#i dont mean to disrespect anyones opinion btw!!

[transmascanakin]

There is a lot of discussuion around Obi-Wan's motives on mustafar, like i see a lot of discourse on why didnt he kill Anakin out of mercy instead of leaving him there to suffer and its just annoys me because i cant imagine being clear headed in that situation and I dont know why people expect Obi-Wan to make a logical decision when he literally just mutilated his brother even though yesterday he thought the war was ending but then suddenly Anakin turned on him and all the jedi were dead and he had to go and try to kill Anakin, whos now laying in front of him on the bank of the lava river, on fire, and he can smell his burnt flesh and its all just so so much. Like clearly someone whos going through all that and more is not going to be in the right headspace to make a morally 100% correct logical decision and idk why people fail to see that

#star wars #obi wan kenobi #anakin skywalker #revenge of the sith #mustafar #rambling #i dont mean to disrespect anyones opinion btw!! #you can percieve Obi-Wan and his motives as you want to #i just dont get it

[pastacrylic]

Okay so I'm breaking down that one ask and

- They're saying that you're their favorite artist

- They're making a reference to this by referring to a "your fav is [X]" blog

- The blog is about being someone called sysmedsaresexist??? Which is?? Probably not a good look???

-Because people who use the term "sysmeds" are people who believe that DID/OSDD systems can form without trauma???

-Which is?? Not possible??? Because DID is a trauma disorder? It's a trauma response???? So it can't just be magicked into existence??

- I get that they were making a joke but? Why that one? Yikes.....

I'm really hoping they don't mean you support the people who think non-trauma-based systems (also called "endogenic") are possible.... because they're reaaaally disrespectful to those who actually suffer from DID...

i dont think endos are a real problem. singlets are gonna shit on people with dissociative/plural syndromes anyway because the representation in media is absolute dogshit.

now of course a lot of endos tend to be young and are often misguided and need proper guidance in figuring out what the hell is goin on in their brains but i dont think we should bash people simply for being wrong about themselves. sometimes its even a matter of simply not remembering trauma. brains do that. they block out painful memories and that can lead to a lot of confusion, especially in young and impressionable folks who seek an answer for their pain

i dont have a real opinion on whether or not endogenic systems are valid, because i dont think im educated enough on the subject. i only have my own (and a few of my friends') fucky experience to go by

but my general thought process is if theyre not hurting anyone or bein disrespectful or misrepresentative on purpose.. just let em be. theyll figure themselves out eventually. holy shit that had nothing to do with the original ask im just ramblin there i apologize

no illwill against you or anyone btw just makin it clear that you wont see me bashing fakers or anything here. its just not what i do

#pastacrylic asks

[discluded]

what are your thoughts on ma shippers that hate one of them but still ship them? because i just came across an account that made me so upset and angry lmao, they want apo to provide them with fanservice, were mad about his birthday message not essentially being a sappy love letter but also accuse apo of sleeping with p**d and disrespecting mile and bullying him basically. like they dont even think they're friends so how is shipping even possible, it creeps me out when people are like this

Do I have an opinion about fandom bullies who specifically act in homophobic and sexist ways?

Sure, if they bother you, I think you should block them.

I'm not particularly keen to rehash the entire discussion on homophobia in BL fandoms/this fandom specifically but I mean are we really surprised homophobes who use queer characters as entertainment but hate real life queer people are also sexist?

These bullies just prefer one of them as the "devil" they can see, but they don't actually think they're dating because want to date the other themselves. But they think a girl is a real legitimate threat whereas M or A aren't for each other because they can't be queer.

BTW, this part isn't an opinion, it's a fact. It's consistent behavior over multiple fandoms and decades. If people don't want to be called homophobic or sexist, they should stop acting in homophobic and sexist ways :)

But my opinion is you should block those people. 🤷🏻‍♀️ You can't make them go away. You can't control anyone's behavior except your own.

Mile and Apo both have made it clear they don't support bullying and that they love each other. If you claim to be a fan of one or both of them and are still engaging in that behavior, you're not really a fan, you're just a bully looking for entertainment.

I also don't see why we should give them a special category of fandom bully. They're not more special than the people who claim to "support" and "like" both of them equally but will bully and harass them (usually Apo) for not supporting their agenda of hating BOC.

#bullying #cw homophobia #cw sexism #fandom wank

[letitrainathousandflames]

okay i just got two more asks about Nope (2022) and I know the reading comprehension in this website is piss poor, but y'all really did skip my tags on that last ask huh? the one that said

"Don't send me anymore asks about this film, please, I'm trying to forget it"

[ID: a print of tags reading "animal cruelty m/", "animal death m/", "nope (2022) critical" and "dont send me anymore asks about this film pls im trying to forget it"]

The fact that you guys are insisting on bringing up a topic which i specifically mentioned to have caused me a panic attack is beyond me. That said, I'll answer those under the cut for politeness' sake, any following message on this subject will be deleted, as I do not owe anyone to interact with content that is triggering.

Same goes to anyone else btw, no amount of guilt-tripping should force you to talk/see/interact with topics that make you uncomfortable, especially if the other people are damn aware of your discomfort.

Prints of the asks and my responses under the cut, with plenty of spoilers to the movie and mentions of the triggers above, so reader discretion is advised.

Also, before you decide to call me a "racist white woman" for disliking a black-led movie (like someone whose ask i'm not replying did), remember that a) people are allowed not to like things and b) i'm a brown latina of Black and Native descent so maybe stop assuming everyone is white for two minutes bc thats, honestly, is racist.

oh, and just one more thing:

DON'T SEND ME MORE ASKS ABOUT THIS MOVIE

The animal abuse is in the fact that the horses were consistently used as bait by Jupe. Also, OJ dismounts in order to survive by sacrificing his horse to the creature. Furthermore, and this is only my interpretation at this point, OJ states that any creature with a spirit can be broken, which left me wondering whether he and his father were cruel to their horses while taming them.

I've read a lot on the traditional and horrific way people beat horses to tame them, and while I do hope the character took a humane, kind approach, we can't be sure, and that line didn't sit well with me. The animals also get injured and eaten, which i consider also animal cruelty, with the plot to blame for it, but still.

To give a different example, in Secret Window [spoiler], a dog is cruelly killed off-camera before the owner finds it stabbed and dead. I list that as animal cruelty, even if it's off screen, because an animal is harmed and suffers in the story.

that distinction is important though: i'm not at ALL accusing Peele or the crew of abusing the animals. I'm saying that it is a story full of animal abuse. And for me, an animal lover, to sit through a movie like that and enjoy it, the story would have to be damn goo - which, unfortunately, it wasn't.

the amount of bad movies that got explained away by a scoff and a "oh, you don't get it" is staggering. I'm giving my personal view based on my lifetime of personal experiences and media consumption, and my personal opinion is - it's a bad movie.

It's too long, it's pace is clunky, the characters lack personality (not the actors' fault), the chimp subplot being practically a copy-paste of a real life incident from which the victim is still traumatized and disfigured, the use of animals as disposable tools, the plot holes, the lack of sibling dynamic between the characters, the completely open end, it all lead to me wishing i had stayed home painting my toenails.

Films can be deep. They can be layered. They can have hidden meanings, connections left for the viewer to make, etc. But if they intend to be like that, they have to be a puzzle of which some corners and a few pieces are already in place so that you can think and fit the others in place your own way.

They can't just dump the pieces all over you and say "now, make some sense out of this."

And, again, I am so appalled over the disrespect of using a story as recent as 2009 as a scary plot point for an extremely gorey scene. Peele could've come up with an animal-related tragedy of his own, but instead he chose to copy a horrifying true story, without even disguising it with the constant nods at Oprah's name.

Like, at the end of the day, this is my opinion. I found it bad. Poorly written and lazy. I have the right to this opinion as much as you have a right to yours. But you don't get to call me ignorant or anything just because i didn't enjoy a movie you think is deep.

Because honestly, to me, it's shallow and dull, and a waste of all the effort I made not to leave the theater for those two hours and sixteen minutes that i'm never getting back.

#nope (2022) critical #animal cruelty m/ #animal death m/ #STOP. TALKING TO ME. ABOUT THIS SHITSHOW. #you can block anonymous askers' IPs on tumblr and by god i'm gonna start blocking y'alls asses #long post/

[taegularities]

noooo you got me wrong. What im saying is: i see so many ppl talking abt bts as if they are some gods who will only choose the best out of the best and only look at 10/10 models. what im trying to say is, at the end of the day, bts are also JUST men. just bc they are bts doesnt mean that they have the highest standards ever. I mean, as i said. i see girls who are in my opinion 10/10 and bts stares at them and im like, yes i would too. but i also see ppl they be looking at who i think arent pretty or just attractive at all (which is okay btw everyone has their preferences ) and bts is STILL staring at them. so what i am trying to say is, just bc they are bts, it doesnt mean they are above and only like the creme de la creme.

no bc i dont have to find everyone pretty. you dont have to find everyone attractive. we all have our opinions and saying these without being disrespectful abt it is totally fine. i ofc would never go to someone and be like: you arent pretty. but if that person would ask me or if anyone would ask me abt someone i would say the truth. theres no harm in that. when i said i didnt find that girl pretty at all, i meant that. i dont find her ugly, i just dont find her pretty. and thats why i said: but for jk she was bc as you said, beauty is subjective. what im trying to say is, dont think bts wont always look at 10/10s. they are men and will look at and like EVERYONE ( without being didrespectful ofc ). i actually saw a tiktok abt this once in which an older army talked abt this and i think this is really true.

ahhh yeah, honestly, i might have just misinterpreted your phrasing! but your clarification surely helps, so i think i get what you meant. and yes, that's true, bts for sure aren't gods, but just human beings, too. yeah, ofc! we don't have to agree upon beauty, bcos ofc you'll perceive it differently from bts or me or anyone else. they'll look at who they find pretty... and you or someone else will not. that's okay, as long as one's not rude, disrespectful or straight up mean.

so yeah, i get you! i guess just the phrasing was off :)

#notes for rid 🌹 #anon

[destinyc1020]

"toxic environment for themselves"

This ^^^ here.

I dont like talking about them but lemme say this if any antis or blogs are spying... y'all need to move on.... log off. Sorry if this is disrespectful but from what ive seen the blogs are a group of people enabling each others coping mechanisms. Its so unhealthy. They're desperate to reassure eachother theyre not really together but they're dreading everytime they go online incase there's more tea that they've to spin it into some nonsense to sooth themselves. Now I dont feel bad cause most are horrible to tom or straight up racists but I think there's a point to be made. If anything stresses you out to this level on social media please log off. It happened when tomdaya first broke up many people had to take a break and tbh theres a few tomdayas that could probably take a break and not stress so much over when they're gonna see eachother next or this or that. Stanning someone is meant to be fun. Its meant to take you away from the stress of your life. If that's not the case anymore (which i think is actually quite common) then you need to step back. I see it all the time in the tom fandom. Fans constantly stressing about his roles, what people are saying about him etc. Its become extremely common to get obsessive and attached to things and people whether its a comfort thing or social media giving us so much information on a person we feel like we know them but I think its so important for people to become self aware and learn their limit. I wishhhh stans would learn this it would cause them so many less headaches and arguments. Why spend all day arguing if a couple is real or not? Why spend the day trying to prove them wrong? Why waste your life arguing with randomers on whos the best spider-man or why toms movies aren't bad or why zendaya isn't operated etc. Being a fan of someone should be about enjoying their content and sharing your love for them with others not to become their army and attack anyone who says boo about them. Apologies this became an essay its just something that I've noticed and it's really been bothering me. Its hard to have fun in a fandom that spends me time arguing with people then hyping up their fav

Thank you Anon for saying this!   I agree  💯%!   You brought up so many good points about Antis/Trolls. Like you said, most of them are trying to console themselves (in an unhealthy way btw) by trying desperately to disprove or discredit a legitimate relationship btwn 2 people, instead of just taking the L, MOVING ON, and simply being happy for them.  

I can’t even imagine what it must feel like to be an anti/troll right now.  I would feel constantly on edge rotfl.   It would be a depressing existence let me tell you.  It’s way too much mental and emotional energy to try to negate something, instead of just letting what’s meant to be to just BE.   

As for Tom Stans/Z Stans or Tomdaya Stans..... I agree with you on this also!  Stanning/fangirling over someone is supposed to be fun and light-hearted.  If you find that it is causing you a lot of anxiety, depression, anger, or uneasiness, then whew chillle....You either need to step AWAY from the fandom for a bit and focus more on yourself and your own life, OR, maybe it’s best to stan or be a fan of someone else.  😔 

Being a fan of someone should never be hard work or make you feel anxious/upset/angry/argumentative.  If it’s making you feel that way, then it’s a problem.  It might be best to not take people’s opinions (especially online)  too seriously.  Opinions are like belly buttons... Everyone has them, and a lot of them stink lol. 😂    I understand that you want to defend your fave (and some people’s hatred online really does cross the line and is very hurtful and uncalled for), but honestly, those people’s opinions don’t mean much in the long run. 

Just focus on the POSITIVE fans, and focus on your fave.  There will always be haters out there, but don’t focus on them.  You will be happier focusing on people who appreciate your fave and their work. JMHO   

[convxction]

Aannddd 🔥 of ur choice

Send me a “ 🔥 “ for an unpopular opinion. | accepting | @abyssal-tide

[ [ uuhhh....let’s see. it is something i do, personally and some might find it...hmm idk how they perceive it but it is with female muses. I try to be as unbiased????? as much as i can when i interact with female muses? but not like ‘ew female muses’ but out of respect. Im sure all rpers of female muses have it tough, even till now, sadly, with the whole ‘ew you trying to ship with my muse by force’ and that kind of crap. btw if anyone feel that about female muses please unfollow me, kindly. as there are bad female muses there ARE BAD MALE MUSES DONT BE A DICK. THIS WHOLE DOUBLE STANDARDS THING IS DIGUSTING. 

anyway. what i was saying, yeah. ahem. what i mean that this approach is mostly because of HOW my muse is. chrom has been brought up by his sister so automatically he kind of feels close to his female peers on a sibling like relationship. he sees every older female as a big sister figure (of course if she proved it to be like that) or like a mentor just like how Phila is for him. If the female muse is of his age he can feel it more on friendly manner, someone of his equal and can confide to if possible. if the female muse is younger than him she is automatically set to be treated like Lissa, no question about it. 

I guess i should apologize if any female muse i interacted with i kept saying uwu adorable sibs vibe or something and you thought i was subtly pushing you away, please no. it’s just how chrom is. until you really throw a brick on his head he won’t ‘accept’ he has feelings for someone, not just a female muse. he goes into stages like ‘is it just admiration or i like this person?’ / ‘if i like this person is it momentarily because they are around me or is it something to last forever?’ / ‘are my feelings going to be bothersome to them or not?’ / ‘am i ready to confess and show my conviction to my feelings to this person or not?’ etc. and there is always the out burst of confession depend on the situation and how myself and the mun in question plan the scene. 

so yeah it is not about ‘not wanting to interact with female muses’ ...looks at my ships. hmm i love me chrom waifus. but yeah i understand if someone felt scared or intimated if they see me tag things with neesa or like his little sister a lot because again thats how chrom operate. he drinks respect wahman juice every day he can’t disrespect them even if he wanted to because then emmeryn and lissa will ...do what is necessarily to correct his bad behavior. cough.  

the only time, it kind of happened that i tried to push the whole ‘she is like a sister’ when i felt like the other party is being adamant about shipping without talking it through, they just wanted a ship asap. 

oh one time someone kept vague posting about how her oc is the ‘best’ or something of that line to be lucina’s mom and im just....ok? cool. and it was honestly very annoying and disrespectful to me, and to any chrom rper when she wanted to have lucina as a daughter then go on her way to treat chrom like he does not exists. idk if the mun is a fan of chrom or something but that truly didn’t shine in her posts when they are kind of...treating chrom like nothing or not mention him at all. yes as if you can have lucina out of thin air..my god.

i dont like the beat around the bush way of trying to get my attention. if you want to ship just come say hello i think our muses might get along can we think of a plot/thread together and see how they actually interact together? idk i dont find it hard of a feat. instead of badmouthing chrom on the dash..what are you tsundere? sheesh. senpai does not notice uncultured people. 

boy oh boy i mixed stuff in here..welp. but yeah so basically, i love female muses. i love writing with them. i dont like when people assume im trying to push them away. if you do try to make me uncomfortable and ask for a ship when i tell you it wont work but keep asking for it then you get a block. dont try to get my attention by ‘oh my muse is definitely the best mom for lucina. her canon moms suck’. i will block you and add your url to my rules page to make sure my friends know you are not a nice person. i have not done it once in my life but this is just childish and dumb. especially for someone old(20+) and not a teen. 

i love female muses....they cool...stronk...smart.....and kind...and gentle...sugar....spice...and everything nice. ...and chemical x ....love me. love chrom. please give him a lot of neesas and imutos and nakahomies and i dont mind galfriendos. please contact me if you feel something is not right. i might, for sure, not notice it. contact me. contaaaaaaaaaaact me please.

dont block me.

#⚔ooc.⚔ (faty speaks) #abyssal-tide #[[will i lose..................followers...? lets see. #[[if so then welp.

[cherwd-pen]

Hii can i have a jjba part 5 match up pleasee. Im a 5ft3 brownskin sagittarius  ENTPA very bubbly happy confident & energetic.im bi but i lean more towards men. I often brighten up a room & have everybody laughing. Im goofy & have a funny laugh as ive been told. Im often very laid back but at times i can get aggitated quite easily & lash out without meaning to. Im actually really lucky too 🤸🏾‍♀️I love rollerskating & running. Iam known for being sassy & good at defending myself & those i care about. I DONT tolerate disrespect but can take a joke.iam VERY impulsive so i often make bad decisions and often act based on my emotions. I have a rbf so ppl are often intimidated by me at 1st. I often get stared at and approached in public because of my figure and hair so I hope he can handle with that lol. I often come across as blunt and brutally honest at times because i dont like to beat around the bush. I often wear out my big afro or i wear braids as a protective style. Iam very educated despite always messing around in school and get good grades. Iam very opinionated so will argue with my points for hours and 9/10 i would win. Iam very laid back and often tease my friends and iam quite childish and like messing about and i like playing lazer tag and games like that. I have very weird videos in my camera roll without context that I send to people to make them laugh. I think one of my best personality traits is that I send random voice notes of cupkakkes song deep throat or just 18+ asmrs for their reactions. thank youu ❤️❤️

a/n: the show gives us ✨jackshit✨ on anyone but the bucci gang/doppio so its pretty research/headcanon based but not by much

▸ your sweetheart is … ILLUSO

▸ your song is … LOVE. FEAT. ZACARI. BY KENDRICK LAMAR/ZACARI

▸ other love letters from … RISOTTO NERO

— my reasoning

an asshole leo to your easygoing sagittarius thank god cuz he a bitch and needs someone to beat his ass

plz put him in his place at the start or the leo in him will get way to cocky at bagging a total baddie

illuso gives me ISTP Leo vibes so the big issues are pride

i believe he was an almost too smart kid growing up and is so educated so the conversations are so rewarding and 11/10

both of you have xxxP so there is a good chance the fights are no more than any other couple but lethal since it takes a lot for most xxxP to get riled up none the less a ISTP

that being said he is accepting of personal expression and will not tolerate disrespect but is a little shitty with how far to take jokes so the fact you can definitely bite back is a healthy balance and makes the sensitive leo grow up

ISTPs/Leos aren’t very impulsive so this works good at being that voice of reason in turn you are the voice of “shut up, don’t think, just go for it!”

basically your MBTI is such a new POV while you zodiac is able to help evolve his Leo (which seems like it goes from mature to immature)

for you, his MBTI is the realistic and seriousness that contrasts your quick, brightness while his zodiac will walk WITH your confidence, goofiness, headstrong sagittarius and not see you as a threat but ally and partner

— dating

i talked mad shit but he’s just rough around the edges i promise

you would have to be a member of la squadra or this wouldn’t last long

he will not want you on missions without him or formaggio but it’s like risotto is against him

you seem like you’d work well with formaggio or melone so chances are you both confessed around the same time (you first then him) and everyone thought you were with one of those 2 and not illuso

it’s a soft in private, professional on duty kinda deal even if professional means you giving him stupid butterflies and blowing up his phone at the worse times (he loves it )

not the super cuddly type but will not stop tugging you around with an arm slug around you

lord forbid formaggio platonically flirt with you during meeting, he’ll bit his tongue and just grab your thigh and afterwards he casually blows your back out

so anyway,,,he’s the type to do dumb shit like scare you then kiss you for a while before admitting he fucked up your roller-skates

as stated he’s not cuddly but is handsy like the arm slung around you, grabbing you with a firm but gentle touch, and is pretty open about whatever you want to know or just in general

kinda a bully who does few but elaborate pranks so expect something 2x as hard after you have him listening to asmr

he once listened to you singing "im not a squirter i cream" in public and now he's banned thanks to you

marriage is something you both would definitely have to sit and talk about if you wanna stay in the mafia or get out, where to go, rings or no rings, etc

btw he advises tiny tattoos somewhere only you both can see-

#🤍.love lounge #jjba matchup #jjba illuso

[izzyliker]

i think like.... some of this ‘fanfic isnt above criticism’ discourse fundamentally is built on some weird ideas and understandings of criticism, creative freedom, and variance in ppl reading the exact same thing. 

like: just because you dont like a specific thing about someones writing doesnt mean its objectively, concretely wrong, bad, or inappropriate. nobodys going to kill you or jail you or whatever for leaving a mean or unnecessarily blunt comment on someones fic, but it is kind of sad/funny to see people talk shit about writers for ‘not taking criticism’ as if their opinion is objective truth and not just.....their opinion.

like: i have had people tell me my writing is too abstract, or it doesnt make any sense, or that i use too many metaphors or whatever. thats their opinion! i have also had people say that me writing the way i do is dreamy/mesmerizing/whatever nice, sweet things they had to say about it. as a hobbyist writer and someone who ENJOYS writing that way i am not going to change it because someone didnt like it, and people being mad about that is... kind of funny to me? just dont read my fic then! i write six line long sentences and use five em dashes in a single paragraph because i like doing it. if you dont like reading that you dont have to read it!

there’s... of course room for gently calling people out for writing in -phobic and -ist stuff while obviously having no idea that it was -ist or -phobic (eg. having characters misgender a trans character and not warning in the tags, or referring to a trans character as their deadname and using the wrong pronouns until they transition [’x was a girl blah blah she liked blah blah then she suddenly realized shes a boy wow anyway now im getting to the actual story after misgendering my character for no reason. them being trans never comes up again’], or writing deeply bigoted stuff or otherwise inserting unfortunate tropes in writing) and im not going to say that it’s ~bullying~ someone to let someone know that it seems like their writing reflects their own, genuine bigoted beliefs or misconceptions, and a lot of time people will be mortified and thankful to hear that (and when they aren’t theyre usually either openly bigoted, or theyve had other people tell them otherwise and chosen to believe those people instead, which you can feel however you want about).

like: ive left a strongly worded comment on a fic before because it turned out to be completely untagged for the rape depicted in it (as in: no archive warnings apply - not even chose not to warn), and featured a twoc ‘’’’’’having sex with’’’’’’’ a trans guy, where the author was a white cis person who did not see anything wrong with the lack of tagging OR the damaging tropes used with zero self awareness. i dont think you can NEVER say ‘im trans/gay/bi/ace/a person of color/a person of this ethnicity and you don’t seem to be - did anyone beta read this, because you have depicted the character with my marginalized trait in a very stereotypical way, and idk if thats on purpose or not’ or anything similar. sometimes people who are racist or homophobic or biphobic or transphobic also write fic. sometimes a fic makes your spider senses tingle because of the way something bad is depicted in it. 

but like and especially re darkfic - 

when people say ‘you need to take criticism when people say your fic glorifies bad relationships’ i think... what people fail to take into account is that although sometimes people do in fact write narratives where they do not even realize theyre writing a shitty relationship (this is often made obvious by a complete lack of tagging or a flippant attitude about the actions of the characters rather than anything that happens in the work itself) sometimes when you read a fic and think ‘this obviously says that this relationship is good! and that you should read this and think the relationship is good!’ it’s not actually an objective, true criticism that the author needs to... idk...rectify? reflection is always good for yknow becoming a better writer and looking at possible issues re: how you see relationships or certain people or whatever (this isnt just writers or artists btw, this is also you as the reader or the consumer or the person, existing in the world), but sometimes it’s just a fic that either was triggering for you, or that didn’t fill the specific narrative need you had.

again: i have written unhealthy relationships. i like writing codependence, and relationships with bad boundaries, and relationships where people are in denial about how their relationship makes them feel. i have, ON THE SAME FICS, had people say they thought it was validating; or cathartic; or respectful; or realistic and kind and compassionate portrayal of those relationship AND other people say they were uncomfortable; that they thought the narrative not using the word abuse meant it wasnt meant to be abuse (despite the ‘unhealthy relationships’ tag); that they thought it was disrespectful to write two characters they liked in an unhealthy relationship. and theyre all allowed to have those opinions! sometimes someone’s writing just doesn’t spark joy. but just because you didn’t like a fic doesn’t mean the writer has failed. when a fic writer has multiple people say ‘i liked this; this felt real; it felt compassionate and respectful and i will come back and read it again’ and one person say ‘i think this is bad’ i don’t think its... evil of the writer to say ‘yknow, im sorry you didn’t like this fic, you might want to read x fic where the story has a happier ending instead,’ and not change or delete or otherwise do anything to that fic.

i dont know guys like... again, just because you didn't like something doesnt mean theres something intrinsically wrong with it. and a loooooot of posts here conflate ‘this person wrote a fic that uncritically used a bunch of tropes the author did not tag for and thus was not even aware of having used and i have left a comment saying that the implications of that are kinda fucked’ with ‘this person wrote a fic about an abusive relationship/sexual assault/whatever and it wasn’t written the way i want those topics to be written about, and i have left them a comment saying that they need to kill themselves for it.’ 

#man....like......i have seen the fucked up shit on ao3. i truly have witnessed Some Shit. ive opened a fic and immediately backclicked #bc the way it depicted sensitive topics was just very callous and had an air of complete lack of research having gone into it #i have also read fic that i recognized was useful for other people probably but that was intensively triggering to me for no specific reason #sometimes things are handled in ways that arent necessarily...objectively bad. they just dont work for everyone #i rarely want to read any kind of 'this person is in a bad relationship and someone talks them out of it and then theyre happy' kinda stuff #my catharsis comes from the uncertainty of the ending and the emotional parts of the active relationship #theres like.....irl reasons for that. but people also dont need to have any specific tragic backstory to enjoy certain narratives more than #others. idk yall. whatever #long post #disk horse #rape ment

[xxx-theartofsuicide-xxx]

please just stop being such a jerk to people who ask you things nicely, be mean to those that are mean first but if its something like whats your favorite animal dont just jump into ranting at the person, it doesnt help your image

Please grow a pair of testicles and stop sending messages to people containing life advice when you're not even willing to attach your name to them, you holier-than-thou fucking coward. I don't like any of the dickless little shits like you. Fuck all of you. You think just because you're not cussing you're not being disrespectful? You're being a spineless little shit. You're coming to me and telling me to change my behavior, not to suit your own needs or help me in any way, but because you're self-important enough to think your bitchy little anonymous opinion means anything to me.

Fuck you.

I'm going to continue verbally lashing out at anyone who comes to me on anon with bullshit to say. In my entire history of receiving anonymous messages, I have exploded on exactly ONE person who sent a non-hostile message that I read incorrectly. One. So why the fuck are you honing in on that ONE experience and telling ME to change my behavior? Why not share some empathy for all the bullshit I get, since you're obviously such a sensitive, caring individual?

It's because you don't actually give a shit. You're just a control freak with too much time on your hands. Eat a dick.

My image is phenomenal btw. The people adore me.

#dumbass anon

[softpine]

hi so i dont want to start anything but since it was brought up again what you said about danny being straight and incidentally gay has been bothering me since you first mentioned it ): someone having the potential to be attracted to same and other genders is the literal definition of bisexuality and labeling him as straight feels like erasure but then calling him “incidentally gay” feels even more disrespectful? idk i didnt want to bring this up while youre already stressed but im hurt tbh ):

i feel like there might have been a little bit of miscommunication here, so i’m going to try to share my thoughts on it, but first i want to say: i’m so so sorry that i hurt you, my intentions have always been to portray bisexuality as accurately as possible (with caroline’s storyline in particular) and i want to do everything i can to make sure no one feels hurt by my story!! so after i’m done explaining, if there’s anything i can do to help, please let me know!

so first, i used the phrase “incidentally gay” because i was referring to the kinsey scale. it was an old scientific way to describe sexuality (on a range between 0 -- exclusively heterosexual, to 6 -- exclusively homosexual, i hate that word btw), based on a survey that you take yourself. a 1 on the scale, which is what i called danny, is “predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual”. that’s what i meant by “incidentally gay”, i didn’t mean to diminish bisexuality at all!! many people who would call themselves a 1 on the kinsey scale also call themselves bisexual, and i completely agree that that’s accurate!! but a lot of those people consider themselves straight too (in high school ap psychology we took the kinsey test privately, but we could share our answers if we wanted, and there were quite a few people who were either 1′s or 5′s that saw themselves as either straight or gay or bi, it just depends!! i hope that makes sense). anyway, i don’t even agree with the kinsey scale as an accurate “measurement” of sexuality, because i don’t think there’s any measurement on the planet that could be 100% accurate. sexuality is something really personal and different for everyone!! even people within one label may feel differently to each other. so i just want to put a little disclaimer that i’m not supporting the kinsey scale, i just used it as a quick way to get information across.

for danny in particular, i’ve tried to make it pretty clear that he sees himself as straight, not bisexual (ie: this post). he doesn’t have any kind of turmoil over it, he doesn’t even give it much thought, and he’s completely fine calling himself straight. like i said in this post, he doesn’t see himself dating anyone besides caroline, so he’s not even like.. fantasizing about other women, let alone other men. in my mind, i didn’t see this as bi erasure, because i’ve like.. been friends with real people who think about themselves this way. but i do understand that when writing a story, your characters automatically become representation of something, and i would hate to harm anyone by making any implications about bisexual people in general!

to finish this off, i want to say that i haven’t said all there is to be said about danny’s sexuality. we’re only like halfway done with the story yet, and i know i’ve already spoiled a lot of things in the plot, but there’s still a LOT that you guys don’t know about yet. it’s like when you’re reading an actual book, sometimes your opinions will change by the end, because new things happen that change the characters’ situations/thoughts/feelings. and since i’m posting this story one post at a time, there are a lot of things that you sort of have to withhold judgement for, until the time comes. saying that, in and of itself, is kind of a spoiler, but i think it needs to be said!

okay i’m so sorry for the essay, and i really want to apologize for hurting you. please please message me if there’s something more i can do right now!! would it help if i just changed his bio to say straight? or would that make it worse? :(

#please don't be scared to chime in on this!! #i want to make sure i'm learning from this #camellia ask #long post #anonymous #asks #saviorhide #brandi answers

[deveharrington]

To: The anon who is sad about Deadbeat Ducookie (theoretically) being a two timing (and maybe three? four? five? etc? timing lmao) piece of fucking shit during the Gillovny revival era (~2016 onwards??): don’t be sad :-)

Be happy: this situation (if true) is only sad IF you legitimize David’s current “situation” as being anywhere near on the same plane as Gillovny, or any normal human relationship for that matter. 

Even if I do not support Gillovny anymore, there is no comparison to the obvious chemistry, rapport, way of interacting that exists between D and G. So, again, do not legitimize D’s current situation because how much more evidence do we need that it is bullshit (I don’t mean that it is not “existing”, I mean that it is a fucking fantasy, exploitation, manipulation, lie, deception, coercion, transaction etc.) and built upon a foundation of bullshit (D’s fantasy world. More concrete evidence: this guy actually thinks he is a legitimate rockstar* so… that should give you some insight on his grasp on reality). 

So, probably the only evidence we need that its fake bullshit (perfect for David :-) ): that age gap. 

I’ve said it before: Gillovny is too real for David, he can’t handle legitimate challenges in life and I’m pretty sure he can’t handle any relationship/“situation” that is not about his stupid male dominant fairytale ideals that he saw in one too many outdated movies, songs or books. The guy can’t create anything original, he can only follow, so don’t even be surprised that he’s embodying the midlife crisis nonsense to a T. Even his constant deflections and excuses for himself are as predictable as clockwork - we know his arrogance, his self consciousness, and his pattern of doing everything he can to conceal those things by now. lmao. 

Gillian did all the work for him so let’s be glad that she’s rid of the dead weight. 

So: again, don’t legitimize David. Don’t legitimize his judgment (how much evidence do we have or need of his superficiality? poor decision making skills? poor impulse control - thanks to another anon for pointing this out?), don’t legitimize his one million excuses that he makes to others and to HIMSELF (notice how all of his excuses always occur after the fact of his poorly executed behaviours? conclusion: he doesn’t put any fucking thought into his actions which is fucking reckless, even dangerous just to begin with), don’t legitimize his shitty views on women in any way, including by being sad that Gillian is now free of him :-) D is always projecting, but he’s the one who cannot survive without cheap validation. Gillian does not need that and she does not need him :-) Actually, her career flourished after being rid of that 200lbs (or w/e) of pure bullshit. 

More: David is so many shitty things but basically he is so incredibly disrespectful, and, as normal human beings, do we put up with disrespect in relationships? Would you put up with being hidden? having your “partner” always walking ahead of you, ignoring you? Never talking about you? separating you from their family and kids? 

The thing is, David WILL put up with disrespect, its an anomaly but it comes from him disrespecting HIMSELF, or perhaps not knowing himself nor setting boundaries for himself (maybe this is why he violates the boundaries of others so much). He WILL put up with disrespect, and actually this is nearly impossible for anyone to fathom if they respect themselves, but try to see it his way: imagine if you hated yourself so much you didn’t care how others treated you. 

To illustrate: Imagine if you hated yourself so much and ALSO COULD NOT TRUST YOURSELF to such an extent that there was nothing you could say to yourself to make yourself feel better so you decided to “tour” the globe just to stand in front of a crowd and make a damn fool of yourself JUST TO HEAR A CROWD CHEERING while at the same time knowing that people are only there because you were in a successful T.V. show in THE NINETIES. AND, IMAGINE YOU ARE AN ACTOR, AND YOU DIDN’T EVEN HAVE ANY SUCCESSFUL T.V. shows/movies w/e in the present!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

More on disrespect - he cannot respect the opinions of others: notice how he cannot address situations where he feels that he’s been slighted (its all in his head btw) without lashing out, insulting others, trying to change history etc. etc. He’s a child. 

So, most importantly he will put up with disrespecting HIMSELF, so if he will not trust himself then why should we trust him? Again, don’t trust or legitimize what he does, its not real. 

If you can see and admit that the rockstar bullshit is just that: bullshit (it’s bullshit but it still carries on like some morbidly limping machine because of too many enablers around D), then see and admit that the sexy irresistible jobless arrogant jerk “dating” someone around the same age as HIS OWN DAUGHTER bullshit is also bullshit (again, it’s bullshit but it still carries on like some morbidly limping machine because of too many enablers around D). 

Do we really want that kind of person around Gillian? 

Please learn from me: don’t sweat over him!!!!!!!!!! Though, I’m still trying to learn this. Let’s learn together :-) Be happy and laugh with me :-) HAHAHAHAH;K;AHAHAHAHAHALAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA 

BECAUSE: 

*I recently watched an interview from 2018 (!!) where David said that people were coming to his “concerts” for the “music” and not for his “celebrity” “status”…. LMAO ya’lls this guy is DELUSIONAL!!!! I can’t LMAO I swear he honestly believes this for real! He said it straight, he didn’t use any self deprecation in that statement there were no jokes but it was probably the most hilarious thing he’s ever said HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA

[arzayleatheory]

HONESTLY YOU DONT HAVE TO FUCKING LIKE ARZAYLEA BUT YOU DONT GO AROUND AND COMPARE HER FAMILY TO A BUNCH OF FUCKING FARM ANIMALS, YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTING AND IT JUST SHOWS YOU WHAT TYPE OF PERSON YOU ACTUALLY ARE! I CANT BELIEVE I ACTUALLY CALLED YOU NICE AND EVERYTHING TOO

Wow. My opinion has changed on you completely, I actually thought you were a very nice girl, but you’re just gross. You don’t go around and compare someone’s family to zoo animals, how would you like it if someone did that to you. It just shows you’re full of hate and that you’re a hateful person. I’m glad CallieRumour was created because she really changed my view about you in that one simple post. How would you like it if someone compared your family to a bunch of farm animals? you wouldn’t like it all, so what made you think it was right to do that to Arzaylea. That’s really fucking low, disrespectful, and gross. It just shows who you are as a person and that you are a person filled with hate. Please go out and find a positive source of energy in your life because you are obviously filled with hate. You don’t have to like her but you don’t go around and compare her family to a bunch of animals. I can’t believe that I actually called you a nice sweet girl and everything. Thank God CallieRumour was made because she really showed what kind of girl you are. Bye.

THIS IS SO FUNNY HJSJSJSJHJSJSJSJ

When I first read it, I was like, “wtf is this person even talking about….?” But then I remembered. You’re referring to this tweet from over a year ago. Yep, I just linked to it so everyone can look at it and I don’t plan on deleting it. Why? Because nothing about it is wrong. It’s a joke. A lame joke, but a joke nonetheless. People who don’t understand jokes are the most boring people on this planet. I’m so sorry that you’re one of them. :(

It seems like you’re really bent out of shape about this situation, so let me spell it out for you.

In no way was I comparing Arzaylea’s actual biological family to zoo animals. In fact, I’m not sure I even knew anything about her family or who they were at the time I tweeted that. Her family hasn’t done anything wrong – at least not that I’m aware of – so they have literally nothing to do with the joke. 

I saw a picture of Arzaylea at the zoo with Luke and fired back with the first thing that popped into my head, which was the cliche and immature, “haha! That must be her family!!!” Of course there’s nothing wrong with her taking a picture with a horse – it’s not like she used it for followers and lived in it’s house for free – but everything she does gets on my last nerve because she’s such a toxic, abusive person. She could sit on a couch and I’d get angry. Her existence bothers me. Everyone knows that. That’s the reasoning behind the tweet. It’s not that deep, and the fact that there’s literally a blog called Callierumor run by someone who’s reaching this hard in order to make me look bad while simultaneously making a huge dumbass out of themselves is hilarious to me. I thought they would’ve given up by now, but I’m glad they haven’t because it’s entertaining.

(Btw, before anyone says something like, “you’re a huge hypocrite!!! Callierumor is no different from you!!! You reach so hard to make Arzaylea look bad and they’re just trying to show you how it feels!!!” My blog and Callierumor are two completely different situations. Arzaylea puts her entire life on the Internet and has publicly fucked up too many times to count. She effortlessly gives me new opportunities to “expose” her daily. I, on the other hand, am basically anonymous. You know virtually nothing about me. You don’t see what my life is like or how I treat the people I love. You don’t know me, and I mean it when I say that, unlike Arzaylea who says the same thing while oversharing online 24/7.)

#anon #ref