#from surviving to thriving

[wishesbythesea]

There was no more detrimental consequence of our childhood abandonment than being forced to habitually hide our authentic selves. Many of us come out of childhood believing that what we have to say is as uninteresting to others as it was to our parents. We must repudiate this damaging legacy of the past.

Pete Walker

#libri 2023 #pete walker #from surviving to thriving #childhood trauma

[daethelflaed]

If u say “I refuse to shame or abandon myself” three times in the mirror the spirit of Pete walker appears and rewires ur neural circuitry there and then

#cptsd #Pete Walker #recovery #from surviving to thriving

[venniekocsis]

Nurturing the Soul: Exploring the Intersection of Spirituality and Personal Growth

For trauma survivors, spirituality and personal growth are two profound journeys that often intertwine, leading us into a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us. Let’s embark on a journey and explore the intersection of spirituality and personal growth, delving into practices like meditation, mindfulness, and gratitude. These practices serve as compasses guiding us toward…

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#balance for trauma survivors #cult child #cult survivors #from surviving to thriving #gratitude #gratitude journaling #healing #healing abuse vennie kocsis #healing after trauma #healing childhood trauma #meditation for healing #mindfulness for trauma survivors #nurturing the soul #personal growth #trauma healing #trauma survivors #vennie kocsis #writing therapy

[softwaring]

it’s wild n scary out here for artists rn cause of AI but i’m very thankful to have had another incredible year cause of y’alls support. i could never imagine being where im at so if it comes crashing down because of AI generators at least i had this wild run..

#never imagined i’d be able to make six figures from art but yall have made that possible for the last few years #i’ve not only survived but thrived cause of yall so thank you 🖤

[enchanted-day-dreams]

Just saw that poll about ST characters and spooning and the folks doing the polls were like 'Billy would hate affection, he'd sooner punch his partner than be cuddled' and 'He'd never get emotional in front of his partner unless he was in the middle of an uncontrollable breakdown'. Like, tell me you don't understand his character without telling me you don't understand his character.

His last scene with El clearly shows he's touch starved as hell and probably only gets affection from sexual encounters. He just isn't wanting a relationship with some random person who hasn't earned his trust enough for him to put his guard down. (My headcanon is that he tried a relationship at least once and let his guard down enough that he told his partner about his father's abuse, only for said partner to assume he deserved the abuse otherwise it wouldn't happen, and ever since then Billy has been even more guarded about who he trusts enough to get close to him.)

#billy hargrove #billy hargrove deserved better #he deserves some affection without folks coming in with their macho bs view of him #billy was shown to be the sweetest fucking kid and folks act like he learned toxic masculinity all on his own #he's in fucking survival mode because people in his life have repeatedly shown they care the bare minimum about his well-being #get him away from neil and around some people not afraid to show affection outside of sex and i have no doubt he'd thrive and grow

[novelconcepts]

One night into October, and our moonflowers finally bloomed. What an auspicious entrance to spooky season. A very merry Haunting of Bly Manor to all who celebrate.

#moonflower #everybody say hello to flora. we weren’t sure she’d survive being moved from her basement seedling #and she said watch me bitch I’m gonna thrive #we’re home. and it really feels like it now.

[summertimemusician]

Me, doing a double take after watching the trailer, spilling coffee all over self and scaring my poor dog off my lap (they're fine by the way):

Me: *ignores burns, breaks out the Twilight Princess Manga, does a second double take after going frame by frame on Link's/Wild's arm, mentally comparing both spirals*

Also Me: So was anyone going to tell us Link's/Wild's Zonai arm matches and looks like the Interlopers/Twili in design, or were we just supposed to find that out ourselves?

#So #That direct huh #How we doing and feeling Zelda/Lu Fandom #Y'all good? #because I'm just dead #Twili = Zonai theorists are thriving and eating well #Someone on Zelda team really woke up and said "I'll give the theorists and Twilight Princess lovers simultaneously everything they want #And also just crumbs huh #Skyward Sword and Surface Era lovers/theorists also got a lot of enrichment #(And I'm both by the way but specially the Twilight Princess kind) #We won't survive May 12th folks and I couldn't be more excited for my future departure from existence itself as my soul ascends from joy #legendofzelda #loz #linked universe #link #botw #lu wild #breath of the wild #botw link #totk #Going to be posting probably incorrect Zonai headcanons soon and make it y'all's problem #lu memes #? #The Chain gonna freak out when Wild rejoins them after TOTK #The moment for Twilight's flashbacks has come #If I had a nickel for every time a Link lost an arm in a piece of Zelda Media where the Twili were involved #i'd have two nickels #It's not a lot but it's weird that it happened twice

[savcir-faire]

going home, or somewhere like it

cradle & all - ani difranco / disco elysium - ZA/UM studio / on believing - hanif abdurraqib / q train - nigel van wieck / the children’s adventure ep. 4 - worlds beyond number (aabria iyengar; erika ishii) / anonymous, translated by @aurorraz_ on twitter

#tiny #webweave #inspo #ani difranco #nigel van wieck #worlds beyond number #aabria iyengar #erika ishii #disco elysium #hanif abdurraqib #happy holidays to survivors; i see you n i love you #on home #or the lack thereof #on the courage it takes to remove oneself from a home that does not serve you #on losing a cherished home and mourning that loss either sudden or over a long period of time #on believing in the essence of what a home should be and striving ever toward that #on eschewing the concept of home in general and existing surviving thriving anyway #not in any particular order :) just som thots #txtit

[viciousgold]

@unbeleveable the little mermaid au bc we're gay and we like mermaids shut up 🐟

She enjoyed the sea, for the most part. Marisa enjoyed breathing in the air, the sound of the waves, how nice the water felt (although she didn't enjoy it in her hair, as the salty smell lingered in it). They were traveling home after a long journey, Marisa being hinted at again by her majordomo, after receiving a birthday present of a portrait of her. While the portrait was lovely, his comment wasn't.

"I wish it could be a wedding present." he chuckled.

"I don't believe I'm suitable for marriage, Thorold." she insisted. "Besides, my mother wasn't married for most of her reign. Why should I have to be?"

"But she was married at first." Thorold pointed out. "Being a queen who was widowed is very different from being a queen that never married." His expression was soft and subtly concerned. "All I'm saying is that now that you're Queen, Your Majesty, there are different expectations of you. Your mother produced an heir, and you will be expected to do the same. Besides, I think you would flourish if you were in love." He smiled.

Marisa looked out into the sea, leaning on the ship's railing.

"I don't think I know what love is." she murmured.

#rip to marcel I've written him out of this au lol and replaced grimsby with thorold bc I've stolen him from asriel #{ i will survive live and thrive } ; marisa #{ you make everything seem brighter ; you put a smile on my face i want that for every morning } ; angelica f. #unbeleveable

[wishesbythesea]

From Pete Walker’s Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

#pete walker #from surviving to thriving #childhood trauma

[achillean-heartbeat]

remembering how everytime Neil came anywhere close to feeling comfort or safety, the ghost of his mother haunted him.

then how when Neil finally started allowing himself to get close to the feeling of safety and comfort, it's Andrew's promises of a future that started haunting him.

#parallels #between Andrew and Neil's mom #always grab me by the throat #the difference yet similarity #the fierce protection #but for opposite reasons #neil's mom wanted him to dissapear to survive #Andrew wants neil to thrive and live #neil's mom forbids him from exy for survival #Andrew asks him to stay and play exy for survival #aftg #all for the game #the foxhole court #andrew minyard #neil josten

[squuote]

ngl I think the biggest thing that helps when overcoming fears revolving around things like for example spiders or animals usually depicted in bad faith is to learn about them. like no joke, that’s the biggest thing that helped me get over my fear of spiders is learning about them and growing an understanding that they are quite literally just as vulnerable creatures as any other. we are both creatures on this earth just trying to survive. also learning about any animal is very fun and building an understanding helps how you see and interact with things. but mainly learning about wildlife good fun.

#crow thoughts #bug collection #having major self reflection thoughts today but specifically bout how I essentially befriended most of my fears #I’m a being built from experiences and learning new things. I thrive off of information #but yea man spiders aren’t like as evil as they appear. they are still just little guys #me and the spiders just trying to survive on this planet one day at a time

[usunezukoinezu]

''A fawn type/codependent is usually the child of at least one narcissistic parent. The narcissist reverses the parent-child relationship. The child is parentified and takes care of the needs of the parent, who acts like a needy and sometimes tantruming child.

When this occurs, the child may be turned into the parent’s confidant, substitute spouse, coach, or housekeeper. Or, she may be pressed into service to mother the younger siblings. In worst case scenarios, she may be exploited sexually.

Some codependent children adapt by becoming entertaining. Accordingly, the child learns to be the court jester and is unofficially put in charge of keeping his parent happy.

Pressing a child into codependent service usually involves scaring and shaming him out of developing a sense of self. Of all the 4F types, fawn types are the most developmentally arrested in their healthy sense of self.''

-Pete Walker, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

#codependency #Pete Walker #Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

[befuddled-calico-whump]

Desert island AU for the t$$ gang?

Despite having next-to-no wilderness skills, Jericho stays the most level headed. He keeps his thoughts away from panic or anxiety at their situation by ensuring everyone stays healthy and safe (to the best of his ability)

Kaius knows a little about bushcraft through books and research. He's almost as calm as Jericho, but loses points for being snarkier than normal. (He insults people when he's on edge)

Joy is low-key excited (underneath the worry that they'll never get home) since this is something she's always had in the back of her head that she needs to be prepared for (kind of like sharks and quicksand). She'd be a lifesaver when it came to constructing shelters and coming up with tools/systems for the team to use

Hunter would be the one who'd secretly stop eating/sneak more food into the others' rations if things started getting rough. He doesn't have a lot of knowledge, and sees himself as both the most expendable, and the one who can handle it the best

Benji keeps morale alive with stories and songs. (He tried sea shanties at first to fit the scene, but he only knows two and started getting lightheartedly booed whenever he started one). This is one of the few scenarios where he might hide an injury/illness, since the others are already working hard and he doesn't want anyone to worry

#if sahota's there he definitely takes the cake as the most experienced/knowledgeable #he's had some survival training from Vic #anon #yeah hunter is always a little angsty ok #if they were all good to go and thriving he'd probably try to tame one of the native birds or something #t$$ ask

[theoppositeofprofound]

Elwing, who ruled a mixed elven-human town of refugees, who managed diplomacy while her husband was away, who spoke multiple languages and loved the waves, was a much greater influence on the politics of early Númenor than local boat dad Eärendil or feral coleader of a political movement turned jewelry-ownership cult crawling towards the end of the world Maglor.

#elros got most of his adult skills from human leaders and Gil-galad and Círdan #but his early education is down to Elwing #Maglor taught him the basics of PR spin and some desperate tactics as well as seventy ways to feed a warband in a wasteland #all of which are useful but not civilization building #you think the feanorians were constructing stuff and improving in those last horrible years #as the earth began to surrender to Morgoth’s blight? #nah that was their mad max boarding school period #Elwing was the one showing them how to open oysters #how to defuse city council meetings #how to thatch roofs #and mend fishing nets #how to not just survive but thrive #how to speak Gondolin Quenya and Taliska and Sindarin #elros is especially her child #he’s the one who chose to rule! #who chose the sea and the press of people #the valar’s gift over middle earth #Elrond is the artist the hermit the one limboing from positions of ultimate authority like Eärendil and Maglor #Maglor’s time holding the high kingship football was a stalling pattern and by god was he good at it #but there’s not evidence he was good st much else #second sons born into the house of feanor only know slaughter their enemies write epic poems play the harp and lie #thinking again about that post on parallels between Eärendil and Maglor thank you warrioreowynofrohan

[discountdyke]

sorry but i dont know how anyone can take dr ramani seriously why do so many ppl think shes credible just bc she has a youtube and a doctorate. i regret to inform you that even educated ppl can record themselves saying a bunch of bullshit and post it online for clout. she literally uses narcissism to describe any sort of behavior on earth. i can hardly get thru 5 minutes of her videos bc she is literally just saying "narcissists narcissism grandiose narcissist" over and over. if you made up a drinking game of this you would die within minutes. that is not information that is word salad

#talking tag #we're watching her fucking. succession analysis. which is unbelievably bad #roman who is a vulnerable narcissist who narcissists his way through the episode with his vulnerable narcissist wound is - #wait she just said hes grandiose what is the fucking TRUTH #anyways please dont let youtube experts take the place of like. credible sources such as books and studies #just bc a person presents themselves as an expert doesnt mean everything they say is true #and its sad bc shes taking advantage of such a vulnerable group of ppl #anyways. mostly shes just so fucking annoying #i hate seeing her name pop up in more and more spaces like girl please just read pete walker cptsd from surviving to thriving