#idk if anyone needs that advice but

[the-kipsabian]

saw a take so fucking rancid on twitter i almost deleted the entire app from my phone jesus fucking christ

first of all ao3 is an archive site. this is like going to the library and saying "oh i dont like this" on every piece of media you find that you dislike and thinking they should be stamped with some sort of a marker just cause you didnt like it

you can always click back and leave. fic writers owe you nothing to explain themselves and their creations. if they have mistagged or miscategorized fics, then i understand, however there are report tools for that instead of yelling at the artist tbh

im not saying free works arent necessarily above criticism. but this is just. fucking wild. its common courtesy to just enjoy stuff (or fucking leave if you dont, the back button is free) and if the artist specifically asks for critiques, then give one - constructive that is, shitting all over someones work is not proper criticism, mind you

i just find it fucking wild people are treating art and archive sites as social media these days like this and everything needs to be policed and ~catered to the algorithm~ like. no. ao3 doesnt have an algorithm. you should be able to fucking tell what you like and what you dont like and steer away from that kind of content and let people fucking be with their art. they dont owe you anything (except trigger warnings i'd argue, but i know some people disagree with that as well for some reason), and imagine how much more energy you'd have if you only engaged with things you liked and spent time looking at instead of going to places where you dont enjoy yourself. let alone spending time telling other people you dont enjoy what they enjoy. what a fucking life

#like what the fuck #where is the common courtesy of fandoms these days im just fucking asking. its ridiculous #the back button is free. shutting your fucking mouth is free. constructive criticism when people ask for it is nice but only then #these are fucking basic level fandom engagement things #am i old or are people just this fucking awful now that these guidelines dont exist anymore #im just. ough #sorry i had to get this out. idk as someone who has never left unsolicited advice for anyone and never gotten it back it just #it fucking grinds me that people are like this now. like fucking wow #ive been here for almost two decades soon and i still know how to behave. yall better fucking learn #im gonna go back to video game sorry i really needed to yell for a hot fucking second #if you choose to reblog this dont fucking clown on it okay. god #night is an absolute mess on main

[fakeoutbf]

five stages of grief but it’s five stages of social anxiety

#walk with me #this morning i got a bouquet delivered to me at work randomly out of nowhere #the note basically said that i could count of the person even if for just some words of advice or a gesture that could make me laugh or mad #count on the person** #i immediately knew it’s from one of my coworkers and ngl i have a very charged?? relationship with them #in the sense that it’s very intense and we can be laughing joking and teasing or we can be really angry and pissed with each other #it can have very extreme emotions even if we just chill most of the time #idk why i think this whole year i’ve been leaning on them more?? and we started texting more often too #so we’ve been more properly friends lately #and for one i was SO EMBARRASSED for getting flowers bc my coworkers tease the shit out of everyone myself included and i’m not used to #gestures like that so obviously they were on my ass all day about it #and everyone asked about them and it’s EMBARRASSING to get that much attention #(me: i wanna be a singer / also me: can’t stand to be the center of attention) #anyway the person that sent them avoided me yesterday out of nowhere??? idk if they thought i was mad bc i didn’t reply to their texts all #weekend but i literally never reply to anyone and pms was a bitch and i just wanted to be alone #so they didn’t talk to me on monday i was mostly just working listening to music bc i was still emotional whatever #and today i did talk to my other coworkers bc it’s the day when my favorite coworker comes in and i talk to them a lot so i engaged more #and they were still ignoring me and then the flowers came in and we didn’t say a single word to each other today we just texted #they told me they sent them and that ‘they forgot’ what they sent and that it was just meant to be a nice gesture #and that bc they wanted to ‘surprise’ me and make me feel better bc i said i was sad at one point?? idek #i literally just want to tell them I HAD PMS ITS FINE I FEEL SUICIDAL ALL THE TIME and move on #bc now i’m second guessing everything they’re saying bc i thought we were friends and there’s no reason why friends can’t send each other #flowers or whatever but they’ve been avoiding me and then they keep answering my texts really weirdly and i always misinterpret flirting bc #i’m never outright romantic with anyone?? plus we’re FRIENDS i should have no reason to think that’s changed #but they’re being so weird and why get me FLOWERS??? idk get me a chocolate or a coffee i don’t NEED flowers #and then i said it was random to give me flowers out of nowhere and they’re like no it’s serious bro what’s serious?????? #your feelings towards me?? or just your will to cheer me up??? #if they don’t reply straight up in their next texts i’m gonna flat out say but it was a platonic gesture right??? #so yeah i’m overthink getting flowers bc what’s the social code for that and what is one supposed to do when they get flowers from a friend #delivered to their joint workplace where everyone can see them and think they’re from a partner or something

[rninies]

hi does anyone here watch mashle i kinda wanna write for some of the characters (rayne and mash) 😅

#ky rants #pls..... anyone..... #need advice tho i don't really know the characters that well yet #i only got up to like episode 6?? or 7 idk

[t0daybutmaybet0morr0w]

hi people of studyblr

how does one study for many hours without feeling like their brain is dehydrated?

#genuine question tbh #my brain feels parched after studying for a few hours #idk how to overcome that #and i really need to #so does anyone have any advice #studyblr #study motivation #exams #exam season #student life #stemblr #desi studyblr #neet 2024

[dolls-self-ships]

happy to announce that I finally found a route my puppy really likes so I’ve been able to take her for walks easier <3

#idk if anyone cares but I posted something a few weeks ago for advice on balancing pup and drawing time since dogs need a lot of attention #but so does art

[gworlinterrupted]

guys real talk how do u actually break up with ur phone

#have been thinkign abt this a lot #i hate my relationship with my phone #mostly social media but also like. idk it makes me feel isolated in social settings cause i always wanna look at it #i was looking into that brick app/device but its fuckin $50 and also i wanna kill tech bros with hammer #i wld go full flip phone but i truly cant get anywhere without gps and i also need access to my work scheduling app #if anyone has practical advice lmk #maybe just not taking it with me all the time idk #thinking abt getting an ipod for the gym and for walking around so i can still have music

[explorations-in-judaism]

My interest in Judaism was recently resparked by a conversation with my girlfriend. She is a devout catholic considering converting to Islam. Her reason: she believes in the teachings of Mohammed and has been drawn to it for years.

I told her I had the same prolonged interest in Judaism but worried it wasn't enough to convert. She asked me what would be

I'm trying to find the answer but there's just so much confusion. I don't know if I believe in Gd and it's scary to grapple with how this would change my family. Judaism fills my thoughts

#im going to go to a temple after the high holidays #and im excited #but theres also my states intro to judaism class starting in mid october #and if i were to convert id need to take it #so im torn between signing up for it #even though its expensive and im unsure #but if i dont then ill have to wait an entire year #which is also scary #i know this is a lifelong journey #but i also want answers now #this is filling all my thoughts all the time #i dont have space for other things #idk #if anyone has advice or personal experience theyd like to share id highly appreciate it #jewblr #jumblr #prospective convert #jew by choice

[writingislife20]

I want a book about post-apocalyptic world, it starts out with these four survivors, who are all in their early to mid twenties, with the oldest being 25. They are trying to find other survivors/find out what started the apocalypse. I want them to be traveling, getting close to where they think the apocalypse started and surrounded by a group of creatures (I’m thinking zombies, but if you can be more original, let me know.)

Just when they are starting to despair, a car horn sounds. A minivan careens into the circle, killing several of the horde of creatures. Adore is thrown open, and a preteen girl, picture her head out and screams at the top of her lungs “ GET IN!!!”

They start scrambling into the minivan, while the monster shuffle at them. When the last person gets in, the girl throws the door closed and yells, ” Step on it, Rosie, and don’t hit another building!”

They turned to see a nine-year-old girl in the driver seat, with a 13-year-old boy looking like he was about to hurl. They drive so fast that one of the passengers definitely gets close to sickness. The nine-year-old keeps giggling, and whoever’s point of view it is is death scared of this little girl.

They get driven to this camp area that has obviously been turned into a hideout, with a gate enclosing it. There, they are greeted with a gaggle of kids, ranging from 7 to 16, with two elderly women, and a girl who stands out as being the oldest and probably the leader. She seems to be a lot older, and is very confident, giving directions to everyone. She takes the four of them to a side room, and shuts the door. All four of them are pairing for some sort of shovel talk. None of them are expecting to see this girl. Sigh, Nina against the wall and ask “Are any of you homophobic? because I am not willing to deal with that during this whole thing.”

Turns out, this place used to be a conversion camp that flew under the radar, and this girl had been breaking her little sister out of it when this whole thing started. Most of the kids have been fine, as they’ve been on lockdown due to her entering, almost all the faculty was dead or had abandoned the kids when everything started. The only adults who were left were the lunch ladies and the grandmother of one of the kids, who had been there visiting her grandson.

This 19-year-old had been put in charge of a gaggle of kids, and three older women who did not know how to take care of that many children. She asked the team for help dealing with the kids, crying that she needed an adult.

The group of four look at each other. Only one of them has experienced with children, and that is with a few kids from daycare, who are arguably younger than these ones. All of them are grad students, who barely survived the apocalypse due to sheer dumb luck, antisocial behavior, and their ability to dodge people attempting to bite them (grad students get crazy and cranky when you tried to wake them up or take them away from their work). All four of them are human disasters, then they look at this kid, who didn’t even get the chance to go to college, who is begging for help, and looks like she’ll cry if they refused to help.

They all collectively decide that They will be the responsible one. all of their other friends are human disasters, so they have to clean up their behavior and take care of this girl and the many children she has under her care.  they know they’re going to help.

The problem is, they are all human disasters, who barely know how to cook. They are trying to be responsible, but they only have one brain cell, and it passes between them with no warning.

The rest of the story should be a mixture of comedy(these 20 year old trying to take care of a bunch of kids) and apocalyptic drama (these old ladies, trying to figure out why the apocalypse started, with a few appearances from Timmy, the grandson, who is seven years old and was sent there without the grandmother’s knowledge.)

Just, let the responsible grandparents figure out how the apocalypse started and why, while the grad students try to be responsible for 20 to 30 kids.

#writing prompt #misunderstandings #crack #post apocalyptic #it needs to start out grungy #And then have a big switch when the kids come in #There should definitely be a point where a boy who has a crush on another boy asks one of the grad students #How to ask out their crush #And the grad student has to pause #because they have never gone on a date before it #Or asked anyone out #But this kid needs advice #So they have to channel their inner romance guru #It goes terribly wrong #The kids still get together though #The reason the 19-year-old wasn’t driving #Was because she failed her drivers test three times #19-year-old has more brain cells than the grad students #But she is so tired #She gets to rest #Stop showing college students as being able to take care of themselves #I don’t know one college student who can take care of themselves #IDK what to put

[galaxywhump]

going through it, venting in the tags

#idk the last few weeks have been so rough #i recognize it's mostly the shitty weather and general gloom making my depression worse #but that doesn't make it suck any less #it's been this constant onslaught of negative emotions #and even more negative thoughts #including very drastic ones #i'm behind on a lot of things but i can barely motivate myself to do anything at all #and i'm yelling here cause i don't have irl support and bottling all that up is horrible #so i don't know. if anyone has any advice or something that would be wonderful #but i'm not really expecting or demanding that #just needed to get it out #so thanks for sticking around #today's been a day filled with full-on sobbing and randomly tearing up #i'm gonna have one hell of a headache tomorrow #anyway #marti vents #venting #suicidal thoughts tw #just to be safe #mental illness tag

[dykebeyondthebinary]

right i need your help. i’m currently learning how to drive in a manual car (im in england btw), and have been since the end of october. i’m struggling no end and my instructor is not helping the stress. i’m about 11 weeks away from my test. i cannot do this. i’m not going to sugarcoat this but after my last lesson i considered self-harming and got quite suicidal again. ever since the first (and only) time i got in an automatic car, i felt comfy and have wanted to drive one since. my parents gave me these driving lessons for my birthday with no regard as to my preference or if i was ready. i was not. i knew i wouldn’t be but i had no choice. and i don’t want to sound ungrateful but my parents do what they think is best for me with no regard to my opinion/preference/to me at all and it really hurts bc they don’t listen when i try to talk to them about it. anyway.

i kind of want to start driving lessons in an automatic car. i want to know if i should stick with the manual a little longer or switch to automatic. i want to start paying for it myself, especially so i can have more independence (that my parents also want me to have yet don’t let me have). i currently have no permanent job as i am covering sickness as a temp rn. idk how long i’ll be there. idk who to talk to. i’m also worried i may burn out/may not be ready for driving lessons and get worse mentally (if that makes sense). i really don’t know what to do. so i’m asking you. should i stick with it a little longer? also what is the different between an automatic and a manual and should i go for it/is it safe to? please help. im also doing my own research around it but need other opinions.

#mine #i need experienced people to give me advice #or just anyone who may have an idea #or advice #please #manual car #automatic car #automatic vs manual #mechanics #advice #idk what to tag #tw self harm #tw suicide #cars #cw self harm #cw suicide #driving lessons #learner driver

[mobsplainer]

update on my mob painting project

I figured out a way to transfer the first drawing to the second canvas ! and I started the second painting . these are both works in progress (I am no where near done with either) .

#op #me art #mp100 #mob psycho 100 #painting #the first one looks weird in comparison to the second #I needed to start the second one to finish the first idk how to explain it #I want to make the red one hold a sunflower but idk if I should do grayscale or use green n yellow…thoughts? #also if anyone has advice abt making skin tones w acrylic PLS hmu

[transsexual-divinity]

Hey losers and losettes,

I’m in the very early stages of starting a little diy zine about horror movies! I have no experience in this so advice is appreciated lol. But I’m hoping to have it out by July. I’m calling it PHOBIA and the theme of this one is summer horror, so not strictly ones that take place in summer but they got the vibes. Along with the horror theme there’s also gonna be a smaller section about upcoming music/concerts/etc too. Going to attempt to have it in print but it may end up digital if that’s easier for me. And I’m having open submissions!

I’m open to all things, art, reviews and rantings, movie recommendations, original fiction or horror poetry, even your urban legends (got a story about a evil ice cream truck lol I’d love to hear it!). The subjects so far are:

House of wax 2005

Sharp objects 2018

X 2022

Texas Chainsaw 3d 2013, though I haven’t watched it yet..

Hopefully Maxxxine 2024 if one of my local theaters plays it when it comes out

Music, so if you want a shameless plug of your band hit me up!

And anything else I (or you) can think of

So if that’s something your interested in email me at: [email protected]

#m talks #or of course you can dm me on here too if you want #I kind of have no clue what I’m doing but I want to give it a shot #yeah even if you just want to say that house of wax is the worst movie you ever saw or whatever that’s good too I like variety #I probably won’t really distribute this anywhere may be able to get a shelf spot out a local record store but that’s about as public as itl- #get in the irl world. as for online or like snail mail idk bout that yet either but am open to it #would love to send a copy to anyone that contributes also #but um yeah! hmu! we trying to get creative in here lol. also yeah I’ll probably reblog this a few times then have it replace my pinned for #a while too. again advice is welcome from anyone experienced in the zine or art world out there #queing this for in the morning for reach #also have to go brush my teeth #oh yes and I need to make a mag tag hold on. okay here it is-> #PHOBIA mag #okay now for the shameless attention tagging #zines #zine promo #horror zine #house of wax #sharp objects #x 2022 movie #x 2022 #texas chainsaw 3d

[coachbeards]

anyone else think about how beard comforted ted in 1.02 with “remember what you said to me our first day coaching at Wichita state? relax…they’re just kids.” and when he got angry at ted in the 1.09 he said “i understood this mission when we were in Kansas, but those were kids and these are professionals and winning does matter to them! and it matters to me!” Bc i do

#I think something so interesting abt beard is that. he knows ted better than anyone. which means that like…..if #he wanted to be Mean . he knows exactly how to do it #he knew to give ted the silent treatment and cold shoulder. he used Ted’s advice somewhat against him #beard had a breaking point and it was reached and he got mean. like a dog. #idk. it just. something i think about #and i don’t think beard is necessarily wrong for being upset but he needs to learn how to like idk. process feelings and emotions #before he reaches a boiling point and snaps #he is AWFUL with boundaries.

[opens-up-4-nobody]

How does one approach a tattoo artist about creating a large design (say over the back of the shoulder and onto the upper arm)? Like I can draw it but idk how u draw something while keeping the curves of a body in mind?

#i should just text my friend who got some tattoos in this town but im too shy >_< #just. idk how to talk to tattoo ppl. bc i just wanna be like: how streight r ur lines? if u wobble ill annihilate u #bc im a control freak. but idk im just sitting here thinking self destructive thoughts when a better idea is to #initiate some sort of change like dying my hair or getting this abstract tattoo ive wanted to get for literally years #will it happen? idk but something to look forward to possibly #which is a thing i need rn cause everything sucks. oh god but then i have to draw it #which will b hard bc abstract and chaotic r like the exact opposite of my drawing style #but whatever. i want it to exist on my body. #idk any advice anyone has would b appreciated #god. i have this terrible habbit of precisely planning 90% of an idea then deciding. this needs to happen right now and stumbling across #the finishline. which is y im currently stick taking measurements on one machine for 10hrs instead of 3 machines for like 6hrs 🙃 #unrelated

[buriesitsteeth]

I was having a good day today for the first time since like…august and then someone said something and I’ve spiralled into anxiety grip ‘imworriedimworriedimworriedimworried’ brain and I’ve spoiled my night fr

#I’m just exhausted of existing this way #I’ve asked for advice and everyone tells me I need therapy or a doctor or something but I can’t make myself book an appointment #I need someone to *care* enough to help me do it but there’s no one who’s bothered and that just fucks me up more #*more #I physically can’t ask for help. I fill out the web form and then delete it before I send it. I start the conversation and then cant explain #how I feel or what help I need or I downplay it or joke my way out of it #and none of it is on purpose I just can’t ask for help #never have been able to #even when I was at school if I didn’t understand something I’d just…sit there and not understand instead of asking for help #idk I just #it’s like barriers come down in my brain that say NO SHARING NO #if I’m mid convo trying to talk about my feelings my tongue physically cannot handle the words #it feels like it swells up or something and I can’t get the words out or make the noise to talk and it sucks #I do agree yes talking therapy might be good for me but again like #where do I go? How do I find the right person to listen who will hear me out? how do I afford it? why would anyone want to listen to me? #thorn screams into the void

[gay-victorian-astronomer]

big feeling insecure about my writing hours

wish I could write faster. wish I had more time to do it. wish I weren't so ambitious, so verbose. wish I weren't so perfectionistic and could embrace the "write the parts you want and stick it together with duct tape" approach. wish I could know that my fixation on this fandom would carry me through the process of writing this (and ideally my other fic ideas too). wish I could know that people will still care about this story when I'm done with it (wish I could know that people are interested in it now). wish I weren't still on chapter fucking three of this fucking eight chapter fic. wish I had the technical skills to pull it off.

wishing for a lot of things and feeling like I'm going to get none of them.

#chattering #vent #sorry y'all I haven't been feeling great about myself lately and evidently that's been bleeding into my feelings about my writing #feels like I kinda needed to get that out of my system #I also might try and talk to one of the creative writing professors about some of this at the writer's lounge tomorrow #he might have some advice #idk man it's been a rough couple weeks #I'm having trouble finding enough time to devote to my schoolwork let alone writing- I get one guaranteed 2 hour block a week and that's IT #and a lot of my creative juices are getting redirected towards my poetry class #to anyone else who's trying to write fanfic while being a college student you are stronger than any US marine this shit is HARD