#buddy no dont do that to yourself!!!

[golyadkin]

I cannot express enough that if your reaction, as a hobby artist, to not getting that many notes on your art is to say "maybe I should just stop doing art altogether" you need to stop posting art to tumblr

not necessarily forever, not even for long, but just stop putting your art on here and start doing it for you again, remember why you enjoyed doing art in the first place and stop relying on the attention of faceless people on the internet for your enjoyment of your hard work

believe me, I get it, nothing crushes the artistic soul quite like labouring for hours on a piece only for it to get like 10 notes, so you need to find your own source of joy in the act of creation and a lot of the time that means making art and not showing it to anybody

#not art #listen #for real #this is not about any one person because i've seen posts about it from a bunch of people #you think i post everything here? buddy i dont even post half my stuff here #every drawing you see is preceded by five more just like it #that never see my cursor close to the save button #i have a sketchbook i draw in regularly that i do'nt show to a single goddam person #i make cutout art from gels i steal from work and stick them to my windows and do paintings in my living room just for me #because that it the only way you are ever going to be able to retain your original love of art #is by doing it for the sake of doing it #not for the sake of seeing how many people stop and stare #anyways i'm sorry if this sounds terse #but i'm so sick of seeing artists put all their self-esteem and happiness in the hands of a blogging website #stop selling yourself short by measuring your self worth by how many reblogs you get and what people say in the tags #your artistry and your happiness are worth more than that #if you're an artist for a living that's another story #but even then #even then #anyways sorry i'm done ranting

[blackbatcass]

can you imagine being dick grayson though. you have a unique relationship with bruce just by nature of having been raised by him since you were circa eight years old.. you love that man in a way you can’t exactly articulate. you understand him probably better than anyone else ever. you’ve gone through all kinds of hell because of him. he’s fucked you up in ways that will never be fixed. then you have to watch all these other younger kids go through phases of clawing after that relationship you had with bruce and you just have to sit there like. HAHAHAHA. UM. YOU DON’T ACTUALLY WANT THAT. I PROMISE YOU.

#batman #dick grayson #bruce wayne #batfam #LIKE. YOU SEE WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT RIGHT. i think it’s an issue with damian ESPECIALLY #he sees the closeness and implicit understanding between bruce & dick and naturally wants that too! #dick just has to. watch. and eventually go HEY BUDDY THIS ISNT ACTUALLY AS FUN AS IT LOOKS PLEASE DONT FUCKING DO THAT TO YOURSELF #basically what im saying is dick and cass need to have regular brunches. where they can get some fucking moral support #the ‘we understand batman a LITTLE TOO WELL to be healthy’ club

[weird-life-of-a-closet-fangirl]

NOOOOOOO POK???? TORTURE????? HELL????? WHAT????? AND WHY IS MURPH ROLLING SO BADLY NOOOOOOOOOOOOO

#RIZ DONT UNTIE THE ROPE YOU SAID IT YOURSELF BUDDY YOUR DAD IS GONE YOU CANT DO THIS #OH MY GOD WHY IS POK BEING TORTURED #HE'S BEEN DEAD FOR LIKE FIVE YEARS WHAT #WHAT IS HAPPENING #fantasy high #fantasy high sophomore year

[tortadecuchufli]

say, are you from a relevant country or do your issues get tagged with compassion fatigue by global north bloggers?

#im salty #may delete this later idk #i really dislike that tag really #if you need to step away fron social media or certain tags then do that i guess but #buddy its your work #why is there a label for This Is A Big Issue You May Opt In To Read #and the big issue is genocide in the global south #or. rather. anything happening to people that your culture has convinced you matter less #look i dont oppose wanting to take a break from exposing yourself to all the things going on in the world #god knows i want to as well #but idk. it just feels like there may be a double standard #but i hope. i truly hope i am wrong

[timeisacephalopod]

Why do right wingers go on and ON about "father's in the home" when fathers are basically useless in the home? Like every year I see posts that go around about "dad finding out about what I got for Christmas" and it's like if fathers are so uninvolved they don't even know what Christmas gifts their kids are getting I don't think them being gone does much?? Like of course there's good and bad parents of all genders, but traditional gender roles- which the aforementioned right wingers ascribe to- mean men do jack fucking squat in the house OR anything with their kids so what the hell do right wingers think men are doing that's so important in the home if it's none of the childrearing or house work??

All I've got in this framework is a paycheque and these days women work so men wouldn't even be contributing something women DON'T, so I have no idea what these people think men are doing that it's so irreplaceable that being gone is damaging to children when by all means under their ideas of gender and family men are less than useless to their family. Women do all that work (and barring that, DAUGHTERS do more parental work than fathers so them being gone does what, exactly, except maybe rid the family of an overgrown child? Men who actually contribute are the ones families would be damaged without, not traditional men who probably don't even know how to do their own laundry OR cook or have any life skills because women have done everything for them their whole lives so???)

#winters ramblings #'no fathers in the home is what leads to gangs!' they cry while they do nothing with their kids make their wives do all the housework #and theur DAUGHTERS parent more often than THEY do. TELL ME what use you are in the house Giant Man Baby #tell me what thing you do thats of the Utmost Importance that being done causes irreversible damage to your kids #surely you being THERE isnt causing them damage right? RIGHT???? because this brand of dude being HOME #sounds worse than this brand of dude being GONE because these dudes and the women who marry them are HORRIBLE tyrants #who deserve each other but sure shit DONT deserve the kids they have then force into their lifestyle then abuse all their lives #like serioualy what the FUCK do they think men are doing thats so important in the home when their own beliefs state men do SQUAT #in the home??? do tou seriously think your PRESENCE is what does it?? pretty grandiose sense of self there huh #assuming just EXISTING beside your kids lives means youre literally holding everything together lmao like no #your wife does all that and if she isnt your KIDS do it buddy you dont do fuck all to consider yourself that important i dont get this #like literally men in traditional gender shit dont do ANYTHING outside of a job amd getting waited in hand amd foot #do you think having a personal slave you occasionally fuck is what makes you this important?? #i mean the mormins say yes so hard they think a billion wives gives you a better planet in the afterlife but like come on #at least ATTEMPT to have common sense when recruiting to your nonsense beliefs #then turn around and claim GAY PEOPLE are recruiting people to their 'lifestyle' like that isnt LITERALLY THE DESCRIPTION OF MISSIONARY WORK #gays arent CHRISTIANS guys. (some are but they arent recruiting to GAYNESS even if they may try to convert you religious wise- #although i suspect a great many WOULDNT do that on account of the history between the church and gay people #so probably they just are gay and love jesus but still yall get it)

[altruistic-meme]

guys im getting my ass kicked send backup

#sob #i hate the first day in a new station by yourself its the WORST #cus the last 2 days ive been jist straight vibin bc i didnt have to be too fast #since i had the person who trained me helping #but now she has abandoned me :( #and like yeah i get WHY but also it sucks #my fingers hurt i have no subs and im behind on where i should be :( #really i SHOULD just work through this break but like #no #i mean its not like im in TROUBLE trouble bc i DO have some pre-made from yesterday so like. #but i dont wanna rely on those bc there is still a limited number of them #so im not REALLY drowning but it FEELS LIKE i am #also its so funny that im being abandoned NOW bc like. #buddy. #ive only spent 3 days in this station. #and we're going to be kff for THREE WEEKS #im not going to be fast enough when we get back to be alone ANYWAY #cus i BARELY KNOW WHAT IM DOING #shh ac

[nudibutch]

Can I ask… how many partners have you had/dates have you been on? I just broke up with my longtime gf, and I just- she’s the only person I’ve ever been with, and I feel so inexperienced being single again.

hey anon. im really sorry to hear this, i know exactly how you feel right now. its funny, i was going to say after that post in the tags "this is me on every date ive been on (which isnt many)"

first dates? i think maybe 6 total. im not sure if im the best person to ask, since i clammed up pretty hard emotionally when my first long time girlfriend and i broke up. i havent had a serious gf since then -- she was my first and only. ive been with one other person in a complicated way (but cut them off as it was a bad situation), and the rest of my experiences have been casual.

completely unsolicited advice from a stranger (me):

1. process it. please dont shy away from processing it.

2. take your time. a breakup with a long term partner is a big emotional change. allow yourself the time to equilibrate. this could take six months, a year... for me, it took 4 years. there is nothing wrong with how long it takes you. theres nothing wrong with not "getting back out there" quickly. in fact, i'd encourage you to wait -- this time allows you to reflect while you process, so you feel more prepared for when you do feel ready to start dating again.

3. take this time to learn more about yourself and to spend time with yourself. this is probably corny but it gives you time to (1) appreciate yourself! and (2) offer more clarity on who would be compatible for you when youre ready to date again.

and finally, 4. when you are ready to start dating again, know that "inexperience" is all relative, and in the end, meaningless. especially in the gay community, where a lot of us are late bloomers due to a variety of things... a lot of people are more similar to your position than you think. and dating "experience" =/= emotional maturity. it might feel weird getting out there again at first (makes sense... you were in a relationship after all!) but you will adjust -- as long as youre kind and honest, i really dont think you can go wrong, no matter your "experience" level. a good person will be looking at your character, not your stats.

#answered #anonymous #i hope this helped <3 #im so sorry buddy hang in there. i know it is tough #i felt like i was at rock bottom when my gf and i broke up. take care of yourself. eat drink water take walks get sunshine #you deserve those things #and honestly. first dates are fun once youre ready to get back out there!! #you get to dress up and go somewhere fun and if it goes well theres the excitement of another #its a time for you to try out new things:) #i know its rough now there is no ignoring that #but dont be nervous you will do great ❤️

[coffinsister]

Kill yourself kill yourself kill yourself

Ana coaches are a cancer upon this earth

#do you need a buddy to help you kill yourself faster :) #no i definitely dont thank you #vent #ignore me im just venting

[dipyronegirl]

god i wanna start over so bad, i fucked up and ruined university just like high school, and high school was SHIT after what i did, everyone stared at me in the hallways and everything was horrible for years, i don’t wanna go through it again with the time i have left in uni, i wanna go someplace else where nobody knows my face and start fresh with a clean reputation — that i know i’ll ruin in a couple of years but by then i’ll be graduating so i can just start over again in residency

#this could be ab anything i guess but if u kno me at all u know what its ab #i still dont wanna say it out loud #they staged a fucking intervention after class yesterday. i cant go back there after this #i cant face them i dont want to. and my ex bf wants to hang out w me cause we’re still friends and id love to but #all his friends be telling him im a bad influence and shit and i just dont wanna be that person. but i AM that person i cant help it #and some of his friends get real quiet when im around and i wanna go away and be alone but he insists that they like me but its like buddy #they think im dragging u down u said so yourself. some of them give me this look that i cant explain #how can i ever go to class again after every degrading state theyve seen me in #and all the ‘we’re only doing this cause we like u and we’re worried ab u’ yeah right. some of u dont know anything ab me #its not my first intervention and it wont be my last and its not the first time i fuck up and it wont be my last but #i just wish things would go back to the way they were by the end of last year #or even by the beginning of this year (though i was going thru a financial crisis then) #but i cant. its already ruined. its alteady tainted. i slipped and spent the last 6 months making sure of that #vent post #tw

[waluijoe]

not to act like a traumatized child but pple who yell or get violent/really really angry with their animals to the point where their pet shows fearful behaviours often... i wish you would stop existing for a while till you learn to self regulate without resulting to forms of violence yes thank you

#every day my neighbour & some friends trigger my fight or flight response #cause i hear them yell i see their clenched fcking jaws and the fear in their animals eyes/behaviours #its so fkcing awful #i swear #if im petting ur cat and he bites me and then immediately when i take my hand back #he starts showing extreme fearful body language #ohhh im out of there #i will not discipline a scared animal !!! idc !!! #fucker can bite me and be uneducated idc !!!! im not doing shit im not yelling im not tapping him on the head im not doing shit thank u #respectfully im gonna be like aw buddy not cool and go away tht was my fault for being annoying not his #i hate this #if u have awful repressed anger pls dont adopt dogs work on yourself if you do i beg #one of my friend worked on it and is doing much better but the cat still learned fear early on #another one agreed to go to therapy #neighbour is still a dickhead tho #anyways

[mozaikrolez]

sauce is still ALIVE!

it’s been sooooo very long since i’ve logged on here but i helloooo!! i wanted to let whoever is still around that i am active elsewhere, clownin about! a come back will eventually happen in the future but i haven’t decided if i want to revamp this one or just move… still deciding on that! either way, the overhaul for everything will be huge so it will take some time (especially since i’m revamping pages for my other blog currently as well)!!!

if ya want to continue to rp or something i’m over at @2citiez ! same rules apply, very crossover friendly, au friendly & whatever have ya! be warned tho!!! i’ve unlinked the carrd cuz i’m redoing all the info (but i can send ya the link to the pages that are done)!! oh ya & i cant log into my old dis.cord so if you want my new one just ask!

#/ coming on here gives me feelings bro– i miss this place & the vibe sm ♥︎♥︎♥︎! #/ sad to see so many archived blogs but happy to see so many still doing their thangs 🥲 #/ ik the 2 muses i rp rn aren’t from many of tf fandoms i rp’ed on here but buddy listen– w/ brainrot comes crazy crossover madness— #/ DONT TEST ME (kidding– test me we can figure a lil something out LOL) #/ alsoooooooooooooo i saw my spotify wrapped & i– #/ seeing the same song crack top 2 THREE YEARS in a row is hilarious!! #/ eeeeeerm YEA! das it! i’m gonna go back to writing my carrd shit which is *cries* #/ i hope everyone enjoys the holidays & if ya don’t celebrate anything just take care of yourself!! PEACE ♥︎♥︎♥︎!!!!!

[crimeronan]

every time some new soul-shattering horror-trauma visits itself upon hunter owlhouse, i'm just like [sage nodding] [fond reminiscing] that truly is how being a teen is 😔🤘 hang in there lil buddy. it's aight

& then everyone in my family is like hey uh. kitkat?? hey kitkat. kitkat darling. please tell us.... you understand... that most people's teen years are.... Not..... Like That .....???

#listen i relate to hennessy more than any other fictional character ever. i dont need to explain more than that #truly sometimes being a teen IS about how no matter how hard you try the horrors are repeatedly and inescapably visited upon your body #until you have to drown yourself to escape. this is simply the state of things between ages 14 and 17 #then you're very chronically ill about all of it at age 26 but also like WOW so glad we're never doing teen trauma again #i get it buddy. ur going thru it. baby boy #hunter toh #toh

[fagrackham]

eugh i literally hate telling people when im not doing well mentally who arent my family or my therapist like get out of here man you dont want to see this. Im like a werewolf but w an anxiety disorder

#i had to tell my little buddy that im not going out tn bc im not feeling social bc of my wacky brain n he was like lmk if i can do anything #!! take care of yourself!!! like eugh dont look at me

[nom-central]

Salmonids litterally all want to be eaten, that's like their thing, it's a super honorable way for them to die and the griller in particular is litterally a grill that is cooking its pilots for your inkling to eat later when you beat it

They are a proud warrior culture whose endgoal is to end up on the plates of their enemies

I went to look it up just to double check (i remember there being a popular piece of fanart claiming this) and well. that's fucked! i don't think we the players eat them though the idea that dying/being eaten symbolizes unity with the world is an interesting bit of worldbuilding flavor and i kinda love the concept

#answered #anonymous #splatvore #local vore blog has standards bc they think itd be fucked up to do that to another sapient species #also would YOU eat a salmonid? little buddy is right there you monster #they dont look tasty but i gotta say its raw as hell to be that unafraid of death #youre willing to grill yourself alive to stop these weird kids from stealing your eggs #salmonids are pretty intense. respect #i enjoy splatoon lore a normal amount

[myrfing]

also the idea that you can't get to "know someone" or you can't learn anything about someone from small talk and everything to know about someone can only be received through verbal spoonfed manual in your language of choice is so like. come the fuck on. I assure you someone saying "lovely weather we're having" waiting in line with you is possibly as much as an interesting person than someone who asks about your favorite characters or whatever. like just because they're not talking about you they're not making a bid for connection? you think the weather has nothing to do with anything? you think how hot or cold or sunny skies or foggy days or clear nights or rainclouds has no relevance in people's lives and that it can't lead to you learning about what they do, where they grew up, what they like, what inspires them, what gets them down.....I'm shaking ppl on here like a can of corn nuts it's like you guys never moved on from the 14 year old "Im an #introvert and I hate small talk" shit except now it's saying it's all about ableism GROW UPPPP

#and if you're like that and you're okay with the fact you're childish i assure you people will move on just dont be like #trying to defend yourself about it lmfaooooooooooo #also someone who has to nerve to start talking about the weather to me in line is automatically more interesting than someone doing some #school counselor what's your favorite character in that book buddy shit to me.

[notfullyfunctional]

Yeah so i tried the whole get help thing turns out there fucking isnt any

#even the crisis hotline barely showed up #plus not the help im talking abt but my ''buddy'' always so empathetic and caring and wouldn't bat an eye if i died esque #im just pretty much out of options #its funny yknow? #get help #dont kill yourself #there's other options #and YET #theres still this lackluster kinda maybe we dont need to do that but if nothing happens im going to die. thats it #cant keep running down dead ends #im talking to a wall here which is. fitting i guess. #nff