#so yea im not asexual

[sexysilverstrider]

hey everyone i think im demisexual

#i keep telling ppl i associate sex=love #and i dont do pda until im veeery comfortable w someone #and after knowing them for so long i start to build emotions #so yea im not asexual #im demisexual haha yay #fafar yaps

[urproblematicfav-arsonk]

Once again, I am back on my bullshit.

Welcome to my "Angel is asexual because Michael Kovach is ace and also i say so" and "Val is actually aromantic but just thinks his inability to feel love is cuz he's a psycho and not that he just has a queer identity" corner. There's no one else here but me

#and the vees are t4t4t #is this anything #al: *monologs about how being ace in the 30s was very difficult and gave him a lot of long lasting trauma* #al: the point being that im not attracted to people but i can under very specific circumstances be attracted to aesthetics(usually blood) #angel: well yea thats just how that works ur not abnormal #al: what #angel: no one actually wants to do it with a specific person lol thats why u do scenes and have toys and all that extra stuff #al: angel no #alastor and all his many wives is very important to me #thats the dream all men have right?? a bunch of girls surrounding u??? and he likes them so he must 'want' to 'keep' them #yes charlie is one of his girlfriends #val's type is fridget and generally disinterest in him #val thinks all social interacts are games that he has to win #which is why he has vox and angie #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel valentino #hazbin hotel alastor #hazbin hotel angel dust #radiodust #valastor #alastor x valentino #asexual #queer #memes #my memes #proship

[sassuguru]

i need charlie morningstar 2 RAIL mi wit her GIANT. RED. STRAP.

#( ann ) — curator message #YEA #i said if #i better not c 'ny judgement up n here #hypersexual asexual problems ♡〰♡ #niewayz #she needs 2 fuck mi hard n fast wit that thing #ik damn well she has 1 #'nd i know damn well itz large 'nd red #charlie does NOT get enough fans n her own show (💢◕▽◕)Ↄ🔪 #so if itz just mi wan'in 2 fuck her then thatz fine #if charlie morningstar has no fans im dead #hazbin hotel #charlie morningstar #charlie morningstar x reader #hazbin hotel x reader

[destielgaysex]

i think im just…. agh

#kinda scared to say it bc ik how some of my friends think #but it IS asexual awareness week #so guess i will say it in tags but #yea #i have no clue what label i would even say but i am definitely on the aroace spectrum somewhere #and i have talked to friends about ace stuff before and i used yo be ace exclusionist (now im not djjdn) #and some close friends have some distasteful opinions about aro/ace people so!! #idk its making me doubt this but whatever bro #posting it anyways 🤪

[taro-pdf]

I made a mini comic

its an ace love story

#asexual #ace people fall in love too #read it #I made it #it took so long #even though it is mini #it still took at least 3 hours #but probably more #read it read it read it #it won't take you that long #and its not that good #but I thought it was a cool idea #I'm immune to seduction #so it my character #but he still falls in love #i don't Im aro but he can #yea #my art #my minicomic #my comic

[hartmannyoukaigirl]

Thoughts on Shadaria?

ahahaaahudiahwd me in my sonic ship discourse era i see i see. this blog fr reaches new lows every month its amazing

shadow x maria right? sighs. considering... sonic writers i dont think they're officially siblings or anything, and they aren't shown the same dynamic as adoptive siblings like sonic and tails

but that's from an objective standpoint, personally? i feel like it has an obvious layer of familial pure love. shadow really cared for her and i hate hate hate hate how people are unable to see that care as just pure affection for someone he grew up with and instead label it as romantic. i heard "why else would he go that far?" and maybe, just maybe, he is capable of having strong genuine emotions for someone that has absolutely nothing to do with romance. this idea is unheard of and impossible for most people apparently.

i feel like with certain characters and dynamics you actually away whats between the characters and end up simplifying it into something neither of them feel when you ship them. especially true for sonadow too, its like a purposefully ignorant surface level interpterion of character dynamics and it's... annoying. especially when they turn their dynamic to something shown in most medias anyway, why not just go and read or watch a cheap romance then?

#thank u for the ask tho !! the first part is jk i love talking abt my sonic thoughts #my thoughts on ships are never normal honestly bc im asexual and it.. shows ! ace/aro to be exact but i hate identifying myself with... yea #idk i really hate romance and relationships and especially marriage and that shows in my interpretation of media #however #i am a shipper lmao and a fangirl so im not some enlightened soul looking down on ppl #i really do hate the simplification of relationships and especially when it just turns gross lovey dovey stuff i hate fluff #gimmie character development !! story !! plot !! drama !! angst !!!!! #shadow is too cool to be shipped also ( i do ship him w someone but thats irrelavent lmfaoshauiwhduiahwduiawdahu iwduahw )

[visionthefox]

sams -Asexuals characters

I know ppl are kinda of mad and saw OldMoon died and the fandom is left with no SxRepulsed representation (totally fair) yet.. I guess not all hope is lost? and ok- hear me out- I know the trope of "heartless villain is heartless cuz is ace" is terrible when DONE BAD-- but.. I feel BloodMoon is or could be the next SexRepulsed Ace ..? hear me out, im re watching the "Breaking Gang Beasts AS THE VILLAINS" in monty's and foxy channel, and I know is all for the haha's but.. isnt BloodMoon had showed to not care for dates, nor make many sexual jokes as literally everyone else? (bet with time Earth will do them too, give her time) Yea Yea they mean- they cruel, but.. I guess if ALL AUS ARE CANON- this means there is a high chance our BM is Ace and SexRepulsed and look !as much as they say they are cruel and evil-- I still feel they could be tammed, or not be a bad representation if anything.. they are so so cool! they are so loved for a reason! they want to be left alone, to do what they were born to do. ah but idk I guess this is a rant after seeying many BM clips.. yet again - we all can have HCs to feel better about it. I myself think Solar is next to be the next SexRepulsed- like, is a 50 - 50 with him.. idk I feel bad for this issue..

#sams #the sun and moon show #tsams #just letting this out #hes so cool and it would be wonderfull if the show give ppl once again a good rep #for all Aces-the Demis-the Agro- the SexRepulsed #since they have many others queer characters..

[magpod-confessions]

As an ace person I don't really care about people sexualizing Jon in fanfiction. It takes nothing away from the canon rep and it's easy enough to filter out on ao3. Same with people talking about the audio of him being in pain when he had the knife at his throat (or whatever was happening), as long as the real Jonny is ok with it then I see no problems with it. Obvs this is my personal opinion but I just don't feel angry abt it at all.. 🗣️

Same!

Idm or care what ppl do bc being ace doesnt automatically make you completely without sex. I personally dont want to engage in that content, but idc what other ppl do as long as they respect the fact that hes ace. And asexuality is also a diverse spectrum so yea go nuts

Im not going to interact but you have your fun as long just respect ppls boundaries and dont completely erase jons identity, those are the only things id get mad at lol

#magpod #tma #the magnus archives #jon sims #jonathan sims #asexual #asexual character #magpod confession #🗣

[unoriginal-and-dumb]

i mean no offense by this but what do you mean by disliking shipping? does that mean as romance as a whole?

im unbelievably aromantic

Not just am I a sex-repulsed asexual, but I am like nearing romance-repulsed aromantic

It’s not that I think other people shouldn’t do it, I am fully aware I am apart of a very small population here, it’s just that seeing it/getting pulled into it (depending on the day) can actually send me into a spiral of disgust and may lead me to be a bit snappy to people that partake in that

I don’t particularly like being angry/disgusted/disturbed/sad so yea, I don’t like that stuff

It’s fine to ask questions about it, like I said I am fully aware that not a lot of people feel the same way, so im happy to explain as long as questions aren’t trying to be harmful :)

[alienpupy]

no "i dont have a fursona" option. make one up in your mind for the sake of the poll right now.

[cyberkiss2uu]

good MORNING cloud retainer nation. shes so beautiful. yes im mourning the flared pants she couldve been so awesome... imo her dress design reminds me too much of ningguangs design T_T idk i still like it but like ughh i wish they wouldve branched out..!!! also i refused to color this. also yea thats hamayumi i liked it best w puzui's design

so ermm i had to draw Xianyun w Xueshe and Puzui!!! tbh i didnt think at all ab the cloud retainer leaks back when i made them but seeing her now im like ok. she certainly asexually reproduced via mitosis to make the twins :3 it def shifted their lore slightly but i think it gave me something new and fun 2 work with !! and helped flesh out their backstory..

i do want to change puzui's design a bit i think shes messy.. i also didnt make their hair have the teal undercolor because xueshe's love interest is xiao so i didnt want them to look too similar erm... and i think ill keep it that way !!! wtvr i make the rules yes i do IDK LOL this was jsut so silly

#genshin impact #cloud retainer #xianyun #genshin ocs #jammy ocs #genshin fanart

[daybringersol]

if asexuality or aversion to sex comes from trauma, that is absolutely something a therapist and you are supposed to address, that's not queerphobia and equating it to conversion therapy is kinda disgusting and queerphobic itself lmao

That is not what I said in the slightest, to a point where im questioning if youre asking me this in good faith at all. Please actually read and/or reread the words I typed before accusing me of things like this. My initial post was not even worded in a way that was vague enough to be misinterpreted this way.

If you still don’t understand how misguided you are, here is my attempt at putting it more clearly :

Yes, aversion to sex and/or romance and lack of sexual/romantic desires can come from trauma. Therapy can help that, if you find the right therapist. However, from my own experiences, I can tell you that the way a lot of therapists approach this is at best, ineffective, and at worst, downright retraumatizing. If sex and/or romance makes you uncomfortable, being convinced to take part in sexual/romantic acts without you having desires for it or being downright averse to it is a recipe for disaster (for most people). It just puts you into more non-consensual and traumatizing positions. That is what exposure therapy is, and that is what most therapists have tried (and sometimes succeeded) to do to me. Horrible experience, would not recommend to anyone. This approach tries to cure the symptom instead of the issue, and is deeply based in ace/arophobia (seeing “fixing” a lack of attraction as more urgent and important than addressing the source of the issue, the actual trauma).

Also, no. If someone doesn’t feel like fixing their trauma for any reason, nobody should push them to. A therapist can absolutely inform the patient on the benefits of doing so, but trauma work is incredibly hard, very much a long-term thing, and can put the patient in an extremely vulnerable headspace. It’s the mental equivalent of breaking a bone to set it right again. For an abuse victim who just got out of that situation, it is completely understandable for them to want to enjoy their new-found freedom and joy as much as they can, for as long as they want. Pushing them towards trauma work without the right environment, mindset or literally anything else they feel might make this not the right time for it can cause further damage, especially knowing how the current psychiatric institution works.

Asexuality and aromanticism, however, do not come from trauma, or any other neurological differences. It might be affected by it, and people with life experiences similar to aro and/or ace people are welcomed in the community (for exemple, sexual and/or domestic abuse survivors that are sex/romance averse), but it is not caused by it. Most therapy settings are not informed about asexuality, and assume it is a symptom of a underlying issue, that needs to be fixed. The same kind of exposure therapy that I talked about earlier is often used to “cure” aro and/or ace people, putting them those same non-consensual and traumatizing situations. That is conversion therapy, and medical use of coerced corrective rape. These therapists are, often with methods similar to gaslighting (and I use the original meaning of the word here, not the diluted tiktok version of it), convincing people to do sexual and/or romantic acts that they have no desire to do, to fix an issue that doesn’t exist, with the explicit goal of making someone not queer. Please explain to me how that is not conversion therapy.

Other forms of arophobia and acephobia are prevalent in psychiatric institutions as they are today, tho I wouldn’t call most of those conversion therapy. You only need to look at the notes on my post to see what I’m talking about.

I genuinely hope that this is a formative experience for you, and that in the future, you learn to actually read what is written before you send messages like this. Have a good day.

#amatonormativity #acephobia #arophobia #aromantic #aromantism #asexual #asexuality #traumapunk #trauma survivor #psychpunk #solanswers

[vanana-r0tat3]

some pre-game batim headcanons :>

Henry: - all he does is eat hot chip be bisexual and lie /j - has a preference for women so i think him realizing hes not straight is like hey wait a minute hey wait wait - joey was his gay awakening,,, real -gets burnout super easy, it probably frustrates him a lot when he cant draw - drawing is a big comfort for him - has pretty bad social anxiety, but has become pretty good at dealing with it!

Joey: - gay. this man is not into women at all sorry 💀 "i just dont have time for girls" yeah sure fruitcake - watch me project once again and give this man bpd. like im sorry his whole thing with henry?? im not even explaining it but if you get it you get it yea - also definitely has adhd - wheelchair user !! he is able to walk, but he still needs the wheelchair when flare ups get real bad. he is stubborn though and refuses to use it at work or when hes out of the house

more under the cut !!

Wally: - he has adhd, obviously - transgender !! i feel like hes a gnc binary trans man - hes straight to me, but his gf/wife is also trans >:D t4t win - i feel like he likes to gossip. the thought of him, norman, shawn, maybe even jack whispering to eachother in a corner about some random secrets theyve overheard is super funny to me

Sammy: - AUTISM... hes autistic - gets overwhelmed and overstimulated super easily, hence why hes always so irritable - yknow what im giving him bipolar. hes my comfort character and i get to project my mental illness !! - hes gay and demiromantic - honestly? transfem i see it. bc like im thinking about how he talks about susies singing like. i know what you are - bad with boundaries.. he is so bad at them and reading social cues - hates being touched, probably is only comfortable with jack for the most part - watch him crush on like half the men mentioned in this post at least once

Norman: - hes also autistic. his sense of humor is so??? 😭 - HES ALSO DEFINITELY AN OLDER GAY GUY. he just has that energy yknow like if you agree - probably would be agender too - him and sammy are that incompatible type of autism havers does this make sense?? like some autistic people i just cant stand because of my autism, our places on the spectrum make it so hard to like them yk? thats norman and sammy - this man definitely has insomnia

Susie: - lesbian. she doesnt know it yet but she is - her calling sammy handsome isnt her being attracted to him its just gender envy 😁 - shes just a feminine transmasc 👍 - rejection sensitive dysphoria out the ASS my poor girl - very insecure deep down, so she overcompensates for it by trying to be a people pleaser n stuff

Allison: - shes bisexual !! has a strong preference for women - shes a trans woman idc idc i love her - AUTISTIC AS HELL - i imagine she had a sibling like relationship with joey - probably one of the few people that could tell him off without like. getting fired lol

Buddy: - adhd and autism,, special intrest in art/drawing - AROACE. the stuff he says about his friendship with dot?? "i didnt know we could just be friends" and him not being too into his first assumption when she pulls him away to show him the bendyland model?? yea - honestly i think he has social anxiety hes doing his best - hes very sensitive over people bringing up him being jewish, he seems so ready to be made fun of or scorned for it :( - definitely some cultural detachment because of it (im projecting again) - i think dot would wanna learn about about it, buddy should teach her stuff!! like traditions and whatnot

Tom: - asexual 👍 - TRANSGENDER. probably would be nonbinary, heavily masc leaning though - he smokes a lot have you heard this man good lord. i dont think allison is a fan of it - anger issues,, mostly caused by stress and a lack of sleep, hes trying his best :( - he has arthritis. hes not old but god do his joints fee like it. he has crutches !! like joey though he only really uses em at home 💀

Jack: - wheelchair user jack my BELOVED idk where the hc came from but im all for it - he cant walk, but is able to get around just fine! watch him try and do wheelies to impress sammy only to almost fall over - 100% autistic as well. him and sammy are able to be autism together - unlabeled aromantic - hes such a loser /loving

Grant: - poor guy gets chronic headaches someone give him some painkillers - hes got generalized anxiety disorder this man cannot get a break - demisexual and demiromantic,, mans is double demi

Shawn: - adhdtism 😭 - LOVES to talk, he could go on for hours dude - i feel like he knows a lot of ridiculously obscure knowledge. for why? dont worry about it - he gives me genderfluid vibes - literally just some guy

#batim #bendy and the ink machine #batdr #bendy and the dark revival #headcanons #joey drew #henry stein #wally franks #sammy lawrence #norman polk #susie campbell #allison pendle #buddy lewek #daniel lewek #daniel buddy lewek #tom connor #thomas connor #jack fain #grant cohen #shawn flynn #the projectionist #buddy boris #allison angel #alice angel #malice angel

[rzyraffek]

hello again jiji (walks on all fours and leaves his order) a reaction from the slashers (the ones you want) to a y/n that draws nsfw of them (again, I love the other one) KISSES AND THANK YOU SO MUCH♡

Omg its u again🙄/j As always thanks for reuqest!! Sorry it took few days to write I was sick😔pronouns she/her Requests open

Slashers reacting to y/n nsfw drawings of them

Asa emory

He just came back, he is rarley home so he assumed she will be out or sleeping

He went into house and streight into bedroom(bug men needs sleep too😴)

He saw the drawing just vibing on desk near bed, he really looks at Her stuff but he choose violence today

"Uhhhhh🧍‍♂️" "wha, oh ur home😊 nice to-Asa what are you looking at?😨" "Uhhhhhh🧍"

Asa did expect her to miss him (due to him being all busy and away from home most of time) but like?? Gurl? U down bad pls??? She could say so? "Aww poor loney thing, you know you could just text me~" "🤯NO😳Asa its 4am😩🤨"

I mean Asa is very very creative men im sure He will figure something out, how to make it up to her.

"I always thought you prefered bugs tbh" "I- You mean like in bed??🤨" "yea😔" "wtf🧍"

Ghostface

Man just came back from lovley killing spree he had, he was ready to tell her all about stupid people he encoutered today

"Im back honey! Ooh- she left little gift for me awww*sees the drawing* 😳😍oh myy i didint know you had those ideas"

Btw she in fact did not leave it there on purpose and she did not want him to see it

"What what u screaming about *sees it* ohgodno i can explain really I-"

If he will try to tease her, she should just shmack him really🔨, he stops or gets bullied by his gf

Once per few weeks he will radomly remind her of sins that she commited, she will exprience flashbacks

Heelshie Brahms

Man was watching her draw for good 30minutes, of course she had no clue, he was in walls

He didnt really know what she was drawing but she seemed really blushy and into it. And we all know that Brahms is curious creature ofcourse he will look at stuff she drew

Bro got into the room while she was out doing chores. He took the paper, and looked at it for good few mintues until "oh I forgot my towel-BRAHMS WHAT ARE YOU DOING IN- NNOO DONT LOOK" "Bloody hell what am I looking at🤨"

He wasnt flustered or anything He just kinda 🤨💀

"I mean if you have any Dreams you could ju-" "NO NO I DONT IM GOING BACK TO AMERCIA"

She in fact didnt go back to amercia, and he stole the drawing btw

Yautja

Ah😍 he came back from hunt, ready to give y/n a lovley gift!

Oh mate im back from hunt! I- what- what is that- what is the meaning! I- Mate explain!!"

Alien man got confused

He will carry it all the way to place where shes vibing rn (bonus points if they leave with other humans/yautjas cuz He wasnt covering any of it) "WHAT what, what you mean mate??? I- I do not understand :( "

Guys pls be patient the big guy does not understand :(

Its even worse because not only she has to wittnes her lover being all 😨😔😍 but in addition she has to explain it to him?? Duble boom

"If you crave anything mate, you could just tell me🙄"

This is post made by asexual gang. Shout out to all asexual gang members. Remeber to like and subscibe to join asexual gang

Not the best fics, i would rate it 6/10 in funny scale.

#slasher x reader #slasher headcanons #asa emory x reader #asa emory #collector x reader #the collector x reader #the collector #brahms headcanons #brahms heelsire x reader #brahms the boy #brahms x reader #brahms heelsire #ghostface x reader #ghostface

[triptych-of-voids]

Would love to see you expand more on ace Undertaker, I love hearing all kinds of headcanons for him

im biased towards my own headcanons but i love to see other peoples hcs as well !! i think theyre so fun but anyway i will gladly elaborate on my asexual undertaker hc :]€

so of course there isnt really anything in canon to support him being asexual other than Vibes, but what made me think of it in the first place was that ive noticed when a character is very popular and a lot of people find that character attractive, then they tend to have a lot of nsfw or ship related fan content and tend to be seen as very sexual by a majority of people. which is fine in most cases i think, i just like to do my part and toss an asexual hc into the mix for the sake of having something a little different. also im asexual myself so its nice to have some rep even if its only in the form of a headcanon. all that being said,,,,

i dont think undertaker would be attracted to anyone or have much of an interest in sex but i dont think he would be repulsed by it either. quite the opposite actually, and i think its fun to view ships involving him through that lens,, hes not sexually attracted to them but if he cares about someone enough and feels close to them then sure! some people tend to view asexuals as completely disgusted by sex and incapable of having or wanting it, but i dont think that would be true in his case. its just not very high on his list of priorities. i do think hed be a romantic tho. hed love his partners a lot and do anything to make them feel happy and loved, possibly even to his own detriment if thats really what it took. in terms of how he would react to other people finding him attractive, if they were someone he really cares about then he might feel a little bad about not being able to reciprocate but hed do his best, and in general he probably wouldnt think he deserves to be seen like that but! i think he would still appreciate it and be very flattered!

im not sure what else to say in terms of specifics or anything and this has gotten a little bit long but yea! :]

#thank you so much for the ask ^^ #also. people that ship ut with cloudia and/or othello. i see you i am looking :]€ #i feel like theres more i could say but thats probably enough ajsjfkf #asexual #headcanon #kuroshitsuji #undertaker #black butler undertaker #replies from the void #the doc is in

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

I wonder if any other aspec has the same thoughts of me - basically, seeing a label, seeing that it fits with their experiences, but also being apprehensive to use it; because it fits but it still feels alien to use or possibly their simply scared to use it. Like me.

So for some background, I am in my late twenties (cis woman, she/her) and discovered that I was asexual in my mid twenties, and then discovered that I also was on the aromantic spectrum too a like two years ago. *For the most part I know my identity - Greyaro ace with sensual/aesthetic/alterous attraction and a desire for a QPR. And these labels fit me very well so I am comfortable with those. The reason I discovered this revelation so late was because at 16 I had a crush on a girl and since that queer experience I have gone back and forth on what labels I am. At the time my knowledge of orientations were limited to gay, straight, and bisexual. So, bc I also liked boys, I went back and forth on being bi or being straight to just (once the crush passed) seeing it as a 'fluke' and continuing to think I was straight. Teen Me: Well I don't want to have sex with her so clearly whatever these feelings are, are just confusion.

(And of course because of heteroallonormativity I never once questioned if I wanted to have sex with boys (I didn't it didn't even cross my mind) I just assumed I did. Mind you I don't have ANY romance/sexual experience so a lot of my thoughts are hypothetical at that time and couldn't be tested out. By couldn't I mean no on in my school wanted to touch me with a ten foot pool so ya know it wasn't gonna happen lol)

But even after leaving high school the crush always was at the back of my mind and I kept searching until I found my answer, which took a literal decade but I got there! It was even harder when I barely had crushes as I got older. I experimented with labels, i.e I went by aroflux for a bit but that never sounded right in my mouth; I thought I was demisexual but that wasn't correct. So labels do help me and I do view them as important while also believing that I don't need to use EVERY label and or going unlabeled is an option. However, because I'm greyaro I still feel romantic attraction and due to that I feel like I need another label (if I choose to communicate it out loud - still not out yet due to circumstance) to explain who my romantic attraction is directed toward when it happens.

This is where the *For the most part comes in; I'm not sure if I'm scared/nervous to use bi with my identity because then I have truly let go of me being straight in any form. And yes I know this is a biphobic mentality and not even really true because I can be in a straight relationship (looking wise) and still not be straight. And maybe I'm so nervous to use that word because when I first thought I was bi, as a teenager, it freaked me out and that freak out still has carried over with me today. Yea being ace isn't straight but since it has no attraction direction its like a hazy 'im not hetero' while bi is a clear 'im not hetero' and it makes me feel more exposed? Not sure that made sense. I don't want to feel or think this way either.

I use other labels to show my fluidity with attraction. One being fluid, I like that but in conversation I would still have to explain more because not everyone understands what fluid means. Two being queer but I do also feel alien using that too. And its weird that I even consider using queer as a label but am scared of using bi, like??? That doesn't make sense, queer or bi still isn't straight so I should be fine with using bi. I also thought that using panromantic could work however the bi definition fits me more than the pan one does.

Since I have no one to talk to about this I think a lot about it from time to time and I do be questioning everything.

And I'm sharing because maybe other aspecs had the exact same experience and I just wanna see if I'm solely alone in this.

One thing that can help with this is to try and surround yourself with more queer people and media, and that can really help normalize these identities and feel the stigma of them less. Whatever you're comfortable with, whether it's following people on social media or checking out your local lgbtq+ chapter and seeing if they have any events, all of it can make a difference.

I'll throw this out to followers, has anyone else had similar experiences that they feel comfortable talking about?