#don't make assumptions

[memories-of-a-lost-soul]

#quote #don miguel ruiz #the four agreements #citação #quotes #don't make assumptions #assumptions #personal #personal growth #growth

[servicedogtherian]

hey friend im just here to say that i love what ur doing but i feel that tagging ur kin posts with "service dog" and "guide dog" is probably not helping the disabled community find actual resources and other people with real life service dogs

Hi there anon, I don't feel like I am negatively impacting the disabled community. I myself am disabled and I am training my own service dog. I would never search Tumblr for education on Service Animals, the ADA or anything that is actually serious. I understand where you are coming from, and I appreciate the post but my blog is brand new. I have only been active for 2 or so weeks and I have not even had a chance to make an "Intro" post. I am planning on posting service dog related topics and pictures of my own service dog also. That is why I tag my posts like this. I think context is needed when making assumptions like this. Again, my blog is new and I have not gotten around to making SD posts yet, but if you would like to see some posts I made in the past, my Instagram is Troublebigsean. I am no longer active on it, but maybe it will show you what I am going to post on this blog. (/nm /info)

#service dog #guide dog #dog therian #therian #Don't make assumptions #actually disabled #invisible disability

[amazingdvils]

got tammy's info done!

quick info to catch your interest: * claire and sylar's daughter, but has no clue due to being kidnapped at three. * has empathic mimicry, but hides it and presents herself as a telekinetic instead. * college student * very sassy * not very good at social cues * absolutely adorable * totally baby

you should send her memes and write with her. let me give the brat a break and let the newbie stretch her legs.

#* ✶ 𝐕𝐎𝐈𝐃 𝐒𝐂𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐆 // ooc . #* ✶ 𝐋𝐈𝐓𝐓𝐋𝐄 𝐋𝐎𝐒𝐓 𝐄𝐌𝐏𝐀𝐓𝐇 // tamora thorne . #pls at least read on how her ability manifests #don't make assumptions

[inkskinned]

crows use tools and like to slide down snowy hills. today we saw a goose with a hurt foot who was kept safe by his flock - before taking off, they waited for him to catch up. there are colors only butterflies see. reindeer are matriarchical. cows have best friends and 4 stomachs and like jazz music. i watched a video recently of an octopus making himself a door out of a coconut shell.

i am a little soft, okay. but sometimes i can't talk either. the world is like fractal light to me, and passes through my skin in tendrils. i feel certain small things like a catapult; i skirt around the big things and somehow arrive in crisis without ever realizing i'm in pain.

in 5th grade we read The Curious Incident of the Dog In The Night-time, which is about a young autistic boy. it is how they introduced us to empathy about neurotypes, which was well-timed: around 10 years old was when i started having my life fully ruined by symptoms. people started noticing.

i wonder if birds can tell if another bird is odd. like the phrase odd duck. i have to believe that all odd ducks are still very much loved by the other normal ducks. i have to believe that, or i will cry.

i remember my 5th grade teacher holding the curious incident up, dazzled by the language written by someone who is neurotypical. my teacher said: "sometimes i want to cut open their mind to know exactly how autistics are thinking. it's just so different! they must see the world so strangely!" later, at 22, in my education classes, we were taught to say a person with autism or a person on the spectrum or neurodivergent. i actually personally kind of like person-first language - it implies the other person is trying to protect me from myself. i know they had to teach themselves that pattern of speech, is all, and it shows they're at least trying. and i was a person first, even if i wasn't good at it.

plants learn information. they must encode data somehow, but where would they store it? when you cut open a sapling, you cannot find the how they think - if they "think" at all. they learn, but do not think. i want to paint that process - i think it would be mostly purple and blue.

the book was not about me, it was about a young boy. his life was patterned into a different set of categories. he did not cry about the tag on his shirt. i remember reading it and saying to myself: i am wrong, and broken, but it isn't in this way. something else is wrong with me instead. later, in that same person-first education class, my teacher would bring up the curious incident and mention that it is now widely panned as being inaccurate and stereotypical. she frowned and said we might not know how a person with autism thinks, but it is unlikely to be expressed in that way. this book was written with the best intentions by a special-ed teacher, but there's some debate as to if somebody who was on the spectrum would be even able to write something like this.

we might not understand it, but crows and ravens have developed their own language. this is also true of whales, dolphins, and many other species. i do not know how a crow thinks, but we do know they can problem solve. (is "thinking" equal to "problem solving"? or is "thinking" data processing? data management?) i do not know how my dog thinks, either, but we "talk" all the same - i know what he is asking for, even if he only asks once.

i am not a dolphin or reindeer or a dog in the nighttime, but i am an odd duck. in the ugly duckling, she grows up and comes home and is beautiful and finds her soulmate. all that ugliness she experienced lives in downy feathers inside of her, staining everything a muted grey. she is beautiful eventually, though, so she is loved. they do not want to cut her open to see how she thinks.

a while ago i got into an argument with a classmate about that weird sia music video about autism. my classmate said she thought it was good to raise awareness. i told her they should have just hired someone else to do it. she said it's not fair to an autistic person to expect them to be able to handle that kind of a thing.

today i saw a goose, and he was limping. i want to be loved like a flock loves a wounded creature: the phrase taken under a wing. which is to say i have always known i am not normal. desperate, mewling - i want to be loved beyond words.

loved beyond thinking.

#spilled ink #writeblr #personal #please don't ask me to talk on my experience on the spectrum lol. i hate how ppl talk to me about it #i really try not to write so specifically about it #bc inevitably someone talks to me like im a child #i think this is the first time i've ever openly identified with it but i've been hinting for years #i might delete this. feels big. #the thing is that being on the spectrum actually IS a spectrum #and if u say ur autistic #inevitably someone makes an assumption about ur needs/symptoms #please do not treat me differently than u usually would. like.... we can tell when you do #and like i mention. i do appreciate the effort. i do truly appreciate the effort. #but it still feels like... #when i was blind. sometimes people kind of did the same-ish thing. #they'd find out i was blind and start talking really loudly? #and while i KNOW they're just trying to help. it would be like. i'd be trying to find #the right way into a building (sometimes only 1 door is unlocked and i couldn't see the signs posted about where to go) #and ppl would be like ''OH UR BLIND? YES SO THIS IS A DOOR. IT OPENS INTO THE BUILDING. IT IS LOCKED NOW." #''A DOOR CAN BE FOUND IN MANY LOCATIONS.'' #and it feels like. when i admit to being autistic #someone comes screeching into my life being like THIS IS A DOOR.

[queerfemboybf]

The Four Agreements (link to pdf of the book) by Don Miguel Ruiz.

#the four agreements #miguel don ruiz #bookblr #books #agreements #a practical guide to freedom #be impeccable with your word #don't take anything personally #don't make assumptions #always do your best #book quote #ok to rb

[youtwitinmyface]

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

#the four agreements #don miguel ruiz #be impeccable with your word #don't take anything personally #don't make assumptions #always do your best #a practical guide to personal freedom #toltec wisdom

[nyankoizumi]

Looking at each other with their autistic eldritch horrors eyes

#spooky month #overthinking their cyan eyes despite the fact that they never addressed it #might make another post about them #because i have a thing for a crazy uncle coded adult relating and maybe worrying over a child/teen who has also seen The Horrors #but is TOTALLY not affected by them whaaaat noooo im normal you're the weirdo amirite #spooky month pump #spooky month bob #bob velseb #also no i don't think pump is part of the cult nor that bob is related to moloch is just their go to assumption #bob velsen #bob velseb fanart #i really really like pump i want to give him a full sized Snickers bar #spooky month fanart #I realize i should have an art tag so #my art

[thevalleyisjolly]

There’s a weird recurring take in D20 fan circles that Zac doesn’t play “complex” characters and that people are just waiting for the day when he “finally” plays an asshole, which kind of baffles me.  Quite apart from the idea that only morally grey characters are complex or compelling, are you sure we’re watching the same show?

In Fantasy High, we have Gorgug, an adopted biracial teenager whose journey includes realizing his self-worth, coming to terms with his rage (literally), seeking out and navigating new relationships with others (his birth parents, the Bad Kids, Zelda), and discovering what he’s capable of. 

From The Unsleeping City we have Ricky, a second-generation Japanese-American, who has a very personal struggle across two seasons between doing the dutiful/sacrificial thing for other people’s benefit and expressing his own needs, wants, thoughts, and feelings; it’s a very particular exploration of immigrant generations and the relationship between the sacrificial model of your ancestors and the culture you grew up surrounded by which emphasizes the self.

There’s A Crown of Candy and Lapin, whose snark and one-liners are honestly less interesting than the way he engaged with and sought to understand religion and faith; the different yet similar ways in which both the Sugar Plum Fairy and the Church exerted control over their followers, and the search for spiritual meaning beyond these figures/institutions.

Then there’s Cumulous, whose every character aspect navigates a space of tension - the ultimate war guy who made himself hardened (literally) and pragmatic to get the job done but who also remains soft and caring and empathetic at the same time; wielding the power of death without glorifying or giving into it; the cousin who both is a member of the family and yet who remains at somewhat of a distance from the centre; a literal warrior-philosopher who is single-minded in battle and quietly thoughtful about the mysteries of life and death outside of it.

As for actual assholes, we have Norman Takamori in A Starstruck Odyssey, a bitter man who is the living embodiment of both the Superior Orders excuse as well as scapegoating.  On a side note, the amount of absolute vitriol and double standards which people threw at Norman during ASO for being an unapologetic asshole -and he had less than two full episodes of screen time- kind of underscores the calls for Zac to play a “real” asshole.  Zac can and will play whatever type of character he wants, but is fandom really ready for him to play an asshole if that asshole doesn’t have a secret heart of gold?

From the same season, we have Valdrinor/Skip, who starts as the “prince running from his destiny” archetype with a dash of brain slug possession, has a humorous yet oddly profound exploration of what humanity is and what it means to be human, and springboards from there into “wait, who am I really and actually, why are we doing things (brain slug possession) this way when there are other ways to engage with the universe.” 

Most recently in Neverafter, we have Pib, who apart from the fascinating meta element of being a literal character archetype, constantly straddles the line between self-absorbed self-interest and putting himself on the line to help others; his repeated demonstration of both at various points throughout the season is a subtle yet intriguing manifestation of free will and choice-making in a story all about lacking free will and agency.

So, I mean, lack of complexity where?  Does a character need to be an asshole in order to be deep or compelling?  And because I’ve heard this specific rebuttal quite a few times now, does a character need to vocalize their innermost thoughts loudly and frequently in order to prove their complexity?  If a character is “less vocal” compared to other characters, does that mean they lack interiority? 

Also, other people have brought this up before, but I am once again asking that people remember the difference between fictional characters and real life people.  Zac playing one (1) himbo on the show does not make him a himbo in real life, nor does it make him incapable of creating or playing complex characters (especially as said himbo is himself an extremely complex character), nor does it make him a lesser player than other cast members.  You don’t have to find all or any of his characters interesting or complex, but can we stop conflating character with player?

#dimension 20 #dimension 20 discourse #dimension 20 spoilers #(in case you haven't seen one of the mentioned seasons) #i haven't listened to naddpod so i can't speak to mavrus and squing is not included but the point still stands generally #1) asshole/morally grey characters are not the only type of characters who are complex or compelling #2) at the same time; zac has actually played both non-asshole and asshole characters who are complex and compelling #3) you don't have to find all his characters deep or interesting but please stop using them to make assumptions about the real life actor

[marzipanandminutiae]

I miss people using non-medicalized terms for other people's passions

like. well and good to talk about "hyperfixations," "special interests [in the context of an autistic person's favorite subject]," or "infodumping" if you have ADD/ADHD or autism, or are talking about someone who is, but...that's not everyone who feels strongly about something, obsesses, or loves talking about their interests. those words mean specific things, associated with specific forms of neurodivergence

don't assume everyone is comfortable with that language

"rambling" is a word; so is "ranting." "obsession" is a word. "passion" is a word. learn them and use them

#mini-rant #it makes me really uncomfortable when people use that language to talk about my fandom activities #because those are fine and useful words! they just. don't apply to me. #also the weird assumption that everyone who like...has a hobby is autistic? or feels passionately about any activity? #at least in this case it's coming from a more positive perspective and usually from autistic people themselves but #I see people claiming that X character with a hobby they love is 100% Confirmed Autistic and if you disagree you're a bigot #you are free to headcanon that! but. #neurotypical people also have hobbies sometimes! #just saw someone saying that the character Daria was 'undiagnosed autistic' and therefore criticizing her behavior was Bad #my friend. she is a fake person.

[lunar-years]

It's interesting that when Keeley is telling Ted about the implications of that photo of him and her leaking to The Sun, she says "Jamie is going to go mental" but it's not followed up with "he's going to think i cheated on him" or "he's going to break up with me" or "it's going to ruin our relationship" it's instead followed up by, "there's going to be photographers all over us!" And later when she's talking to Rebecca it's, "My god, Jamie would've been so pissed off with reporters poking around in our love life." There's something to be said for like, she never once expresses doubt that Jamie won't hear her out on the truth or believe what she tells him. The major focus of her concern is just keeping their business out of the press. Their relationship in season one is far from perfect but there's a lot of implicit trust between them.

#i also think this also has implications on the Bex of it all. #like...i don't think any of keeley's anger stems from thinking Jamie cheated on her. #instead it comes from Jamie breaking their mutual trust #he made a stupid decision without consulting her and was only worried about how it would affect HIS image #meanwhile him bringing bex could have easily made it to the press and painted the narrative that he's a cheater and keeley's the victim #she has the courtesy to respect and protect jamie's image in their publicity but he doesn't show the same courtesy for him #obvs rebecca is clearly warning keeley under the assumption that Jamie is cheating on her #but not only do i think we as the audience are supposed to get that isn't what's actually happening #i also think KEELEY gets right away that that isn't what's actually happening #it doesn't make her any less angry but it does change the shape of her anger #anyway #jamiekeeley #ted lasso #keeley jones #jamie tartt

[uncanny-tranny]

I love trans people whose transness means that their sexuality is complex. I love trans people who adopt contradictory labels. I love transmasculine people who still have ties to old lesbian spaces and transfeminine people who still have ties to gay spaces (even if they themselves aren't lesbian or gay). I love trans people whose dysphoria has put them at a place where they don't want to engage with any type of sexuality. I love trans people who are confused, unsure, or questioning. I love trans people who toe the lines of queerness. I love trans people who are unapologetically embracing their sexualities. I love trans people who are working through internalized shame about their sexualities.

#trans #transgender #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #honestly being trans has really complicated my sexuality in so many ways and i don't always see people remember this i guess #because i think people expect that trans people will assimilate into their gender and immediately adopt their sexuality... #...in an assimilationalist way where it is uncomplicated and understandable to even cishet people #but it's honestly more complex than that for a ton of us #like i've found myself in most of the situations i included in this post and i'm probably forgetting some more (feel free to add onto this) #because the reality is is that transness *can* make figuring out your sexuality more complex #and that is okay. we should acknowledge this in addition to recognizing that sexuality can be easy or less complex for some #we can recognize that transness can be linked in some way to a person's sexuality without being weird about it i think #because a ton of people are weird especially about trans people's sexualities or their assumptions about our sexualities #this blog aims to grow and encourage growth and acceptance - especially if *i* don't get it *personally*

[t-u-i-t-c]

ROBIN FURUYA as Takashi Iwanaga Love is Better the Second Time Around (2024) │01x05

#love is better the second time around #koi wo suru nara nidome ga joto #robin furuya #furuya robin #takashi iwanaga #iwanaga takashi #jdramaedit #userdramas #please do not repost #umbrella.gifs #umbrella.edits #umbrella.posts #shaking him: you're not kids anymore you don't have to protect him from every little thing #you need to communicate clearly with him or he's going to make assumptions and it's going to hurt your relationship in the long run #anyways robin looks so good in this episode for no reason like chill

[egophiliac]

who is the pink lady with the hair

she's Truth from Ride Kamens! (...I'm not sure what the actual romanization of her name is. Torusu? 🙃) she's one of the villains, so she's still pretty ~mysterious~ at the moment, but so far we've been told that she's a Strong Female Cult Leader Executive who's super smart and super into herself (and who can blame her really) (her design is also more detailed than what I drew, I was just feelin' lazy)

just...look at her and listen to her voice lines and uhhhhhh basically I'm into in this Handsome Anime Man game for exactly the opposite reasons as intended

#ride kamens #joseimuke games are serious business #i mean yeah she's also probably turning people into monsters so she can take over the world or whatever #god forbid a girl do anything #(she does seem a bit Stock Anime Female Villain atm but i'll wait til the game actually starts to make assumptions) #(and even if she is. i mean. ...i don't hate that.)

[royalarchivist]

Mike: I'll hold you son, I'll hold you son.

[They all "Awww"]

Mike: Increase the speed, increase the speed! I'm holding you. Faster faster faster! Faster! I'm holding my son, I'm holding my son! He's not gonna fall, he's not gonna fall– he's right here with me.

[Pac and Mike both laugh, and Fit smiles as he looks at both of them]

Fit: Yeah, doin' good!

Pac: Hold– oh my– Mike, if you don't hold him, he's gonna break, he's gonna break!

Fit: He's gonna get scrambled!

Mike: [Lets Richarlyson go temporarily and encourages him] Just kidding, just kidding, just kidding. Nice, you managed to endure the– [Pac stands behind Mike and hugs him] Oh, you're holding me!

Pac: If you fall–

Mike: Hold Pac Fit, hold Pac Fit!

Pac: Nobody gonna fall!

Fit: Okokokok there you go. [He hugs Pac from behind too, and they all laugh, cheering on Richarlyson]

#FitMC #Tazercraft #Richarlyson #QSMP #Mikethelink #Pactw #Fit #Pac #Mike #I MISS THEMMMM #August 22 2023 #This is the day Pac was rescued from the prison #Fit and Mike were trying so hard to cheer him up and make him smile / laugh because he was so shaken and traumatized by that whole ordeal #Didn't do translations for the Portuguese parts because #while I'm pretty sure I know what Mike is saying #I don't want to make assumptions and give the wrong translations #but TLDR he's saying ''go on son!'' / ''keep going son!'' #Q #IVE HAD THIS SITTING IN MY DRAFTS FOR MONTHS #I thought I lost it but no. Thank god #I MISS MIKEEE I MISS RICHAS I MISS THEM ALL TOGETHER

[inkskinned]

oh you know it's all latestage capitalism but the thing is. how are you supposed to be a person inside of this. a person trying to be a better version of yourself.

oh, you started working young, which was kind of hard, but it's just the way stuff works sometimes. and it was 2008 and your family couldn't afford heat. but it's fine, you grow a spine and get used to the professional world and besides it was the suburbs we're talking about here, like, your life could have been actually hard, so what if your father lost his job and you can't afford to move or turn the lights back on. and once you start making money, it's good. you keep doing that. because now they're relying on you. so you have to do that.

oh you were in thousands of dollars of debt at 17 years old so that you could go to school, because you have to go to school if you want to get a "real" job. you even did it "right", you worked parttime and attended community college before you transferred to a public school. you were under so many merit scholarships.

which is fine. you pick yourself up and you say like, okay. i graduated college. i'm holding down a job. i'm doing the Adult Thing, which looks and acts like this, according to all the books i've read. you start with the shitty job and then you climb that corporate ladder.

but the shitty job doesn't cover rent and you stretch yourself too-thin so you get sick. good luck with that. the shitty job no longer pays for your meals. everyone asks why you don't just move, but there's nowhere to move to. and with what money are you going to be moving? and then the loans come back, because they were never going to forgive them, because you were 17 and trying to do the right thing, which was stupid. people are now saying you shouldn't have even gone to school.

which is fine. but because you have no other option, so you do the shitty job, and you apply every day for like 5 new ones, and despite the fact everyone says "there's no one who wants to work!" it's actually just that nobody is fucking hiring so you can either work for 13 dollars an hour in the shitty place you know (where at least you have a passingly friendly relationship with the manager) or you can start from scratch again with a different 13 dollars an hour without knowing how much abuse from the new job you'll be taking.

and if you quit you lose your insurance. if you quit you lose your housing. if you quit, you'll be another burnout kid. the lazy ones. these assholes, look at them!

and you come home to a family dinner and you hear from your father the same old thing. how he worked hard at his job and yes it sucked for a while but he was able to provide for the family and then the house and the dog and the rest of barbie's dream vacation. how the insurance did cover some of it. how you just really need to start speaking up more in manager conversations so they know you're a go-getter. you want to tell him - did you know we're actually doing more now hourly than any previous generation? - but you can't remember where you heard that statistic, and you're far too tired for the fucking argument. and then he starts in on his usual bit. where's the house? where's your kids? where's your ambition.

the same job the same money the same hours doesn't do it anymore. the same nose-to-the-grindstone now just shreds your face off. there's no such thing as upwards mobility, not really. and as far as you're aware, the money certainly is not trickling. you do the soulless stupid shit you signed up for because you fucking have to or else you literally risk your life (food, the apartment, the insurance), but it's not getting you anything. you download the stupid "save more" app and you budget and you do every right thing and then the price of eggs is 7 dollars and you say - oh great! another thing i have to fucking worry about now!

and you go to your stupid job and everyone in your father's generation just tells you to be better about being an adult. they have their homes and their savings account and their bailout and they say. well have you tried not drinking starbucks. well your generation just spends too much on clothing. well you might just be too addicted to travelling. and you - because you need the job - you bite your tongue and don't say i am being held prisoner and you're suggesting i stop pacing my cell if i don't like the scenery and you don't say what the fuck do you think i've been doing with my money and you don't say i haven't spent a cent on something nice in literally forever much less coffee you arrogant asshole. you open and close your bank app and check your loans and check your credit score and check fucking zillow and ziprecruiter and apartments.com just one time more. and still they give you that demeaning little grin and say - see, what you need is -

what you need is for your meds to stop being so fucking expensive. what you need is for the housing bubble to explode into dust. what you need is for billionaires to choke on their wealth. what you need is actual help. what you will get is more economic advice from people who are older-and-wiser.

and above you, almost in a glimmer, you can see the wedged smile of your debt getting toothier, wider.

#i hate when people try to tell me i didn't do it right #what should i have done better #i did it ALL the right way #(not that there is a right way) #it's just that others feel comfortable believing that THEY did it the right way and that's how they made money #whereas i must have just committed a sin somewhere in there! i MUST be doing it wrong!!! #and i'm not a victim!!! im simply experiencing consequences! #and im like. where . where. wherewherewherewhere #i graduated top of my class. i was almost the student speaker. #i have always excelled at work and i work hard #i have been working since i was 13 #WHERE !!!!! IS MY FUCKING !!!! MONEY!!!!!! #ps please do not make the assumption i am ablebodied or neurotypical. #i am neither of these things. #it DOES get worse if u are either of those things. so fuckin much #but @ the one anon who was like ''u could be X that would be worse u don't know how lucky u are'' #.... don't i? #do i need to be luckier than someone else #or is it possible we are BOTH victims? #and that we need to work TOGETHER to resolve it #not just wave it off since it COULD be harder for someone else... it can be true we BOTH deserve better

[adiposememes]

Dear tumblr @changes / @wip / @staff,

I left twitter when they changed to the UI design that you are now emulating, because it was so severely inaccessible. At first, I tried continuing to use twitter through tweetdeck, until they officially acquired it as well and proceeded to make it a nightmare to use as well.

I loved tumblr for being unique. It was easy enough to navigate, most of the pages actually had proper redundant navigation to be able to go from one feature to another without needing to backtrack and navigate through a whole other tree of menus to get somewhere. It was good enough.

This new change to copying twitter - a site that is actively dying - is probably one of the worst things you could have done. People should not have to need third party extensions and/or CSS stylesheets to fix your website to make it usable to them.

And then for things to break immediately upon rollout, where the dash is no longer reliable on showing that you're following someone? It really brings to question if there is anyone there focused on quality assurance. Given the amount of feedback posted across the site with people specifically stating how much they're struggling to use the new UI, how broken things are, etc, I'm inclined to believe that there is no testing done at all, even by those coding the changes.

The users of this site want to keep using this site. But you're making it nearly impossible to do so without users having to jump through hoops to make it usable for themselves.

Because hey, spoiler alert: all this effort you think you're making towards drawing in new users and such for additional ad revenue? It's going to backfire on you if the majority of your users leave the service completely, and all you're left with is the porn bots.

Sincerely,

A very disgruntled disabled tumblr user who severely questions your understanding of the definition of accessibility

#tumblr changes #dash changes #tumblr update #(yes feedback was sent through official channels) #(but they'll ignore it if it's also not pushed publicly) #(don't make assumptions - public posts like this are in addition to feedback)