#financial abuse tw

[compassionatereminders]

Do you have any tips on how I can stop victim blaming?

That sounds really bad, but im assuming that's what it is. I love my best friend. She's like a sister to me. She's married to someone who is not good. In her words, He is financially abusive, a narcissist, and emotionally abusive. Her inlaws may or may not be worse. They have kids together.

I understand it's hard, and there is a cycle of abuse. He has never laid a hand on her. But he won't let her get a job (has even canceled the applications she put in and got accepted for, they have one bank account, he tells her to get groceries and she does and then he yells that she spent too much but he can spend over 100 on one item for himself). She feels she has no way out because she has no money.

She has asked me if she can stay with me. I told her absolutely. That was a week ago, and I know she was locating important documents.

And now she is staying. She is saying he's amazing again and how it was all in her head and she's getting therapy to help with her anxiety (but he refuses to do couples therapy because, and I quote "you're the crazy one who needs anti-anxiety medication" and that isnt a paraphrase i was sitting next to her when he said it).

I care for her and I dont want this to continue but I know its her choice. I feel stuck because it's a terrible thing and I cant help. I also am frustrated with and for her. I dont want to be mad or victim blame her, cause I've been in an abusive relationship before. And maybe thats why I want her to get out so bad? Idk do you have any tips?

Let her know that you want to support her in leaving, but don't push her before she's ready. Don't be another force in her life trying to make decisions on her behalf. Just let her know that what she's going through is abusive and wrong and that you'll do everything you can when she's ready. And in the meantime, just try to be a good, supportive friend so that she's reminded that not everyone in her life are trying to control and manipulate her choices without her consent

#chat with kat #emotional abuse tw #abuse tw #manipulation tw #gaslighting tw #cluster b ableism tw #financial abuse tw #victim blaming tw

[malewifehenrycooldown]

a kinda long post about my ship with Ly.on V.asti.a and my self insert Nova Celestina, and their melancholic-ish meet cute (?)

Ly..on and Nova meet each other for the very first time at the Fai.ray Ta.il Guild, not long after hearing some of its members have gone missing (and that Sirius Island, a place these missing members went to has ‘vanished’) and that the local search parties have turned up NOTHING.

they both go to said guild to hopefully comfort the remaining members who are there. To share a moment of giref and provide a helping hand or two.

Ly..on goes with Ju.ra because Lam..ia Scale has pretty strong ties with FT, and so really it’s just to lend a shoulder for these members to lean on if they ever need help or assistance (of which also Blue Pegasus does too).

Nova goes for for a more personal reason, as that even as one of the few independent freelance mages in Fiore (with no guild attachment), she still holds a special place for Fai.ry Tai.l. It was her old guild after all until aspects of her own personal life had to take priority. She still thinks about the people she was growing up with, and how much they meant to her, and still mean to her. She does find herself thinking about them in even the smallest of tranquil moments when she isn’t taking on a freelance job or being hired on the spot.

Anyways, the two meet each other for the first time at the Fairy Tail Guild and try to offer remaining members support and sort out deals as to what they can do to help them if their other members don’t turn up. It’s essentially a moment for people at the guild to take time to grieve and mourn their friends and compatriots.

Ly.on reflects on how he and Gra.y could have fixed their relationship, because even if they are rivals, he still cares about him. I personally headcanon that Gra.y is like the brother Ly.on never had,the two never always saw each other eye to eye, and sometimes there were arguements that could be deemed as petty. Now Ly.on will never gain the opportunity to fix that relationship after finally being given a second chance by his old childhood friend, let alone be able catch up on their relationship.

It particularly hurts him, especially with their last face-to-face communication being the Nirvana Arc, and Gra.y is the reason why La.Mia S.cale are a legitimate guild now, and Ly.on has turned around his life for the better! but now that opportunity to thank Gra.y is gone… and it breaks his heart into pieces, because he can’t make up for lost time.

Nova just misses the guild that she once called home. And she’s been overdue for a ‘proper’ visit (she briefly shows up in the Phantom Lord-Lucy Rescue Arc to fuck some shit up against PL) but she didn’t properly stay around for long. Even if she left at a young age, fa.iry t.ail still said she could return whenever she needed to, because fairy tail always left their doors open to former members to return whenever they need to.

It was a place she once called home, and now is ever more the opportune time to come back home when her family needs her most. However there is an aspect of.. fearing for the guild’s safety. Fai.ry tai.l is unfortunately a guild that other rival guilds love to target and intimidate. Now with their highest and most capable members missing or worse dead, they can’t protect the guild to the extent than they used too. Even when Gildarts came back, he joined the others to Sirius Island. Nova wants to not just support her old guild and guild mates, but to try to protect them too. She is a relatively powerful mage, having cosmic/chaos devil slayer magic, but even then, it won’t do much because other guilds can take advantage of a mourning, grieving fairy tail in other ways aside from magic (I.e: absurd taxes, owed debts, just general financial abuse and bullying).

It’s just an extra layer of salt added to an already angry wound. It’s just unfair that other guilds will target another simply because it’s taking the time to process grief and move on.

During this… sad/melancholic atmosphere at the FT guild, Ly.on and Nova kinda hit it off well. It does start small but later they become more conversation throughout the day there, talking about their connections and relationships to Fairy Tail and it’s members, telling funny stories and just generally enjoying each other’s company. That’s the general starting point of how they meet, but really the way they fall in love is partly due to their shared connection to Fairy Tail and how their experiences with the guild have changed and helped them improve as people.

#HIII been thinking about the one local ice mage *twirls hair* #fairy tail self insert: nova celestina #🔥⚖️🌌 | Judgement Day #shallow rambles #guildposting #fairy tail spoilers #this is kinda sentimental #idk man I just wanted to let a twist on the meet cute idea because ly.on is always having ‘meet cute moments’ #Self Insert Tag #[r]: lyon vastia | cold crown #💘 In Love with a Fairy Tale #queue awaits you at the garden of madness #the freelance mage thing is kind of an original idea (?) I feel that it would be interesting to have mages that walk on the line #between light guilds and dark guilds and mages who want to be independent #I might explore that idea later as it’s o ly really vaguely touched on in canon fai.ry t.ail #financial abuse tw #<- but in the angry loan shark kind of what if that makes sense

[playedbetter]

Elias Info

Name: Elias Acker

Gender & Pronouns: Bigender (He/She)

Orientation: Omnisexual

Age: 34

FC: Robert Sheehan

Background

Elias was born into a poor family plagued by problems such as his dad Thomas's gambling issues, to his aunt Denise regularly crashing at their tiny Brooklyn apartment to avoid her children, to his mom Harper being an overworking perfectionist prone to fits of despair due to her untreated and undiagnosed bipolar, which Elias inherited. There was love, but also glaring problems that circumstance kept them from ever dealing with.

Elias from a young age felt the pressure of the family's future and trying to help them. He was a good kid, incredibly straight laced because he knew there weren't second chances for him. Also incredibly polite and prone to suppressing his own problems because he knew everybody already had enough on their plates.

In highschool he was getting pressured to go into med school to become a doctor so that everybody could get what they needed. This left Elias with little personal time between studying and extracurriculars picked up to look good on an essay. He had few relationships, the most notable being with a girl from another school who dumped him after about three weeks. He also worth what little time he did have pick up poetry, which became a passion of his which he couldn't pursue.

He managed to land a spot in a decent med school, and while he wasn't a natural at it, he did put a lot of effort into his studying. His family were thrilled and dreaming of what they'd buy with his first paycheck. His few friends already were planning a party at his place for when he landed his first job. Elias was absolutely miserable, only riding the highs of caffeine and nicotine to keep himself going.

It was an impulse buy on the afternoon he finished his undergraduate, he was picking up a pack of smokes and saw that the powerball was drawing in only a few short hours, he grabbed a single quick pick and forgot about it till the next morning when he looked up the winning numbers and found out he had landed the jackpot.

In his excitement he told his whole family and his friends, who were all thrilled, and all wanted a cut. By the time he even got the money several people took out high interest loans and got him to pay them off, and everybody wanted their debts wiped clean. Elias wanted to help so gave them that. His parents wanted a house, his aunt wanted a car, his friends wanted to go to Tokyo and Disneyland, his dad wanted more tickets, his uncle wanted a boat, his cousins wanted presents, everybody wanted everything from him, and Elias just wanted them to be happy so he gave it to them.

It was only when he realized he hadn't put anything into retirement or getting himself a house or vehicle or even paying off his own debt in full and the money was down to six figures that he realized he had been completely exploited. People were still asking him for stuff while he was budgeting so he'd be okay for just a couple years. He completely exploded at a family dinner when his uncle complained about how small his boat was and implied Elias had been stingy, Elias screamed at all of them until his throat went hoarse and then stormed out the door in a blind rage wishing that he would never see any of them, to be somewhere without them in it, he wasn't even sure where he was going.

But where he ended up certainly was not what he had in mind, as the world around him looked like the blown out rubble of war. At first he wandered around thinking he was having a complete break from reality, then some roving bandits found him and chased him, eventually he fled back to where his apartment was to try hiding until things went back to normal, however there he found in the rubble a dead version of himself. He backed out the door wishing to be anywhere else. His bad luck continued for a while until he was put on an earth with no danger or life, which gave him a chance to have a panic attack and figure out what the hell was happening.

After that he got a handle on his powers, and for the next four years went through the multiverse looking for his purpose in it, and becoming an expert on his own powers. Surely it wasn't random he had powers. Surely there was a point to this all. Surely he could make things better and that would improve his own life.

It was exhausting, and he fell back into bad habits of letting others exploit him. The breaking point though was finding a universe where Eli had cut everyone off when he won the lottery and everyone was better off for it, even his friends and family were happier. Everyone would have been better off if he had just been selfish. And for every universe he helped, there was an infinite amount of them suffering. Every sacrifice felt pointless.

Everything was pointless.

He broke. He decided to only live for himself, with reckless abandon for literally everything. To not control his urges and impulses, and refuse the part of himself that cared too much about everyone and everything. He changed his look and outlook on life.

About a year ago he met the only other known universe hopper by pure coincidence, Leah Kravitz, and he was immediately endeared even outside their brief prior connection. He found himself taking her under his wing and trying to keep her away from the pitfalls he fell into when first exploring his powers. They bonded a lot, and Elias found himself loving her, and found himself scared that he was going to get zir hurt in one of his self destructive impulses.

She confronted him over his reckless behavior and he made no attempt to defend himself, both knowing she was right, and hoping for zir own safety she'd leave. He even went so far as to claim he only cared about his own entertainment, which at that point was a lie. She did leave to have her own adventures, which he has kept tabs on.

Since then he's been traveling mainly on his own, causing trouble and killing time quite frankly. Occasionally letting people tag along his travels or staying in a universe for an extended period to try to fight a growing loneliness in him; unaware that it will take honesty with himself to defeat.

Personality

No matter at what point you met Elias you'll be met by a charming and empathic person who can lend a shoulder, give good advice, and is humorous. She likes to meet new people and tends to be rather talkative. He also is smart with people, technical information, and most of all the way things work, what makes them tick (hence the first two things). Hidden under some sort of persona she is incredibly self destructive and prone to feeling worthless; in manic episodes these traits show up as overachieving and risky behavior like unprotected sex or putting himself into dangerous situations; in depressive episodes it takes the form of pure nihilism, lack of even basic self care, and self isolation.

Despite whatever persona he might have he's also always concerned with what he considers the greatest good, which depends on his circumstances. The health and safety of the whole multiverse is always there though, whether he knows it or not.

He used to be a sweet and deeply compassionate person, more worried about everyone else than himself. He was the friend that always offered her shoulder and had time and never complained. Rather timid and a pushover to those close to him, he didn't know how to say no to people because she didn't want to disappoint anybody. His own problems he'd just suppress as to not burden anybody. Very self destructive though when left alone, putting himself at risk and working herself to the bone.

After finding his powers but before his big breakdown he was withdrawn and mostly quiet, going along with things to gather information and asking a lot of questions, not talking much at all about himself. He was looking for his greater purpose in everything, and thus approached everything with an earnest conviction to put his all into it, and to try to help. She still was working himself to the bone, and would try on any role given to her for at least a little bit no matter how he liked it.

After his breakdown he's decided to only do what entertains him in some way, and follow any and all of his impulses. This can range from incredibly destructive and chaotic lash outs to just trickster like help depending on his mood and connection to the people affected. This also includes his own self destructive impulses. Ultimately despite his attempts to suppress it, he is still capable of caring about people, and when he does he'll go out of his way for them and keep tabs on how they're doing.

Eventually he's going to learn that everything does matter despite its infinite nature, and at that point he's going to have a lot of amends to make, but she isn't there yet.

Powers

Reality Hopping: He can travel the multiverse by going through anything that looks like a doorway, gateway, or opening. If unspecified he arrives in a random universe in a random location near a similar gateway. He can specify what universe he's traveling to by qualities (such as what year it's in, human population levels, if magic is present, etc), by people he knows or knows of (The one with the Jane Doe I met last week), or by any name he knows the universe by. If he specifics a universe absolutely impossible to exist she arrives in a dark void. He can bring people with him as long as they have a grasp on him through some means and goes through the same gateway in up to five seconds of him. (This power inspired by @chaosmultiverse)

Multiversal Consistent: In every single universe some version of him has existed. They might be dead in the present year, or might exist in the future of the universe. They share his basic traits and have a name that at least sounds like his if not the same name. They don't necessarily have to be human, or even sentient. This is what connects Elias to the whole multiverse.

Abilities

Marksmanship: He has training with basic firearms and has some experience with all conventional types of guns.

Medicine: He has the training of a medical student circa the 2010s, not advanced in any field but leagues above basic first aid training. He can treat standard injuries, illnesses, and has knowledge on disabilities and mental illnesses.

Equipment

Throughout threads he might gather helpful items. This will be updated as items are obtained.

Bracer of Storage: He can hold up to five items in this, and can stow items by touching them. When retrieving an item it either appears in a free hand (favoring his left) or in front of him if he has no free hand or the object is too large to hold.

Universal Translator: Picked up in a magical universe, this ring lets her understand anything he hears and lets anybody understand what she is saying.

Phone: Has a cross universe data plan. Extended battery life. Requires a signal.

Chalk: For on the fly gate creation.

#elias; info #death tw #abuse tw #financial abuse tw #mental health issues tw #addiction tw

[jennifersbod]

the way i won’t be able to both pay for school and pay off my medical debt by the time i’m 30

#i hate being sick all the time i hate being mentally ill i hate capitalism etc etc #i hate my *** for ruining my credit i hate that he **** before fixing it #late 20s are about existential dread that you’re constantly running out of time #i have less than 3.5 years #and at that point i may as well wait for 7 years to cancel it out #personal #financial abuse tw #venting tw #tbd

[thesoulesscollection]

What do you think Reginald's family is like?

Heya, thank you for the question. I didn't expect any so this is really nice to see. Sorry if this took me a moment as I got busy dealing with other things

Tw: Awful Parents, Manipulation, Abuse

• They come from a higher middle class where they have accumulated old money over the generations yet over the past couple decades since Reginald's birth they struggled financially • ^ Although they never said that out loud due to the shame it may bring to them if anyone finds out so they tend to spend more then they make trying to impress • ^ Ie. Somehow managing to gain ties to clans/gangs like the Toppats for example among others and they often used Reginald as a bargaining chip to gain favor • Reginald is an only child; doesn't have any siblings and a couple cousins and family members who are all older then he who pays him no mind • ^ Spent most of his early childhood to his young teens being left alone to his own devices or with a nanny so he wasn't used to being around other company • His parents aren't the greatest; they were known and they still are to be extremely manipulative whether it was emotionally, verbally and or especially, financially abusive • They gave him high, near unrealistic expectations for their only child and son; desiring to put their dreams and so forth with the pressure to bring their family to prosperity again on his shoulders • As an act of 'rebellion' when he turned eighteen though he had ran away in the dead of night, bringing little with him in an attempt to finally live a life he wanted on his own terns • Now as he's older, Reginald has little to no contact with either parent or anyone else in his family as he much prefers his clan 

#Answered Ask #dark-twist-fairytales #Ask Box Is Always Open #Asks Are Always Appreciated #Anon Or Not #Thsc Fandom #Reginald Copperbottom #Thsc Reginald #Thsc Reginald Copperbottom #Henry Stickmin Collection #The Henry Stickmin Collection #Thsc Worldbuilding #Abusive Parents #Abuse Tw #Emotional Abuse Tw #Mental Abuse Tw #Financial Abuse Tw

[samyelbanette]

A couple people who know what my family is like have said, “Your family threatens to cut you off all the time, but then they take it back, and end up giving you the money anyway. Why do you believe them every time they threaten you? They’re only trying to scare you.”

Bruh, I can’t bank on their threats being empty. I tried that once.

In December 2014, I told my family I didn’t want to come home from university during winter break. I was going to spend Christmas with my friend’s family instead.

They said “if you don’t visit us at Christmastime, you’ll never go back to that university again!”

I was like lol what? ofc they don’t mean that, and proceeded to fuck off to my friend’s house without a second thought.

In January 2015, I got a call from the school: I owed $15,000 for the new semester, and my parents were not going to pay the tuition, so if I didn’t have the money, I had three days to move all my shit out of my dorm.

I started a GoFundMe, which raised about $1,000….obviously not enough. So. Yeah. That’s the story of how I dropped out of college. 🤷‍♀️😔

(….But I did start attending community college in 2019!)

#financial abuse tw

[thedepressedweasel]

My egg donor: Why do you need to waste your money, meaning my money, on going to the DMV alone by Uber or bus instead of letting me, your mother, drive you for free?! That makes me very sad...AND ANGRY, YOU PIECE OF SHIT!!! I didn’t torture you into obedience for nothing!!!!

Well, sorry not sorry for being a human being with survival instincts of my own and wanting to go to the DMV independently and not wanting to get killed by that insane monster, whom I refuse to call my “mom” (and all other variations of my “mother” for that matter)!

#i hate my mother #child abuse #murder-suicide tw #narcissistic mothers #abusive mothers #abusive women #abusive parents #abusive family #financial abuse tw

[one-abuse-survivor]

I just wanna vent a bit if that's okay. I'm in a bad place for a time now, i thought that when i was of legal age I could get to move out and not live with my abusive mother. But now it's been three years and cor*na was a big reason why i couldn't move out. I just don't want to end up not leaving. I don't have a job yet because she always manipulates me into not getting one or when i do have one she makes everything more hard for me. She convinced me to get off the antidepressants and I hate myself for letting myself be manipulated by her. I pushed the one person who cared about me, because everytime we got to hang out I felt like I'm just a charity case and I hated it. I became a hermit, I don't feel safe outside with people bc they might judge me and I don't feel safe in my home.

Sometimes I wonder what did I do wrong to deserve this. My memory is shit bc of the abuse, I barely function to eat and shower, even going out it's a mental chore for me. I hate what she did to me, in what she turned me into. The only thing that keeps me sane are games and neither that is good for my mental health. I want anyone to care about me, but I feel like who would care for a person who didn't get out of this toxic enviromnent? Do I deserve someone to even care about me? What do I even bring to the "table"? Misery and suffering? And I've gained some weight bc of stress and I feel so worthless.

I promised my younger self that I would get out but instead of getting out I feel like i'm drowning even more. And what hurts more is that she is the same two faced person I knew she was. I broke my foot and got a cast for a month and it's healing slowly and she still doesn't give a fuck about me.

I get it, my bio dad abused her, then why the f*ck is she abusing me? I'm not him, and yet my "mother" never saw me as anything else but a way to get revenge on him. But he doesn't care about me at all. How nice that I have to bear the consequences of their mistakes...

I just want out.

Sorry if I made some grammar mistakes. English is not my first language.

Don’t worry about grammar mistakes, nonnie, English isn’t my first language either and I’m sure I make some as well :)

I’m so sorry to hear she manipulated you into going off your antidepressants and sabotaged your job opportunities :( you're absolutely not your biological father, and you deserve so much better than everything she's put you through.

I know how hard this can be to believe when you're legally of age, but not having left yet doesn't mean you never will, nonnie. Most people don't leave their abusive home environments the moment they turn of age—I myself lived with my mother for over 2 years after I turned 18. It's okay to not have it all figured out just yet.

You're going through so much, nonnie, and you're doing your best in an extremely traumatic and isolating situation. So many victims of abuse end up pushing away those who care about them because they feel ashamed or worthless or like a burden, and I hope you know that the feeling that you can't bring anything good into other people's lives is a trauma symptom, and not an inherent truth about yourself. And it is possible to stop feeling this way about yourself once you're away from the abuse and you find the time and space to heal.

Things won't necessarily always feel the way they do now, nonnie. But it's okay if you don't have the resources to leave the abusive situation just yet. It's okay if all you can do for now is to keep surviving and to take whatever small steps you can to care for yourself.

Sending all my support your way ❤️

#Ask #Vent #abuse tw #abusive mother tw #covid mention #repressed memories #emotional abuse tw #medical abuse tw #financial abuse tw #worthlessness tw #abusive father tw #abusive ex #abusive relationship #Self deprecation tw

[everloste]

to think that this time last year i was suffering through all the same symptoms, but with the additional stress of my dog needing surgery and the associated recovery period dovetailing directly into my boyfriend having an emergency where i was legitimately afraid of losing him

all while my ex abusers were openly ignoring all our emotional bids, going so far asto be talking in other channels of our server as i begged someone to talk to me. i was losing several pounds a week from the lonliness and danger of my situation mixed with my own wasting syndrome from congenital (and traumatic) brain damage

and then after their honeymoon in vegas (they never even told us when the wedding was happening and we were not invited) they told us theyd gotten into debt at some point. after putting us on their card months prior and encouraging us to use it even while knowing this and hiding it from us for what might have been months.

i literally dont know how i survived but i never gained the weight back so lmao. i think part of me may have died.

#abuse tw #weight loss tw #financial abuse tw #evrtxt #i really wish i didnt hate their fucking guts i hate hating people it makes me feel irredeemable

[faramirsonofgondor]

“Gabe isn’t abusive in the show” ARE WE WATCHING THE SAME SHOW???

Gabe is literally introduced by yelling at someone who, when Percy apologizes for Gabe’s behavior, says “I’m walking out, you’re walking in. I should be apologizing to you.” And then Percy reluctantly and slowly walks inside. And Gabe immediately starts in on him (calling him “Genius” in a mocking tone) as Percy repeatedly expresses that he just wants to talk to his mom ( and Gabe’s subsequent “Is that all you have to say to me?”) The fact that he answered Sally’s phone and acted like he had every right to do so?? The way he shows begrudging respect when thinks Percy was violent towards another kid at school?? The “you would think that because you’re a child, you don’t understand things…” The way he gets annoyed that Percy wants to know where his mother is. The “what are we doing Percy? every time! wow…wow!” in such a condescending tone??? Percy’s immediate alarm when Sally calls Gabe’s name. Gabe immediately yelling at Sally, not knowing anything about Percy’s life (he didn’t even know his school’s name despite literally just talking to them), the way he makes Sally negotiate to use the car (“Why am I okay with this?” “Make sure they put the hot peppers on my sandwich please!”) the way he acts like his tone of voice shouldn’t matter to Sally because he said “please” the aggressive behavior even after he concedes to letting them use the car (getting in Percy’s face, pointing his finger at him, etc.), like???

Just because he isn’t depicted as smacking the shit out of them doesn’t mean he isn’t abusive. He is constantly yelling, even when it’s not necessary, and is overall condescending and rude towards both Percy and Sally. He has a positive reaction towards the idea of Percy being violent, which means that he probably has no problems getting violent himself, even if it isn’t show on screen. The fact that he is constantly trying to redirect Percy and Sally’s decision to make himself the center of it (he is trying to goad Percy into an argument when he gets kicked out of school and overall keeps trying to redirect the conversation back to himself, he acts like he is allowed to breach Sally and Percy’s privacy but then makes Sally get his permission to drive somewhere, and even then she has to give him something in return). Like he is very clearly controlling and emotionally/financially abusive (he acts like Sally’s things are his despite not having a job and likely blowing through their money). It also seems like he tries to diminish Percy’s self esteem, possibly to keep him and Sally under his thumb (it’s a common tactic used by abusers to make the victims feel like the need to depend on the abuser). Overall, just because he might not be physically abusing them, doesn’t mean he isn’t abusing them and doesn’t mean his actions aren’t harmful. Furthermore, just because he isn’t violent on screen doesn’t mean he isn’t violent.

#pjo series #pjo tv show #pjo fandom #pjo #percy jackson #gabe ugliano #sally jackson #tw child abuse #abuse mention #tw abuse #emotional abuse #mental abuse #financial abuse #spousal abuse #abuse is still abuse no matter what it looks like #emotional abuse can be just as hurtful as physical abuse

[compassionatereminders]

my relationship with my parents has come to the point where my dad is allowed to hit me without my mom defending me, my parents are fine with insulting me (including calling me abusive for speaking my mind or expressing my anger in non-violent ways) and my interests. telling me if i wanted to leave a place i did not agree to be taken to (i was told we'd be going home), i would have to walk the 300 miles. they've stolen my money and returned not even half of it. they have agreed to transport me places and left me without any at the last minute. every time i express my feelings it's "that was yesterday" or "that was last year" or "that didn't happen" or "that's not true." I'm tired of them dragging me into their arguments. I've been their mediator since i was 16 years old. I'm tired of being insulted and blamed for stuff i can't control.

i genuinely feel like they tell me to act like an adult when they put me in situations i cannot get out of but treat me like a child that owes them something if i try to exercise my rights as an adult.

I'm hoping i can move out with my brother and that his boyfriend will agree to have us as his roommates because i can't afford living here otherwise.

I'm sure you are aware of this, but I just want to spell out that your parents are actively abusing you and that their behavior is completely unacceptable on all levels. And I am so fucking sorry that you're forced to deal with this. He's to hoping that you will find a way out soon. Because you deserve so much better than this

#chat with kat #abuse tw #physical abuse tw #psychological abuse tw #gaslighting tw #violence tw #victim blaming tw #financial abuse tw

[lapisdeiii]

"your desires,my darling?" Are you serious 😃😵‍💫🫠😳😇 AnyWAY. Your first Zhongli HC was... intense. Would you like making a second part for.. the general public 🤭 Im sure everyone would appreciate it

𝗦𝗨𝗚𝗔𝗥 𝗗𝗔𝗗𝗗𝗬 𝗭𝗛𝗢𝗡𝗚𝗟𝗜 𝗣𝗧 𝗜𝗜

SYNOPSIS : y'all asked and i am delivering again!! since you lovely gems liked my first sugar daddy zhongli headcanons, i'll just give you some more <3. these will have the same tags !! 

WARNINGS : dub-con , manipulation , isolation , forced dependency , financial abuse , gn reader used, daddy kink. forced marriage. nsfw themes

A/N : i do not condone irl yanderes . if you are ever in a situation like this, talk to someone immediately .  goods underneath lol

zhongli loves you, desperately so. he wants to keep you by his side, perhaps even marry you. he finds that he cannot even dream of a life without you.

but, of course, a silly little thing like you wouldn't want to stay with him for long, and move on to the next thing. what's this? you seem to have taken an interest in a boy at your college? well, that simply won't do! daddy will just have to remind you of why he is the best option!

every night he spoils you, not with just the amazing times you have in bed, but to the perfumes or cologne he purchases. everything he buys you is meant for you and you alone

he'll take you at times to a fancy dinner, but they always end up a little steamy as zhongli takes good care of you under the table, playing with you and mumbling the nastiest things as his gloved hand grips your thigh to keep it from shaking as you cum for the nth time by his hand, and close to the final climax, he pulls away his hands and he whispers that when you both get home, he'll make you a crying and whining mess on the bed. a little treat for being so well behaved and good!

he keeps you in his penthouse. you understand, don't you darling? a man like himself always gets lonely without his little gem to hold and spoil every chance he gets.

you find that at your college, nasty rumors have spread around about yourself, that you are a no good gold digger. your room was trashed, and the door to your dorm was spray painted with nasty words! you run to daddy afterwards and he consoles you, his poor baby. you have no idea it was him that spread those nasty rumors about you, daddy just wanted to make sure no one got too close to you, especially those nasty frat boys and sorority girls!

he'll try to slowly coax you out of college, you seriously don't need that degree darling, daddy will just take care of you for the rest of your life. you worry about getting older and him not loving you anymore? oh sweet thing, he loves you more than life itself, no matter how old you get, daddy will always spoil you rotten.

he'll tell you in that deep velvety rich tone, how much he loves you as he finds purchase in your hips, deeply thrusting into you as you whine and beg for him to stop, your protests muddled with whines of pleasure and need

"daddy! oh daddy hng~! stop, i can't take it any more" you whine out softly, clenching bed sheets as zhongli thrusts hard and fast into you "oh my little gem, you'll let daddy have more right? yes darling you will, mm daddy is addicted to the way you feel" zhongli's hand slides under your chest and his thumb lightly traces your nipple. at this, you let out a sweet moan. "now, daddy wants you to cum a couple more times for me, oh yes.. such a good little gem"

zhongli is a traditional man, and of course like said before, he wants to marry you. he'll pick the perfect month, the perfect day. you won't mind that daddy is an auspicious man right? he wants to marry you at the perfect time, with or without you always agreeing!

he says your relationship is special, not like the other sugar babies before! to him, they are just play things.. but you.. you are his special little gem, the only one of his sugar babies to ever catch his attention and snare him down.

his dream is to have a child with you, move you to his mansion in liyue and keep you as his cute housespouse. you'll be happy with him, he's sure of it!

these headcanons are more popular than i thought lolol!! i hope you enjoyed my gems!!

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[scenteddisappointment]

I've been trying to work up the nerve to at least give a little information about this, both because of embarrassment and anxiety, but my mom and I have lived with my abusive (verbally, emotionally and especially physically) grandpa since I was born and escaping that seems impossible for right now. We're just trying to survive. My mom can't get a job because he refuses to let her leave the house and I'm disabled. Anything helps, and please don't feel pressured. Thank you very much for reading.

#sometimes i forget that being abused isnt my fault and its nothing to be embarrassed about #i just really wish it didnt affect us financially #i dont feel comfortable talking in depth about it #rant posts aside #bc im still dealing with that embarrassment and i havent fully learned to let that go yet #but at least this is out there now #hopefully itll do some good but im not expecting anything from this #im preserving the tags #im not sure how much detail is too much for this #sorry for how long it took #i just. idk. it made me anxious to think about #we havent payed our phone bill and its a short term solution anyway since we wouldnt be able to charge our phones #financial #help #tw abuse #abuse mention #bills #reblog friendly

[thedepressedweasel]

My abusive, evil egg donor screamed at me like “IF YOU EVER TRY TO ESCAPE ME, I WILL FUCKING MURDER YOU AND THEN MAKE SURE THAT NOBODY WILL EVER FIND YOUR BODY!!!!!!!!!111111!!!!”

When I was a teenager, she sabotaged all of my attempts to find a job and move out because she really wanted me to become homeless.

I really hate her so much!

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[one-abuse-survivor]

Hello! Al anon here.

Firstly I want to thank you for your response. Lots of things have changed since I have initially wrote you my first ask. Mainly, I have realized the full scope of my situation as with opened mind I could see how my parents truly are without my mind trying to ease the things anymore. Still I have to say, that it still matters to me a lot to get the answer from you, since that is as much of an objective answer to my situation as I could get.

This is more of a vent than anything else.

On one hand I am happy that I have figure the situation that I am in, because it means I can now fight off the manipulation and abuse tactics my parents are using, however I have to say that it has been rough. I cannot leave my parents as it is now, since I am fully dependent and I still have to finish my school to be able to even think about taking a job and earning enough money to be able to go.

Which, speaking of which. I was always thinking that I was bad at saving money because as soon as I had my pay check from the summer job (The one that they called me a spoiled brat over when I decided to stay home) The last seasons it always dissapeared in the month.

This year I have finally realized why. What I have heard from my peers and based on the observation that I had, most of the people who are working their part-time job are doing it to buy things that they want. Being it clothes that they want, expensive shoes that they want, electronics that they want... at least at the place where I am living that is common and if people are working part-time job to have money to survive, they are mostly living in dorms, where it is already pretty costly to live and they have to live and take care of themself alone.... and the point is, in all of those cases it was them who was 100% in the control of what the money will be spend on.

And I have realized, that for me that wasn't really the case. It never was that straight up as them taking money from me. (However my mother had grown into the habbit into comming and asking me for money to buy books and other trinkets or showing me things that I want with the tiny bit she would add her part there in too. There also was one of the situations when I had to spend my christmas money so we could have christmas and I have never seen those money back even when they said they would.) But they are basically making me to buy necesities for me to survive. I don't truly remember when I had clothes bought from me as from the moment I could earn money, the money was spent for my clothes that I needed. (Not even that I wanted because of my mothers remarks like the one time she told me after I switched dresses that the dress I have chosen was making me look like grandma, which honestly hurt me quite a lot)

She was literally pushing me to go buy clothes that I had to go through my whole closet and list my items of clothing to know that I have enough clothes and when she pushed herself into my journey to put the money into the bank she still made me go to the shop and made me buy pants, being so happy "She forced me to buy them." Or that I had to buy myself the train ticket or books so I could actually be able to go and study school.

At this moment, when my one pair of shoes (Since I had to give my other pairs of shoes to my brother when he broke the shoes and my mother always comes to me to ask if he could get my older shoes to greacefully break and leaving me with only one pair.) broke my mother said nonchalantly that I should go buy another pair. Today stating my father won't be able to pay the shoes for me because he has lots of things to pay.

Now I am truly sorry if I sound bratty or if I am being selfish, but it just hurts the way how she immidiately assumed and told me to buy shoes with my money. Shoes that I need. A necessity. She didn't even care about the fact I have literally told her I am saving the money and I don't want to spend them so at future I could go through the driving course or anything else that will be crucial in my future and that they won't pay me at all. Especially because even when I thought I am in very loving family and that I am so gifted to have such wonderful parents (because of course that is what they made me believe and what mother always told me that I should be greateful for) I was always confused about the spending in our family. Being it buying treats or the fact that even when my parents always told me that there isn't much money to spend, they bought many, many old books that cost a lot for the university they are studying for fun and that they are not planning to use to get better paying job. If they are able to spend money on the hobby that they have even in the situations when we didn't have that much money, why do I have to pay for the necessities that a child should get by default? I don't have any way to earn money through the year since school is really taxing on my time and I have already wasted all my summer time (That they are trying to convince me I have actually so, so enjoyed.) on a job. And it isn't even like it would be even. They borrowed and gave my brother so much money when he didn't have because he spent it all on food or by going out with friends or on smoking, but when I come to ask just for money for a monthly ticket I am instantly shunned and shamed for asking for help and compared to him. And I don't even go out with people or went onto the school events, because I thought that those would be too much taxing on our money situation...

It's just all start to feel for me like some form of financial abuse. Like I am not allowed to have money or be dependent and just this long essay is grain of what have happened, because I haven't stated the emotional and verbal parts of the abuse I had to endure during this whole time, but I will cover that parts in other rants I know I will one day come to vent, since I don't want to infodump you either.

Though I honestly don't know what to do either. As much as I am happy that I know now why things are happening and I am being better at handling them without internilazing it is so emotionally taxing. I feel like every week I just one day psychically collapse having to just lay and cry the whole day out before I am able to pick myself up. What is making me even more scared is though the fact that this all seem to start showing also physically. From sudden hyperventilations, to the moments where I just. Freeze. What I thing helped me a lot on how to not go insane is the enormous support of my friends, however as much as their help and support is helpful I also fully realize I cannot just. dump it all on them ,rant for forever about my family even when they say it's okay. I can't even go to the therapy, because I don't have the money and even if I would dare to talk to my parents about my mental health the only thing I would get is that therapy won't help me because they won't be able to fix the "sudden anxieties." However how do people handle these types of situations alone before they can finally leave, without crumbling down?

Hi again :) you are welcome to vent as often and for as how long as you need to. I understand the feeling of not wanting to dump too much on your friends, and that's one of the many reasons this blog exists.

I absolutely don't think you sound bratty or selfish, nonnie. I do think culture can really affect how families handle money, and what is expected of people as they grow up regarding earning money and handling expenses. I have my own cultural background and my subjective ideas of what is a healthy and fair way for parents to handle finances with their older teens and young adults, and what isn't. Not everyone might agree with those ideas, and that's fine.

However, I 100% agree with you here that what your parents are doing is financial abuse. You are still a shool student, and they've been forcing you to work summer jobs since you were of legal age to do so, just so they could make you pay for the necessities that they should be providing for you, and so they could randomly take your money and belongings away. That's fucked up. That's extremely unfair, controlling, and exploitative.

And the fact that they're treating your brother so differently than you sounds to me like this might be a golden child/scapegoat situation. This post might help you figure out if that's the case.

The moments of freezing and hyperventilation sound like they could be trauma reactions (though of course you shouldn't immediately discard other mental health issues). Of course, as you suggested, therapy would help, but it's also true that therapy can only help so much when you're still going thought abuse. Therapy can't make you not feel traumatised when your parents are still actively abusing you. There are many things that therapy can only help you tackle once you're physically and emotionally safe and away from the traumatic situation.

Regarding your question, "how do people handle being abused before they can leave without crumbling down?" The honest answer is they don't. We don't. We crumble down, over, and over, and over, barely surviving, feeling like absolute shit all the time, until we can make it out and can start putting ourselves painfully back together. And, tragically, some people don't make it out alive at all. Suicide ideation and attempts are very high among victims of abuse.

All this to say, please don't feel guilty for not doing enough to feel better or handle things better. If all you can do most days is survive, that is enough. If all you can do is break down over and over and still pull yourself together and push through one more day, that is enough. It's okay to not have everything figured out. It's okay to not know exactly how or when you'll escape. That doesn't mean you never will. If all you can do today is give tomorrow-you a chance, that's enough.

I hope some of this helps to hear. Sending a big virtual hug ❤️

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[bitchesgetriches]

(tw abuse) Can I say thank you for your blog?

I'm currently trying to escape an abusive household, but I wasn't sure of how I could get money or a job because I'm not allowed to get a job. Or learn how to get one. Or anything similar.

Which I later learned is financial abuse.

But I found a lot of useful resources and info here on how to get money online. And in person...

Thank you!

Honey, we are so, so, SO fucking proud of you. In the darkness of an impossible situation, you've somehow found the strength to seek out help and resources. You're an inspiration to us all, and we are rooting for you so hard. Keep in touch--we want to know when you're safe and out of your abusive household.

For anyone else who might be dealing with a similar situation, here is some information on financial abuse and where to go for help:

When Money is the Weapon: Understanding Intimate Partner Financial Abuse 

How Abusive Workplaces Mirror Abusive Relationships 

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