#but not sure you’re allowed to

[tesco-finest-aromantics]

i feel like the queer community lost when we started policing labels and making sure everyone used the Correct™ labels instead of letting a person decide what feels right for them

#caique posts #inspired by a post a trans guy made asking if it was okay for him to keep identifying as a lesbian even though he’s now a man #and all the comments telling him no because lesbians can’t be men #and also all the other posts of people asking if they’re ''allowed'' to use certain labels #why do you need permission? #who are you even asking permission from? #we’re not cops #do whatever you want forvever #also inspired by an article in a zine in the 80s/90s of two FtMs in a T4T relationship #one of them described the relationship as being between a butch and his sissy boy #i cannot ever imagine anyone calling themselves that nowadays #because of ''only lesbians can be butches'' and ''sissy is offensive'' discourse #i’m sure there are people out there who would want to describe their relationship like that but don’t feel they’re ''allowed'' to #anyway lots of baby queers are tying themselves in knots trying to figure themselves out #and they’re more concerned with using the Correct™ label instead of the one they feel most comfortable with #yeah i just don’t like it #knowing you’re queer should be a liberating feeling #instead of something anxiety-inducing because you’re worried if you’re using labels wrong

[cryptvokeeper]

don’t get me wrong I think the general interpretation of Leo being like “I put up a cocky front but deep down I don’t actually think I’m that great and that’s why I have something to prove” is good. It’s cool, plenty of drama/angst potential and probably what the creators were going for, I’m here for it.

But there is a distinct appeal to me of the slightly-to-the-left interpretation of Leo being like “it’s not a front, I know I’m that good/smart/skilled, but I also know I’m seen by others as just the goofball face man and that’s why I have something to prove.”

#Rottmnt #Wild metaphor incoming but it’s like the difference between a hersheys bar and fancy Ghirardelli or something #At the end of the day they’re both chocolate. But ones got a bit more depth. #where was I going with this again idk I got caught up in food metaphor #It’s like. With the first one it boils down to character A (in this case Leo) going “I’m useless because I’m not good at [thing]” #Resulting in those around him either going “of course you’re good at thing! Remember the time you were good at thing?” #Or sometimes “it doesn’t matter that you’re not good at [thing] we love you regardless of what you can provide” #And again THATS GOOD THATS SOME GOOD SHIT #I LOVE THAT #but with the latter it’s more like “I know I’m good at thing *but I don’t know how to prove it to you*” #And that gives you the best of both worlds where you CAN get character A feeling bad but not for their lack of thing #But because if no can see it surely they *must* be doing something wrong right? #And ALSO you get the characters around them getting all sorts of feelings of “we didn’t do enough to show we believe in them” #Or “we didn’t notice how hard they tried” #Cuz you can get that a little in the first one but it can come off as kinda meh cuz they didn’t actually do anything wrong #It also has more opportunities for emotions besides straight sadness #You can have anger and conflict of “why am I not good enough for you?!” #That straight sef deprecation doesn’t always allow for #You can also have jealously and envy that feels less toxic and more justified #Not that it strictly needs to be justified mind you #Sometimes some toxic feelings stemming from perceived inadequacy are fuckin *chefs kiss* #But again it’s abt the VARIETY yknow #This isn’t even about Rottmnt anymore I’m just rambling #It’s my post and I get to choose the bullshit tags

[oneknightlight]

The biggest lie they tell you when you’re growing up is that in order to be an “adult” you have to abandon every single childlike habit you have and that’s such bullshit

If having your favorite stuffie in your lap and wearing pajamas while you put together a book shelf helps you get it done, that doesn’t make the fact that you built a big ass shelf any less adult. The shelf isn’t not a shelf. It just means you made the task enjoyable and didn’t force yourself to be uncomfortable for no good reason.

#been realizing this lately #sometimes childlike habits are literally just human habits that are strangled out of you as you grow up #Walt talks #like deadass #I mean sure your brain and body mature as an adult and your problem solving and thinking threshold gets better/developes #but as far as your need for happiness and comfort that’s consistent #it makes no sense to me #that you’re only allowed some comforts as a child because they’re ‘excusable at that age’ #bullshit. I call bullshit #I’m going to play Mario ost music and wear a blanket cape while I clean because fuck you #it makes the chores bearable and dare I say fun

[karinasbaby]

I needed someone to share this with, but I found this picture of Jake and idk how to act bc it's giving dark and possessive behavior 🙈

oh. my. god. u came into the right inbox because this is PEAK vampire jake and vampy jake literally gets me weak in the knees so 🫠🫠

#ahem ahem #possessive vampy jake who doesn’t allow u to walk outside the house without his pretty red marks on your neck 🤗 #and no i’m not talking about hickeys i’m talking about his fang marks. #possessive & dark vampy jake who’s actually insanely in love with u and cannot stand the thought of someone else seeing u #so he’s always following u around like a shadow even if u don’t notice it #possessive vampy jake who’s literally addicted to ur blood. like nothing tastes the same for him anymore not even blood bags help him so #he begs and begs and whines and whimpers for u to allow him to feed off ur blood just one more time #and he gets so whiny & so turned on the second u allow him to latch his teeth onto u :( #vampy jake who literally moans against ur bite marks while he drinks u up #makes sure the area goes numb so he doesn’t hurt u as well !! #and once u start pushing him off bcs you’re getting dizzy he starts to just lick & kiss ur marks gently #aftercare with him would be so sweet :( he’d make sure that u eat healthy & filling meals everyday #not only for ur blood but for ur energy as well bcs he’s a FREAK #okay i’ll stfu now but vampy enha is smth that lives in my mind rent free. #ithinkishouldwritefullonheadcanonsaboutthematp #but vampy possessive jake 🫶🏼🫶🏼 #thank u so much for sending this baby <3 #dreamy sigh. #asks & responses <3 #ᓭི༏ᓯྀ‧₊˚ — ♡ 𝐋𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐄𝐑𝐒. #𓆩 𓂋 𓆪 alvojake ♡ #— jake?!

[vulpinesaint]

(post in question is a bugs bunny image that says “i wish all cishet aro men a very you belong”)

wow! what a normal thing to say! what a regular well adjusted thing to put in the comments of someone’s posts! sure glad we’re not being fucking FREAKS right now. my fucking GOD! genuinely what the fuck is wrong with you

#not even my fucking post why are you replying to this on my specific reblog of it. #god whattttt #anyway in case you didn’t know people never stopped being fucking freaks about aro people #i know we were quieter about it lately. but the last couple weeks have made people REAL bold #at least we’re all making it really clear rn that aro people are welcome in our spaces. right. #we’re all making sure we don’t allow bitches like this on our dash or our blogs or our spaces. right. #we’re making sure our aspec friends know we love them. right. #anyway cishet aro men i love you you’re doing great #reeling actually what makes you SAY shit like this!! jesus christ!!! #aphobia #valentine notes

[uhbasicallyjustmilex]

#i will never not be mad about the fact the poll options are too short for most of my all time favourites to be included #so feel free to reblog with a different fave! #if tumblr allowed then i would have included: #‘​i had questions for the tap dancer on my lap and she had childproof caps on her answers’ #and ‘in my heart there’s this hotel suite where you’ve lived so long it’s kind of strange now you’re gone’ #amongst MANY others #listen the gist of this entire post is just that i am obsessed with the way alex writes #which i’m sure is not news to anybody here #am i ill and stressed and using polls as a coping mechanism again? yes. yes i am #alex turner #arctic monkeys #polls #lulu posts

[the-bi-space-ace]

As long as Echo is around no clone will ever have to feel alone again.

#tbb echo #the bad batch #echo bad batch #tcw echo #arc trooper echo #I think it’s beautiful of him to always be so ready to throw hands for his brothers #oh you’re scared? that’s okay Echo is stabbing a droid in the neck to come get you #you’re hurt? that’s okay Echo will help carry you to safety and make sure you get checked out #someone was mean to you? #don’t worry Echo is about to launch himself over the table at them #as long as echo is alive and kicking no one ever has to feel alone #bc he’s not going to allow that #he has the biggest heart and he loves his brothers so much #I am not worried about anything as long as Echo exists

[dragonanon]

I’ve got Beehive Gear station brain worms again, and Bee Elesa brings in SO much angst potential for this au and I am here for it. So here’s a mildly angsty blurb.

It was honestly just poor timing that Elesa “returned” to the hive while you had a belly full of eggs. You weren’t feeling that great about being so big and heavy to begin with, and having your Kings and Drones fawn over someone who would’ve been the Queen now were it not for the fact that the previous Queen was a complete sociopath, was NOT helping in the slightest. The hormones from the strange pseudo pregnancy were not helping either, and in fact only exacerbated your jealousy and feelings of low self esteem.

At the end of the day however, you were honestly more upset about the fact that you were even getting upset about this in the first place. It’s completely petty and unjustified, and you know it. Your Kings and Drones have never once given you any reason whatsoever to doubt their love and loyalty to you, and even now as you lay sulking in a blanket burrito and watching “The Real Housewives of Nimbasa City” in the dark, you don’t doubt any of them. So why on Earth were you getting so bent out of shape about this then??? No one has done anything wrong, yet here you are feeling like a bitter jealous cow. And you hate it. You hate it SO fucking much, and you don’t want to burden your poor hive OR Elesa with your petty sour grapes because they don’t deserve to subjected to that nonsense.

So instead, you stay curled around your belly and join the, admittedly bitchy, group of women on screen in reveling in the fact that the bitchiest woman in the group is currently making a complete fool of herself at a bachelorette party. No joke she’s about to get herself kicked off the yacht for her drunken bs, and at this point you’re just rooting for her to fall overboard before she can get kicked off because tbh, fuck her.

The Hive has obviously noticed your shift in mood though, and how you’ve taken to holing yourself up in your chambers and binging reality TV shows. However no one really knows what to do about it because you insist that you’re fine, and while you aren’t necessarily doing anything harmful or bad, something is very clearly bothering you but you’re refusing to talk to anyone about it. It’s making the Hive uneasy knowing that their Queen is upset about something, but they can’t figure out what it is and you won’t tell them either.

The Kings are especially distressed, they’re your Kings, your confidants! You’re supposed to be able to turn to them when something’s bothering you, yet you’re pushing even them away! This is completely abnormal behavior for you, and it has them worried about you and the eggs you carry.

Seeing her close friends and former Hive in distress, Elesa takes it upon herself to talk to you and try to find out what’s going on. You resist at first, insisting that you’re fine and just want to continue watching your shows. Until Elesa takes you by the hands and says “You don’t have to put on an act for me. I might only be a Princess, but I still know when a Queen is putting on a brave face to mask the hurt they feel deep down. I’m not going to make you talk about what’s bothering you, but if you need or want some support, I’m right here.”

Well that broke the dam, and now you’re openly bawling. Elesa doesn’t say anything, but holds you close and rubs your back in a soothing manner while you sob into her coat. After your initial sobbing dies down, you tearfully explain how insecure in your body and position you’ve been feeling lately. And how you feel so guilty for being Queen when it should’ve been Elesa in your place. You feel awful for even HAVING these feelings because by all accounts, your life is so perfect that you should have nothing to be upset about and you should be grateful for your current life.

Elesa comforts you through all of this, reassuring you that you’re a wonderful Queen who deserves to be where you are now and having these thoughts and feelings don’t make you a bad Queen. She does ask though why you kept this in for so long. You explain that you didn’t mean to but seeing how happy your Kings and Hive have been since she came back, you felt like it would be selfish of you to ruin that happiness with your negative thoughts and feelings by making everything about you. So it was easier to just withdraw and not voice how lonely and neglected you felt.

Elesa is still calm and reassuring to you, offering much needed comfort to you as she helps you get settled in for a nap. After that however, the shitstorm begins! Elesa storms out of your chambers and straight to the Kings (Insert the “menacing” Jojo meme), where after knocking them both upside the head, proceeds to give them the verbal buttchewing of a lifetime and she lays it on THICK; scolding them both for being so neglectful to their Queen, that she had to turn to a near stranger for emotional support!

“We didn’t know she was feeling so terrible, she never told us-“

“SHE IS YOUR QUEEN, YOU DONKEYS! SHE SHOULDN’T HAVE TO SPELL OUT EXACTLY WHAT SHE’S FEELING TO GET YOU TWO TO PAY ATTENTION TO HER! HELL, HAVE EITHER OF YOU EVEN BOTHERED TO VISIT HER TODAY??”

The Kings are mortified by the realization that they’ve been severely neglecting their poor Queen, and during a time when you’re at your most vulnerable no less! Their first instinct is to rush to you, to comfort you and beg for your forgiveness. But Elesa physically stops them, saying that you’re currently taking a much needed nap and that if they DARE wake you up, she will personally castrate them both. The Kings know well enough that Elesa isn’t one to make empty threats, so they back down and instead start working on putting together lavish little spa day of sorts for when you eventually wake up.

#when you wake up you’re treated to a lavish spa session and very apologetic kings #the pampering is MUCH appreciated and you forgive them of course #ingo is still distraught though that he allowed his excitement over the return of an old friend that he neglected his poor queen #emmet is similarly distressed #he’s not great with communication and assumed that whatever was bothering you you had under control since you insisted you were fine #in hindsight he can clearly see that you were in fact NOT fine and he’s kicking himself for not seeing it #beehive gear station au #bee hive gear station au #submas #ingo and emmet #ingo x reader #emmet x reader #ingo x reader x emmet #elesa makes sure your kings know that she’s watching them and that if they neglect you again there will be hell to pay

[awakefor48hours]

I’m not against aroace headcanons, I’m just tired of aroace headcanons only existing for the sake of discrediting a ship that you may not like

#if you can’t tell this is mainly about huntlow #(but I’m sure more fandoms have experienced this) #you’re allowed to not like huntlow #but every time I saw a huntlow anti throw out the fact that they headcanon hunter and Willow as aroace #it was just for the sake of them not being together

[maxthesillyy]

me whenever someone calls one of the LIS endings the “true” ending

#like…. no #not saying you aren’t allowed to LIKE an ending more than the other #bc i literally do that. bae ending my beloved #but neither ending is MORE true. #they’re both true #they both exist. #i mean— sure— one might make more sense to you depending if you’re looking at it by a character POV or a story/theme POV #but they’re both true #and they both canonically happened #lis #life is strange

[myrabbitistrying2killme]

“Bla bla bla bla xyz is only done by MENTALLY ILL people and therefore INVALID” well maybe if you fucking saw us as people-

#at least pick a cohesive belief #it’s always oh you have a mental illness/disorder you obviously can’t be #relied on to think logically for yourself/you’re impaired to a degree where you shouldn’t be allowed to make your own decisions!! #but then when we ask for support it’s ‘oh but you’re so normal I’m sure you don’t need it’ #which is it???? #plot twist it’s neither they just pick whichever one they want #like if we’re not actually mentally Ill and just faking it you can’t /also/ blame our mental illness on us being queer #queer #disability #autism #adhd #its honestly #trans people #especially #where I see conservatives be like oh it’s a MENTAL ILLNESS #and then turn around and say it’s a fucking choice and our mental illnesses are fake like which is kt #gonna start asking these kinda assholes #which mental illness specifically they think causes it #just to watch them flounder

[justanothercinemaniac]

Hey, remember last year when WB released a movie with a Latina Supergirl & - even though the movie was pretty bad - she was great and it was a nice step forward for representation?

Yeah, I’m a little bitter right now.

#supergirl #Sasha Calle #Kara Danvers #Superman #DC Comics #Representation Matters #Superman Legacy #Look I’m sure Milly Alcock is gonna be good I don’t have an issue with her #but this is the whitest fucking cast #and it’s starting to piss me off #like these comics are 90 years old everyone was white because the publishing company was racist as hell #you’re allowed and in fact SHOULD update it to be more diverse #so it’s not just a reflection of one community #James Gunn #Milly Alcock #mine

[iceicewifey]

i’m not good at promos but...

the JJBA OC server i mentioned remaking a lil while ago is mostly up and running now ✨

it’s a laidback hangout oriented server with a side for oc discussion and yume/oc x canon stuff—i have a system for sharing/doubles that should work. n/sfw is in its own category but the server itself is 18+ only.

dm or ask (off anon) for an invite link 💗

#took me a little while to make sure everything looked alright but i think we're good to go now lol #probably gonna rename it at some point too i'm just out of ideas rn #i'd send invites myself but i'm shy lol #if you’re following me you’re allowed there /gen

[favroitecrime]

and idk idk cause the way that fandom interacts with characters is so nasty cause i guarantee if ricky were put in the exact same position as ej this season y’all would not be as upset with him. cause yeah ej wasn’t around as much as he (or gina) wanted but that’s because he was busy having to quickly put together a show that a) none of his friends were cooperating on creating (except carlos briefly but like that quickly goes away wtf?) and b) means so much to gina as she co-stars in it and he wants to do his best for her. but suddenly he’s big and mean cause he spent less than two weeks not giving her his full attention and idk if your boyfriend has been with you for months now and you can’t deal with him being busy (with something that benefits you) for two weeks are you really ready for a relationship?

#especially with a senior who’s gonna have to put in extra work for college too so who will ALSO be a bit absent like #cause i’m not gonna blame her it’s her first relationship and she’s still young (arguably 16 or 15 if she was a late in the year baby) #so baby girl is doing fine in my eyes but like get a grip for two seconds! #i do like her before her rabid mob comes for me btw and if you’re gonna foam at the mouth bc someone recognizes a character’s flaws u need #to go outside and disconnect for a second #cause she isn’t a saint and that’s okay bc that’s the point!!!!!!! she’s growing and learning and she’s ALLOWED these mistakes it happens #she learns she benefits she becomes a better version of herself #it’s a huge disservice to not acknowledge a character’s flaws tho and bc of this fandom i’m p sure tim won’t be recognizing anyone’s flaws #this season at all! but anyway! #esp cause this is not a good show idnsisbsi like don’t get upset this badly if it’s already a messy series cause what’s the point #tag: i speakth #hsmtmts #hmm anti rina i suppose

[rithmeres]

*starts listening to the thg playlist*

augh -1 health

oof -1 health

ugh! -1 health

mmf -1 health

ugh! -1 health

augh -1 health

etc

GOOD that’s the effect i wanted >:)

#i wish so badly that i could annotate it. when will my husband (8tracks annotations) come back from the war #i made a rule that i was not allowed to take any songs from the soundtracks #until it was all finished and then i can pepper the best ones in sparingly #(abraham’s daughter & gale song & everybody wants to rule the world r going on there for sure) #i wanted to make myself get really creative without the crutch of the soundtracks although they r bangers #like we HAVE to start with the woods by daughter because it’s about sisters. #and if you forget that the hunger games is a story about a girl who loves her sister you have lost the plot #o children by nick cave is about children killing and being cleaned up and shipped off on a train. like ok #eat your young is self explanatory #so is kill our way to heaven (really digs into the mentality of a tribute imo) #glory and gore is on there because i genuinely thought lorde made that song for the movie #die first? well that’s katpee to a T (people who call them everlark u are boring and people who call them peeniss that’s too much for me) #(i think katpee is the funniest ship name ever so i’m using it) #who are you really is like who are you. really. but also i have nothing left to lose / see me bare my teeth for you !!!!!!!! #GOSSIP BY MÅNESKIN. FINNICK SONG. SIP THE GOSSIP DRINK TILL YOU CHOKE. #17 by ladytron :| also a finnick song perhaps :| but works for the other victors also :| they only want you when you’re 17 :| #AND THEN FEED THE MACHINE IS SO MUCH FUN RAAAAAAAAA WTF IS A LABOR UNION HEY (HEY) YOU (YOU) FEED THE MACHINE #if you only listen to one song on the playlist is should be that one because its just such a banger #wires by the neighborhood is like help me kill the president we’re gonna send him straight to hell (and it rules) #and then feel something by jaymes young is about a young person who is emotionally damaged beyond repair 🙃 had to end it on that one

[poebrey]

gonna write a whole thing someday about how characters of color who clearly have a history of trauma or mental health issues aren’t given consideration or acknowledgement in the fandom imagination

#this is first and foremost about yennefer being canonically suicidal and it being never brought up in fandom #but people can talk about how they think she’s a bitch just fine like we’re all stuck in 2005 #but also applies to like just about every character of color who has a prominent role in sci/fi fantasy genre space #because they sure get made to suffer a lot by these writers but in the white imagination that’s not noteworthy at all? #but also Scott McCall #who deadass attempted suicide on screen in one ep? #suicide tw #which I have moved on from teen wolf but it for very obvious reasons another great example #or Michael Burnham who canonically had a fucked up childhood that gave her a lifelong martyr complex #but if you ask who clearly has ptsd on the show it’s not her because it needs to get spelled out even though she is the main character? #Or even Culber; they bonded once over how they both died! #but we don’t do that with white boy side characters 5-7 #they try to hate crime someone on screen and people are making shit up to justify before whatever media it is finishes airing #we talk about diversity in media #but one of the catch 22s is that more diverse media tends to be genre media #because that’s allowed to push boundaries #but as a fan of color you have to mentally prepare yourself for witnessing trauma every time #meanwhile the silly no stakes fun shows get majority white or entirely white casts every time #so you get this fun thing where if you’re white and want a fun escape you get a buffet of laughs #and if you’re a person of color at best you *dont* get to see yourself die on screen #anyways this has been a middle of the night that no one should be taking seriously #*rant #gotta make sure everything referencing tw isn’t in the first 5 tags or I might wake up to a whole essay crying in the inbox