#i like her faith in people; in good

[blueskittlesart]

deeply refreshing to see someone critical of Swift who also like, genuinely likes her. Like i'm neutral to positive on her, but the online discourse has been absolutely rancid. flipping between "Taylor Swift has never done anything wrong ever and she's a fucking genius" and "Taylor Swift is the worst lyricist of all time and also a bad person" is exhausting, so thank you for like. nuance or something lmao

not to make it serious for a sec but i genuinely think that being able to like things that are bad is really important. like I think that it's an important skill to be able to look at something and see what you personally enjoy about it and then take a step back and acknowledge that objectively it's flawed. and to also be able to acknowledge that liking something isn't necessarily an identity or a moral stance. and i think that fandom space in general could really benefit from more people taking the time to learn how to do that. it's okay to like things that are bad

#people ask me sometimes why ill occasionally talk about something i like and then go 'but it's bad' and the answer is usually because it is #i love teen wolf. i love genshin impact. i love detective conan. and i fucking LOVE taylor swift. that doesnt mean theyre good #it just means i like them. and recognizing their flaws actually helps me better identify what i like about them! #it's like. in my mind bad > good is the x axis and i like it > i dont like it is the y axis yk. they're not mutually exclusive #tldr it's not that serious. we can all relax a little #irt taylor swift i do also think she has done some real harm to her fans in enabling them to deflect all criticism of her as misogyny #and i don't think it's fully the fault of these people who are parroting that response bc so much of her marketing has deliberately #reinforced this idea that to be a swiftie is to be a part of a sisterhood and that any attack on taylor is an attack on all of those women #who are in that in-group. when that's obviously not the case. but she's marketed herself as. for lack of a better term. 'girl music' #to the point where it makes her fans feel as though any criticism of the music or the woman responsible for it is an attack on their #personal experience of womanhood/girlhood/sisterhood/etc. and that's how you get all of thess bad-faith accusations of misogyny #i don't necessarily think this was her deliberate goal with her marketing tho because like. on first glance such a strong sense of communit #among fans sounds like a great thing. the friendship bracelets i got at the eras tour movie are really genuinely special to me. #but it does present a problem when your fans are unable to separate how they feel about the community and experience your music has fostere #from how they feel about you as a person. especially when you are a billionaire who absolutely CANNOT be above criticism in this economy #anyway. tldr i love taylor's music and i don't think swiftie hivemind is as deliberately malicious as it may seem #but it's obviously necessary to be able to take a step back and look objectively at what you're participating in. #anyway stream ttpd or don't idc <3 #taylor swift

[lesbian-sunshim]

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rare pairs for your consideration - starlight x discord

#my little pony #mlp #discord mlp #starlight glimmer #starcord #discoglimmer #I'm known for uhhhh strongly disliking starlight and I'm not discord's biggest fan either so #people are either gonna love this or hate it but please know my intentions are in good faith i really like this #pairing them together reminded me that i actually thought s7 was leading to a friendship between them & that we'd see them hanging out more #that didnt happen & now i remember the s7 premiere leading to nothing and now i feel cheated #didnt he want her to be his roomie? 🤔 #my thing against most discord ships that arent the princesses is hes still enough of a jerkass that he needs someone wh #who wont put up with his bullshit AND matches him in power #starlight fits that perfectly and being former villians trying to make a new life tropes is something they have in common #so yea i may not be their biggest fans but i ended up genuinely liking the idea of them and how interesting their dynamic could have been #vs what we got in the show and i think their dynamic together improves them as characters enough to improve my opinion of them #basically theyre 'i could fix him' 'girl youre worse' and i like that 😂

[yellowjackets-1996]

death, she is cunning, and clever as hell... and she'll eat you alive.

↳ the oh hellos

#yellowjackets #yellowjacketsedit #yjedit #lyricsongifs #laura lee #like. obviously the wilderness kills laura lee. she already has a god #and either she believes in that god enough to go on a suicide mission or she's content to die by suicide #either way. the wilderness will fulfill the promise #ive seen ppl theorizing that the wilderness killed laura lee to isolate lottie and like real and true 100000% #i just think its also true that lara lee was not only not of any use but like. an active threat #even if lottie didnt follow laura lee her presence would be disruptive. like some of the girls who need lottie mightve turned to laura lee #laura lees faith saved her once. but only once. and only surrounded by people who worshiped that god and acted in its name #literally god loves you but not enough to save you so baby girl good luck taking care of yourself

[inkskinned]

Genuine question, because I don't know a lot about the topic and you're:

If someone identifies as non-binary and genderfluid, which from what I've gathered means something like "human" instead of male or female, doesn't that imply that women are not humans , like whole complete people with richer inner lives? And why is a dislike for (performative) femininity combined with a preference for things that are stereotypically associated with maleness an indicator that one is genderfluid? Does that mean a woman is only a woman if she loves to do make-up, wants to be a mother, only wears skirts, dresses and high heels, shaves daily, is always kind and never angry, has long hair, hates to get dirty and so on? Because I have never met a woman who's exactly like that in my life, but plenty who liked gaming, sports, being loud, opposed to shaving & make-up, who wore pants every day.

I do not believe this is a genuine question, but I'll answer it as if it was, just in case other people have to deal with this, and would like someone who is patient enough to give them the words. The argument you're making here is something that already stems from a deep logical fallacy in the beginning argument. You assume "If you are neither A nor B, and instead C, you think that A cannot be C."

It is a logical fallacy to say "X implies Y" when it does not do so. By this logic, I also believe men are not human. By this logic, I believe only nb people are human.

Some - but not all - rectangles are squares. Some - but not all - animals are dogs. Some humans are nb.

I have given no information about how I present, nor my interests. I am not going to give you that information, because it's irrelevant. What I need you to understand is that, again, you are making the incorrect logical assumption that "If a person dislikes X and likes Y, they must be Z." For all you know, I dislike performative masculinity and like stereotypically feminine preferences.

You then assume your own statement is correct and move forward with your logic as if I had debated you. This is not a "genuine question" about how nb people work, this is assuming being nb is based on a series of preferences.

As a teacher, I do think it's important to tell you: even if this is coming from a genuinely confused place: you are conducting bad research. You begin with an inherently flawed question, as it biased and assumes a position I must defend against - "why don't you see women as people?" Then you make logical conclusions about my personhood and experiences and ask inflammatory questions as if you were debating me, which I am not interested in doing.

If you were my student, and genuinely curious about how nb people see gender, I'd have no trouble with you asking an out nb content creator. If you're really trying to collect information, ask honestly, without personal bias. Here's some examples of what a genuine question would have looked like: - Do your preferences play into your gender identity? - How has being nb informed how you see femininity and masculinity? - What tools do you use to express your gender?

You are mistaking gender expression and gender roles as being part of my identity.

You are most crucially mistaking being nonbinary as being part of the binary and having to exist "in opposition" to other genders in order for it to "make sense". One of the most freeing things about realizing I was nb is that I don't exist in opposition to anything - and also that all gender works similarly.

Gender is a describing word, and this can be confusing for some people. In general, we tend to learn describing words in binary - short/tall, old/young, kind/mean. Therefore, there are (many) people who think - feminine/masculine must be oppositional. Gender is also a feeling word - and again, these are words that can be taught in opposition to each other. Hungry/sated, happy/sad, feminine/masculine.

But because gender is such a rare type of word - feeling and describing - it exists outside of binary. It exists more like art exists.

Green can exist in opposition to red, but it also just exists as its own color. Blue is a part of green, but it is also a part of yellow - blue is still its own color, and yellow is still its own color, and green is still its own color. One painting titled "still-life with fruit" may be a series of vague colors and boxes. Another may be a hyper-realistic singular plum. They are both how the artist expresses their personal vision of the fruit. They might even be by the same artist! And although we may compare them, they are not opposites.

One song by Hozier is not in opposition to one song by Britney Spears. They are different styles, not oppositional styles. You may choose to see them as oppositional - but that is your personal opinion, and not fact. And some people may feel and experience those songs as being actually incredibly in-line with each other.

This is why we say: gender is a spectrum. That all gender roles are made up. Personality, interests, and experiences may shape how someone sees and feels their gender, but it does not define how they see and feel their gender.

When we question gender roles and gender expression like this, it tends to make people upset. People like me tend to make people upset. So much bigotry is based on the lie that "feminine" and "masculine" are oppositional. Opposition is rigid and important - it keeps white hegemonic structures in power. I don't have time or space in this post to talk about how rigid gender roles/enforced gender expression rules are not just sexist but also racist, classist, ableist, homophobic, and bigoted; but I really recommend you do the research on how disruption of the gender binary might put the patriarchy at risk.

The thing you feel trapped by - that "being a woman" is a complicated series of rules - is exactly the kind of thing a nonbinary person would agree with you about. We have to fight hard to be recognized for what is a basic truth about our identity - of course we don't believe that gender expression is equivalent to gender identity.

And truth be told... I think you kind of knew that. I think you kind of knew all of this. I am going to hope that you are young. I'll tell you this: I was raised by someone who was a far-right extremist catholic asshole. I certainly didn't have the research/knowledge/exposure to interrogate this stuff honestly until I was probably 23.

I am so much happier now. I hope one day you get the same opportunities as I had. I hope you choose to move away from bigotry.

love u anyway. all this in kindness only.

#to be deleted #do i accidentally give my short lesson on gender here? yeah #<3 in this u can tell exactly the age that i taught for 15 years lmao #but also like. #yeah you got me.... i have never met a woman before and i totally think women are only fembots #meanwhile every person who has ever read my writing: #every 3rd week this bitch is on her bullshit about how unfair gender rules for women are #this is actually more to help other nb people whom i KNOW get questions like this #than it is to inform the anon #who like v clearly is not doing this in good faith #this is just like the 10th one i got like this #that first logical jump of - you think ur not male or female but human so therefore #women aren't people #was just SO wild .... like #yeah!!! that's totally a normal thing to assume! #do you think people who are like ''well yeah im from america #but i wouldnt consider myself to be from any particular state'' #are actually saying ''i don't think states are american'' #hell when i say #im cuban but i obvi grew up in america im just the daughter of an immigrant #nobody is like -- well. raquel. that means u think no americans live in cuba huh #anyway love u bye #okay to reblog #!! #love u

[rawliverandgoronspice]

behold: my least favorite string of words in the entirety of Tears of the Kingdom.

#totk critical #totk #tloz #gerudos #when will my brain return from the imprisoning war.... #I just stumbled upon it again doing research yesterday and.... #there's so many layers as to why it aggravates me #that it's spoken from the perspective of a masked woman as to embody all gerudos while removing her own identity #in the context of her loyalty to rauru as well #that giving birth to a bad man makes you responsible for his actions (he's not a toddler anymore he's an adult ok) #or more metaphorically that your initial conflict with hyrule makes you Sinful and cursed and you must Feel Bad Now *shame shame* #that she's passing on that ageless guilt with no expiration date onto the shoulders of *a teenager* and it's considered GOOD??? #(wind waker shaking crying right now) #ALL OF THAT to prop her up to swear her loyalty to the people planning to go murder their ancient king (sure he's a Bad but still???) #using some sort of weird ass original sin scenario that is arguably not any gerudo's fault but Ganondorf's #(or if it is then it's not shown so ???) #the vibes are so so so off I just really !!!!! don't like #this is stuff like this that makes me reject that it's a good story about alliances being formed in good faith #because this is just manipulative #maybe the alliance angle everyone's stronger together was the intention but the execution is another story entirely #gerudos never benefited from ganondorf's actions also #so it's not even a case of making reparations for the way you benefit from systemic oppression due to your ancestor's actions #gerudos won literally nothing in ganondorf's war #apparently he even subjugated them if they weren't on his side (like.... a king would.... not to excuse it but the double standard here) #so it just instrumentalizes the ageless sin of motherhood + suffering under a bad monarch billion of years ago for war #so uhhh.... yeah that's not... that's pretty bad imo #the gerudo girl could have went “hey girl this man used us and still hurt us to this day let's kick his ass once and for all” #and this would have been a different story entirely #a little cheap but not.... That Bad

[bosooka]

whenever people say that satine made a huge critical mistake/moral failure by not "compromising" with militant mandalorians i wonder if i was the only person who heard satine say the words "even extremists can be reasoned with" or "concordia is under independent rule and we need to talk to the governor" or "there was a time we weren't enemies, perhaps that time has come again" or "there will be no bloodshed" when she literally surrenders to death watch (a terrorist group btw) because she knows she's lost popular support to them

idk i think there's sort of a satine horseshoe theory going on where people who hate her and people who Nuance Like(TM) her both have selective amnesia about how compassionate, observant, and willing to compromise satine actually is so they can paint her as either a genocidal dictator or an overly-idealistic stubborn bitch #GirlBoss with good intentions and in the end they're 3 centimeters away from each other in terms of how rancid i find their opinion to be

#satine kryze #idk i don't think anyone who is talking about compromising and not being pacifist is doing so in good faith #it's all with the same uncharitable premise that satine forced people to accept her rule #when we see she believes her legitimacy comes only from the people's desire to be ruled by her #it's just a bunch of bad faith extrapolation from the dialogue of known antagonists #like it's a tv show there's nothing beyond what we see on the screen #there is 0 indication that before the death watch arc people wanted satine gone quite the contrary #and going 'well but we don't know what the people REALLY wanted' is silly because the people don't exist and do not have a will #sw

[m4ndysk4nkovich]

me: yeah, no, lip gallagher’s an asshole. he has no respect for anybody and all he does is fuck everything up and drink. i could never relate to him-

“i’ve been drunk… or high everyday since i was twelve years old. and brad was off the wagon and youens died… (do you fucking love me?) i don’t know! i want to! you know, i really do but i-i’ve been sleepwalking through my life for years and… you know, i’ve been so loaded i-i haven’t known what i want; you know, or who i want to be or- or be with i just… fuck! (just leave. please.) i was drunk on our first date. (lip.) i was drunk almost the entire time that we were together. i don’t know how to be with myself, let alone someone else!”

#i want to hate him but he really is me #as someone who has been the older scapegoat sibling that’s been ‘sleepwalking’ her whole life he means so much to me #he’s such a good example of what it’s like being gifted and then just suddenly being fucked for life #the way people just began losing faith in him kills me #and i think that the fact i hate him just goes to show how well he was written #shameless #lip gallagher #sierra morton #8x12 #shameless quotes

[blood-choke]

lord pls i just wanna kiss my wife without hana bitching and moaning about it

well, considering you just upended Hana's life and ruined her nearly 100 years-long relationship by coming back from the dead, you're going to have to deal with her "bitching and moaning," which i personally think she is entitled to.

i know this is probably a joke, but i don't know how you can read that conversation with Hana and then refer to it as "bitching and moaning." some of you are way too comfortable joking about Hana specifically in my inbox and it really rubs me the wrong way!

#the irony of people still treating her like this after she literally addresses the player directly in the game to ask them #to Not treat her like this. lmfao #. <- the point. and you all are vaulting over it like olympic athletes #anyways no hard feelings anon i do assume in good faith this is a joke but. please stop sending me messages like this about Hana #ask #anonymous

[fromtheseventhhell]

No offense but trans-masc/trans-man headcanons about Arya are so incorrect, I'm sorry. I can't even take them seriously considering this fandom's desire to separate Arya from girlhood/womanhood. I would love it if people would stop trying to divorce female characters (and real women) from their identities as women just because they aren't traditionally feminine.

If we're talking about actual good-faith interpretations, ones that actually work with how Arya is written, then trans-femme is a much better fit. Arya has never had the desire to be a boy or be seen as one, she is fiercely insistent on her identity as a girl and corrects people several times, she doesn't consider herself a "real" Lady because she's not one in the same way her mother and sister are (!!!), she has self-esteem issues from her looks and ability to perform feminine tasks, she actually spends time pretending to be a boy but never considers herself one or enjoys doing it, as time progresses she loses the ability to pass as a boy (!!!), etc. Look at the material!! There's so much there to discuss from that perspective! Arya's non-conformity and how that fits into a society with such strict gender norms is fascinating and there's a lot to discuss there, but calling her trans-masc is one of the laziest interpretations to come up with.

#arya stark #asoiaf #It's wild cause I literally never see any other character separated from their gender identity like Arya is #Arya isn't even our most non-conforming character (female or otherwise) and yet it feels like she gets singled out for this treatment #probably because characters like Brienne + Asha + Sam are more associated with romance than her and as progressive as people claim to be #they aren't actually interested in queer identities + relationships and their larger implications go figure 🙄 #her feelings about being a Lady are so intertwined with society's (misogynistic) expectations like ughhh it's such a well-done conflict #I just wish people weren't such illiterate clowns about it #Arya doesn't like sewing or wearing dresses and wants to be more than a housewife and people go /this is a man/ :/ #it's like seeing people portray Arya with darker skin than her siblings...the way this fandom acts I know it's not being down in good faith #can it be done sincerely by people interested in exploring queer subtext? 100% is it often done so? almost never #no hate to people who genuinely make these headcanons this is for the people who hate viewing Arya as the girl she actually is #justice for trans-femme!Arya cause it works so much better then any other identity people force on her #though it is hilarious to me that people act like complicated feelings towards gender are impossible for cis people to have lol

[perenlop]

speaking of tawnypelt its so funny when people go “mothpool is bad because people reduce mothwings character to just this fanon relationship! why not focus on her relationship with her thunderclan siblings!!!” 

like. girl WHAT relationship?

#brambleclaw doesnt give a fuck about her bc shes Girl #tawnypelt just doesnt interact w the riverclan siblings at all in any meaningful capacitiy #and does anyone like Actually ignore the abusive dynamic between hawkfrost and mothwing? besides stans who think he did nothing wrong? #iirc thats actually a good chunk of mothwing's content #ntm the books focus on her relationship w her apprentices more than her relationship with leafpool #im pretty sure she doesnt really even interact w her in any meaningful way after tnp #shes not even all that remarkable as a tigerstar kit bc usually shes just conflated with hawk in that regard #and after that ppl are just butthurt that shes an atheist #like. ntm ppl who do focus on mothpool elaborate on her not believing in starclan in context of their relationship #like how moth decides to put her faith in starclan if only because of leafpool #or the ''i may not believe starclan but i believe YOU leafpool'' line #like. honestly just say ur lesbophobic sldkfjsdlfd #no one besides a handful of people are ''reducing her character to a ship'' #and the ones that are are just the normal ilk of shippers who do that with EVERY ship #or hell when canon itself reduces a character to just ''yay i have a love interest uwaaaa'' #its. really not that bad bc mothwing herself is an underutilized character theres not much TO ignore #and the unique stuff about her actually is elaborated on in these mothpool rewrites #in a similar vein wow was it hilarious to see people claim mothpool was toxic and bad while shipping bramblesquirrel #echoed voice

[sofishticated3]

Omg the f1 side of instagram and particularly the m*x fans are not passing the vibe check. I mean, of course if he's your favorite driver, you can be happy and express that in the comments but is it necessary to always bring up Lewis or merc domination? Or harass someone as soon as they express their opinion about m*x that does not fit the "golden boy/great white hope" image? I swear some are just proving themselves to be racist and misogynist, which considering the man they stan, well

#one woman says that she finds max to be rude to his engineer #you bet there will be men telling her to go back to the kitchen or that she doesn't know what's she watching #someone saying max is a spoiled child? #of course some will ask “are you sure you don't mean george?” or “lemme guess you're brit and a lewis fan” #like #i think i'm getting too used to tumblr and the ability to curate my own experience where i can filter tags and words #and block people #i take that for granted and will do it no more #want to lose faith in humanity or get mad? head to f1 insta comment section especially on a post with m*x #some still think mercedes domination was worse. #and are particularly bitter about said domination as if lewis had ran over their dog #seems to me like it's another issue at play here 🤐 #anti max verstappen #anti verstappen #ofc this isn't an attack to all max fans #as i said if he's your fav you're happy and that's good for you #but some relate to him a bit too much if y'know what i mean #lewis hamilton

[queer-geordie-nerd]

#mira furlan #just because #i really need a reminder this morning of what real moral courage and humanity looks like #i cannot overstate how much mira and those like her keep my faith in the strength and goodness of people #when it feels like those things are hardly anywhere to be found

[clevercrumbish]

#Dave Myers #The Hairy Bikers #I think maybe for some people this might be a bit bewildering or challenging as a thing to focus on. #But I do genuinely in complete good faith think this was one of the most Dudes Rock things the Hairy Bikers did. #Like on the gay subtext website it can sometimes feel hard to say "cis straight men can have platonically intimate friendships with each #other sober and indeed should where possible because it's good for them' with a straight face #But I honestly mean it and I think Si King and Dave Myers had properly cracked the code #They were also two of the only modern TV Chefs my mum liked #Because they were approved of by her hero Delia Smith #Who liked that they didn't overcomplicate the cooking or imply it needed to be fancy to be good

[svtskneecaps]

i'm mourning the loss of purgatory's Government Assigned Team Dynamics (because i'm a sucker for shaking up dynamics and the forced interactions of people who may not otherwise have spoken) so please indulge me with your dream egg parenting group i'll start, bagi tina and rivers [i'm right]

#qsmp #i have REASONS okay it's more than vibes #first of all any good egg polycule needs its touchstone its Daily Logger someone who can be relied on to KEEP THE DAMN THING FROM DYING #(of neglect specifically) #bagi logs in every weekday she's extremely consistent and she's already proven to be smitten with these eggs. bagi's the touchstone #tina's a 'wobbler'; she's consistent but not a daily logger so she can be relied on if bagi's out for a week #between the two of them i have full faith they can keep the kid from neglect and spoil the kid to pieces #but vic you might say what about rivers wouldn't she just be third wheeling on bagina WRONG #well maybe right but WRONG because eggs have personalities of their own!!!! they're little people!!!! #if rivers is third wheeling then SO IS THE EGG THEY'RE IN THIS TOGETHER #anyway rivers at least at the moment is what i like to call a Wildcard #when she does or doesn't log in is pretty random and sporadic and inconsistent #that might change if she had an egg idk i don't know enough about her because she's a WILDCARD 😭 #but anyway having bagi and tina as reliably keeping their kid from dying of neglect means she's free to keep her stream schedule #considering bagi interacting with egg trump at dia de muertos i think we can safely say she's not going to let rivers be erased as parent #probably would function like a roier-jaiden situation; bobby wasn't any less jaiden's son even though she didn't log as consistently as roi #AND IT WOULD FORCE RIVERS TO INTERACT WITH THE SERVER. I MISS HER DAMNIT. MY SPANISH ISN'T GOOD ENOUGH AND I MISS HER. #shut up vic #block game brainrot #but yeah rivers can keep her streaming schedule and still come to hang out with her egg kid when she's able #i lost the plot there bc tumblr's glitching on my phone bc it updated ios last night and everything's bugged to hell #i can't see tags after i write them it's wack as fuck #my secret secondary take is tubbo and pol have to be in the same government assigned parent group #tubbo seems to function better as weird uncle / fun godparent so having pol there is him as TUBBO'S touchstone in terms of the mature one #then tubbo and pol as consistent loggers can be the rest of the group's touchstone in terms of the kid not dying to neglect #long tags

[transfemmes]

I do like Shiv (as a character not a person) but I think people tend to forget she emotionally manipulated and gaslit Tom like she admitted to cheating on him on their wedding night and continued to break that man's heart so yeah for her to tell him she's pregnant after he expressed always wanting a child with her only for him to think it's a manipulation tactic seems like a realistic reaction 😭

#💖 #do not get me wrong none of these characters are good people but still seeing people hate on tok for that is insane to me #like girl if she just promised to a crowd of people to be faithful and then told me she's cheating on me I wouldn't believe her either

[likefolksongs]

my favorite taylor swift release day tradition, people taking lyrics out of context/lyrics where she’s being purposefully lighthearted and fun to “prove” she’s a bad writer, continues apace 🙃

#‘i hate taylor swift’ we know you never shut up about it #if i talked about celebrities i hate as much as taylor haters talk about taylor i’d have to take a good long look in the mirror #if you want to have a good faith discussion about her lyricism then pull up a seat let’s talk! i have criticisms! of this album even! #but it is mostly people who just want to take a cheap shot at taylor and her fans which like fine. whatever. do you. #but why do you need people to applaud you for it 😭