#just take trans women seriously

[transonlyspace]

pre t trans women deserve to be treated the same way as post t trans women

#transgender #trans pride #transisbeautiful #gender dysphoria #gender identity #transgirl #transfem #pre t #pre t mtf #just take trans women seriously #trans rights #trans issues

[dejectedlozer524]

Ok it turns out I ain't fucking finished here because it seems like everyone has stopped fucking talking about how @predstrogen @predesterone literally faced targeted harassment from terfs, nazis and the lolcow forms for YEARS to the point of her having to remake multiple times because she kept getting deleted due to mass report spamming and no matter how much she reached out to staff to ask them to help her they NEVER FUCKING LISTENED, then to further rub salt in the wound the ceo decided to personally delete @predesterone and ban her from tumblr for life just because Rita made a joke post wishing that the ceo would die in a car hammer explosion, then despite Avery not being on tumblr anymore the ceo took it upon himself to personally stalk her to twitter and breach data protection laws by revealing a bunch of blank blogs Avery had for shits and giggles just so he could keep personally harassing her, all this just for people to turn Avery's multiple year long harassment into "Ha ha another social media ceo had a meltdown!!! XDDDD" "CAR HAMMER EXPLOSION!!! XDDD", none of you actually care about the suffering of trans women and it fucking shows, you all make me feel sick!!!

#I feel stupid for having the slightest hope that people would actually take this situation seriously #but as always it seems the suffering of trans women is just one big fucking punchline to the wide majority of people #lozer post's #important #transgender #trans

[menhera-worm]

Long time no post lol anyway happy pride here are dzat and my HCs for em!!!! (More in depth in tags if anyone cares lol)

#my art #wormkingsart #bungo stray dogs fanart #bungou stray dogs #dazai osamu #atsushi nakajima #dazatsu #pride #pride month #so like I HC Dazai as bi with a female lean(controversial I know) #while Atsu is gay gay homosexual gay fruit boy AND ALSO TRANS #Dazai is like me where he loves all women and a very certain type for dudes lol(Atsu is one!) #anyway don’t take these super seriously they are MY HCs after all and I’m just a silly little guy teehee

[effemimaniac]

I really wish that chaser had a more clearly defined definition in peoples minds as "someone who has a trans fetish" which is obviously problematic for many reasons. I want to just live my life without being labelled as a chaser for sleeping with a lot of trans women for non trans related reasons. I'm a woman who loves all women and the type of women ive slept with shouldn't define me but it is what it is :,)

I mean even "has a trans fetish" can be pretty nebulous depending on interpretation. people use the words fetish and fetishisation to mean a wide amount of things, often entirely morally inert patterns of attraction are lumped in with the "problematic". personally I think it's the patterns of behaviour and beliefs that need to be defined and criticised. take for example the classic bi dude chaser that says trans women are ~the best of both worlds~, the problem with that isn't that he likes women more than men and dick more than pussy, that's completely morally neutral. in fact, it's a good thing that there are people out there who love us in body and soul and see our bodies not as something lesser but as equal or even preferable. the problem with it is the framing and context to it that sees us as something in-between or half-and-half in a novel way, to be consumed. it's the other side of the coin of transmisogyny, the social expectation of disgust fuels desire. the serious problem comes when you date a guy like this and find he doesn't treat you like the best of any world. in fact, he doesn't want you to be a part of any of his worlds except for one. the problem is when guys (and not-guys) like this leverage their less common attraction to manipulate trans women starved of affection into damaging and degrading situations and relationships. chasers are a specific species of predator who have the advantage of their targets being conveniently socially disadvantaged and exploitable.

#transmisogyny cw #abuse cw #but like that's just the beginning of it really there's a lot you can say about chasers #I get the jokes (and make them myself) abt t4t chasers or w/e and sure it's funny #but on another level I think the watering down and ironic usage can have real dangers #trans women defined and described the chaser in order to keep each other safe #so that we are better at recognising when someone has ill intentions and can see the bait before the hook #like we still have to take it seriously

[fromtheseventhhell]

I don't think y'all realize (or care) how much your definition of feminity/womanhood is rooted in white supremacy and how that negatively impacts BIWOC

#Black indigenous women of color for the uniformed #not even just the patriarchy straight white supremacist standards that were built around excluding women of color #woc are so masculinized / young woc are so adultified and both age groups are extremely dehumanized #violence against us is so normalized and never given the same weight as violence against white women #doubly so for queer/trans bipoc and femmes #this is why I'm never going to take /feminists/ who center patriarchal/white standards seriously #you are not for women you are for protecting and representing your personal state of womanhood

[dragonlights]

Like I don't Post about drama but vis a vis predestro's Tumblr ban, like. I don't necessarily think it's a good thing that we on the Internet have become so desensitized to threats of violence that we use them as jokes, but like.... That's been Tumblr culture for, what, a decade now? At least four years. Almost definitely longer.

And like. I've seen so much worse. Folks admitting to sending asks telling others to kill themselves!! Folks outright wishing x/y person killed themselves!!! Folks harassing trans folks (esp. trans women!)

But what gets this one lady banned was her man door hammer hand car boom-ass post???

Like, talk about enforcing the TOS from the wrong angle.

I totally get that part of it is "this person had their rule breaking reported en masse so something happened" but shouldn't the severity of the response have more to do with the severity of the offense, rather than how many people reported that user?

Like. The fact that we have to do mass reports to get anything to happen to anyone is ridiculous.

And, the fact that INCORRECT mass reports aren't punished more is also ridiculous.

There's also no report function for discriminatory content, or for seeing users harass each other. So... If you're not the one being harassed, your report does... Nothing??

Unless you, what scroll through someone's blog looking for things you could report as threatening violence??

On the "I hope every politician dies" webbed site???

There's obviously something fucky with their reporting system- either the way that reports are handled, or the way the severity of the reports are being judged.

Cause right now, it looks like they got a flood of reports from TERFs, photomatt saw a post about him, and went "well, fuck it, get her out of here" without looking at the context of HER BEING HARASSED FOR AGES. And that the post in question- the only one I saw shared!- was almost certainly a vent post for Said Situation that was...

Comically mishandled?

Like this one?

Like. Look. Do I think maybe at some point, on the "way too comfortable with violence on people I see as Wrong in some way" webbed site, a popular user said something that could actually be construed as a threat, and due to rampant transmisogyny got, got her shit reported?

Yeah, I can see that.

I don't follow her blog too closely, I know she does a lot of hyperbolic stuff. (as is Done on this Web site, again... I've almost certainly rb'd things just as bad)

But the example photomatt uses is hilariously bad and so obviously not a threat, and one would think, IN LIGHT OF THERE BEING ALLEGATIONS OF TRANSPHOBIA ON THEIR TEAM FOR YEARS, THEY WOULD BRING OUT A MORE CREDIBLE PIECE OF EVIDENCE THAN A LOONY-TOONS ASS DEATH WISH.

Just. The bar was on the ground and they still fumbled It! Fucking! Amazing!

#dragontalk #i don't like all her views on transandrophobia. but her takes on the ways trans women are policed are spot on. #but seeing this shitshow is wild! I've followed thia lady for ages and she's like. Intense but fine? #again. i don't follow her blog too closely! there might be more harsh shit that I'd never seen! #but. mostly i see a lady who's had to fight constantly. in a way lots of trans women have. to be taken seriously. #not as a threat. not as a joke. not as a hypothetical. but as a person! who's experience this like. #really shitty intersection of transphobia and transmisogyny and probably regular misogyny and like. l #i think most of us would get pretty snippy at that point too #and given we exist in a culture way too comfortable with wishing violence on people... yeah. #most of us would have wished ~someone~ got hit with a falling grand piano or an anvil or stepped on a rake so hard they died #just. truly wild times we live in. #maybe i should start a collection of 'this post wishes violence on someone' #maybe even narrow it to 'violence on someone who hasn't upheld state sanctioned violence during their life' #to cut out the ronald Reagan margeret thatcher queen lady ass violence wishes #which i can't even bring myself to care about. and that says something about me o don't think i like. but like. #but at the aame time too much colonial ass violence in this world. I'm Tired.

[cliveguy]

every time top surgery is getting discussed in the news a trans guy will be like wow it sucks that everyone is being so publicly disgusted by my body with no repercussions it's as though they don't think we're people with feelings. and then a million people will jump in like ALSO SOME CIS WOMEN (the only people who can get breast cancer) ALSO LOOK LIKE THIS. this picture of a trans man that everyone is calling a mutilated freak instantly made me think of cis women, and look at her living her best life! misgendering? i'm a trans ally but come on, it's a drawing, don't you think that's being a bit silly? art is about interpretation anyway - we should celebrate ALL afabs who get mastectomies, for whatever reason ^.^

#um.txt #its true trans people are mutilated freaks who have no right to want to not be called mutilated freaks by every major news outlet #but wont someone think of the cis people? #i understand the point when its made sparingly. but when its the first thing people jump on without even acknowledging #that trans people's bodies are currently a public spectacle for the public to gag over. well yeah it does feel like #they dont think we have feelings lol. #ntm people of any gender can have medical complications that lead to having breast tissue removed. so the constant comparisons to #cis women feel. well. this is word for word an exchange i saw on twitter and they were talking about afabs so lol #only 'afabs' are capable of getting breast cancer apparently. and breast cancer is the only reason for breast tissue removal. im so smart. #sorry this costa shit is pissing me off. my grandparents are telegraph/mail readers so u can imagine how its been going #watching half my family including my little brother be slowly radicalised against me bc of the right wing pull of this country 🥰 #and im powerless to stop it bc im just a wokey tra and they wont take me seriously 😁

[lesbiansanemi]

Sorry. Saw a gay trans man accuse a lesbian of being transphobic one too many times because they said they "hate men." Grow up. Grow the fuck up. I'm so tired

#like if you can acknowledge that people of color complaining about white people #or gay people about straight people #or trans people about cis people #has nothing to do with the actual group but is simply voicing frustration #an oppressed group voicing frustration and anger with the oppressor #but you can't acknowledge that when a woman says that about men? ESPECIALLY queer women? #you are at best fucking stupid #most likely just very misogynistic (internalized or not) el oh el #and i'm tired of it getting swept under the rug because no one actually takes misogyny seriously #esp when it's coming from any group OTHER than cishet men #it's almost like you believe women don't actually face systematic oppression #OR they need to be silent and demure about it and never voice frustration or be angry because WOMEN shouldn't act like that #which in of itself is misogyny #idk. like i said. i am just very fucking tired #and this is something i have experienced and seen so fucking often #and no one ever fucking talks about it because they're favorite thing to do is just scream 'YOU'RE TRANSPHOBIC' if you criticize them in an #fucking capacity #anyways. i'm done now. #goodbye #kaz rambles

[lesbocrocker]

we have to write about how ‘women are better then men’ in english oh my god

#🧶 #so great being trans and having to write about gender essentialism ❤️ #anyway just confirms my English teacher is either a liberal or a radfem #leaning towards liberal because she said ‘girl power’ #wow i love having the millennia long oppression of women being turned into a quirky debate about who’s better!!! #taylor swift was even brought up. the most white feminist to ever white feminist #she even fucking said ‘the sisterhood’. WHAT SISTERHOOD??? #so happy for all the cis girls in my class having their barbie moment. really happy #i mention trans people to my English teacher and she falls to the ground and starts crying #anyway don’t take any of this too seriously it just kind of upset me

[tkbrokkoli]

learned today we're gonna have to leave our bags and jackets in a locker room. so far so good

however, there is only one for men and one for women and i'd feel most comfy in a gender neutral one

like i dont wanna be a man in the women's room but i also dont wanna be the masculine woman in the men's room

#not fandom related #personal log stardate #trans stuff #ok so technically im a guy at uni except that i dont pass #like. im out as a trans guy to some class mates and ive introduced myself w a masc name and pronouns #despite that most ppl use she/her for me #so im in a weird kinda limbo where to some classmates im a man and to some im a woman #and either way ill have to be a guy in a locker room full of women or a woman in a locker room full of guys #at least from some of my class mates' pov #so now i could take a stand and use the men's room to affirm and confirm that im a man #but. im not??? like i am but im also not bc im trans masc nonbinary #but to use the men's locker room ill have to be a Man TM #and im just scared of the fact that #a) i have to fit into the gender binary even though i dont #and b) that i wont be taken seriously (bc i dont pass) #like i Do want to be a man in the eyes of society when i can choose it #eg name pronouns medically transitioning #but i don't want to be squeezed into the gender binary #when using the toilet or a locker room y'know #one thing i choose bc it makes me feel good the other one is forced upon me #and theres no way out and on thursday ill have to pick a locker room ugh. ill probably go w the mens room bc it aligns mostly w how i want #my class mates to see me but the fear the fear oh god the fear #this class keeps getting worse ugh. and i cant even skip it bc its mandatory ugh #like i dont think any of the guys will assault me or anything like that theyre all chill but itll be so weird and awkward #maybe some will be like yeah of course youre a real man bro! and itll make me feel good and affirmed but itll also make me feel like shit #bc im not. a real man. but does it matter? do i even want to be a real man and what is a real man anyway #i guess the problem here is my own self esteem? all i have to do is roll w it. fake it till you make it or whatever #but still. where is my gender neutral locker room :( #anyway i have to go to bed now bc ive been having a headache for half of the day now and it keeps getting worse now that its late #maybe ill ask some of my friends tomorrow what they think abt my locker room dilemma

[aromanticannibal]

remember when i was in high school in the equality queer feminist club and this one guy (cis and gay) i was friends with said catgender and stuff is stupid and doesn't exist and is making a joke of trans people and literally both i and the damn teacher were there like my guy. why do you care. Literally why. the resident trans nb fuck is telling you it doesn't matter. why are you acting like YOU are the authority on trans matters. who are you and why do you care about if someone wants to identify as a fucking cat

#this always just. i dont get it #like the catgender trans person isnt taking ressources away from other trans people and we're not taken seriously anyway? what are you on. #everytime someone wants to exclude some harmless label out of the community im just like. why do you give a shit. literally why. #they wont care anyway? the bigots arent accepting trans women or trans men or easy to understand nb identities why do you think telling #the xenogenders to fuck off is going to do. #but yknow. cis guy. are we surprised

[homunculusrex]

saw somebody on tiktok try and say that being sluggish in the morning and having a low libido is a sign of PCOS so buy my vitamins and im like HAVING HIGH T GIVES YOU A LOW LIBIDO?! have u met a trans man.

#yapping #it does NOT LEMME YELL YA #I am never NOT horny. #and have always been like this but T is making it WORSE #Yall need to just fuckin talk to ur doctor about PCOS or somethin bc the worst ur doctor will ask of u is like go on birth control? #and thats if u even want it treated you dont NEED to #Im not treating my PCOS bc it does nothing but benefit my trans ass #seriously getting diagnosed is as simply as a blood test #and treating it is NOT hard #over the counter acne treatments. Hair treatments for both the hair loss and extra body hair #Theoretically? Taking hormones might help? Ive never seen it suggested but i mean. Its not like a cis women cant take estrogen #btw if you get diagnosed please get a ovarian cancer screening you might be at risk #or at least according to my doctor i might be!!

[the-ace-lesbians]

People liking my posts dealing with trans positivity or misogyny is always so difficult because a lot of Unideal People have left annoying ass comments on it, so I always have to go through every blog that interacts with whatever the post in question is to make sure the first thing on their blog isn’t ‘FEMALES ARE PUSSYBOSS BABE XX QUEENS’ with the labrys flag and 50 posts in a row about how proud they are to be t3rfs or epic owns of posts asking t3rfs not to interact where they interact and make fun of the person for asking them not to interact.

#sometimes it is goddamn exhausting but i'm really good with just. #letting my eyes glaze over :relieved: #i tried looking into the points once #back when i was new to trans rights and everything #and i thought uhhh hey this is. mean. they sound like theyre being mean. #and though i didnt know it yet maybe my frustration might have uhhh #been because i didnt WANT to be a pussyboss queen who was pRoUd of my uterus #i wanted to be a gnc butch who grew facial hair and had a hysterectomy because i didn't want kids #so having these other women go #'but you HAVE to be acceptably gnc you have to be ACCEPTABLY butch if you look TOO masculine you're just like the MEN!!!' #or at least the spaces that i saw back then that became 'the worst' for me #made me go 'why the fuck would i side with you then???' #anyway that's my rant of the day. i think the worst of a community should be taken into consideration. #and the worst of i see of that community is (checks notes) bullying children struggling with their identity and siding with jkr #and the worst i see of this community is (checks notes) someone takes E and realizes theyre not a woman and now they have breast tissue. #which...im sorry but thats Nothing that's just Nothing at all we should love and appreciate all forms we can take dont be a pussy. #there's nothign sacred and unqiue about our nAtUrAl fOrMs we're weird ass animals who learned we could modify our bodies and we should. i #it's a BODY. it's a VESSEL. if taking hormones is bad then so is dying your hair or piercing your nose or getting your appendix out #in short shut the fuck up please god jesus christ #okay seriously now that's it #deerly loved #transphobia #transmisogny

[98gaybugs]

Sometimes it really hits me that if i did what i had to do to be happy i would lose the majority of my family and i dont know if im strong enough to do that the idea of it makes something within me break and i think id rather kill myself or be unhappy with who i am for as long as im able to withstand being this person rather than bare the idea of losing and disappointing them

#personal #loving people who dont take you seriously is so difficult like its not even that some of them hate the idea that i like women #its that they just dont take me seriously whatsoever #thats not even saying anything relating to being trans #its all so difficult and it breaks my heart to think about it #tw suicide mention

[catcatb0y]

This is the same op. The same post. Just edited.

I entered the notes expecting a TERF block list, but I was instead greeted with thousands of accepting and understanding queer people echoing the initial statement. Butch lesbians loving being called 'boyfriends', casual women enjoying "dude," or "bro," or "man," people embracing he/him lesbians, an abundance of love for drag kings, and people being incredibly supportive of gnc and genderfluid people.

But the edited post. Is TERF bait.

Like, taking it at the value that it's at (we should hate men because they can fuck with gender but we can't) is outrageously hypocritical??

Misandry (a predjudice/hatred of men and masculinity mirroring that of misogny) is not going to solve the demonization of masculinity within the queer community- which is a large part of WHERE the issue originates. The queer community and the non-queer community have two vastly different divides (which is important when considering the 'legitimacy' around discussions concerning misandry)

The reason [non queers] push or accept femininity in gay men is because of misogny, because it allows them to push a homophobic stereotype of gay men being 'basically women' and therefore [basically (lower than) men]. Gay men reclaim this stereotype by embracing said femininity, but that does not exempt them from the misogyny that they face as gay or gnc men*.

Because of that misogyny outside of the queer community, the people who use femininity to demonize gay men are appalled by the idea of using masculinity to empower queer women.

If this were the standard case within the LGBT community, it would already be rectified by the very people who have claimed to create a community haven.

But it's not.

Because the LGBT community has created a reactionary space based on the same principals that demonized them, but in reverse.

The reason that LGBT people aren't accepting of he/him butches or drag kings or masculine gnc women is because a large part of them has pushed out that masculinity and created a stereotype of femininity being the epitome of comfort and queerness. Gay women who attempt to co-opt any sort of masculinity are demonized by the (fear) of [the patriarchy] in the form of men, and their femaleness does not exempt them from the bioexistentialist misandry that has been birthed of TERF ideology*.

Because of, what's boiled down to radical reverse misogyny (which leads to reactionary misandry), the people who use femininity to (humble) and claim gay men as "safe" via are appalled by their very own Peak Of Goodness (women who are Pure and Good, who Only Love women who are Good and Pure) co-opting the very thing they have claimed to build a haven from.

(*It's the same principle in reverse. Feminine gay men still experience misogny, and masculine gay women still experience misandry. There is no predjudice that ONLY harms it's attempted target. Ergo: misandry would NOT help gay women who want to act masculine or to be a man.)

Misandry and butch lesbians cannot coexist. Misandry is the thing that gets trans women assaulted in women's bathrooms. Misandry is the thing that gets transmasc nonbinary people turned away at the door to queer spaces. Misandry is the thing teaching young lesbians to parrot "All men suck," like 'Polly wants a cracker'- because wild concept. Women- espeically wlw- who don't like men. Won't be welcoming and accepting of people like them (women (who love women)) co-opting the language of the people they hate.

#misogny #misandry #the way they intersect #seriously though how is demonizing men and masculinity #going to positively impact people who are masculine or take comfort in a percieved (man's) identity #if your campaign is against he/hims #that affects he/him lesbians as well #if you want to bully people who call themselves men #you will bully lesbians and nonbinary people and girls who take pride in being 'like a man' #if you demonize the idea of masculinity #you are hurting butches and transfemmes and tomboys #prejudice and hatred don't combat prejudice and hatred #the people who don't support he/him lesbians are the people who think aligning with maleness is a poison #the people who don't support butch lesbians are the people claiming trans women are just men #the people who turn their head at the mere mention of manhood are the people who fight tooth and nail to erase trans men's existence #the people who are stand the most against lesbian kings are the ones howling at the craze targetting our girls #the people who are appalled by women having fun with masculinity are the ones claiming that wlw who have only been cis wlw are golden #the LGBT hatred of masculinity was not born by the standard hatred of femininity

[theamazingannie]

I’m sick of Zionists (plus transphobes and racists who do this too) pretending to care about women to suit their agenda. If you REALLY care about women being raped, where are you when 1 in 6 women are estimated to experience sexual assault at least once in their lifetime? Where are you when most rapes aren’t even reported because no one believes women? Where are you when most reported rapes are dismissed because of a “lack of evidence”? Where are you when most rape cases that go to trial fail to get a conviction? Where are you when the ones that DO get a conviction only lead to a jail time of a few months? Where are you when the cis white men in your own country rape women and make jokes about raping women and beating women and treating women like shit? Imagine if all the people who use the rape of women to suit their agendas used that energy to care about ALL rapes. Imagine how quickly rape culture would end. But you don’t actually care about women. You just know that the people who side against you care about women, so you use that to appeal to them. PROVE you care about women other than when it’s useful to you. Attack the rapists in your own communities instead of ignoring those ones and only attacking rapists outside your communities

#Im just SICK of the hypocrisy and tunnel vision #clean your own damn communities before attacking others #you are not better than them #be fucking consistent or not a damn person is gonna take you seriously #we SHOULD care about trans women rapists and black rapists and Muslim rapists #they need to be called out too #but do not only call them out and ignore the cis white men around you who barely get a slap on the wrist for raping women in your community #women won’t be safe until ALL rapists are gone #not just the ones you don’t like