i/we didnt choose to be white or trans or male (even trans male) and we sure as hell didnt choose mental illness but point is that we didnt choose to be white and im sorry that my existence scares people who arent white but besides being understanding and compassionate to your experiences and life im not sure what else you want from us (good white people) i understand the struggle of finding good in the "other side" esp as a trans guy with a lot of cis friends and peers but please dont say "white ppl in general are 1000% the origin of the problem" i/we did not do anything to you guys :(
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If you want to learn math, no amount of good intentions and warm feelings alone is going to help you understand math.
If you want to learn science you can’t just sympathise with a biology textbook without reading it.
If you want to learn another language you can’t just smile at the text until you understand it.
So if you want to learn how to be an effective ally, you have to learn about the people you’re trying to help and the bigotry you’re trying to fight.
It’s a nice attempt but you can’t purely affection your way out of the bigoted teaching that the dominant culture taught you.
You’re going to have to do some studying.
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"I'm not calling you a bad person or a transphobe or an anti-trans bigot if you buy Hogwarts Legacy, but I will say - don't call yourself a trans ally while you do it. Because being an ally means being willing to give up something to actually stand with trans people. If you're not willing to fight alongside us or to give up something, then you're not really being an ally. You're just doing what you want anyways and just saying you listen to us when you're actively not."
- I'm Done With JK Rowling by Jessie Gender, 2:35:53
Radfems, terfs, transphobes, pro-patriatchy/sexists DNI
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allo queer people are all in favor of found family and queer friendship until you do it in an aro way that goes against amatonormativity and then suddenly that makes no sense to them.
it’s cool to combat heteronormativity but only if you do it by slapping different gender roles & labels over the same societal structures. when you’re not participating in those societal structures at all, suddenly all the cool allies aren’t on board anymore.
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So all of my roommates are straight, but I've started confusing one of them by declaring things lgbt, like-
Me: I'll probably wear these shorts to pride cause they're super gay
Her: *confused staring at my shorts*
Or
Me: oh my god this is a nonbinary lesbian
Her: the... stuffed unicorn???
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saw a post from someone about how using q//r is good or whatever bc “you should be banding together with your fellow freaks!” NO!!! NO!!! I DONT WANT TO BE A FREAK. HOW DO YOU NOT GET THAT. I WANT TO BE NORMAL. I WANT TO TELL PPL I LOVE MEN AND WOMEN AND HAVE NO ONE BAT AN EYE. I WANT MY LGBT FAMILY TO LIVE HOW THEY WANT TO AND FEEL SAFE!!! IM NOT A FREAK. THEYRE NOT FREAKS. BEING LABELED A “FREAK” IS EXACTLY WHY THERE ARE SO MANY SUICIDES AND SO MUCH VIOLENCE AGAINST LGBT PEOPLE. IDC IF YOURE “DEI” TRAINED OR WHATEVER, DONT FUCKING CALL US FREAKS!!!!
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If you want a weird piece of advice on how to treat trans men and transmasc people you know... I think my piece of advice is to hold off on calling us things like "cute", "twink", or anything adjacent to these if it hasn't been made clear that a person is okay with being described in that way. I promise, it's better to ask than to assume we're all the same, because it genuinely sucks when people make the assumption without even caring.
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People completely seriously calling a woman a "known homophobe", who accepted her partner of many years as gay when he came out in wildly homophobic times, remained close with him, supported him, and helped keep him company and look after him when he was dying while she had her own family with a small child... all because she was a bit bitter, possibly a bit shitty and not super accomodating to his lover and friends, who were not her friends, after his death?
Damn, dude, when did they change the definition of "homophobia"?
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not to accidentally poke a settling wasps nest buuut i am amazed that my year old ace discourse post got almost 1k notes and besides like... one new comment and a couple of fence straddling tags about ~this is phrased kinda mean or ~aces are queer but this has a point or whatever...
i got no negative asks... minimal annoying reblogs... no ‘because of you we’re dying in the streets’ type whining...
it feels so good. i honestly kinda thank tiktok for bringing back the bulk of the discourse nad making people realize how fucking stupid a lot of ace discourse shit sounds when said aloud. truly helped shift the tides
did NOT want to do ace discourse again in 2023 but if it had to happen i’m glad it happened like this
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Not a quote, but I drew SAINW Michelangelo for Pride Month. Happy Pride Month to all the LGBTQ and the Allies. I hate that my markers bled and smeared, but oh well. It's the only markers I can afford.
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the reason that a lot of queer folks lean towards distrusting cisallohet people, even without an individual reason, is that the reality is that cisallohet people do not inherently benefit from us gaining rights. as a result, the baseline for cisallohet people is to not care- whether that be about our struggles, our identities, or our experiences.
we, as queer people, always have to meet cisallohet people where they're at. a good chunk of our lives are spent trying (desperately) to meet the expectations that society has- to look, behave, and act a certain way- and when we fit outside of that, we are meant to feel like outsiders. we are forced into a cisallohet-centric society, and as a direct extension, we're forced to be able to meet cisallohet people where they're at. cisallohet people do not have that experience. we have to be the ones to explain our identities, our experiences, our oppression to them. when cisallohet people are confused or scared or made angry by us that still falls back on us. no matter what.
it is so much easier to look at another person and know that you're not going to have to explain to them your reality- they'll already know because it's their reality too and they do have reason to care about the suffering and joy of fellow queers. to know you won't have to explain your identity and instead can bond over a shared sense of self. I just know right away that with another queer we're going to be able to meet each other where we're at instead of the dynamic skewing heavily towards them.
this is why I skew towards distrusting cisallohet people and trusting queer people; I want my queer experience to be much more about celebrating myself than informing others. I'd rather not be at constant risk that my identity is going to be challenged or questioned.
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