#masculine men can be gay

[somecunttookmyurl]

my boyfriend is not any flavour of queer. he says he "wishes he was" because queer people "just seem to understand the world so much" by which i assume he means we by default actually consider society wrt sex and gender, but he is unfortunately both cis and het. he's checked.

he carries around a copy of "the little book of lgbtq" in his backpack at all times in case he needs to look something up.

a good chunk of his youtube history is queer history / queer media / 'what it's like to be x' videos. he thinks all of you with the less famous identities (ie not the L G B or T) are very cool and funky and hopes you have a good day.

he knows he's straight because he has kissed men on several occasions and was not into it sexually. one of those times was a gay dude who promised to buy him drinks all night in exchange for a kiss and my boyfriend is nothing if not a wee whore. one of the others was kissing his gay friend who was depressed about not being able to hook up with anyone, because he is a very sweet wee whore.

he would do it again because he is very neutral on the kiss itself (not into it, but not grossed out by it. it's just a kiss, innit) and because he doesn't want people to be so lonely and sad that they cry in the smoking area of the club.

#i still think he has some gender fuckery going on that he hasnt unearthed yet #he grew up in a very MEN! ARE! MEN! community and is very insecure about his masculinity #he WANTS to be perceived as male but to the extent he frequently laments not being able to wear certain things bc they are 'too feminine' #and thinks women get cooler clothes than men #i mean we do but also you can just wear them it's goth attire its basically gender neutral by default #he started wearing (black) nail polish as a regular thing after we met and is just now branching out to other colours #he gets hit on by gay/bi men a lot which is funny bc he's always like #'i'm so sorry i WISH i was but i simply am not you are very handsome though'

[supercalime]

Just thought about sharing this frame right here

Do with it what you will

#the split second before the lips touch are always my favorite part to analyze like a psycho #sorry about the motion blur #this was a bitch to screenshot but I had to #for science #also can you tell that I really like Tommy and buck together and want them to be endgame? #I’ll hide the next bit in the tags cause some shippers are scary: #I don’t really want buddie to happen #im not against it but there is something about eddies actor #that makes me feel like he’s one of those bros is fine with gay people but not near him #and this is purely my own impression #I don’t think he said or done anything to give that impression #you know how there are certain actors who simply refuse to kiss men because of fragile masculinity #because I’m straight bro #anyway #Back to Tommy and buck #I really like them together and they better have at least one kiss as intense as buck had with other partners in the past #not just a peck like last week to get diversity points #ya know #shmexy kisses #lety rambles #tuck #bucktommy #evan buckley #tommy kinard #911 #911 abc #oliver stark #lou ferrigno jr

[roman-roy-apologist]

yeah ok i get it you don’t think transandrophobia exists but you do realize that it’s still bad to be shitty to transmascs right? you get that right?

#like you don’t get to be transphobic just bc you say ‘well they’re men so men can’t be oppressed’ #as if if there is never any intersection of identities that includes being a man #like first think of gay/bi men they experience a different kind of oppression than queer women do and it would be idiotic to argue that #them being men has NOTHING to do with the oppression they face #and then there’s black and brown men who are constantly painted as scary and violent in news and media and are disproportionately killed #by police officers #and you’re telling me that has NOTHING to do with how their identities intersect between being a POC and a man. ok #it makes no sense to me because look #obviously we live under the patriarchy which systematically oppressed women as well as anyone who deviates from #the cisheteronormative white masculine ideals and i’m by no means trying to say that ‘men have it harder’ #it just seems a bit ingenuine to argue that UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES CAN A MAN FACE OPPRESSION DUE TO THE INTERSECTION OF ANOTHER #MARGINALIZED IDENTITY #transandrophobia #transgender #transmasc #trans masc #trans man #transphobia

[pinkeoni]

I feel as though there is a desire to completely dichotomize byler when they don’t need to be polar opposites in order to fit together. They are individuals, but it’s their differences AND their similarities that make their dynamic what it is

#basically #you dont need to babygirlify one and hypermasculinize the other in order to make them work as a couple #(you dont need to gender role the gay couple) #one is gnc for the time period in canon and another one is masculine but they are both guys #and it is also OKAY if they both have internalized homophobia #they handle things in different ways but their shared experiences as queer men can help the other feel less isolated #their common interests is also what drives them close together #you can acknowledge facets of one without discrediting similar facets of the other #tldr byler has differences but they also have a lot in common and that is okay #delete later???? idk #byler #stranger things #will byers #mike wheeler #st discourse #???? #idk if i see this as discourse necessarily but tagging it just in case ppl dont wanna read it

[allthepandasintheworld]

Maybe this is a hot take but Clark Kent is sexy specifically bc he’s really strong but chooses to be kind and gentle send tweet

#not art #clark kent #Superman #i like him soft and gentle and a little awkward!!! #I’m like so gay for men who are sweet… who choose to be kind…… #like yes yes I know people think being good is boring whatever #i don’t give a fuck I think CHOOSING to be good #CHOOSING to believe in good things #that’s interesting and engaging and can be written extremely deep and very well #evil or dark Clark is… Noah fence but it’s kinda a bad take? like people think it’s subversive or whatever but it’s actually not #superman is actually very subversive already. he’s the pinnacle of masculinity and he is choosing to be kind and sensitive #two traits that are very not associated with masculinity #but you know what is? domination conquest and power tripping #like idk but I’m a little bit sick of the patriarchy I don’t really want to see more of it than I have to in the fiction I consume

[hyunjining]

y’all know louis isn’t toxically masculine lol he’s spoken multiple times about being a man who is emotionally open and vulnerable… what you really want to say is that you don’t think he’s gay enough 🤐

#he has shown so much love for men who aren’t traditionally masculine #and HE isn’t even traditionally masculine #he can be gay and like beer and sports i promise

[shojoboy]

Being Bisexual is sooo cool we can be any gender and be attracted to any gender any amount, we lovvvvve women and nonbinary people and men and even if we only ever date or fuck one of those we are still Bisexual. We aren't "half straight, half gay", because that's not how sexuality works. Sometimes it feels like we don't have our own community but tbh that's because, the Gay community? We in there. The Lesbian community? We in there. Trans community??? We in there!!!!!!!!!!!! Yippee!!!!!

#bisexual #happy pride month i figured i get to make at least one bi post #as a bi person i still feel very shunted to the side sometimes lol #like it still feels...esp for women (because patriarchy world) that sayong your bi means you're saying that you like Men the most lol #altho on the reverse i think plenty of bi men r also treated like staright dudes ''trying to be cool'' which has it;s own origins #and also like. if ur lesbian or gay that comes with a Community and a history and everything and being Bi is like. oh you're there too lol? #even tho Bi people have ALWAYS been in both the Gay and Lesbian communities! it's just more obvious nowadays because in the past... #being openly ANYTHING was hard and obviously it was easier for cis bisexuals to like. pretend to be straight. or if they couldnt... #they could pretend to be gay or lesbian! like we had to be somewhere #and not everybody has the strength and fortitude to b openly Bi when both straights and queers will give you shit for it #anyway. #everything Gay or Lesbian is also Bi you are not missing out by being Bisexual. you can call yourself butch and femme you #can be a bear or a twink you can worship femininity worship masculinity do drag go to lesbian bars ETC #and to the youngsters who feel like they have to call themselves Pansexual because they r nonbinary or date trans people: you do not #Bi people are ALSO in the trans community! WE'RE EVERYWHERE #BI WORLD NO ESCAPE #YIPPEEEE!!!!!!!!!!! #-_- #pol

[where-that-old-train-goes]

if you interpret a tough, rebellious, or chaotic character as an uwu softie just because they are queer, disabled, trans, etc, you are objectively wrong and i ask that you don’t talk to me

#shrike speaks #crutchie morris #nico di angelo #also this applies to always making trans men overly feminine #while refusing to have us be traditionally masculine. #yes there are fem trans guys !! #but we can also be tough. #and if you just refuse to accept that #there’s a lot you need to reassess. #disabled #gay #trans #queer

[roubee]

Made these at school out of pure boredom

#cookie run #cookie run kingdom #art #prune juice cookie #prune gelatin cookie #satsuma plum cookie #crk #artists of tumblr #kouign amann cookie #strawberry frybread cookie #traditional art #I STOLE- I mean borrowed my friends colored pencils for the kouign one #my friend said kouign Amann looks gay #btw the lil silly’s on the side r my fankids for em #nothing ship-related just own children for both of em #I would have drawn capsaicin if I can draw buff masculine men #which I can’t #so enjoy this for now

[blueberryblogger]

just saw someone recycling ye olde "X character doesn't read as Y identity to me, someone who doesn't & has never held that identity & thus am not as intimately familiar with mannerisms, tropes & characterizations that are typically associated with Y identity. There is no evidence for X being Y and you guys are acting insane."

like. do you understand that you are using the EXACT SAME excuse that other people are using to shit on YOUR headcanon that you're so attatched too because it has so much evidence?

did it ever cross your mind that it would probably be harder for you, person who isn't X, to pick up on subtler tropes & identifiers of X that you've never experienced because you aren't X?

like you get how it sounds like you're shitting on other wueer people?

#blocking another god damn fantasy high account that i really liked #because when people say 'theres no evidence for your headcanon' and theyre wrong its bad and tbeyre erasing underrepresented identities #but when YOU say 'theres no evidence for this' you are good and correct and the rest of us are just stupid weirdos #like oh my fucking god bro #if i see one more person who isnt fucking gay say 'erm actually fabian cant be gay he liked girls' im gonna lose it #gay men also experience comphet! #and it's not because he's 'effeminate' #because he really isn't THAT effeminate or flamboyant #he dances and he talks like a rich boy and those are the only two things i can think lf #that make him seem 'effeminate' #but like. dude rides a motorcycle from hell. he fights with a sword and plays football #he punched someone on the first day of school & routinely punches and gets punched by his friends #like. fabian is wildly more stereotypically masculine than he is feminine #most of us think Fabian is gay because up until he took interest in Mazey #he had exclusively expressed interest in girls that were unavailable or unobtainable #his 'type' was literally toxic and/or unavailable women #which SCREAMS comphet to anyone who has fucking experienced it before #'yeah i love women but only the ones i cant have amirite lads' #'classic completely heterosexual man behavior' #anyway #i think its incredibly rude to take people seeing their lived experiences in a character and say 'youre insane bc i dont see it' #especially when YOU YOURSELF have a headcanon that a huge chunk of people cannot understand fully but accept anyway because they get it #because they understand seeing yourself in a character and how important that can be #unlike you #vagueposting #me when i vague for the first time in like 3 years

[liightsnow]

*looking at season 3 steve* babygirl I'm so sorry people are already forgetting you 💔 my lip gloss wearing king

#stranger things #steve harrington #steddie #bi steve harrington #as a genderfluid steve harrington truther #the whole thing where ppl are so obsessed with him having to be masculine #just seems like thinly vailed transphobia and homophobia #men can still be men and BE feminine sometimes.. yall do know this right? #why are you letting societies gender constructs define your way of thinking #'writing queer men as feminine is bad' i want you to say that to my two gay uncles who were gay in the 80s and are masculine AND feminine.

[invisible-pink-toast]

i don't understand why everyone thinks you have to be one thing.

#you have to like cats or dogs. #you have to like hot or cold weather. #you have to be male or female. #you have to like men or women. #you have to be feminine or masculine. #you like to be kind? obviously you're some little naive flower. no you can't swear. no you can't get angry. #you like animation? you must only like little kid things. oh god we put on a violent movie - cover your delicate baby eyes. #you don't drink alcohol? you must be boring and hate fun #you're gay - why the hell would you enjoy a romance story between men and women? #you bought a skirt? finally! you can start being the woman we'd always hoped you'd be #you love your family right? that means you'll agree with everything we think right? #i'm just so tired #i'm so sick of being shoved into little fucking boxes or being forced to wear as many different masks as i can #to make other people more comfortable or to be more palpable for others to consume

[scarefox]

me: oh, iQIYI has a comment section?

few seconds later

me: HOW CAN I REPORT COMMENTS AND BLOCK PEOPLE?!

#not the same dumb mf from MDL commenting the same s*xist & xenoph*be trash under the Bed Friend episodes #he basically says feminine gay sassy men don't exist outside of BL cause he never met such a gay man in RL before in his american area #(imagine actually believing that does this man even go outside) #I blocked him twice on MDL because he has two accounts #and always comes with this sh!t when there is not enough masculinity in a BL #dude can take his american toxic masc a.ss out of this fandom if he hat.es it so much but no he rather whines about every BL #also the fact that James ... the guy who plays Uea got bullied in school because of his body shape and 'gender' makes this even worse #bed friend #iQIYI #bl drama #rant #vent

[falled-over]

i need to speak to a man my age or i will kill myself

#back home i got a good mix of genders amongst who i have befriended. here its all girls. because i go to an all girls school #i did not want to. i am a pushover #the other day i saw a white dude my age at the supermarket and i seriously considered going up to him and asking if he spoke english #^he is the only other white person ive seen in my ward lmao #other day a kid of maybe 17 tried to get me to join his sailing team. i almost said i would #if not men i need to find some masculine dykes at leeeast #time to look up gay bars near me. because i guess i can do that now wow. #the gay bit not the bar bit ive been to my fair share of shitass pubs