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f1ghtsoftly · 10 months

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I actually think it’s strategically stupid to ask women to forgo male protection and male financing without any kind of organized feminism to catch them. Feminists passionate about separatism need to educate themselves on the barriers women face when exiting misogynistic communities and family structures.

And no, just because you made it out doesn’t mean others can. There are scores of women behind you who didn’t make it. Who went insane from abuse, who developed addictions to cope, who are financially trapped, who experienced worse misogyny in the labor market then in a het relationship. Stop villanizing women acting in their own self interest and start organizing to give women BETTER OPTIONS.

I shouldn’t have had to choose between cosigning conversion therapy or staying in a misogynistic industry, my best friend shouldn’t have had to choose between homelessness and a dad who raped her, my first lover shouldn’t have to choose between a life of financial precarity and the sex industry and I cannot overemphasize that we were all rich lucky white women from the states. What’s it like for women of color? Women from states with worse education systems? Disabled women? What kind of rock are you living under where women aren’t doing the best they can to be financially secure and as free as possible *especially* in a cost of living crisis. And again, please don’t come at me with the “those criticisms are only white women with no problems who just CHOOSE” the women I am talking about are from wealthy white suburban families with boats and big retirement accounts we *are* the women you’re talking about. Just look at what happened to Brittney Spears and Rose McGowan, even “luckier” women who had huge parts of their lives destroyed because they took a stand for their own freedom. Were they just not “tough enough”? Get it through your fucking heads, no woman has an easy time of it, no women just “chooses” to comply with patriarchy for fun. We have three options, be kept precarious and in constant fear of male violence in the labor market, to participate in the running of the very system that oppresses us by allying with men or quit and try to become male ourselves. No women makes a “wrong” choice because all of these options are fucking terrible.

Women en masse aren’t unfree because they get stupid facial fillers or have boyfriends, women getting stupid facial fillers and having boyfriends is a symptom of how unfree women are and many women correctly see how allying with the right men can deliver them from poverty or financial insecurity.

Even middle class women with access to jobs that can pay the bills typically need to cosign a level of institutional patriarchy in order to do so, they become “administrators” to capitalism and are rewarded at the expense of their integrity. Think about all the teachers in the south who are forced to go along with anti-LGBTQ mandates, think about therapists who have to “diagnose” traumatized women with diseases that will stay in the medical records in order to get their insurance to cover therapy, think about the kind of misogynistic abuse women in tech or science take. GET.A. GRIP. IT SUCKS FOR EVERYONE.

And honestly, and I truly mean this, if you genuinely believe you are somehow better or stronger then most women who don’t “get it” I really question your commitment to women and to the project of feminism. It *is* delusional behavior to think that you aren’t one sexual assault, one lost job, one string of unlucky experiences away from trying to stockholm syndrome yourself into accepting male domination in a “relationship” or in the workplace. Without having to decide between sexual assault in a shelter or crashing with a “bf” who rapes you.

Without developing structures that can support women’s autonomy *we’re all* vulnerable to male predation and acting like it’s easy or even possible for women to shake that off not only shows an astounding lack of compasison but a naive and childish belief that your spirit is somehow above breaking. It’s not.

Like seriously please take it from me there is a limit to how much material, spiritual and physical abuse someone can take and so so so many more women then you think are dealing with horrible scary shit from the men in their lives and you can’t always tell what’s happening from behind a screen (or even in person). Even women who really, really annoy me or who are abusive themselves are reacting to male abuse in their own lives so please stop making the barrier to feminism contingent on doing the very things patriarchy makes it hardest to do.

PLEASE focus instead on making it easier for women to live away from men, on removing the ties between women’s financial security and their relationship to the men in their lives, on making women safer in public, on supporting mothers financially and with women’s labor.

It’s not reformism, it’s not choice feminism it’s accepting the reality of where we’re at and choosing to build women only infrastructure that will carry us to a post patriarchal future. That’s what doing the work is. It’s acknowledging where we are realistically as a society and committing to getting us where we need to go.

#radblr #radical feminism #radical feminist #radical feminist theory #radical feminists do touch #radfem safe #radfems #gender critical #radfem #char on char #like i went in the closst after getting hatecrimed and my friends getting correctively raped #even my rich friends have had horrible things happen to them because of their sexuality #IN NEW YORK #IN AMERICA #WE ALL HAVE COLLEGE DEGREES #Most of us more then that

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booksinantwerp · 2 years

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Cecil Beaton, self portrait, in New York, Sunday morning 1937 page 7 from Hockney's Photographs published by Arts Council of Great Britain in 1983 follow on Instagram for more

#Cecil Beaton #self portrait #in New York #Sunday morning 1937 #Hockney's Photographs #Hockney's Photographs published by Arts Council of Great Britain #1983 #1937 #book #scan #photography #art #David Hockney #Hockney

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adamdforever · 11 months

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Pretty in green 💚

#adam driver #picoftheday #tuesday #actors #in new york #burn this

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thegardenofeva · 10 months

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#wombmates #in new york

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asteracaea · 1 year

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#THE RUBÍES THAT I GAVE UP #and i #lost you #the one #i was dancin with #in new york #no shoes #looked up #at the sky and it was MAROON #vinyl baby #midnights #😭#💙#vinyl #records #cozy

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veryrealauthorthings · 12 days

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#in new york #writing #writing memes #writing life #writing community #author memes #writers on tumblr #author life #writers #meme #veryrealauthorthings #new york new york #guys i'm thinking about dropping out of college and moving to new york

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savolaxsavoia · 2 months

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Billowed, Smoke and Inside Jokes

#oc #ocs #oc art #my ocs #oc artwork #original character #art #doodle #illustration #artists on tumblr #19th century #la belle epoque #in new york #nyc #in usa

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imfrom-neptune · 4 months

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Watching heartstopper and seeing the Paris trip and being like sbdndjdjj I get to on a trip with my love too !! I’m so lucky !!!

#the trip is this summer #in New York #for theatre of all the things #it’s gonna be epic I’m so excited #landenrambles

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emcgoverns · 1 year

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elizabeth mcgovern for “IN new york” (october 2017) | 📸: ian derry/chilli media/cpi syndication

EDIT: while reused for this magazine feature in 2017, this photo is originally from a photoshoot circa 2012 in london for “australian women’s weekly”

#elizabeth mcgovern #emcgoverns #photoshoot #2017 #IN new york

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518td · 2 years

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// stay confident //

#photography #captured #image #inked girls #babe #tattoos #tattoed girls #inked babes #tattoo #in new york #ny #upstatenewyork #albany capital region

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hydesjackiespuddinpop · 1 year

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Study Hall

#school inspo #at Priya and Layla’s school #in new york

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another-punk-trans-woman · 5 days

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As protests start ramping up and violence escalates please remember:

DO NOT PUT MILK IN YOUR EYES FOR PEPPER SPRAY OR TEAR GAS.

It can and will cause infection due to bacteria. Flush with water, distilled if possible, and never EVER wear contact lenses to protests where there may be police retaliation.

Please reblog. It may save someone's sight.

#palestine #free palestine #columbia university #ucla #columbia #kent state #nyu #psu #portland university #new york university

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radicalurbanista · 6 days

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