#for the sex yes but also other reasons

[mxtxfanatic]

Thanks for answering my ask.....if you don't mind me asking (again), can I ask your top 5 (or top 3) favorite characters from MDZS? And why do you love them? And your top 5 (or top 3) favorite moments from the novel? Sorry if you've answered this question before....Thanks....

Hello again! Alright, so mdzs list this time!

Favorite Characters:

Wei Wuxian: he’s smart, quick on his feet, a genius in his field, charming, a good person, innocent in love, strong in his morals, willing to fight for what he believes in and what is right even if it makes him enemy to all, has faith in himself, doesn’t shrink away from his emotions, unwilling to delude himself to reality even if it looks bleak, etc etc; he is literally the perfect protagonist in every single way

Lan Wangji: perfect compliment to wwx; they match each other so well in most of the things I listed for wwx but replace the “charming” with “takes no shit” and we got a winner

3, 4, and 5 (in no particular order). Wen Qing, Jiang Yanli, and a-Qing: I know people like to call mxtx misogynistic because “she kills off women!” and “they’re not main characters!” but I would argue that 1) that’s dumb because most of the characters we are introduced to in mdzs are already dead and 2) mxtx writes her female characters as people rather than props. I was enamored with these characters at their every appearance, however short, because they felt so real and expressive. I could get personality and motives, tell what they’d like and what would piss them off, come to enjoy them so much that I felt pain knowing they were already gone. This is the skill of mxtx’s writing.

Favorite Scenes!

Drunken shenanigans #2 where wangxian play the “catch me, kiss me” game, then wwx kisses him on the lips and lwj promptly knocks himself the fuck out lmao

Drunken shenanigans #3/bath tub sex (I feel like this is pretty self-explanatory)

Incense Burner dream #1 where wwx shows lwj his first-life daydreams of retiring to a remote farm together and it’s so innocent, only for lwj’s graphic teenage sex dream to also be revealed; also the actual sex scene

When wwx and lwj put nmj’s body back together sans the head, both of them tell lxc the likely murder of his sword brother is jgy, and lxc says that he is willing to vouch that jgy would never do such a thing… then the chapter immediately ends and the next starts with us seeing that jgy did, in fact, do such a thing and soooooo much worse right in lxc’s face LOL

Second Siege of the Burial Mounds, which between wwx telling the cultivation world that he will NOT bear their resentment as if he’s guilty for having acted against them, the Wen remnants choosing to rescue the people who killed them simply because of their gratefulness to wwx for trying to save them once, the reveal to the CHILDREN how corrupt their parents actually are to have gleefully killed a bunch of defenseless people before desecrating their bodies and lying about it, and how the adults who said they were justified to kill wwx and the wen remnants are the ones shamed by the end? There’s just so many winners in this part

#mdzs asks #dnana 2809 blog #should’ve done this ask yesterday so anon could’ve really been pissed lmao #but yes the sex scenes are really some of my favs in this book #for the sex yes but also other reasons #there’s levels

[astriiformes]

The Tendi and Rutherford fake dating episode really was one of the best things a TV show could do to cater to me, an aromantic person, because I generally do not like fake dating as a trope, but I do love taking tropes that are often considered romantic and applying them to characters who love each other platonically instead, and Lower Decks just did it so well.

The joke at the end of the episode where they're like "That was terrible, lets never do it again. Anyways" and then climb on top of each other in the Jeffries tube because they really are that close, just not in that way was such a perfect moment. They're inseparable best friends and also pretending to date each other was awful because it made them uncomfortable. And the joke for most of the episode isn't really that they are uncomfortable, it's that they're stuck in a weird contrived sitcom scenario and don't know how to get out of it.

Also I'm going to be thinking about the gag with Rutherford shouting "We got married at a wedding!" to the rest of the hotel lobby forever.

#honestly even if you've never seen an episode of star trek before lower decks is like. prime media for aces and aros #there's an episode that revolves around a character who doesn't want to have sex -- for goofy and convoluted sitcom reasons; but still #scribe and nick and i (all very ace) were hollering throughout the whole episode. it felt like we were in on the joke for once #and the two main character duos really are like. peak 'do not separate them but also they would NEVER date each other' #it's definitely one of those pieces of media where i'm like. no there aren't any canon aro or ace characters. yes it's aspec media. to me #also it's great and clever and funny and really well-written #but you know #f: space treks

[demisexualnathanvuornos]

I support O's asexual wrongs.

#o #o sex education #sarah owens #using that tag for search purposes #idk why she doesn't use her government name but it's easier to use than just o #did she do some shitty things? yes #more than the other people on the show? no #the show just was against her the way it isn't against other characters #it constantly frames her as antagonistic and manipulative #even we don't really have a reason to think she isn't as genuine in her desire to help people #*even though #at the very least i fully support her right to ghost people #(also the fact she's the only east asian character and she's narratively portrait as inherently manipulative) #(isn't a good look) #if you like o please message me #i'm gonna stop going into the main tag or i'll block everyone #nocticola art #thaddea graham

[strangenessandcharrn]

something so personal about the parallel that is travis saying "quit acting like such a saint" to natalie (someone who is constantly being thought guilty of sin- though they never had sex) and shauna loving the saints because 'they were all so tragic' and then eulogizing jackie as a saint (someone who travis had sex with before her death)

they're so who is the lamb and who is the knife coded

#not to mention shauna wanted to have sex with jackie / travis wanted to have sex with natalie but couldn’t bc of societal implications #jackie is thought to be a priss for not having sex with jeff but it was bc she didn’t love him and wanted to save herself #and natalie is thought to be a sl*t bc she didn’t save herself even though she wanted to do it with someone she loved #and she was always going to be thought of as one bc people will make their own assumptions of you #which is the only reason why jackie even stays with jeff #beyond that they’re the perfect example of self preservation over selfishness #or rather it as a concept because they’re both hiding from themselves in the real world and in the woods #(and I love them both for it) #natalie sacrifices herself daily willingly and jackie wouldn't lift a finger at least when stranded for anyone unless she were forced to #bc I think deep down natalie has put herself in danger both for others but also bc she’s suicidal and jackie is rightfully selfish bc she #doesn’t want to die. but we’re not ready for that conversation #natalie indirectly caused the death of another person and jackie unintentionally committed ‘the ultimate sin’ but only one will be damned #just thinking #also this isn’t me saying that having sex or sex before marriage is a sin I’m only referencing christianity/religious imagery in the show #nor is su*cide or thoughts of su*cide #yellowjackets #they are NEVER beating the laura / audrey allegations (and yes I’m aware they’re very different) #natalie x jackie #jackienat #k

[daesungindistress]

Reminder that Seungri is a sex offender. Convicted and registered.

As some of you may be aware, Seungri was recently released from prison after serving a criminally short sentence of just 18 months for the commission of 9 crimes ranging from economic (financial) crimes, crimes of violence, and sex crimes.

That's right. Sex crimes.

In his sentencing hearing in August 2021, at the conclusion of the first trial in the Lower Military Court, just before he was whisked away to prison, the judge explained to Seungri that he would be subject to "registration of personal information related to sex crimes." See below:

This was not widely reported, or even given much attention, with most of the media's focus being on the 3-year prison term and accompanying fine related to gambling. (Surprisingly, it did make it into Soompi's coverage, but I've reached my image limit on this post so here's a link to the report instead.)

Side note: as expected, his stans did not discuss this openly (or at all), and even their big "trusted translator" accounts either glossed over it or omitted it from their translations altogether, so many of his international supporters were unaware.

In the second trial with the High Court (first appeal), in which Seungri pleaded guilty to all charges (except for habitual gambling which he appealed again, hoping to lower it to "occasional" gambling, a lesser charge... he was unsuccessful with that, by the way), the court granted him leniency, cutting his prison term in half and forgiving the nearly $1 million fine. A generous reduction in punishment simply for saying, "I'm guilty, I'm sorry, go easy on me."

At the time, I couldn't find any information on whether or not the registration requirement for sex crimes remained in place. Even after the Supreme Court finalized everything in May of last year, there seemed to be no mention of it.

Now, however, days after his release from prison and return to society, we finally have confirmation:

Required to register but exempted from disclosure. More on that below:

In short, Seungri is a registered sex offender required by law to submit (and keep current) his personal information to the authorities. He must also return each year to the local police station having jurisdiction over his home address and have updated mugshots photos taken -- once a year, every year, for the next 15 years. To put this into perspective, they'll be keeping tabs on him until he's in his late 40s.

So, yes, his information is registered. However, at the judge's discretion he was exempted from disclosure. This means his personal information (such as home address) will not be available, i.e., publicly searchable, on South Korea's online sex offender registry. Police will have access to this info. The public will not.

What was his violation of the Act on Special Cases Concerning the Punishment of Sexual Crimes? Well, we knew he had been charged with distributing some form of illegally filmed sexual material, also known as hidden camera footage or molka. It was described as being a photo of women, in bed, naked -- and, importantly, photographed from behind, which raises the question of consent.

Seungri admitted in 2019 to sharing something in a group chatroom, as there was chat evidence of this that could not be disputed. However, he challenged the notion that he'd taken the photo himself, claiming he'd received it from someone else. He later took it a step further and disputed the nature of the photo altogether by trying to pass it off as a "business advertisement" sent to him in a "spam text message" from an employee of an adult entertainment business. For publicity purposes.

The court rejected his excuse explanation for the photo and deemed him guilty of distributing illegally filmed footage. But as for who took the photo, whether it was Seungri or someone else, the court's decision didn't seem especially clear to me... until now, thanks to JTBC recently reporting details from the ruling:

The KKT chat log, made public in 2019, did not support Seungri's claim. The testimony of other members of the chat, when questioned in court about the photo they received from Seungri, did not support it either.

So much for his fans' stubborn insistence that he "wasn't in the molka chats." Thanks to the chat evidence, court docs from Jung Joonyoung's ruling, and Seungri's own admission in an interview with Chosun Ilbo, we've known for years that Seungri not only knew about his friends' molka habits but received such things from them directly and even reacted to them with amusement (laughter). Now, with the detailed results of Seungri's court proceedings before us, we can be certain that he took part in the practice too.

#the women in the photo may have been prostitutes... which to be clear doesn't make it good #but it is my sincere hope that they weren't fans #which I feel would make it so much worse #seungri #lee seunghyun #sex crimes #burning sun #and yes this is also the reason for his forced removal from instagram last year #in accordance with instagram's policy that 'sex offenders are prohibited from using the service' #along with the prostitution mediation charge which is also a class of sex crime in korea #seeking it for himself is not as serious in the eyes of the law but arranging it for others is

[crossbackpoke-check]

18 + swaymark!!

oooo thank you!!

#18 - pleaser, wallows + swaymark

okay i know they are canonically obsessed with each other but. the song is in some ways about feeling like you’re failing in your relationship and being not quite as obsessed with them as they maybe are with you, and in this video of them talking about being a tandem, there is the slightest pause before swayman answers “do you miss him?” that makes me want to probe a wound. we’re not talking irl reasons of how that’s an absurd question (how do you miss him. you’re coworkers you’re seeing each other all the time) we’re talking that maybe this whole goalies-in-love thing got blown out of proportion and now swayman’s having to buy into the bit too hard. linus loves it & everyone’s asking about their bromance & how they love each other so much and the thing is—linus is safe. he’s got a wife and plausible deniability and jeremy? jeremy is gay. sure, he can crack jokes and people-please but the more people ask the more they're going to find out until maybe they find out something jeremy doesn't want them to know. and the longer this goes on, the more jeremy has to sit at linus' dinner table with linus and his beautiful wife and pretend like he isn't a little bit in love with him. and you know what? the longer it goes on and linus doesn't dial it down jeremy does stop being in love with him, because it just feels cruel, until he finally is done enough that he stops biting his tongue and ruins the moment.

#…this so is not a five sentence summary but ALSO this manages to perfectly align with something i was obsessed with (that media video) #like yeah is that pause reasonably a buffering time to a weird question? yes!!! do i want to read into it & make swayman a bit uncomfortabl #also yes!!! sorry i decided to give them tragique but they were assigned by spotify. the other option for this song was an ED fix-it fic #about healthy sex and learning that it can be a part of a normal relationship!! sex is weird and fucked up!! but like. that’s just because #i have always interpreted this song as a) unrequited best friend love & you’re worried you’re gonna fuck it up b) virgin who doesn’t know #what sex is and is scared to tell anyone and then option c) people pleaser keeps going along with it but can’t anymore #also OBVIOUSLY they end up fine. whether that ends up being jeremy finally telling linus (oblivious) i don’t want to do this with you #i need to get over you & them creating a platonic space & sway ends up with someone else OR linus has the oh. true. i simply never #considered that i could be gay for you option OR the one i have just invented but is now my favorite because i love a good polycule is that #linus & his wife simply add jeremy to their relationship. and then this song becomes jeremy scared to have sex with linus’ wife at first lo #liv in the replies #the interviews in that video doing the lord’s work fr but also that ‘do you not miss him’ feels SO uncomfortable. say no! but then he leans #in with the dirty jokes comment & i know i’ve made like eight variations already (sorry. that’s how my brain works) but it is soooo fun #to me personally if they are broken up but now have to act nice & keep doing all these rituals & sell us on the narrative & they’re just #trying to see who’s going to crack first. needle each other into laughing or getting irritated enough it shows through & the other one wins #do even more aggressive hug rituals!! get a medical warning from the athletic training staff!!!

[sanyu-thewitch05]

So are we still going to call Robyn Dixon a lightskinned black woman when she’s really mixed if not white.

Personally, I think one of her parents lied and is actually a tan white person OR she’s the result of what happens when two mixed people have kids.

Also here’s Robyn’s caption:

#black girls of tumblr #people in the comments were fighting to call her Black because of the one drop rule #and they literally said that as the reason #also Robyn’s statement is just giving denial #yes black people have some white dna due to slavery #but that’s in the low numbers #like from 5-30% #if you’re near 60% white that’s not white dna from centuries ago that’s recent #and since I know that in the dmv(Delaware Maryland Virginia) area the lightskinned black folks over there have a history of inbreeding #with themselves or only having sex with other lightskins to keep those white features in the lineage #and this may very well be the reason why Robyn has so much white dna considering she’s from the Potomac area I believe #I also forgot to mention the lightskins also screwed biracials as well so it was more like biracials continuely reproducing with biracials #then the result of those two biracials being called lightskinned blacks because of one drop rule and racism #not to say all lightskinned black people are like Robyn and are actually mixed considering Africa has naturally lightskinned black people #Robyn Dixon #rhop

[mr-mustache-penis]

i feel like i've been writing this sex scene for a million years 😩

#like yes they're fuckin but they keep stopping cuz i'm a mushy sap #my writing #I HAVE 2 MORE SCENES TO WRITE DAMMIT #this is why i love ace charcters i'm too lazy for smut #i also really love ace characters for other reasons lmao please don't flame me #this isn't even SMUT it's romantic ass bullshit sex and i'm projecting

[idiosyncraticrednebula]

We need to get rid off the concept of "women are inherently heavenly, good, virtuous, god-like human beings that can do no wrong and if they do, it's because of men, who are inherently evil, destructive, disgusting and demon-like". That's... not how it is and has ever been. Some women are just evil, and not because a man or men in general did something to her. Who knew a woman could have agency in her evil deeds? 🤔🤔🤔

#text #this is straight up gynolatry #it's said by some of the same people that would otherwise oppose feminism #like i have heard of the concept of women civilizing men #which comes off as men just being monsters and women being angels that must tame them #or otherwise the inherently evil men are gonna destroy themselves and them!!!! #that concept is only partially true. yes women do in some way civilize them because women inspire men to become better #to build civilizations and all that good stuff. that happens when the woman's femininity is in the right place #but it really does come off as one of the numerous ways for society dehumanize and demonize men just to elevate women #not realizing it doesn't benefit women either. you're denying the basic humanity of women as well #women are just as capable of evil as men are. we were all born in sin #in fact it's women who are naturally chaotic and not men. men's nature is to have system order and structure #without these women will not succeed idc what feminists tell you. women NEED men #without women's chaotic nature and many other traits men will also fail because men NEED women #who knew that men and women brought out the best parts in each other if our natures were in the right place???? #feminism appealed and still appeals to women precisely because of our chaotic nature #men have only accepted it for so long because they allowed lust to dominate them #which is the real reason chivalry is dead. women have become tougher now and sex is so easy to get that men don't really feel the need to #to be masculine anymore. it's both sexes's fault #feminism was invented by upper class western men who fantasized about free sex and knew that it was gonna work on women because of the #inherent chaos we have (and our drive to prioritize ourselves and needs for survival reasons) #women aren't inherently divine or something and above men in the moral compass #we are just as messed up if not more in some cases tbf

[hella1975]

i literally NEVER have ideas for soft soukoku even though it's my favourite thing to read in bsd fics bc alas dazai and chuuya are Like That and don't know how to be normal, but like what if chuuya struggles to sleep bc of his ability? what if it's normally manageable but some big event is giving him nightmares? what if when he has these nightmares, his ability automatically goes haywire and he winds up spending a fortune on repairs for everything he keeps breaking in his room? what if after a few days of sleeplessness he's finally out of it enough to genuinely consider asking dazai for help? what if dazai agrees to use no longer human while chuuya sleeps as a JOKE bc 'awww if you're missing me you can just say so~' but dazai finds it helps with his insomnia just as much? what if chuuya waits for the humiliation he knows is going to come from dazai telling everyone about his moment of weakness, waits for dazai to make him regret it, but it never comes? what if that fragile trust between them that got destroyed when dazai left flickers back to life again in these moments when it's just them in the darkness? what if it becomes a mutual agreement, a very reluctant 'this helps both of us' that neither of them are happy about that slowly grows into something more? something they begin to like? something they perhaps even look forward to? what if-

#me looking at the state chuuya and dazai's relationship is in: sex wont cut it you two need to hold each other #hi i dont know where this idea came from but it's plaguing me and i really want to write it #yes im touch starved yes 'literal sleeping together' is one of my favourite tropes keep scrolling #bonus points if the reason chuuya got the idea to ask dazai to sleep with him was bc it's something he had to do when he was younger #when his ability was a lot more out of control but also when there was a lot more trust between him and dazai #('trust' is used in soukoku terms. to a bystander it's all very fucked up and complicated but it makes sense to them) #however now dazai's in the ada and chuuya's in the port mafia and he HATES dazai #but shit chuuya has not slept in DAYS he's practically delusional at this point and very very desperate #like have you ever gone even two days without sleeping? it makes you crazy and if the idea of dazai's ability helping him sleep #was already in chuuya's brain bc they've done it before then i GUARANTEE it would not be far-fetched for him to resort to it again #and dazai agrees purely to make fun of chuuya and exploit a weakness bc this is dazai we're talking about #and if there's one thing i love it's realistic soukoku portrayal where they actually have to work really hard from a shitty start point #but still chuuya is just fucking EXHAUSTED and he doesnt care about the teasing or backlash at this point so he calls anyway #and dazai is there #and the joke gets immediately turned on HIM bc it's the 'best sleep ive had in years' trope and dazai's like SHIT #the entp has harmed himself in his own attack #hmmmmmmmm thinking #bsd #soukoku

[nobody-n-particulur]

Romance :(

#i want someone but no one wants me #not that my previous attempts at have gone well for some reason or another #dating apps are hell #asked a girl out the other day because we've been clicking and she was flirty and receptive to my own flirting but rejected me cause #shes not over her ex like she thought ahe was #this was IRL for once and not online #my only real dating experience has been w folks online ldr #not for a lack of trying #no one ive ever asked out in person has ever said yes #and no one asks 'guys' out #only time that happened was some girls making fun of me in hs like 9 years ago #i just wanna go on dates and kiss and shit #feel wanted. #also sex lol #😭😭😭😭😭😞😞😞😞😞😞😞

[dawningfairytale]

mad about a tweet of an article portraying something technically true but basically wrong

#while yes it's conservative under larger society given this thing's circumstances it's actually pretty fucking progressive #also 'church of england so scotland should just leave' DO YOU NOT THINK ANGLICAN CHURCHES DONT EXIST ELSEWHERE #READ THE DAMN ARTICLE #i know it is bad. i am acutely aware of the homophobia in the church for some fucking reason #but like. this is genuinely better than it is elsewhere. #anglican churches being able to bless gay couples is a huge step in the right direction #no! it's not enough! i know that. but guess what? sometimes you have to muscle through it and wait for the homophobes to change their minds #or die out #this conundrum takes a long time. clearly. but this isn't the worst treatment of queer christians in the western world #(by the church at least) and i'm sick of people acting as though it is #do you know the homophobia that exists specifically in the sydney anglican church? #do you know that the nsw and act baptist association is debating over whether churches can be churches if they're 'same-sex affirming' #ie. can churches still be baptist if they're doing LITERALLY WHAT THE UPDATE SAYS THE CHURCH OF ENGLAND IS DOING #and the coe is worse in my state than most other places in the western world so ya i shit on it #but still. read the fucking article and understand that it's a bloody nuanced situation #vent #vent post #tw christianity #tw christianity mention #tw homophobia #in tags #THE ARTICLE IS PROGRESS YEAH PROGRESS IS SLOW BUT I'D MUCH RATHER CELEBRATE IT THAN REPRIMAND IT #OH YEAH AND THE FUCKING BIBLE BELT IN AMERICA #you're going to tell me. that whatever the fuck's going on there is comparable to 'sowwy we still can't marry gay couples but we're trying! #we can bless the union which is an improvement!!!'

[lonelyhumanoid]

Not being able to differentiate/separate fantasy (sexual in particular) from reality is fucking

✨C R I N G E✨

#this is about a particular kink #also applies to role play during sex that might involve non-con #safewords exist for a reason and not listening when a safe word is used IS assault #having one in place to begin with is a good thing #yes in any other circumstance saying NO is more than enough #but in a safe sane and consensual scene it kind of doubles the safety #you can safeword for any reason. even to just go pee. #trust between you and your partner is essential #I have a lot of opinions about this shit

[sunshine-in-a-bottle]

Literally if reading Homestuck gave me nothing else then at least it gave me the concept of moirails (and using quadrants for all other media)

#ah yes this is for me its mine now #my aroace ass looking at the romantically coded friendship and going #ITS ABOUT THE LACK OF SEX ITS ABOUT THE TAKING CARE OF SOMEONE ITS ABOUT VALUING THEM #ITS ABOUT THAT QUEER SPACE BETWEEN ROMANCE AND FRIENDSHIP #.... yes i was reading about cDrunz as moirails shut up dont perceive me im a weak person #emotionally i cannot handle the concept of quadrants here because of fucking course it means Dream would have none #congrats hs the only thing (besides Gamzee) that you gave me was new ways to explore relationships #and of course thats all anyone ever gives a damn about /hj #anyway fucking. Dream starting with his quadrants at least partially filled. George in hearts Sapnap in Diamonds #Wilbur is waxing Something for him but its vacillating between red and black at all times WILBUR PLEASE #but dethronement happens and whoops now Dream has lost all his red and all his stability what will he do #Punz. Perfect Diamond. Best Pale friend. Please for the love of god give him a hug #Also gives Sap and Dreams relationship another facet of 'you were supposed to be there to calm him down to keep him from going this far' #its a palemates job to keep each other balanced and controlled so even if Dream is faking his general villainy #it still gives off the impression that he lost his diamond and Went Off The Fucking Deep End (aka Sapnap failed his job) #So Sapnap going 'Ill be the one to kill you' is actually a sort of last ditch pale. Or an attempt at forming clubs with Dream+Server #You could possibly see Techno and Dream in prison as a pale patch depending on how you characterize diamonds? #only a patch though in canon. For a multitude of reasons #yes nobody knows what Im talking about no I dont give a shit #i mean i do a little having someone to talk about this with would be nice #but thats irrelevant to me getting my thoughts out #anyway. Dream is what happens when you take the conciliatory quadrant and make it fucked up #Man's trying to vacillate the entire server to such an extreme that he's actively damaging himself and other people

[gryphonablaze]

some of these units are about useful, practical things. a lot of these units are about common sense things. I already know to wear my seatbelt and I know that drinking and driving is illegal. you don’t need to tell me this. you don’t need an entire unit on this. I know this. what I don’t know is how much space I need to have when I’m trying to merge onto a freeway and shit. I don’t know when to slam vs pump the brakes. I don’t need to know the fuckin stats. I don’t need to know how many people die doing the thing that I already don’t do. please shut the fuck up about the stats and tell me how to pilot this fucking metal deathtrap

#please do not come here and tell me how to acquire a metaphorical mug #(how to merge onto a freeway. I've completed that unit) #I'm using this as an example of practical shit that I need to know but don't already #also yes I know the answer of 'just bc u don't do it doesn't mean other people don't need to be told' #I first heard that answer when little babyace me (who did not yet know what asexuality was) #was forced to sit through seminars #about how many fucking stds and shit there were that wanted to kill me #and sit through people metaphorically comparing me (afab) to an inanimate object #(curiously they never compared the boys to inanimate objects) #while I sat at the back of the room TRYING to zone out because I was 1. wildly fucking uncomfortable #and 2. I do not care for or have any interest in sex #and one point I straight up just raised my hand and asked #'if I don't want to have sex ever... can I just leave and do my homework? I have a lot of math homework' #I was not allowed to leave to do my homework #I was forced to keep sitting in that room #and yes. yes. I know the reason. sex ed is a necessary thing. yeah. I know. but can we PLEASE have the option to NOT be in a room full of 20 #other 13 year olds?????/ PLEASE #besides my school's sex ed wasn't even good #just the typical fearmongering promotion of 'abstinence! abstinence! abstinence!' #religion isn't allowed in schools. ~in theory~

[mejomonster]

I know boyfriend and girlfriend could have maybe both been terms for Friends who are just boys or girls (nit lovers), and I know also maybe a boy having a girlfriend was only assumed romantic because a boy interacting close with a girl was assumed romantic, and maybe a girl interacting romantically with a girl was just read as platonic cause well in our modern society definitely there's a trend to assume women who are super friendly or flirty are just Friends by default so who knows if it was the same in history. But then also like how many ladies once upon a time kinda rode on being able to say girlfriend about close friends and lovers and it not being something a stranger would pick up on. Yes I'm aware of how no it was probably just a word for Friends who were girls 20-40 years ago, but also surely lesbians still used girlfriend for lover sometimes. And then I think about an older person I know who was definitely in love with her best girl friend and did everything a lover does and then called her girlfriend just like all her girl friends and like. I just ponder

#rant #this is just me thinkin i am Sure i aint historicallg on point. tho id love to read the history of queer women saying girlfriend #but also like. idk i jnow some older 'straight' women who think sex with other women #is normal and usual and common. and basically full on dated a loy of their past girlfriends #and so girlfriend really was interchangable with lover and friend and like #how since they yhought they were straight all those lovers just got called girlfriend and assumed as #just a friend by other ppl. because u know how ppl are with assuming close women are #just friends just gal pals #like. my mom is one of those ppl and one reason i was both so comfused as a teen and had to come out 7 times to her lol #was she thought my Very Bi crushes and feelings were what all straight ppl felt #so she thought full on. that being gay or straight was a #choice and u just picked based on who u fell in love with. since she assumed most ppl could fall in love with any gender #yes its all very bi shit to think lol. then to top it off she dated some bi men who cheated on her #so she had a lot of internalized biphobia despite dating many women and definitely loving the one #she talks about fondly whenever she brings her up. and my mom in typical toxic masculinity standard lol #(which she very much raised me to adhere to when i was young :c ) thought if she was the receiver she wasnt gay #no offense to my mom but im 90% sure my dad is bi too and she married him. cause like. i know she must have #said to him at some pt in 10 years i kept trying to come out as bi. thar she thought everyone likes every gender by default #so he must have agreed. or else he couldve clarified for her lol no straight ppl do not. #tho my dad is much more private. all i know is they both rec me wonderful queer media. and my dad believes #in loving ur kid just for existing. so i could do nothing for him to ever dislike me. i imagine his catholic upbrining then leaving #shapes a lot of his opinions on love ur kids always. but also i think he just always wanted to be a good dad #anyway tldr i just. wonder how much straight ppl calling friends girlfriends #allowed ppl who didnt know their sexuality to kiss and have sex and explore lovers without the society targeting in on them right away