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[shmaroace]

HAPPY ACE WEEK !!!

#almost forgot to post something ive been so busy :/ #ace #asexual #acespec #ace week 2023 #shmaroace

[emmmerson]

this is my follower stats for the past month. i have bots following me faster than i can block them (i got 3 in the minute while i was writing this). you can see where i tried to go through with blocking them (the flatter slopes) but there are too many for me to block now and i genuinely don't have the energy to report and block each and every one

#i just. what the fuckkkkk what the fuck #i can't block them all even though i absolutely fucking should #my actual post interaction is super low and follower count doesn't really matter but for fuck's sake #shmaroace tag

[aromantic-diaries]

Hi ,

Do u have any aro positivity posts that I can read? Been feeling down and left out cuz of being aromantic . Kinda sucks rn and just want to feel better. Been reading loveless again but it's being too much too cuz on my 11th re read

Alrighty I'm gonna go fetch some positivity posts from my blog for ya

Here

Here

Here

Here

These are some pretty nice ones I think. Also I recommend reading through some posts by @aspecpplarebeautiful @arohumor @shmaroace @aaa-battery-not-rechargeable and @romance-evil-aro (among the many wonderful aro blogs on here, you might even find some other similar blogs through them) and checking out the aro positivity tag

We may just be a handful of loners scattered accross the world but the aro community on tumblr is a really pleasant and welcoming space and I hope you'll find some comfort. I sure have

#anon #mail time

[aro-archers]

do you have any aro blog recommendations? i’m looking for some to follow

here are some that i reblog a lot from: @local-aro-cryptid, @actuallysafe-for-aro, @arokill, @shmaroace, @pplatonic (not technically but he's cool af), @arominders

#asks #i'll untag if wanted btw

[aceoffangirls]

I posted 425 times in 2022

That's 415 more posts than 2021!

67 posts created (16%)

358 posts reblogged (84%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@thearoaceplantmom

@daylightsimon

@delusional-mess

@arguablysomaya

@shmaroace

I tagged 113 of my posts in 2022

#asexual - 38 posts

#aroace - 36 posts

#aromantic - 34 posts

#lgbtqia - 28 posts

#ace - 21 posts

#asexuality - 21 posts

#cupioromantic - 15 posts

#aro - 15 posts

#aromantic spectrum - 14 posts

#heartstopper - 11 posts

Longest Tag: 136 characters

#anyone have any good merlin fics where the knights watch all the times merlin almost died as well as all the times he cried i need angst

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

Soooo I made another meme

641 notes - Posted August 5, 2022

#4

Happy Ace Week to all my fellow Aces, here is some garlic bread

1,092 notes - Posted October 24, 2022

#3

Can someone make a quiz for ace and aro spec people to tell if they are having a crush or alterous attraction to someone, because I like need help.

1,109 notes - Posted July 29, 2022

#2

You know I think aces are the most chaotic as we basically

Just want to eat cake

Just want to eat garlic bread

Just want to eat really anything

Want a dragon

Plan world domination because we are immune to the human desire of sexual attraction and will soon rule the world and steal everyone's cake and garlic bread

Forget we are asexual because we found someone pretty and go through the realisation for the fifth time that week, that yes sexual attraction is a real thing that people experience

1,293 notes - Posted September 30, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL ASEXUALITY DAY

Happy Ace day to all my fellow Acespecs

To the Asexuals, Demisexuals, Greysexuals

To the Aceflux’s and cupiosexuals, 

To the lithosexuals, fraysexuals

To all those on the ace spec that I haven't listed 

To the sex favourable. the sex indifferent, the sex repulsed

To those who are acepec: arospec, hetero romantic, bi romantic, homo romantic, pan romantic 

To those still questioning or confused 

To all those who are apart of this community (sorry if I did not list above)

You are all valid and beautiful. 

Happy International Asexual Day 💜 🖤🤍

7,177 notes - Posted April 6, 2022

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[transmasc-wizard]

🫠

I laughed audibly when I read that you were aro. I'm aro and I've never met another aro before!

oh there r like a billion of us on this site

those that come to mind that i think are bigger in the community (? maybe my perception is warped but i think so) include gay-otlc sonicaro genderkoolaid local-aro-cryptid scaryaro aro-who-reads aspecpplarebeautiful aroplatonic and shmaroace!

also several of my mutuals are aro or arospec too

#asks #riley-phoenix

[alien-ally]

I posted 398 times in 2022

That's 398 more posts than 2021!

61 posts created (15%)

337 posts reblogged (85%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@shmaroace

@wannabehuntress

@aro-aro-aro-ace-ace-ace

@kissimirrit

I tagged 354 of my posts in 2022

Only 11% of my posts had no tags

#aa mine - 181 posts

#reblog - 112 posts

#aromantic - 94 posts

#aro - 54 posts

#aroace - 34 posts

#aplatonic - 31 posts

#loveless aro - 25 posts

#loveless - 24 posts

#asexual - 23 posts

#ace - 19 posts

Longest Tag: 132 characters

#not at me imagining getting married and leaving home and sharing a bed with an absolute stranger and finding it absolutely repulsive

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

Signs you are aroace:

- perpetual boredom

- you have an eye for quality

- you struggle to make posts like this

(unreliable source suggests 89% accuracy)

18 notes - Posted July 1, 2022

#4

Perks of interacting with aspecs online:

- You can talk and have fun without being worried of unflattering advances

- There’s an automatic solidarity established 

- +1 new ally attained 

- You can be nice and compliment each other without the worry of it getting mistaken as flirting

- A kinship you rarely (or never) find irl

(feel free to add more >.<)

28 notes - Posted May 8, 2022

#3

Peace

So I see tumblr has been giving me daily prompts as part of the mental health month so thought to post a little entry:

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about”

- Rumi

Peace is that I think. When you’re able to lie down on that metaphorical grass unrestrained. It’s the serenity that comes with knowing that you or someone has got you. Hence, it can be found in crisis too I believe. It’s feeling all the weight disintegrate from your mind loosening the taut braincells. Peace is the small smile that grazes your lips on a nice dewy morning. Peace is knowing you’re on the right path🤍✌🏽

74 notes - Posted May 3, 2022

#2

Koisenu Futari

Finished watching koisenu futari. The moment I saw it on tumblr I knew I had to watch it and to no one's surprise it has been life-changing. Representation wise and story wise it just kept getting better all the way. I had a smile on my face throughout, while different emotions flickered in my eyes.

Within 4 hours, they tackled so many of the jabs aro/ace and loveless people get, it got sort of overwhelming. And the fact that they did it without being insensitive towards any of the downplayed identities. Without using the ‘we can still feel xxx love' or 'we can still form xxx relationships’ to validate aspecs. Cause no matter where you lie on the ace/aro/apl spectrums, you shouldn't have to be redeemed. The variety of interpersonal relationships portrayed was just chef’s kiss. The entire scene of Sakuko in the aspec club. How one pair of people only called each other when they needed help and still referred to each other as family. Seeing that made me incredibly happy, as an aplatonic that desires some form of a comradeship. Reminded me once again that it’s okay to work out something out of the norm, as long as it’s comfortable for me and those involved.

Personally, as someone with zero allies in real life, I've depended solely on myself for reassurance. So it gets exhausting. Terribly so. Figuring out that you greatly differ from the majority at a young age and battling the perpetual estrangement that follows. Realizing that apart from my family and a few friends no one might ever get to see certain sides of me. Only to get heart broken by my parents who may never truly understand me. For all the times I felt hopeless, every night I spend scrolling through tumblr and aven forums unable to fall asleep. All the instances I thought of coming out to my brother and parents, except dint because I was waiting to reach an age at which my words would hold more credibility. Dealing with the incessant triggers strewn around carelessly. For every single time I felt compelled to justify my experiences and orientations, my right to know myself, when my touch-aversion and lovelessness felt like a disability. The sheer horror and befuddlement that crept up to me while watching the news, finding out about the monstrosities that happened to young girls , children and women. None of it comes from trauma, but without me knowing, at some point, being this way became my trauma. All of it has been portrayed awesomely by this show. It reminded me that although it may seem that way for now, I'm not alone and will eventually find more people like me.

I enjoyed all the characters in the story cause despite their initial bad responses towards their beliefs getting challenged, they were willing to learn. Willing to accept even if they dint necessarily understand. Some even eager to learn more (spoiler: Kazu). But most importantly watching this made of realize just how many tropes could come up if we experimented with aroace characters. We only get crumbs of representation but just IMAGINE the countless plotlines and relationship dynamics we could come up with for aspec characters!!! Including the fake dating trope, lovers to realizing you're aspec to becoming allies trope and so much more. There is so much waiting to be explored. I'm tired of watching people marvelling about love. Now can we please explore lovelessness? I tell you IT'S JUST AS EXTENSIVE as the mighty love itself.

This is probably my hundredth time editing this post. I just can’t finish expressing what I feel about this. Each time feels as though I’m missing out on something. The ending was the most best and perfect ending to ever exist. In the end, home is just somewhere you can return to, someone you can split chores with, someone that motivates you to try out intense recipes (cause when you get to share the food you make is when you reach true content of a successful recipe), someone to help you with your vegetable garden and house maintenance. Someone you can go shopping with. It’s literally anything you want it to be. A family (subject to change) is what you want it to be.

The many times the words aromantic and asexual was shown on screen was simply immaculate. Each and every word uttered by Takahashi deserves a separate frame. From his dream of building a vegetable kingdom to his eccentric udon making tactics. Plus yes, his love for crabs. Can't miss out on that. Sakuko's amiability, love for long coats and Kazu's neverending absorptivity topped off by Maya's affection for pandas.

I give this show an absolute 10/10. Someone is saying we should replace 'sending love' with 'sending cabbages' among aroaces omg that sounds amazing.😭 Underrated vegetable cabbage supremacists please gather around immediately

Okay I'm finishing off, as for my last words: Yeah. People who can't fall in love exist. I'm one of them. But that's not the point. The point is

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89 notes - Posted April 9, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

So I'd changed schools this year (junior in highschool), and just a few days ago i overheard a couple of my classmates talking about the lbtqia+ community and asked them if they knew what the 'a' in the acronym stood for, the first answer was asexual, to which i proceeded to tell em it stood for aromantic, agender and some other a-specs, from how they were so eager to learn i went 'wanna know a fun fact?' and came out to them as aroace (later greyapl as well). They told me that now that they know, it kind of made sense lolol. And today in the break while i was reading my book they came up to me asked how their favorite aroace was doing :/ and what my fav flag was

Today again, in the bus i asked another one of my classmates if she knew what the 'a' in the acronym stood for, first answer was agender, i was totally blown away, went woahhhh and proceeded to say what else it stood for. Then. . . she said at one point she thought she was aro. At that point i was enchanted, I Am Aromantic! i told her. we talked about it for a bit, when i discovered and identified with the terms etc. until my stop came. I told her how important that conversation was for me cause I'd never spoken about it to people irl, much less even meet people who knew the terms. She said she was touched. I said, no I am touched.

If those two interactions dint light up my entire car ride (yeah someone has to pick me from the bus stop, school bus sucks ); back home, rest of the day, coming weekend, next week and possibly this entire month. One of them is bi and another bi questioning (the one who questioned being aro). For once, perhaps the first time, to be myself, even if i wasn't trying to be anything else, to have people know, perceive me for what i am, i dint know what sort of weight it had on my shoulders until it was lifted away. Awesome people exist, just met some the past couple weeks and now will always remember these encounters as my first major coming out (i had already to my friends but this one felt different). I was overcome with so much elation, relief, happiness, joy, satisfaction, bliss, peace i wanted to scream it out. So here it is, it's not that hopeless after all

528 notes - Posted August 6, 2022

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[lonely-squeaking]

my best friend is VERY COOL and i honestly don’t know if i would be here today without them!!!!!!!!!!

#best friend appreciation post >:((( #ilyp!!!!!!!! #shmaroace #thank u for existing !!! thank u thank u thank u!!!!!!

[hondayota]

@shmaroace i love you bestie

#shmaroace #random

[bullshit-answers]

How do I ride a bike?

you don’t. you ride a unicycle now. boom i granted you powers.

#bullshit-answers #shmaroace answer #bike #bike riding #how to ride a bike #bikessss

[emmmerson]

WHAT THE FUCK.

#shmaroace tag

[emmmerson]

61 new followers today and every single one is a fucking bot !!!

#going to be 100% honest i do not have the energy to report and block them all but i know i should #shmaroace tag

[emmmerson]

i was averaging about two new followers a day and maybe 200-400 notes. right now i’m averaging ten new followers a day and around 1.3k notes.

#this is not me bragging this is me needing to rant and tell SOMEBODY #because it is low key stressing me out lmao #also like. i’m also proud of myself for making it here and i like to think i’m doing something good #shmaroace tag #t: img #em.txt

[emmmerson]

hi what the actual fuck did i wake up to

#i thought this was my follower count for a second #i have fewer followers than this. i feel ill #shmaroace tag

[emmmerson]

it's funny that i didn't even realize i hit 1.2k followers the other day like it's insane how it's just regular for me to be like ''oh yeah i have over 1k followers'' when it was a huge deal for me to even hit that a few months back. it's not a lot, i know, but it means a lot to me

#thanks for sticking around i guess #shmaroace tag #em.txt

[emmmerson]

hit 900 posts on shmaroace girlboss slay moment

#shmaroace tag #em.txt