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moniqueyelias · 5 years

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singleinsyracuse · 8 years

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If at first an idea does not sound absurd, then there is no hope for it.

Oh, hello there. Long time, no talk. My profound apologizes for making you wait.

I’ve had a lot going on lately and haven’t had much come to me by the way of inspiration. But I have heard your battle cries for another entry, so here I am. Have no fear. Megan is here!

So first of all, Happy New Year! ( A little, late but the sentiment remains the same.)

Overall, 2015 kicked my butt up and down the street. But in the end I came out a stronger, better person than I was going in. So thank you 2015, it was nice knowing you.

But enough about 2015; 2016 is here and in full swing. I have decided that this is this the “Year of Me.” I am doing a little soul searching an figuring out what I can do to better my life so that I can be in a good place no matter what life decides to throw at me. You may have notice my “Happiness is” on instagram and Facebook. I am trying to look around me more often and figure out what makes me happy with my life. I am finding it quite rewarding.

That leads me to an interesting experience I had at a New Years Eve party.

A common question I am asked is “how is online dating going?” To which my normal response is “it’s going.” (I had been talking to one guy for awhile at that point but that went no where.. more on that later.) So this night was no different than any other night I spend with my friends. It is an important adventure in my life and I am not particularly quiet about the fact that I am doing it… hence the blogging about it.

At the party, I was with two good friends, my forever friend Ashley, and our mutual (equally awesome) friend, Jen. Both of whom have been with their significant others for years and years, so they missed the wonderful world of modern dating/online dating. So we were talking about the whole experience and I showed them my profile on OkCupid. We discussed that the profile perfectly describes me. I believe Jen said “if I saw you on here I’d date you!” We talked about the issues I have where no one really answers me when I send messages. And that any real conversations I am having with anyone seem to fizzle to nothing. We could not come up with anything that I was doing “wrong” that would cause me to not have a lot of results on these sites.

So I decided that it was a good idea to ask Ashley and Jen’s husbands what they saw. Mind you, these two men were slightly lit, and had both obviously been out of the game as long as Ashley and Jen had.

So I handed them my phone and had them take a look at it.

The results I got were quite enlightening and gave me a lot to think about.

It is important to note here that Ashley’s husband, Derek, has known me in some capacity since the 8th grade when Ashley and Derek started dating. Everybody aww.. I’ll wait… Okay, now that that’s over :-)… and Jen’s husband Evan, had only met me handful of times in his life.

I found out that overall I look like a nerd (in the most positive of connotations, but a nerd nonetheless). I also talk a lot about books and may seem too smart to be approached by someone.

To which I responded, I AM a nerd, I DO like books, and I AM smart. I was at first dumbfounded by this response. I didn’t understand how these things could be deterrents to potential suitors. After talking more about the situation I learned that a lot of what I am presenting can come off as intimidating, for lack of a better word. Looking at my profile as it is, makes it difficult for a man to take hold of something he can relate to and start a conversation with me about it.

But in the end, because of these facts, no one was pickin’ up, what I was puttin’ down. If you catch my drift.

From this enthralling conversation I learned that I need to consider my online profile not only as a reflection of me, but it also needs to be arranged in such a way that it attracts those I am marketing myself to: men.

It reminds me of those old dating videos people would submit to match making companies in the 80′s and 90′s to show to potential women or men. Don’t know what I’m talking about? You might have seen this gem floating around the inter webs. As cheesy and ridiculous as these may seem, it is basically the same situation that I am going through right now, only modernized, but thankfully, not quite as creepy and mullet-y.

I have a small area of space to display photos of myself that best reflect my adorableness as well as make someone understand who I am and why they should want me. #MeganforPresident? So I need to utilize this space to the best advantage as possible.

I ended up taking off some one the repetitive things off of my profile that show that I like to read, that I like books, and that I never intentionally leave the house my without kindle. I understand now how that can be difficult for someone to talk to me about.. because not only does it make me look nerdy, but it also makes me look a little boring. Reading is a very solitary hobby and does leave room for someone to join me in the past time.

I still have not changed the bulk of the “About Me” section. It still says (if you need reminding):

Quirky, book lover. Introverted Extrovert. Optimist with an Umbrella. Aspiring Jeopardy Constant. Sherlock Enthusiast.

I still get about the same amount of absurd messages that I did before.

So there is still work to do.

I don’t know about you, but I was not looking at online dating that way until I learned that I should. I need to “learn to forgive myself not knowing what I didn’t know until I learned it.”

The struggle continues.

More to come. (sooner than later, promise)

M.

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when-balloons-dont-pop · 10 years

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I just want a boyfriend so I can do cute things for him and give him awesome sex and share my weed all day everyday in adorable ways and give him half my pack of reds like "anything of mine is yours my love" and that's all I want.

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androgynine · 6 years

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This is America • #Androgynine | #single | #blackblogger | #girlboss | #fashionista | #lifestyleblogger #blogging #blackgirlswhoblog #bblogger #singleblogger #blacksingles #blackgirlmagic #blackgirls #situationships #relationshipadvice #selfcare #instagram #instahub #instagood #insta #girly #singleblackwomen #blackqueen #androgynineQUOTES

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androgynine · 6 years

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When they ask me how I’m living • like a Boss • Blessed and highly favored 🙏🏾#palmtrees #caliliving #bossbae #calichick #Androgynine | #single | #blackblogger | #girlboss | #fashionista | #lifestyleblogger #blackgirlswhoblog #bblogger #singleblogger #blacksingles #blackgirlmagic #blackgirls #selfcare #instagram #instahub #insta https://www.instagram.com/p/Bnhl1jHF7MA/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1m0w7tw8q9lzi

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androgynine · 6 years

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androgynine · 6 years

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androgynine · 6 years

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Bisshhhh don’t play w/ women like us 🤣😂🤣😂💯 • #fatshaming #fitnessmotivation #curvygirls #slimthick • #lol #browngirls #Androgynine | #single | #blackblogger | #lbc | #girlboss | #fashionista | #lifestyleblogger #blogging #blackgirlswhoblog #bblogger #singleblogger #blacksingles #blackgirlmagic #blackgirls #confidence #fitness #beauty

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androgynine · 7 years

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This little guy always comes to visit me at work 🐿 #squirell #fall #fury #animals • #Androgynine | #single | #blackblogger | #lbc | #girlboss | #fashionista | #lifestyleblogger #blogging #blackgirlswhoblog #bblogger #singleblogger #blacksingles #blackgirlmagic #blackgirls #situationships #relationshipadvice #selfcare #instagram #instahub #instagood #insta #socal #calichick #singleblackwomen (at Los Angeles, California)

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androgynine · 7 years

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I’m the police officer’s eyes in the back 👀 • She did NOT come play with you h*es• #blacklivesmatter #blackwomenmatter #usgovernment #uspolicy #policingblackbodies #Androgynine | #single | #blackblogger | #lbc | #girlboss | #fashionista | #lifestyleblogger #blogging #blackgirlswhoblog #bblogger #singleblogger #blacksingles #blackgirlmagic #blackgirls #situationships #relationshipadvice #selfcare #instagram #instahub #instagood #insta #singleblackwomen

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androgynine · 7 years

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Sometimes you have to be blunt and sometimes you have to be vulnerable • being a grown woman is knowing what you want and how to convey that to the world around you. It can be sweet or mean but at least you know who you are abd what you want. That’s what makes a person attractive • #Repost @refinery29 (@get_repost) ・・・ “They can only know my worth if I know my worth.” Another @badgalriri-ism we’re gonna get tatted on our chests– add it to the list. 💫 #Androgynine | #single | #blackblogger | #lbc | #girlboss | #fashionista | #lifestyleblogger #blogging #blackgirlswhoblog #bblogger #singleblogger #blacksingles #blackgirlmagic #blackgirls #badgalriri #singledom (at City of Long Beach)

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androgynine · 7 years

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🙏🏾 #Androgynine | #single | #blackblogger | #lbc | #girlboss | #fashionista | #lifestyleblogger #blogging #blackgirlswhoblog #bblogger #singleblogger #blacksingles #blackgirlmagic #blackgirls #situationships #relationshipadvice #selfcare #instagram #instahub #instagood #insta #girly #style #socal #singleblackwomen #blackqueen #androgynineQUOTES

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androgynine · 7 years

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Period • #godlywoman • #virtouswoman #praying #Androgynine | #single | #blackblogger | #lbc | #girlboss | #fashionista | #lifestyleblogger #blogging #blackgirlswhoblog #bblogger #singleblogger #blacksingles #blackgirlmagic #blackgirls #situationships #relationshipadvice #selfcare #instagram #instahub #instagood #insta #socal #singleblackwomen #blackqueen #androgynineQUOTES (at Long Beach, California)

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androgynine · 7 years

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Congrasswoman Nydia Velázquez #puertorico 🙌🏾 • #oppression can happen to anyone anywhere • #Androgynine | #single | #blackblogger | #lbc | #girlboss | #fashionista | #lifestyleblogger #blogging #blackgirlswhoblog #bblogger #singleblogger #blacksingles #blackgirlmagic #blackgirls #situationships #relationshipadvice #instagram #instahub #instagood #insta #girly #america #latina #usa #trump #singleblackwomen

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androgynine · 7 years

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Don’t we all wish that wish • 🕵🏽‍♀️ 👑 • #Androgynine | #single | #blackblogger | #lbc | #girlboss | #fashionista | #lifestyleblogger #blogging #blackgirlswhoblog #bblogger #singleblogger #blacksingles #blackgirlmagic #blackgirls #situationships #relationshipadvice #selfcare #instagram #instahub #instagood #insta #girly #calichick #singleblackwomen

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androgynine · 7 years

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Happy #nationalboyfriendday ❤️#noboyfriend still got love for you 🙌🏾• #Androgynine | #single | #blackblogger | #lbc | #girlboss | #fashionista | #lifestyleblogger #blogging #blackgirlswhoblog #bblogger #singleblogger #blacksingles #blackgirlmagic #blackgirls #situationships #relationshipadvice #selfcare #instagram #instahub #instagood #insta #girly #singleblackwomen #blackqueen #androgynineQUOTES (at Long Beach, California)

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