#and you just blame it on everyone else

[niishi]

"garp let ace die" ace killed himself. nice that you let the entire point fly over your head though. people who blame everyone else for their problems truly want there to be a villian in aces story. ace was his own worst enemy. idk how you guys think "garp let ace die" when ace would've killed himself regardless of who stepped up for him. obviously. because his entire friends and family and even hundreds of people he'd never met stepped up for him and risked their lives for him and none of that mattered. how would garps influence have changed anything? if Luffys didn't? if white beards didn't? ace wanted to die. ace chose to die. ignoring that and blaming his death on everyone else is a disservice to the story oda is trying to tell you.

#its like everyone forgot garp and aces conversation #garp telling ace that the importance of his life is up to him and no one else #garp couldve never convinced ace that his life was worth living #ace needed to find that for himself #people always want someone to blame for their unhappiness #'i wasnt able to be happy because of YOU' #youre happiness is up to you and no one else #ace made his own choice #no one killed ace #no one is the reason ace is dead except for ace #ace had the freedom in that moment to choose to live or die #and he chose death #he made the choice no one else could make for him #he answered his question to garp on his own #if you guys cant see what aces entire story mean #and you just blame it on everyone else #then you're missing the entire point #stop playing the victim game and start empathizing #oda is telling a profound story #i guess not all of us are capable of understanding whats being said

[beanghostprincess]

I understand Garp, I truly do. But personally if my grandson were about to be executed just for existing after years of asking himself if he deserves to live, idk, I think I would've gone on a fucking rampage and had killed everybody

#i understand garp but i understand garp haters #and then luffy blamed himself for what happened like no baby the one who should've protected you didn't #don't come at me saying he was too deep in the marines and he was being cautious and responsible #'he literally told them to hold him back or else he'd kill everyone' i know i watched it #i'm just saying that i would've liked it if he had tried to kill somebody idk #no hate to garp but also yes hate to garp it depends on the day and how sad i am about ace at the time #one piece #monkey d. garp #portgas d. ace

[turtleblogatlast]

Something I’ve been thinking about lately is that small moment in “Air Turtle” where immediately after the Daves lose yet another game, Leo says how sorry he is and how he’s doing his best as the mascot. This moment is so short but it’s honestly jam-packed with a whole heap of characterization.

His need to apologize for things clearly not his fault - especially when it feels like he messes up the job he was given despite doing the best he can (the phrase “it’s not about you” takes a new meaning when this is one of the lessons to be learned from that - that he is not always solely responsible for things going wrong), his need to save face and make a connection with an older adult man in his life (something he consistently does throughout the series - he’s got a few daddy issues, always collecting potential father figures, it’s no wonder he jumps at the bit to keep rapport), and the way he sounds and looks and the words he chooses really pushes how he is just a kid (“Mr. the Dunk, I’m so sorry”).

Like I know it’s a one off moment that doesn’t truly mean much, but when put against the rest of the series it works really well with the rest of Leo’s established character and helps in solidifying later concepts as well.

#rottmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rottmnt leo #rise leo #rottmnt headcanons #am I looking too much into things? almost assuredly yes #I actually appreciate how tim immediately goes ‘it’s not your fault’ as well? like he could’ve just blamed this 15/16 year old but he didn’t #but yeah this moment got to me a little mainly because it made me realize that Leo…DOES take responsibility for things a lot #he messes up a ton yeah but he says sorry at a pretty consistent rate #and y’know thinking about it #THIS IS TINFOIL HAT TERRITORY BE WARNED #he’s mentioned being betrayed by his brothers before - I wonder if it was something as simple as taking the fall for like #breaking something of Splinters or whatever #point is it wouldn’t be out of the ordinary for him to get the full blame for something only partially his fault #or not his fault at all in some cases #like in bug busters where Raph gets mad at Leo for not getting captured with them #(I understand Raph’s mindset here a ton - Raph’s the leader and he’s likely lashing out so I don’t blame the poor kid) #but this plus the moment at the beginning of the movie #where only Leo is reprimanded despite Mikey and Donnie having full autonomy to join the fun pizza stacking #make no mistake this is not at all a diss on everyone else!!! it’s just something I noticed #I think that “it’s not about you” doesn’t just pertain to being arrogant and wanting the spotlight #I think it’s also about how responsibility is meant to be shared #and like #Leo DOES mess up a lot! so he’s honestly probably used to having the blame because it is often at least somewhat warranted #he’s specifically described as being good at apologizing after all #tldr: Leo messes up a lot of the time so he is very used to blame and attention both good and bad #even when the full blame should not be solely on his shoulders

[furiousgoldfish]

abusers when they're cruel and unjust to you: well Life Isn't Fair, you better get used to it! You better learn how to deal with it sooner than later!

abusers when life is even slightly unfair to them: throw blame left and right, demand for everyone to go above and beyond to get them Justice and Fairness, claim themselves the Biggest Victim of the Entire World, never let it go, take it out on everyone else, never attempts to find a way to deal with it

#do as i say not as i do #rules for thee but not for me #psychological abuse #hypocrisy #abusers #emotional abuse #excusing themselves with blaming the world #but blaming you for when the world hurts them #someone else is just always at fault isn't it #they can be unfair but everyone needs to be fair to them or else #and not just fair but they demand to be treated special #and anything that isn't insane level of privilege is then deemed unfair

[i-make-fun-of-spn-characters]

Take my "How much of an eeeevil hardcore stan are you" uquiz

According to MEEEEEEEEE

#PSA: on this blog a hardcore stan is someone who simps for a char so hard #that they blame other characters for the bad things their fave did or hate everyone else like pretty intensely and probably in a somewhat. #warped way. #For those who don't know how I use the term #this has been my joke since forever in my don't feed the stans after midnight tag but some may be unaware <3 #just loving a character or saying they did nothing wrong should not get you a result about hating the others. #idk how sensitive the poll results are either tho since it's basically like a pass/fail tho so *shrug* #i think this is an issue also for samcas (platonic or romantic) which is SUPPOSED to be an option but apparently they are getting served #accusations of being cas haterz my apologies 😔 #poll #don't feed the stans after midnight

[yangjeongin]

your year in every color . . . happy birthday BANG CHAN!

#bang chan #stray kids #bystay #createskz #malegroupsnet #chan #*gif #*ccarly #*carly:chan #*chan #*series:bday22 #this one is kinda weak but i am so tired sorry chan try being born earlier #love you though... #hope he has the best day and that everybody celebrates him bc he is always focused on everyone else!!! chan day it's chan day it's for U #sometimes i think abt that interview skz did for tumblr and the fact that they know tumblr exists #which means they inevitably have searched themselves on tumblr. have they seen our gifsets or just weird fic? who knows #but bang chan if u happen to see this i love you and you are doing amazing happy quarter 50 <3 #i am tearing up for some reason . i care him so much he deserves so many good things. blaming how exhausted i am for this. one bdayset LEFT #*hits

[xhanisai]

You can talk about how much you enjoyed the film without bashing the show and you can talk about how much you love the show without bashing the films.

Of course, everyone has the right to voice their opinions and express that they disliked this or that.

But you look hella stupid when you're making ignorant takes and saying stuff like "omg astruc's writing is so shit lollllll love the film" or "the film gives us what WE want unlike the show lollll"

Both are different with their own sets of restrictions and budgets and having different creative teams and direction. The show is still ongoing and has not finished whilst the film can only rely on becoming a hit so that they can continue and flesh out the story in sequels.

#ml fandom salt #ml awakening #ml awakening spoilers #miraculous ladybug #miraculous ladybug and chat noir #ml spoilers #i've been seeing a lot of salt on both medias #some criticism and takes on the film and show I do agree with but many people are taking it way too far #i just really REALLY hate it when fans blame the writers and creators for things that isn't actually their fault that is caused by the #production team or other outside factors #i just find it so annoying that everyone's got that desperate need to bring one of them down just to lift the other up #like do you not have enough positive reasonings to enjoy what you enjoy without shitting on anything else????

[junibugs]

guys. i'm thinking to much about eren jaeger and its making me so mentally ill

#he was so full of love #so so so full of love #like imagine being so full of love that you would destroy everything #that you would kill the world for those you love #just to make the world love them for killing you #imagine destroying the world to make the world love the ones you love for saving them #just so they can love them as much as you do #i could fucking throw up #imagine your fate being destruction and continuing on with it so the ones you love can be loved the way you love them #imagine knowing you will be the most hated person in the universe #and being okay with that just so the world will forgive the ones you love most #holy fucking christ #imagine watching your loved ones die #knowing that they will #imagine having to sit through that #imagine having to let your mother die so you'll have enough passion to save everything else that's meant anything to you #imagine having to kill your mother to motivate your younger self to save everyone else #imagine hating yourself so much that you let the person who loves you and that you love most... kill you #imagine being so horrible that your most beloved has do slaughter you #imagine being so horrible that your best friend has to claim blame for your death so your lover doesn't get betrayed for it for the rest of #her life #imagine loving people so much that you would be the worst person on earth for them #i want to love someone that much.

[awkwardrocker]

I think my big issue with the Lance/Ricciardo crash during the Chinese GP is that Lance doubled down that it absolutely was not his fault. He fucked up. He didn't brake and launched Danny into the air. That's just the facts.

He ruined his race, Danny's race, Hulkenberg's race, and Piastri's race. And he can't be bothered to take responsibility. Accidents happen. But for goodness sake, you've gotta own up to it my dude.

#just like piastri said #he complained that everyone else braked #when that should've been what was expected #all safety car restarts involve some slowing down and bunching up #and then the lead driver just punching it trying to catch the field off guard #that's like #the whole point of the strategy on that restart #to not even be looking in front of you is unacceptable #but even then #at least admit you fucked up #don't blame everyone else #if everyone else is braking and you know you cannot overtake in that moment you should too #formula 1 #f1 #formula one #lance stroll

[r0semultiverse]

You know what feature we need to bother staff for next? Other people’s posts getting flagged as counting towards “strikes” on our blogs.

#like I am so serious tumblr staff look at me #one: we can’t even see how many strikes any of our blogs have; side or main #two: this is as ridiculous as teachers not giving the class recess just because one dude misbehaved; it’s group blaming & unnecessary #three: we can’t delete flagged posts on tumblr mobile at least on older versions idk how newer versions are #you set it up so it’s nearly impossible to keep your blog from not getting shadow banned #saying as someone who was previously flagged due to posts being retroactively flagged from the content ban of around 2016 #this ‘feature’ literally makes no sense; why are we at fault for reblogging anything; we aren’t OP #why should flags on another blog affect everyone else?? it’s stupid #please fix this tumblr staff #this is without tackling all the issues with marginalized folks being flagged more I’m trying to make an appeal to the people in charge :/ #mine #op #tumblr #tumblr mobile #tumblr staff #tumblr glitch

[cienie-isengardu]

I'm kinda weirded out that Bi-Han scars his brother and people act like him being a little mean to Tomas is his worst deed and he deserves to die for it or something. Bi-Han doesn't owe Tomas any love or respect. You don't have to like someone just because daddy said so.

I totally agree that hating Bi-Han for not liking or loving Tomas as a brother is pretty wild take on his character, because he did not ask for such a bond, the same as Tomas did not ask to be orphaned and adopted into Grandmaster’s family. Both were forced into a situation created by adults that apparently couldn’t act appropriately to the situation (e.g. killing Tomas’ mother and sister when the family accidentally trespassed on Lin Kuei territory and Grandmaster adopting Tomas out of shame / to save his honor rather than out of love/care for the boy). 

What is even weirder to me, Kitana and Mileena had in previous timeline(s) bitter relationship yet I don’t see fandom to hate original/alternative MK9!Kitana for rejecting Mileena ("You are not my family... you are a monstrosity!") and looking down on her because of Tarkatan blood (“[Shang Tsung] has created horrid replicas of me crossbred with Tarkatan blood!”). People apparently can acknowledge that Kitana was thrown into “sisterhood” she did not ask and the creation of “twin sister” happened out of her control and knowledge while also understanding it was no Mileena’s fault for acting and looking the way she was because it was how she was specifically created. If fandom can accept and support Kitana’s choice of rejecting “sister” on the spot without any empathy to look at the situation from her perspective AND AT THE SAME TIME can feel sorry for Mileena, then the similar treatment should be given to Bi-Han and Tomas, as they were presumably children who adapted to the unfamiliar situation in their own ways. However the main difference between those two scenarios is that Mileena is the “psycho” (so Kitana is excused for not wanting her as a sister) while MK1!Smoke is the personality-wise castrated version of MK9!Tomas who for whatever reason is now the fandom’s Cinnamon Roll that never did anything wrong and anyone who doesn’t melt at the sight of this cutie IS BIG MEANIE, boo!

A character not loving fans’ favorite does not commit a crime however fandom wants to present it as unquestionable proof of said character’s evilness. Fictional or real life, people are allowed to not like each other as the definition of family will vary from culture to culture, and from one person to another - it does not however allow anyone to abuse other people, but that should go without saying.

Bi-Han said mean things to Tomas, and Kuai Liang for that matter. He in general treated others in a similar, cold fashion. But objectively speaking he did much more questionable things over the course of the story, yet people are fixated on Smoke’s feelings alone - and to be honest, I'm not even surprised anymore by that.

But you know what frustrates me the most about fandom’s perception of Bi-Han and Tomas relationship? The amount of fanwork presenting Bi-Han as always mean, always abusive to the poor poor little Tomas which is not just the best proof the fandom is set to demonize kid Bi-Han for his adult self’s choices. It is the whole implication that Grandmaster and the Mother and like everyone involved in raising the brothers, all the masters and teachers did not act to prevent it from happening nor cared to correct Bi-Han’s action. And the most sick thing about that? Children imitate the behavior of adults. Do people really think that kid Bi-Han started saying "Lin Kuei blood only" bullshit out of his mind just to spit in the pitiful orphan's face? Like, really?

Stupid beliefs like that come from somewhere and children are taught by their parents and adult people around what “values” and traditions they should respect and follow. We literally know just three Lin Kuei characters and the fact that only Kuai Liang and Tomas rejected Sub-Zero’s leadership while the clan followed their Grandmaster implies Bi-Han’s beliefs are accepted and shared by the clan. So maybe instead of being so set on demonizing kid!Bi-Han - who so far was only said to be “always cold” to Tomas what is not equal to being abusive and cruel on purpose - maybe it is time for fandom to examine previous Grandmaster and the whole clan’s beliefs that A) were passed to Bi-Han to mold him into man he is today and B) apparently fucked up Tomas’ childhood so much.

#mortal kombat #tomas vrbada #sub zero #bi han #my replies #do i sound bitter? good because i'm so tired of this weird new trend to present kid bi han as some sort of bastard #always tormenting poor tomas while everyone apparently don't give a shit maybe beside kuai liang #like do you really think that grandmaster's son in a clan set to turn children into warriors to serve earthrealms #would be spoiled instead of taught the warrior discipline from childhood like everyone else? #and it may be just me but when i hear someone is cold it means he does not want to bond with you not being an asshole with sadistic impulse #but sure let's blame a kid bi-han and not the way he was raised by adults WHO SHOULD make sure kid Tomas was safe in unfamiliar environment #sorry rant over

[wish-upon-the-universe]

an "everyone loops but its at the same time au" but sif's wish lets everyone remember and they figure out it was a wish in loop one so sif teaches them how to wish properly and they each make a unique wish and now they go through the loops because bon still accientally pushes sif into the tear and sif doesnt find the key so mira volunteers to test if tears work on her and now theyre in dormont AGAIN and isa and odile are agitated at needless risks because what if there's a limit?!? and bonnie may or may not be crying because yeah mira's fine now but it was still scary!!! so dinner that night's not very fun but they still trek up to floor 2 and dont miss the key this time siffrin and when they get the key and get to the crossroads, siffrin chooses wrong to try to make it up to odile and bonnie runs into a tear except they're looping before they even make it because siffrin panicked that bad. so now tension's rising a little higher, theyre back in dormont AGAIN and all the gear they picked up is gone too because it's siffrin's!! goddamn!!! timeloop!!!! BUT at least they can try to beat the king and by some unlucky miracle, they pick the wrong path every!! single!!! try!!! no matter if bonnie or odile or mira or isa chose because of course the last path is the correct one and then!!! they die to the damn king!!!!!! all that progress!!! back to square one!!!!! they're grumpy and tired and this wish made it all happen!!!!!! so maybe a wish can undo it!!!

except the universe doesnt listen to the words of your wish, it listens to your heart. and like it or not, your wish will come true. somehow it will.

#everyone loops au #im just. dumping #wouldnt it be fun to go insane together #wouldnt it be fun to watch everyone fail over and over and over #wouldnt it be fun to know youre stuck because of someone else and you cant help #but blame them for your own anger and stress and tension #wouldnt it be fun to find a family tale yourself #wouldnt it be fun to train alone because you know youll wake up yesterday no matter if you die #wouldnt it be fun to rip those papers to shreds and burn them if they come back anyway #wouldnt it be fun to day dream about stargazing and picnics #WOULDN'T IT BE FUN TO TIME LOOP WITH YOUR FAMILY #sorry went a little insane #teehee #in stars and time #probably ooc but ill like. clean up. tomorrow #wish.txt

[brittlebutch]

actually it's kind of funny how people will say Alex's fatal flaw is that he 'doesn't ask for help' and that it's his determination to handle things on his own that leads to his deterioration and eventual death when his whole introduction to the present-day timeline was a very literal cry for help that simply went ignored

#N posts stuff #like even if you think alex was lying throughout the entirety of season 2 and he was waiting from the Moment jay showed up #JUST to kill him (Which again i don't think makes much sense when he could have killed Tim & Jay immediately instead of #breaking Tim's leg. anyway) EVEN IF alex spent that whole time lying it doesn't actually change the fact that he would have at least #been Pretending to Ask For Help and if he wasn't lying then he was Literally Asking For Help and it doesn't Actually matter #what intention Alex had because the text is Ambiguous about Alex's honesty during season two; what isn't ambiguous is the way #other characters (specifically Jay) respond to him; like yeah - S2 Brian/Tim were never in one million years going to help Alex with shit #so sort of any argument that brings up Tim as someone who asks for/offers help is borderline meaningless in this era of the series #Jay had the 'opportunity' to help Alex (and i'll get back to that in a sec) but DIDN'T - Jay wasn't Interested in actually offering Alex #'help' bc Jay is ultimately curious about Answers and 'Offering Help' and 'Getting Answers' are two Wildly conflicting goals #Jay thinks Alex has answers and when Alex doesn't Offer these 'Answers' to Jay on a silver platter Jay gets pissed off and paranoid #and starts Stalking Alex bc he thinks it's 'Suspicious' that Alex won't give him the Answers (that Alex probably doesn't Actually have) #ANYWAY. ultimately this post is about how it's absurd when people argue #that individual character choices could have made a difference in the way this series played out - specifically wrt Alex #because EVERYONE in this WHOLE series are being affected by influences outside of their control ; including Brian Tim and Jay #so it's silly when people are like 'if ALEX had just made a different choice For Himself this could have all been avoided' WRONG. #bc Ultimately there's not really a way to 'help' someone else out of this situation - Tim tried and failed Repeatedly #the comics proved he even failed with Jessica - like MH isn't a horror situation where you can kill the big bad #'getting help' is a meaningless argument - what would successfully helping or getting help even look like? anyway. #the sub argument of this post is that Alex's biggest 'sin' is that he doesn't perform emotions the way other people want him to #like Alex is a character with a kind of flat affect - instead of LOOKING scared or grieved he LOOKS bored or angry #and everyone judges him based on that - so Alex is 'Suspicious' he's 'Lying' he's 'Guilty' but all of these deductions are predicated #on the belief that Alex isn't reacting to his circumstances the way a 'Normal' person would - so it MUST all be an act and so he's guilty #so everyone treats him like he's guilty until the end of season two when he's like 'Fuck it FINE i'll be guilty then' and so it goes #not a self-fulfilled prophecy but being Cornered Into a prophecy and then Blamed for it - SAD. anyway

[queermania]

I'm never gonna be able to forgive Dean for the way he treated Cas and Jack during the soul-less arc. Jack didn't mean to kill Mary and he was acting like a scared little boy because that's exactly what he was. Cas was desperate because he wanted his son to be safe. They both made mistakes but they were operating from intense emotional place. They weren't able to think logically. They were hurting.

full offense but why is dean the only one who is ever expected to operate logically and be in complete control of his emotions? his mother was just murdered and his son was the culprit and his partner was withholding extremely fucking relevant information for the umpteenth time but yeah sure dean should be the picture of cool, calm, and collected i guess.

#replies #anonymous #im so tired of this disk horse #if you hate dean or you think he's so awful and mean then idk why youre even following me #deangirls are never arguing that the way dean handled the situation was ideal #just that it didn't happen in a vacuum #and yet. everyone else gets to have their behavior completely excused and/or any blame absolved #while dean bears the brunt of it all because he was mean about his mom getting murdered

[janitorpostman]

I kinda disagree with how the Casper and Nova's adventure suggested that the ending - Casper facing two equally bad options - was somehow Casper's own fault, and that things came down to those two options solely because of his neglect of Nova.

I can't pinpoint my exact thoughts on it right now, but it just *intuitively* feels wrong.

Edit: of course I end up unraveling in the tags.

#maybe it's the fact that #betty was happy #she was never pressured neither by simon nor by others around her #to give up everything for simon #it was her choice #so her being entagled in this tragedy is just as much the consequence of her actions as it is of simon's #and neither of them knew of the curse #thus cannot be 'blamed' for facing those two options #it's all about the decisions they made when they faced that choice. and betty's choice is absolutely on her. #she has her own damn agency dammit #everyone in og adventure time was against betty's idea of 'fixing' simon #the all suggested the right path was for her to accept her loss - like marcy did like normal man did etc #betty literally swam against the current plowing her own path despite all the resistance #and you say she is a passive victim of someone else's narrative? #she's a victim of her own madness and sadness and absolute radness #don't diminish that fact #fionna and cake #betty grof #petrigrof

[sinnbaddie]

I’m starting to hate STSG so much solely for the fact that I cannot consume any content of my faves without them always being brought up or inserted into the conversation in some type of way

I just wanna hyperfixate on Hikara and Itafushi yet the most toxic and unhealthy ship is brought up more in their tags than them themselves

#jujutsu kaisen #anti satosugu #hikara #hakari x kirara #Itafushi #megumi x yuuji #I initially hated the ship but the anime made me appreciate the dynamic between the two more #however the fandom is absolutely ridiculous and I’m the most frustrated I’ve been at this ship ever #for the love of everything #please just stop tagging the other ships especially when it has NOTHING to do w them #we get it you guys love some shitty toxic cliche twink ship but please leave everyone else alone #what makes it worse is that the majority of the fandom is Fujoshi’s #leave it to them to completely ruin any bl y’all are gross #tbf tho #it’s not as good or romantic as y’all make it seem y’all love it for the tragedy and overdo it exponentially #Gojo was just obsessed w the one person who thought understood him and Geto decided to leave his lame ass I don’t blame him ngl #good for Geto I say I’d leave his dumbass too #Geto is more interesting and makes the dynamic but y’all ain’t heard it from me 😗