#and people like me. people like Nex Benedict.

[onetimemacaroni]

is it weird before I realized I was Aroace and Genderfluid I felt a deep connection to those people without realizing why. Like I heard about Nex Benedict's death when I was cis and I felt like someone had punched me in the gut (as I should) but it also felt like someone had stabbed someone I identified with, even though I identified as cis at the time, and that's when I began to realize I was NB (which is how my gender normally feels), and with the Genderfluid thing I've always characters that change their gender/physical appearance and I couldn't explain why. Funnily enough, if you had asked me at any age what my dream superpower would be, I would say shapeshifting and now I know why. And then with the Aroace thing I watched a video about why shipping Alastor was a big no-no and I kinda just understood on a deep level, and I didn't really know why until I joined Tumblr and decided to follow a lot of Aroace blogs because they seemed neat and then it all kinda hit me all at once and now everything I think about looking back makes so much sense now. and that's my "huh so I really was this way as far back as I can remember and never grew into my sexuality and gender, I had to find it" rant, sorry because it's long

#lgbtq #asexual #aromantic #nb #genderfluid #aroace #aegosexual

[queeraliensposts]

I can't believe I live in a reality where a white woman who was falsely accused of rape can sell BLM merch, keep the money, and be praised by tik tok, but a queer musician that everyone thinks is "cringe" gets canceled and accused "profiting from a child's death" by talking about Nex Benedict in a tik tok he earned $0 from, where all he said was "this is why I make the music that I do".

#tx2 #melanie martinez #nex benedict #double standards #This once again proves that false rape allegations don't actually ruin lives #In many cases a false rape allegation is a get out of jail free card #Also people who engage in cringe culture are really funny #Cause when you criticize them they'll tell you to touch grass but then they'll prove that they're the ones that need to touch grass #People are honestly just DESPERATE to find a reason to cancel TX2 just cause they think he's cringe #I'm not mad about that #What I AM mad about is the fact that people are pretending to care about trans people like me in order to do it #This is one of the many fucking reasons I really really hate cis people #And there's trans people that are fucking falling for it it's annoying as fuck #Anyway cringe culture is fucking dead #lgbtqia

[tekra-brings-the-rain]

I keep thinking about Nex. They should’ve lived. They should be home with their family right now.

#vent post so mind the tags here #I always feel so terrible when I hear about trans people especially children being killed on the news #but this hit me differently #I was very close in age to them #He even looked like me #same length of hair #same face shape #same skin color #I keep thinking how easily I could be the next news article #how easily one of my friends could be #how for so many trans people who have been killed and will be killed the wrong name will be on their graves #Someone I know on here wrote a poem about them #I read it again and again and again #I am sure there is a god #And if they should call themselves caring #They better keep this child in their memory #Long live Nex Benedict #Long live his memory

[elierlick]

Nex Benedict’s death struck a cord on several levels. His murder was so clearly tied to attacks on his school district that the killing instantly broke down the artificial barrier between alarmism and physical violence. Anti-trans violence will inevitably permeate the far-right media sphere to individual students as it becomes more widespread.

It is also important to highlight that the attackers were cis girls. Right-wing media claims that women cannot commit violence to demonize trans women. Of course, this is wrong by plenty of measures. I still have scars from cis girls physically attacking me in middle school. Violence is not rooted in one’s assigned sex but in the ideology that we are bombarded with every day, regardless of gender. We cannot solely blame these individual perpetrators for Nex’s death. It requires an entire ecosystem of attacks on trans people to inspire a deadly moral panic like this.

On another level, I am concerned that it is this particular incident driving so much outrage. Where was this righteous anger for Kitty Monroe, Samantha Gómez Fonseca, or Savannah Ryan Williams over the past few months? Imagine what we could accomplish if we had this range of activism for every trans killing and not only those who are white/white-passing? Every trans person deserves to be remembered. Every trans person has a life worth celebrating.

I was happy to see hundreds of people come out to Nex’s memorial and am proud of everyone who is speaking out out. We will never stop fighting for trans kids, no matter what.

#trans #lgbtq #nex benedict

[txttletale]

I care about what happens to me and the people I have in my life. None of them have weapons and largely feel the same as you. Still, when our apartment building got ran through by some people, spamming all the intercoms to get someone to let them in and checking all the doors and windows before running off with god knows what: They were happy, after the fact, that I had a gun pointed at the only entrance to our locked apartment. Nothing happened, thankfully, and if it did it wouldn't have been any of us that were victimized. The short answer to your blanket 'murder is bad' is that myself and those I care about are more valuable than some random people that want to break into our small space and potentially hurt us. Capitalism is Making Things Worse and we're already a marginalized group that culture largely doesn't care about doing harm to (Nex Benedict is the most recent one that comes to mind). We're exceptionally poor and take care of the things we have. Getting murdered over nothing is on the table in the US and I'd feel like a failure were I to do nothing to try to mitigate that risk. It's not likely but it's definitely possible that someone would 'murder us over a TV'. Truthfully, it's not a major risk in our daily lives, we just can't trust the institutions to protect us from harm here. We're on our own. I understand what you're saying but I don't really care. I'd rather myself and my loved ones have a better chance at surviving.

your gun served the exact same purpose in the situation you described as a baby blanket lmao. you own a $500 pacifier

#ask

[therealcatlady123]

Nex deserved to live

Their name was Nex Benedict

A kid just like you and me

A kid being themselves

And they died for it

What happened was no accident

When Nex needed people most, no one was there

Nex deserved to live

Nex deserved so much more

My friend wrote on a trans flag to honor them

It said "Nex deserved to live"

Kids in our class asked us what it was about

We told them what happened to Nex

The only thing they said was "good"

I now live in fear

But Nex, I live for you

#lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #lgbt pride #queer #queer community #transgender #nonbinary #two spirit

[genderkoolaid]

Idk if I'm overreacting but I'm kinda terrified over the like. Silence. From the larger trans community about the murder of Nex Benedict. Maybe I'm overreacting but it's scary that there seems to be so little concern

Honestly I wouldn't have realized people aren't talking about their death if it weren't for some asks and a post by another person. Maybe its just because I've done a pretty good job curating who I follow, and also because I've been specifically paying attention to this for the past few days.

At the very least, by now major queer orgs are absolutely taking notice. I watched this go from only Pgh Lesbian Correspondents talking about their being nonbinary, to places like The Advocate and the ACLU, and now their death has a Wikipedia page and apparently Oklahoma queer orgs are getting a lot of calls about this. The fact that their family was able to raise more money than they needed for their funeral tells me that there are a lot of people talking it seriously, especially people who are actually engaged in political activism.

#m. #ask box #nex benedict

[lovelyheartclover]

Nex Benedict should still be here, alive and well. They were only 16, they are the same age as me. No child should EVER go through what Nex went through even before their death, regardless if a child is trans or not. Trans children should NEVER be scared of going to school everyday in fear of getting bullied or worse, KILLED. What children are people exactly trying to protect again? Because its clearly not children like Nex Benedict. Im so sorry Nex, I hope you can rest peacefully now, the world has failed trans children once again.....

Protect trans children 🏳️‍⚧️

Justice for Nex Benedict 🏳️‍⚧️

@zombytommy @violottie @pinkpinkstarlet @lilywily143 @m0n1q @faegirly @dark-nymph3t @uzibrainrot @absolute-solver @theshyseaslugoftheinternet @jinx-the-hunter25 @r3tr0s-posts @magicalmousey @idunaflo @mozzyspurt @cube-was-here @punkeropercyjackson

#🎨 Clover's art 🎨 #nex benedict #transgender #nonbinary #justice for nex benedict #protect trans kids #protect trans lives #trans lives matter #important #artist on tumblr #art #traditional art #artists on tumblr

[thehealingsystem]

Hey, can we talk about the violence against queer natives for a second?

Nex Benedict was a 16 year old nonbinary student who was brutally murdered by three of their female classmates. Not only that, they were a Native American living on a Cherokee reservation, though not enrolled in the tribe, and their actual heritage is that of Choctaw.

Their death was not properly reported on until the blog post that genderkoolaid shared was made. Their nonbinary identity had remained unacknowledged, and it took even longer for their native one to be.

They were a victim of the rising anti-trans rhetoric spreading throughout places like the US. They were beaten in a bathroom after Oklahoma had banned trans people from restrooms, designating them to only use that of their assigned sex. Nex was attacked in the girls bathroom.

A native, two-sprit, nonbinary teenager. Whose identity and the actual circumstances behind the incident, a hate crime, wasn't even published beforehand. They died tragically, a death that could've been easily prevented.

Do you know how scary that is? I'm just like them. A native, two-spirit, nonbinary teenager. I have to keep on hearing stories of people my age, who live in the same country, who share my identity, getting murdered. Not even just murdered, but erased.

I know for an absolute fact that if I died tragically, who I am will not be remembered. My deadname will be on everything. I would not be counted in trans statistics, nonetheless statistics on transmascs. My identity would not be respected. My native heritage wouldn't matter. I didn't get to be enrolled. And Nex had supportive family and friends, people who stood up for them. Not all trans kids get to have that.

I've had to think about this before many times. From the other trans youth deaths I've seen. From nearly becoming one of them. When is it enough? Why do the people in power do nothing to stop kids like me from being killed? Why do they only want to make our lives worse?

I'm very lucky to live in a state that has not wavered on it's protections on LGBTQ+ residents. Though I am reminded often that that can easily change, if things keep going like this.

I could've easily been them. I can still easily be them. There are many other kids who can be them. Everyone should be doing more to protect trans youth, and protect queer natives. We're so often forgotten about. I'm part of small tribes, and tribes who barely even exist anymore. My elders desperately trying to keep it alive. Please do not erase us. I'm queer, I'm native. Nex Benedict should have been protected, youth like me should be protected. I wish the best for their family and I hope their memory is never forgotten.

#nex benedict #protect trans kids #trans rights are human rights #transgender #nonbinary #two spirit #native american #indigenous #tw hate crime #tw murder #transphobia #exorsexism #racism #anti-indigenous racism

[everythingisround]

so apparently some people still think that the israeli occupation’s siege on gaza is a “trend” and that’s honestly terrifying to me. like not only are these people implying that the colonization and subsequent genocide of the palestinian people just goes in and out of style like bellbottom jeans, but they’re also implying that virtually any social injustice in our modern world is just another silly little trend. like, are y’all trying to say that the west’s exploitation of the congolese people is trendy? that nex benedict’s death was trendy? that roe v. wade was trendy? if that’s the case then y’all have some serious mental exercising to do.

#palestine #free palestine #charlie’s last remaining brain cells fighting for survival

[our-trans-youth-experience]

I know you already received an ask saying basically the exact same thing but. I'm angry for Nex Benedict. And I'm scared for myself. Nex was 16, which means I'm fucking angry they didn't get any longer. Nex was 16, meaning I'm fucking terrified because I'm 15. Nex was Native American, which means I'm angry people won't address that when there's no way it wasn't a factor. Nex was Native American, meaning I'm scared because I'm aboriginal Australian. Nex faced violence, harassment, and bullying. I'm mad about that because its unfair and its cruel. It scares me because I have faced all of that too.

Nex was just a kid who loved their cat. And loved The Walking Dead and Minecraft. That sounds like me. That sounds unjust.

Nex should have lived to follow their dreams as an adult, to graduate school, get a job, maybe even get married. But they didn't get the chance, because they were murdered for being trans. What Nex went through was horrifying and unjust. No one deserves to go through what they went through. We will not forget their name.

#trans youth #our trans youth experience #trans kids #transgender #enby #trans #nonbinary #transmasc #transfem #queer #nex benedict #protect trans kids #protect trans lives #trans genocide #hate crime #tw murder #child death tw

[phosphorusab]

Seeing transphobes literally rejoicing and tagging me that the known shady ME released one page saying Nex Benedict died of a ‘combined toxicity’ of fucking Prozac and Benadryl of all things, is not doing wonders for my mental health.

The full report doesn’t come out until later this month, and they’ve changed the story about how Nex died 3 different times. ‘Oh it was no trauma, oh the police walked that back and said the ME didn’t say that, and said they suspect foul play’ and now this?

I think the family is investigating this privately, but it’s sickening seeing people happy over the idea that a trans person killed themself. And the thought that this is potentially a cover up and people are gonna believe it because like in the words of Brianna Ghey’s killer, “trans people kill themselves all the time”. It’s so fucking callous.

People to this day still believe the false story that Matthew Shepard was a drug dealer and that’s why he was killed. Even if the truth comes out that the ME was lying, people won’t give a damn. Hopefully the federal government and Nex’s family investigate all of this, because this is way too suspicious.

#nex benedict #transgender #nonbinary

[fricklefracklefloof]

i can't stop thinking about how nex benedict looks like me. like people i know. a mixed race trans person. they were indigenous and they were trans. please protect trans kids of color

#watched the bodycam video could not finish it #nex benedict #transgender #transphobia

[gorillawithautism]

ngl it does bother me a little that both the transmisogynistic banning of predstrogen/avewy/predesterone and the murder of nex benedict are getting widespread attention on here when the murder of an unnamed child in a north carolina wilderness program wasn't talked about by anyone but me.

like don't get me wrong the public outcry for both those cases is entirely justified! but where was the outcry when yet another child was murdered by the troubled teen industry?

why is it always tti kids and only tti kids that care when one of us gets killed? haven't we been put through enough without having to be the only ones willing to talk about our murders? can't y'all take some of the fucking burden?

i'm tired of us being the only people talking about our deaths. i'm tired of having to constantly retraumatize myself to look for information hoping not to find reports of yet another child killed in silence. i'm tired of no one giving a single shit about us. if i had died in that hellhole, would you have cared?

edit: if you're seeing this version, please don't reblog it and instead reblog the version in the notes with my addition that clarifies my mention of nex benedict's murder

#swingset #tti #ok to reblog

[gendergirlie]

I'm not usually serious on my blog, but I need to vent.

With so many trans kids getting killed and the media being as dogshit as usual, it worries me about mine and others safety. I'm not openly trans. My town is pretty okay. pretty pro-LGBT...but nobody ever knows. Anyone could get murdered for being who they are. And that scares me. I'm scared to come out, scared to be open... Hell, I'm even scared to talk to my therapist about shit like this because I'm worried my father will somehow find out. I'm scared to do anything. Go out in public, walk to school, walk home, even go out with friends. And speaking of. My friends are all worried for their lives. All of us, thinking of ending it all. Right here, right now, on our own terms. All because of shitty people with shitty beliefs, all thinking that because we're different, we're a threat.

This shit has to stop

This isn't 'kids being kids'

This is murder.

We need to stop murdering people because they're different.

Justice for Nex Benedict.

Justice for Brianna Ghey.

Justice for Jacob Williamson

May they all rest in power. And may their murderers never know peace.

#trans #nex benedict #transgender #trans rights #this is what we’re fighting against #this is murder #not 'kids being kids' #justice for jacob williamson #justice for nex benedict #justice for brianna ghey #may they fly sky high. #jacob williamson #brianna ghey #our trans youth experience #enby

[finleyforevermore]

Dear Nex,

You're never going to see this. I know. I felt the need to write this for you anyway.

Maybe my input isn't needed because I'm cis, but I hope you and everyone else who sees this knows in spite of my gender identity and the privilege I have as a cis male that I'm aware that I have, I mean every word that I say. I never wanted to be privileged. I don't want to be privileged. I'm so incredibly sorry that I'm privileged. I know it's not right. I know it's not fair. If my input isn't needed, so be it. But I'm going to share it anyway.

My sorrow and rage and pain has not at all subsided since February 20, when I learned of your death. You've been in the back of my mind ever since. The grief and anger hasn't gone away. What your friends said about you and your family as well, shows that you were such a wonderful person. I wonder if you had social media. I would've loved to be your friend if you had Tumblr.

I find myself enjoying sunny weather and thinking "Nex would've liked this". I look at my friends' pet cats and think about Zeus. When listening to rock I wonder if you liked the song I listen to.

You were mistreated by your peers in life, because of your laugh, which I'm sure was wonderful, and the way you dressed. Being yourself cost you your life. And now even in death people refuse to respect you. Transphobes running rampant, calling you your deadname, someone here on Tumblr celebrating your death, labeled as filth. And now? Now your cause of death has been labeled as suicide. Even though absolutely none of it makes sense, and nothing adds up. It just doesn't make sense. And even if somehow you did commit suicide, the day before you did you were physically assaulted by your peers for getting fed up with being mocked. You were bullied before that too. Bullied relentlessly and mercilessly just for being you. The blood is still on their hands.

I'm utterly disgusted by the medical examiner, the state of Oklahoma, the transphobes, even myself sometimes for being so privileged because of my gender identity. I shouldn't be privileged for being cis. We should all be accepted and treated fairly and with care and love and respect. If only things were that ideal..

I'm crying now even as I write this. I so desperately wish that everything was different. That you weren't killed. That you could continue to hang out with your friends and be a kid. Making new recipes. Playing with Zeus. Playing your favorite songs. Making music, if you liked doing that.

Recently my faith and belief in God has been tested. But if there's an afterlife, a Heaven up there, I hope you're having fun and enjoying yourself up there. When I die and reach Heaven, I'll be sure to visit you.

On the other hand, if there's not a Heaven, I hope you're enjoying your eternal rest. Whatever being dead is like without an afterlife, I hope you're ok.

But until then I'm going to try my damndest to ensure your memory stays alive. Posting about you on social media and reblogging posts about you like wildfire so people never forget. I'm not going to let anyone forget you, Nex. I promise you. Me and all of the other people grieving here on Tumblr will continue to say your name, whether our shouts fall on deaf ears or not. We're never going to be silenced.

I raise my cup to you, Nex. You will be avenged. Justice will be served.

I didn't know you and I never will. You never knew me and you never will. But all the same, even if we're eternally strangers, I love you, Nex Benedict. I'm sorry the school failed you, I'm sorry the ambulance failed you, I'm sorry Oklahoma failed you, I'm sorry the world failed you. And perhaps I failed you somehow. And I'm so unbelievably sorry if I did. But I hope keeping your memory alive, and saying your name, and seeking justice can make up for it.

Until we're angels in Heaven once more.

Love, truly,

Finley

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