It’s up again 😭😭 I still have phenergan and zofran so even if the absolute worst happened I shouldn’t have to be like actually physically sick, right?? Like those two should make me not v* at all??? They’ve always worked in the past but can you get used to them??
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A "new US civil war movie" feels like a bad joke, and also an insult, since most of the people behind it will be safe in a bunker or a foreign country for the real thing in 5-10 years. But I get that being american means being undeserving of sympathy for this kind of thing, so I hope it's at least good entertainment for you (the movie and the real thing).
i suspect you are the same combative, doomer anon who has shown up in my ask box before. further asks in this vein will be ignored. because listen. going through life reading everything people say in a maximally negative manner, imputing malign intent where none exists, and reacting with complete hostility to everyone around you all the time makes you an asshole.
you are acting like an asshole, anon. perhaps you have a sympathetic backstory--depression, grief, anxiety, i dunno--that is an explanation of your asshole behavior, but it doesn't matter, because you are responsible for how you treat other people, both in meatspace interactions and anonymous online interactions.
and i want to be really clear about this because i see this genre of behavior all over the internet, and on social media sites in particular, and i am simply exhausted of patience for it. your overflowing anger, your doomerism (and doomerism is a deeply reactionary sentiment i also have no more patience for), your need to lash out at somebody, anybody, including pseudonymous strangers online--none of that need be a permanent fixture of your life, but it is an attractor state that requires some effort to escape. that work involves cultivating friendships based on shared positive likes, learning to let go of your anger, learning not to interact with kneejerk hostility and defensiveness, and learning emotional maturity (I recommend Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents; though in this case you are the "parent" I think).
all of which is doable--but only if you are willing to not act like an asshole, and decide not to make being an asshole a load-bearing part of your identity. frankly i do not care what you do. i would like it if everyone could be happy, but that's not the world we live in. fortunately for you, your misery comes from your own asshole behavior, and not from externally imposed conditions like war or social breakdown. unfortunately for you, most assholes i have known in my life are deeply wedded to being assholes, view their asshole behavior as a sign of their wisdom and perspicacity.
it is not. it is actually pathetic for a grown-ass human being to interact with strangers like this. like genuinely, deeply embarrassing. grow up.
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The rate of stomach virus in my area is the highest it’s been all year 🥲 actually in the whole state 🥲🥲 dear God I’m so scared why does it have to be a thing. I already have zofran and phenergan. My anxiety was JUST starting to ease off too. Life’s a bitch. Also- what the fuck kind of brain gets scared like this over vomit. It’s pretty ridiculous if you think about it but I can’t help it. I’d quite literally rather die.
Quite.
Literally.
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Hey got a question, is it normal for your heartbeat to beat rapidly wherever you look at really tense or angsty scenes?
It's Just a question I had in mind
putting these together because they're clearly related. i admit these have me a little bit stumped, but i'll take this in good faith and do my best! under the cut because of length.
topics include: physiological reactions to fiction, emotional reactions/empathy of creators, and finally addressing the unspoken question present in asks like this.
"is it normal to have a physiological reaction (heart beat, jitters, excitement, sadness, etc) to fiction"
absolutely! i cannot overstate how common it is to have reactions of any wide variety to fiction. the whole point of storytelling is to make you feel things! the reactions you have, their intensity, and the specific media or genre you'll have those reactions to will vary person to person.
in regards to angst in particular, like i've said on this topic before: reactions will vary. some people might get excited, others might get sad, others might feel it like a gut punch but in a really good and cathartic way. none of these are better or worse or more normal or more abnormal than the other.
"do i as a creator have an emotional reaction to the work i'm creating?"
i personally do, sure. i was actually quite explicit in the tags of the comic that came right before this ask that i found it hard to draw, because seeing kirby so sad was emotionally pulverising to me.
do all creators? no. do i feel a strong emotional reaction to all scenes? no. or all types of content creation? no. for me, prose is actually much easier to tackle than illustration; i can write trauma and suffering and psychological devastation until the cows come home, but drawing it is a different matter. consuming the work of others is different again. and this is different for everybody.
am i somehow morally better or more empathetic than an artist that doesn't struggle to draw characters sad? hell no!
being able to represent- in fiction- a strong emotion generally requires that you empathise with or at least understand that emotion. sometimes creators actually have to be able to turn this off to be able to create the content we make; the way we turn off strict adherence to reality in order to write fantasy.
if we couldn't do this, content across the board- art, movies, novels- would be flattened to nothing but the cheeriest and most mediocre parts of our day to day lives. no fun monsters (because those aren't real). no challenges to rise above (because those make us sad). no characters who have different experiences to us (because how could we imagine or feel for that).
and it would be okay for like... twenty minutes of all books containing 'the sun was shining and i woke up on time and had a yummy breakfast', but then it would suck, sorry. conflict and imagination are the root of content.
"it's just a question I had in mind".
a way to think about this might be; would you ask these questions about genres that aren't angst?
would you ask "is it normal to be happy when these characters finally reunite" or "is it normal to feel resolution in response to a happy ending" or "is it normal to feel excitement when a character has their cool hero moment".
perhaps it's because your reaction to angst is something you construe as negative, but if you wouldn't doubt your reactions to cheerful content, then there's no reason to doubt the reactions you have to angst either; these are just reactions!
fiction is designed to make us feel things, but what you feel will be up to you. no one feeling or response is better or worse than any others.
lastly, i feel like there is an unspoken question here that i don't like.
and maybe you didn't intend it. i'm going to extend that grace to you, and because you seem to need reassurance about this (though i will not be reassuring about this further. i do not like reassurance seeking from strangers and this is a boundary i am setting right now), this is not an attack or even a criticism. your questions are fine if they are coming from a place of curiosity and- i simply assume- that these are new or difficult concepts to you that you have yet to have explored or explained.
but on the good faith assumption you didn't intend it, and wouldn't want to do this again (especially if you message other creators), i think you should be aware.
because it sounds like this:
"do the people who make sad/angsty/dark content care at all or are you heartless to the suffering (of these characters). is angst/dark content made by bad people?"
i felt it the previous time i got a question like this too when it explicitly stated "you seem like a nice person", as if being a nice person was in contrast with what i was creating.
please. we are just people. the relative light or darkness of the content you make says absolutely nothing about your morals, your real life attitudes, or your ability to be an empath.
someone making cute animal art could be a school yard bully. someone writing a complex sci-fi warhorror fic could be the most altruistic and compassionate soul in the world.
in my experience, creators are some of the most empathetic people i have ever met, and many of them know their craft intimately. these are people capable of stepping into the shoes of others as easily as breathing. of sitting down at their work station every day and finding inside themselves a way to answer "how would this really feel?" so clearly and honestly that they can put it onto the paper for you to feel it too.
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actually (i'm sure i've made this post before but) because i always get people whenever i tag a post ocd being like "that's an ocd thing??? do i have ocd???" and the post is just generally about unwarranted anxieties. i feel like i have to explain
intrusive thoughts and unreasonable worries are not, in isolation, an indicator of ocd. ocd is an anxiety disorder, so it is just based in the same things as other anxiety disorders
if you find yourself having to DO SOMETHING in order to "combat" your thoughts or make sure they're not true - that's when it gets into ocd territory, because that's a compulsion. that's when you should be talking to a professional about ocd
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Maybe a hot take but if for whatever reason you cannot boycott maybe keep that to yourself? Don’t go around telling everyone and the dog “omg I have to eat McDonald’s 😢 I can’t afford anything else” because 1) there are plenty of better and cheaper options, trust me I’ve been there and I didn’t eat McDonald’s a single time when I was there. And 2) when you say things like that you’re clearly trying to get people to sympathize with you and reassure you that you’re not a bad person and you’re not doing anything wrong. People are literally dying, this situation is not about you.
Decades in the future, when all this is in the history books, people in Palestine won’t remember that you couldn’t stop drinking Starbucks because it’s the only coffee shop in your area. They’ll remember that people in a first world country refused to do the bare minimum to help them.
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