARGUE OTHERWISE THEIR BELIEFS NOT ONLY HARM TRANS PEOPLE AS A WHOLE BUT WOMEN AS WELL #♡

[magnetothemagnificent]

"Don't ask me why but this fat black cis woman has transwoman vibes and this fat Jewish cis man has transman vibes teehee"

#reinventing gendered racism aren't we #racism #antiblackness #antisemitism #this is satire obviously #fatphobia #there's nothing wrong with being trans I'm trans myself #but can we please stop implying cis men and women of marginalized racial and ethnic identities are trans #you're literally no better than conservatives

[uncanny-tranny]

Quick trans tip for those experiencing breast growth:

If you're interested in wearing a bra, please make sure to size correctly. Absolutely, bras can sometimes feel uncomfortable after wearing them for an extended amount of time, but if it actively hurts, please make sure it's the right size. You shouldn't feel like you can't breathe, or your circulation is restricted, or like the band/wires are digging into your skin. Bra sizing can make such a difference, and there're so many wild misconceptions about how bras work that it can be very confusing at times (even for cis people!). Breasts will develop for years, so please regularly check your size if you plan on wearing bras. There are some pretty accurate online calculators and forums, and when you start understanding how measurements translate into sizes, it makes a lot more sense.

If anybody has anything to add, please do! I'm not directly experienced in this, but I want all trans people to be educated and empowered in what makes them comfortable💛

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #mtf #nonbinary #obviously you shouldn't feel *compelled* to wear one and indeed it's just a non-action to not wear one #i know this is a very introductory tip and i won't tell you what you should/shouldn't get because there's no 'terrible' option if it fits #anyway this is the information i've learned from many women while i was down a rabbit hole of curiosity #it's interesting how your size gets... sized. like it's the difference between the underbust and the point where the chest is biggest #so if you know that and you know how your country works wrt sizing you'll often have a good idea on where to start #honestly i would recommend that if you aren't comfortable with sizing in person (understandable)

[ventbloglite]

It's so strange that some people can perfectly grasp the concept of;

"There are situations in which it is much safer for a trans woman to self-closet/self-degender/self-misgender in order to achieve safety and not become a vicitim of transphobia. Although she does not wish to be perceived as a man, she must do so in these cases to avoid violence or other negative consequences. She is not doing so through some innate desire to be both a woman and maintain male privlege, it is simply for safety."

AND

"A trans woman can indeed be butch/masc without it being a degendering/self-misgendering thing. To say otherwise is transmisogynistic. No woman, trans or otherwise, owes anyone a strict conformity to femininity in order to maintain their womanhood."

AND

"A trans woman revealing she is trans even if she passes, in order to talk about trans issues, represent trans people, or because she is simply not ashamed (nor should she be) and is proud of her transness is not at fault for any transphobia she receives because of this. She is not obligated to live in stealth."

But at the same time also believe that;

"Trans men who aren't living in stealth are inviting transphobia onto themselves in order to be victims but at the same time have male privilege. They are lording their femalehood over trans women every time they talk about being born/living as a woman or how misogyny affects them because of that. Trans men could just not be feminine and that would solve their issues, they should conform to masculine stereotypes (which I will then call them toxic for) which is actually super easy for every single AFAB out there. Trans men who self-degender/self-misgender in order to be safe in situations where being trans poses the risk of violence or worse have a degendering/misgendering fetish."

#trans #transphobia #I've only ever heard this from cis people or clear radqueers btw #Most trans women that aren't radical I know have a perfect grasp that the first statements are true of all trans people #Probably because they touch grass once in a while #So yeah this is not aimed at trans women unless you happen to be a trans woman who says this shit #I feel like I shouldn't have to add a comment disclaimer nobody will read but y'all love claiming transmisogny where it ain't #Starting to think y'all wouldn't recognise actual transmisogny any more its so diluted in your mind

[werewolfbarista]

need 2 get a pronoun pin that says . u CANNOT misgender me. w a gun on it

#musings #pretty sure some of my customers try to call me masculine stuff to be transphobic now that i think about it but im just like. oh yay:) #trans women get behind me. ill take all the misgendering for u. #every minute a transphobe calls me a man is a minute they aren't fucking w transfems.......................

[niiwa-angel]

So let's dive into this, and before anyone ask, yes this is a comic by the dude who stole pictures of infants for his furry porn fetish.

I Don't Treat Trans Patients. This is wrong. Regardless of identity, religion, culture, or race, people have a right to medical care and it's not right for any doctor to refuse to treat a general medical condition because of an aforementioned identity. That said, if a doctor is being asked to prescribe hormones, I think they have a right to refuse to do that.

The only thing that might influence this would be if there is an increased risk in treating trans identifying patients. The same way lots of surgeons refuse to do elective surgeries on obese patients because of the risk of putting an extremely overweight patient under anesthesia. I can respect that after all the schooling it takes to be a doctor in the first place, I don't blame a doctor for not wanting their insurance rates to skyrocket if something goes wrong treating somebody who has willingly destroyed their body with excessive eating, unnecessary hormones, or other elective, dangerous habits.

Genital inspection. Yeah, that's weird. I cannot think of a genuine reason for this in the above scenario.

Maybe Your Arm Wouldn't Be Broken if You Weren't on Hormones. This is actually medically sound. It's well documented that cross sex hormones being injected into people has negative side effects. Including a reduction of bone density.

Misgendering. People calling you by your given, legal name is not discrimination or a hate crime. Grow up.

#radical feminism #radfem safe #radfems do interact #radfems please touch #radfems please interact #radfems welcome #TERF safe #OP is a TERF #gender critical #gender critical feminism #trans men are women #trans women are men #trans women arent real women #trans men aren't real men

[craycraybluejay]

its rly fascinating that when i want to talk about a specific brand of transphobia im an asshole for not phrasing it like a PR team.

but when baeddels are actively transphobic its "just talking about the transmisogyny they face" and its actually just fine that they use slurs meant to degrade and misgender to refer to trans men + use porn terms to talk about us despite saying that using porn terms to talk about them is transphobic and evil + oh they didn't mean it like that.

if i try to talk about transphobia its immediately "piss on the poor website" where every word is under criticism. but on the opposite end even using slurs or being openly transphobic earns some cheers and, well, rare opposition.

i didn't even tag my post with common searchable tags,, y'all just want to be mad because it's a lot more comfortable to see trans men under attack.

if you criticize a few trans women for transphobic behaviour that makes You transphobic for criticizing them. if they call you slurs and other above mentioned things they are not transphobic bc ofc its impossible to be transphobic to trans men.

#i legit dont know any of these people #yet they want to tone police a random fucking post i made after seeing something super fucked up #it is so frustrating #i literally have not seen this happen on any of the wildly transphobic towards trans men posts #like it genuinely boggles my mind that #they can use 'theyfab' as a slur but if i tried something like 'theymab' or 'dickgirl' i'd be covered in angry internet mob for weeks #why? because even people who aren't being blatantly transandrophobic just don't care about transmasc people #because it's not fashionable to care and it won't give you internet virtue points #i know a trans woman who's seen shit in baeddel spaces and talked about it. i know what i am talking about #honestly? she probably knows more than i do. and the things ive heard are dismal #im fucking tired of transmasc and trans men issues being treated as trivial and unimportant #and transfem and trans women issues being treated as most important to the point that No One Is Nearly As Oppressed Or Matters