#and your sister

[bunnywritesmarvel]

TW BEATINGS

Nah coz some of my earliest memories are of my dad whooping my sister with metal studded belts. She was always doing things that deserved a punishment, but his punishments were too brutal. Sometimes he’d take one of those wooden chalkboard dusters and slam it down on the tips of her fingernails using the wood side. Granted, she was a problem child, but my dad was very extra with it. And the fact that those are my earliest and most prevalent memories of my dad… yikes.

He never hit me though, I was too afraid of him to do anything in front of him. The closest he did was twist my ears and lift me off the ground and swing me around and back and forth (holding my twisted ears lol). Think Miss Trunchbull (Matilda) with that kid with the pigtails, except he was doing it with my ears lol.

I don’t wanna have kids without getting therapy, because while I do appreciate my dad, I don’t know if I want to have my kids afraid of me.

-☠️

as someone who has adopted siblings who have gone through similar stuff (even though i cant relate, i can definitely empathize), the shit that leaves behind is horrible. ive seen my siblings have to mentally deal with this stuff and its so fucking heart breaking, i genuinely dont understand how parent can put their own children through it. if i ever have kids, im not spanking them ever. i will never put my hands on my kids like that.

#bunny answers #im sorry you had to go through that love #and your sister #tw abuse #tw abuse mention #tw child abuse #☠️ anon

[captainsaltypear]

this. this is what happened in that scene right

#fnaf #fnaf movie #five nights at freddy's #five nights at freddy's movie #mike schmidt #vanessa shelly #vanessa afton #bonnie #fnaf vanessa #fnaf mike #fnaf bonnie #bonnie be nice your sister's rizz game isnt the best #let her have this #mike looks so traumatised here im sobbing kjfhdjkgd #if you saw me repost this no you didntttttt #i fORGOT TO ADD THE VANESSA AND MIKE PANEL #pear post #scheeze art

[bakedbeanchan]

Drawing from a mini comic where the timeline is reset but Zuko still has all his memories

Minicomic here

#baked bean originals #I just like drawing sokkas mortified face and then checked out #absolutely humiliated by some fire nation ponytail freak and then your little sister and that stupid bald kid want to befriend him after he #starts lying about how you all were friends in a parallel universe or whatever #that's rough buddy #just realized it looks like zuko's doing some pathetic little thumbs up here #avatar the last airbender #atla #sokka #zuko #katara #aang #zuko time travel au

[maxgicalgirl]

Being a “Fun Fact !” kind of autistic is all fun and games until you get halfway through sharing an interesting tidbit and realize that it probably wasn’t appropriate to share in polite company and now you have to deal with the consequences :(

#autism #neurodivergent #adhd #fun facts #GOD I’m such an idiot #anyways now a 10 year old is out there looking up swear words online and it’s all my fault :( #I got so excited by the fact that I knew a fun fact #that I didn’t stop to think that maybe not everyone knows that fun fact for a reason :( #it’s like explaining how to successfully bury a body at a book club #or explaining the dangers of Scientology to your sister’s boyfriend the first time you meet him #or debating gay sex positions with your best friend in front of your mom #no matter how much I wish to be a beacon of knowledge in this world #sometimes there are things others just don’t want to know #and consciously that’s valid but the autism ? I does not care

[thewhetherman]

Behold the lumpfish. Very beautiful. Very powerful.

#2024 #I hope you like your lumpship sister of mine

[bowenoke]

I bet they used to sing along to worship songs in the back of the car on the way to church

#d20 fantasy high #fantasy high #dimension 20 #dimension 20 fantasy high #craftie art #i think most people look up to their older sibling but buckys older sister was literally the chosen prophet of his religon #its like if you were simon son of joseph and jesus was like. oh hmm. maybe not! #and youre like. what do you mean. what.do. you mean maybe not. this was everything we were as kids. what do you mean maybe not. #anyways. i really need to start actually including the background in the intial sketch instead of deciding to wing it as i go! it #dimension 20 fanart #fantasy high fanart

[lazylittledragon]

you know what fuck it we’re doing dadstarion

#bg3 #baldur’s gate 3 #astarion #tavstarion #idk if this is canon to the dorianverse yet but he looks like a little hobbit!!! #this is a Long long long time post brain i think. since they’ve sorted out the daywalker thing #i don’t think he’d be affectionate but i think he’d be VERY protective #they’re not bad parents in the way that they neglect or mistreat him or even just don’t love him #i think they love him to death but you just shouldn’t give your small child a KNIFE #this one is my favourite sister bc she reminds me of robin

[cassandracain52]

And people say Jason doesn’t think of Tim as his brother smh

#He says it right there! #What preceded it is irrelevant #they’re brothers your honor #dc comics #batfam #jason todd #tim drake #Comic is Task Force Z issue 8 #this goes out to all the JayTim shippers that don't think it counts as incest #Epitome of sibling behavior too #My sister once launched me off the top bunk and nearly broke my ankle because I was too scared to jump #I was five but it ended up being a bad sprain so it’s all good

[jay-wasstuff]

The 'own way' Vanessa spoke of:

#she was funny. but not funny haha. funny weird. #'how dare you endanger your sister' like sis your father has done more than endanger children but go off on the broke guy trying to make it #fnaf #fnaf movie #five nights at freddy's #mike schmidt #vanessa monroe #elizabeth afton #josh hutcherson #elizabeth lail #william afton #halloween #spooky season #fnaf movie spoilers

[chloesimaginationthings]

The tragedy of being William Afton’s daughter in FNAF..

#myart #chloesimagination #comic #fnaf #five nights at freddy's #vanessa afton #vanessa shelly #fnaf vanessa #elizabeth afton #circus baby #william afton #steve raglan #springtrap #fnaf movie #sister location #fnaf fanart #here’s your daily dose of angst guys 🩵🩵 #Vanessa and Elizabeth’s stories make me sob #They are both betrayed by their fathers #both assuming they at least wouldn’t hurt them #both just wanting their father’s love #THE scene in the movie where Vanessa is stabbed by William #and she whimpers ‘dad’ you can just tell she was shocked #she really thought he’d at least never hurt her #this is why the Williams go to super hell #neither of them deserved their daughters #and their daughters deserved way better than what they got #WE HERE care about Elizabeth and Vanessa 😤

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[unlikablefemaleprotagonist]

in hindsight, s1 shellford listing the teachers who watch the crystal footage ("porter looks at it, jace looks at it, coach daybreak looks at it, vice principal goldenhoard looks at it") is absolutely hilarious.

4/4 bbegs. do none of the GOOD teachers want to take a gander at the crucial security footage while teenage girls are going missing en masse??

#someone's reblog tag said #corsica literally what were u doing #and that's exactly it!!! CORSICA how did you contribute to finding your sister??? #dimension 20 #fantasy high #fantasy high junior year #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #d20

[bxnnie-bxwl]

funtime bonnie having an instant calming affect on funtime freddy

#I LOVE THEM YOUR HONOUR #freddy instantly resets from fuming to being sweet as soon as ft bonnie speaks #and bonnie is the calmest guy ever KJGFDSGSD #art #fnaf #fnaf au #funtime fronnie #funtime bonnie #funtime freddy #fnaf sister location

[ciderjacks]

Had an idea of a continuation of this post. Uhh. Uncomfortable family argument!

(Both sides were sort of right on how he’d react)

#dungeon meshi #meijack #flertom #chilchuck #aj art #You’ve seen “seeing your father cry” trauma now get ready for “making your big sister cry” trauma

[charlietheepicwriter7]

It was easy to lure the newest Titan away from the rest, back the boy into a corner. He was the weakest link, the newest hero, the easiest to manipulate-

Then, the ghost child transformed, glowing rings passing over his body to reveal a familiar black-haired boy. "Uncle Slade, what the fuck are you doing?"

#Danny: is this your midlife crisis? Do I need to tell Joey? #dc x dp #dp x dc #dpxdc #dcxdp #dp x dc prompt #c: danny fenton #c: slade wilson #reluctant murder uncle slade wilson #this time literally! #former alicia walker x slade wilson #Danny had no idea of his uncle slade's job #slade is still in contact with his ex-sister in law because she makes great guns #danny recognized slade's voice #Danny: you didn't even use a voice changer! You're using your first name! #Slade: my villain name is Deathstroke and you're a bunch of teenagers; what was I supposed to do!? #Danny: NOT BE A VILLAIN!

[anxioussailorsoldier]

zelda: “no, but...I would also like this notarised”

the totk situation is a textbook case of royal marriage for appearances so that the gay zoras can be with their blonde hylians, and you can't tell me otherwise

the blond barbarian man is leeroy, a beefier and more himbo reincarnation of link. still waiting to see him in-game

#totk #totk spoilers #spoilers #zelda #loz #comic #leeroy #yona #sidlink #background tho #I understand that nintendo has made a decision but given that its a stupid decision i've elected to ignore it #I reject your reality and substitute my own #that firefly quote re yona “we always hoped you two kids would get together ... who is she?” #seriously sidon calls her his older sister fkdsjghssdf THATS NOT MARRIAGE MATERIAL #Leeroy still has a korok in his hair hence the sparkles #he changed out of the fierce deity armour for one night #short skirt and gladiator shoes and one tit out #perfect