#and yet women are strong like that

[hadesoftheladies]

women's sports is one of the loudest and most successful anti-patriarchy campaigns in human history. what women's sports did and does is prove, over and over again, the excellence, the raw power and strength of the human woman. it completely disrupts ideas on gender.

you have big, powerful women in rugby. fast, endurable women runners. impeccably strong gymnasts. women with strong, large bodies that take up space. that are HEALTHY. they are not RESTRICTED or ladylike. they are free of the stillness/deadness that femininity demands. no corsets. no (aesthetic) thinness. no hourglass bodies for gawking. women's sports screams to society "we are fully human, not objects, not small men. we are not domestic dolls. we are hunters and foragers. fighters."

why do you think men are so vitriolic about it? why don't they want women in football? why don't they want it televized? why do they keep harassing female basketball players? why do they insist on dressing women in sexualized uniforms? why do they now make it taboo to exculde men from women's sports?

i firmly believe it's because women's sports tears patriarchal gender ideology apart so effortlessly. it completely spits in the face of patriarchal political propaganda and shows how null it is. it forces all of us to view women as full, as the beginning of human excellence, as central to human history. not as decorative sexual objects, no matter how men want us to be.

that's why there's so much aggression and derision when it comes to women's sports from men. because women's sports destroys the idea of femininity and depicts women as non-derivative. women must be monsters and cannot afford to play into the childlikeness that femininity demands. the arena of sports forces us to focus on women's physical performance rather than appearance. their strength rather than how attractive they are. their skill and strategy. their humanity. it is a form of entertainment where all female roles are agentive and active rather than passive.

women's sports events are also hotbeds for female and lgb solidarity like you have no idea!

y'all need to start watching women's sports. not only because it is exciting, but it deprograms the patriarchal bullshit out of you so fast. you realize how much is possible. how much we can all achieve right now.

#women's sports #radblr #feminism #olympics are coming up #women athletes are so so cool #like i watch them and im like i can't imagine how much strength it took to pull that off #sometimes my dad watches WNBA highlights with me #im not yet a dedicated watcher of sports but im fixing that this year #anti-gender #anti gender #women's sports makes men so angry because women are strong and smart and beautiful without any femininity bullshit

[wisebeth]

why does the pjo series have to unnecessarily villainize goddesses (hera & athena) or show them as silly ladies (aphrodite & demeter) BUT posiedon and apollo are somehow shown as the coolest/most likeable gods, even though arguably, they're right after zeus on terms of corruption?

ares shown as the worst god after zeus and hera amuses me. last time i checked, he was the patron god of amazons and literally killed a man for attempting to rape his daughter but guess who cursed women for rejection? apollo. guess who raped women when they said no (aside from zeus)? posiedon.

#all the gods and goddesses in the greek mythology are flawed in their own way #it doesn't make sense why the books were so unnecessarily biased towards certain gods? #it bothers me specifically that hera and athena are SO unnecessarily painted as villains #while posiedon is ‘cool’ dad ‘great’ lover ‘decent’ god ‘reasonable’ than other olympians #i get it he's the main character's father of a children's fantasy novel so rick painted him in a good light #but my man? then why are you painting other gods who are arguably just as bad as him as WORSE #shut up i feel strongly about it #i love the percy jackson series #but i hate how the gods are portrayed #is trials of apollo a good series? yes #does it make sense why he's shown as a human-like god with redemption arc #while hera is reduced to ‘evil stepmom’ and ‘bitch to annabeth’ even if apollo is JUST as bad as her? #no #and aphrodite is not some ‘silly fangirl’ whose personality revolves around shipping percabeth #she is powerful terrifying and cunning who can bestow some of worst revenge on those who offend her #demeter is not a silly crop goddess #her love for her daughter was so strong it almost ended the world and destroyed mankind #shes in charge of harvest and agriculture without her humanity will starve to death #shes just as powerful as the big-3 or at least she should be #posiedon is not this cool perfect rational god #medusa would disagree demeter would disagree pasiphae would disagree odysseus would disagree #apollo cursed women posiedon raped yet ares killed a rapist BUT nooo let's make ares the bad one #percy jackson #rr crit #greek mythology #heroes of olympus #trials of apollo

[martyrbat]

harley quinn (2000) #35

[ID: a sequence of three panels focusing on an abandoned cup of tea as drops of blood drip down into it. Harley Quinn's internal narration boxes reads, ‘I was a tomboy growing up. Tackle football with the local boys? You bet. Under a car hood changing a filter? Sure. Dances? No. Pedicures? Pass. Sewing? You have to be kidding.’ The panels expand, revealing Harley hunched over. She's shown in a profile view and from afar, her face hidden by shadow as her blonde hair is in a slightly overgrown pixie cut.

The blood continues to drip as her narration resumes, ‘I remember watching my mother. Sewing. Sitting in this old chair with a pile of clothes my dad or brother needed fixing. A rip, a tear, a patch. Just kept a smile on her face as that pile got higher and higher. I resented her so much. Sewing. I vowed I'd never learn.’ Her hand comes onto panel, revealing she's holding a needle as she yelps, ‘Ow!’ We finally see her bloodied face when she looks up at the suddenly ringing phone, it being revealed that she had to give herself sutures to close a large gash on her forehead. END ID]

#i think thats a cup of tea?? it looks like it with the sugar cubes? maybe. its not the point #love love love this little sequence and when her character and background is expanded on #i disagree with some of the choices (like her sleeping with & blackmailing the dean to get into a college) #but im a sucker for messy homelife and having that filled out more. her own personal resentment to her mother for doing the needlework #and being a housewife with a (forced?) smile and how it plays out to harley wanting to be so fiercely independent but how she #still struggles with it. from staying with the joker and that toxic relationship and the way its different than her mother's yet is #repeating the same cycle just with different mistakes #to her and pam and wanting and begging her to go with her. to being scared of being alone in a sense #she can manage fine. shes smart shes strong shes clever. but the abandonment issues run deep #how much is she aware of? how much does she resent herself for it? telling yourself as a little girl over and over you wont be like #your mother just to find out youre her if not worse? #again. repeating the cycle just with different mistakes. #also love when women are cringefailures and damp and pathetic looking #c: harley quinn (2000) | i: 35 #crypt's panels #harley quinn

[chemiosmotic]

omegaverse is closer to a conversion therapy fantasy than a ~Queer~ one

#imo its actual lineage is from strong proud HET women who don't see why they should bother with a man - until one bothers them enough #there are also some works that don't have an omega protag who has never yet loved a man. but few of them! #& in fact even the ones who aren't like NOOO i dont want to be SUBJUGATED BY AN ALPHA. are like #swept away by the current of romance in such a way as it reads as them not experiencing much attraction or agency? #j.txt #cqn you tell i saw a bad post.

[hollowsart]

I want to see Older/Senior Citizen Woman variant of Black Cat giving Teenager Spider-Man the slip and teasing him but also being sort of a mentor in a way to him. giving him stealth advice and advice on how to do some cool sick tricks in self defense and fighting.

(while she also steals things along the way… he knows and tries to tell her to put it back and stop stealing, but she just laughs it off, pats his head, tells him he's a good boy and to keep it up for the bigger threats)

#ghostie mumbles #black cat #felicia hardy #don't touch me I need this so bad. give me cool older woman Black Cat. also don't be freaking weird about this please. #WE NEED MORE COOL OLDER WOMEN WHO KICK BUTT IN OUR VARIOUS MEDIA!!!! #LIKE FOR REAL. I WANNA SEE OLDER WOMEN KICK BUTT AND LOOK COOL. #also fun fact: they don't even have to kick butt physically. just look at madame web. she is confined to her chair and yet she's still cool #she deserves better as a character and has so much potential too to be a really cool character beyond what she has been. #anyways plz think about old lady black cat who has been doing this cat burglar thing for decades and is still going strong

[demigodofhoolemere]

I’ve been seeing this float around on Facebook lately and it’s bugging the crud out of me:

What is with everyone’s obsession with insisting it’s bad to need to be rescued? For as long as the human race has been on the planet, people have had problems that they needed other people’s help to resolve. Needing help is not a failing nor should it be the takeaway from these princesses’ stories as if it’s a bad thing that makes them weak. Yes, they do need help. Your point?

Snow White and Aurora were both under a curse that rendered each of them effectively dead. Were they supposed to magically wake themselves up? I’d want to be rescued if I were them. Plus, breaking it down to “she needed a prince” belittles the efforts of the Seven Dwarfs and the Three Good Fairies, who did most of the legwork in the resolution of their respective movie plots out of deep platonic love for the girls under their care. Then there’s Cinderella, who lived in an abusive household. It’s not a weakness that she wasn’t able to get out of that situation on her own, and once again, giving all the credit to the prince (and credit where credit is due, he did search far and wide for her and was able to take her away from that life in the end) detracts from the aid provided by the Fairy Godmother who enabled her to get out in the first place. All of these ladies had more helpers than just their princes, and it is because of the combined love and efforts of all of these people that our heroines were able to have their happy endings. There are plenty of great stories where the heroine is able to fight for herself, but these particular stories aren’t about that because these ladies are each in terrible circumstances where they simply don’t have the ability to do so. They do what they can, but in the end they can’t save themselves alone and there’s nothing wrong with that. These are beautiful stories about having people in your life that value you enough to fight for you when you can’t fight for yourself. Wouldn’t we all want someone to come to our rescue when there’s nothing we can do about our situation? Is it not a good and comforting moral to show that there are people in your corner who will show up for you no matter what the circumstances?

The other thing that’s bugging me about this:

Leia has to be rescued. By a man, and at that, one who could technically be seen as a prince. No one bats an eye at this, because it’s understood that she’s being held prisoner on the Death Star and couldn’t possibly be expected to get out of that on her own. It’s not seen as a weakness that someone had to come for her and take her away from there. Leia is awesome and is rightfully acknowledged as a great heroine, but she also needs help sometimes, because everybody does.

So WHY do people get so hung up on these princesses who also shouldn’t be expected to get out of their own prison cells of eternal sleep or abusive family by themselves? Why the strong negative reaction to girls needing outside help in such serious scenarios? For all that people say these stories teach girls to sit and wait for a man to save them, the stories themselves absolutely never try to say that, and frankly, with the opposite trend in recent years of fictional women who have to do everything on their own and can’t be shown to need help because they have to be the Strong Female Character, I’d be far more concerned about the impact that would have on girls. Far better to say you might need help at some point in your life than to instill the idea that you’re not a strong girl or not good enough if you can’t do everything by yourself.

Anyway. Justice for the classic Disney princesses.

#this is a disney princesses defense blog #disney #snow white #cinderella #sleeping beauty #star wars #sw: originals #leia skywalker #rant #and on a personal level? i’ve been in the position of feeling like an idiot or failure if i couldn’t do everything by myself #i was terrified for a long time to ask people for help because it felt like admitting that i was what i felt i was #if the modern stories where women being strong means they don’t need help had been a thing yet when i was at that age #it would have made me feel even worse #and as someone who has since that time also had to learn to live with chronic illness #and the reality that there’s not a ton i can do for myself #the stories of women who need help and are never looked down on for it but are seen as worthy of that help because they are loved #those are the kind of stories you end up starting to need at some point #give me more maidens in towers. i don’t care. #the idea that people love you enough to find you well worth their effort is what some of us need

[ladyalicentshightower]

Larys Strong and Criston Cole: *listen to Alicent rant about her frustrations as her only confidantes and then do unhinged shit of their own accord in not just an attempt to aid her but also because of their own motives and feelings because they take the initiative and act of their own free will*

Some of y'all: how dare Alicent do this!

Not like Larys and Criston are they're own people or anything folks.

#alicent hightower #hotd #hotd spoilers #house of the dragon #house of the dragon spoilers #ser criston #ser criston cole #criston cole #larys strong #like if you're going to dislike Alicent for something at least pick something she herself did #this fandom always seems to excuse the men while blaming the women for things they had no part in #like i deadass saw people blame Elia for Roberts Rebellion because she couldn't have another child #far too much too unpack with that bullshit #and to be clear I'm not comparing Elia and Alicent as characters or saying Alicent is completely 100% in every way #spoiler no one involved in the dance is there's no heroes it's a fight for survival and retribution #but yet they're both blamed for the actions of the men around them #it's a bit more sinister with Elia as she is a woc but there's a serious misogyny problem in the fandom #excusing male characters problematic & horrific actions & behaviors saying he wouldn't have done it if not for her #like there's valid reasons to dislike female characters including Alicent but people skip to the misogyny every time for some reason

[nowendil]

been thinking a lot about womanhood lately

#like. i don't exactly identify as being a woman. in contrast i do have a strong nonbinary/muunsukupuolinen identity #yet i do feel and acknowledge that in most contexts i AM a woman #not only because that's what most of the world sees me as but that's also consecuently how i move through the world #there is no one set way for women to experoence the world but i do feel like my experience is one of those. because i am gendered as a woman #it used to make me uncomfortable and dysphoric and i'm not saying that now it never does #but i have made my peace with it? like. i feel like i have “let womanhood in” as a part of my identity #and i have also realized that it's not actually being seen as a woman that makes me uncomfortable but being seen SOLELY as a woman #like my friends calling me a woman or my partner calling me their girlfriend doesnt sting usually #because i know they also see the other parts of my gender identity #but when a coworker refers to me with she/her or includes me in “ladies” it stings. because i know that's all they see #like YES i can be a woman. if you acknowledge that i am a bit of a weird woman. #i can be a woman if you acknowledge that i am a gnc woman. a bisexual woman. a queer woman. a woman who is sometimes bit of a man. #if you see and acknowledge that we can talk #however i am NOT a nonbinary woman. i am nonbinary AND a woman. which to some people is the same thing #but to me it's an important distinction. being nonbinary and being a woman are both parts of my gender identity but in very different ways #and very distinctively. lumping them together as equal parts of my identity as i feel the term “nonbinary woman” does doesn't describe me #i am enthusiastically nonbinary. i am begrudgingly a woman. i'm a woman with a long footnote explanation. woman¹ #“nonbinary woman” also doesnt feel like it accommodates the way i relate to manhood or boyhood. but that's a whole another tedtalk #i'm not a man but i like how it looks. and i'm not a man i'm just borrowing parts of it for genderfuckery reasons #idk how to explain it in english... #in finnish i would say that en oo mies mut joskus lainaan tai iahn vaa ihailen asioita mieheyden kuvastosta. #but because in social situations and In Our Society That We Live In you mostly can just choose one gender and it's either man or a woman #thennout of those i would rather be a woman. legally. with strangers. you know. not a woman but kind of yes because i relate to other women #if i could be seen only as nonbinary i would. but then again my nonbinaryness does encompass some parts of both womanhood and manhood. #so i guess people would have trouble seeing it as “only nonbinsry” #idk man. it's complicated and also changes emphasis multiple times a year #ask me again a month from now and the gender landscape will be interpreted completely differently #gender #nowe talks

[hisgoodgirl666]

hi all, sorry i haven't been around as much, even on horny week. my libido's been down, and it makes me sad.

i've been tapering down weed for a couple months leading up to a total break that started last week; i've read that withdrawal can affect a lot of things including libido. it may have already been affecting me before while tapering, but now that i've completely stopped, i'm definitely withdrawing - cold night sweats, vivid nightmares, getting too hot/too cold throughout the day randomly, period seems to be out of whack (i'm supposed to start in a few days and it's not abnormal for me to spot about a week before but i've been more than spotting and it's not stopping still, but it's also not like, my actual period. hard to describe lol. also just continuously cramping really hard...).

i hate this though. i want to be horny, it's fun when you have a partner to experience that with. it sucks for me but i feel even worse for my Dom. i'm going through so many ups and downs lately with this and i hate it and it's not fair to him. i feel horrible when i turn him down, i feel like a bad partner even though i know that's not true. i feel prudish and cold and wonder if he thinks i don't love him, which is ridiculous. but i still feel this sinking in my chest and anxiety when i don't "want to." just everything from society about women who don't put out flashes through my mind, even if it's not valid. and regardless of all that, i just want to make him happy.

when i got off hormonal birth control almost 2 years ago, i definitely had this window where my libido came back in full force, especially around ovulating. reading erotica absolutely helped too. but lately i feel like i'm having to work at being horny and if i don't put effort, it's not there. and yeah i could read erotica; last i left off here, i was in the middle of Debt by Nina Jones, but i never finished it. honestly it's because since i've cut back weed, i've been reading regular books again, which is awesome on one hand! i've missed reading like this for a long time. but now that means my libido and sex life have to suffer?...

but i wish i didn't have to work so hard for it in the first place. literally really want some sort of female viagra or something, i want to talk to my doctor or psychiatrist about it. i just keep thinking it's not fair. not fair to me and even less fair to my Dom. sometimes i just wanna punch my nether regions like helloooo fucking WORK lmao...

#not the sexiest type of talk people would be looking for on my blog lol but just trying to be real ig #to clarify the 'not fair' stuff is bc men can get stuff like viagra so easily yet i've never even heard of something for women #even though it's a cliche that men want women to be hornier/put out more #and also 'not fair' bc men are just generally hornier #and in a more predictable/reliable way #plus there ARE women (as very evident by my dash lol) that do have strong libidos and i just want to be one of them #personal

[heartbreakercupcake]

do you have a list of female character who people can hate for valid reason ? So instead of them attacking female character who receive hate for misogny they should attack female character who just straight up evil

I don't think I need to make a list of Female characters that are okay to hate?? Cause you could dislike a female character for lots of reasons, but there is a difference between like having issues with a female character for like how they're written/character/ect. The issue people have is that some fans just HATE a female character for not being perfect? You can like dislike their choices or not agree with her or she is just straight up evil, but like female characters get more demonized for this then Male characters do

Male characters are allowed to be flawed and are still liked But when there are Female characters that are flawed, they have much more venom spewed at them for making like even small mistakes.

#Bro I've been in fandoms #where dudes are like STRAIGHT UP murders/abusers/women haters/do the worse things ever #AND YET #in the same show you'll have a girl be like “hey man thats not cool” or like pressed the blue button instead of the red on #and they want the women DEAD #Fandoms get made a female character for having a break down and not being strong enough or cling to a person that helped her get out of it #that just so happens to be using her #THEY DON'T THINK #asks

[pennyserenade]

i ache for tigris snow because if the little boy who i loved more than anything and would do anything for turned into an evil dictator before my eyes i wouldn’t be able to breathe. she believed so much in what she thought was his innate goodness that she would’ve tossed her entire future out for him. she loved him dearly, to the point that she had sold her body so he could eat as a child. she wholeheartedly believed that he would save them with his intelligence, and she carried the weight of their family’s burdens so he wouldn’t have to. from his shirt to assuring him that she and their grandma’am were okay even after they had to sell the apartment, all she did was for coriolanus—and he turned into someone she hated, someone she wanted to die in the end. terrible

#misc. #this is actually my real and true living nightmare #and idk i think this dynamic was important bc it broached a scary subject #it’s something we see happen in our every day lives. so many women i know know little boys who grew up to be terrible men #no matter what kind of rearing the women in their lives do. sometimes the forces outside of them are too strong #and it’s scary bc this is so so so so common especially now with the internet #the other day my nephew came home from school and told me he didn’t like girls #and he wouldn’t tell me he loved me for about a month and i understand that’s just children for you #but at the same time — how did that happen? #he’s a wonderful child. the Best. the thing i’m most proud of #and yet it got to him too. it’s terrible #he’s back to saying i love you almost on a minute to minute basis now lol but it’s just awful to think abt

[gendercriticalthinking]

The way that my friend felt disappointed when he found out as a kid that an androgynous character he idolized was a woman because he quote "couldn't relate to the character anymore" and the way that the creator of Celeste """discovered he was non-binary""" because he wrote a female character that he was able to relate to are branches off of the same vein of misogyny I think

#gender critical #misogyny #it's all about the often-subconscious belief that women are subhuman or at least inherently lesser than men for being different from them #for the first dude: literally every woman on earth who consumes media relates to so fucking many male characters. they are our favorites. #some of them are so beloved by us that we believe we must actually be men because we can relate so hard to them. i went through this myself #(which is kind of what's going on with the second dude but i'll get to that) #yet for some reason a lot of men have a hard time relating to female characters in any way similar at all. there are zero men writing #obsessive (affectionate) thoughtful intelligent analyses of their favorite female charas' arcs and symbolism #(in part because so few media have any well-written and actually-humanized female charas to be able to do that with but also...) #because men see women as possibly-human fuck toys for them and nothing else #so when even self-proclaimed/usually feminist men relate to a female character outside of 'i want to fuck this' it makes them feel weird #bc male sexuality (this includes osa men i'm sorry to say but i've observed so many men like an anthropologist i see the same behavior #in all of them) is so centered around humilation/domination/aggression that it's not compatible with compassion/empathy #so for them to relate to a female (character or person) they get this weird-feeling psychological thing kinda similar to that joke of #'if you punch yourself and it hurts are you weak or strong?' but in this case it's 'if you relate to a sex object should you start thinking #you're also a sex object or should you let go of your momentary empathy for the sex object?' #and dude no. 1 took the latter path while dude no. 2 took the former #well in a way. his thing is more like 'if i am a human (bc i'm a man) and i can relate to a woman... does that mean women are human #or does it mean i am a woman?' and he picked the second route #i know agp vs hsts is (was?) the main grouping system radfems use(d?) to explain the different types of tims #and to some extent those labels do work especially since they're centered around sexuality which plays a huge role in trans identities #but i feel like it's either more accurate to just use the following labels or at least add them into the venn diagram: #some tims are trans because they see women as sex toys and enjoy the thought of being a sex toy themselves therefore they want to be women #while other tims are trans because they've othered the sex-object class of humans so hard that if they ever accidentally relate to a woman #it's a mindblowing discovery and makes them part of The Other (women are still of course treated as The Other for this to work) and #therefore super special (and of course more special than women because they're sex objects + The Other whereas #he is a man aka a human + The Other. this is especially true when men decide they're nb like guy no. 2 as opposed to trans women because #again women = sex toy to men so any men who do not want to be objectified are a different kind of Other to women [which to them consists of #females and trans women] but they still are The Other in some way and therefore must be both a man [human] and something else) #these concepts appeal to both osa and ssa men depending on what level/flavor of misogyny they cling to most and how gnc they are

[faultsofyouth]

every man reminds me of every other man in at least one way. this is so bad because I am trying to forget so many of them and they keep coming up everywhere in other men

#my posts #I hate working on men too like there's no point. It's a waste of your life and energy to try and make a man better than what he is #but God it is tiring to see all the men you love and care about acting in the same shitty insufferable ways #tbh I don't know how anybody can put up with men and yet every woman I know does so all the time #T_T women are so strong we could kick men's asses if we all stopped trying to fix them all the time #Seriously I want to become a shrewd woman when it comes to interacting with men but I'm always tricked by the mirage of their humanity #I will find myself trying to reason with even the dumbest most arrogant of men #and there's never even a point it never goes anywhere. wish I could live my entire life without having to meet anymore

[toastsnaffler]

biting my tongue to not share my opinions on the character body types in bg3 😐

#bc theyll just get annoyed at me bc yeah yeah i havent played it yet ik !! #but it doesnt take a rocket scientist to look at tumblr gifs lmao #I just think that most of them need less muscle + more body fat. and also that they shouldve made astarion visibly emaciated 🤷 #if u want to give them a range of stats eg varying strength then maybe u should incorporate that into designing their builds #bc im nowhere near as muscular as any of the men and yet my str stat would be higher than theirs. are they hollow or what???? #and even if they WERE that strong they wouldnt have abs like that and theyd have some fucking belly. come on #theres no way theyre dedicating that much time to developing aesthetic muscle get a grip. theyre fighting for real out there #havent seen enough abt the womens body types to have an opinion but i imagine theyre equally disappointing #ik they just do this shit bc they want to make them 'attractive' for players to romance like its solely just catering to that #but newsflash. some of us find Realistic Body Types attractive too. some of us find body fat hotter than dehydrated sculpted muscle #wish there was more facial diversity too but thats a whole other debate lmao. #and ik its not like any of this is exclusive to a single videogame like basically all of them do it. but aint gonna stop me complaining #anyway whatever. i got shit to do today #.diaries #karlach original design i will never forgive them for what they did to u

[silverselfshippingchaos]

SHE'S SO... AJSJAJSJA

#shes so cute!!! #ive been playing the shit out of the game. im not sure how i feel about it yet but we have yet to meet her 😭😭😭 pleeaaseeeee #i wanna see v.ivian so baaadd!!!! #i've been smitten from the day i first saw her!! she's stunning if you ask me 👉👈 #and her helper and fellow scholar has a crush on her #ash's crush is so obvious andjajsj it's pretty cute! normally my s/is are these super strong girlbosses that do these amazing things #but f.f16 ash? she's just... a loser nerd. it's so fun. #i also like the thought of there being a sidequest where you have to get flowers for ash so she can gift them to her crush #ash rambles 💚 #anyways yea they kiss eventually and become the happy little gays of the hideaway #i love her voice a lot too #when i fell for d.unban i said it would be the one and ONLY time i fell for a british man #.... i never said anything about british women.. #heh.

[helianthus-talks]

Why does it seem like people's idea of a strong woman is someone who is not feminine and who doesn't want love and wants to be single forever

#u do realize that #women can be stereotypically feminine women #and still be strong aight? #i have nothing against masculine women hell i might seem like one #im just bored of 'strength' being associated with masculine demeanor and the like #as if u can't be strong while also being a sweet feminine woman who is very much in love with her husband #we still associate strength with masculinity yet we think we are moving away from patriarchal influence #apparently u can only be a boss bitch if you dont look like a typical feminine woman and dont want what typical feminine woman wants