hi caroline can i vent to you a lil bit? i just saw a post with a terrible take about BE and juwon part specifically irked me, probably due to personal experience, so i wanted to share my pov with you.
the post -among many other things- said that juwon had ocd and it was terrible that the writers went "yeah let's just force him to stop by the end of it" and tbh I didn't get it, i always thought that when juwon said "mysophobia, I don't have it" he was right. ocd is an anxiety related issue and my boi definitely has that and it's quite bad yeah. But i always felt like it was due to the fact he was striving to uphold the standards of perfection his father has been projecting onto him since he was a kid. As much as juwon hated him he still tried his best to do everything he could in order to get some sort of praise or acknowledgment from his absent father. So that's why in the end he slowly learns to let go of all of that, he must have felt like a weight was lifted from his shoulders. He's a complex multidimensional character and both the writer and the director did a brilliant job with BE.
Sorry if i bothered you, I'm probably exactly like that post "why do you like him?" or smth and with ds it's just "look at him❤️" and with jw it's an entire paragraph. yup relatable indeed aldhakd
hi anon! oh, i think i know the post you're talking about, because i remember reading something along those lines pretty early when i was getting into beyond evil . . .
also, this got long. maybe because i have a lot of thoughts + also because i wound up talking more about mental illness rep in beyond evil as a whole:
but like. hm. yes, i absolutely agree with you because while i might not have ocd myself, i do have family members + friends with ocd, and i also have pretty severe anxiety + i used to struggle with an eating disorder, which overlapped with some ocd tendencies (at least, according to what my friends/family struggling with ocd told me from their own perception of me). because of that, i absolutely saw joo won and his tendencies and realized that. like. yeah, a lot of his behaviors can absolutely stem from anxiety-driven issues like ocd.
i think what makes me personally upset about the kind of "ugh the writers just dropped joo won's ocd storyline" is that it totally misses the fact that not all mental illnesses or disabilities are quite the same. because mental illnesses like ocd or anxiety disorder or panic attack disorder are actually mental illnesses that people want to better cope with/somehow heal from. when i was younger, i remember being told by someone who was also struggling with similar mental illnesses as mine that "yeah, you're never gonna get 'better'--this thing is gonna stick with you forever", and as a teenager, that really made me scared about like. oh my god. am i going to personally be living this weird half-life for the rest of my days? that's terrible.
but of course, that's not true! yeah, people with mental illnesses like ocd, anxiety, depression, etc--they all struggle from time to time, and that def. all varies with different degrees of stress (ie. my own anxiety and depression gets significantly worse when i've encountered a triggering situation, and my own past eating disorder tendencies like to pop in when i'm feeling stressed out with work/school/etc). but the thing about these mental illnesses is that you can get better, usually with the help of therapy, medication, a support system and, as cheesy as it sounds (but it's true!), compassion and love for yourself.
in the case of han joo won, who has clearly never had a very stable family or friends situation, it would make sense that his own ocd or other unspecified mental illness would be pretty severe at the start of the show. we've seen how he was raised, even if only for 5 minutes--we see his interactions with his father. it seems that his family also has some history of mental illness too, given how his mom was.
but the great thing about the show is that over the course of the series, joo won gets some greater sense of support and love than he had felt in his entire life. even when he was still being a jerk, the station was so accommodating to joo won (ie. chief nam cleaning out the bathroom for joo won if he wanted to take a shower, and then even later, ji hwa telling jae yi that wait, inspector han needs new bowls in a totally nonjudgmental manner).
the thing about han joo won no longer struggling as severely with his ocd is simply because he's received more support. he's found people who seem to genuinely care about him, and i think along the way, he subconsciously started to let go of his tendencies. his entire dirty history is out there--and unlike han ki hwan, who was so obsessed with perfection, the manyang gang love and appreciate han joo won anyways, annoying attitude + messy mistakes + all. ofc, love doesn't "fix" a mental illness, but it helps one get better, because that's what a support system is all about.
it's also worth noting that, like, beyond evil is a show that's very conscious about the discussion around mental illnesses. dong sik pretty clearly struggles with some kind of ptsd, and jeong je pretty clearly struggles with his own depression, and even oh ji hoon's mentioned in passing about struggling with depression. but what i like about beyond evil is that writer kim su jin and director shim na yeon and the entire cast also seemed pretty intent about those depictions of mental illness--oh ji hoon's a pretty sunshine-y looking guy, for starters, all smiles and cheer, which is the exact opposite people assume of those struggling with depression. (the most frustrating thing a depressed person can hear is oh, you don't look like you have depression though?) as for dong sik, we see him pretty clearly struggling on his own (crying alone in the basement, tucking himself away when he's grieving, the fact that he sleeps on the couch without any heat speaks volumes about how little he cares about himself), but as soon as he's around friends or his loved ones, he automatically puts on a whole act. as for jeong je, we see that he's a pretty timid guy, maybe the kind of more expected representation we see of depression and/or anxiety, but maybe that makes a little more sense, given his relationship with an overbearing mother who never really . . . allowed him to heal or get better, even despite sending him to all those doctors.
in short, i think that it's pretty unfair + also kinda narrow-minded to act like writer kim su jin dropped joo won's ocd line. she's been super intentional with everything in beyond evil, and the fact that joo won slowly loosens up on his tendencies was just another factor that really demonstrated how he'd started to get more comfortable around people who actually liked him for who he is, not for this perfect, logical robot that he was pressured into being. human beings are messy! for han joo won, who cries when he's frustrated or angry or getting scolded, being loved and respected and liked gave him enough reason to let go of his own ocd tendencies and get better.
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for the super detailed questions how about 1, 3 and 5 for Ari 👀
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Eyy thanks for the ask max! :)
What’s their full name? Why was that chosen? Does it mean anything?
Just Arari Adaar, and i used a random generator until a name came up that sounded vaguely Qunari-y lmao. Ari does mean lion in Hebrew though! And idk if Thedas has any language that's based on Hebrew but considering one of Ari's parents is a huge linguistics nerd I think it fits that he doesn't have a standard Qunlat name
3. Did they have a good childhood? What are fond memories they have of it? What’s a bad memory?
His childhood was relatively nice I'd say! Overall he doesn't have many stand-out memories but he generally thinks back fondly on his young days.
I'll admit I haven't thought about it in detail, but he grew up in a small-ish, mostly human village that his parents ended up staying in longer than expected after Ari was born. You've got the inevitable struggle of growing up as the only Vashoth kid around, but his parents were known and respected in the village and they knew Ari from birth so he grew up in an fairly accepting community at least.
One of the scariest memories he has from his childhood, ironically, is from when a small group of Qunari was in the area, since yknow, his parents are Tal-Vashoth.
5. Do they have any siblings? What’s their names? What is their relationship with them? Has their relationship changed since they were kids to adults?
Nope, no siblings, though he always wanted some. Would've been nice to have another Qunari kid around...
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@chongyuniisms asked :
❛ seeing you happy is all that matters. ❜ (lumine)
&. 𝐬𝐨𝐟𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬. || accepting
─「蛍」─ when the EXORCIST came to her, saying that he had something he wanted her to see, the outlander didn’t quite know what to expect. he had always been someone rather unpredictable, in a good way, of course. so most of the time, she couldn’t exactly FORESEE what he was planning. even as they were trekking up the liyue mountains, he didn’t give any hints as to what it was that he had planned, nor was she asking since it appeared that he wanted to keep it a secret.
the only inquiry leaving her lips was whether their destination was far seeing as the SUN started to descend closer to the horizon line. and the clue he gave was that it wasn’t too far. that’s it. no other hints had left his lips so she played along.
good thing she had left paimon with xiangling to help her taste-test some new recipes she was conjuring up, or else her FLOATING COMPANION would be complaining about all the climbing they were doing ( despite the said companion not having to actually climb, but she digressed. )
finally, after a few more TREKKING up the high terrain, the scenery up above the hill was then displayed in full. the LANDSCAPE of liyue being painted in the light of pure gold from the setting sun. the once clear, blue sky was dyed completely with the color of amber, with the center being the magnificent sun that gave a soft, aureate glow like melted gold. it was almost an image straight out from a painting, a sight to behold.
her own honey hues lit up as they reflected the ETHEREAL display, as did her expression that was caressed gently by the tender light.
“ it’s ... beautiful ... ” it was the same shade of gold within her person, of the LIGHT and power she had lost when she confronted the unknown god. a nostalgia filled her pounding heart, giving her a sense of belonging in that split second. what she didn’t notice was how her companion had his eyes not upon the scenery but on her, and the words that left his lips didn’t escape her attention despite the marvel of this GOLDEN SKY he gifted her with.
❛ seeing you happy is all that matters. ❜
her gaze turned to him, and his EXPRESSION spelled of ... something else. she couldn’t quite put her finger on it, but happy. ah, she couldn’t remember the last time anyone actually wanted to make sure she was happy ? having been used to helping others and fighting for those who needed it, her own feeling was often neglected.
so he saw it ... when her eyes were gazing up at the sky longingly, as though wondering if her brother was seeing this same SKY somewhere.
“ i ... ” words disappeared down her throat, and tears threatened to well up in those gaze of hers. she quickly shook her head, and finally, her arms WRAPPED around him in a tight embrace. don’t cry on him, lumine.
“ thank you. ” for realizing i had been lonely all this time.
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one piece smau: dating zoro edition
- slight nsfw images + wording , very slight
- male reader !!
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rzs.[name]: muah smooch kiss 😚
tagged: [name]s_hubby
[name]s_hubby: i love u pretty boy
-> rzs.[name]: come home imy
-> [name]s_hubby: im gettin ur stupid biggie bag wait a second
dni_nami: STOP BEING HAPPY ON MY TL ‼️‼️‼️ I DIDNT ASK FOR TS esp from u two
-> rzs.[name]: btw nami i jus venmoed u for the snacks u bought for us at the movies
-> dni_nami: i wish u both nothing but happiness 🫶🏼 love u botthhhh
uso_pp: damn why he eatin u ... [name] u good??
-> [name]s_hubby: pls stfu u touch deprived idiot
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[name]s_hubby: why r ppl spelling gym "jim" that shit sound stupid as fuck
tagged: rzs.[name]
rzs.[name]: my favorite pillow <333
rzs.[name]: guys do u see how he tagged me :))) its cuz hes my boyfriend
rzs.[name]: pls tell me ur single plsplsplsplsplsplsplsplspl
-> [name]s_hubby: i almost blocked u bc i thought u were a rando
-> uso_pp: smths tellin me this isnt the right answer ???
-> [name]s_hubby: mb i mean, yes i do have a boyfriend and am happily married to him
freeluffy: ZORO i beat ur pr 😈😈
-> [name]s_hubby: mf i know u didnt stop lying
princesanji: vomitted in my mouth xoxo
-> [name]s_hubby: the jealousy from this comment is crazy
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rzs.[name]: HES SOOOOO HOTTTT I MIGHT JUST START DROOLING
tagged: [name]s_hubby
[name]s_hubby: please do not start drooling i might break up w u
-> rzs.[name]: u practically started crying when i told u i had to leave the bed to go to school , i cant even jmagine if i broke up w you
-> uso_pp: his ass is not built to survive without u [name] pls dont break up w him for the sake of everyone else
randomgirl: happy for u ig ...
-> [name]s_hubby: im gonna block u from [name]s phone cuz hes too nice to do it himself foh w ur bullshit
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johnnybro: BIG BRO ZORO GOT THE CUTEST BOYFRIEND EVER
-> rzs.[name]: JOHNNNNYY zoro says he misses u
-> [name]s_hubby: i didnt but good to hear from u johnny and yes my bf is the cutest
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SUPERCOLA: zoros drunk ass couldnt even stand upright and [name] had to go on over there to sober him up
tagged: rzs.[name] and [name]s_hubby
robinkills: what even got him to come back to his senses? he was so drunk
-> rzs.[name]: i told him he would have to sleep on the couch unless he got serious
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-> dni_nami: thats all it took??? wtf 💀💀💀
freeluffy: zoro is so funny 😂😂😂 he kept bumping into poles ans apologizing to them
-> [name]s_hubby: luffy delete this comment rn u have ten minutes.
rzs.[name]: i love my boyfriend 😇 even if hes so fucking stupid
-> SUPERCOLA: pls do NOT start beef in my comment section i was tryna show how cut u guys r as a couple not how stupid u both are
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[name]s_hubby: one day ill put a proper ring on his finger and then MAYBE just maybe bitches will stop tryna slide in his dms
tagged: rzs.[name]
uso_pp: it was cute until u threatened a whole population of people
-> [name]s_hubby: the issue is that theres a whole population of people tryna get w my bf, thats not my fault
dni_nami: zoro u almost had me fooled that u were being a SWEET bf for once
rzs.[name]: why not rn???
-> [name]s_hubby: shhh
princesanji: the caption couldve been smth great and then u ruined it
-> [name]s_hubby: and ur still single. so...
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rzs.[name]: i was told to make it more obvious on my acc that i have a bf (even tho hes in all my posts) so pls stop dming me now ty
tagged: [name]s_hubby
[name]s_hubby: his username is literally "roronoa zoro's [name]" as in - IM RORONOA ZORO ... i need all of u to wake tf up
-> rzs.[name]: and my man!!! thank u to my man!!
dni_nami: if anyone knew u two in real life theyd know all u do is talk abt each other
uso_pp: the world if ppl were able to take a hint🌈✨✌️☮️🕊️
princesanji: i am begging all of u to actually stop dming [name] bc the amt of ppl is genuinely stressing zoro out and its making him act even more like an asshole to the rest of us. please spare us this treatment and leave them both alone
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rzs.[name]'s story:
happy 2 yr anniversary, im so lucky to have you in my life
[name]s_hubby replied to your story: i hope i get to wake up next to you everyday, i love you so much please come home quick so i can show you pretty boy <3
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