#sacrificing authenticity for attachment

[adhdnojutsu]

"Stop making them gay"

The main reason a lot of male characters in Naruto didn't have a chance with each other despite being written like lovebirds, is because Shonen doesn't do "gay". Itachi was canonically more attached to Shisui than to Izumi and Naruto more to Sasuke than to Hinata, but Shonen insists to be traditionally masculine, and traditional masculinity rejects what it assumes of homosexuality minus its allowance for "manly tears" or flamboyant outfits. Instead, it exaggerates male friendships/brotherhood to a point that is far from credible and has to screech "no homo" as a constant disclaimer. The Naruto franchise may have started "low key shipping" SNS as a joke, but it's not a baseless one at all.

ShiIta are so similar to Romeo & Juliet, it's ridiculous. While they weren't from warring clans, they were loyal to warring entities and bound to be pitted against each other in the coup if it had gone down and Shisui been alive. The conflict between the Uchiha clan and Konoha was in the way of them being as close as they wanted to be, with Shisui being tasked to spy on Itachi and Itachi tasked to spy on the clan Shisui was loyal to, so they had to meet secretly. Ultimately, they were both sacrificed for peace and for what was left of their respective allegiances (Sasuke and Konoha).

Naruto stepped in repeatedly when Itachi was beating up Sasuke, but kept pushing Hinata to fight Neji against whom she clearly stood no chance and who was intending to kill her, because he is pathologically ready to disrespect Sasuke's wishes to save him, but projected his own, naive ideals onto Hinata with no regard for her life, just because it made HIM mad to watch. I mean, he was visibly shocked when Hinata confessed to him 16 years into their lives... She was never a priority in his life before The Last, and he probably would have equally lost it if Pain had beaten up Moegi that way, because he was already livid over Jiraiya, Kakashi, the village etc. and wasn't about to stand for one more friend getting killed by this terrorist. Hinata, at that time, meant little more to him than his other classmates, Sasuke did and always has. He literally asked her why she'd risk her life for him because he did not see or feel anything that would make that question redundant. Izumi wasn't mentioned once post-mortem except vaguely, by Obito, while Shisui's influence on Itachi, both ideological and emotional, is canon gospel. It's so great that I can't help but wonder if he used Kotoamatsukami on Itachi before giving him his remaining eye. "Friendship" and "brotherhood" are NOT "emotional co-dependency and self-destructive emulation". Neither is a healthy romantic relationship, but people in fiction more typically go insane over or sacrifice their authentic self for, (lost) romance than (lost) friendship or siblings.

There's also nothing platonic about stalking your "friend" to a point where he feels compelled to kill you while you're screaming that you're gonna break all of his bones if that's what it takes to keep him by your side. Nothing cute or sane either, mind you. Sasuke and Naruto are a lot like Sarah and Setsuna of Angel Sanctuary. Sure, they're meant to be siblings or sibling-like, but DAMN that's not a sibling-appropriate degree of obsession.

Shonen has a tendency to exaggerate the importance of bonds and convictions, but Kishimoto took it to a level that has licensing companies make jokes in the form of couple-coded merch or fan service scenes. Even if he didn't do it on purpose, he clearly did it on such a blatantly obvious level that you get shit like this:

#Naruto shipping #pro shipping #sasunaru #narusasu #sns #itaizu #itachi x izumi #shiita #shisui x itachi #shisuita #itashi #naruhina

[emblemxeno]

I know ranting about Birthright's localization is kind of my new obnoxious thing, but the really unfortunate aspect about it is that I very much love Birthright's main narrative structure and themes.

Much like how Conquest is a spin on how you're effectively playing the Camus role in the conflict and grappling with the baggage that comes with it, Birthright is also flip on the traditional FE plot. Instead of Corrin having his home taken over during war, becoming an exile/refugee, and needing to gather other allies to take it back, he actively sides against the home he knew his entire life. Corrin's desire to stop the war as quickly as possible and his disgust towards Nohr's crimes overrides his personal fondness towards Nohr as the place where he grew up surrounded by love and strong familial connection.

This is why his Birthright supports with Azura are about his fond memories with Nohr juxtaposing with Azura's abusive childhood and Hoshidans' general sentiment towards Nohra as a country, because the things he sacrificed when choosing Hoshido were his personal attachments. That's why Birthright's plot is an in-universe retread of Corrin's character: an inexperienced, but extremely kind-hearted and trusting prince who believes in the good of others. This is who Corrin was in Nohr, but since he's chosen Hoshido, that facet of his character must be built up with his Hoshidan allies. Why else would his Hoshidan siblings react with surprise and confusion over Corrin's naive choices? They don't know him, and so, Corrin's convictions and morality must be developed in order to have his Hoshidan allies trust his judgment. Otherwise, what was the point in siding with Hoshido? Why sever the bond with your adoptive family when your new allies meet your every decision with resistance and criticism?

Conquest, as many know, asks the opposite question. What's the point in siding with Nohr and your longtime family if Corrin's unable to change how his country operates? Why sacrifice personal morality, in that case? Birthright and Conquest are meant to be opposite but equal journey's for Corrin's character. Corrin wants peace to reign but are they willing to throw away either their ideals or their bonds to do that? Revelation, in the middle, then answers the question with "neither." Corrin doesn't have to sacrfice any part of his character to end conflict (hence why his personal authenticity and ego is challenged the most in Rev). He instead has to see how Nohr and Hoshido's war is senseless at its core and seeks to end it through both ideals and bonds. All three routes are supposed to work as answers to this question of choice.

And this is precisely why Birthright's localization is as bad as it is. Because any and all negative results of Corrin's decision to side with Hoshido are either sanitized or removed entirely, and Corrin's personality was changed from self-critical, sincere, and sensitive to cocky, sarcastic, and quick to criticize everyone else.

When Corrin no longer feels the personal guilt for his decision ripping his Nohrian family apart, or for his decision resulting in the deaths of Flora, Elise, and Xander, you remove the weight that choosing Hoshido is supposed to have. When Corrin is overly critical of the actions and words from Flora, Leo, Camilla, and Xander, as opposed to being sympathetic to their plight as a result of his choice, you instead enforce the idea "well obviously this is the right choice, and Nohr isn't" when none of the choices in that situation is supposed to be absolutely perfect or correct. By changing Birthright in this way, and leaving Conquest and Revelation mostly intact, you weaken the latter two stories. When BR Corrin is proactive, quick to shift blame, and self-assured, CQ Corrin reads as spineless, whiny and pathetic, and RV Corrin reads as wishy washy and self absorbed. What's the point in caring about what stories CQ and RV are trying to tell when the main character is so radically different from BR, and to many people, unappealing? Why else would Birthright be crowned the "only non-terrible story" in Fates, if not for the fact that almost all of the nuance around choosing Hoshido was scrubbed clean and replaced by a generic strongman (not even up to par of other action oriented lords in FE) in a Corrin costume? Birthright is now the "obviously correct" route that's headed by a badass who says fun one liners. What's not to like?

Corrin was written to be a specific character with specific traits: kind, naive, trusting, well defined morals, values personal attachments, quick to question himself, able to sacrifice a part of himself to attain a goal.

Birthright in its original script follows this just fine. Birthright's localized script inadvertently warps and simplifies its main protagonist, and so drags itself and the other two routes' stories down tremendously in the process.

#fire emblem fates #corrin fire emblem #fe14 #rant #fire emblem

[crystalsenergy]

Wounded Sun in Cancer ♋

✨☀️🩹 - The Astrology of Healing (Astrology + Ho'oponopono) ✨☀️🩹

To understand more about this project, check this post.

HEALING PHRASES TO SUN IN CANCER

I'm sorry for any moments when my strong attachment to the past may have hindered my growth and prevented me from embracing new opportunities. Please forgive me for holding onto old wounds and for not always allowing myself to move forward. Thank you for the lessons in the importance of emotional roots, and I love you, nurturing spirit, for your capacity to cherish memories and create lasting connections."

"I'm sorry for any instances when my fear of vulnerability may have led to emotional walls and distance in my relationships. Please forgive me for not always opening my heart fully and for any times I may have inadvertently hurt others by withdrawing. Thank you for the lessons in self-protection and resilience, and I love you, caring soul, for your ability to offer unwavering support and love to those I hold dear."

"I'm sorry for any moments when my tendency to nurture others may have resulted in neglecting my own self-care and emotional well-being. Please forgive me for not always prioritizing my own needs and for any times I may have sacrificed my own happiness. Thank you for the lessons in selflessness and compassion, and I love you, nurturing self, for your beautiful ability to provide comfort and care to those around me."

"I'm sorry for the times when my emotional sensitivity may have led to moodiness and withdrawal, causing confusion or discomfort for myself and those around me. Please forgive me for not always effectively expressing my feelings and for any unintentional emotional barriers I've created. Thank you for the lessons in empathy and intuition, and I love you, nurturing heart, for your ability to provide emotional support and create a safe haven for those I care about."

"I'm sorry for the times when I resisted showing vulnerability, fearing judgment or rejection from others. Please forgive me for not fully trusting that my authenticity is a source of connection and strength. Thank you for the lessons in self-protection and the value of self-acceptance, and I love you, brave soul, for your resilience in navigating the complexities of emotions."

#sun in cancer #wounded sun #wounded sun in cancer #cancer sun #astrology of healing #ho'oponopono #astrology + ho'oponopono

[allycat75]

I'm bored, scared and pissed off Boston Dumb Fuck!

So I just wanted to remind you, you are a fucking disappointment and I am scared shitless because people hate me and probably want to harm me for actions I had no part in, nor at all agree with.

But hey, at least you got on the trend early by attaching yourself to the racist, antisemetic wifey and her Nazi-loving friends. Maybe now you and David Duke can bury the hatchet.

I remember in an interview you said you couldn't wait to call someone your wife. Now that you have it, is it everything you hoped for? Is it special and precious? Does the gooey feeling inside make up for the fact that you sacrificed everything to get it?

Don't like what I am saying? Good! I don't like saying them. So come clean. Apologize. Work on creating authentic amends. And connect again with who you are- you burned it all down anyway, so make some major changes to your now pathetic life. Or do you want to stay in this dissociated, stoned fugue state forever?

PS- is this why I am shadow banned? Am I cutting too close to the quick for your handlers?

#boston antisemite #boston racist #do better #you are the company you keep #Scared and pissed off #brian wilson vibes #drank the kool aid #i don't like hypocrites

[f1rstresponder]

NEGATIVE ENNEAGRAM TEST

Enneagram Tests are often criticized for focusing too much on the positive aspects of a person’s character. Are you ready to face your Enneagram dark side?

Type 2

The Enneagram Type 2, often referred to as "The Helper" or "The Giver," is characterized by a deep-seated desire to connect with others by offering assistance and support. While this personality type is known for their kindness, generosity, and empathy, the negative aspects of their nature can create challenges in both their personal lives and relationships. Their negative aspects tend to take the following forms:

Overly Self-Sacrificing: Strong inclination to prioritize others' needs over their own, often to the detriment of their own well-being.

Validation Seeking: Seeking approval and validation from others by constantly helping and being indispensable.

Manipulative Behavior: Tendency to manipulate situations and emotions to feel needed and valued.

Hidden Agenda: Helping others with the underlying expectation of receiving appreciation or reciprocation.

Boundary Issues: Difficulty setting healthy boundaries, leading to emotional exhaustion and burnout.

Resentment: Developing resentment when their efforts aren't acknowledged or reciprocated as expected.

Ignoring Personal Needs: Neglecting their own needs and desires while focusing excessively on fulfilling others'.

Fear of Rejection: Constantly fearing rejection or abandonment if they don't meet others' needs.

Dependence on Others' Approval: Relying on external validation for their sense of self-worth and identity.

Loss of Authenticity: Suppressing their own feelings and opinions to cater to others' preferences.

Emotional Manipulation: Using emotions to control situations, often making others feel guilty for not complying.

Avoiding Conflict: Going to great lengths to avoid conflict and disagreements, even at their own expense.

Loss of Identity: Struggling to distinguish their own desires and identity from those they help.

Exaggerated Selflessness: Displaying excessive selflessness to the point of denying their own needs altogether.

Emotional Volatility: Swinging between feelings of selflessness and moments of frustration or anger.

Martyr Complex: Adopting the role of the martyr, using their sacrifices to garner sympathy and attention.

Conditional Giving: Giving with strings attached, expecting something in return for their help.

Neglecting Self-Reflection: Focusing so much on others that they fail to reflect on their own feelings and motivations.

Unhealthy Attachments: Forming co-dependent relationships based on their role as the caregiver.

Burnout: Constantly overextending themselves without proper self-care, leading to burnout.

Loss of Autonomy: Feeling trapped by their need to be needed, which can hinder their personal growth.

Fear of Abandonment: Worrying that if they stop helping, they'll be abandoned or unloved.

Validation Addiction: Becoming addicted to the emotional highs they get from being needed and appreciated.

tagged by:

stolen from dash

tagging:

@fiercehearts (carlos) / @txoubledtwxn

@blindbastard

@sxrgeantbarnes / @ncvelty (you choose!)

@burnedbxnesrumlow

@ssolessurvivor

@audaxbellator (grace) / @fireherc

@inkedmuses (carlos) / @princedickhead / @goldenboybarracuda

@shieldretired

@walkedfire

@localwebslingers (you choose! or both?)

@stxrksarc

@stillwcndering (claire)

i know i went wild with tagging y'all, even though i've never interacted with some of you... but i've probably been admiring you from a distance and i'm curious as to what your muse's result will be, so sue me 😌

#the last one 🥺 #very very true #dash game tbt #╰ 𝗧.𝗞. ┊ character study.

[autumncrowcus]

Let us to take a brief look at how Dionysiac religious worship survives in today's world indirectly through Dionysiac art forms and syncretism in Christianity. My interest is to see how the Dionysiac way of life is lived in small communities today, communities in which the psychology of the thiasos is a living reality.

In Andalusia, culturally the oldest part of Spain, the Andalusians live the syncretism of their culture and enrich their lives with two very strong Dionysiac art forms: the refined and emotional art of bullfighting, developed patiently down the centuries from the ancient ritual of killing the bull, and flamenco song, guitar, and dance. Death maintains a strong presence in both.

The thiasos affiliated with bullfighting are called peñas and tertulias (clubs) in which a group of aficionados gather around the name of their favorite bullfighter. One senses that there is a bit of the old worship of the hero as killer of the bull, or of archaic sacrifice, but, at the same time there are a lot of culturally sophisticated conversations, discussions, and lectures concerning the history and art of bullfighting. When the aficionados talk about bullfighting and bullfighters in their peñas and tertulias, they are making an indirect, though very real, connection to the primordial image of sacrificing the bull, with its strong Dionysiac imagery. Through this indirect mode, the members of the peñas and tertulias keep their imaginations alive with the help of a Dionysiac art form: the emotion engendered by the beau. ty of the fighting bull, the constant risks taken by the bullfighter, the memory of great faenas, and the deaths of famous bullfighters.

The historical origin of the present form of flamenco is uncertain. Historians of flamenco cite many strands that went into the making of this art: ancient Greek, Roman, and Jewish laments, Moorish elements, and, most important, the contribution of the gypsies. Flamenco has integrated all these elements and continues to display its Dionysiac capacity to integrate different cultural influences. These varied strands reveal the many levels that compose the Andalusian collective unconscious. J. M. Caballero Bonald notes, "The Andalusian possesses an astonishing capacity to assimilate diverse outside influences, transforming them over time into authentic manifestations of their own ancestral culture.”

The juerga is the most Dionysiac expression of all. It consists of a group (a thiasos) of flamenco singers and aficionados singing for days, waiting for the duende to appear, waiting for the emotion propitiated by the music. It happens when some mysterious quality in the song strikes the group simultaneously. One can say it is an emotion that arises out of the mystery of Dionysiac aesthetics.

The emotions expressed in all flamenco songs range from the most apparently superficial to the most complex and profound. The catalogue of different styles displayed in this genre of music is impressive, ranging from the light sevillanas, to the very dark tonás, martinetes, seguiriyas, and peteneras. The wide range contained within flamenco shows the wealth of Dionysus's possibilities and points to a Corybantic differentiation in which one finds the music akin to one's own psychology.

 The same communal Dionysiac feeling can be found in the cofradias (confraternities, associations). These associations are attached to the parish churches in Andalusia and devoted to a specific image, especially one of the many Virgins created by the Andalusian imagination, as well as to images of the Passion and Crucifixion of Christ. Such images are central to the processional rituals of the Catholic Church during Easter, but in Andalusia one can perceive the Christian tradition combined with the unique flamenco ingredient of the saeta, an unaccompanied voice singing to an image while the procession halts until the song is finished. One can see here a syncretism in which a strong Dionysiac emotion prevails. This syncretism with Christianity goes even further: in relatively recent times, the Rociera Mass has gained popularity in Spain. It comprises a style of flamenco singing attached to the worship of the Virgin of Rocio. The singing of the Rociera gives to the ritual of the Mass an emotion, reminding us of the use of spirituals in the religious practices of the North American black community.

In flamenco and bullfighting, we can perceive the presence of strong Dionysiac forms of art.  However. t am aware that such art forms may be difficult for some of my readers to accept. Not everyone can endure the unaccompanied flamenco song called the martinete, an experience which, incidentally, makes me think of the mythological contest between the Dionysiac musician Marsias and Apollo, exemplifying two different ways of feeling and expressing music. Likewise, in the color and beauty of the bullfight, not everyone can endure the killing of the bull. It can provoke repulsion, but repulsion, too, is part of the Dionysiac experience.

There is more to say in relation to Dionysus and music. The Greeks praised the choral music of the tragic plays as the greatest form of their art, but unfortunately we know next to nothing about this Dionysiac music. In the ample iconography of the satyrs, those strange creatures with animal characteristics, the members of a Satiric chorus wore masks and played musical instruments such as the lyre, the pipe, and the flute. One wonders what sort of music they played; it probably roused the same sort of emotion we experience when hearing the Mediterranean pipes and flutes played in today's festivals.

Here jazz, another Dionysiac form of music, comes to mind. Jazz began as the musical expression of an oppressed minority, the descendants of the American black slaves, and developed its basic form in New Orleans. It was an improvised music, played after funerals, with a strong rhythm, expressing emotion and creating a Dionysiac consciousness of death. Modern jazz was born from this Dionysiac beginning; it developed and went on to achieve universal recognition. For me, jazz has been a great epiphany of Dionysus in this century. Its early beginnings evoke an image of a modern expression of the Dionysiac satyrical music of ancient times.

-From Dionysus in Exile: On the Repression of the Body and Emotion by Rafael Lopez-Pedraza

#dionysus #jungian analysis #mythology #greek myth #music #books #quotes

[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: hi! i have troubles with self-identifying and figuring out my type but mostly i tend to think i'm infj after all (lots of questions from infj here as i noticed probably that's common for this type to doubt own self-perception since our tendency to avoid the truth about ourselves).

i have this thing that i'm prone to be "therapist" to my friends even though they didn't ask me to i just feel like that's the only thing i'm good at like listening and having "deep" conversations but recently that mask isn't enough for me and i get really frustrated cuz i don't care enough about what they say and can't say that to them.

sometimes i don't even wanna talk to them cuz i know that they will keep talking only about themselves and i'm not able to stop them from doing that maybe because 1) i keep them as friends cuz i can get smth from them like fun time or simply networking connections but that makes me feel sick for having this kind of intentions cuz that's just not authentic 2) or i just don't respect myself, my energy and my time at all.

am i being too self-centred here? i was okay with playing that role for a long time until my best friend told me that they see that i have cold personality and just simply don't care much and it just made me realise who am i lying then?? i know my intentions weren't always right but I've been there for all of them after all even when i couldn't be there for myself. so i keep sacrificing myself for nothing? basically yes.

but other my friends tell me that i'm a giving person which isn't contradicting for what i've said but i don't understand how i could be "caring, loving" for some and "cold, detached" for others. probably i spent too much time with later ones so they can see right through me. i don't wanna be perfect just wanna know who i am so i can work with it. i know you can't tell me that but maybe you can give me some perceptive on that.

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One thing that you should be learning from type theory is that people are complicated. They are capable of all sorts of intentions. The key point is how they choose.

You have chosen the role of "therapist" for the way it gets people attracted/attached to you. Is it fair to blame others for accepting what you willingly offered them?

You have chosen to wear a mask instead of showing what you really are. Is it fair to blame others for not really knowing you?

You have chosen to make friends with people who only use you because you wanted to use them too. Is it fair to blame them for taking advantage when you welcomed it and did the same in return?

You unconsciously made these choices because you wanted connection (for Fe), but do you see now how these choices have actually impeded connection? If you understand that these choices are harmful to you and also interfering with your development, how are you going to choose differently now? It isn't a crime to want connection. We all need love. But is there a healthier way to get it?

The more the different parts of oneself are at war, the more likely one is to exhibit personality dysfunction. This means, the more you think in oversimplistic either/or terms, such as, EITHER I care about myself OR I care about others, the more you feed the conflict within yourself, and the more fuel you give to the dark aspects of your personality. If you are INFJ, you are struggling with Fe and Ti conflict, and there are signs of slipping into Ti loop.

You haven't yet learned how to balance your own needs with others'. It is a very common INFJ problem. A healthy relationship should be between equals, should it not? This means both people are important and both should have their needs respected and honored. When both people thrive, the relationship thrives. Improving your social skills should be an ongoing process of learning, through experience, when it is important to attend to your needs and when it is important to attend to the needs of others. Please refer to past posts about how to communicate about needs, as well as the Type Dev Guide for how to use Fe and Ti appropriately.

#infj #infj relationships #auxiliary fe #ti loop #ask

[heroftruth]

NEGATIVE ENNEAGRAM TEST

Type 2

The Enneagram Type 2, often referred to as "The Helper" or "The Giver," is characterized by a deep-seated desire to connect with others by offering assistance and support. While this personality type is known for their kindness, generosity, and empathy, the negative aspects of their nature can create challenges in both their personal lives and relationships. Their negative aspects tend to take the following forms:

Overly Self-Sacrificing: Strong inclination to prioritize others' needs over their own, often to the detriment of their own well-being.

Validation Seeking: Seeking approval and validation from others by constantly helping and being indispensable.

Manipulative Behavior: Tendency to manipulate situations and emotions to feel needed and valued.

Hidden Agenda: Helping others with the underlying expectation of receiving appreciation or reciprocation.

Boundary Issues: Difficulty setting healthy boundaries, leading to emotional exhaustion and burnout.

Resentment: Developing resentment when their efforts aren't acknowledged or reciprocated as expected.

Ignoring Personal Needs: Neglecting their own needs and desires while focusing excessively on fulfilling others'.

Fear of Rejection: Constantly fearing rejection or abandonment if they don't meet others' needs.

Dependence on Others' Approval: Relying on external validation for their sense of self-worth and identity.

Loss of Authenticity: Suppressing their own feelings and opinions to cater to others' preferences.

Emotional Manipulation: Using emotions to control situations, often making others feel guilty for not complying.

Avoiding Conflict: Going to great lengths to avoid conflict and disagreements, even at their own expense.

Loss of Identity: Struggling to distinguish their own desires and identity from those they help.

Exaggerated Selflessness: Displaying excessive selflessness to the point of denying their own needs altogether.

Emotional Volatility: Swinging between feelings of selflessness and moments of frustration or anger. (sometimes)

Martyr Complex: Adopting the role of the martyr, using their sacrifices to garner sympathy and attention.

Conditional Giving: Giving with strings attached, expecting something in return for their help.

Neglecting Self-Reflection: Focusing so much on others that they fail to reflect on their own feelings and motivations.

Unhealthy Attachments: Forming co-dependent relationships based on their role as the caregiver.

Burnout: Constantly overextending themselves without proper self-care, leading to burnout.

Loss of Autonomy: Feeling trapped by their need to be needed, which can hinder their personal growth.

Fear of Abandonment: Worrying that if they stop helping, they'll be abandoned or unloved.

Validation Addiction: Becoming addicted to the emotional highs they get from being needed and appreciated.

#ouch this hurt #✦ | nuvema bound ❞ ( minor hc )

[inz-lokisdottir]

TEST HERE

thank you for tagging me @antvnger <3

tags: whoever would like to do so :>

K so, Inz got a tie between Type 2 ( The Helper / Giver ) and Type 5 ( The Investigator / Observer )

Imma copy and paste all the stuff it says under the cut (there’s quite a bit) and put all the stuff that’s true about Inz in green

Type 2

The Enneagram Type 2, often referred to as "The Helper" or "The Giver," is characterized by a deep-seated desire to connect with others by offering assistance and support. While this personality type is known for their kindness, generosity, and empathy, the negative aspects of their nature can create challenges in both their personal lives and relationships. Their negative aspects tend to take the following forms:

Overly Self-Sacrificing: Strong inclination to prioritize others' needs over their own, often to the detriment of their own well-being.

Validation Seeking: Seeking approval and validation from others by constantly helping and being indispensable. (This one is sometimes idk, it’s not something she does often but she might sometimes if she’s been having it rough and just wants to hear something)

Manipulative Behavior: Tendency to manipulate situations and emotions to feel needed and valued.

Hidden Agenda: Helping others with the underlying expectation of receiving appreciation or reciprocation.

Boundary Issues: Difficulty setting healthy boundaries, leading to emotional exhaustion and burnout.

Resentment: Developing resentment when their efforts aren't acknowledged or reciprocated as expected.

Ignoring Personal Needs: Neglecting their own needs and desires while focusing excessively on fulfilling others'.

Fear of Rejection: Constantly fearing rejection or abandonment if they don't meet others' needs.

Dependence on Others' Approval: Relying on external validation for their sense of self-worth and identity.

Loss of Authenticity: Suppressing their own feelings and opinions to cater to others' preferences.

Emotional Manipulation: Using emotions to control situations, often making others feel guilty for not complying.

Avoiding Conflict: Going to great lengths to avoid conflict and disagreements, even at their own expense. (Sometimes)

Loss of Identity: Struggling to distinguish their own desires and identity from those they help.

Exaggerated Selflessness: Displaying excessive selflessness to the point of denying their own needs altogether.

Emotional Volatility: Swinging between feelings of selflessness and moments of frustration or anger.

Martyr Complex: Adopting the role of the martyr, using their sacrifices to garner sympathy and attention.

Conditional Giving: Giving with strings attached, expecting something in return for their help.

Neglecting Self-Reflection: Focusing so much on others that they fail to reflect on their own feelings and motivations.

Unhealthy Attachments: Forming co-dependent relationships based on their role as the caregiver.

Burnout: Constantly overextending themselves without proper self-care, leading to burnout.

Loss of Autonomy: Feeling trapped by their need to be needed, which can hinder their personal growth.

Fear of Abandonment: Worrying that if they stop helping, they'll be abandoned or unloved.

Validation Addiction: Becoming addicted to the emotional highs they get from being needed and appreciated.

Type 5

Enneagram Type 5, often referred to as "The Investigator" or "The Observer," is characterized by a thirst for knowledge and a deep desire to understand the world around them. While this personality type possesses numerous strengths such as analytical thinking, independence, and a quest for expertise, the negative aspects of their nature can create challenges in both their personal lives and relationships. Their negative aspects tend to take the following forms:

Isolation: Tendency to withdraw and isolate themselves to conserve energy and knowledge.

Emotional Detachment: Difficulty expressing emotions and connecting emotionally with others.

Intellectualizing Emotions: Trying to understand emotions through analysis rather than experiencing them.

Hoarding Information: Accumulating knowledge and information as a way to feel secure and in control.

Fear of Depletion: Anxiety about running out of resources, leading to emotional and physical withdrawal.

Social Anxiety: Struggle with social interactions, often feeling socially inadequate or overwhelmed.

Overthinking: Spending excessive time analyzing and dissecting information, sometimes leading to paralysis.

Difficulty Asking for Help: Reluctance to seek help or assistance, valuing self-sufficiency.

Avoidance of Dependency: Aversion to relying on others, leading to a sense of autonomy.

Detachment from Body: Disconnection from bodily sensations and needs due to a focus on mental pursuits.

Escapism into Knowledge: Using intellectual pursuits as a way to escape from emotional challenges.

Struggle with Intimacy: Difficulty forming deep emotional bonds due to fear of vulnerability. ( sort of )

Overwhelmed by Emotions: Occasionally becoming overwhelmed when emotions do surface.

Perfectionism: Setting high standards for themselves and others, fearing incompetence.

Analysis Paralysis: Overanalyzing situations, which can lead to indecision and missed opportunities.

Defensive Intellect: Using knowledge as a defense mechanism against vulnerability.

Fear of Obligation: Avoiding situations that might require them to give more than they feel comfortable with.

Neglecting Physical Health: Focusing so much on mental pursuits that physical health can be overlooked.

Distrust of Others: Reluctance to share information or collaborate due to a fear of exploitation.

Loneliness: Struggling with feelings of isolation and not fully connecting with others.

Avoiding Conflict: Tendency to avoid conflict and confrontation to maintain inner peace.

Difficulty Expressing Needs: Reluctance to express their needs, even when necessary.

Overemphasis on Self-Sufficiency: Belief that they should be able to handle everything on their own.

Fear of Incompetence: Worrying about being inadequate or not having enough knowledge.

Resistance to Change: Discomfort with sudden changes or disruptions to their routine.

Oh 😦 maybe I won’t do this one for myself too

#antpapa #diagnoses lmao #inz answers #inz mun

[werspinna]

Negative Enneagram Test ! Are you ready to face your Enneagram dark side?

Tagged By: Walther von der Vogelweide! Tagging:  @hidefire @alchemaxed @iobartach @goblinfire @neonwebs @wovendeath @sickthem @voltedblood @spinxeret @books-and-right-hooks @kylo-wrecked @canoncompliance @attercopus @sleeperkeeper @bewitchingbaker @betterbutbitter @svperboi @itsybitsypeterparker @the-rogue-dragon @inhcritance @carnivorousfatality ! Your Result: Type 2 The Enneagram Type 2, often referred to as "The Helper" or "The Giver," is characterized by a deep-seated desire to connect with others by offering assistance and support. While this personality type is known for their kindness, generosity, and empathy, the negative aspects of their nature can create challenges in both their personal lives and relationships. Their negative aspects tend to take the following forms:

Overly Self-Sacrificing: Strong inclination to prioritize others' needs over their own, often to the detriment of their own well-being.

Validation Seeking: Seeking approval and validation from others by constantly helping and being indispensable.

Manipulative Behavior: Tendency to manipulate situations and emotions to feel needed and valued.

Hidden Agenda: Helping others with the underlying expectation of receiving appreciation or reciprocation.

Boundary Issues: Difficulty setting healthy boundaries, leading to emotional exhaustion and burnout.

Resentment: Developing resentment when their efforts aren't acknowledged or reciprocated as expected.

Ignoring Personal Needs: Neglecting their own needs and desires while focusing excessively on fulfilling others'.

Fear of Rejection: Constantly fearing rejection or abandonment if they don't meet others' needs.

Dependence on Others' Approval: Relying on external validation for their sense of self-worth and identity.

Loss of Authenticity: Suppressing their own feelings and opinions to cater to others' preferences.

Emotional Manipulation: Using emotions to control situations, often making others feel guilty for not complying.

Avoiding Conflict: Going to great lengths to avoid conflict and disagreements, even at their own expense.

Loss of Identity: Struggling to distinguish their own desires and identity from those they help.

Exaggerated Selflessness: Displaying excessive selflessness to the point of denying their own needs altogether.

Emotional Volatility: Swinging between feelings of selflessness and moments of frustration or anger.

Martyr Complex: Adopting the role of the martyr, using their sacrifices to garner sympathy and attention.

Conditional Giving: Giving with strings attached, expecting something in return for their help.

Neglecting Self-Reflection: Focusing so much on others that they fail to reflect on their own feelings and motivations.

Unhealthy Attachments: Forming co-dependent relationships based on their role as the caregiver.

Burnout: Constantly overextending themselves without proper self-care, leading to burnout.

Loss of Autonomy: Feeling trapped by their need to be needed, which can hinder their personal growth.

Fear of Abandonment: Worrying that if they stop helping, they'll be abandoned or unloved.

Validation Addiction: Becoming addicted to the emotional highs they get from being needed and appreciated.

#yeh that checks #headcanon #werspinna

[localwebslingers]

NEGATIVE ENNEAGRAM TEST

Enneagram Tests are often criticized for focusing too much on the positive aspects of a person’s character. Are you ready to face your Enneagram dark side?

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((Like I said I did this for both of them. And while this Peter managed to only score into one type(thank the gods) he did come REALLY CLOSE to two other. Like I'm pretty sure there was almost another 3-way tie. Since they were so high, and completely different from the other, I'll at least share what they were type 6: The Loyalist and type 8: The Challenger. Both of them managed to score in this type so...

MCU, aka Part Two

Type 2

The Enneagram Type 2, often referred to as "The Helper" or "The Giver," is characterized by a deep-seated desire to connect with others by offering assistance and support. While this personality type is known for their kindness, generosity, and empathy, the negative aspects of their nature can create challenges in both their personal lives and relationships. Their negative aspects tend to take the following forms:

Overly Self-Sacrificing: Strong inclination to prioritize others' needs over their own, often to the detriment of their own well-being.

Validation Seeking: Seeking approval and validation from others by constantly helping and being indispensable.

Manipulative Behavior: Tendency to manipulate situations and emotions to feel needed and valued.

Hidden Agenda: Helping others with the underlying expectation of receiving appreciation or reciprocation.

Boundary Issues: Difficulty setting healthy boundaries, leading to emotional exhaustion and burnout.

Resentment: Developing resentment when their efforts aren't acknowledged or reciprocated as expected.

Ignoring Personal Needs: Neglecting their own needs and desires while focusing excessively on fulfilling others'.

Fear of Rejection: Constantly fearing rejection or abandonment if they don't meet others' needs.

Dependence on Others' Approval: Relying on external validation for their sense of self-worth and identity.

Loss of Authenticity: Suppressing their own feelings and opinions to cater to others' preferences.

Emotional Manipulation: Using emotions to control situations, often making others feel guilty for not complying.

Avoiding Conflict: Going to great lengths to avoid conflict and disagreements, even at their own expense.

Loss of Identity: Struggling to distinguish their own desires and identity from those they help.

Exaggerated Selflessness: Displaying excessive selflessness to the point of denying their own needs altogether.

Emotional Volatility: Swinging between feelings of selflessness and moments of frustration or anger.

Martyr Complex: Adopting the role of the martyr, using their sacrifices to garner sympathy and attention.

Conditional Giving: Giving with strings attached, expecting something in return for their help.

Neglecting Self-Reflection: Focusing so much on others that they fail to reflect on their own feelings and motivations.

Unhealthy Attachments: Forming co-dependent relationships based on their role as the caregiver.

Burnout: Constantly overextending themselves without proper self-care, leading to burnout.

Loss of Autonomy: Feeling trapped by their need to be needed, which can hinder their personal growth.

Fear of Abandonment: Worrying that if they stop helping, they'll be abandoned or unloved.

Validation Addiction: Becoming addicted to the emotional highs they get from being needed and appreciated.

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Tagged by: @f1rstresponder

Tagging: @ghstspidey, @eideticspider, @the-mjolnir-owner, @what-the-stark, and anyone else who wants to steal this(you can blame me for it)

#dash games #muse | peter parker(mcu) #headcanon #((again they are way too accurate not to be basically headcanon at this point)) #((type 8 came out of left field and I did not expect to see that))

[37q]

context: a number of years ago i stepped off the path for 3 reasons 1. because i was generally too dissociative or otherwise-hollow to dharmically dissolve 2. to begin my ascent into madness and 3. to pursue attachment-bound sense of belonging.

meta context: it speaks imo to tardily developed social empowerment where i was chasing sensation i was literally incapable of feeling before that point, taking form in a trend of sacrificing personality traits that feel authentic for the sake of fitting in or ppl pleasing. i call it "petty" belonging in my head because instead of like working with a healthy recognition of impermanence it usually reifies hostile stigma by essentializing the subject of the stigma. like its all "fuck not-us" and "lets laugh at misery" etc but the sense of community is addictive. anyways

content: ive decided i want to be consistent with my worldview again! sometimes i laugh and it makes me feel worse. sometimes i resonate with a point that widens gaps. but i never like it in the end! going insane helped break my pursuit of social stability but it also made it harder to tether my self -- perfect sabotage for an imo unhealthy endeavor! i decided at some point "harboring ill will has more benefit to me in society than nonduality and compassion" and it was true until i realized that the harm it was doing to my soul affected my social position as well just based on how i allowed myself to change and what i encouraged in myself etc. so long story short im back to interrogating everything without fear of alienating my audience hahaha

[enneamage]

Sorry to the other anon but the live show wasn't the best. And he didn't even write it himself. (If you look at ash's vlog from the time he shows the dude who was helping behind the scenes.) Was a little sad when I found out and I expected way more tommy in the show but it just wasn't there. There was a distinct lack of tommyness - sure there was a lot of flavor and it was popular with the audience live but it really didn't feel that funny watching it. And as for your comment- if tommy becomes more 'authentic' in his content I'll be sad and uninterested. I don't watch him to get parasocially attached I watch him because he can at his best be hilarious and Act a character that's so engaging. But it feels like we've seen him at his best less and less over the past 2 years. I wish he'd stop worrying about passifing his fans, keeping 'in' with other ccs, (looks at dream and wilbur) and just go ham with his vid ideas. I remember he said himself he loves going live to put on a show. I'd hate to see him give up on that for audience appeal.

In order to be able to talk about a part of this ask that I wanted to focus on, I needed to try and sit through the live show in order to be sure I wasn’t mistaken about the format of the show. I struggle with watching live studio audience footage in general, so this one was an uphill battle.

When I think about how to translate a YouTube or Twitch talent to a live show my mind honestly goes blank. I know people are doing it and have done it, there’s tours like crazy out there and they’re constantly being refined, but I wouldn’t know how to break down the formula of how to get one energy into a different context, or if doing a live show means finding a similar but distinct vibe to bring into a room. It’s probably different for every performer so I wouldn’t be able to say what I would want changed about the show, but I do get not being wild about it. The show itself did feel like a test run, in a way that seemed endearing to the people who could go.

If I’m not mistaken he floated the Muppet theme as a song for the show, but it was shot down. I think he is broadly inspired by the red curtains and brass section “variety show” that the Muppets went for, though. An interesting fact about that is the non-puppet version of these live shows tended to be saucy adult-oriented evening theatre like Cabaret and Burlesque, where the variety acts got shocking and flirty to keep people entertained. This is a complete coincidence, but his “Lets see what I can get away with” bits weirdly gave me these vibes. Him taking on the saucy cabaret stage host persona is not destined for this lifetime, but it’s… a powerful image that I have been burdened with since watching.   

I don’t think that Tommy is ever going to drop out of his persona completely, because his persona is part of him. That sounds like a paradox, but he is authentically a performer, him living his best life involves being able to put on his big persona and have fun in that space. Making sure that he isn’t being crushed underneath it is one thing, but it doesn’t involve doing away with it entirely. He’s made of too many different parts to just collapse into one thing, especially in front of a camera, so I don’t think there’s risk of him sacrificing that aspect of himself completely.

#Unusual number of mimes / 10 #Unironically came to a greater depth of understanding of Tommy #When I saw how much energy he stores in his knees for the first time in the room decorating stream #He’s got wiggles #I saw him reading a Steve Martin biography in a picture of him once #An odd choice but I see it #gen tmmy tag #tubeposting

[lynxhairlounge]

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[derbykitchen]

10 Must-Have Kitchen Gadgets for 2024: Revolutionizing Culinary Excellence

In the fast-paced world of culinary innovation, staying ahead of the curve means embracing cutting-edge kitchen gadgets that promise to elevate your cooking experience to new heights. As we venture into 2024, the landscape of kitchen technology continues to evolve, with a plethora of gadgets designed to streamline meal preparation, enhance flavor profiles, and inspire culinary creativity. From smart appliances to ingenious tools, here are 10 must-have kitchen gadgets for 2024 that are poised to revolutionize the way you cook. Whether you're a professional chef, a passionate home cook, or a kitchenware supplier looking to stay abreast of the latest trends, these innovative gadgets are essential for keeping up with the ever-changing demands of the modern kitchen.

1. **Smart Sous Vide Precision Cooker**: Precision cooking has never been easier with the latest smart sous vide precision cookers. These gadgets offer precise temperature control and even cooking results, allowing chefs to achieve restaurant-quality dishes in the comfort of their own kitchen. With Wi-Fi connectivity and app integration, users can monitor and adjust cooking settings remotely, ensuring perfect results every time.

2. **Multi-Function Air Fryer Oven**: Say goodbye to bulky countertop appliances with the multi-function air fryer oven. Combining the versatility of an air fryer, convection oven, and toaster oven in one sleek unit, this gadget allows for healthier cooking without sacrificing flavor or texture. From crispy fries to succulent roasts, the possibilities are endless with this all-in-one cooking powerhouse.

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In conclusion, the kitchen gadgets of 2024 are poised to revolutionize the way we cook, offering convenience, versatility, and precision like never before. From smart appliances to innovative tools, these must-have gadgets are essential for culinary enthusiasts looking to elevate their cooking game and unleash their creativity in the kitchen. Whether you're a seasoned chef or a novice home cook, investing in these cutting-edge kitchen gadgets is sure to inspire culinary excellence and delight taste buds for years to come.

[sunshineraeseer]

Do you know how it feels for the people who claim to care about you to look you in the eyes and tell you that the bare minimum is all that they are willing to do for you, when you would give everything you are and everything you care about to protect and provide for them if they were in need or suffering the way you currently are?

It makes me wonder if this is what she raised me for, to readily derive pleasure from my service to others and be accused of mental illness as a result? Was i meant to be the sacrifical lamb? The offfering sucked dry?

If more people were altruistic, the world as a result would be kinder and safer, but to be selfish is normalized and gatekeeping is rewarded when we could help eachother grow so much further if we were open, seeing the value of life and moments instead of dollar signs. Why do people fear authenticity and vulnerability so much?

I don't understand greed or the peculiar prioritization accumulated materials valued more than human people in all their diverse brilliance, I'm forever wondering why the creations seemed more worshipped than the creators. It is so strange that the art is only valuable when the artist is dead.

Let me be clearer. I understand on a psychological level that people's attachments interfere with their ability to recognize and appreciate life. I understand that the dopamine created by the illusion of piles of important things causes a chemical dependence and an addiction to comfortable and unhealthy ways of being.

I can comprehend on some levels that greed is a result of the egos attempt to overcompensate for the loss of control it believes it once had instead of surrendering to the power of the universe, and it is just an infection of a long forgotten wound that keeps lashing out to perpetuate its own loneliness and isolation.

But I can't empathize. It goes against every Fibre of my being to throw away companionship and connection with others, though I remind myself to take nothing personally, and that my family of hoarders is not continuously choosing stale, musty illusions of memories over the child I still am inside, that I am left to nurture and love myself. I can't understand being so trapped in the past that you are unwilling to immerse yourself in the present opportunities. That's how hauntings are born.

#hauntings #childrenofhoarders #hoarding #neurodivergent #doyoueverfeellike #healing #venting