#because i dont struggle like trans ppl do

[the-sun-is-evil]

im neither cis or trans, but a secret third thing

#gender is a social construct #thank you very much #but srsly #im not cis #but the word trans doesn't rly feel right??? #mostly because im nb #and dont rly get gender dysphoria #it just doesn't feel right #because i dont struggle like trans ppl do #but at the same time #struggling shouldn't have to be part of the trans experience #my feelings on this are rly complicated #this should be a post #not just tags #but im too tired to write anything cohesive rn #trans #nonbinary

[pastadoughie]

i am literally begging people to stop putting sexism and transphobia on my dashboard please fucking think critically abt ur internal biases for 5 secconds and please accept even an ounce of critisism without assuming that someone is attacking you unfairly

alot of you have extremely sexist beliefs that you dont recognize because within social media as a whole these are incredibly normalized, covering blatent homophobia and misandry in tumblr buzzwords doesnt make you not sexist it just lets you be sexist and homophobic and transphobic in a way that is socially acceptable and incouraged within a queer centric space

i keep seeing posts talking abt how people actively like artwork (writing, photography, drawings) more when they find out its of a butch lesbian and not just a dude, and like, if your opinion on a peice of media can change solely based on the gender of the person being depicted by it, with zero change to the character, then that implies an inharent bias against men like, just because its men doesnt mean it isnt sexism

same thing where people think that media depicting gay men is better when it explicitly isnt written by a gay man, like that implies a fundimental disrespect of the work based on the sexuality and gender of the author. if you like an artwork but then you find out its written by a trans women, and all of a sudden you think its garbage, you are transphobic, but when people try to point this same bias out for the works of queer men this is largely written off.

i know ppl will argue abt punching up and whatnot, and while i do in some ways agree with that overall sentiment, i think that we should be striving to uh, not be sexist at all, rather then just being misandrists instead of mysogenists, like, if you only care about sexism when it hurts women/women ajacent people then you dont actually hate sexism you just want it to harm a different group of people, you dont hate the system you just want to be ontop of it and benifit from it

misandry and mysogeny present in different ways, they arent a directly comparable thing, different people have things worse in different ways so its rlly hard to take a group and say "this group has it worse", like yes generalizations like that can help in an extremely broad sense, but the world is not black and white and this kind of shit is mindnumbingly complex, trying to act like there is some kind of objective scoreing system for who is more oppressed then who is just unproductive and harmful

and moreover, someone having it worse then you doesnt make you less deserving of trying to make your situation better, i dont experience racism and in many many many ways i have it easier then poc people, that does not make me undeserving of support and that doesnt make me complaining or trying to better my situation unreasonable

we can care abt the lives and want to better the situation of different groups simoltaniously, we dont have to stop caring about racism because we want to better transphobia

i get that transwomen have it rlly bad and i do not experience the exact same struggles as them, and therefore cant comment on alot of them, but so often i see erasure of queer men in order to give more focus to transwomen, and just because trans girls go through alot of shit doesnt make that ok

one thing that people have to recognize about misandry and specifically transmisandry that you dont really have to see as much with its mysogeny counterparts is that they have far more attention and people care far more about activism for queer women/women in general, queer mens experience and specifically the transmasc experience is very very very often erased and written off even by supposedly trans friendly and queer sorces, people care more about butch lesbians then they do trans men dispite the insane ammount of overlap between the two groups, when researching about historical butch lesbians alot of them are just, trans guys that people are misgendering and mislabeling as butch lesbians because ooooo woemennnnn

being transmasc myself i can say that like, the erasure of trans men is an extremely large issue, for large swaths of history the experiences of trans people arent paid attention to at all, and even looking at media coverage today, if people are going to talk abt transgenderism they are talking about it specifically under the lens of trans women

this is largely because misandry (specifically, people thinking that having cock and ball makese u somehow predatory) makes trans women an easier punching bag, trans women get more attention because they are easier for radfems (misandrists) to be bigoted against in a more violent way, if you assume all men and amab people are violent and predatory by nature then this makes justifying violence against trans women easier

and yea being a punching bag for the media is fucking hard but it does mean that activism for that group is much much much louder, more people are complaining about trans women so more people know abt the specific issues they face

but dispite trans men yaknow, also existing and recieving a shit ton of transphobia and erasure over history they dont get talked about as much, people hate us and are violent twards us but we dont nessasarily get the same outrage for our treatment

trans men are just as often get the dismissal for being women, and the outrage for being men as trans women do we just dont get as much support and thats really difficult! often people seek to treat transmasculinism as some kind of new thing like, i get the comment often that "usually its boys that wanna be girls" and its like, no. its not. its simply that people care less about us

i think that its really easy to misenterpret me here so im gonna just get this out of the way, i dont think that women have it easier then men in a broad socital sense, but also, i dont nessasarily believe that means that my complaints are invalid, being a queer woman is not a walk in the park, and neither is being a queer man, and both groups experience homophobia transphobia and sexism in different ways, so acting as if saying one is objectively worse then the other is unfair and reductive

i think that if we want to get anywhere in regards to making it easier to be trans then we need to talk about all queer experiences, you cant just, only care about trans women you have to care about all trans people, and moreover queer people in general, this means you HAVE to be vigilant about people wrapping up sexism in a tumblr buzzword packadge, you need to consume things critically and you are not immune to pipelines, people dont just wake up and become radfems you get continually fed more and more extreme idologies, being fed things that you 90% agree with untill you eventually become completely removed from the groups you were supposed to stand with

you can care about the oppression of multiple groups at once, and if you think activism in any way involves the erasure of a certain group then you have fundimentally misunderstood what youre supposed to be doing, queer men exist and they deserve support and respect and you need to be able to support and respect them without being like "ohh she is soooooo trransfemme coded" like. men can be queer and still be men, they can be queer and still deserve your love and support, i am begging.

also yes i am aware that outside of my specific experience of tumblr people fuckin hate trans girls and women in general and they dont feel the need to do this shit. but that doesnt mean what im talking about is not an issue and is not something that people need to change and address. if you find urself doing this shit you have got to reflect on yourself, you arent immune to transphobia or homophobia or sexism ESPECIALLY if you think that you somehow are magically immune. nobody is. no identity is. everybody is suseptible to this shit and it takes active critical thinking in order to combat it

#the beast speaks #i keep seeing this shit on my dash crying screaming throwing up i am begging people to get even a single ounce of reading comprehension #i get this is the piss on the poor webbed site but i try to have hope in humanity and every day i am disapointed further #retchid opinions

[spicypopcornfromhell]

IF I GET NERFED FOR BEING TRANSFEM MY DISCORD IS POPCORNFROMHELL (mutuals only) if not ask first

This blog is safe for systems and/or otherkin. Yall are valid idc what the feds say fuck em neopronouns are also fucking dope. Idc what you look like your hot and if you see this you get one (1) kiss and one(1)headpats. Also im like trans now. It took me 18 yrs but i figured it out

This blog is also pro therian(idk if spelling is correct)

If i say no animals yalls are excluded welcome to the blog

2024 jan 8th( i think)

I has a discord if mutuals wan it ig

Thanks for making me realise, a list of contributors:

Other trans ppl

Femboys

Furrys

Irl cis women ik

Egg irl

Traaaaaaa

Funny kink list( it dosent apply to you so if ur not into it I understand lol, a good example is my piss kink. If you aren't into that kink, I would avoid it whenever I talk to/reference you. Thus rather focusing on what your into if it fits my criteria)

Hell you dont even have to be horny here, this space exists as my "I'm a adult and interested in my own sex life" blog.

Last edit 2023dec

So I reblog alot of porn or written thoughts and sometimes memes. However it is like a cursed pendulum it changes at random the ratio I post and what I post. Today it has just been hentai. Tomorrow it might me horny thoughts of myself or other peaple please keep that in mind uwu

Before we begin:

Hiiiii it's me I'm pop but pet names and nicknames are also chill👍 I'm 89.9% submissive and I can top in a subby way though I'm mostly bottom ❤ I have they/them pronouns and such but use like any pronouns you'd like,(neopronouns welcome) HOWEVER pls pls pls try not to use masc pronouns bc I'm girl now heheheh yayyyyy!!!!!!

dude is gender neutral here👍

Oops I forgot to add I wanna try bottoming sometime lol bc am virgin

Dec8 update. Ok maybe domming is cool but im still a submissive bitch. Tho i can be a dom amongst subs

Dec19

Heyyyyy i saw other people say this but like

I struggle messaging first alot of the time and like im sorry mutualssssss

Hii yes you found my kink exploration and h3nt8i blog+y1ff so theres that

I like

Toys

Furrys

Furry toys (those tail things and cat ears and such)

Casual hj

Casual nudaty ( basicly only thighighs or such idk)

Good vibes in public (literal) app controlled lol

Mutually getting off casually

Calling my dominant master ( or any dom name idk)

Causal free use between partners

Biting( any participant)

Clamps

Fingers in mouth kink

Choking

tounge biting

Tied up with other subs (bc group activity is fun uwu)

2 domms but like at once

Watersportsss( both top/bottem)

freeuse( again, yes)

Being manhandled (rough)

Ear licking( I get the asmr now) + endogenous zone

Neck biting/kissing

Ik I missed ALOT of kinks so ye sorry bout that

Tbf I'm into most things kinky but I have my limits so discuss first uwu

I do not like

Transphobes ( dni like go die painfully )

Maps(pedos) ( no no no dni die)

Chasers (VERY FUCKING RELEVANT NOW)

Verbal degradation (do it physically rather ig)

Like you can call me slut and what not but bc of trauma dont like say I'm shit or not enough and such bc nah

Beasiality/zoophilia ( kids and animals dont belong in kink )

Minors( join my sfw blog but FUCK Off from here)

Age regressors are fine tho welcome hiiii

If you didn't get it the first time animals and kids do not belong in kink.

I'm putting down these limits because I want this to be a safe space for kinky (vannila is also chill)queer peaple and if you are a proper ally to lgbtqa+ then cis peaple are fine here but straight peaple are gonna struggle finding their stuff here . I mean ur welcome but like I'm trans, and if you cant be fine with the fact I'm trans then leave.

In other words, cis peaple are welcome. Respect my boundaries, i respect yours. Also respecting boundaries are hot btw

I talk alot about t4t and gay shit both ways. You wont find relatable stuff here (unless you're into the hentai/yiff) nothing personal ofc

Also also final thing is you can call me any pet names but please, try going for the more feminine complements and pet names and nicknames 2024 update no more masc terms byeeeeeeee am so trans it hurts

Do not call me this,(slurs) unless you are trans them we can be ironic about it

tranny

, if you are cis NO, i kick you. In crotch. The unpleasant way. Transpeaple that reclaimed this can be ironic about it lol

, sissy cuntboy or shemale ,

No. I kick you in crotch. The bad perma injury way.

Heyyy I did a thing yall

Also sorry for the mispells bc website flags words on posts I thinks

Aight this shit bout to get updated for my safety bc of what happend

Commandments of my dms

If ur lgbtqa+ ur chill come say hi even

I accept Cis ppl that are chil and accepting (chasers die)

If ur straight tho then this place ain't really for you (affectionate bc I have straight besties that actually are nice)

Do NOT just storm into dms with an exception of pics, being freeusse is a bedroom fantasy I do with CONSENTING peaple. If I havent given you a go ahead then you talk to me like a person

I'm here to make queer gay bi/pan and trans besties. Chill cis peaple are also chill because I realise that allies exist and that gay/lesbian/bi pan peaple also exist

Also If ur sapphic i do also reblog waifus so everybody profits from this blog, still do chat with me bc I like meeting new peaple. No being horny isint rlly a requirement bc I use this blog to Express my more sensual and sexual side sure, but like we can just like for example gush about our fantasies and traumadump to eachover.

Also I forget to mention if you are a mutual you basicly already have most of my trust

Anything below marked in red is mentions of trauma and venting ignore if you wish

I like shit when its consensual but I dont like rape, idk why but it's a serious topic for me .27nov2023 I saw someshit depicting it and not only did it kill the mood I legit felt shit the whole morning, I get cnc but non consent is fucked. It affected me when I was young , it still affects me today. I wasent touched and I may be a softie but having a bathroom door forced open while I was doing my stuff in there, even today I struggle to pee in public bathrooms oh and I got bladder infection from that. Long story short rape is fucked and if you condone actual rape I hope to whatever is out there you die. Once more I reiterate but cnc stuff is fine. Actual stuff is not.

Ty for understanding ig

This piece of shit pinned keeps growing huh

Hehe( vanilla means treat me like a prince/princess/gender neutral term for those)

Big words bc eng is my 2nd language. Idk what half of those means

I'm guessing hostility means I'm a brat uwu

If you red this far for some reason then I'm proud of youu❤ also even tho I'm a sub TOPS and dommes also deserve praise

Also 3 dec edit: ive been giving it thought and i knew i wasent cis, but im like, super trans. Its comforting knowing who i am after years of doubt.

Also new pronouns just dropped!!!!!!

@meandering-rook im not leaving that response to die in the tags uwu this is like top tear complements

Like

Woah uwu

2023last edit 29dec

Ummmmm im trying a feminine alias

Call me poppy or Silova or any feminine name your brains conjure

[strawberry-crocodile]

this is about what you said about TME people blogging about girldick:

i am TME (trans man) so i understand that this isn’t my place and if you feel fetishized or disrespected then obviously that’s my fault. i just wanted to offer some possible reasoning. for me, when i blog about “girldick”, i’m usually thinking of my girlfriend. we’re t4t and i think she’s the best. to me, her body represents that she is just like me (but in the opposite way, kind or). if she wanted to get bottom surgery i’d be happy for her and support her 100%, but as far as i know, she doesn’t and hasn’t gotten it. i love all parts of her, including her girldick. both of our trans bodies represent our trans struggles, both internally and how we move through the world. i can’t speak for all non-transfemme people blogging about “girldick”, but for me, i’m always thinking about my girlfriend when i blog stuff like that. i think it’s very brave of her to not let society bog her down with what a woman “should” look like. i’m not salivating thinking about a hypothetical trans person’s genitals, y’know. but even then, i do feel more attracted to transfemmes than cis women (but that’s only because i prefer trans people over cis). it’s not all about the genitals for me, but what they represent. i think being yourself in the face of oppression is the sexiest thing a person can do. idk if that makes any sense. have a good day/night and i hope this came off the way i wanted it to.

i mean yeah that's fair, it's why i didnt go on a bigger tirade. mostly its a little frustrating seeing ppl get big tumblr posts on their big blogs that get attention and notes and new follows, and its reposting someone else talking about how girls have dicks. idk.

obviously just because something is fetishized doesnt mean people cant have genuine appreciation for it! and i dont wanna take away expressions of love for transfems! its just ughhh seeing someone whose take i did NOT enjoy on the predstrogen situation (ie made it about Trans People In General and tried to brush it off) go "heyyy girlballs, amirite?"

#blogodile

[sexisdisgusting]

hi im super super sorry if this is a bother or something i just have nowhere else to go. im ig what u would call a "tra" but recently ive seen a lot of stuff abt how if u dont date transwomen as a lesbian ur transphobic and that led me to the cotton ceiling tag on tumblr and ive been lurking radblr for a little. i dontthink i could ever date someone biologically male and it feels. reasonable? like it makes sense logically but i still feel like a bad person? i know i don't want trans ppl dead or forcefully detransitioned or what not they're saying but i feel like im betraying my trans friends and im this close to losing all of my friends. ive seen the receipts and screensuots tjough and i cant make myself forget it or ignore it. i just feel really lonely i guess

oh please dont apologize, you have nothing to apologize for! youre absolutely more than welcome here, and im sorry you have nowhere else to go :( im more than happy to be here for you! <3 you arent a bother in the least, okay?

if you feel you couldnt date someone biologically male, it is ENTIRELY reasonable, that is your preference and no one has a right to make you feel shitty about it, or manipulate you into thinking otherwise (and if they do try to manipulate or gaslight you into it? then thats literally sexual assault)

youre not a bad person, please dont think that you are

i dont want any of that either, and neither do the vast majority of radfems

that feeling of betrayal youre describing is entirely normal, and common

ill have you know i went through the same damn thing, and youre not a bad person, in fact youre a good person because youre struggling so hard to not hurt your friends, and the community youre apart of

loneliness is a normal feeling

i dont want to scare you but a lot of what youre explaining is similar to what cult members feel when considering leaving their cult

im sorry youre going through this, honey :( but youre not alone, ok? never ever are you alone

where one door closes, another opens, and i promise this community, at least i will accept you with open arms, no matter what, idec if you dont adopt radfem ideologies, i just want you to feel safe and secure in yourself, preferences and your being as a whole

you have a friend in me, and if youd like you can message me, i have my messages now open for everyone, and i vow to protect your identity, or you can make another tumblr, or i can make an email, or whatever, let me know whats best for you

because youre not alone, crazy, or a bad person for feeling these thoughts, and i, and many others will be more than happy to talk to you if youd like

i hope nothing but the best for you, anonita, i love you! <3

#asks #anon asks

[fallen-child-escapism]

Clone high headcanons??

My brain is mush lets go!

Abe:Hes super fucking tall, like 6'4 at LEAST. hes bi- Listens to weezer religiously, got topher into it.Thanks to the lovely POBart I am a mullet Abe truther, he grows his hair out and ppl either love it or hate it lmao also hes transmasc. I make the rules. He's trans.

Joan: Above average height, but not super tall. she's like 5'6 or 5'7. Is constantly redoing her roots. Idk I dont really like joan all that much so I don't have many ideas 4 her

Cleo:5'5Lesbian-she struggled with hard core comphet and Frida is the first girl she's been able to actually have a meaningful relationship with, without forcing herself.Struggles with alot of self worth issues. She grew up valuing her body over her mind and it really fucked her up. She is pretty smart though.Likes Doja Cat, Lizzo,and Meghan thee stallion

Jfk:6'1Hes pretty openly pan in 2023, would only fool around with guys in 2002. Has Addison desease like irl jfk. He gets called Jack by ppl hes close with.

Harriet:I have mixed feelings abt Harriet tbh, like I WANT to love her but she pissed me off in show a couple times. Unpopular opinion, I actually don't mind any of the new clones designs. She dyes her hair ALOT, loves bright colors. She feels pretty uncomfortable with having to live up to her clone mother. She loves art and acting and feels like she's letting people down because of it.Shes straight or maybe bi, she doesn't really know.

Frida: Short lady!! 5'1 Irl frida was bi but she doesn't really care for guys. she's a lesbian. Always has a sketch book with her:) Thinks cleo is just so cool and really respects all her interests. She even lets her do her makeup. Loves her tall gf

Confucius:Mommy issues fr. Hes like 6'2. Really loves all kinds of fashion. Has a raccoon tail in his hair. Blue+Black mullet cus he's silly. Chronically online. Tries to be an influencer but is kinda bad at it lolIs. besties with jfk

Topher:4'9 at MOST. hes so short Hes ALSO transmasc. and gay. Hes got a bit of internalized trans and homophobia. (sorry transfem topher lovers)Has a couple prominent white hairs. His hair is THICK and curly. He kinda hates it until his friends( mainly abe) make him feel more content with it. Hes a brony lol. Listens to weezer unironicly cus of Abe. He also loves hyperpop and Weird Al. Caitlyn actually adopted him, and really sees him as her son.

fucking HATES being called Chris or Christopher.also he has pretty bad hygiene other than leaning over the tub to wash his hair every other day.

#clone high #clone high season two #clone high season 2 #clone high abe #clone high confucius #clone high reboot #clone high joan #clone high jfk #clone high frida #clone high cleo #clone high harriet #topher bus #confucius #Joan of arc

[straawberries]

can we please just avoid saying people are undesirable because of their body? like regardless of their body type? can we stop making posts about how you hate seeing skinny people? do you think that the half transitioned ugly tgirl is getting so much support from society that her being upset about being insulted is just her being too sensitive or whatever? if you want to be body positive about fat people in the trans community you can do it without insulting skinny people. yeah im not fucking opressed i get it but i still struggle with my body image too. its so frustrating to spend years trying to learn to love yourself no matter what mostly through support from friends on spaces like tumblr and then ppl start just saying "actually, you arent oppressed for your body type so you deserve to be shamed for it. you dont deserve to be able to publically post your body" since when was tummy tuesday exclusive to fat people and nobody else? everyone has a fucking tummy and if you see a body you personally dont like you can scroll past it and it doesnt fucking "talk over" anyone, it doesnt "intrude" on your space. if you exclusively want to see fat people there are people posting on seperate "fat tummy tuesday" tags! yknow, a tag specifically naming the group you want to see, unlike "tummy tuesday" which literally just says tummy! which everyone has! people shouldnt be excluded from body positivity regardless of if you think everybody loves them or not.

[sm0kebreaks]

So like. As amazing at the tma has been about fat acceptance and love and has been absolutely vital to a lot of my self acceptance as a fat trans man, because this fandom actually talks about fat people (as opposed to other fandoms where fat characters and hcs are nonexistent), it means it’s also exposed me to the most and worst fatphobia of any fandom. I genuinely don’t even gaf about the actual discourse discussed in this fandom, it’s generally the people who negatively react to discourse of ppl complaining about fatphobia. The initial problems are usually ignorable to me, but it ends up bringing up peoples voices that make it incredibly clear what their true thoughts about fat ppl are. Idrk why I thought I should share this with you, ig just seeing if you have similar experiences.

I struggle here because i don't like to feel like i am attacking other artists. i'm a hater and i love to complain but i know i have my own short comings. but when it comes to the fatphobia in this fandom im always left not knowing how to talk about things because people will come to me and tell me why my complaint about someone thinning out a fat character is wrong or bad.

do keep in mind i dont really engage with the tma fandom as much i feel very much on the outskirts so this is jsut what i feel like i see on my end and i'm sure theres way more going on i simply dont know

in recent months we have had a newer influx of artists in the fandom who have come in with their own interpretations of the characters which is all fine and good. its jarring sometimes when we become so used to these formless characters looking a certain way that when new people enter the fandom with different ideas it feels wrong and like an attack.

the biggest issue has been people drawing a thinner martin. and while of course everyones welcome to their own interpretation and martin expressing that he's not exactly the smallest guy has multiple ways to be interpreted it is extremely frustrating to see people take that as giving him the most bare minimum extra weight. especially when having a fat character as desirable and as a love interest and such a Fun character is so far and few between

i could go on and on about how each time a popular artist posts a thin martin it gives everyone who looks up to them the excuse to do the same and it's why it's become such a prevalent thing lately. i don't think popular artists should have to worry about being good role models or anything in a fandom i think if youre making art you should do it for fun but it sucks to see when someone becomes so influential and are creating a problem. i deleted like three paragraphs on this alone so i'm going to move on.

i think what i see in the fandom most in regards to fatphobia is a skill issue. people don't know how to draw fat characters. but it also feels like people are barely trying. the artist i have in mind who i would consider to draw skinny martins DOES add a bit of roundness to him. i can aknowledge theyre doing SOMETHING. but you can't come to me and tell me that i can't criticize their art because culturally that's fat to them... like sure it could be. but it's also definitely a limitation of their art style and ability and instead of defending them and patting them on the back for doing good enough shouldnt we encourage people to grow and improve? what an amazing asset to be able to draw people of all size and variety. thats an AMAZING abillity to have in youre tool belt. i wish i had more resources for drawing bodyfat but unfortunately i do not. i have learned from looking at people and luckily having a lot of large loved ones in my life i've learned from as well as you know.. my own body to learn from. and learning to draw bodyfat and drawing characters i love with it has done wonders for my body dysmorphia.

i went on a rambling tangent and idk how coherent all of that is but the end point is that fatphobia sucks it has no place in this or any fandom and we need to practice our skills instead of erasing something that has made this fandom so wonderful to me.

here's some resources

[smallghostcorner]

CW: pretty serious, slight mentions of icky stuff like sexualizing kids/agere and general nsfw

i dont usually make these kinds of posts but i feel like these ppl r potentally dangerous.

As usual i was going through my activity to block any nsfw bots and i came across two people.

this person:

as you can see is says they're pro para, meaning pro paraphilia, it also says they're an autoshouta meaning they derive sexual pleasure from imagining themselves as a young boy, i couldn't find anything for autokodo but it must be a similar thing.

this person also posts shouta art not done by them, a lot are suggestive(shirtless, wet swimsuits etc)

he also lumps agere(swf coping mechanism) and petplay(kink/fetish) together which is gross to me, they also have tags to indicate their mental age this paired with the "open to swf and nsfw interations" makes it seem as though they sexualize their regression which is concerning. Chrono adult also means(from what i can tell) they're a Chronophile which is a softer term for pedophile.

not to mention the transkid/transage thing which ill get into with this next person:

so... this is quite the mess, ill start with the transage.

i think most ppl can agree that trans ageism isnt a thing, its totally valid to feel stuck at a certain age due to trauma(i know i and a lot of our system members do) but approprating the struggles of transgender ppl will never be okay for any reason, similar point with the transabled thing. I am physically dissabled and find it very disrespectful when a able bodied person appropriates the struggles i face both in my own body and societily. (not talking about hidden disabilites AT ALL, if i saw this person using a wheelchair of smth irl i wouldnt say anything but theyre announcing it)

this part makes me very uncomfortable because i discovered them due to this post, i made this post for disabled regressors, this person is not the target audience at all and i feel very odd about it because disabled ppl r not reconized enough in this community.

not to mention "transethnic" everyone knows u cannot change ethnicity its imposible.

and again the term chronoadult pops up, due to the definition and the way these people claim to be mentally young/loli/shota im unsure if theyre saying theyre mentally children who are attracted to adults and/or get off on the thought of being molested which is very uncomfortable esspeccally as someone who was molested and an age regressor with syskids.

these two people also interact and it makes me very uncomfortable to think that a regressor could discover this while little, please report and block these people.

i dont care about them being queer or anything because i am so i dont wanna hear anything about it in the comments/rbs anything or about the 2nd person being polyfrag(200+ alters)

#age regressor #agere blog #agere little #sfw little post #boy agere #sfw littlespace #age dreaming #sfw agere #sfw age regression #noncom agere #noncom regressor #non community agere #awareness #report them #block them

[ovisiphorus]

Will be happy when ppl finally realize it’s okay and not inherently transmisogynistic to acknowledge that, like there are trans masc individuals who do legit hate trans fems, there are trans fem individuals who legit HATE trans mascs, we as a “community” will be able to do something productive.

Going “trans ppl, stop fighting, we’re on the same side uwu” in the face of people blatantly saying “trans mascs dont have real problems and if they do, no they don’t. I don’t give a shit about them” is patronizing and NOT helpful.

The issue is that people just really don’t seem to think this kind of behavior about trans mascs is actually much of a big deal. Especially since it’s such a minority of people doing. But these posts and sentiments get turned into discourse that lasts days and weeks and makes existing as a trans masc terminally fucking aggravating. It has long since bled out into REAL LIFE, too! Real live queer spaces! EVEN CIS PEOPLE WHO CLAIM TO BE HIP TO TRANS ISSUES! THEY’LL SAY ALL THE “RIGHT” THINGS THEN BE ANTI TRANS MASC BASED ON THESE SENTIMENTS! And you can’t even really complain about it because people will hyper scrutinize you and misconstrue you even when you’re a completely normal person who is just reasonably complaining about being tired of seeing things posted intentionally to hurt you.

And the worst part is, a lot of times it’s other trans mascs who do this weirdo attack dog shit! I know trans fems are NOT asking these guys to post like “if i even think you’re being bad, im tossing you in the toilet” or whatever. That’s them clearly struggling with the internalized trans masc hatred that the queer community loves encouraging and society fosters that discourages us from actually packing up and banding together or bonding (and thus comparing notes re: how weirdly we are treated by other people cis and trans alike and realizing something’s up). Which is why I’d NEVER suggest or wish trans fems started trying to hyper police themselves because of this shitty ideology some of them have.

You can only watch people get smeared as “theyfabs” and told they’re “failing at masculinity” for [being trans] or being made fun of for how they dress/act/listen to, ect whatever the fuck for the crime of “being cringe” to these people, FELLOW TRANS PEOPLE EVEN, so many times before it just gets to be exhausting old news.

#dunnut rebob bc i dont want to HEAR it. i’m right. i’m normal about it and i’m perfectly justified in being bothered #i actively avoid a lot of spaces alledgedly for ppl like me bc the stance on other trans ppl is in question (in addition to other stuff) #so i dont want to hear it! again…i’m not saying all. i’m saying ‘hey this is a well documented thing. can we pls name it one day? pls?’ #everyone is capable of being a shit head…we can acknowledge this!

[horce-divorce]

And ykw, in re: queer people eating up terf rhetoric uncritically, I'm STILL reeling about how, when I came back from Twitter, i was seeing all these ads for Folx and Plume on Tumblr, and the ONLY comments and reblogs were attacks, things saying "this company exploits trans people, don't use it."

Plume is a company run BY trans people. It's a bunch of trans doctors who will prescribe you HRT via telehealth and do all your labs, refills, needles etc for like $99/mo (last time i checked). Folx is the same but a bit cheaper and operates in different states, in an attempt to cover gaps in trans Healthcare coverage.

As soon as I started blocking terfs I stopped seeing those comments. But I also stopped seeing anyone talking about Folx or Plume. Point blank. I dont even get the ads for it anymore. It's like everyone just absorbed the idea that they're "preying on trans people" by giving you HRT, which is TERF 101 LEVEL SHIT. None of you even fucking Googled it!!!

Like honestly I'm pretty bitter about this whole thing, and the fact that I've not yet seen ANYONE talk about this or own up to it in the 2-3 years since???? Folx and Plume are both still around. I've had to consider using them multiple times even in relatively "safe" states like Michigan, because sure, your insurance might cover HRT, but good luck finding a doctor who will prescribe it, because PP doesn't do HRT there, there's like 4 doctors in the whole state that will, and they will be like a 6 hour drive from you if they're accepting patients at all.

So like idk especially with all the absolute HORSE SHIT that you guys like to put TPOC, intersex ppl, asexual ppl, and trans men thru at the mere SUGGESTION of terfs, I just have to wonder how many of you are STILL repeating word-for-word terf rhetoric without unpacking it. (I mean, in addition to those of you I SEE STILL DOING THIS.) You may be critically/outwardly against TERFS, but if you don't actually take ANY time to block them, or even recognize and challenge their rhetoric in your head, you arent doing enough to avoid them. Cause you're STILL repeating it and you look foolish, WHICH WAS THE GOAL, BTW. To make queer (esp trans) people look foolish and disorganized, and to drive a wedge between our communities about struggles we actually fucking share.

Another example: I've said it before and I'll say it fucking again, "trans men can't speak to being oppressed bc you are MEN and therefore have Male Privilege, SILENCE, OPPRESSOR," is the SAME ARGUMENT from a few years ago about "ace and aro ppl aren't queer bc you don't experience sexual attraction, you can't be oppressed for something you dont experience, therefore, silence, cishet!" Signed, an asexual gnc transmasc. This was another instance of queerphobic, divisive terf rhetoric getting passed around uncritically for YEARS. (I can't speak to this bc I'm not a lesbian but it does feel eerily similar to "bi lesbians are harmful to our community" as well, that whole, "anything that could even feasibly one day sorta be tied back to Men means its #unsafe" vibe, but also a very, "anyone queerer than a cis political lesbian is a threat to our community," vibe, which feels r/dfemmy to me.)

I see people TALK about the dark ages of asexual hatred on this site, but I dont see a lot of you dissecting how that happened or how to prevent it from happening again to other communities. I see people talking about "wow everyone on this site sure was unhinged about asexual ppl" and then turning around and saying shit like "transandrophobia truthers." fucking look at yourselves.

#me #queer stuff #disc horse

[kienansidhe]

Saw your tags on a post and wanted to mention that trans women having their bulge be seen as gross also isn't an exceptional experience. It's definitely more visible because they face hyper visibility, but bigots treat all trans people that way.

If you need a one to one many NBs who have a penis will have their bulge treated the exact same as trans women. For a different but comparable experience, people who pack have it treated as gross as well and it's assumed to be a sexual thing. Same thing with people who've had phalloplasty.

I've also seen cis gay guys treated that way too. It's "gross" and assumed predatory. Because the cisheteropatriarchy punishes any deviance from traditional masculinity and femininity, queer bodies are as a whole demonized and policed. And that means a lot of bulges are treated as inherently sexual, threatening, and gross by mainstream society.

You kind of ended up doing the exact thing the post was warning against, where you assumed X doesn't happen to Y group of people, and only Z group of people experiences that. It's something that's easy to do but I hope you'll be able to expand your knowledge of the topic with this and also consider future things more broadly. There are definitely a few experiences one group will have different than another, but there's also a lot more overlap than people think. And there are very few experiences that literally only one group has, even if the exact way people experience it might differ some.

thank you for your thoughts! i inhabit a transmasc body that has chosen to only partially transition, and i struggle a lot with moral ocd, so on this site where there r a lot of loud ppl saying that trans women / transfems have it the worst of anyone, while other people say that different trans ppls struggles are different but not better or worse, while trolls and bullies muddy the conversation constantly, i really have trouble figuring out whats what.

i kinda default to deferring to trans womens voices because i dont know what its like to be transfem, but like, of course different transfems say different things and not all can be right at the same time, so its very confusing! im very afraid of erring on the side of dismissing transmisogyny, i guess? and theres so many ppl on this site who jump at the chance to call any statement transmisogynistic that i am maybe putting 'ofc trans women have it worse' disclaimers in too many places? (this is NOT trans womens fault, i see this from every demographic and often most viciously from other transmascs.) like. not gonna lie, im very scared of people on social media lol.

im sorry if ive made people feel invalidated by the way i talk abt this stuff, especially since i feel invalidated a lot when ppl call transmascs transmisogynistic for talking abt transandrophobia/transmisandry? maybe i need to just stop commenting and listen more until i can comment more confidently and with less fear. i dont know? im open to input!

[edit: heres the post and my tags that anon is referring to]

#headspace #anon #asks

[my-castles-crumbling]

so i have a question or something ive been struggling with for a while? for a while i have been identifying as nb but over some conversations with my friend and my own thoughts i think i might be genderfluid but all i’ve seen about this (honestly with nb also) is that they aren’t considered like actually trans? and i dont know i feel like i shouldn’t be in trans spaces or in trans discord because i dont know if it counts. i dont want to tale voices from trans people but i also of course dont feel cis? like yeah something i do like presenting like my assigned gender but thats not always. along with that i’ve never much believed that a ppl should have to dress in a certain way to present like the gender they feel. on top of that if i ever did decide that i wanted to label my gender and go by different pronouns i would never be able to tell my family because they don’t understand. ahh i don’t even know if im making sense but i just feel very conflicted.

Hi!

Good news! If we're going with a literal English definition, nonbinary and genderfluid people are definitely trans. Nonbinary is considered to be under the trans umbrella and genderfluid is a nonbinary identity. 'Trans' means that your gender identity doesn't match the gender you were assigned at birth. Unless you were assigned nonbinary/genderfluid at birth, you are technically trans!

However, there are some nonbinary people who personally choose not to identify as trans. Usually because they don't find the label fits their own experience or it doesn't feel right to them. It's up to you if you want to identify as trans or not.

I think for me, it's okay to identify as trans, while still acknowledging that some trans people experience more difficulties due to being trans than I do. For example, in most spaces, I am not in physical danger because of my gender expression or identity. Other trans people might be.

I hope that makes sense? Feel free to let me know if it doesn't! <3 <3 <3

#ask #asks #ask cas

[strawbs-screaming]

☆ punch out sexuality headcanons ☆

im running out of funny things to say help me, also tw for mentions of homophobia & transphobia

Glass Joe

- aromantic asexual (sex neutral, romance positive) + trans, he/him

- Just because hes ace doesnt mean he doesnt make inappropriate jokes on a daily basis, if there was a ranking of who made the most sexual jokes he'd be at the top

- when he came out as trans to his parents they were suprisingly supportive even though they didnt understand much, it just went like: "mom, dad, im a boy and if you dont like that too bad" "we dont care as long as you dont murder anyone" And they were generally chill with him

- when he first binded he used bandages & cloth instead of a actual binder (before he came out) and due to that he almost wasnt able to get top surgery

- has faked a lot of crushes to fit in during his childhood, ended up dating 3-5 people he didnt even like

- thought his gender envy was attraction until he just asked himself "do i wanna be them or be with them" And boom, gender confusion

- fell down the "im not like other girls!" to "im not a girl." pipeline

Von Kaiser

- demiromantic, demisexual + bi with a preference for men, he/they

- when he didnt know the demi labels he just saw himself as a picky dater, when he saw the demi labels he was like "Wait thats me" And pretty much ascended on the spot

- thought everyone just liked both men & women until he said it out loud and got met with pure shock

- his first crush was a famous model he saw in a fashion magazine, also slipping down the "do i wanna be them or be with them" pipeline

- his dad wasnt really supportive but became a bit more open minded once he realized that his hatred distanced himself from his son even more

Disco Kid

- nonbinary,gay, he/she

- okay with both feminine & masculine terms

- somebody tried to call him "princess" to insult him when he was little, instead he took it as a compliment and saw them as a friend, still in contact with said person & theyre besties now, the princess thing has become a nickname for him

- when he first came out his parents were like "the closet was wide open" and were not suprised at all, they saw it coming 1000 miles away as soon as he started it out with the "i have to say something important"

- started doing make up & playing around with dresses thanks to a close friend of his (the childhood friend) , when he first put on a dress he was like "i think i realized something"

King Hippo

- #1 label hater + all pronouns

- if he were to use labels, he would count as gender apathetic and pan oriented aroace

- labels are for losers to him

- not out but his parents know that he doesnt give a shit about labels, they first found out when he didnt care about being called "queen" and liked it, they have no problem with it

Piston Hondo

- pan, cis (?) + he/him but likes to refer to himself with feminine pronouns in japanese

- not out to his parents but dropping hints, theyre struggling to pick up on it and hes going mad over it

- going through some major gender questioning™

- playing around with dresses & femininity and enjoying it

Great Tiger

- polysexual (prefs are enbies, men & genderqueer ppl), genderqueer + all pronouns

- closeted it but trying to make it clear hes not straight,its just flying over his parents head like "oh me oh my our son is sure close with his friends!! Such close bros"

- likes dresses not only for spinning skirts but also how comfy they are

Bear Hugger

- gay, bear (ITS IN THE NAME. COME ON THE CLOSET IS GLASS), trans + he/him but ok with they/them

- when he first came out there was a lot of crying, not in the "i wont accept this wahh" way but more in the "i cant believe you trusted me enough to tell me this" way

- didnt know he was trans until he said "yeah i like being called son, yeah i like being called manly, im a girl though" out loud and he was like "wait a minute"

- has had 2-3 boyfriends during his teen years and is still in touch with them since the break ups were done without any harsh feelings & grudges, hes the only person that can see his exes all chatting together and not die of a heart attack on the spot

Don Flamenco

- gay, trans + he/they

- got called gay way before he knew it since he kept calling his male friends handsome often, always passed it off like "cant a man call his friend handsome?"

- the only feminine terms he will accept is queen and aunt, refer to him as anything other than that and he will punch you to orbit

- cut off contact with his parents since they didnt accept him & kicked him out, the only person who took him in was his aunt, she helped him get t & bind safely before he got top surgery

Aran Ryan

- genderfluid, pomosexual + all pronouns

- label hater but still uses them because why not

- came out in the most casual way possible, was just chilling on the couch with his dad and he just said "i kinda like being called miss sometimes" from boredom just to see dad go "huh??"

- sometimes does drag when he feels fem

Soda Popinski

- gay, cis + he/him

- Rocky dating history, most break-ups of his were really sad since it was either forced by family members or over arguments

- exes with bald bull but they still get along & dont care about their past, they just had better platonic connection and decided together

- out but not, making it clear hes a bit fruity but not too much for it to snowball into "the rumour come out: does soda popinski is gay?"

Bald Bull

- Boyflux, gay + he/they

- flamboyantly gay and cannot hide it no matter how much he tries, the closet is not even present, show him someone he has a crush on and you'll hear the gayest squeal in your life before he evaporates into thin air and holds you at gunpoint

- has the Don Flamenco issue going for him, compliments his male friends and calls them handsome wayyy too often, this time its 99% more obvious

- either really bitter with his exes or close friends, no inbetween, if you tell him "yeah your exes asked about you, theyre there" theres a 50% chance its gonna have his soul physically exit him and another 50% chance hes gonna walk right over to them and say hi

- not out publicly since it would cause a shitstorm, only out to a few people he trusts, has issues trusting people to not say his secrets since a close friend of his outed him during his teen years

Super Macho Man

- bi (slight pref for women), cis + he/she

- didnt really come out, he just showed up to his parents door with his (now ex) bf and was like "heyy say hi to my boyfriend" and everyone just kinda accepted it

- thought the attraction to men was envy for a long time until he learned the fact that wanting to be lifted into the arms of a man and making out with said man is not really straight

Mr Sandman

- gendervoid, demiromantic, acespec, pan + all pronouns

- feels like he should be more masculine but cant bring himself to it,he cant force his behavior to act in a way that doesnt fit him

- out and about, hes not repressing himself for anyone

#tw homophobia #Tw transphobia #punch out #headcanon #punch out wii #punch out headcanons #don flamenco #bald bull #glass joe #piston hondo #aran ryan #great tiger #von kaiser #disco kid #king hippo #i had fun doing this #i like researching about identities a lot so this was very enjoyable #“Why is most of the minor circuit ace & arospec-” FIREBALL ATTACK #if u disagree: nuh uh

[gwinaifen]

why yall be out here on tumblr and twt n say dumb shit 🤦‍♀️ im pissed. some of yall arent meant for the real world if u still think heterophobia exists. these bitches crawling all over twitter especially. most of yall so grown but act like children and its always on twitter too. ?????? less crying more job finding. and dont get me started on those neet stay at home weebs who dehumanize women bc the only kind of women they see are in animes. ☠ and no straight people will ever truly understand how hard it is being gay why the fuck do u guys water down our struggles so much. at least ur considered fucking normal why cant u be fucking grateful for that and leave those "i hate straight ppl /srs" queers as stepping on shit. wipe it off on dry concrete and move the fuck on. but dont tell us to do the same because you know we arent treated normally no matter how open minded people have become by the years. theres still millions, or. billions of people opposing to us. is it the same to yall? probably like, only 10 people genuinely hate straight people in this world. "i hate gay people /srs" is like an anvil dropped on you. everyday a queer or trans person gets harassed verbally and physically just for being the way they are. be fucking grateful you're straight and you dont experience this thing. fuck you. homophobia and "heterophobia" struggles will never be equal. because the latter isnt real. so idk what to tell yall. again fuck u if u seriously think heterophobia is real. im taking that shit as fucking mockery to real homophobia that actually happens everyday. be fucking grateful ur naturally inlove with the opposite gender

#angel's rants #heterophobia isnt real 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 #i said what i said #yall never went thru smth like queer ppl did stop acting fucking oppressed #yall r considered the norm and we've been oppressed since like... forever and yall choose to do this. ?? #if yall see one gay person say they hate straight people then u havent seen thousands of other homophobes supporting harassment to lgbt 💀 #has there been a case of a straight person getting harassed just for being straight? neva heard of it 🤷‍♀️ #stop acting oppressed. yall know yall are normal and common but we arent. fuck you seriously like fuck you i hate you #i didnt choose to be lesbian did i? #no straight person would choose to be gay only to be harassed on the daily #fuck you #also kind of vent :| being gay isnt fun most of the time and these “heterophobia!!!!” people makes it worse #if u really fucking oppose to this go n kys

[selznick]

i do understand using 'its not a phase' as a defence against homophobes and transphobes because they act like its a phase you'll grow out of and go back to be 'normal' and theyre wuite condescending about it all.

but like genuinely? every sexuality and gender ive had has been a phase tbh. like since i started recognising myself as any sort of queer

abd i thought that at the start was becuz i was like 11 and just didn't really have a proper understanding of my emotions and attraction,, and when i was a bit older it changed cuz guys went thru puberty and were hot now,,, but im starting to think thats not the case and my attraction just fuckin changes every so often (like before that i found no men hot, not even men that had gone thru puberty so idk)

but like my sexualities are as follows:

lesbian

pansexual

ace

pan again (it was all or nothing with my emotions ig???)

lesbian

lesbian (actually bi but denying it)

unlabelled (cuz they were stressing me out tbh)

bi

possibly lesbian

but my sexualities changin also somewhat overlap with how i view my gender and how that changed (also i didnt properly consider my gender for a while and i blame transmeds for that)

cis girl

trans masc nb (i liked ppl thinkin i was a boy but still thought of myself as not a boy)

nb

cis girl

possible trans man (questioning it like)

trans man

gender fluid girl-boy

possible cis girl (again but if im gender fluid it could be that)

so like maybe every sexuality and gender i have will be a phase? but i also dont care

maybe when i get older tge phases will be longer - maybe there wont be phases at all, but its such a struggle to live in a world where ppl Need to know exactly what you are and you don't know cuz it just fucking changes.

ik one thing tho,, thats that ive never rlly felt connected to my name. could just be my autism tho cuz that messes with how i perceive myself compared to how other do

#my queer identity #sort of rant?