#gives him a friend

[laughingcatwrites]

As a reminder that good exists out there, a coworker recently confessed to me that he found out his child is questioning their identity (kid's gender redacted for this post). The kid is keeping it from him, so he can't say anything to them or show that he knows, but he's doing his best to get mentally prepared and educated so that he'll be ready whenever his kid does feel comfortable enough come to him.

For context, this guy is a big, bulky middle aged dude who loves sports and typical outdoor "manly" activities. As his coworker and friend, I know he's a kind and sweet teddy bear of a person, but his kid probably views him as a stern, authoritarian figure, the way most teenagers view their parents. His family lives in a conservative area, so I'm sure between that, their dad's looks and interests, and the fact that their dad is a Figure of Authority, the kid is worried that they won't be accepted.

But you know what? When he found out about his kid, the first thing he did was reach out to his closest queer friend and ask for resources for parents of questioning children. His biggest fears are that his kid will be bullied or discriminated against and won't feel comfortable enough to be themself. His second action was to find himself a mentor in another parent who went the same situation (kid coming out in a conservative town). The other person is preparing him for some of the struggles his kid may face and the fights he may need to take on as a parent to make sure his kid is safe and treated well.

Something I want to emphasize for people focused on language as the primary method of allyship is that when we spoke, he used some outdated terms and thoughts about gender and sexuality. That does not make him bad. These were the terms and thinking used about questioning teenagers when he was growing up and he never needed to learn more current ones. But now that he does have that need, he's throwing himself in head first because that's his kid and he's darn well going to make sure that his kid feels welcomed and has a safe place to be themselves even if they never come out to him.

#I'm so proud and happy for my coworker and I've been trying to figure out how to let him know how amazing I think he is #what gets me the most is that he's keeping this super down low to avoid giving any hints to his kid #he has a lot of queer friends so he already is known as an ally but there's always a chance it will be different if it's family #and he took that chance and crumpled it up into a ball and slam dunked it into the garbage for three points #and decided that even if his kid wants to hide it from him for the rest of his life he will still do what he can to make their life better #pflag #parents doing their best #parenting win #good news #allyship

[apollos-boyfriend]

just saw a clip where f1nn5ter was saying how at this point, he can’t be cis, but at the same time, he doesn’t feel like he’s trans—he’s just neither. and someone in chat was like “you can’t be neither cis nor trans that’s not how it works” i love finn but why is his chat so fucking bad 😭 stop recreating binaries for the love of god, identity does not have to fall into these neat little boxes for you to police

#icarus speaks #neg #AND THEN PEOPLE WERE TRYING TO GIVE HIM LABELS???? LIKE HE DOESNT KNOW???? #not only has he been at this for two years but one of his closest friends is a transwoman #i think he fucking knows what non-binary means 😭 #containment breach #<- i haven’t edited this one yet b it just in case

[bookish-bi-mormon]

Brennan Lee Mulligan on Dimension 20 is a harsh but ultimately benevolent god, who subjects his players to harrowing trials which they curse him for in the moment, but later come to appreciate were for their benefit and enjoyment.

Sam Reich on Game Changer, on the other hand, is a cruel and capricious god who mocks and torments his players with games he has deviously designed to distress and enrage them, all for his own amusement and the attention of the masses.

#and we love him for it! #game changer #dropout #also sometimes he does game changer episodes that are just him giving his friends cool presents #but that's cause he's tricksy

[egophiliac]

some more Twst pokemon as my brain melts at the impending episode 7 drop tomorrow! ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ

I went with Gholdengo and Cufant for Kalim, and Seviper and Malamar for Jamil! I went back and forth a looooot on whether to give Malamar to Jamil or Azul, but ultimately I think it just fits Jamil better. (Seviper was a given though)

#art #twisted wonderland #pokemon #poketwst #tentacles #if i had decided against giving jamil malamar then the backup plan was chatot #not because it actually fits him i just think jamil with a chatot would be funny #kalim would teach it to say nice things to him and then it would keep him up all night screeching HEY JAMIL YOU'RE MY BEST FRIEND!!!! #LET'S BE TOGETHER FOREVER AND EVER AND EVER #jamil frantically googling how to rerecord chatter in the background

[un-pearable]

ngl one of the most useful things i’ve internalized from doing art online is never tell people what to criticize. don’t preemptively apologize for things or point out where you think you fumbled, it’s just priming people to notice minor issues that might not actually matter and hit you where you’re sensitive and throw you off your game. don’t tell people your weak points. if it’s a genuine problem they’ll point it out

#especially not if they’re the professor grading your assignment!!!!!!!!!! feel so bad for my friend #i cant tell him it now bc it’ll come across as mean but i feel so bad :( he kept apologizing for things he didn’t need to and it made him #seem unprepared. when he actually had 95% of what he needed and apologizing made it LOOK like he didn’t #text✨ #i’m making it sound very dramatic here but it’s straight up helped me so much with my anxiety #the above doesn’t apply if you’re looking for constructive criticism kr any thing #i’m very specifically talking about stuff like posting art online or giving a presentation or whatever

[aroaceleovaldez]

i think a lot about how in Blood of Olympus, Nico was supposed to be sentenced to death as a traitor by the Romans alongside Reyna, and how he was just 100% ready to throw down with Michael Kahale (who is like, twice his height and weight) if Reyna gave him the word. By the end of their quest Nico was really just ready to start biting people if Reyna asked him to and gave absolutely zero shits about potentially dying.

#pjo #riordanverse #nico di angelo #by the end of BoO Reyna had gained a new pegasus a new best friend and a new dog #the new dog and new best friend are both nico #Nico became ride or die for Reyna IMMEDIATELY #nico was killing and maiming and ready to do it again for Reyna #Michael Kahale: so you're supposed to be sentenced to death as traitors | Nico: GIVE ME THE WORD REYNA I'LL KILL HIM

[suiheisen]

you think YOU had a bad day at work?

bonus: sid shrieking "no!!!! NO!!!!!" loud enough to be heard in the stands and on camera

#this is now my FAVOURITE game i've watched in real life knocking the game misconduct one off the number one rank #he was so annoyed the entire game and so annoying about it :') #he kept shrieking away on the bench and i couldn't hear a word from where i was seated #but you could just hear this constant yipping away dhfsgfkjshgfsjf PLEASE it was so funny your 36-year-old babygirl was BARKING #drew kept sitting there like... is mom okay... i don't think mom's okay... #also extremely good for me (since he wasn't really hurt) was the whumpfest of it all oh my god what ancient gods did he anger......... #geno kept Hovering in concern #po kept giving him little shoulder pats the way a sweet brave babyboy would try his best to soothe a rabid little dog #ek of course kept trying to slide right inside him and also kept skating up to him and STARING him in the face in concern/lust/both #also guys this is my first time in canada ever!!!!!!!! i'm excited #anyway. very good game for me sorry for this post but you know i love a #long post #sidney crosby #evgeni malkin #pittsburgh penguins #also!!! to all who celebrate #ramadan kareem/eid mubarak #<333 staying with a friend here through the eid celebration and they've been cooking and everything smells so good

[lazycranberrydoodles]

they are so in love and disgusting and also sarcastic bitches. follow for more / prev comic / next comic

#i have BEEN the grossly affectionate couple in the friend group btw. maybe one more reason i love them #right off the bat after meeting they are holding hands and hugging and touching each others shoulders #xie lian even rubs hua cheng’s back to calm him down during the lang qianqiu/ qi rong scene #also #the fandom knows that xl is an essentially kind person but i’ve been paying attention to his dynamic w/ fxmq #they give each other so much shit lmao 😭 #when xl is with people he knows well and trusts he is truly so judgemental and sarcastic. #it is so funny. #can you imagine being confronted by the most powerful people in the three realms and they destroy your self esteem with dry fucking wit #feeling so insane about them currently #tgcf #art #hualian #heaven official's blessing #tian guan ci fu #hua cheng #xie lian #feng xin #digital art #my art #mxtx #comic

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Laios's three Boy Best Friends. And yes, they hate him.

#dungeon meshi #laios touden #toshiro nakamoto #chilchuck tims #kabru #BF in this context could be boyfriend or best friend. The line is so blurry. #Chilchuck less so but whatever is going on between Shuro and Laios & Kabru and Laios is giving strong: #“dude if you were a girl I'd date the hell out of you”. And from the genderswap extra's that sentiment is canon for BOTH. #This was made prior to the translation of the Laios & Kabru & Shuro restaurant date comic and honestly I am just feeling vindicated. #I don't even know what to call this dynamic other than a situationship. There is so much going on between all of them. #Even on a purely platonic reading - the miscommunication and male yearning for friendship hurt so bad. #When we got the Big Hug scene in the epilogue arc I was whooping and hollering! Pure catharsis moment! #I also don't like hugs very much so I really felt it went Shuro ('hates being touched') went in for the bear hug. #Do not get me started on the agony of 'always lying' Kabru telling the truth (I just wanted to be friends) #and 'always believes' Laios thinking it's another lie and brushing him off. #I am once again supporting dungeon meshi day by posting art. Please watch dungeon meshi. #obligatory edit because I’m tired: YES. Chilchuck cares for Laios and him admitting it was a huge part of his arc #YES he is more just fed up with him that actually hating him. #I needed a third guy to be canonically done with his ass for the THREE WEED SMOKING GIRLFRIENDS reference

[teenagenutant]

a bit more weird, wild, and less structurally stable than the 2-turtle fusions, here's bosch (raph+mikey+donnie) and machiavelli (leo+mikey+donnie)!

pure impulsive destructive excitement and 'what if your annoying little sibling was also the world's most acrobatic awful cat'

#fusion mayhem au #fmau #tmnt #rottmnt #my turtle art #bosch has been 90% done for a very long time so i wanted to give him a friend and finally post them :) their designs arent set in stone but #machiavelli is very very lovingly inspired by softbrainedrinks sofonisba design that im not sure is posted any where anymore.. #velli in another world could be a villain. but its fine. bc they only come together when united in either Annoy Raph or Save Raph #sneak preview for future art: velli first forms at the end of season 2 and bosch fuses in many unhappy returns and in the movie. #think of this as you will

[english-history-trip]

Some of the beautiful illustrations by S.D. Schindler from Brother Hugo and the Bear by Katy Beebe.

The book is based on two real medieval figures: Hugo, a scribe who added a self-portrait (pictured above) to the end of his copy of Jerome's Commentaries on Isaiah, and a bear who appears in a letter from the abbot of Cluny Abbey to a neighboring abbot asking to borrow a copy of The Letters of St. Augustine, "for a large part of ours has been accidentally eaten by a bear."

#the images are slightly butchered as they're photos I took of my own copy #manuscript #art #the debate now is whether I actually give it to my niece #I thought my oxord professor would enjoy this so I messaged him about it #'ah yes the author is my good friend and we did our doctorates together' CMON MAN #I bet he knows the bear

[wolfythewitch]

i should make jon filipino and then jon and tim can have filipino solidarity

#i mean i already based some of his features on a family friend but like i should sit him down and give him some sinigang or something #or bulalo #he would like bulalo

[nevermeyers]

I'll never get over the way Megumi looks at Yuuji

#they're everything #give him back god give him back i can't with this anymore #jujutsu kaisen #@meyers #itadori yuuji #megumi fushiguro #itafushi #fushiita #nobara's so cute here #I feel she's one of the best friends you could ever have #nobara kugisaki

[grapejuicegay]

I haven't got a job. Why not? I think they only want clean people. They haven't taken that thing off yet? It's gone. But I guess some people still see it.

#if you take anything away from this let it be that it's not just with day #mhok is just very tender in general #i've spent far too long on this #had to remove some moments even #because i hit the upload limit #he's a far far more caring and tender person than he gives himself credit for #it bursts through every interaction he has #even the very first fight that landed him in jail #not in the best way mind you #was him defending a friend #but still #last twilight #last twilight series #kk.gifs #pdribs #uservid

[one-httyd-a-day]

2024/02/29

Happy Leap Day everyone! And...

Happy Birthday Hiccup!

#httyd #how to train your dragon #httyd fanart #httyd hiccup #httyd toothless #Happy birthday to our favorite goober!! #He's my brother he's my cousin he's my best friend he's also me #Let's give him a good birthday the once in 4 years we get to celebrate :) <3

[itsapmseymour]

#lil lonely man #give him friends